huffpost--2020-04-30--Kelz Dyke On 'Too Hot To Handle' And Dating At A Social Distance

When you ’ re on a retreat and they take away the phone , take away TV , take away social media and everything , you ’ re left to just speak and talk and communicate , and I think that ’ s the situation we ’ re in now .
I was asked the other day , what advice would you give to people in relationships , for example , that are currently social distancing ?
I would say spend the time to communicate , FaceTime each other , start a book club ― maybe every Thursday you guys @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re reading .
Go on YouTube , start learning cooking lessons and see who makes the meal the best .
Work on the gaps that were maybe covered up by physical intimacy or just something you may have overlooked .
Some people struggle to communicate with each other or some people can use this time to get to know more about their partner or even just spend time on their own .
I think if you ’ re happy being on your own — reading books and doing art or something — @ @ @ @ @ @ @ And I think when you ’ re a good person on your own , you can be a good person in a relationship .
You should be able to be happy on your own , rather than dependent on a relationship to be happy .
My opinion .
When I got there and Lana announced $ 100k , that ’ s the first time I realized that I flew across the world to Mexico and I didn ’ t even ask whether I ’ m going to get paid for this .
“ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ at stake ?
” You ’ d think , naturally , everyone will be on board and they will be excited .
But most people are going like , “ Oh , ” and I understand that , but then I think , would you spend $ 3k on a kiss ?
I think people forget that .
It ’ s that contactless payment .
Unless you physically have the cash in your hand , you just don ’ t care that you just keep spending and spending .
That ’ s the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ It started to become where everyone was doing infringements .
I had , obviously , the scene with Francesca and everything and it got tough ’ cause I got tempted as The Accountant .
But I think it was always good to lead by example .
Francesca , for me , was the initial choice , but then I had the [ S & M ] workshop with Haley .
And prior to that , Haley didn ’ t really get on with everyone , as you can see on the series .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ I tied her up and she obviously gave me trust and everything , it was really nice getting to know her a bit more and talk to her .
Haley is amazing .
Haley is a great person to talk to .
It was just some people you clash with and some people you don ’ t .
To be honest , if you look at it , she was a great friend to Fran .
Do you know what I mean ?
Backed her all the way and you ’ ve got @ @ @ @ @ @ @ was probably the one , after getting to know her , “ OK .
I ’ m quite interested in that.
” I ’ m not going to lie , when that show first came out , I put my phone on airplane mode and I just binge-watched the series .
Then I turned my phone back on again and it ’ s like , ping , ping , ping , ping , ping .
It was a lot .
It was overwhelming .
It ’ s like everything I ’ d suddenly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I post hello or tweet this or that , everyone suddenly knows about you .
It was a lot at the time and it took a few days to get used to all that .
But I was blessed as well and amazed to see how well we did .
I was really happy for that because we didn ’ t know how it was going to be when we ’ re filming it .
So it ’ s just an adjustment period .
I can ’ t complain .
What ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for no problems , wish for problems you ’ d enjoy solving .
I ’ d say the hot tub scene .
Let me tell you why .
You ’ d naturally think it ’ s because obviously I ’ m half-naked with Fran in the hot tub , but it was actually the bit before it .
I don ’ t really get nervous when I go to dates .
Very composed .
But the fact that it was going to get televised and be on TV , that ’ s a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the first time , my heart was beating really , really fast .
Really fast .
That adrenaline was kicking in .
You ’ re laughing , you have butterflies in your stomach .
I felt nice .
It feels nice to feel alive again ?
It felt like going on a date for the first time , which for all of us is something you want to relive a little bit .
Do you know what I mean ?
I think that ’ s what made the whole jacuzzi experience really nice @

