thoughtcatalog--2020-09-17--This Is Your Evergreen Reminder That Slowing Down Is Not Falling Behind

Even if your plans have changed , even if your timeline is different , even if this year has not unfolded the way you thought it would — you are not falling behind .
The course of our lives is not contingent upon things happening precisely as we think they should .
In fact , it ’ s often the unexpected that opens us up to opportunities that weren ’ t crossing our radars , ideas about life , and love , and the world itself , that we hadn ’ t stopped to consider .
If you know that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , to simplify , to take it easier , to savor your days , to adjust your course — you are right .
You are not straying from the path , you are finally finding it .
You are learning that real growth is not always just constant forward motion .
Growth is also staying still .
Growth is deep rest .
Growth is stopping to reconsider where you ’ re headed before you arrive there .
Growth is letting yourself settle , it ’ s letting yourself blossom , it ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ already in your life before you hunger for more .
You are allowed to take days to grieve , to do nothing .
You are allowed to press your plans back until they make more sense .
You do not exist on a single schedule , your fate is not to arrive at each set point at precisely the second you think you should .
That ’ s not what you ’ re here for .
That ’ s not what this whole thing is about .
You can not miss the exit @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Life is a living , breathing thing — because it ’ s an extension of you .
It ’ s the ways in which you explore the corners and contours of your soul , the way you find pieces of yourself through love , through trial and error , through reaching , through settling down .
Every part of our lives exists to teach us something .
We are not only making progress when we are clearly , discernibly growing .
We are also making progress when we take time to simply be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s often the plans that go wrong that teach us more , and show us more , than the ones that go right .
Those words even signify our perceptions of how we are meant to be in the world , that we can not possibly do anything but what was pre-determined , otherwise we ’ re failing , and off-course .
The truth that I am asking you to consider is that even if all you did was wake up and keep breathing today , you did what you are supposed to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ manage was to take care of your most essential tasks , you have done more than many can .
If you ’ re able to reach for something just beyond yourself , you should applaud yourself and feel profoundly grateful for your courage , your strength , and your grit .
You should not feel ashamed that you aren ’ t able to wake up and do that every single day .
You are not a robot that can game their way into an elevated existence , you are a human being sorting @ @ @ @ @ @ @ on this planet , with all of these people , trying to coexist and make sense of it all and come out on the other end a little more okay than we were before .
Our lives are not defined by how clearly and seamlessly we reach each goal , but what we are able to savor from each day .
Who were we , and how did we show up , in the simplest moments , in the easiest ways ?
We are far more defined by the way we make others @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feel about us .
We are far more impacted by learning to see what we have as enough as opposed to thinking we ’ re only okay once we have more .
We are far better for taking time to rest , to regenerate , and seeing this not as a stagnation , but a beautiful , and essential , part of being who we are .
May this be the year that you learn slowing down is nothing to be ashamed of .
May this be the year that you realize your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ but your own — and you can amend that .
May this be the year you realize you are not only as good as your latest accomplishment was great .
You are not falling behind , you never have been .
The journey has only ever been about learning to find a semblance of peace each day , and it ’ s often in the quiet , in the unexpected , and in the simplest things that we are given the greatest opportunity to do just that .

Even if your plans have changed, even if your timeline is different, even if this year has not unfolded the way you thought it would — you are not falling behind.
The course of our lives is not contingent upon things happening precisely as we think they should. In fact, it’s often the unexpected that opens us up to opportunities that weren’t crossing our radars, ideas about life, and love, and the world itself, that we hadn’t stopped to consider. If you know that it’s time to slow down, to simplify, to take it easier, to savor your days, to adjust your course — you are right.
You are not straying from the path, you are finally finding it.
You are learning that real growth is not always just constant forward motion. Growth is also staying still. Growth is deep rest. Growth is stopping to reconsider where you’re headed before you arrive there. Growth is letting yourself settle, it’s letting yourself blossom, it’s letting yourself see how much good is already in your life before you hunger for more.
You are allowed to take days to grieve, to do nothing. You are allowed to press your plans back until they make more sense. You do not exist on a single schedule, your fate is not to arrive at each set point at precisely the second you think you should. That’s not what you’re here for. That’s not what this whole thing is about.
You cannot miss the exit.
There are no wrong turns.
Life is a living, breathing thing — because it’s an extension of you. It’s the ways in which you explore the corners and contours of your soul, the way you find pieces of yourself through love, through trial and error, through reaching, through settling down. Every part of our lives exists to teach us something. We are not only making progress when we are clearly, discernibly growing. We are also making progress when we take time to simply be.
The irony is that it’s often the plans that go wrong that teach us more, and show us more, than the ones that go right.
Those words even signify our perceptions of how we are meant to be in the world, that we cannot possibly do anything but what was pre-determined, otherwise we’re failing, and off-course.
The truth that I am asking you to consider is that even if all you did was wake up and keep breathing today, you did what you are supposed to do. Even if all you could manage was to take care of your most essential tasks, you have done more than many can. If you’re able to reach for something just beyond yourself, you should applaud yourself and feel profoundly grateful for your courage, your strength, and your grit.
You should not feel ashamed that you aren’t able to wake up and do that every single day.
You are not a robot that can game their way into an elevated existence, you are a human being sorting through the realities and imperfections of being on this planet, with all of these people, trying to coexist and make sense of it all and come out on the other end a little more okay than we were before.
Our lives are not defined by how clearly and seamlessly we reach each goal, but what we are able to savor from each day. Who were we, and how did we show up, in the simplest moments, in the easiest ways? We are far more defined by the way we make others feel than the way we think they feel about us. We are far more impacted by learning to see what we have as enough as opposed to thinking we’re only okay once we have more. We are far better for taking time to rest, to regenerate, and seeing this not as a stagnation, but a beautiful, and essential, part of being who we are.
May this be the year that you learn slowing down is nothing to be ashamed of.
May this be the year that you realize your life isn’t on any schedule but your own — and you can amend that.
May this be the year you realize you are not only as good as your latest accomplishment was great.
You are not falling behind, you never have been.
The journey has only ever been about learning to find a semblance of peace each day, and it’s often in the quiet, in the unexpected, and in the simplest things that we are given the greatest opportunity to do just that.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-16--6 Ways To Be A Better Partner When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style

Your attachment style is formed when you ’ re a child .
The bond your parents make with you , or lack of one , determines how you experience love in your adult life .
My parents weren ’ t negligent , but anxiety has always run in my family .
I remember my mother always being worried and easily upset , something I can ’ t look past was most likely passed down to my brother and me .
I have an anxious attachment style when it comes to love—always have .
In fact , knowing this information and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ actions make a lot of sense .
But coming to this realization about myself wasn ’ t an easy one .
It took a lot of deep reflection and reading about attachment theory .
Through this work , I pinpointed what parts of my anxious attachment are detrimental to my relationship .
Sometimes it looks like pushing my partner away ; other times it manifests in the form of me intentionally being mean as a way to manipulate my partner ’ s feelings .
I don ’ t plan to rid myself of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to be aware of it and work on relieving my anxieties for my own sake , but it ’ s more so managing who I am rather than trying to overhaul my personality .
I know there ’ s nothing wrong with me or anyone who has an anxious attachment style .
But I do want to be a great partner .
I want to grow with my boyfriend and not succumb to the notion “ this is simply who I am.
” And perhaps what has worked for me will also work @ @ @ @ @ @ @ weekly check-in time with your partner A lot of anxieties people have in a relationship come from worrying their partner will leave them .
To make sure that doesn ’ t happen , you might be overbearing , jealous , and untrusting .
To help ease your mind , ask your partner if you can do a weekly check-in with one another .
Use the time to talk about any concerns you may have in the relationship .
Take the time to listen to your partner and ask them to do the same @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , not for reassurance If you feel yourself slipping into the habit of asking your partner for the fifth time today if they still love you , take a pause .
Ask yourself why it is you ’ re about to ask your question .
Is it to understand your partner ’ s feelings more or are you seeking reassurance ?
Your weekly check-ins will hopefully make you feel more secure in the relationship , but try not to overwhelm your partner by endlessly asking for validation .
If it ’ s something @ @ @ @ @ @ @ them about your anxieties or consider seeing a therapist to work through things .
3 .
Take a mental note of when your anxieties are proven wrong Whenever my partner shows up in our relationship in a way that surprises me , I take a mental note .
I use this non-physical checklist to remind myself of how committed my boyfriend is , especially when my anxieties are becoming too much to handle .
I suggest doing the same in your relationship .
Whenever you ’ re worried something bad will happen and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for the next time your anxieties overwhelm you .
4 .
Don ’ t assume you can read your partner ’ s mind Instead , ask questions for clarification .
If you are wondering what your partner is thinking about a disagreement you had or the fact that they seem upset , talk to them .
Assuming that you can read their mind will lead to you getting upset for no reason .
Plus , your partner probably won ’ t respond well if you accuse them of feeling a way they don @ @ @ @ @ @ @ relieving a worried mind ; simply ask them what ’ s up .
5 .
Focus on the positives of your attachment style Becoming a happier version of yourself will , in turn , make you a better partner .
I know that most of the information about an anxious attachment style focuses on the negatives , but there are positives too .
Anxiously attached people tend to be more empathic , loyal , and loving with their partners .
You are most likely willing to work with your partner to solve any @ @ @ @ @ @ @ let love in is most likely very high .
6 .
Do things that help alleviate your anxiety in general Again , making yourself happy will help you show up as a better partner .
If you don ’ t have an arsenal of tools that help you with your anxiety in general , it ’ s time to think of some .
For a lot of people , self-care acts like taking a bath or painting their nails works well .
For me , I ’ m more of a take-a-walk kind @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in the morning when I ’ ve had a particularly anxious week .
I also love to draw , read , and go for a swim .
Whatever it is that makes you happy or helps you get out some pent up energy , make sure to do them regularly .
These tools and activities will help you feel more like yourself and in control of your feelings , which in turn will help your relationship .
I don ’ t believe in the narrative that there is something wrong with you if @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Rather , it causes you more distress than , say , a securely attached person might feel .
And if you aren ’ t aware of things , it might cause problems for you in an otherwise great relationship .
So rather than thinking you ’ re broken , use these tips to help you and your partner experience a happier relationship .

