thoughtcatalog--2020-10-13--30 Little Things To Do In Your 20s To Avoid Regrets In Your 30s

1 .
Always know that change is an option .
Many people , myself included , start down a path and think that since I committed to that path , it ’ s the only path for me .
Don ’ t get caught in that thought process .
If a choice ( career , location , relationship , etc ) doesn ’ t feel right down the road , know you can make a new one .
It may be uncomfortable at first , but you can make it through ( and likely for the better ) .
2 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ think because you can run on 3 hours of sleep that you should .
It has effects on your mind and body long-term .
3 .
Go see your favorite musical acts when they are young , together , and/or alive .
And not selling out to fuck you price arena tours .
4 .
Make sure that if you have a relationship with someone you actually nail down the long-term goals and agree on them… Like kids ?
How exactly will that work ?
Marriage ?
Find your deal breakers and take @ @ @ @ @ @ @ flies and you don ’ t want to miss it .
5 .
Drama is a success killer .
If anyone ( ANYONE !
! )
has a habit of starting drama , drop them from your life now .
No one is so important that they are worth being dragged down into that pit .
6 .
Eat twice as many vegetables as you are now .
I know you think you ’ re eating enough , but you ’ re not .
And drink some water , for hydro ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t want to get married to the person you ’ re with , tell them .
It ’ s far better to have some hurt feelings now than to have severe regrets and a lot of legal fees later .
Just listen to your gut .
8 .
Have a plan .
Doesn ’ t matter what the plan is and it doesn ’ t matter if it changes , but make a plan .
Don ’ t just go through life day-to-day aimlessly doing what feels good in the moment .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ it .
You will stumble ( some people will call it failure ) but as long as you keep moving forward , you ’ re in better shape than most .
9 .
Protect your hearing !
Wear earplugs at concerts and don ’ t always crank up the music in your car .
10 .
Seek out and/or retain social friendships .
College is over , and you probably won ’ t see a lot of those people very much anymore .
Don ’ t be afraid to look around for meetup @ @ @ @ @ @ @ meet new people .
11 .
Let ’ s add being politically active as well .
I didn ’ t start caring about politics until my mid-twenties , and I regret not having become more engaged early on .
Regardless of how you plan on voting , check out vote.org if you are an American citizen and aren ’ t registered or to check if you are too .
Might be a little late at this point in the game , but I ’ m gon na shamelessly plug it anyway .
12 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ones .
Lots of things can make us happy , but just consuming media gets old .
Being creative can be really fulfilling .
13 .
Don ’ t marry crazy regardless of how good the sex is .
14 .
Take chances .
Someone you fancy ?
Ask them out .
Want to try a new education path or hobby ?
Do it .
Have trouble with anxiety/self-worth/past crappy experiences ?
Get a good therapist and work on it .
Your 20s are the time you get to figure out who you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the way you want to , not the way your parents tell you is “ best ” , and not the way society “ expects ” you to .
Unless that actually lines up with what you want .
I spent way too much time doing what I thought were the “ right ” things or the “ best ” things and I was actually miserable .
16 .
Tell people to fuck off when they have bullshit in your way .
Mean it .
17 .
Learn about self-care : nutrition , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ enough to avoid problems later .
19 .
Learn good work ethic and develop good habits : be clean , show up on time , be rested , etc .
20 .
Take risks in your career .
Apply yourself and work hard for positions out of your league .
Be bold , be social , and network .
21 .
Date , date , DATE !
I have some friends who are in their late 20 ’ s and it ’ s a struggle to have them try to meet people .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ date , but it ’ s good to know how to work with other people who ’ ve been in relationships .
As well as recovering from a breakup seems like a good life experience prior to 30 .
22 .
Learn how to get along with people .
Emotional intelligence is a good starting point .
23 .
If you yearn for adventure , go now .
You are young , your body is strong , and your obligations are few .
Go now .
It ’ s so much easier to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 6-month hiking trip and then slide back into regular life when you ’ re 25 than when you ’ re 35 .
24 .
Stop fucking the wrong people !
!
Nothing derails your life like having the wrong people in it !
This can be said of friends too .
Don ’ t waste your time on shitty friends and definitely don ’ t fuck any of them .
25 .
Learn how to cook and eat healthy .
You ’ ll save money and your body will appreciate it .
26 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ if it ’ s just a simple Excel or Google Sheets file with one column of income , and one of expenses .
When you see everything you buy in a month next to each other , you realize where you can save money pretty well .
28 .
Exercise .
Even lightly once a week .
Just do something .
Stretch too , yoga is great .
Some won ’ t try it because of the stigma , but just do it at home with Youtube videos or something .
29 .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ medical , therapy if you need it .
Just do it .
Once a year minimum .
You could catch something serious early without even knowing you have it .
30 .
Everybody has regrets .
You can ’ t avoid them all .
However , take chances , do things , and don ’ t stagnate .

Anyone in their 20s needs to read this advice from Ask Reddit ASAP.
1. Always know that change is an option. Many people, myself included, start down a path and think that since I committed to that path, it’s the only path for me. Don’t get caught in that thought process. If a choice (career, location, relationship, etc) doesn’t feel right down the road, know you can make a new one. It may be uncomfortable at first, but you can make it through (and likely for the better).
2. Get sleep. Don’t think because you can run on 3 hours of sleep that you should. It has effects on your mind and body long-term.
3. Go see your favorite musical acts when they are young, together, and/or alive. And not selling out to fuck you price arena tours.
4. Make sure that if you have a relationship with someone you actually nail down the long-term goals and agree on them… Like kids? How exactly will that work? Marriage? Find your deal breakers and take them seriously… From 20-30 the time really flies and you don’t want to miss it.
5. Drama is a success killer. If anyone (ANYONE!!) has a habit of starting drama, drop them from your life now. No one is so important that they are worth being dragged down into that pit.
6. Eat twice as many vegetables as you are now. I know you think you’re eating enough, but you’re not. And drink some water, for hydro’s sake!
7. If you don’t want to get married to the person you’re with, tell them. It’s far better to have some hurt feelings now than to have severe regrets and a lot of legal fees later. Just listen to your gut.