Kelz Dyke was just going about his life in London when he got an unexpected message. It was from a casting team who had scouted him, thinking the senior recruitment consultant and London Warriors football player would be a great fit for “a massive network’s” new reality show they were producing.
“I heard ‘massive network’ and I was like, ‘Yeah. I’m keen. Let me hear more about this,’” Kelz told HuffPost’s “Here To Make Friends” hosts Claire Fallon, Emma Gray and Leigh Blickley over video chat this week. “And then we had the interviews, the FaceTime, I came into the studio. They still didn’t tell me anything about the concept. I was just getting grilled, getting asked loads of personality-style questions: ‘Tell me about you. Tell me about this situation or this situation.’ And then before you know it, I’m on a flight to Mexico.”
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Turns out the network was Netflix and the show was “Too Hot To Handle,” a dating series that follows a group of young, attractive and horny singles as they navigate temptation during a romantic retreat. The catch? The contestants can’t engage in any sexual activity, kissing included, for four weeks or they’ll be shamed by an Alexa-type virtual assistant named Lana and charged for their indiscretions. Each time she catches a foul, money is taken out of the group’s prize money pot of $100,000.
Kelz, for the most part, found the cash more alluring than the women and was quickly dubbed “The Accountant,” holding his castmates, well, accountable for their risqué actions.
“Naturally, I’m just an alpha, so I’m just someone who takes charge and takes the lead,” he said. “You see whoever jumping into the pool and sunbathing right in front of you. Your eyes go nuts. Before you know it, you realize, ‘OK, I’m just looking. Oh, I want to touch. No, touching leads to something else. Don’t do that, don’t do that.’ So I just tried to ignore it, really. It got easier after a while. Having half-naked girls walk in front of me just didn’t seem like a thing anymore.”
In this interview, Kelz shares more about his experience at the retreat and how it’s changed the way he perceives self-love and relationships.
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Kelz Netflix
It’s been funny because obviously the premise that you can’t really have physical contact with people has felt sort of relevant given that we are all in quarantine. When did you guys realize that your show would be airing while the whole world was essentially in lockdown?
Do you know what? When it got announced, quarantine wasn’t happening. I think it was maybe a few weeks or a month before quarantine started. I think at that point I remember hearing in the papers about the coronavirus and stuff like that. I heard it affected certain parts of the world but we were fine. So, we were just all looking for everything to drop. And then before you know it, it happened during the season and things got worse and it was like, “Whoa.”
When did you guys film? How far in advance?
This was filmed last year. April. Literally a year ago.
So you really didn’t know when it was going to be released.
No. There was loads of talk and they were like, “Don’t worry, we’ll get back to you.” But we knew it’s going to be sometime this year. So, it was just sort of about sitting tight. I went back to life. I still had my job, still had my quarterly targets, still had my clients that I needed to speak to and I just put it into a little box and just focused on day-to-day and traveled and stuff like that.
Do you feel like filming this no-touching show gave you some practice for the rigors of social distancing?
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Oh yeah, 100%. There’s certainly elements from it that you can take away and use in the situation we’re in at the moment. Obviously social distancing, can’t touch other people, maybe you’re far away from the person that you’re intimate with, correct? But one of the main things it teaches you, in general, is just to focus and invest in yourself.
When you’re on a retreat and they take away the phone, take away TV, take away social media and everything, you’re left to just speak and talk and communicate, and I think that’s the situation we’re in now. I was asked the other day, what advice would you give to people in relationships, for example, that are currently social distancing? I would say spend the time to communicate, FaceTime each other, start a book club ― maybe every Thursday you guys FaceTime and talk about a book you’re reading. Go on YouTube, start learning cooking lessons and see who makes the meal the best. Work on the gaps that were maybe covered up by physical intimacy or just something you may have overlooked. Some people struggle to communicate with each other or some people can use this time to get to know more about their partner or even just spend time on their own. I think if you’re happy being on your own — reading books and doing art or something — you become a better person overall. And I think when you’re a good person on your own, you can be a good person in a relationship. You should be able to be happy on your own, rather than dependent on a relationship to be happy. My opinion.
Wow. You learned a lot in Mexico!
Yeah, retreat. I recommend it.
Do you feel like that experience of being on the show did help you have a different approach to love?
Yeah, absolutely. Before the show, I used to think, “I can’t really have a female friend unless I’m not sexually attracted to her.” On the retreat, I ended up spending time speaking to so many of the girls and understanding what they’re like, what they enjoy doing ... My questions weren’t sexual desire questions. My questions were genuinely, “What do you do? Do you enjoy doing that?” It’s just things that actually take an interest in a person’s mind and who they are as a person, rather than what they can physically offer you or the sex that you’re chasing, if that makes sense.
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After the retreat, I’ll be honest, when I got my phone back I didn’t really look at it for a good few weeks. I felt nice just having conversations and not being distracted by social media because I think social media gives you this illusion that you have so many options, because you’re just flicking through. But it’s nice to just focus on what you have in front of you and also just make most of the people in your life that are not necessarily maybe somebody you’re sleeping with, but just good people with great minds.
We’ve got to talk about your nickname, The Accountant. How did it feel watching your castmates just fritter away all of this money so they could make out with each other?
Anytime I heard Lana go, “Oh, there’s been an infringement,” I was like, “Fuck’s sake.”
When I got there and Lana announced $100k, that’s the first time I realized that I flew across the world to Mexico and I didn’t even ask whether I’m going to get paid for this. “Oh, there’s $100k at stake?” You’d think, naturally, everyone will be on board and they will be excited. But most people are going like, “Oh,” and I understand that, but then I think, would you spend $3k on a kiss? I think people forget that. It’s that contactless payment. Unless you physically have the cash in your hand, you just don’t care that you just keep spending and spending. That’s the way it was after a while. It started to become where everyone was doing infringements. I had, obviously, the scene with Francesca and everything and it got tough ’cause I got tempted as The Accountant. But I think it was always good to lead by example.
Was there anyone else aside from Francesca who stuck out to you in the beginning, but then ended up being “unavailable”?
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Francesca, for me, was the initial choice, but then I had the [S&M] workshop with Haley. And prior to that, Haley didn’t really get on with everyone, as you can see on the series. But after we had that workshop and I tied her up and she obviously gave me trust and everything, it was really nice getting to know her a bit more and talk to her. Haley is amazing. Haley is a great person to talk to. It was just some people you clash with and some people you don’t. To be honest, if you look at it, she was a great friend to Fran. Do you know what I mean? Backed her all the way and you’ve got to salute that. I think Haley was probably the one, after getting to know her, “OK. I’m quite interested in that.”
In the first episode, I think it was Sharron who asked me what’s my type. I said like a mix between Haley and Francesca. So it was definitely Haley who would have probably been my next, but then she left.
The girls of "Too Hot To Handle." Netflix
So, underboob was a really prevalent trend on the show, just to wildly switch topics. And this really caught our attention as women who didn’t know that underboob was the new thing that we should be doing.
Neither did I.
What’s your stance on that? Is it hot? We can’t tell.
Until I got to the island, I wasn’t aware of the new designs of bikini. It’s nice. It just plays with your imagination, doesn’t it? Whereas before you could just see the top half, now we’ve got something in the middle, you see the bottom and the top. Before we had bikinis where the back was normal and now they’re just lines at the back. It’s just that, isn’t it? We’re in evolving times.
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Yeah. You just have to respect the creativity of the design community. Ever new ways to display breasts. So, hats off.
If you’ve got the confidence to love yourself, your body in that way, I’ll take that. What makes someone attractive is not just how you look, but also how you present yourself and that radiates out, doesn’t it?
OK, so underboob with confidence is hot. I can get on board with that. And I mean, look, I respect the hustle. Are you still in touch with any of your fellow castmates? Who were your closest friends from the show?
Yeah, we all stay in touch. We’ve got a group chat, which is always great. On the show, me and Matt got on quite well. The Sheriff, aka Jesus, and The Accountant. I feel like we were the only ones that realized what’s at stake.
And we’re all curious as fans, will there be a reunion? We were expecting a little catch-up, getting to know what you guys were up to now, but in the circumstances, I’m sure it’s hard to find the time to film. Have you heard any plans of doing a reunion over video chat or anything?
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I think if there’s definite demand for it and people are asking for it, I’m sure Netflix would put something together. We’ve not been told nothing yet, but we’ll see what time will tell. So I need more people tweeting about it.
You have to tell us, who’s still together?
Well, Fran and Harry are still together. You can tell in the socials. And I’ve not really focused, actually, besides Instagram. I don’t want to make speculations, I don’t know, but I just know because everyone’s retweeting Harry and Frankie, so I just definitely know they’re still talking. (Editor’s note: turns out Rhonda and Sharron are no longer an item.)
In the group chat, everyone’s still talking with each other. So I’ve not really had the chance. It’s been actually crazy and overwhelming since the show aired, so before we talked a lot, now we barely even have the chance to as much because I took a new job and I still got, well, social media is like a job as well now.
There were a few people who made these romantic connections on the show and you left single, but have you met anyone since your time on the show?
I’ve spoken to people, [but] I’ve not really been in a relationship with anyone since then. Pretty much after the show, I’ve been focusing on me. Obviously, I knew this was going to come out and [people] could see it, so I was all about making sure I’m mentally ready for that exposure and reading the right books, because we hear a lot about social media and effects of being in the limelight. So it’s important that you work on your mind first before focusing on everything else.
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And how has that been for you? How has it been to get all that attention all at once?
I’m not going to lie, when that show first came out, I put my phone on airplane mode and I just binge-watched the series. Then I turned my phone back on again and it’s like, ping, ping, ping, ping, ping. It was a lot. It was overwhelming. It’s like everything I’d suddenly did was now being watched. If I post hello or tweet this or that, everyone suddenly knows about you. It was a lot at the time and it took a few days to get used to all that. But I was blessed as well and amazed to see how well we did. I was really happy for that because we didn’t know how it was going to be when we’re filming it. So it’s just an adjustment period. I can’t complain. What’s the saying? Don’t wish for no problems, wish for problems you’d enjoy solving.
You made a little bit of money. What did you do with your seven grand?
I gave half to my mom ...
Awww.
And the rest I just invested in some shares. I know it sounds boring, but that’s the ―
No, that’s the best. You’re the accountant; it’s not boring!
I’d like to ask you guys, what was your favorite part of the show?
[Long brainstorm session] The gender workshops, because it’s so uncommon for a show to defuse tension among competitors that way.
I get that. Is that the one everyone agrees on, yeah?
Yeah. I also liked when Haley and Francesca exacted revenge on the whole group. Harry was lying and everyone took his side, and I liked that they got their own back a little bit.
It’s funny you say that because, until I watched it, no one realized Harry was lying. Just remember we were all watching this for the first time. Right? So when I watched it, I was like, “Wow.” We thought all along Harry was being honest. For example, I’m very old school. I don’t lie in terms of I don’t feel that I should lie to a girl. If I did something, I’ll just say I did it. So I just judge everyone based on that. So I was quite shocked. I was like, “Oh, you lied about it.” And we were all giving Fran so much [flak] about it, so it was like, wow.
Kelz and Harry during a workshop on "Too Hot To Handle." Netflix
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What was your favorite part, watching it back?
I’d say the hot tub scene. Let me tell you why. You’d naturally think it’s because obviously I’m half-naked with Fran in the hot tub, but it was actually the bit before it. I don’t really get nervous when I go to dates. Very composed. But the fact that it was going to get televised and be on TV, that’s a completely different ball game. And for the first time, my heart was beating really, really fast. Really fast. That adrenaline was kicking in. You’re laughing, you have butterflies in your stomach. I felt nice. It feels nice to feel alive again? It felt like going on a date for the first time, which for all of us is something you want to relive a little bit. Do you know what I mean? I think that’s what made the whole jacuzzi experience really nice.
That is such a sweet answer. You have charmed us over Zoom, so well done. We hope that your social media life just propels you to new levels of butterflies. You never know what it could bring you, or if you’ll meet a new lady.
You guys are amazing. I appreciate that. Thank you for having me.


huffpost--2020-05-19--The Best Charcoal Grills And Charcoal, According To Grill Masters