Your attachment style is formed when you’re a child. The bond your parents make with you, or lack of one, determines how you experience love in your adult life.
My parents weren’t negligent, but anxiety has always run in my family. I remember my mother always being worried and easily upset, something I can’t look past was most likely passed down to my brother and me.
I have an anxious attachment style when it comes to love—always have. In fact, knowing this information and reflecting on my past relationships, my actions make a lot of sense.
But coming to this realization about myself wasn’t an easy one. It took a lot of deep reflection and reading about attachment theory.
Through this work, I pinpointed what parts of my anxious attachment are detrimental to my relationship. Sometimes it looks like pushing my partner away; other times it manifests in the form of me intentionally being mean as a way to manipulate my partner’s feelings.
I don’t plan to rid myself of my anxious attachment style. I try to be aware of it and work on relieving my anxieties for my own sake, but it’s more so managing who I am rather than trying to overhaul my personality. I know there’s nothing wrong with me or anyone who has an anxious attachment style.
But I do want to be a great partner. I want to grow with my boyfriend and not succumb to the notion “this is simply who I am.”
And perhaps what has worked for me will also work for you.
1. Have a weekly check-in time with your partner
A lot of anxieties people have in a relationship come from worrying their partner will leave them. To make sure that doesn’t happen, you might be overbearing, jealous, and untrusting.
To help ease your mind, ask your partner if you can do a weekly check-in with one another. Use the time to talk about any concerns you may have in the relationship. Take the time to listen to your partner and ask them to do the same.
2. Ask questions to understand, not for reassurance
If you feel yourself slipping into the habit of asking your partner for the fifth time today if they still love you, take a pause. Ask yourself why it is you’re about to ask your question. Is it to understand your partner’s feelings more or are you seeking reassurance?
Your weekly check-ins will hopefully make you feel more secure in the relationship, but try not to overwhelm your partner by endlessly asking for validation. If it’s something you really struggle with, talk to them about your anxieties or consider seeing a therapist to work through things.
3. Take a mental note of when your anxieties are proven wrong
Whenever my partner shows up in our relationship in a way that surprises me, I take a mental note. I use this non-physical checklist to remind myself of how committed my boyfriend is, especially when my anxieties are becoming too much to handle.
I suggest doing the same in your relationship. Whenever you’re worried something bad will happen and the opposite occurs, save that memory for the next time your anxieties overwhelm you.
4. Don’t assume you can read your partner’s mind
Instead, ask questions for clarification. If you are wondering what your partner is thinking about a disagreement you had or the fact that they seem upset, talk to them.
Assuming that you can read their mind will lead to you getting upset for no reason. Plus, your partner probably won’t respond well if you accuse them of feeling a way they don’t. Communication is key when relieving a worried mind; simply ask them what’s up.
5. Focus on the positives of your attachment style
Becoming a happier version of yourself will, in turn, make you a better partner. I know that most of the information about an anxious attachment style focuses on the negatives, but there are positives too.
Anxiously attached people tend to be more empathic, loyal, and loving with their partners. You are most likely willing to work with your partner to solve any problems that arise. Your capacity to let love in is most likely very high.
6. Do things that help alleviate your anxiety in general
Again, making yourself happy will help you show up as a better partner. If you don’t have an arsenal of tools that help you with your anxiety in general, it’s time to think of some.
For a lot of people, self-care acts like taking a bath or painting their nails works well. For me, I’m more of a take-a-walk kind of person. I take a stroll in the morning when I’ve had a particularly anxious week. I also love to draw, read, and go for a swim.
Whatever it is that makes you happy or helps you get out some pent up energy, make sure to do them regularly. These tools and activities will help you feel more like yourself and in control of your feelings, which in turn will help your relationship.
I don’t believe in the narrative that there is something wrong with you if you have an anxious attachment style. Rather, it causes you more distress than, say, a securely attached person might feel.
And if you aren’t aware of things, it might cause problems for you in an otherwise great relationship. So rather than thinking you’re broken, use these tips to help you and your partner experience a happier relationship.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-16--What Namaste Means: The Origin of Namaste and How it’s Used in Yoga

Namaste is a word that most people have heard from their yoga teacher .
They might even know the pose associated with the phrase .
However , they probably don ’ t understand the true meaning of namaste or the deep religious significance that it holds in India and other parts of the world .
Although the term has grown in popularity in western parts of the world , Namaste has a much deeper meaning than most people realize .
What Does it Mean ?
Namaste is a Sanskrit phrase .
It combines the word namaḥ , which means to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ which means to you .
When put together , the official namaste definition is ( he/she ) bows to you .
In the western part of the world , the word namaste is commonly spoken aloud while a person is bowing .
In yoga , this is typically done at the beginning and end of class as a salutation and a goodbye .
However , in Indian culture , a slight bow signifies namaste .
Saying the word is completely unnecessary in India because it speaks for itself .
Namaste is used as @ @ @ @ @ @ @ gesture is the Nepalese way of saying hello and goodbye in more formal situations , like when someone is speaking to an elder or a stranger they don ’ t know very well .
Of course , they aren ’ t the only ones who use the gesture .
It is a popular greeting across the Indian subcontinent and in parts of Asia .
However , the term is most commonly associated with Hinduism and yoga .
In fact , some people believe using namaste is a form of cultural appropriation of Hindu @ @ @ @ @ @ @ meaning of the word has lost its context and is consistently used in an incorrect , disrespectful way .
Since it has such a strong spiritual meaning , it ’ s important to view the word with reverence .
Remember , people who practice Hinduism believe god is everywhere — in rocks , in trees , and in animals .
When they say namaste , they are really saying , “ The god in me bows to the god in you.
” It could also mean , “ The divine light in me @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Nameste is meant to teach about morals , values , and beliefs .
It is not meant to be thrown around by people who don ’ t understand its true meaning .
The namaste gesture symbolizes one soul acknowledging the other .
It is meant to bring peace to the mind and body .
It can be used as a meditation technique and is a common yoga practice .
The namaste posture involves standing on a yoga mat and bringing the hands together near the heart chakra , which is where the divine @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Simply close the eyes and bow the head while practicing this pose .
However , there is another way to perform this yoga pose .
It can begin with folded hands pressed together in front of the third eye , which is located on the forehead .
Then slowly bring the hands down to the heart while bowing the head .
It doesn ’ t matter which version of the pose is used because the meaning behind it is the same .
As long as one hand is pressed flush against another @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a type of prayer pose .
Although this is commonly referred to as a namaste posture or pose , the Sanskrit word for this gesture is Anjali Mudra .
Overall , in yoga class , the namaste greeting is a symbol of gratitude and respect between the yoga instructor and their students .
It creates a union of spirits .
It unblocks the heart chakra and creates a feeling of peace .
It allows the yoga teacher and their students to spiritually connect through their energies .