8. Have a plan. Doesn’t matter what the plan is and it doesn’t matter if it changes, but make a plan. Don’t just go through life day-to-day aimlessly doing what feels good in the moment. Decide what you want and go get it. You will stumble (some people will call it failure) but as long as you keep moving forward, you’re in better shape than most.
9. Protect your hearing! Wear earplugs at concerts and don’t always crank up the music in your car.
10. Seek out and/or retain social friendships. College is over, and you probably won’t see a lot of those people very much anymore. Don’t be afraid to look around for meetup groups or events in your area to meet new people.
11. Let’s add being politically active as well. I didn’t start caring about politics until my mid-twenties, and I regret not having become more engaged early on. Regardless of how you plan on voting, check out vote.org if you are an American citizen and aren’t registered or to check if you are too. Might be a little late at this point in the game, but I’m gonna shamelessly plug it anyway.
12. Cultivate your hobbies and find new ones. Lots of things can make us happy, but just consuming media gets old. Being creative can be really fulfilling.
13. Don’t marry crazy regardless of how good the sex is.
14. Take chances. Someone you fancy? Ask them out. Want to try a new education path or hobby? Do it. Have trouble with anxiety/self-worth/past crappy experiences? Get a good therapist and work on it. Your 20s are the time you get to figure out who you are.
15. Live your life the way you want to, not the way your parents tell you is “best”, and not the way society “expects” you to. Unless that actually lines up with what you want. I spent way too much time doing what I thought were the “right” things or the “best” things and I was actually miserable.
16. Tell people to fuck off when they have bullshit in your way. Mean it.
17. Learn about self-care: nutrition, exercise, mental health. Stay fit enough to avoid problems later.
18. Don’t lend money to friends or family.
19. Learn good work ethic and develop good habits: be clean, show up on time, be rested, etc.
20. Take risks in your career. Apply yourself and work hard for positions out of your league. Be bold, be social, and network.
21. Date, date, DATE! I have some friends who are in their late 20’s and it’s a struggle to have them try to meet people. Not saying it’s pivotal to date, but it’s good to know how to work with other people who’ve been in relationships. As well as recovering from a breakup seems like a good life experience prior to 30.
22. Learn how to get along with people. Emotional intelligence is a good starting point.
23. If you yearn for adventure, go now. You are young, your body is strong, and your obligations are few. Go now. It’s so much easier to drop everything in your life for a 6-month hiking trip and then slide back into regular life when you’re 25 than when you’re 35.
24. Stop fucking the wrong people!! Nothing derails your life like having the wrong people in it! This can be said of friends too. Don’t waste your time on shitty friends and definitely don’t fuck any of them.
25. Learn how to cook and eat healthy. You’ll save money and your body will appreciate it.
26. Learn how to budget. Even if it’s just a simple Excel or Google Sheets file with one column of income, and one of expenses. When you see everything you buy in a month next to each other, you realize where you can save money pretty well.
27. Moisturize. Or you’ll crack faster.
28. Exercise. Even lightly once a week. Just do something. Stretch too, yoga is great. Some won’t try it because of the stigma, but just do it at home with Youtube videos or something.
29. Get check-ups. Dentistry, vision, medical, therapy if you need it. Just do it. Once a year minimum. You could catch something serious early without even knowing you have it.
30. Everybody has regrets. You can’t avoid them all. However, take chances, do things, and don’t stagnate.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-13--It’s Not Too Late To Change Your Life

It’s Not Too Late To Change Your Life

If you ’ re unhappy with your current situation , you ’ re allowed to remove yourself from it .
You ’ re allowed to make changes to your universe .
You ’ re allowed to do things differently than you have in the past .
You don ’ t have to continue walking down the same path you ’ ve been stuck on your entire life .
You ’ re allowed to go off route at any point in time .
You don ’ t want to stay in the wrong relationship because of your history .
Because you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to this person .
Because you ’ ve grown used to having them in your world .
The same goes for your career , your friendships , your hobbies .
You don ’ t want to continue doing something , simply because it ’ s the way you ’ ve always done things .
You don ’ t have to stick to tradition .
You can do whatever the hell you want , whatever makes you happiest .
Even though you might feel like you ’ ve already committed to a career or @ @ @ @ @ @ @ don ’ t have any obligation to stay .
If you ’ re feeling unfulfilled or unhappy or unmotivated , then you ’ re allowed to rethink things .
You ’ re allowed to change your life at any point in time .
Remember , you ’ re not going to be the same person forever .
Your thoughts and opinions and desires aren ’ t necessarily going to remain the same over the years .
You ’ re going to grow .
You ’ re going to learn more about yourself .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ that change the course of your life — and there ’ s nothing wrong with that .
There ’ s nothing wrong with changing your mind , with deciding what you thought would make you happy isn ’ t actually working out after all .
You don ’ t have to remain where you ’ re comfortable .
You don ’ t have to settle for what you already have because it would be greedy to ask for more .
You ’ re allowed to make a change , even though the thought @ @ @ @ @ @ @ taking a risk .
Even though it means you might end up with some regrets .
It ’ s always best to follow your heart , your gut , your soul .
Even though it might be stressful to make a change , even though it might mean saying goodbye to certain places and people , you ’ re going to get through this .
You ’ re going to come out stronger .
You ’ re going to be thankful you chose to do the right thing for yourself over the easy @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you really want is hard work .
It can take some time , some patience , and some deep introspection .
However , when you ’ re lucky enough to realize you ’ ve been heading in the wrong direction , you ’ re allowed to make a change .
You ’ re allowed to walk away from everything you ’ ve built to create something better .
Even though it ’ s so much easier to remain in place , to pretend everything is fine , to keep doing what you ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s never too late to change your life .
It ’ s never too late to take action .
It ’ s never too late to do whatever you ’ ve been daydreaming about doing with your life .
You ’ re allowed to make changes whenever you want .
So make them .

If you’re unhappy with your current situation, you’re allowed to remove yourself from it. You’re allowed to make changes to your universe. You’re allowed to do things differently than you have in the past.
You don’t have to continue walking down the same path you’ve been stuck on your entire life. You’re allowed to go off route at any point in time.
You don’t want to stay in the wrong relationship because of your history. Because you’ve already dedicated so much time to this person. Because you’ve grown used to having them in your world.