“ Charcoal is kind of the next evolution where you sacrifice just a touch of convenience for so much more flavor , ” said Matt Moore , author of “ Serial Griller.
” “ Charcoal grilling is primarily done for the flavor , for the atmosphere and the smoke.
” What to look for in a charcoal grill “ I personally have bought too many to count because with each one I realized there was something else I needed or wanted in a grill , ” Patridge told HuffPost .
“ Before you shop , know what size grill you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ purposes .
If your grill is too small , your grilling time will be longer because of limited grilling space.
” Charcoal grills also come in many shapes and sizes .
How much outdoor space do you have ?
How many people do you regularly feed ?
Thinking about these questions will help you purchase the right sized grill for your needs .
But when in doubt , go bigger if you can .
Check that the grill has intake vents that allow you to control oxygen levels , and exhaust vents to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ let you control the internal temperature in the grill , which is necessary for cooking , Phan said .
No matter which way you light your charcoal grill , Patridge urges grillers to use their time at home during the coronavirus lockdown to experiment and break the rules when cooking out .
“ Don ’ t wait for an evening meal to light up the grill ― the quarantine has us at home more than normally , so take advantage and light up the grill first thing in the morning , ” she @ @ @ @ @ @ @ outside , so take advantage of this time and enjoy .
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Temperatures are warming up and grilling season is here. Whether you’re still social distancing or you’re hanging with your vaccinated friends, grilling out will likely be an even more popular way to spend time at home.
Gas grills have been the go-to option in recent years because of convenience ― they’re easier to light, clean and cook on, and have a lower carbon footprint than charcoal grills. But home grillers are showing more interest in charcoal grills these days.
Sales of charcoal grills grew 9% from 2014 to 2019, according to The Freedonia Group, which predicts grill sales, especially online sales, to remain steady as the pandemic continues and people stay home.
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“Charcoal is kind of the next evolution where you sacrifice just a touch of convenience for so much more flavor,” said Matt Moore, author of “Serial Griller.” “Charcoal grilling is primarily done for the flavor, for the atmosphere and the smoke.”
If you’re new to charcoal grilling, there are a few things to know when shopping for a charcoal grill. Moore and other grill masters share some insights, including their favorite grills and types of charcoal.
What to look for in a charcoal grill
Do plenty of research, said Atlanta-based chef Devika Patridge, who works with the subscription meal plan Hungry@Home.
“I personally have bought too many to count because with each one I realized there was something else I needed or wanted in a grill,” Patridge told HuffPost. “Before you shop, know what size grill you need for your family and for entertaining purposes. If your grill is too small, your grilling time will be longer because of limited grilling space.”
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Charcoal grills come at a variety of price points, from $50 to several thousand dollars, said Thinh Phan, grilling expert and editor of Barbecue In Progress. Cheaper isn’t always the best option, though.
“You can buy a cheaper grill, but you find out later that you don’t like cooking on it at all,” Phan said.
Charcoal grills also come in many shapes and sizes. How much outdoor space do you have? How many people do you regularly feed? Thinking about these questions will help you purchase the right sized grill for your needs. But when in doubt, go bigger if you can.
“I’d always recommend going one size up,” Phan said. “You might think you only need to cook for four people, but things will happen.”
Check that the grill has intake vents that allow you to control oxygen levels, and exhaust vents to let smoke and heat escape. Both let you control the internal temperature in the grill, which is necessary for cooking, Phan said.
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“Controlled airflow is really what makes a charcoal grill a grill. Otherwise, it’s just a box to light a fire in,” said Tony Matassa, chef with Baton Rouge, Louisiana-based online retailer BBQGuys, which reports a charcoal grill sales increase of more than 100% in April from the previous year.
Adjustable-height grates also offer more cooking control, Matassa said. High-quality charcoal grills are made of thick-gauge metal with solid welding, and feature removable ash pans, trays and other parts for easy cleaning.
Here’s a rundown of some of these experts’ favorite charcoal grills:
Weber
Cost: $171.50
Phan calls this grill a “classic American icon.” Its spherical shape allows for indirect-heat cooking, and he likes the built-in thermometer and removable ash pan.
“It’s easy to use, in terms of both temp control and cleaning up,” Phan said.
Lodge Cast Iron Sportsman’s Grill
Lodge
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Cost: $149.99 (similar)
The open, hibachi-style grill is made of cast iron and the grate heights are adjustable. Moore recommends the grill for small balconies and those new to grilling, because it’s simple to use and portable.
“It sits in the back of my truck all the time,” he said. “You can take it on the go, and it’s affordable and will outlast you.”
It’s no longer available in most markets, but you can get a similar one from Giantex.
PK
Cost: $369.99
“You can count on this grill for weekend after weekend of cookouts,” Matassa said, noting it’s made of cast aluminum, which won’t rust.
“This grill also comes with a unique venting system that makes it easy to grill using direct or indirect heat, meaning you can perform a variety of cooking styles,” he said. It also doubles as a smoker.
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Everdure
Cost: $795
Matassa recommends this 29-inch grill for newbies, since it has an electric ignition system that lets you light the coals by pushing a button. It also has built-in rotisserie with three height settings.
“From a practicality standpoint, you have the freedom to use this grill on a pedestal or take it on the go,” he said.
Goldens
Cost: $1,961.25
Kamado-style grills and smokers are egg-shaped, ceramic and wood-burning, and they’ve become popular over the past few years, with The Big Green Egg brand one of the best known.
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Moore prefers Goldens’ Cast Iron Cooker, which he says is more affordable than other kamado-style grills. It features cast iron grates, a thermometer and a weather-resistant powder coating.
Lump vs. briquette charcoal
Charcoal comes in two main varieties: lump and briquettes.
Both are made by burning wood in an oxygen-controlled environment. The remaining carbon is what becomes charcoal. Briquettes are further processed into a uniform shape and often contain additives and sometimes lighter fluid.
Many grilling experts say lump is a purer form of charcoal.
“Lump and briquettes mainly differ in the way they produce heat,” Phan explained. “Lump burns hotter than briquettes. Yet lump is irregular in shape, making it unpredictable. One piece of lump will burn differently than another one.”
Because they’re uniform in shape, briquettes offer a more consistent, reliable heat output, and work well for long and slow cooking, Phan said.
“My choice of charcoal usually depends on what I am grilling,” Patridge said. “When I want an earthy smoke I use lump charcoal. It’s made of burned wood, so naturally it adds a sweet smokiness to what is on the grill.”
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Patridge, Phan and Moore list Royal Oak All-Natural Hardwood Lump Charcoal as one of their favorites. For briquettes, Patridge and Phan recommend Kingsford Original Charcoal Briquettes.
Royal Oak/Kingsford
How to light a charcoal grill
Lighting a charcoal grill takes some finesse, but try not to use lighter fluid, Patridge said.
“Although it is definitely a time saver, I personally choose to avoid lighter fluid,” she said. “Maybe because I am a chef, I want each aspect of my food to be created by me starting from the kindling of the flame to the garnish.”
Lighter fluid can also leave a “chemical aftertaste” in food cooked on the grill, Patridge said.
The most convenient way to light a charcoal grill is to use a chimney starter, a metal cylinder that you stuff with newspaper, fill with charcoal and light. Once the coals are hot, dump them into the grill, Moore said. Another tool is a charcoal igniter, a device with a heat fan that you place directly onto charcoal, and it heats within a few minutes.
No matter which way you light your charcoal grill, Patridge urges grillers to use their time at home during the coronavirus lockdown to experiment and break the rules when cooking out.
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“Don’t wait for an evening meal to light up the grill ― the quarantine has us at home more than normally, so take advantage and light up the grill first thing in the morning,” she said. “Grilling brings people together outside, so take advantage of this time and enjoy.”


huffpost--2020-04-07--Democrats Call For Coronavirus Hazard Pay

Drew Angerer via Getty Images Senate Minority Leader Chuck Schumer and other Democrats rolled out their hazard pay plan on Tuesday .
“ We are asking these workers to take on great risk .
They should be compensated for it , ” Senate Minority Leader Chuck Schumer ( D-N.Y. ) said on a call with reporters .
The Democratic proposal would apply not just to health care workers battling the virus but to many others considered to be essential : grocery store clerks , bus drivers , truck drivers , pharmacists , sanitation workers and others .
Eligible workers would @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hour on top of their normal wages , retroactive to the start of the pandemic and through the end of this year .
The premium would be capped at $ 25,000 for those earning below $ 200,000 per year and at $ 5,000 for those earning more .
The plan also includes a one-time incentive payment of $ 15,000 for new employees who sign on to work in health care , home care and emergency response during the pandemic .
A white paper released by Democrats said the federal government would fully fund @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , though it did not include a cost estimate for the program .
The document noted that the full universe of essential workers eligible under the plan hadn ’ t been determined yet .
Schumer said the hazard pay plan , which he dubbed a “ Heroes Fund , ” is one of the “ very highest priorities ” that Democrats want to see in the next phase of coronavirus stimulus legislation .
“ For these Americans , working at home is not an option .
Social distancing is not an option , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in the line of fire day in and day out.
” A hazard pay premium has become a rallying cry for workers still clocking in during the pandemic .
Many people have already been infected or died from the coronavirus likely contracted through their jobs , from doctors and nurses to retail employees .
Some grocery store chains have added a $ 2 premium to hourly pay but many workers say the increase is insufficient given the dangers .
“ Whether they ’ re grocery store workers or postal workers or sanitation workers @ @ @ @ @ @ @ our country operational in this greatest time of need , ” said Sen. Bob Casey ( D-Pa. ) .
“ And of course our health care workers and first responders deserve a special debt of gratitude.
” Hazard pay is just one proposal that Democrats are discussing as part of a fourth coronavirus relief bill , expected to advance later this month .
Republicans , meanwhile , are calling for additional billions of dollars in assistance to small businesses that are struggling amid the crisis .
The $ 2.2 trillion rescue package that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ billion in forgivable loans to small businesses , but that money is quickly running out .
Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell ( R-Ky. ) said Tuesday that he hoped to get unanimous agreement to replenish the fund with another $ 250 billion later this week .
It ’ s unclear , however , if Democrats will quickly assent to the new funds without a commitment on hazard pay for essential workers in the next round of negotiations .
McConnell and Schumer had not yet discussed the matter on Tuesday , according to a @ @ @

Senate Minority Leader Chuck Schumer and other Democrats rolled out their hazard pay plan on Tuesday. Drew Angerer via Getty Images
Democratic senators unveiled a plan Tuesday to provide front-line workers with hazard pay during the pandemic, arguing that the dangers of the coronavirus call for higher wages.
“We are asking these workers to take on great risk. They should be compensated for it,” Senate Minority Leader Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) said on a call with reporters.
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The Democratic proposal would apply not just to health care workers battling the virus but to many others considered to be essential: grocery store clerks, bus drivers, truck drivers, pharmacists, sanitation workers and others.
Eligible workers would get a boost of $13 per hour on top of their normal wages, retroactive to the start of the pandemic and through the end of this year. The premium would be capped at $25,000 for those earning below $200,000 per year and at $5,000 for those earning more.
The plan also includes a one-time incentive payment of $15,000 for new employees who sign on to work in health care, home care and emergency response during the pandemic.
A white paper released by Democrats said the federal government would fully fund both the hazard pay and incentive payments, though it did not include a cost estimate for the program. The document noted that the full universe of essential workers eligible under the plan hadn’t been determined yet.
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Schumer said the hazard pay plan, which he dubbed a “Heroes Fund,” is one of the “very highest priorities” that Democrats want to see in the next phase of coronavirus stimulus legislation.
“For these Americans, working at home is not an option. Social distancing is not an option,” he said. “They are in the line of fire day in and day out.”
A hazard pay premium has become a rallying cry for workers still clocking in during the pandemic. Many people have already been infected or died from the coronavirus likely contracted through their jobs, from doctors and nurses to retail employees. Some grocery store chains have added a $2 premium to hourly pay but many workers say the increase is insufficient given the dangers.
“Whether they’re grocery store workers or postal workers or sanitation workers or more, they’re keeping our country operational in this greatest time of need,” said Sen. Bob Casey (D-Pa.). “And of course our health care workers and first responders deserve a special debt of gratitude.”
Hazard pay is just one proposal that Democrats are discussing as part of a fourth coronavirus relief bill, expected to advance later this month. Republicans, meanwhile, are calling for additional billions of dollars in assistance to small businesses that are struggling amid the crisis.
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The $2.2 trillion rescue package that Congress passed last month included $350 billion in forgivable loans to small businesses, but that money is quickly running out. Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-Ky.) said Tuesday that he hoped to get unanimous agreement to replenish the fund with another $250 billion later this week.
It’s unclear, however, if Democrats will quickly assent to the new funds without a commitment on hazard pay for essential workers in the next round of negotiations. McConnell and Schumer had not yet discussed the matter on Tuesday, according to a Schumer spokesman.