Namaste is a word that most people have heard from their yoga teacher. They might even know the pose associated with the phrase. However, they probably don’t understand the true meaning of namaste or the deep religious significance that it holds in India and other parts of the world. Although the term has grown in popularity in western parts of the world, Namaste has a much deeper meaning than most people realize.
What Does it Mean?
Namaste is a Sanskrit phrase. It combines the word namaḥ, which means to bow or bend, with -te, which means to you. When put together, the official namaste definition is (he/she) bows to you.
In the western part of the world, the word namaste is commonly spoken aloud while a person is bowing. In yoga, this is typically done at the beginning and end of class as a salutation and a goodbye. However, in Indian culture, a slight bow signifies namaste. Saying the word is completely unnecessary in India because it speaks for itself.
Namaste Origin
Namaste is used as a greeting around the world. The gesture is the Nepalese way of saying hello and goodbye in more formal situations, like when someone is speaking to an elder or a stranger they don’t know very well. Of course, they aren’t the only ones who use the gesture. It is a popular greeting across the Indian subcontinent and in parts of Asia. However, the term is most commonly associated with Hinduism and yoga.
In fact, some people believe using namaste is a form of cultural appropriation of Hindu culture. They worry that the true meaning of the word has lost its context and is consistently used in an incorrect, disrespectful way. Since it has such a strong spiritual meaning, it’s important to view the word with reverence.
Remember, people who practice Hinduism believe god is everywhere — in rocks, in trees, and in animals. When they say namaste, they are really saying, “The god in me bows to the god in you.” It could also mean, “The divine light in me honors the divine light in you.” Nameste is meant to teach about morals, values, and beliefs. It is not meant to be thrown around by people who don’t understand its true meaning.
Using Namaste in Yoga
The namaste gesture symbolizes one soul acknowledging the other. It is meant to bring peace to the mind and body. It can be used as a meditation technique and is a common yoga practice.
The namaste posture involves standing on a yoga mat and bringing the hands together near the heart chakra, which is where the divine spark within each human being is located. Simply close the eyes and bow the head while practicing this pose.
However, there is another way to perform this yoga pose. It can begin with folded hands pressed together in front of the third eye, which is located on the forehead. Then slowly bring the hands down to the heart while bowing the head.
It doesn’t matter which version of the pose is used because the meaning behind it is the same. As long as one hand is pressed flush against another in a prayer position, it is a type of prayer pose. Although this is commonly referred to as a namaste posture or pose, the Sanskrit word for this gesture is Anjali Mudra.
Overall, in yoga class, the namaste greeting is a symbol of gratitude and respect between the yoga instructor and their students. It creates a union of spirits. It unblocks the heart chakra and creates a feeling of peace. It allows the yoga teacher and their students to spiritually connect through their energies.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-16--6 Gentle Reminders When Your Ex Wants To Stay Friends

1 .
You should put your mental health in front of your friendship .
Unfortunately , most exes are unable to remain friends .
There is too much history .
Too much drama .
Too much unresolved heartache .
You don ’ t want to force yourself to take the high road and remain friends with an ex when it ’ s secretly killing you inside .
If you ’ re struggling to talk to this person without bursting into tears , then let them know a friendship is off the table .
2 .
You don ’ t owe @ @ @ @ @ @ @ broken up now .
You don ’ t owe your ex anything .
Not your time and not your attention .
Although you might feel mean for cutting them out of your life , remember , you aren ’ t obligated to stay friends with them .
You don ’ t have to text them back .
You don ’ t have to agree to hang out with them .
You don ’ t have to put yourself through the pain of pretending to be friends when you know it ’ s never @ @ @ @ @ @ @ aren ’ t a bitch for walking away from them .
Saying goodbye to an ex doesn ’ t make you a bad person .
It doesn ’ t make you selfish .
It doesn ’ t make you cruel .
It ’ s hard to maintain a friendship with someone when you used to date .
It ’ s hard to switch from loving this person to being platonic with this person .
If you can not stand the change in your dynamic , it ’ s okay for you to walk @ @ @ @ @ @ @ needs some time to heal .
If they don ’ t understand where you ’ re coming from , then they ’ re the selfish one .
4 .
What happens today doesn ’ t have to last forever .
If it breaks your heart to leave this person behind , even though you know it ’ s what ’ s best for you , remind yourself things don ’ t have to remain this way forever .
Maybe you can reunite in the future , but for now , you need your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a time .
Today , spending too much time with them would be bad for you , but maybe tomorrow things will change .
Maybe you will end up friends after all .
5 .
You deserve happiness .
You don ’ t deserve to feel miserable every single day because it hurts to see the person who broke your heart .
You don ’ t deserve to be weighed down with jealousy as you watch them develop a relationship with someone new .
You deserve to move on from this person .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ them .
6 .
Sometimes , out of sight really does mean out of mind .
You ’ d be surprised how helpful it is to delete your ex from social media — or at least mute them so they don ’ t randomly pop up on your feed and ruin your day .
It ’ s much easier to get over someone when you aren ’ t constantly reminded of them .
Although it might feel wrong to delete your ex from your life , you have to remember that you have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ comfortable .
Do whatever helps you heal .
If your ex really values you as a friend , then they ’ ll understand .
They ’ ll want you to be okay without them .

1. You should put your mental health in front of your friendship. Unfortunately, most exes are unable to remain friends. There is too much history. Too much drama. Too much unresolved heartache. You don’t want to force yourself to take the high road and remain friends with an ex when it’s secretly killing you inside. If you’re struggling to talk to this person without bursting into tears, then let them know a friendship is off the table.
2. You don’t owe your ex anything. You’re broken up now. You don’t owe your ex anything. Not your time and not your attention. Although you might feel mean for cutting them out of your life, remember, you aren’t obligated to stay friends with them. You don’t have to text them back. You don’t have to agree to hang out with them. You don’t have to put yourself through the pain of pretending to be friends when you know it’s never going to work.
3. You aren’t a bitch for walking away from them. Saying goodbye to an ex doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t make you selfish. It doesn’t make you cruel. It’s hard to maintain a friendship with someone when you used to date. It’s hard to switch from loving this person to being platonic with this person. If you cannot stand the change in your dynamic, it’s okay for you to walk away. Let them know your heart needs some time to heal. If they don’t understand where you’re coming from, then they’re the selfish one.
4. What happens today doesn’t have to last forever. If it breaks your heart to leave this person behind, even though you know it’s what’s best for you, remind yourself things don’t have to remain this way forever. Maybe you can reunite in the future, but for now, you need your space. Take things one day at a time. Today, spending too much time with them would be bad for you, but maybe tomorrow things will change. Maybe you will end up friends after all.
5. You deserve happiness. You don’t deserve to feel miserable every single day because it hurts to see the person who broke your heart. You don’t deserve to be weighed down with jealousy as you watch them develop a relationship with someone new. You deserve to move on from this person. And you deserve to discover happiness without them.
6. Sometimes, out of sight really does mean out of mind. You’d be surprised how helpful it is to delete your ex from social media — or at least mute them so they don’t randomly pop up on your feed and ruin your day. It’s much easier to get over someone when you aren’t constantly reminded of them. Although it might feel wrong to delete your ex from your life, you have to remember that you have to do whatever makes you the most comfortable. Do whatever helps you heal. If your ex really values you as a friend, then they’ll understand. They’ll want you to be okay without them.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-16--What Each Zodiac Sign Couldn’t Care Less About When It Comes To Dating

They don ’ t care about whether you make a lot of money as long as you ’ re passionate about the work you ’ re doing .
They don ’ t care about whether you get married or not , as long as you keep treating each other right .
They don ’ t care about your insecurities , as long as you ’ re trying to love yourself more .
They don ’ t care about whether you have friends of the opposite sex , as long as you stay faithful to them .
They don ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ romantic , as long as you pay enough attention to them .
They don ’ t care about your past , as long as you treat them well in the present and future .
They don ’ t care about your baggage , as long as you have a sense of humor about it .
They don ’ t care about whether you buy them expensive gifts , as long as you still put thought into special days .
They don ’ t care about whether you say I love you often , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your actions .
They don ’ t care about your bad habits , as long as you ’ re trying your best to change them .
They don ’ t care about whether you ’ re fit , as long as you practice self-care and take care of yourself .
They don ’ t care about your past relationships , as long as they ’ re the only person on your mind .