The same goes for your career, your friendships, your hobbies. You don’t want to continue doing something, simply because it’s the way you’ve always done things. You don’t have to stick to tradition. You can do whatever the hell you want, whatever makes you happiest.
Even though you might feel like you’ve already committed to a career or a home or a person — you don’t have any obligation to stay. If you’re feeling unfulfilled or unhappy or unmotivated, then you’re allowed to rethink things. You’re allowed to change your life at any point in time.
Remember, you’re not going to be the same person forever. Your thoughts and opinions and desires aren’t necessarily going to remain the same over the years. You’re going to grow. You’re going to learn more about yourself. You’re going to have realizations that change the course of your life — and there’s nothing wrong with that.
There’s nothing wrong with changing your mind, with deciding what you thought would make you happy isn’t actually working out after all.
You don’t have to remain where you’re comfortable. You don’t have to settle for what you already have because it would be greedy to ask for more. You’re allowed to make a change, even though the thought is scary. Even though it means taking a risk. Even though it means you might end up with some regrets.
It’s always best to follow your heart, your gut, your soul. Even though it might be stressful to make a change, even though it might mean saying goodbye to certain places and people, you’re going to get through this. You’re going to come out stronger. You’re going to be thankful you chose to do the right thing for yourself over the easy thing.
Remember, figuring out what you really want is hard work. It can take some time, some patience, and some deep introspection. However, when you’re lucky enough to realize you’ve been heading in the wrong direction, you’re allowed to make a change. You’re allowed to walk away from everything you’ve built to create something better.
Even though it’s so much easier to remain in place, to pretend everything is fine, to keep doing what you’ve always been doing, it’s never too late to change your life. It’s never too late to take action. It’s never too late to do whatever you’ve been daydreaming about doing with your life.
You’re allowed to make changes whenever you want. So make them.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-15--23 True Scary Stories That Could Convince You Of The Supernatural

“ January 1 2003 – a stretch of road between 2 coastal towns in Australia It was a dark and stormy night…..no , really…it was Driving along with my partner , I noticed a car coming up behind us , travelling fast .
It was a single lane road so we couldn ’ t move over I said to my partner “ This guy is in a hurry , let him overtake you ” My partner agreed and he moved left as soon as there was an overtaking lane The car pulled up beside us and then disappeared .
There @ @ @ @ @ @ @ sat in silence for a few minutes and I said “ Did you see that ?
” He said “ Yep . '
” — VerityPushpram “ When I was around 17 , I got out of bed to go get my dog out of his kennel and feed him .
As I passed one of the cabinets , a voice whispered in my ear “ wake up.
” I could feel the breath and everything and literally just froze for a few seconds , and ran upstairs telling myself “ what the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with me to this day .
I ’ d rather have heard absolutely ANYTHING else because “ wake up ” just messes with you.
” — Swagmeister420_69 “ My remote once jumped off the TV by itself ( the oldschool box type of television ) when I was watching with my girlfriend .
Didn ’ t fall or slide off ; we actually saw it take a leap as if somebody threw it .
We both just sat there being really confused before even questioning it out loud.
” — Vindepin “ I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to a distant corner of our heavily wooded back yard and dug a hole to get out , which was odd because he wasn ’ t a digger .
He was stuck on the other side of the chain link fence because the hole was at a steep angle and he couldn ’ t squeeze back through .
I lifted the fence up enough for him to get back through .
The next day I got home and the yard was eerily quiet .
He ’ d usually run up to greet me @ @ @ @ @ @ @ walked straight to the corner where I found him waiting on the other side of the fence and let him in.
” — ThatPancreatitisGuy “ When I was between the ages of 4-6 , I used to see a little blond boy through this mirrored armoire in my parents bedroom .
The armoire was big and wooden , but had mirrored accents and mirrors running all the way around the base .
If I laid on the carpet in front of it and looked into the mirrors on the bottom , sometimes I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in a red sweater in the corner of the room , far away and a little distorted but still very clear .
He would sit with his back to me , looking out the windows to the backyard .
I don ’ t remember ever seeing his face .
I don ’ t think I saw him many times but I do remember his image very clearly .
In my little kid mind I thought I invented this super neat mirror trick by myself , so I tried to get my parents to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and my mom especially would get super mad at me for asking .
I stopped seeing the boy when I stopped playing in their bedroom as much and knew mirrors shouldn ’ t work like that .
When I got older I chalked it up to my overactive kid brain .
Didn ’ t think much of it tbh .
Years and YEARS later , when I was an adult and long after my parents had sold that house , my mom asked me about the armoire out of the blue then told @ @ @ @ @ @ @ little boy too .
Not in the mirrors but sometimes just out the corners of her eyes ( like she ’ d be cooking and catch a glimpse of blond hair pass by her hips , at a kid ’ s height ) and occasionally in dreams .
It didn ’ t happen too often but just enough to deeply freak them out .
So when I mentioned seeing the same little boy , my mom was just terrified herself .
There were other strange stuff in that house but this was 100 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ — 10487518386 “ One night , I must have been about 5 or 6 , I woke up in the middle of the night and felt uneasy .
I was never a good sleeper and would call for my mom if I felt sick , so that ’ s what I did .
I called for her and then noticed someone in the corner , in a white night gown and holding what looked like a mug .
I genuinely thought it was my mother and asked , “ mom , what are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ The figure did not move .
I asked it again and when I had no response , I just went straight back to bed .
You ’ d think such a thing would scare a little kid , but I felt a sense of peace about it all .
Then years later , I must have been about 19 years old , I saw a psychic ( I know , I know , cold readers are a thing ) .
I remembered that night , but thought it was just sleepy imaginative kid @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the events of the night back to me : you woke up in the middle of the night , someone dressed in white was in your room in the corner , you thought it was your mother and tried to speak to it , then peacefully went back to sleep .
DAFAQ ?
!
She then said , it was your grandmother , the one who you are named after ( yup ) and she was there to let you know she ’ s looking after you.
” — Icolyclast “ When I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s brother ) passed unexpectedly .
Weeks later , I had a dream about him and he told me to quit smoking cigarettes .
( It was way more involved but it ’ s been 20+ years so I don ’ t remember the rest . )
A month or so later , I mentioned the dream to my parents and my dad started crying , got up and walked away .