huffpost--2020-04-07--How To Grieve When Funerals Aren't An Option

“ People may be more likely to stay in the denial stage of grief for a longer period of time when they do not see other people grieving the deceased individual , ” she continued .
“ The psyche has a hard time comprehending death as it is , and when people are not physically surrounded by others trying to make sense of the loss , it is even more difficult to understand , and eventually accept , that their loved one is no longer alive.
” Friends and family members can gather via chat conference to talk about their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ simply cry together and know they aren ’ t alone in their grief .
Sending emails and letters to people in your network is another way to take part in a collective grieving process .
The key is to talk to someone else about your feelings , rather than keep them bottled up .
“ Being intentional about the emotional bonds that are still present can provide some comfort , ” said Nicole M. Ward , a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles .
“ I acknowledge that this is not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a hug or to sit together in close proximity but the virtual connections can be a way in which the emotional connections can be expressed where we are at now.
” “ Just because you can ’ t go to a funeral doesn ’ t mean that you can ’ t create something on your own as a way to say goodbye to a loved one , ” Reidenberg noted .
“ To do this , think of what helps you most at a funeral , such as readings , poems , pictures @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a smaller scale .
This allows you to go through a personalized way to grieve your loss.
” “ My husband and I got a tree and planted in our yard and I look out at it every day and say hello to my dad , ” she said .
“ I created a collage of pictures , and I continue to do things that make me think of my father .
I make waffles like he used to make , I eat his favorite candy , and I spend time looking at @ @ @ @ @ @ @ we ’ ll always be connected because I can always choose to think of him and everything he brought to my life.
” “ Given the importance of this in-person witnessing of grief , I encourage families to understand that this is temporary , ” Stuempfig said .
“ Whenever things return to normal and we can all come out of isolation , it is essential that families go forward with memorial services and celebrations of life .
Even though these will be delayed a few months or perhaps longer , they are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ through their grief and eventually accept their new reality.
” Know There ’ s No One Way To Grieve “ Without typical funerals and customs available , it ’ s time to be creative and to make new ones that may become even better than some of our long-standing customs , ” Thomas said .
“ While many people have continued to do traditional funerals over the years , just as many people have wanted to do different things in the area of grieving and memorializing people , and this is an opportunity @ @ @ @ @ @ @ we mark the passing of a loved one , now and for future generations .
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The COVID-19 pandemic has upended life as we know it in countless ways. One particularly difficult change is its impact on the way we mourn the loss of loved ones.
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“The spread of the novel coronavirus and associated social distancing has made it so that people are unable to grieve their loved ones in the traditional ways, through funerals and family gatherings,” Becky Stuempfig, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Encinitas, California, told HuffPost. “Without this element of face-to-face support and left alone in quarantine, people experiencing losses ― whether coronavirus-related or not ― may suffer more due to isolation.”
Due to stay-at-home orders, many people in mourning are feeling more loneliness than they would have under typical circumstances. Usually the bereaved experience an outpouring of love and support in the form of hugs, home-cooked meals, house visits, help with childcare, flower deliveries and invitations to social gatherings and outings.
“All of those methods of supporting someone in grief that are so ingrained in our society are simply no longer an option, so we find ourselves in uncharted territory on a micro and macro level,” Stuempfig explained.
“People may be more likely to stay in the denial stage of grief for a longer period of time when they do not see other people grieving the deceased individual,” she continued. “The psyche has a hard time comprehending death as it is, and when people are not physically surrounded by others trying to make sense of the loss, it is even more difficult to understand, and eventually accept, that their loved one is no longer alive.”
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On top of it all, people are experiencing grief in the midst of a global crisis that brings additional losses beyond the death of a loved one ― the loss of a job, savings, sense of identity and more. It’s also unclear when traditional funerals will be an option in the future.
But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to process your grief and move forward in this uncertain time. HuffPost asked Stuempfig and other experts to share healthy ways people can grieve a lost loved one during this pandemic.
MarinaZg via Getty Images Because of stay-at-home orders, many people in mourning are feeling more loneliness than they would have under typical circumstances.
Embrace Your Grief
“Don’t deny your grief simply because there isn’t a funeral,” said Dan Reidenberg, a mental health expert and executive director of Suicide Awareness Voices of Education. “Grief is real whether there is a formal wake or funeral. Recognize your feelings of grief, loss and sadness as normal during this time.”
Amid the pandemic, people are overwhelmed with fears about contracting the novel coronavirus or losing more loved ones to COVID-19. These all-consuming feelings may also prevent people from acknowledging their grief, but it’s important to create space for it.
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Delaying grief is not healthy and can lead to long-term physical and psychological challenges. Instead of holding grief in, find new ways to go through the grieving process and say goodbye to your loved one within the limits of social distancing. Some traditional ways of experiencing and processing grief are still healthy options ― like having a good cry.
“Individuals grieving during this time should accept their pain and understand it is OK to cry,” said Saniyyah Mayo, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles. “Crying brings a sense of relief.”
Talk To People
“Even though we can’t support one another in person, I encourage people to reach out as much as they can to family members through phone calls and video platforms,” Stuempfig said. “The best thing we can do for grief is connect with others.”
Friends and family members can gather via chat conference to talk about their lost loved one, share memories or simply cry together and know they aren’t alone in their grief. Sending emails and letters to people in your network is another way to take part in a collective grieving process. The key is to talk to someone else about your feelings, rather than keep them bottled up.
“It’s important to find connection in whatever ways you can. Even starting a text thread with close friends to talk about the person you’ve lost can be helpful,” said Megan Devine, a psychotherapist and author of “It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand.”
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“Being intentional about the emotional bonds that are still present can provide some comfort,” said Nicole M. Ward, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles. “I acknowledge that this is not the same as being able to have a hug or to sit together in close proximity but the virtual connections can be a way in which the emotional connections can be expressed where we are at now.”
Tim Robberts via Getty Images Technology allows people in mourning to talk to others about their painful emotions and even plan virtual rituals.
Consider A Livestream Service
Depending on where you live and how you’ve been social distancing, you may be able to have a small service with immediate family, and there are ways to include others in the experience.
“Many funeral homes are offering livestreaming of graveside services,” Stuempfig said. “They are giving the immediate family the right to attend the burial process, while still following the CDC recommendation of no more than 10 people gathering in the same space, and invite their family members and friends to attend the service virtually.”
Stuempfig noted that there may be some benefits to this option.
“One benefit of this is that people who ordinarily might not be able to attend services, due to living far away, finances or even a discomfort with grieving in public, are now able to participate,” she said.
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Create Your Own Rituals
“Just because you can’t go to a funeral doesn’t mean that you can’t create something on your own as a way to say goodbye to a loved one,” Reidenberg noted. “To do this, think of what helps you most at a funeral, such as readings, poems, pictures or music and create something similar on a smaller scale. This allows you to go through a personalized way to grieve your loss.”
Other expressive rituals include cooking your lost loved one’s favorite meal, lighting a candle while remembering a special moment you shared, or doing an art project. There are many ways to get creative with the grieving process.
Licensed psychologist Tracy Thomas said she wasn’t able to participate in her late father’s funeral last year due to his involvement in a religious cult and her strained relationship with his widow. Instead, she created her own personal tributes.
“My husband and I got a tree and planted in our yard and I look out at it every day and say hello to my dad,” she said. “I created a collage of pictures, and I continue to do things that make me think of my father. I make waffles like he used to make, I eat his favorite candy, and I spend time looking at pictures of him that remind me that we’ll always be connected because I can always choose to think of him and everything he brought to my life.”
Do Some Journaling
Writing out your feelings can be a therapeutic experience in times of grief. You can keep a private journal for your eyes only or even write a tribute to share with loved ones.
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“Write or journal and keep it in a safe place to share with others if there is a funeral in the future,” Reidenberg said. “Find ways to get on paper what you can’t share now so that when the real funeral happens others will see how much your loss affected you.”
Plan A Future Memorial Service
Celebrating a loved one’s life in a public group setting with others is a very healing part of the grieving process, but social distancing and stay-at-home orders mean many families must delay memorial services for an unknown amount of time. The uncertainty of when they might be able to honor their loved one in this way is difficult and anxiety-provoking.
“Given the importance of this in-person witnessing of grief, I encourage families to understand that this is temporary,” Stuempfig said. “Whenever things return to normal and we can all come out of isolation, it is essential that families go forward with memorial services and celebrations of life. Even though these will be delayed a few months or perhaps longer, they are still vitally important in helping people move through their grief and eventually accept their new reality.”
Rather than thinking of funerals as canceled, families can consider them delayed and take advantage of the extra time to do what planning they can.
valentinrussanov via Getty Images There are many online resources to support people who are grieving.
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Turn To Grief-Related Resources
“Grieving people should be aware that many hospices and mental health providers are offering phone and video services to support people in their bereavement,” Stuempfig said. “There are many virtual options for both individual and group support as well as books, articles and blogs about what to expect from the grieving process.”
She particularly recommends grief expert David Kessler’s website grief.com, which features educational videos, live groups and links to resources.
“While we are in this moment, there are still resources available online including grief counseling, grief coaching and grief groups,” Ward added. “We may have to be socially distant but we can remain emotionally connected.”
Devine touted the benefits of grief support groups, many of which are on social media and other digital platforms.
“Connecting with online communities of grieving people is a huge help: grieving people know what it’s like to feel alone,” she said. “Being alone, together, changes things: It makes the burden just a bit easier to bear.”
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If your grief feels entirely debilitating or just very overwhelming for longer than two weeks or a month, it may be helpful to check in with someone to care for your mental and physical health.
“If it is really hitting you hard, talk to your doctor to see if there is something they can help with for sleep and to ensure that you are physically healthy and not dehydrated or low on vitamins from not eating well.” Reidenberg said.
Know There’s No One Way To Grieve
As always, it’s important to recognize that there is no one right way to grieve.
“During this time you may see people grieving in different ways,” Mayo said. “It is OK to grieve differently from what you thought was the norm. No person’s grieving process is the same.”
Grief is very personal, so follow your unique process. Make sure you have emotional support and are taking care of your mind and body as you experience different physical and psychological reactions to loss. Be open to different ways of grieving.
“Without typical funerals and customs available, it’s time to be creative and to make new ones that may become even better than some of our long-standing customs,” Thomas said. “While many people have continued to do traditional funerals over the years, just as many people have wanted to do different things in the area of grieving and memorializing people, and this is an opportunity to put our modern stamp on how we mark the passing of a loved one, now and for future generations.”