Aries
They don’t care about whether you make a lot of money as long as you’re passionate about the work you’re doing.
Taurus
They don’t care about whether you get married or not, as long as you keep treating each other right.
Gemini
They don’t care about your insecurities, as long as you’re trying to love yourself more.
Cancer
They don’t care about whether you have friends of the opposite sex, as long as you stay faithful to them.
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Leo
They don’t care about whether you’re a romantic, as long as you pay enough attention to them.
Virgo
They don’t care about your past, as long as you treat them well in the present and future.
Libra
They don’t care about your baggage, as long as you have a sense of humor about it.
Scorpio
They don’t care about whether you buy them expensive gifts, as long as you still put thought into special days.
Sagittarius
They don’t care about whether you say I love you often, as long as you show them through your actions.
Capricorn
They don’t care about your bad habits, as long as you’re trying your best to change them.
Aquarius
They don’t care about whether you’re fit, as long as you practice self-care and take care of yourself.
Pisces
They don’t care about your past relationships, as long as they’re the only person on your mind.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-15--What Eact Zodiac Sign Can Expect From September’s New Moon In Virgo

The New Moon in Virgo on September 17th will inspire us to be patient , grounded , and driven .
We need the slow down of the Earth planets , and although this is not favorable for Mars , Saturn , Pluto , and Jupiter will be a lot more receptive .
We can push ourselves with this transit to become better , to focus more on ourselves , to focus on others and just generally improve .
We will be guided to be more organized and prepare for the unexpected .
This Virgo New Moon will help us create @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for us , taking us into 2021 .
We will not have the dreamy sense of the Full Moon in Pisces , but we will have the energy needed to feel motivated and to charge on with a practical mindset and much needed focus .
A focus on yourself will be essential during this transit , especially to the Aries who have been neglecting any sleep or relaxation periods .
If you have felt burned by Saturn and/or Mars , this is your opportunity to recharge , get settled , and then get @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when Saturn goes direct .
The New Moon wants you to feel at your best and to tap into those energy levels you have not been able to reach since early June .
Take things easier now because the road ahead will be more challenging .
All of this beneficial Earth sign energy can only mean that this period will be a time where you get focused and ready for what Saturn has to bring to you .
There can be joy and inspiration during this New Moon for you , but you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ easily without putting in the effort .
Luckily , this transit has a favorable trine to Saturn , getting you motivated as well as your creative juices flowing .
Set your intentions for what you would like to expect in the next six-month period , because right now , you have the vision needed and all you have to do is put things into action .
The focus for you this transit will be on what you accomplish in the long run as you become more motivated to plan for your future .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ you in your home as you settle in your own energy or will feel the need to reconnect with family .
Expect some nostalgic moments , but also you will set your sight on greater things for the next several months .
You could feel lost now , with pressures relating to your esteem as well to the material .
A more optimistic approach might be taken during this transit , getting you motivated to achieve even when you might feel the Saturn block .
Expect to be highly inspired and to rekindle @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
This can ease the tensions or blocks you might have felt with others .
The New Moon in Virgo makes you more willing to listen and you will not have any problems vocalizing your stance on things .
You will have your eyes set on greater things after this transit , motivating you to push yourself to new limits that will help you expand .
You are prepared to put a focus on more practical goals with this transit .
Here you are learning to be more mature and patient when it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ an eye-opening transit for you as it fills in those gaps with issues you thought you might have resolved but still need to work on .
Trust yourself and your abilities when it comes to expanding on the material .
You are working hard with Saturn in Capricorn and becoming more knowledgeable with Mars in Aries .
The New Moon will help you use what you are learning to cultivate into more fruitful things for the long run .
A transit that will be extremely memorable to you with all the trines to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ You are going to feel exceptional this period with insights and knowledge that will help you move forward .
As an Earth sign , you will benefit from this energy , since it will have you going slower but doing things the right way , with less mistakes and more time for improvement .
You will set your goals high here as you begin a new journey that will push you to your next stage .
You are preparing for your season to enter in less than a week ’ s time .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ and prepares you for the future .
A lot of your energy might be on how to improve yourself , so if you have felt exhausted or drained , this would be the perfect time to recharge those batteries .
Expect a very calming effect and an inspiration to renovate and make some improvements at home with this positive trine to Saturn in Capricorn .
With this New Moon energy , you might experience a sense of support and boost in morale from those around you .
With clearer eyes on the prize @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you might feel confident enough to tackle challenges in your day-to-day or work routines .
The New Moon will push you to plan more accordingly—be more prepared and to excel beyond other people ’ s expectations .
You are unstoppable now and you might see how people gravitate towards you a little more now .
Power and control comes to mind with this transit .
The New Moon in Virgo has you seeking your place in the world and will have you fighting for some recognition .
You are in the zone now @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the year , seeing your hard work paying off .
The stresses you might feel from the Saturn transit will dissipate and you will no longer feel held back from fear .
Express yourself and do not be afraid to dream during this New Moon .
You have settled into this energy so far during this Virgo Season , and this New Moon will luckily be somewhat favorable to you , even if you still battle with the harsh Mars transit .
This New Moon you will be more willing to embark on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ guides you .
Prioritize what needs to get done and consider where you would like your goals to align for the future .
Mars is pushing you , but with Saturn , it will feel you are not advancing .
This transit adds a little drive and luck to you , since it will feel as if not all is lost .
Your hard work will soon pay off .
With the New Moon in Virgo , you are in a position to take on more challenges and find solutions to things that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is a time to ask yourself about the things you value and what you can do to maintain or increase your stability moving forward .
You will be diving in deep this transit as you continue to find a sense of clarity through the fog .
The grounding you seek and need will be provided to you for this period .
This New Moon in your sister sign is ready to take you on to the next level of your 2020 journey .
It ’ s a reflective period to get to know @ @ @ @ @ @ @ aspirations for the future .
The power dynamics you have with others will be changing as you feel more grounded and settled with yourself .
The trine this moon has with Saturn is perfect for getting things done , being more ambitious , and seeing optimism in the harshest of times through hard work and effort .

The New Moon in Virgo on September 17th will inspire us to be patient, grounded, and driven. We need the slow down of the Earth planets, and although this is not favorable for Mars, Saturn, Pluto, and Jupiter will be a lot more receptive. We can push ourselves with this transit to become better, to focus more on ourselves, to focus on others and just generally improve. We will be guided to be more organized and prepare for the unexpected. This Virgo New Moon will help us create a new chapter that will be meaningful for us, taking us into 2021. We will not have the dreamy sense of the Full Moon in Pisces, but we will have the energy needed to feel motivated and to charge on with a practical mindset and much needed focus.
Aries
A focus on yourself will be essential during this transit, especially to the Aries who have been neglecting any sleep or relaxation periods. If you have felt burned by Saturn and/or Mars, this is your opportunity to recharge, get settled, and then get ready to power through until the 29th when Saturn goes direct. The New Moon wants you to feel at your best and to tap into those energy levels you have not been able to reach since early June. Take things easier now because the road ahead will be more challenging.
Taurus
All of this beneficial Earth sign energy can only mean that this period will be a time where you get focused and ready for what Saturn has to bring to you. There can be joy and inspiration during this New Moon for you, but you are well aware that nothing will come easily without putting in the effort. Luckily, this transit has a favorable trine to Saturn, getting you motivated as well as your creative juices flowing. Set your intentions for what you would like to expect in the next six-month period, because right now, you have the vision needed and all you have to do is put things into action.
Gemini
The focus for you this transit will be on what you accomplish in the long run as you become more motivated to plan for your future. This New Moon will bring comfort to you in your home as you settle in your own energy or will feel the need to reconnect with family. Expect some nostalgic moments, but also you will set your sight on greater things for the next several months. You could feel lost now, with pressures relating to your esteem as well to the material. A more optimistic approach might be taken during this transit, getting you motivated to achieve even when you might feel the Saturn block.
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Cancer
Expect to be highly inspired and to rekindle with your creative energy during this transit. This can ease the tensions or blocks you might have felt with others. The New Moon in Virgo makes you more willing to listen and you will not have any problems vocalizing your stance on things. You will have your eyes set on greater things after this transit, motivating you to push yourself to new limits that will help you expand.
Leo
You are prepared to put a focus on more practical goals with this transit. Here you are learning to be more mature and patient when it comes to yourself. This will be an eye-opening transit for you as it fills in those gaps with issues you thought you might have resolved but still need to work on. Trust yourself and your abilities when it comes to expanding on the material. You are working hard with Saturn in Capricorn and becoming more knowledgeable with Mars in Aries. The New Moon will help you use what you are learning to cultivate into more fruitful things for the long run.
Virgo
A transit that will be extremely memorable to you with all the trines to the Capricorn planets in transit now. You are going to feel exceptional this period with insights and knowledge that will help you move forward. As an Earth sign, you will benefit from this energy, since it will have you going slower but doing things the right way, with less mistakes and more time for improvement. You will set your goals high here as you begin a new journey that will push you to your next stage.
Libra
You are preparing for your season to enter in less than a week’s time. This New Moon transit highlights the past and prepares you for the future. A lot of your energy might be on how to improve yourself, so if you have felt exhausted or drained, this would be the perfect time to recharge those batteries. Expect a very calming effect and an inspiration to renovate and make some improvements at home with this positive trine to Saturn in Capricorn.
Scorpio
With this New Moon energy, you might experience a sense of support and boost in morale from those around you. With clearer eyes on the prize since Venus is transiting your sign, you might feel confident enough to tackle challenges in your day-to-day or work routines. The New Moon will push you to plan more accordingly—be more prepared and to excel beyond other people’s expectations. You are unstoppable now and you might see how people gravitate towards you a little more now.
Sagittarius
Power and control comes to mind with this transit. The New Moon in Virgo has you seeking your place in the world and will have you fighting for some recognition. You are in the zone now, working hard until the end of the year, seeing your hard work paying off. The stresses you might feel from the Saturn transit will dissipate and you will no longer feel held back from fear. Express yourself and do not be afraid to dream during this New Moon.
Capricorn
You have settled into this energy so far during this Virgo Season, and this New Moon will luckily be somewhat favorable to you, even if you still battle with the harsh Mars transit. This New Moon you will be more willing to embark on a new adventure that both empowers and guides you. Prioritize what needs to get done and consider where you would like your goals to align for the future. Mars is pushing you, but with Saturn, it will feel you are not advancing. This transit adds a little drive and luck to you, since it will feel as if not all is lost. Your hard work will soon pay off.
Aquarius
With the New Moon in Virgo, you are in a position to take on more challenges and find solutions to things that have been holding you back. This is a time to ask yourself about the things you value and what you can do to maintain or increase your stability moving forward. You will be diving in deep this transit as you continue to find a sense of clarity through the fog. The grounding you seek and need will be provided to you for this period.
Pisces
This New Moon in your sister sign is ready to take you on to the next level of your 2020 journey. It’s a reflective period to get to know yourself better, as well as your aspirations for the future. The power dynamics you have with others will be changing as you feel more grounded and settled with yourself. The trine this moon has with Saturn is perfect for getting things done, being more ambitious, and seeing optimism in the harshest of times through hard work and effort.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-15--How Smudging Works: Smudging Prayers, Burning Sage, Benefits, and Kits