Apparently he ’ d dreamed of talking to his brother too , and he ’ d told my dad that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to me.
” — itsnotboringenough “ I worked for an online retailer warehouse for a few months .
There were two depressing windows that obviously were the bare minimum required for zoning that I probably walked by a thousand times a day .
Outside youd see a concrete retaining wall , and some trucks .
Obviously after a while I ’ d barely see out of my periphery , wall trucks , trucks wall .
Until one day I saw trucks and then in the second window , pigs .
It was only @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bunch of massive pigs in fenced in areas , with a rolling hills beyond .
Of course , when I looked back , no pigs .
For the next few weeks I stared out the windows when I went past , always seeing nothing but that wall .
Ot was only when I got lazy and stopped paying attention that it happened again .
Pigs , hill , then look back and gone .
Apparently the land used to be a farm , never found out if it was a pig farm .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ a flash of the past and not the ghosts of bacon.
” — SmuckersBunny “ I used to do pest control .
Went to a customers business for the first time .
As I walked in the office I noticed some pictures that were Supposed to be hanging on the wall were on the ground and then saw some papers which looked like they had been thrown and scattered off a desk .
I picked everything up so I could apply treatment to the floor Boards and surrounding rooms .
I then went @ @ @ @ @ @ @ office , I simply knocked on the door as a courtesy as I always do before entering any restroom , there was no reply for nobody was in there so I went and applied treatment to the restroom and I closed the door behind me .
As I walked away from the door I KNOW I HEARD somebody grab the door handle , twist it open and open the door .
I turned around and looked to see nobody behind me but a door swinging open .
The hair on my neck instantly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ two together .
I grabbed my shit and ran down stairs .
The receptionist saw me and started laughing .
She asked me if I had met “ Their little friend upstairs ” ” — CLOS_361 “ In 2018 , My grandpa was in the hospital due to being in a very bad diabetic state , no one wanted to say it but he was close to the end of his life .
My sister and a few cousins flew out see him , and he was getting worse .
I wanted to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ due to money , and it was killing me because Him , and I were extremely close .
He ends up passing away a couple weeks later , and when my grandma called , she said he kept asking for me and my mom before he passed , and that crushed me .
I wanted to say my finally goodbyes .
I loved that man so much , Then one night I had a extremely vivid dream , that I was at the beautiful ranch in mexico , and I walked thru the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with many cars outside , I went in and opened the door , and I was greeted by my aunt .
I have her a hug , and turned to look who was all there , and sitting right in the corner was my grandpa smiling , He stood up , and I ran to him and have him the biggest hug .
I woke up right after , and cried tears of joy/sadness .
It felt so real.
” — LordoftheMexicans “ My best friends dad , who was a second father @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a dream and told me to tell my best friend that he loved her and that he was sorry .
I woke up to my cell phone ringing to find it was my best friend absolutely hysterical telling me that he finally passed away from sclerosis .
I sobbed all day .
He was a drunk our whole lives but it still hurt.
” — Representative_Rest2 “ My husband and I were travelling through New South Wales , Australia and stayed at a lovely motel .
In the morning we went down to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ had already left so we were almost alone .
Suddenly a glass flew across an empty table and landed on the floor .
I was facing that direction and fully saw it as if it was pushed across the table .
I looked behind me at the only other couple and they were wide eyed and confused .
Apparently the motel has a permanent resident that likes attention !
” — freegranny4444 “ I saw my deceased ex husband in my kitchen .
I was watching tv in my living room ( in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ kept hearing this sound , like someone was jiggling their change around .
And it was loud , as if it were in the room with me .
I paused my t.v .
yet the sound persisted .
So I start to look around the room and when I got to the kitchen , I saw him standing there .
He was looking around , as if taking stock of my apartment .
Oh , and he was jiggling change in one hand , while flipping a quarter in between his fingers with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a lot when he was alive .
He turned his head and saw me frozen , staring at him .
The expression on his face was knew I would never forget .
His eyes got HUGE and he kind of tilted his head forward , with the expression like , “ You can SEE me ?
?
!
!
” I don ’ t how long we stared at each for , but I turned away when I started to hear my cat ripping up the fucking carpet again in the other room @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ex , he was gone .
It ’ s worth noting that he had only been dead for a couple months too .
Some Romanian women I worked with told me that the dead stick around for three months before crossing over .
I don ’ t know about all that , but I know without a shadow of a doubt , what I saw that day.
” — whitneyrosenberg “ When I was about 9 years old , 1995 , in the middle of a bright summer day , I went to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Suddenly a roughly teenage-looking guy , with long brown hair , wearing a beige turtleneck and red plaid bell-bottoms , turned around the corner into the hallway to my left , then vanished from toe to head as I looked at him .
Told no one about it for years , until after my mother mentioned meeting the ( now grown ) kids who lived in the house before us , who asked her if she ’ d seen “ the bell-bottom ghost ” .
” — Dahhhkness What took you so long @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a lot .
He would constantly tell her she was beautiful and would always do embarrassing things to make her laugh .
Unfortunately she died a few months after being diagnosed with cancer .
This affected him a lot but as time went on he came to terms with it .
My grandfather lived on for another 18 years .
In his final years he developed really bad alzheimers that led him to forget that his wife had passed away and would often call for her or ask us where she went .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ she had passed away but it always made him distressed and upset so we decided to tell him “ she ’ ll be back soon ” everytime he asked where she was .
A month or so before my grand father passed away , I was at his house with my mother and we were all sitting in the living room .
My grandfather who was seated on his chair all of a sudden starts frantically asking us where my grandmother was .
We calmly explained to him that she ’ ll be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ doing some chores .
Unlike most times , he was being persistent on wanting to see her .
We explained to him again that she ’ ll be back soon but he kept getting more persistent .
He started to frantically call for her .
He screamed her name as loud as he could over and over again until out of nowhere every single door and window in the room flung open all at once .
Now we could say that it was just wind but all the doors and windows in the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ locked at all times since my grandfather would wander off or forget to lock his doors .
All the doors and windows burst open and at that same second may grandfather , who was facing the front door says “ what took you so long ?
I ’ ve been waiting for you ” with a smile .
My mother and I didn ’ t see the person my grandfather talked to but I ’ m sure that he saw his wife.