huffpost--2020-04-07--40 Tweets From Parents About Homeschooling Kids Amid COVID-19

Quarantine Day One : This could be fun !
I ’ ve always wondered what it would be like to @ @ @ @ @ [ at breakfast ] : SO HELP ME GOD , MOVE YOUR FOOT AWAY FROM @ @ @ @ @ BOWL OR I WILL FIND A SCHOOL IN THIS COUNTRY THAT IS OPEN AND DRIVE @ @ @

Quarantine Day One: This could be fun! I’ve always wondered what it would be like to homeschool!
Quarantine Day One [at breakfast]: SO HELP ME GOD, MOVE YOUR FOOT AWAY FROM YOUR BROTHER’S CEREAL BOWL OR I WILL FIND A SCHOOL IN THIS COUNTRY THAT IS OPEN AND DRIVE US THERE TODAY


huffpost--2020-04-07--John Lewis, Once Trump Target, Backs Joe Biden For President

“ We need his voice , ” the 80-year-old Lewis told reporters ahead of the campaign ’ s Tuesday announcement .
He described the 77-year-old Biden as “ a man of courage , a man of great conscience , a man of faith , ” and said the former vice president would “ help us regain our way as a nation.
” “ I would tell young people the story of Selma and Montgomery and Mississippi , ” Lewis said , remembering being beaten nearly to death by Alabama state troopers as he marched for voting rights in 1965 .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ we don ’ t count .
The vote is the most powerful , nonviolent tool we have in society , and we must use it.
” Black voters have anchored Biden ’ s primary coalition , starting with overwhelming support in South Carolina .
A Feb. 29 victory there propelled Biden through victories that yielded an insurmountable delegate lead over Bernie Sanders before the COVID-19 virus prompted more than a dozen states , including Lewis ’ Georgia , to delay their primaries .
Biden ’ s team once viewed Georgia ’ s March @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for Sanders .
Georgia is now set to vote May 19 , so Lewis ’ blessing at this point is more about his national profile than any heavyweight status at home .
Perhaps the most visible living representatives of black Americans ’ civil rights struggle , Lewis was one of the original Freedom Riders .
The group rode buses through the segregated South in the early 1960s to challenge Jim Crow laws .
They were beaten at multiple bus stations along the way .
In March 1965 , Lewis was among those battered @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in Selma , Alabama , as they tried to march to the Capitol in Montgomery .
In 1963 , he was a lead organizer of the March on Washington , where Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his best-known address .
Lewis was in Indianapolis in April 1968 , campaigning for presidential candidate Robert F. Kennedy , the night King was assassinated in Memphis .
Kennedy would be assassinated eight weeks later .
Biden was a young law school student at the time and now frequently cites King and Kennedy as his “ two @ @ @ @ @ @ @ rights movement , decades before he ’ d become vice president to Barack Obama , the nation ’ s first black president , as the inspiration for his political career .
Still , Biden sometimes overplays his social action in that era .
As a first-term U.S. senator from Delaware , Biden pushed for the extension of the Voting Rights Act of 1965 , which had been adopted after Lewis ’ marches .
Biden fought against redlining — banking standards that made it difficult , if not impossible , for black families to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Biden also was a leading critic of court-ordered busing to force integration of public schools .
He notes that many black parents joined whites in opposing busing , and he points to redlining as the real structural impediment to school integration .
Early in his 2020 campaign , Biden recalled the “ civility ” of that 1970s Senate , despite its roster of several avowed racists elected during the Jim Crow era .
He clarified that he ’ d fought his older colleagues on matters like voting rights but found common ground on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the party ’ s diversity , Biden has promised his administration would “ look like the country.
” He ’ s committed to nominate a black woman to the Supreme Court upon his first vacancy .
He ’ s pledged to name a woman as his running mate .
Though Lewis avoided explicit criticisms of Trump during his remarks , he alluded to Biden ’ s campaign theme that is directed squarely at the Republican incumbent .
Biden ’ s election , Lewis said , would “ redeem the soul of America.
” @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the president ’ s inauguration in 2017 .
Lewis said he did not see Trump as a “ legitimate president , ” prompting Trump to blast Lewis as “ all talk ” and denigrate his majority black district as “ crime infested ” and “ falling apart.
” Among other markers , the Atlanta-based district includes Coca-Cola world headquarters , site of the 1996 Olympics opening and closing ceremonies , King ’ s church and burial site , Jimmy Carter ’ s presidential library and museum , the Georgia Capitol and the U.S. @ @ @ @ @ @ @

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ATLANTA (AP) — Civil rights icon and Georgia Rep. John Lewis is backing Joe Biden for president, giving the prospective Democratic nominee perhaps his biggest symbolic endorsement among the many veteran black lawmakers who back his candidacy.
“We need his voice,” the 80-year-old Lewis told reporters ahead of the campaign’s Tuesday announcement. He described the 77-year-old Biden as “a man of courage, a man of great conscience, a man of faith,” and said the former vice president would “help us regain our way as a nation.”
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Lewis tailored a message to younger black voters who’ve not backed Biden with the same enthusiasm as older African Americans.
“I would tell young people the story of Selma and Montgomery and Mississippi,” Lewis said, remembering being beaten nearly to death by Alabama state troopers as he marched for voting rights in 1965. “If we fail to vote, we don’t count. The vote is the most powerful, nonviolent tool we have in society, and we must use it.”
Lewis did not name President Donald Trump but said pointedly, “We have a choice.”
Black voters have anchored Biden’s primary coalition, starting with overwhelming support in South Carolina. A Feb. 29 victory there propelled Biden through victories that yielded an insurmountable delegate lead over Bernie Sanders before the COVID-19 virus prompted more than a dozen states, including Lewis’ Georgia, to delay their primaries.
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Biden’s team once viewed Georgia’s March 24 contest as a likely knockout blow for Sanders. Georgia is now set to vote May 19, so Lewis’ blessing at this point is more about his national profile than any heavyweight status at home.
Perhaps the most visible living representatives of black Americans’ civil rights struggle, Lewis was one of the original Freedom Riders. The group rode buses through the segregated South in the early 1960s to challenge Jim Crow laws. They were beaten at multiple bus stations along the way. In March 1965, Lewis was among those battered and gassed by authorities on Bloody Sunday in Selma, Alabama, as they tried to march to the Capitol in Montgomery.
“I gave a little blood on that bridge, almost died,” Lewis said Monday.
In 1963, he was a lead organizer of the March on Washington, where Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his best-known address. Lewis was in Indianapolis in April 1968, campaigning for presidential candidate Robert F. Kennedy, the night King was assassinated in Memphis. Kennedy would be assassinated eight weeks later.
Biden was a young law school student at the time and now frequently cites King and Kennedy as his “two political heroes.” Biden credits the civil rights movement, decades before he’d become vice president to Barack Obama, the nation’s first black president, as the inspiration for his political career. Still, Biden sometimes overplays his social action in that era.
In this March 3, 2013, file photo, Vice President Joe Biden, left, embraces U.S. Rep. John Lewis, D-Ga., as they prepare to lead a group across the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma, Ala. ASSOCIATED PRESS
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As a first-term U.S. senator from Delaware, Biden pushed for the extension of the Voting Rights Act of 1965, which had been adopted after Lewis’ marches. Biden fought against redlining — banking standards that made it difficult, if not impossible, for black families to secure mortgages in white neighborhoods. But Biden also was a leading critic of court-ordered busing to force integration of public schools. He notes that many black parents joined whites in opposing busing, and he points to redlining as the real structural impediment to school integration.
Early in his 2020 campaign, Biden recalled the “civility” of that 1970s Senate, despite its roster of several avowed racists elected during the Jim Crow era. He clarified that he’d fought his older colleagues on matters like voting rights but found common ground on issues unrelated to race.
Young African American commentators excoriated Biden as anachronistic and unfit to lead Democrats in 2020. Lewis joined several older black lawmakers to defend Biden — and illuminate generational fissures on the left.
Nodding to the party’s diversity, Biden has promised his administration would “look like the country.” He’s committed to nominate a black woman to the Supreme Court upon his first vacancy. He’s pledged to name a woman as his running mate.
“It would be good to have a woman of color” as vice president, Lewis said, stopping short of saying he expects such a move.
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Though Lewis avoided explicit criticisms of Trump during his remarks, he alluded to Biden’s campaign theme that is directed squarely at the Republican incumbent. Biden’s election, Lewis said, would “redeem the soul of America.”
Lewis memorably tangled with Trump days before the president’s inauguration in 2017. Lewis said he did not see Trump as a “legitimate president,” prompting Trump to blast Lewis as “all talk” and denigrate his majority black district as “crime infested” and “falling apart.” Among other markers, the Atlanta-based district includes Coca-Cola world headquarters, site of the 1996 Olympics opening and closing ceremonies, King’s church and burial site, Jimmy Carter’s presidential library and museum, the Georgia Capitol and the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
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huffpost--2020-04-07--12 Introvert-Approved Tips On How Not To Lose Your Mind While Social Distancing