Smudging is a sacred , ancient practice that should be respected .
It has roots in Native American tradition .
Dried sage , especially white sage , was used by indigenous people for decades .
Shamans would burn sage in order to cleanse others of negativity while also promoting wisdom , healing , and longevity .
However , over time , smudging has become a part of the New Age , commercial practices .
Smudging is a cleansing ritual that involves the burning of sage .
This can also be referred to as saging and promotes physical , emotional , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bad energy .
Sage itself is an herb that comes from the salvia plant family .
This is fitting since salvere means to heal in Latin .
In order to perform a smudging ritual and turn the house into a sacred space , sage is needed along with an abalone shell or some other form of a vessel to hold the sage .
A long match or a candle is also needed in order to light the sage .
Then a feather or fan can spread the sacred smoke released from the burning @ @ @ @ @ @ @ or a window in order to release the medicinal smoke .
Then come up with a mantra or a prayer about what needs to be purified in the space .
This should be repeated over and over throughout the ritual .
When it is time to actually burn the sage , hold it at a forty-five-degree angle .
Light the tip and let it burn for at least twenty seconds .
Then blow out the flame .
Orange embers will appear and the smoke will billow up into the air .
Now , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ smoke around the space .
Pay special attention to corners , hallways , and doorways .
Mirrors and electronics , such as phones and laptops , should be saged as well .
However , make sure the smoke is guided toward open windows for an easy escape .
When finished smudging , press the tip of the sage into some dirt , sand , or a fireproof bowl until the smoke disappears .
Be careful not to get it wet .
Although a smudge stick can be used again , water will make @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
How to Smudge the Body Sage smudging the body is similar to sage smudging a home or a workspace .
The main difference is that the focus will be more concentrated .
Get into position , standing with legs spread , forming a T. Then start the smoke cleansing down by the feet and repeat the chosen mantra while slowly working up the body .
The areas that need the most attention during smudging differs based on the individual .
Make sure to spend more time on the areas that are used @ @ @ @ @ @ @ instance , a public speaker should sage near the throat , while a manual worker should sage near the hands .
Keep in mind , no matter where the sage is being used on the body , keep it an arm ’ s distance away while working in order to avoid an accident .
A smudging ceremony is a spiritual act , which is why intentions are an important part of the process .
A person can come up with their own mantra , or they can borrow one they have heard in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ matter whether the words are spoken aloud or repeated internally as long as there is a strong connection to the mantra .
Here are a few examples of what to say when smudging a house : “ Into this smoke , I release all energies that no longer serve me , all negativity that surrounds me , and all fears that limit me.
” “ I am surrounded by love and light.
” “ All negative , stagnant , dense , or low vibrational energy is cleansed and restored to its most organic @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is that it will dispel negative ions , which cause unwanted energy .
Sage will dispel the negativity caused by past traumas and bad experiences , creating a living space or a workspace filled with more positive energy .
Sage also has antimicrobial and antibacterial qualities .
This means it can improve mood , concentration , and sleep quality .
In addition to fighting off insomnia and negativity , it can also work as an insect repellent and fight against bugs .
There isn ’ t a specific amount of times a person @ @ @ @ @ @ @ rewards .
They should simply perform a cleansing whenever they feel weighed down by stress , toxicity , and negative energy .
It ’ s important to avoid inhaling smoke when smudging .
Although it is generally safe to breathe in , directly inhaling it can cause the lungs to dry out and irritate the mucosa .
For those who are sensitive to smoke , cleansing smudge mist is a great alternative that doesn ’ t involve any sage smoke .
This can also be helpful when smoke isn ’ t allowed in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ cleansed , such as an office building .
Smudging can also become a safety hazard when done improperly .
When saging the body , it ’ s important to pull back the hair and avoid wearing loose clothing .
If embers drop onto the ground , they should be stamped out immediately .
When the sage is done being used , make sure it is properly extinguished before leaving the room .
Sage kits are available in metaphysical shops or websites across the internet .
These kits contain bundles of a single herb @ @ @ @ @ @ @ herbs .
The most commonly included herbs are white sage , which has a woodsy scent , and desert sage , which is peppery with a warm herbaceous aroma .
A more expensive smudge bundle or sage bundle might even include a smudge bowl .
A word of warning : Be careful when purchasing a smudging kit or even a sage stick because the popularity of sage has led to a lot of providers overharvesting the sacred plant .
Out of respect to the indigenous culture — and for the sake of Mother @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that has been collected sustainably .
Another dried herb — such as juniper , rosemary , sweetgrass , cedar , or Palo Santo — can also be used as smudging herbs instead of sage .
Essential oils are another alternative that can be used for space clearing and dispelling bad energy .

Smudging is a sacred, ancient practice that should be respected. It has roots in Native American tradition. Dried sage, especially white sage, was used by indigenous people for decades. Shamans would burn sage in order to cleanse others of negativity while also promoting wisdom, healing, and longevity. However, over time, smudging has become a part of the New Age, commercial practices.
Smudging is a cleansing ritual that involves the burning of sage. This can also be referred to as saging and promotes physical, emotional, and mental well-being by getting rid of bad energy. Sage itself is an herb that comes from the salvia plant family. This is fitting since salvere means to heal in Latin.
How to Smudge a House
In order to perform a smudging ritual and turn the house into a sacred space, sage is needed along with an abalone shell or some other form of a vessel to hold the sage. A long match or a candle is also needed in order to light the sage. Then a feather or fan can spread the sacred smoke released from the burning herb.
Start by opening a door or a window in order to release the medicinal smoke. Then come up with a mantra or a prayer about what needs to be purified in the space. This should be repeated over and over throughout the ritual.
When it is time to actually burn the sage, hold it at a forty-five-degree angle. Light the tip and let it burn for at least twenty seconds. Then blow out the flame. Orange embers will appear and the smoke will billow up into the air.
Now, walk around the room to spread the smoke around the space. Pay special attention to corners, hallways, and doorways. Mirrors and electronics, such as phones and laptops, should be saged as well. However, make sure the smoke is guided toward open windows for an easy escape.
When finished smudging, press the tip of the sage into some dirt, sand, or a fireproof bowl until the smoke disappears. Be careful not to get it wet. Although a smudge stick can be used again, water will make it harder to light the next time.
How to Smudge the Body
Sage smudging the body is similar to sage smudging a home or a workspace. The main difference is that the focus will be more concentrated. Get into position, standing with legs spread, forming a T. Then start the smoke cleansing down by the feet and repeat the chosen mantra while slowly working up the body.
The areas that need the most attention during smudging differs based on the individual. Make sure to spend more time on the areas that are used the most throughout the day. For instance, a public speaker should sage near the throat, while a manual worker should sage near the hands.
Keep in mind, no matter where the sage is being used on the body, keep it an arm’s distance away while working in order to avoid an accident.
Smudging Prayers
A smudging ceremony is a spiritual act, which is why intentions are an important part of the process. A person can come up with their own mantra, or they can borrow one they have heard in the past. It doesn’t matter whether the words are spoken aloud or repeated internally as long as there is a strong connection to the mantra.
Here are a few examples of what to say when smudging a house:
“Into this smoke, I release all energies that no longer serve me, all negativity that surrounds me, and all fears that limit me.”
“I am surrounded by love and light.”
“Air, fire, water, earth. Cleanse, dismiss, dispel.”
“All negative, stagnant, dense, or low vibrational energy is cleansed and restored to its most organic state.”
Benefits of Smudging
The biggest benefit of smudging is that it will dispel negative ions, which cause unwanted energy. Sage will dispel the negativity caused by past traumas and bad experiences, creating a living space or a workspace filled with more positive energy.
Sage also has antimicrobial and antibacterial qualities. This means it can improve mood, concentration, and sleep quality. In addition to fighting off insomnia and negativity, it can also work as an insect repellent and fight against bugs.
There isn’t a specific amount of times a person should sage in order to reap the rewards. They should simply perform a cleansing whenever they feel weighed down by stress, toxicity, and negative energy.
Negative Effects of Smudging
It’s important to avoid inhaling smoke when smudging. Although it is generally safe to breathe in, directly inhaling it can cause the lungs to dry out and irritate the mucosa. For those who are sensitive to smoke, cleansing smudge mist is a great alternative that doesn’t involve any sage smoke. This can also be helpful when smoke isn’t allowed in a certain area that needs to be cleansed, such as an office building.
Smudging can also become a safety hazard when done improperly. When saging the body, it’s important to pull back the hair and avoid wearing loose clothing. If embers drop onto the ground, they should be stamped out immediately. When the sage is done being used, make sure it is properly extinguished before leaving the room.
Best Smudging Kits
Sage kits are available in metaphysical shops or websites across the internet. These kits contain bundles of a single herb or a combination of several different sacred herbs. The most commonly included herbs are white sage, which has a woodsy scent, and desert sage, which is peppery with a warm herbaceous aroma. A more expensive smudge bundle or sage bundle might even include a smudge bowl.
A word of warning: Be careful when purchasing a smudging kit or even a sage stick because the popularity of sage has led to a lot of providers overharvesting the sacred plant. Out of respect to the indigenous culture — and for the sake of Mother Earth — make sure to purchase sage that has been collected sustainably.
Another dried herb — such as juniper, rosemary, sweetgrass, cedar, or Palo Santo — can also be used as smudging herbs instead of sage. Essential oils are another alternative that can be used for space clearing and dispelling bad energy.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-15--Even As My Life Returns To Normal, I Feel So Achingly Alone