” — Tiny_pickled_joe “ The summer after I graduated high school @ @ @ @ @ @ @ help save money for college .
I had a lot of run ins with some pretty weird characters but nothing like what happened this one night .
It was a Friday night .
We deliver pizzas until 3am Friday ’ s and Saturday ’ s .
It was 2:45am and we were preparing to close when our manager said we got a call for a delivery at place almost 20mins away .
Being the desperate for money teenager I was , I offered to do the delivery .
This was before smart phones @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
I plugged in the address and off I went .
The Garmin took me deep into the backwoods of rural Texas .
I finally arrive to my destination .
The house looked like something in a horror movie .
Big wooden two story house with no lights on .
The first thing I notice about the house was that the front door was wide open .
I sat in my car for a few minutes debating on turning back and claiming no one was home .
Something just didn ’ t feel @ @ @ @ @ @ @ so I sucked it up and approached the house .
When I got to the open front door I didn ’ t enter .
Instead I knocked .
No one answered .
I knocked again as loud as I could .
No response .
I finally got the courage to say something , “ pizza delivery !
Anyone home ?
” There was a few seconds of silence until I heard a weird voice , “ upstairs !
” I walked in the house and could barely make out my surroundings because it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to the bottom of the stairs and look up into the dark abyss .
Again I said , “ pizza delivery.
” The voice spoke again , “ come up stairs .
I can ’ t get out of bed.
” Something was very off about this voice .
It didn ’ t sound normal .
The best I can describe it is if a dog somehow learned to talk but still had trouble pronouncing human words .
The hairs stood up on my neck .
There was no fucking way I was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t worth it .
I placed the pizza at the bottom of the stairs and shouted , “ I ’ m leaving it here at the bottom of the stairs .
Have a good night.
” As I turned away the voice said , “ No !
Come up stairs !
I can ’ t get out of bed !
” I replied , “ I ’ m sorry I ’ m not even allowed to enter someone ’ s home on the job .
You ’ ll have to come get @ @ @ @ @ @ @ from up stairs with the voice shouting at full volume , “ COME UP STAIRS !
I CANT COME OUT OF BED !
” The voice shouted this over and over again like it was a recording on a loop .
The banging got louder and louder as the voice got louder .
I noped the fuck out of there at full speed .
To this day I have no idea what the fuck happened in that house.
” — AskMeAboutMyTie “ I met a girl a long time ago .
Like , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hung out off and on , nothing significant really , just as friends , and told stories about our lives and other stupid shit .
After awhile , she told me a story about a house she used to live in , in a neighboring city .
She told me about how she ’ d experience the same thing—the same “ haunting ” —every few nights .
Her bedroom was upstairs , and the kitchen , dining room , a bathroom , and another bedroom were in the basement .
Easiest way to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s how everyone came inside anyway .
No one used the actual front door upstairs .
Anyway .
In the middle of the night , she ’ d hear someone enter through the garage and go into the kitchen ( they were basically attached ) .
The faucet would turn on and a bowl or something would crash in the sink .
The water would stop .
The footsteps would continue through the dining room and to the staircase .
It was a mini-spiral staircase that led to the living room .
Her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the footsteps would stop halfway up .
It was only about ten steps before the top but she said they ’ d always stop at the same point .
When she told me this , I panicked .
I asked her the address .
It was the same house I ’ d lived in as a kid 4 years before she did .
And I experienced the same thing .
Only I ’ d never told a single person about it .
Not my parents , my brothers , my friends—no one .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ by step , room by room .
That house was always weird , even before my own experience , but never have I had a shared haunting moment like that.
” — TommyRockbottom “ 4 years ago my fiancé died .
He and his parents were American but we were living in another country so , in less than a week we had to clean the house .
We took with us some things in the plane but everything else was shipped .
When I get to the US I realised I can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to me in our first anniversary .
I called my mum back home to check if I had left them somewhere but had no luck .
I was absolutely devastated .
Few months go by and one of his aunts had a dream with him and apparently he had said “ tell fingerhut89 I have them ” .
So , the aunt had no idea what was this about but she told me and at the time I didn ’ t really get it .
Few more months and we finally receive the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ start unpacking and found this little box where he used to put things like coins , keys and…my earrings .
I miss him so much .
I used to leave my earrings everywhere and he was always telling me “ can you please put them in one place ?
You are going to lose them ” .
” — Fingerhut89

Ghost car
“January 1 2003 – a stretch of road between 2 coastal towns in Australia
It was a dark and stormy night…..no, really…it was
Driving along with my partner, I noticed a car coming up behind us, travelling fast. It was a single lane road so we couldn’t move over
I said to my partner “This guy is in a hurry, let him overtake you” My partner agreed and he moved left as soon as there was an overtaking lane
The car pulled up beside us and then disappeared. There was nowhere it could have gone
We sat in silence for a few minutes and I said “Did you see that?” He said “Yep.'” — VerityPushpram
“Wake up”
“When I was around 17, I got out of bed to go get my dog out of his kennel and feed him. As I passed one of the cabinets, a voice whispered in my ear “wake up.” I could feel the breath and everything and literally just froze for a few seconds, and ran upstairs telling myself “what the fuck” repeatedly. It has messed with me to this day. I’d rather have heard absolutely ANYTHING else because “wake up” just messes with you.” — Swagmeister420_69
“My remote once jumped off the TV by itself (the oldschool box type of television) when I was watching with my girlfriend. Didn’t fall or slide off; we actually saw it take a leap as if somebody threw it. We both just sat there being really confused before even questioning it out loud.” — Vindepin
Premonition
“I had a dream my dog had gone to a distant corner of our heavily wooded back yard and dug a hole to get out, which was odd because he wasn’t a digger. He was stuck on the other side of the chain link fence because the hole was at a steep angle and he couldn’t squeeze back through. I lifted the fence up enough for him to get back through.
The next day I got home and the yard was eerily quiet. He’d usually run up to greet me. I thought of the dream and walked straight to the corner where I found him waiting on the other side of the fence and let him in.” — ThatPancreatitisGuy
Little blonde boy
“When I was between the ages of 4-6, I used to see a little blond boy through this mirrored armoire in my parents bedroom.