“ I journal anytime I can get a peaceful , uninterrupted half hour or a few hours .
Since starting Morning Pages ( Julia Cameron ’ s method of journaling three pages of longhand stream of consciousness ) , I have come to see journaling as a time to hang out with and know myself better .
The magic is in the process .
First , it enables a ‘ brain drain , ’ giving you a place to put those top-of-mind thoughts and worries instead of leaving them unacknowledged .
It rids you of blockage and allows you to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ truly you .
Second , writing allows you to clarify and articulate your ideas , your thoughts , and even your own life story .
As Ingrid Bengis famously expressed , ‘ words are a form of action , capable of influencing change.
’ So , where to start ?
Use a pen ( the slayer of perfectionism ) to write three pages in stream of consciousness : ‘ I am writing Morning Pages .
I ’ m not sure what I ’ m supposed to write , but here I go .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ now after another day in quarantine … Finding it hard to concentrate lately with corona , but here ’ s why I love journaling… ’ ” ― Annemarie Allen from Alaska “ I organize .
It ’ s relaxing and very versatile because you get to decide how big of a task you want to make it .
Don ’ t want to spend any more than 30 minutes ?
Go through a drawer .
Want to spend a few hours ?
Go through your closet .
I don ’ t organize just @ @ @ @ @ @ @ it to familiarize myself with my belongings .
Organizing a bookshelf might lead to hours of browsing through old books .
There ’ s something wholesome about that .
To add to the experience , put on some music or a podcast , depending on what mood you ’ re going for .
I like putting on ‘ spa music.
’ I ’ m serious.
” — Lana Blakely from Stockholm “ As an introvert programmer/entrepreneur , I like to tie up all of the ‘ loose ends ’ in my life when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I like the fresh feeling when I wake up and know that I don ’ t have tons of backlogged tasks that obstruct me from starting a new venture .
I ’ ll organize my files , back up data , catch up on bookmarked web articles , get my finances and budget sorted and understand my retirement plans and investments .
Sometimes it ’ s not immediately apparent what ‘ needs to be done , ’ so I will take long walks , removing any distraction ( no listening to podcasts ) @ @ @ @ @ @ @ on loose ends in my life and reprioritize as needed .
― Patrick Shyu , who lives in the Silicon Valley in California “ I ’ ve been having a lot of fun learning choreographies from dancing studios on YouTube .
They ’ re fun and challenging .
I ’ ve recently been practicing ‘ ON ’ by BTS .
I think it involves just the right amount of movement and I also really enjoy the rhythm .
Others I love are ‘ Say So ’ by Doja Cat and ‘ Roxanne ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Morocco “ One thing that always brightens my day is dancing .
That ’ s why I recently started doing dance challenges on Tik Tok .
Like a lot of introverts , it ’ s easy for me to get in my head and start overthinking if I focus only on cerebral activities , like reading .
Dancing gets me into my body .
Learning short , easy routines to share on social media is a fun and satisfying challenge !
” ― Michaela Chung from Ottawa , Canada .
Chung is the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and creator of introvertspring.com .
Responses have been edited for clarity and style .

10. Start journaling.
“I journal anytime I can get a peaceful, uninterrupted half hour or a few hours. Since starting Morning Pages (Julia Cameron’s method of journaling three pages of longhand stream of consciousness), I have come to see journaling as a time to hang out with and know myself better. The magic is in the process.
First, it enables a ‘brain drain,’ giving you a place to put those top-of-mind thoughts and worries instead of leaving them unacknowledged. It rids you of blockage and allows you to get at the inner voice that is truly you. Second, writing allows you to clarify and articulate your ideas, your thoughts, and even your own life story. As Ingrid Bengis famously expressed, ‘words are a form of action, capable of influencing change.’
So, where to start? Use a pen (the slayer of perfectionism) to write three pages in stream of consciousness: ‘I am writing Morning Pages. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to write, but here I go. I’m sitting in bed right now after another day in quarantine … Finding it hard to concentrate lately with corona, but here’s why I love journaling…’” ― Annemarie Allen from Alaska
11. Get your life organized.
“I organize. It’s relaxing and very versatile because you get to decide how big of a task you want to make it. Don’t want to spend any more than 30 minutes? Go through a drawer. Want to spend a few hours? Go through your closet. I don’t organize just to get organized, I also do it to familiarize myself with my belongings. Organizing a bookshelf might lead to hours of browsing through old books. There’s something wholesome about that. To add to the experience, put on some music or a podcast, depending on what mood you’re going for. I like putting on ‘spa music.’ I’m serious.” — Lana Blakely from Stockholm
“As an introvert programmer/entrepreneur, I like to tie up all of the ‘loose ends’ in my life when I get a chance to myself. I like the fresh feeling when I wake up and know that I don’t have tons of backlogged tasks that obstruct me from starting a new venture. I’ll organize my files, back up data, catch up on bookmarked web articles, get my finances and budget sorted and understand my retirement plans and investments. Sometimes it’s not immediately apparent what ‘needs to be done,’ so I will take long walks, removing any distraction (no listening to podcasts), so that I can just ruminate on loose ends in my life and reprioritize as needed. ― Patrick Shyu, who lives in the Silicon Valley in California
12. Learn choreography at home.
“I’ve been having a lot of fun learning choreographies from dancing studios on YouTube. They’re fun and challenging. I’ve recently been practicing ‘ON’ by BTS. I think it involves just the right amount of movement and I also really enjoy the rhythm. Others I love are ‘Say So’ by Doja Cat and ‘Roxanne’ by Arizona Zervas.” ― Aya from Morocco
“One thing that always brightens my day is dancing. That’s why I recently started doing dance challenges on Tik Tok. Like a lot of introverts, it’s easy for me to get in my head and start overthinking if I focus only on cerebral activities, like reading. Dancing gets me into my body. Learning short, easy routines to share on social media is a fun and satisfying challenge!” ― Michaela Chung from Ottawa, Canada. Chung is the author of “The Irresistible Introvert” and creator of introvertspring.com.
Responses have been edited for clarity and style.


huffpost--2020-04-07--I'm A Flight Attendant. This Is What Flying During The COVID-19 Crisis Feels Like.

We have come to accept full flights as a way of life , and even though we found it annoying when you asked if our flights were full , we 100 % understood your relief when we said they were not .
Even when just one-tenth of the seats were empty , it made a difference in the collective energy of the crowd on board .
A little bit of extra space for passengers to breathe meant a little less anxiety for us all .
We ’ ve grown to accept that passengers treat us like servers in the sky @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the wheels are even off the ground .
We ’ ve accepted that you don ’ t want to make eye contact or look up from your devices when you order your Bloody Mary .
We gripe with each other about the loss of humanity that came with the increase in technology .
The funny thing is , we flight attendants are also often the first to ignore each other as soon as we get in the van to the hotel ― our eyes glued to our devices , trying to connect with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 9 , our CEO released a statement to employees informing us that COVID-19 might be more catastrophic to our business than 9/11 , which at that point was more information than we ’ d heard from President Donald Trump .
It was a harrowing message ― one that I will always remember .
My husband and I went out for dinner that night and if I would have known that it would be our last meal outside our home for who knows how long , I would have spent more time enjoying it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
My coworkers and I are all in agreement that our jobs have never been easier ― or harder .
We spend a lot of time sitting on airplanes that are empty of any passengers , besides fellow crew members .
We can ’ t help but wonder why we are still flying ?
I just keep thinking about how much money we are losing .
All of these empty airports and empty planes breed an incredible amount of fear in everyone I ’ m working with .
And then there is fear @ @ @ @ @ @ @ no such thing as social distancing when you are airline personnel .
Since March 18 , I have worked every day except for three .
I do my best to stay distant from my crew members and other people that I come into contact with , but some do not understand what social distancing is about .
The day after Trump in mid-March told us not to be in a crowd larger than 10 people , I was one of 175 passengers on a 737 .
The day before that , I was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Island with five other people as we shuttled to the airport .
I ’ m watching my friends get pulled from work for two weeks because they ’ ve flown with someone who has tested positive .
I am working a lot .
I am waiting for that same call .
Flight attendants are creatures of habit .
In the days prior to this pandemic , we were usually divided into two groups .
Some retreat to their rooms on their layovers to enjoy Netflix , room service and uninterrupted rest .
We @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Others do a quick change and head straight to the bar for camaraderie and debriefing with their crews .
Many hotels have drink and meal specials for crew members , so depending on the city , any given hotel bar around the world might be filled with airline crew members filling the void of a lonely job with cheap drinks and chicken wings .
I am neither of these kinds of flight attendants .
I can count on one hand the number of times I ’ ve turned on my TV in my @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not a person who hangs out at the hotel bar or restaurant either .
Before March 9 , I usually preplanned my layovers and most of the time I ’ d use them to see a friend who didn ’ t work in the industry .
If not seeing a friend , I ’ d plan to hit a local gym or coffee shop .
It hit me around 10 days ago that I might not see my friends who are not in the industry for a long time .
Last week , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , Tennessee .
It was a ghost town ― free of most people besides the occasional street musician trying to make a dollar to get a bite to eat .
Most hotels have very limited staff and the majority are no longer serving food .
If you want to get something to eat , it ’ s limited to takeout only .
Room service and crowded hotel bars are a thing of the not-so-distant past .
When I do order anything , I find myself tipping almost 50 % .
I fear for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ more fearful for the jobs of these other people who I now realize have made my life easier for years ― something I had taken for granted .
When my trip ends , I drive home on empty highways .
I try not to listen to the news .
I come home from work and immediately wash my uniform , which I doubt will survive the hours I am working this month .
I take a shower immediately and worry that everything I touch is going to be infected with this virus that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of my coworkers were germaphobes long before this pandemic .
I fear most of us may now be for the rest of our lives .
Two weeks ago , a pilot thought it was hilarious when I asked him to step back a few feet from me .
He laughed at my concern and explained to me that the entire thing was just hyped up by the media and that “ I would see ” in the coming weeks .
I ’ d love to run into him today and ask him what @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to see .
We can blame the president or blame social media or the media or whomever we want , but the longer we continue to deny science and point fingers , the more lives are in danger .
I am not a politician .
I am not a scientist .
I am not a doctor .
I am a flight attendant .
I am someone who loves people and this virus is making me very afraid of other people .
Whether you are my crew member , my passenger or my friend @ @ @ @ @ @ @ asymptomatic and in danger of making you and everyone you love ill.
I ’ m also scared of contracting the disease from others .
I don ’ t know if continuing to work is the best choice , but I love my employer , so I show up for work to be part of this fight .
I do not know whether I am better off or worse off than my friends who are sheltered in place .
I am an extrovert , so getting to talk to new people every day does @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not change how anxious I feel every time I step into a barren airport .
I am anxious about this virus , yes , but more than anything else , I am anxious about the economy , the future of the airline industry ― the future in general ― and the lives of every single person that I encounter in my days at work .
It was less than 31 days ago that I was complaining to my crew about someone asking me for two drinks on a short flight .
Those days @ @ @ @ @ @ @ lifetime ago .
It makes me wonder about my passengers who complained about TSA , lack of WiFi , full flights and every other blessing that felt like a nuisance then .
Where are they now ?
Are they wishing they had been a little nicer , a little softer , a little more grateful for what they had ?
I know that I certainly am .