It was April when I came to realize I missed sitting in class .
Even if my teachers were painfully boring and it was an ungodly hour in the morning .
I missed people , I guess .
I missed the people I didn ’ t even know , the ones who gave me small smiles or nods as a basic acknowledge of my existence .
It ’ s foolish to say this now , but I honestly took it all for granted .
September has come around again and I ’ m back sitting in class .
We ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feet apart ) , but I have never felt lonelier in my life .
Funny—I used to think April was the peak of my loneliness .
It wasn ’ t .
The peak is now , and the gut-wrenching sobs that come out of me as I sit alone in my parked car at night .
The mind-bending numbness of loneliness hits when you least expect it .
It ’ s in your car , the simple rides to the store that drive you mad .
It ’ s with friends , when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ what bonded you together in the first place .
It ’ s the walks to class and the faceless people you pass , masks covering the friendly smiles you so desperately need .
It ’ s when you recognize how much easier it is to be alone .
Not having to make small talk , fake interest in the lives of those around me , or explain the delusion you live in where everything is completely normal .
It ’ s the realization that you are not as important as you once believed @ @ @ @ @ @ @ so many nights drowning in the isolation of my bedroom .
I forget the last time I was challenged to go out and experience life .
I miss the freedom of having options and things to look forward to when the weekend comes around .
I miss the feeling I used to have when surrounded by friends .
Whether it ’ s my own doing that ’ s caused the bridge between us to collapse or it dissipated on its own , I don ’ t know how to repair it .
Because @ @ @ @ @ @ @ who swear they love me , I feel so achingly alone .
I miss my parents .
I know I shouldn ’ t—I spent almost six months trying to get away from them , desperate to be on my own again .
But now I can ’ t help but wish I was in the arms of my mother , crying on a shoulder that I know will be there for me .
I think the idea of returning to a place that made me feel so complete would fix everything .
I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the person I once was again .
I guess too many things have changed , and the person I once was has diminished into a girl who seeks solitude .
I feel irrelevant in my own skin .
I wake up in the morning hoping for something to change .
Yet I find myself in the same position every single day—staring at the ceiling , wishing for a time machine .
Whether I want to go backwards or forwards , I am not totally sure .
Just as long as it ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Stuck in a time loop within days that feel exactly the same .
2020 gave me two short months of calm before the storm .
I only wish now that I could ’ ve received a warning before the rug was ripped out beneath me .
I mourn the girl who reveled in good company and endless opportunities .
She was good and pure , with the world within her palms .

It was April when I came to realize I missed sitting in class. Even if my teachers were painfully boring and it was an ungodly hour in the morning. I missed people, I guess. I missed the people I didn’t even know, the ones who gave me small smiles or nods as a basic acknowledge of my existence. It’s foolish to say this now, but I honestly took it all for granted.
September has come around again and I’m back sitting in class. We’re together in-person again (even six feet apart), but I have never felt lonelier in my life. Funny—I used to think April was the peak of my loneliness. It wasn’t. The peak is now, and the gut-wrenching sobs that come out of me as I sit alone in my parked car at night.
The mind-bending numbness of loneliness hits when you least expect it. It’s in your car, the simple rides to the store that drive you mad. It’s with friends, when so much time has passed you forget what bonded you together in the first place. It’s the walks to class and the faceless people you pass, masks covering the friendly smiles you so desperately need.
It’s when you recognize how much easier it is to be alone. Not having to make small talk, fake interest in the lives of those around me, or explain the delusion you live in where everything is completely normal. It’s the realization that you are not as important as you once believed you were.
I’ve spent so many nights drowning in the isolation of my bedroom. I forget the last time I was challenged to go out and experience life. I miss the freedom of having options and things to look forward to when the weekend comes around. I miss the feeling I used to have when surrounded by friends. Whether it’s my own doing that’s caused the bridge between us to collapse or it dissipated on its own, I don’t know how to repair it.
Because even as I am surrounded by those who swear they love me, I feel so achingly alone.
I miss my parents. I know I shouldn’t—I spent almost six months trying to get away from them, desperate to be on my own again. But now I can’t help but wish I was in the arms of my mother, crying on a shoulder that I know will be there for me.
I think the idea of returning to a place that made me feel so complete would fix everything. I would reconcile with friends and fall into the person I once was again. I guess too many things have changed, and the person I once was has diminished into a girl who seeks solitude.
I feel irrelevant in my own skin. I wake up in the morning hoping for something to change. Yet I find myself in the same position every single day—staring at the ceiling, wishing for a time machine.
Whether I want to go backwards or forwards, I am not totally sure. Just as long as it’s somewhere that isn’t here. Stuck in a time loop within days that feel exactly the same.
2020 gave me two short months of calm before the storm. I only wish now that I could’ve received a warning before the rug was ripped out beneath me. I mourn the girl who reveled in good company and endless opportunities. She was good and pure, with the world within her palms.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-18--The Best Horror To Binge This Weekend (9/18)

Here ’ s the best of what ’ s streaming this weekend : Netflix dropped two big originals this week that horror fans are going to want to check out .
The Devil All the Time — A star studded cast ( Tom Holland , Bill Skarsgård , Riley Keough , Jason Clarke , Sebastian Stan , Robert Pattinson ) play an ensemble of morbid characters in postwar America .
It ’ s a psychological thriller so I won ’ t give too much of the plot away , but it ’ s def worth checking out this weekend .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ Murphy ( creator of American Horror Story ) origin story to One Flew the Cuckoo ’ s Nest is here .
Sarah Paulson stars as Nurse Ratched herself , working at a psychiatric asylum that is doing controversial experiments on patients .
I ’ m hoping this series is full of creepy American Horror Story : Asylum vibes .
Don ’ t Breathe — This is an awesome horror movie for anyone who missed it .
It ’ s super suspenseful and dirty and scary .
The mean ass man in this film @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the dark and pay attention , you will get sucked in to the feeling of dread .
Antebellum — If the movies included in your subscriptions just aren ’ t doing it for you , break up the quarantine monopoly with a new release .
How long has it been since you ’ ve seen a new release ?
You ’ ll have to pay for this movie as it ’ s just been released via Amazon , but if you ’ ve got someone you ’ ve been quarantining with to watch @ @ @ @ @ @ @ same price as a pair of movie tickets .
If you ’ re quarantining alone , treat yo self .
— Someone found a head wrapped in tinfoil washed up on a beach on Lake Michigan .
— A study shows horror fans have been more resilient during the pandemic .
— We made a list of our favorite high school horror movies .
— Put this creepy playlist on at work today and make all your work horror-themed .
Check back for more recommendations based on what ’ s streaming next week @ @ @ @