The armoire was big and wooden, but had mirrored accents and mirrors running all the way around the base. If I laid on the carpet in front of it and looked into the mirrors on the bottom, sometimes I’d see a little blond boy in a red sweater in the corner of the room, far away and a little distorted but still very clear. He would sit with his back to me, looking out the windows to the backyard. I don’t remember ever seeing his face.
I don’t think I saw him many times but I do remember his image very clearly. In my little kid mind I thought I invented this super neat mirror trick by myself, so I tried to get my parents to see it too. They always refused and my mom especially would get super mad at me for asking.
I stopped seeing the boy when I stopped playing in their bedroom as much and knew mirrors shouldn’t work like that. When I got older I chalked it up to my overactive kid brain. Didn’t think much of it tbh.
Years and YEARS later, when I was an adult and long after my parents had sold that house, my mom asked me about the armoire out of the blue then told me that she used to see the little boy too. Not in the mirrors but sometimes just out the corners of her eyes (like she’d be cooking and catch a glimpse of blond hair pass by her hips, at a kid’s height) and occasionally in dreams. It didn’t happen too often but just enough to deeply freak them out. So when I mentioned seeing the same little boy, my mom was just terrified herself.
There were other strange stuff in that house but this was 100% the most vivid I remember.” — 10487518386
Grandma
“One night, I must have been about 5 or 6, I woke up in the middle of the night and felt uneasy. I was never a good sleeper and would call for my mom if I felt sick, so that’s what I did.
I called for her and then noticed someone in the corner, in a white night gown and holding what looked like a mug. I genuinely thought it was my mother and asked, “mom, what are you doing in the corner?”
The figure did not move. I asked it again and when I had no response, I just went straight back to bed. You’d think such a thing would scare a little kid, but I felt a sense of peace about it all.
Then years later, I must have been about 19 years old, I saw a psychic (I know, I know, cold readers are a thing). I remembered that night, but thought it was just sleepy imaginative kid brain, until this psychic woman repeated the events of the night back to me: you woke up in the middle of the night, someone dressed in white was in your room in the corner, you thought it was your mother and tried to speak to it, then peacefully went back to sleep. DAFAQ?!
She then said, it was your grandmother, the one who you are named after (yup) and she was there to let you know she’s looking after you.” — Icolyclast
Message from beyond
“When I was 16, an uncle (dad’s brother) passed unexpectedly. Weeks later, I had a dream about him and he told me to quit smoking cigarettes. (It was way more involved but it’s been 20+ years so I don’t remember the rest.)
A month or so later, I mentioned the dream to my parents and my dad started crying, got up and walked away. Apparently he’d dreamed of talking to his brother too, and he’d told my dad that he (uncle) needed to talk to me.” — itsnotboringenough
The Ghosts of Bacon
“I worked for an online retailer warehouse for a few months. There were two depressing windows that obviously were the bare minimum required for zoning that I probably walked by a thousand times a day. Outside youd see a concrete retaining wall, and some trucks.
Obviously after a while I’d barely see out of my periphery, wall trucks, trucks wall. Until one day I saw trucks and then in the second window, pigs.
It was only a second but I definitely saw a bunch of massive pigs in fenced in areas, with a rolling hills beyond. Of course, when I looked back, no pigs.
For the next few weeks I stared out the windows when I went past, always seeing nothing but that wall. Ot was only when I got lazy and stopped paying attention that it happened again. Pigs, hill, then look back and gone.
Apparently the land used to be a farm, never found out if it was a pig farm. I like to think it’s a flash of the past and not the ghosts of bacon.” — SmuckersBunny
Little friend
“I used to do pest control. Went to a customers business for the first time. As I walked in the office I noticed some pictures that were Supposed to be hanging on the wall were on the ground and then saw some papers which looked like they had been thrown and scattered off a desk. I picked everything up so I could apply treatment to the floor Boards and surrounding rooms. I then went to treat The only restroom in the office, I simply knocked on the door as a courtesy as I always do before entering any restroom, there was no reply for nobody was in there so I went and applied treatment to the restroom and I closed the door behind me. As I walked away from the door I KNOW I HEARD somebody grab the door handle, twist it open and open the door. I turned around and looked to see nobody behind me but a door swinging open. The hair on my neck instantly stood up and I put two in two together.
I grabbed my shit and ran down stairs. The receptionist saw me and started laughing. She asked me if I had met “Their little friend upstairs”” — CLOS_361
Ghost dream
“In 2018, My grandpa was in the hospital due to being in a very bad diabetic state, no one wanted to say it but he was close to the end of his life. My sister and a few cousins flew out see him, and he was getting worse. I wanted to go , but I couldn’t due to money, and it was killing me because Him, and I were extremely close. He ends up passing away a couple weeks later , and when my grandma called , she said he kept asking for me and my mom before he passed , and that crushed me. I wanted to say my finally goodbyes. I loved that man so much, Then one night I had a extremely vivid dream , that I was at the beautiful ranch in mexico, and I walked thru the gates , and saw this long house with many cars outside, I went in and opened the door , and I was greeted by my aunt. I have her a hug , and turned to look who was all there , and sitting right in the corner was my grandpa smiling, He stood up , and I ran to him and have him the biggest hug. I woke up right after , and cried tears of joy/sadness . It felt so real.” — LordoftheMexicans
Phantom phone call
“My best friends dad, who was a second father to me, came to me in a dream and told me to tell my best friend that he loved her and that he was sorry. I woke up to my cell phone ringing to find it was my best friend absolutely hysterical telling me that he finally passed away from sclerosis. I sobbed all day. He was a drunk our whole lives but it still hurt.” — Representative_Rest2
Permanent resident
“My husband and I were travelling through New South Wales, Australia and stayed at a lovely motel. In the morning we went down to breakfast and most of the other people had already left so we were almost alone. Suddenly a glass flew across an empty table and landed on the floor. I was facing that direction and fully saw it as if it was pushed across the table. I looked behind me at the only other couple and they were wide eyed and confused. Apparently the motel has a permanent resident that likes attention!” — freegranny4444
Kitchen encounter
“I saw my deceased ex husband in my kitchen.
I was watching tv in my living room (in the middle of the day) and kept hearing this sound, like someone was jiggling their change around. And it was loud, as if it were in the room with me. I paused my t.v. yet the sound persisted.