"We spend a lot of time sitting on airplanes that are empty of any passengers, besides fellow crew members." fStop Images - Halfdark via Getty Images
A month ago, the most annoying question you could ask your flight attendant was, “Is this flight full?” At that time, empty seats were a rarity. A healthy economy has had airplanes full for years ― especially the airline I’ve been employed with since 2006. Our loyalty program and our famous customer service make us a favorite with most Americans.
We have come to accept full flights as a way of life, and even though we found it annoying when you asked if our flights were full, we 100% understood your relief when we said they were not. Even when just one-tenth of the seats were empty, it made a difference in the collective energy of the crowd on board. A little bit of extra space for passengers to breathe meant a little less anxiety for us all.
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We’ve grown to accept that passengers treat us like servers in the sky, with many wanting a beverage before the wheels are even off the ground. We’ve accepted that you don’t want to make eye contact or look up from your devices when you order your Bloody Mary. We gripe with each other about the loss of humanity that came with the increase in technology. The funny thing is, we flight attendants are also often the first to ignore each other as soon as we get in the van to the hotel ― our eyes glued to our devices, trying to connect with loved ones at home.
In the early days of March, when COVID-19 was just beginning to spread in the U.S., I watched my job transform in front of my eyes. Passengers who used to let their kids eat off a tray table without second-guessing whether it was clean or not were suddenly cleaning every touchable surface with Lysol wipes.
An empty concourse at Orlando International Airport. Courtesy of Lori Light
On March 9, our CEO released a statement to employees informing us that COVID-19 might be more catastrophic to our business than 9/11, which at that point was more information than we’d heard from President Donald Trump. It was a harrowing message ― one that I will always remember. My husband and I went out for dinner that night and if I would have known that it would be our last meal outside our home for who knows how long, I would have spent more time enjoying it, instead of worrying about that letter.
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But how could I not worry?
After receiving that letter, I took a week off and then came back to an entirely different industry. On March 17, we suspended on-board service outside of handing out a snack and water. On March 25, we suspended on-board service altogether.
My coworkers and I are all in agreement that our jobs have never been easier ― or harder. We spend a lot of time sitting on airplanes that are empty of any passengers, besides fellow crew members. We can’t help but wonder why we are still flying? I just keep thinking about how much money we are losing. All of these empty airports and empty planes breed an incredible amount of fear in everyone I’m working with.
And then there is fear of the virus itself. There is no such thing as social distancing when you are airline personnel. Since March 18, I have worked every day except for three. I do my best to stay distant from my crew members and other people that I come into contact with, but some do not understand what social distancing is about.
I have had ground operations personnel come into my galley and stand an inch away from me. I back away without saying anything because I do not want to be rude, but my patience is wearing thin. Our company still has not changed any policy regarding sitting next to our crew members on the jump seat.
The day after Trump in mid-March told us not to be in a crowd larger than 10 people, I was one of 175 passengers on a 737. The day before that, I was in a taxi sedan traveling on Long Island with five other people as we shuttled to the airport. I’m watching my friends get pulled from work for two weeks because they’ve flown with someone who has tested positive. I am working a lot. I am waiting for that same call.
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“I’m watching my friends get pulled from work for two weeks because they’ve flown with someone who has tested positive. I am working a lot. I am waiting for that same call.”
Flight attendants are creatures of habit. In the days prior to this pandemic, we were usually divided into two groups. Some retreat to their rooms on their layovers to enjoy Netflix, room service and uninterrupted rest. We call these flight attendants “slam-clickers.” Others do a quick change and head straight to the bar for camaraderie and debriefing with their crews. Many hotels have drink and meal specials for crew members, so depending on the city, any given hotel bar around the world might be filled with airline crew members filling the void of a lonely job with cheap drinks and chicken wings.
I am neither of these kinds of flight attendants. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve turned on my TV in my hotel rooms. But I’m not a person who hangs out at the hotel bar or restaurant either. Before March 9, I usually preplanned my layovers and most of the time I’d use them to see a friend who didn’t work in the industry. If not seeing a friend, I’d plan to hit a local gym or coffee shop. It hit me around 10 days ago that I might not see my friends who are not in the industry for a long time.
I do not know when I will sit in a coffee shop in a random city again. I do not know when I’ll ever get to use another gym. These days, hotels are quiet. I used to curse at hearing doors slam in the hallway and now I miss the sound of others near me. It is now a quiet, quiet world.
Last week, I walked several miles around downtown Nashville, Tennessee. It was a ghost town ― free of most people besides the occasional street musician trying to make a dollar to get a bite to eat. Most hotels have very limited staff and the majority are no longer serving food. If you want to get something to eat, it’s limited to takeout only. Room service and crowded hotel bars are a thing of the not-so-distant past. When I do order anything, I find myself tipping almost 50%. I fear for my job, but I am even more fearful for the jobs of these other people who I now realize have made my life easier for years ― something I had taken for granted.
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An empty concourse at Detroit Metropolitan Wayne County Airport. Courtesy of Lori Light
When my trip ends, I drive home on empty highways. I try not to listen to the news. I come home from work and immediately wash my uniform, which I doubt will survive the hours I am working this month. I take a shower immediately and worry that everything I touch is going to be infected with this virus that loves to live on surfaces. Some of my coworkers were germaphobes long before this pandemic. I fear most of us may now be for the rest of our lives.
Perhaps the hardest thing that I have had to deal with throughout the rise of this crisis has been the outward denial of some of my co-workers and passengers and how many people have made the pandemic into a political issue.
Two weeks ago, a pilot thought it was hilarious when I asked him to step back a few feet from me. He laughed at my concern and explained to me that the entire thing was just hyped up by the media and that “I would see” in the coming weeks. I’d love to run into him today and ask him what exactly it was that I was supposed to see. We can blame the president or blame social media or the media or whomever we want, but the longer we continue to deny science and point fingers, the more lives are in danger.
I am not a politician. I am not a scientist. I am not a doctor. I am a flight attendant. I am someone who loves people and this virus is making me very afraid of other people. Whether you are my crew member, my passenger or my friend, I am scared that I am asymptomatic and in danger of making you and everyone you love ill. I’m also scared of contracting the disease from others.
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“I am anxious about this virus, yes, but more than anything else, I am anxious about the economy, the future of the airline industry ― the future in general ― and the lives of every single person that I encounter in my days at work.”
I don’t know if continuing to work is the best choice, but I love my employer, so I show up for work to be part of this fight. I do not know whether I am better off or worse off than my friends who are sheltered in place. I am an extrovert, so getting to talk to new people every day does occasionally fill my cup. It does not change how anxious I feel every time I step into a barren airport. I am anxious about this virus, yes, but more than anything else, I am anxious about the economy, the future of the airline industry ― the future in general ― and the lives of every single person that I encounter in my days at work.
What will the world look like when this is all over? How many of us ― my fellow flight attendants and others who work in the airline industry, but everyone else, too ― will have to lose their jobs? How many of us will lose people we are close to, and maybe even our own lives?
It was less than 31 days ago that I was complaining to my crew about someone asking me for two drinks on a short flight. Those days of complaints and annoyances seem like a lifetime ago. It makes me wonder about my passengers who complained about TSA, lack of WiFi, full flights and every other blessing that felt like a nuisance then. Where are they now? Are they wishing they had been a little nicer, a little softer, a little more grateful for what they had? I know that I certainly am.
Lori Light is a writer, student, and flight attendant. She is passionate about recovery, music, exercise, traveling, cooking and spirituality. She lives in Chicago with her husband, with whom she loves to ride bicycles when the weather permits. You can follow her on Instagram at @Loriinthesky.
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huffpost--2020-04-07--How To Get Trump To Wear A Mask: Tell Him It's A Border Wall For His Face, Trevor Noah Urges

The only way anyone is going to get Donald Trump — who ’ s “ all about appearance ” — to wear a face mask to protect against COVID-19 is to “ trick him , like he ’ s a child , “ Trevor Noah declared Monday on “ The Daily Social Distancing Show.
” “ No , Mr. President , it ’ s not a mask .
It ’ s a border wall for your face , ” said Noah , pretending to be one of Trump ’ s aides .
He imagines Trump responding : “ So viruses @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I got it !
” Then Noah delved deeply into how not to make a face mask at home .
Earlier in the work-from-home edition of “ The Daily Show , ” Noah presented clips showing people ignoring social distancing guidelines , including an Ohio woman who attended a church service .
She explained she wasn ’ t worried because she was “ covered in Jesus ’ s blood.
” “ People , just because Jesus is on your side , doesn ’ t mean you can ’ t get sick , ” @ @ @ @ @ @ @ forget , Jesus was on Jesus ’ s side — and he died !
” Noah said he was baffled that some of the same people who are convinced Jesus is on their side still feel better stocking up on guns .
Check it out the video up top .