Hey Creepy Catalogers,
Here’s the best of what’s streaming this weekend:
Best of Netflix:
Netflix dropped two big originals this week that horror fans are going to want to check out.
The Devil All the Time — A star studded cast (Tom Holland, Bill Skarsgård, Riley Keough, Jason Clarke, Sebastian Stan, Robert Pattinson) play an ensemble of morbid characters in postwar America. It’s a psychological thriller so I won’t give too much of the plot away, but it’s def worth checking out this weekend.
Ratched — Season 1 of this Ryan Murphy (creator of American Horror Story) origin story to One Flew the Cuckoo’s Nest is here. Sarah Paulson stars as Nurse Ratched herself, working at a psychiatric asylum that is doing controversial experiments on patients. I’m hoping this series is full of creepy American Horror Story: Asylum vibes.
Best of Hulu:
Don’t Breathe — This is an awesome horror movie for anyone who missed it. It’s super suspenseful and dirty and scary. The mean ass man in this film will give you nightmares. Watch in the dark and pay attention, you will get sucked in to the feeling of dread.
Best of Prime:
Antebellum — If the movies included in your subscriptions just aren’t doing it for you, break up the quarantine monopoly with a new release. How long has it been since you’ve seen a new release? You’ll have to pay for this movie as it’s just been released via Amazon, but if you’ve got someone you’ve been quarantining with to watch with you, it’s the same price as a pair of movie tickets. If you’re quarantining alone, treat yo self.
This week’s Horror Happenings:
— Someone found a head wrapped in tinfoil washed up on a beach on Lake Michigan.
— A study shows horror fans have been more resilient during the pandemic.
— We made a list of our favorite high school horror movies.
— “My sister found a man living in her basement”
— Put this creepy playlist on at work today and make all your work horror-themed.
Check back for more recommendations based on what’s streaming next week. Stay Spooky!


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-22--The Reality Of Being A Bisexual Woman In A Straight-Presenting Relationship

In a survey I read online , I found out that over half of all bisexual people all over the world end up dating and settling down with a heterosexual person of the opposite gender to themselves .
Now , there ’ s a lot of possible reasons behind this , it could be as simple as there simply being more straight people to choose from .
However , there ’ s a large number of people out there who think this is because bisexuality doesn ’ t even exist – that it ’ s just some middle phase before @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that you ’ re gay .
I ’ ve heard the same argument a thousand and one times and I still have to grit my teeth at the erasure around bisexual folk , especially those in straight-presenting relationships .
Being bisexual , I always thought it didn ’ t really matter who I dated .
I didn ’ t even know there was a word for it until my late teens , I just knew that gender felt somewhat irrelevant .
I didn ’ t care if they were male , female , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ as there was a connection – but it seems that many people still feel the need for a bisexual person to somehow ‘ prove ’ their sexuality by playing the part or that somehow their sexuality is invalidated .
My last few relationships have been with straight men – they ’ re just the people I clicked with at the time .
So if someone meets me for the first time and assumes I ’ m straight , that really doesn ’ t bother me because I ’ m aware that it presents @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me if I ’ m straight again – that ’ s when I get annoying .
And when I say no , I ’ m not – this brings a whole stream of questions like “ So are you dating a girl too ?
” and “ But then why are you dating a man ?
” People definitely seem to assume that once I ’ ve committed myself to a person , I ’ ve committed myself to a whole new sexuality and identity to go along with it .
I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ open with my partner about who I am , but dating straight men can sometimes bring its own set of problems to the table .
Even from the beginning , just trying to tell the person you ’ re dating that your sexuality is different from what they may think can be a terrifying thing to do even now .
Most men will just assume you ’ re straight because you ’ re involved with them .
It ’ s hard , because sometimes telling people something about yourself can change everything and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ about you .
There ’ s the classic male-centered takes like “ Oh great , can we bring a girl home , then ?
” – which , don ’ t get me wrong , I ’ m not opposed to , but that ’ s not exactly a first date conversation for most people .
Or it can swing the totally other way and they point blank tell me to pick a side because they ’ re not comfortable with the idea of their girlfriend potentially being into another girl .
My @ @ @ @ @ @ @ : If I was interested in someone else , regardless of their gender , I wouldn ’ t be here with you .
Just because I have the capability of being attracted to someone who isn ’ t the opposite gender to me doesn ’ t mean I am .
Some of these people , not just guys , even feel the need to ask if they ’ ve “ turned you ” yet , like bedding a bisexual girl is some type of contest .
But the truth is , it doesn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ or sweet you are , you won ’ t change a girl ’ s sexuality by forcing it onto her .
Even if I were to marry a man , that wouldn ’ t mean that I ’ ve finally chosen a side — I ’ d still be the same person as I ’ ve always been , I would just have found a person to love .
Another huge problem is the distrust it can bring onto you .
Most guys get a bit put out when their girlfriend is spending @ @ @ @ @ @ @ but when you ’ re bisexual , an insecure person sees everybody as a potential threat .
I have beautiful friends , both male and female , and I have no interest in sleeping with any of them .
And while that ’ s more a trust issue than a problem with dating straight men , it definitely makes the problem even bigger .
While dating a straight guy has it ’ s problems , it ’ s also amazing .
I don ’ t wish I could date a woman too , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I ’ m happy in my relationship .
I don ’ t need to validate myself or question if my sexuality has changed because of the person I ’ m with .
I know who I am no matter what everyone else thinks .
Besides , we can sit and drool over beautiful women together , and I don ’ t think there is a better bonding activity than that .

In a survey I read online, I found out that over half of all bisexual people all over the world end up dating and settling down with a heterosexual person of the opposite gender to themselves. Now, there’s a lot of possible reasons behind this, it could be as simple as there simply being more straight people to choose from. However, there’s a large number of people out there who think this is because bisexuality doesn’t even exist – that it’s just some middle phase before going back to heteronormativity or finally accepting that you’re gay. I’ve heard the same argument a thousand and one times and I still have to grit my teeth at the erasure around bisexual folk, especially those in straight-presenting relationships.
Being bisexual, I always thought it didn’t really matter who I dated. I didn’t even know there was a word for it until my late teens, I just knew that gender felt somewhat irrelevant. I didn’t care if they were male, female, or neither of the two as long as there was a connection – but it seems that many people still feel the need for a bisexual person to somehow ‘prove’ their sexuality by playing the part or that somehow their sexuality is invalidated.
My last few relationships have been with straight men – they’re just the people I clicked with at the time. So if someone meets me for the first time and assumes I’m straight, that really doesn’t bother me because I’m aware that it presents that way.
But when someone asks me if I’m straight again – that’s when I get annoying. And when I say no, I’m not – this brings a whole stream of questions like “So are you dating a girl too?” and “But then why are you dating a man?” People definitely seem to assume that once I’ve committed myself to a person, I’ve committed myself to a whole new sexuality and identity to go along with it.
I’m lucky enough that I can be open with my partner about who I am, but dating straight men can sometimes bring its own set of problems to the table. Even from the beginning, just trying to tell the person you’re dating that your sexuality is different from what they may think can be a terrifying thing to do even now. Most men will just assume you’re straight because you’re involved with them. It’s hard, because sometimes telling people something about yourself can change everything and make people have some pretty horrible assumptions about you.
There’s the classic male-centered takes like “Oh great, can we bring a girl home, then?” – which, don’t get me wrong, I’m not opposed to, but that’s not exactly a first date conversation for most people. Or it can swing the totally other way and they point blank tell me to pick a side because they’re not comfortable with the idea of their girlfriend potentially being into another girl.
My answer to this is always the same: If I was interested in someone else, regardless of their gender, I wouldn’t be here with you. Just because I have the capability of being attracted to someone who isn’t the opposite gender to me doesn’t mean I am. Some of these people, not just guys, even feel the need to ask if they’ve “turned you” yet, like bedding a bisexual girl is some type of contest. But the truth is, it doesn’t matter how loving or sexy or sweet you are, you won’t change a girl’s sexuality by forcing it onto her. Even if I were to marry a man, that wouldn’t mean that I’ve finally chosen a side — I’d still be the same person as I’ve always been, I would just have found a person to love.
Another huge problem is the distrust it can bring onto you. Most guys get a bit put out when their girlfriend is spending time with her own guy mates, but when you’re bisexual, an insecure person sees everybody as a potential threat. I have beautiful friends, both male and female, and I have no interest in sleeping with any of them. And while that’s more a trust issue than a problem with dating straight men, it definitely makes the problem even bigger.
While dating a straight guy has it’s problems, it’s also amazing. I don’t wish I could date a woman too, or be with one instead, because I’m happy in my relationship. I don’t need to validate myself or question if my sexuality has changed because of the person I’m with. I know who I am no matter what everyone else thinks.
Besides, we can sit and drool over beautiful women together, and I don’t think there is a better bonding activity than that.


thoughtcatalog--2020-09-23--Here’s What Each Zodiac Sign Can Expect From 2020’s Mercury In Scorpio