So I start to look around the room and when I got to the kitchen, I saw him standing there. He was looking around, as if taking stock of my apartment. Oh, and he was jiggling change in one hand, while flipping a quarter in between his fingers with the other hand. Something he did a lot when he was alive.
He turned his head and saw me frozen, staring at him. The expression on his face was knew I would never forget. His eyes got HUGE and he kind of tilted his head forward, with the expression like, “You can SEE me??!!” I don’t how long we stared at each for, but I turned away when I started to hear my cat ripping up the fucking carpet again in the other room. When I turned back to my ex, he was gone.
It’s worth noting that he had only been dead for a couple months too. Some Romanian women I worked with told me that the dead stick around for three months before crossing over. I don’t know about all that, but I know without a shadow of a doubt, what I saw that day.” — whitneyrosenberg
Bell-bottom ghost
“When I was about 9 years old, 1995, in the middle of a bright summer day, I went to the refrigerator to get a popsicle. Suddenly a roughly teenage-looking guy, with long brown hair, wearing a beige turtleneck and red plaid bell-bottoms, turned around the corner into the hallway to my left, then vanished from toe to head as I looked at him. Told no one about it for years, until after my mother mentioned meeting the (now grown) kids who lived in the house before us, who asked her if she’d seen “the bell-bottom ghost”.” — Dahhhkness
What took you so long?
“My grandfather love my grandmother a lot. He would constantly tell her she was beautiful and would always do embarrassing things to make her laugh. Unfortunately she died a few months after being diagnosed with cancer. This affected him a lot but as time went on he came to terms with it. My grandfather lived on for another 18 years. In his final years he developed really bad alzheimers that led him to forget that his wife had passed away and would often call for her or ask us where she went. We’d explain to him that she had passed away but it always made him distressed and upset so we decided to tell him “she’ll be back soon” everytime he asked where she was.
A month or so before my grand father passed away, I was at his house with my mother and we were all sitting in the living room. My grandfather who was seated on his chair all of a sudden starts frantically asking us where my grandmother was. We calmly explained to him that she’ll be back soon and she was just out doing some chores. Unlike most times, he was being persistent on wanting to see her. We explained to him again that she’ll be back soon but he kept getting more persistent. He started to frantically call for her. He screamed her name as loud as he could over and over again until out of nowhere every single door and window in the room flung open all at once. Now we could say that it was just wind but all the doors and windows in the house had secure locks and would stay locked at all times since my grandfather would wander off or forget to lock his doors. All the doors and windows burst open and at that same second may grandfather, who was facing the front door says “what took you so long? I’ve been waiting for you” with a smile. My mother and I didn’t see the person my grandfather talked to but I’m sure that he saw his wife.” — Tiny_pickled_joe
Pizza delivery hell
“The summer after I graduated high school I got a job delivering pizza to help save money for college. I had a lot of run ins with some pretty weird characters but nothing like what happened this one night.
It was a Friday night. We deliver pizzas until 3am Friday’s and Saturday’s. It was 2:45am and we were preparing to close when our manager said we got a call for a delivery at place almost 20mins away. Being the desperate for money teenager I was, I offered to do the delivery.
This was before smart phones had gps so I used a Garmin. I plugged in the address and off I went. The Garmin took me deep into the backwoods of rural Texas.
I finally arrive to my destination. The house looked like something in a horror movie. Big wooden two story house with no lights on. The first thing I notice about the house was that the front door was wide open. I sat in my car for a few minutes debating on turning back and claiming no one was home. Something just didn’t feel right.
I needed the tip money so I sucked it up and approached the house. When I got to the open front door I didn’t enter. Instead I knocked. No one answered. I knocked again as loud as I could. No response. I finally got the courage to say something, “pizza delivery! Anyone home?” There was a few seconds of silence until I heard a weird voice, “upstairs!”
I walked in the house and could barely make out my surroundings because it was so dark. I make it to the bottom of the stairs and look up into the dark abyss. Again I said, “pizza delivery.” The voice spoke again, “come up stairs. I can’t get out of bed.” Something was very off about this voice. It didn’t sound normal. The best I can describe it is if a dog somehow learned to talk but still had trouble pronouncing human words. The hairs stood up on my neck. There was no fucking way I was going up there. The tip wasn’t worth it.
I placed the pizza at the bottom of the stairs and shouted, “I’m leaving it here at the bottom of the stairs. Have a good night.” As I turned away the voice said, “No! Come up stairs! I can’t get out of bed!” I replied, “ I’m sorry I’m not even allowed to enter someone’s home on the job. You’ll have to come get it.”
I heard some loud banging from up stairs with the voice shouting at full volume, “COME UP STAIRS! I CANT COME OUT OF BED!” The voice shouted this over and over again like it was a recording on a loop. The banging got louder and louder as the voice got louder.
I noped the fuck out of there at full speed. To this day I have no idea what the fuck happened in that house.” — AskMeAboutMyTie
A haunting
“I met a girl a long time ago. Like, close to 20 years ago. We hung out off and on, nothing significant really, just as friends, and told stories about our lives and other stupid shit.
After awhile, she told me a story about a house she used to live in, in a neighboring city.
She told me about how she’d experience the same thing—the same “haunting”—every few nights.
Her bedroom was upstairs, and the kitchen, dining room, a bathroom, and another bedroom were in the basement. Easiest way to access them was through the garage—that’s how everyone came inside anyway. No one used the actual front door upstairs.
Anyway. In the middle of the night, she’d hear someone enter through the garage and go into the kitchen (they were basically attached). The faucet would turn on and a bowl or something would crash in the sink. The water would stop.
The footsteps would continue through the dining room and to the staircase. It was a mini-spiral staircase that led to the living room. Her bedroom was attached to that.
Then the footsteps would stop halfway up.
It was only about ten steps before the top but she said they’d always stop at the same point.
When she told me this, I panicked. I asked her the address. It was the same house I’d lived in as a kid 4 years before she did.
And I experienced the same thing. Only I’d never told a single person about it. Not my parents, my brothers, my friends—no one. Yet she described it perfectly, step by step, room by room.
That house was always weird, even before my own experience, but never have I had a shared haunting moment like that.” — TommyRockbottom
Earrings
“4 years ago my fiancé died. He and his parents were American but we were living in another country so, in less than a week we had to clean the house. We took with us some things in the plane but everything else was shipped.