The only way anyone is going to get Donald Trump — who’s “all about appearance” — to wear a face mask to protect against COVID-19 is to “trick him, like he’s a child,“ Trevor Noah declared Monday on “The Daily Social Distancing Show.”
“No, Mr. President, it’s not a mask. It’s a border wall for your face,” said Noah, pretending to be one of Trump’s aides. He imagines Trump responding: “So viruses are like the Mexicans of germs. I got it!”
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Then Noah delved deeply into how not to make a face mask at home.
Earlier in the work-from-home edition of “The Daily Show,” Noah presented clips showing people ignoring social distancing guidelines, including an Ohio woman who attended a church service. She explained she wasn’t worried because she was “covered in Jesus’s blood.”
“People, just because Jesus is on your side, doesn’t mean you can’t get sick,” Noah warned. “Don’t forget, Jesus was on Jesus’s side — and he died!”
Noah said he was baffled that some of the same people who are convinced Jesus is on their side still feel better stocking up on guns.


huffpost--2020-03-25--How Parents Around The World Are Keeping Their Kids Occupied At Home

In the coronavirus pandemic , nothing seems normal .
We no longer commute to work , we can ’ t just “ pop ” to the shops , and we have to limit gatherings outside .
But for parents , one of the biggest changes , perhaps , is having the kids at home .
ALL .
THE .
TIME .
So how are they coping ?
From countries who have had their kids at home for weeks , to those who are still adjusting to this new routine , we spoke to parents about what they ’ re doing @ @ @ @ @ @ @ kiddos – during this tricky time .
Do get organised .
Geoffroy Clavel , editor in chief at HuffPost France , has been working at home with his two kids – Eve , 10 , and Nathanael , five , – since last Monday .
“ Rituals are important and kids need them more than ever when their daily routine is upside down .
My wife and I signed a ‘ contract ’ with our kids stipulating the hours where everyone must work , when we eat , when we play , when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ” Do communicate and maintain positivity .
Antonia Daniek , from Germany , has three children aged 12 , 15 , and 16 .
“ We organised our daily structure towards quiet focus time in the mornings where they sleep in and then study on their own , plus intense family time with a lot of communication in the afternoons where we talk , learn and have time to play .
To support all of us to stay positive we enjoy inventing creative projects and spending time in our beautiful garden , we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to stay calm and optimistic.
” Do be sure to separate weekdays from the weekend .
“ Since we are all stuck at home and unable to go out , its very important to make a difference between workdays and the days where we can all lay back and chill , play games , cook together , watch a movie , ” adds Geoffroy Clavel .
Don ’ t try to turn into super parent .
“ Instead , tune into Mo Willems ’ lunchtime drawing sessions on YouTube or live stream animals @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I ’ m sure you can find your local ones on Facebook ) .
And take a deep breath , ” says Kate Auletta , Parenting editor of HuffPost U.S. Don ’ t let your kids rule the roost .
Jenny Johnson , from the U.S. , has two kids aged 12 and 10 .
“ Kids need and want clear boundaries ( and so do you , believe me ) .
Set a daily schedule that provides structure , and keep it flexible .
Set ‘ expectations ’ that you discuss and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ expectations aren ’ t met – include the kids when you ’ re doing this.
” Don ’ t try and teach what you don ’ t know .
“ Still don ’ t understand mixed fractions ?
Me neither .
Leave that to their teachers and focus on things that you know and love to do .
We ’ ve played pickleball , learned how to create a budget , and have Catan [ a game ] battles every night .
When I ’ m having fun , they are too .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ going to execute online schooling , these activities are keeping mine busy in the mean time : Looking at old pictures/photo albums , daily journaling , virtual lessons ( painting , music , dance ) , learning to sew , baking and create your own dessert , board games , video chats with friends , walks ( so many walks ) , building forts , and movie marathons , ” says Jenny Johnson , from the U.S. Don ’ t expect it to be all hearts and roses .
“ We are sick @ @ @ @ @ @ @ sometimes bickering , but everyone is still alive , so I guess that ’ s the main thing , ” says Valerie Howes , Canada .
Do make this confinement an experience to remember .
“ I generally tell my kids that although these might be uncertain times , this is a one in a lifetime opportunity to spend more time together and bond .
Although everyone is entitled to his privacy and alone time ( parents included ) , we try to share things altogether through activities .
Since my kids can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ can see them getting closer and sharing more games and activities , ” says Geoffroy Clavel of France .

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In the coronavirus pandemic, nothing seems normal. We no longer commute to work, we can’t just “pop” to the shops, and we have to limit gatherings outside. But for parents, one of the biggest changes, perhaps, is having the kids at home. ALL. THE. TIME.
So how are they coping? From countries who have had their kids at home for weeks, to those who are still adjusting to this new routine, we spoke to parents about what they’re doing to stay positive – and occupy the littl’uns – during this tricky time.
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HuffPost UK Geoffroy Clavel's children
Do get organised. Geoffroy Clavel, editor in chief at HuffPost France, has been working at home with his two kids – Eve, 10, and Nathanael, five, – since last Monday. “Rituals are important and kids need them more than ever when their daily routine is upside down. My wife and I signed a ‘contract’ with our kids stipulating the hours where everyone must work, when we eat, when we play, when we have a little bit of exercise.”
Do communicate and maintain positivity. Antonia Daniek, from Germany, has three children aged 12, 15, and 16. “We organised our daily structure towards quiet focus time in the mornings where they sleep in and then study on their own, plus intense family time with a lot of communication in the afternoons where we talk, learn and have time to play. To support all of us to stay positive we enjoy inventing creative projects and spending time in our beautiful garden, we breathe and smile doing everything we can to stay calm and optimistic.”
HuffPost UK Geoffroy Clavel's children
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Do be sure to separate weekdays from the weekend. “Since we are all stuck at home and unable to go out, its very important to make a difference between workdays and the days where we can all lay back and chill, play games, cook together, watch a movie,” adds Geoffroy Clavel.
HuffPost UK Jenny Johnson's son
Do lots of drawing. Giulia Belardelli, a reporter for HuffPost Italy, has two children aged one and three. They’ve been stuck in their apartment in Rome for more than two weeks now. “During the day we play, draw, read, dance and play music. We see one or two cartoons a day, but we try to limit the use of electronic devices. In Italy some teachers invited all the children to draw a rainbow on the sheet with the words ‘everything will be fine’. This is our sheet, which is now hanging outside on the balcony.” Do take each day as it comes. Valerie Howes, Parents editor of HuffPost Canada, has two teenagers. “Week one of the quarantine in Canada was actually March Break, so we didn’t try to homeschool, and we’re waiting for online classes to start from their school, because I know I can’t handle work, stress and being their teacher. For now, I’ve got the kids cooking and baking for the family more and we do a dog walk together in the evening, respecting social distancing rules, just so everyone gets some fresh air and vitamin D. Pre-quarantine rules have gone out the window, but that’s not working out so well for us. May need to try a vague schedule next week?”
HuffPost UK Giulia Belardelli's children
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Do try to invent games. “We try to stimulate the imagination and satisfy the children’s need to move by inventing games. The children are happy to be all this with us, but they begin to miss their peers and especially the outdoor games. In Italy all the parks have been closed and in large cities it is very rare to have a garden. Luckily we have a balcony in the sun: if the weather is good, we spend a couple of hours outside playing every day,” says Giulia Belardelli, Italy.
Don’t try to turn into super parent. “Instead, tune into Mo Willems’ lunchtime drawing sessions on YouTube or live stream animals at various zoos around the country (I’m sure you can find your local ones on Facebook). And take a deep breath,” says Kate Auletta, US.
HuffPost UK Jenny Johnson
Don’t let your kids rule the roost. Jenny Johnson, from the US, has two kids aged 12 and 10. “Kids need and want clear boundaries (and so do you, believe me). Set a daily schedule that provides structure, and keep it flexible. Set ‘expectations’ that you discuss and review frequently. Set consequences for when expectations aren’t met – include the kids when you’re doing this.”
HuffPost UK Jenny Johnson
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Don’t try and teach what you don’t know. “Still don’t understand mixed fractions? Me neither. Leave that to their teachers and focus on things that you know and love to do. We’ve played pickleball, learned how to create a budget, and have Catan [a game] battles every night. When I’m having fun, they are too. Until teachers decide how they’re going to execute online schooling , these activities are keeping mine busy in the mean time: Looking at old pictures/photo albums, daily journaling, virtual lessons (painting, music, dance), learning to sew, baking and create your own dessert, board games, video chats with friends, walks (so many walks), building forts, and movie marathons,” says Jenny Johnson, US.
HuffPost UK Jenny Johnson
Don’t expect it to be all hearts and roses. “We are sick of the sight of each other and sometimes bickering, but everyone is still alive, so I guess that’s the main thing,” says Valerie Howes, Canada.