Mercury enters Scorpio on September 27th , 2020 , and it will officially end on December 1st , 2020 .
This transit will have us on our toes , since it will almost be a two-month transit .
The dreaded Mercury retrograde will begin on October 13th , so this October will be one for the books .
It will make its way back into the sign of Libra on October 27th and back into Scorpio on November 10th .
In Scorpio , Mercury is the detective who wants to get to the bottom of things right away .
Because @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in the U.S ) , we are all going to see how it will manifest on a political level .
Because Scorpio is a Water Sign , we will be more in touch with our emotions during this transit .
Prepare yourselves for a good cry , a moment to revisit the past , and a time to learn to let go .
It will not be a walk in the park , but it will be a journey for changes and evaluating where we are and where we are headed .
This @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to the bottom of things .
It will be advantageous , since you are working hard , and this will allow you to get things done with impeccable detail .
You will take on a more reserved approach when it comes to getting answers , since you will be focused on excelling at work or school .
With your ruler still in retrograde , this is also the perfect time to take it easy when you are overwhelmed and use this Mercury transit to get clarity , do some research , and be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ importance of partnerships in your life .
Mercury in Scorpio will be a mirror into your relationships .
Any desires will be shown , as well as the cracks in your partnership .
This is a time to discuss topics with your partner that you might have put off .
You are embarking on a new journey with these transits , especially with Juno currently in this sign .
The results of this can bring you both closer than before .
Prepare to feel in your element with this transit .
Mercury in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ no one will be able to keep up with you .
Although these Saturn transits have been tough on you , with Mercury here , it seems like you are on your way to stability and finding a sense of direction you have been lacking .
Mercury sets your eyes on the future , pushes you , and motivates and fuels those dreams .
An enjoyable transit for water signs as you gear up to meet alluring people or just be more charming in the presence of others .
Although Mercury in Scorpio @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , you master this energy since you are a water sign .
The depths and mysteries in this transit will have you diving deeper into self-discovery and you might even question some relationships .
Communicating what you want in a relationship now will break you free of the chains that this Saturn transit has presented to you .
Mercury in Scorpio will push you to be more introverted now .
You will be a lot more focused on getting things done by yourself or with the minimal assistance from others .
Saturn has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ years , and you will be applying this mantra .
Taking on solo projects now will prove to be fruitful , since you have the energy and capacity to focus and are driven for more success .
This is a favorable transit for you with Mercury in Scorpio giving you the power to become the jack of all trades .
Here you will seem more exciting to people which can make this an enjoyable transit .
It will be a period of staying connected or reaching out to others and taking on new @ @ @ @ @ @ @ curious , but your words can also be sharp .
Take some time to recharge and make sure not to verbally punch others .
More of a focus on the future , as many Cardinal signs might feel the weight and the shifts in your path as we wait for the end of the year .
Mercury in Scorpio has you analyzing your resources and where to go from here .
The challenges might present themselves with things pertaining to the household or coming to a truce with a partner regarding expenses .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ will be tested , but the Sun is still in your sign , giving you the tact to power through .
You will be reclaiming your power through this transit , and all signs point to favorable things to come .
Right now , you are in your evolution stage , feeling success and much responsibility .
The work continues to pile , but you are adept enough to manage your workload .
If you are in a leadership position , this is a transit that will show others how excellent your management @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a break , because Mercury can go on overdrive without stopping .
This transit will show you the darkest parts of your psyche , but it can also provide a healing quality after it is over .
Mercury in Scorpio wants you to transform yourself by revisiting those traumatic memories and allowing you to push forward .
This will be a time where you contemplate your place in the world and your values .
After this , you will have answers and strength .
If you have been feeling like going into hermit @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you out of it and have you reconnecting with friends or people you have not spoken to in a while .
Mercury in Scorpio makes you slightly more inclined to interact .
These connections can boost your ego , help you stay focused , and continue with your road to the top .
Mercury ’ s influence on power will have you ready to pull from your slump as you wait for your ruler to go direct on the 29th .
The shifts that are occurring now are just paving the way for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Mercury in Scorpio will be a time where you contemplate your future and goals .
This can be an interesting transit , since it will allow you to feel a sense of responsibility and the weight of projects that are to come .
Here you will plan your way to the next chapter with the help of superiors and those in positions of power .
With this transit , you will be more willing to embark on interesting journeys through reading or just researching .
For those currently in school , this is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ classes and to get more interested in topics that you might consider diving deeper for the future .
There will be positive influences and mentors in your life now that can help reshape the way you think .

Mercury enters Scorpio on September 27th, 2020, and it will officially end on December 1st, 2020. This transit will have us on our toes, since it will almost be a two-month transit. The dreaded Mercury retrograde will begin on October 13th, so this October will be one for the books. It will make its way back into the sign of Libra on October 27th and back into Scorpio on November 10th. In Scorpio, Mercury is the detective who wants to get to the bottom of things right away. Because this transit will impact Election Day (in the U.S), we are all going to see how it will manifest on a political level. Because Scorpio is a Water Sign, we will be more in touch with our emotions during this transit. Prepare yourselves for a good cry, a moment to revisit the past, and a time to learn to let go. It will not be a walk in the park, but it will be a journey for changes and evaluating where we are and where we are headed.
Aries
This transit will have you wanting to get to the bottom of things. It will be advantageous, since you are working hard, and this will allow you to get things done with impeccable detail. You will take on a more reserved approach when it comes to getting answers, since you will be focused on excelling at work or school. With your ruler still in retrograde, this is also the perfect time to take it easy when you are overwhelmed and use this Mercury transit to get clarity, do some research, and be practical.
Taurus
Here you reflect on the importance of partnerships in your life. Mercury in Scorpio will be a mirror into your relationships. Any desires will be shown, as well as the cracks in your partnership. This is a time to discuss topics with your partner that you might have put off. You are embarking on a new journey with these transits, especially with Juno currently in this sign. The results of this can bring you both closer than before.
Gemini
Prepare to feel in your element with this transit. Mercury in Scorpio has you on the move and no one will be able to keep up with you. Although these Saturn transits have been tough on you, with Mercury here, it seems like you are on your way to stability and finding a sense of direction you have been lacking. Mercury sets your eyes on the future, pushes you, and motivates and fuels those dreams.
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Cancer
An enjoyable transit for water signs as you gear up to meet alluring people or just be more charming in the presence of others. Although Mercury in Scorpio is not for the faint of heart, you master this energy since you are a water sign. The depths and mysteries in this transit will have you diving deeper into self-discovery and you might even question some relationships. Communicating what you want in a relationship now will break you free of the chains that this Saturn transit has presented to you.
Leo
Mercury in Scorpio will push you to be more introverted now. You will be a lot more focused on getting things done by yourself or with the minimal assistance from others. Saturn has taught you patience in the last few years, and you will be applying this mantra. Taking on solo projects now will prove to be fruitful, since you have the energy and capacity to focus and are driven for more success.
Virgo
This is a favorable transit for you with Mercury in Scorpio giving you the power to become the jack of all trades. Here you will seem more exciting to people which can make this an enjoyable transit. It will be a period of staying connected or reaching out to others and taking on new projects and initiatives. You will be curious, but your words can also be sharp. Take some time to recharge and make sure not to verbally punch others.
Libra
More of a focus on the future, as many Cardinal signs might feel the weight and the shifts in your path as we wait for the end of the year. Mercury in Scorpio has you analyzing your resources and where to go from here. The challenges might present themselves with things pertaining to the household or coming to a truce with a partner regarding expenses. This is a transit where your patience will be tested, but the Sun is still in your sign, giving you the tact to power through.
Scorpio
You will be reclaiming your power through this transit, and all signs point to favorable things to come. Right now, you are in your evolution stage, feeling success and much responsibility. The work continues to pile, but you are adept enough to manage your workload. If you are in a leadership position, this is a transit that will show others how excellent your management skills are. Just remember to take a break, because Mercury can go on overdrive without stopping.
Sagittarius
This transit will show you the darkest parts of your psyche, but it can also provide a healing quality after it is over. Mercury in Scorpio wants you to transform yourself by revisiting those traumatic memories and allowing you to push forward. This will be a time where you contemplate your place in the world and your values. After this, you will have answers and strength.
Capricorn
If you have been feeling like going into hermit mode, this Mercury transit will pull you out of it and have you reconnecting with friends or people you have not spoken to in a while. Mercury in Scorpio makes you slightly more inclined to interact. These connections can boost your ego, help you stay focused, and continue with your road to the top. Mercury’s influence on power will have you ready to pull from your slump as you wait for your ruler to go direct on the 29th.
Aquarius
The shifts that are occurring now are just paving the way for your major transits later this year. Mercury in Scorpio will be a time where you contemplate your future and goals. This can be an interesting transit, since it will allow you to feel a sense of responsibility and the weight of projects that are to come. Here you will plan your way to the next chapter with the help of superiors and those in positions of power.
Pisces
With this transit, you will be more willing to embark on interesting journeys through reading or just researching. For those currently in school, this is an excellent time to keep up with classes and to get more interested in topics that you might consider diving deeper for the future. There will be positive influences and mentors in your life now that can help reshape the way you think.