When I get to the US I realised I can’t find some earrings he gave to me in our first anniversary. I called my mum back home to check if I had left them somewhere but had no luck. I was absolutely devastated.
Few months go by and one of his aunts had a dream with him and apparently he had said “tell fingerhut89 I have them”. So, the aunt had no idea what was this about but she told me and at the time I didn’t really get it.
Few more months and we finally receive the cargo with all our stuff.
I start unpacking and found this little box where he used to put things like coins, keys and…my earrings.
I miss him so much. I used to leave my earrings everywhere and he was always telling me “can you please put them in one place? You are going to lose them”.” — Fingerhut89


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--Here’s What Each Zodiac Sign Can Expect From October’s New Moon In Libra

The New Moon in Libra will be on October 16th , inspiring us to create balance and harmony .
The effects of this transit will last until early next year .
Although inspirational , this won ’ t be easy , since the Moon will be in opposition to Mars and will be squaring off Saturn , Jupiter , and Pluto .
It will be a tough transit for a lot of folks , especially the Cardinal signs , as they try to reclaim some balance and momentum to power through the end of this year .
In order to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ has to be a lot of self-confidence and restraint on our end .
Saturn will continue making us question ourselves , and with this stress to the New Moon , it can pull us out of our comfort zone and make us question and doubt ourselves .
There will be a coldness in this transit , but given that it is in a Cardinal sign , we can still start something new even if it will be a challenge .
Nevertheless , this Moon can be a great period to make changes , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to our goals .
Positive thoughts and finding out inner strength can bring us gifts in the darker moments of this month .
This New Moon will feel like a blast from the past .
You might be reminiscing about people you no longer speak to or the impact of your past romantic relationships .
Although this is a new beginning , you will feel like cutting out things from the past to move on .
With Mars in your sign , you will want to focus on your rebirth , but you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wants to truly channel this energy into .
Rest up if you are burnt out so you can come out stronger than ever in November .
You will be pushed to excel with this transit .
There may be a lot of responsibilities thrown your way , which will make you feel overwhelmed .
Understand that if things are becoming unbearable , you need to take a break and analyze what is causing you stress .
The New Moon in Libra is a time for you to find balance in the chaos .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ yourself with Mars retrograde , but you have the power to push through .
Remember that slow and steady always wins , especially now .
We need lighthearted transits , and this one may be a little easier for you compared to others .
Of course , it will present some challenges as you try to appease to your friends and those who you may be interested in romantically .
Strike a balance with both parties and try to preserve the peace within them .
This can also translate into you not feeling @ @ @ @ @ @ @ side .
Find the confidence to finish some projects and to rekindle some faith in what you are capable of .
A New Moon in Libra means that a lot of your energy will be expended on yourself and your immediate environment .
You might feel the tensions in your relationships arise as you start to also feel a little forlorn .
Try not to get your spirits crushed and focus on the things that bring you happiness .
This can be a transit where you can find the comfort , beauty , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ from the world .
A New Moon in Libra for you means that this can be an illuminating period where you will learn a lot about the people around you .
This transit will have you focused on efficiency because you could feel some of those challenges reflecting themselves in school or work .
As I have mentioned in the last couple of months , this will be a time for patience .
You might become frustrated with changes happening and with the plans you have made ( if they are not going @ @ @ @ @ @ @ now until November .
With this New Moon in the works , you might look forward to the opportunities it might bring , but you might also already be aware that getting what you want will not be so easy .
Saturn and Mars are applying pressure to this New Moon , but this will not stop you .
Get ready to put the focus and self-care on you while also finding methods of improving your financial stability .
There are lots of changes on the horizon , so be ready and patient @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is a very important transit for you this month .
It will have a nostalgic feel with it opposing Mars and squaring Saturn .
It is a transformative period for you , where you regain your independence and find the fighting spirit to continue to battle through these Cardinal transits .
You have come out stronger than ever during this Saturn transit , now get to appreciate how much you have grown and matured during the last several years .
If you have been burnt out and overworked , this transit can create @ @ @ @ @ @ @ be burning you ( and everyone else ) out , so it is crucial you discover and strike a balance between work and your personal life .
There are a lot of things that you still must complete , so take it slow , because Scorpio season is closing in and you want to be refreshed and ready on your birthday .
Prepare to see changes to those social circles around you .
It can be an interesting time where you will learn and see who is there for you and who might @ @ @ @ @ @ @ impact your romantic life as well , so make sure to view potential interests without rose-colored glasses .
Although it is a period of the new stages , this will have you focused on the closing in order to make way for the new and improved .
This is another interesting transit for you that will inspire you to achieve and succeed even with the major planets causing friction and stressors to the Moon .
You will evaluate your next steps .
This is a favorable time to impress your superiors and will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Capricorns , right now you need this momentum and shift in energy because we are closing in on the final months of this Saturn transit in your sign .
You are going through many changes , especially after feeling the effects of Aquarius in your sign earlier this year .
This New Moon will make a favorable aspect to your sign , showing that there is maturity in you and a potential change to your thoughts and ideologies .
You are on a quest to discover and learn more about yourself and the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not be easy with the pressures from other signs , but you ’ ve got this .
This can be a powerful transit for you as you continue to find yourself in the maze of these Cardinal planetary influences .
For now , this New Moon puts things of importance in the spotlight .
How you manage to overcome what is holding you back will be crucial to your continued growth , especially when things shift to Scorpio season in a few weeks .
Stay confident and shine .

The New Moon in Libra will be on October 16th, inspiring us to create balance and harmony. The effects of this transit will last until early next year. Although inspirational, this won’t be easy, since the Moon will be in opposition to Mars and will be squaring off Saturn, Jupiter, and Pluto. It will be a tough transit for a lot of folks, especially the Cardinal signs, as they try to reclaim some balance and momentum to power through the end of this year. In order to be successful during this transit, there has to be a lot of self-confidence and restraint on our end. Saturn will continue making us question ourselves, and with this stress to the New Moon, it can pull us out of our comfort zone and make us question and doubt ourselves. There will be a coldness in this transit, but given that it is in a Cardinal sign, we can still start something new even if it will be a challenge. Nevertheless, this Moon can be a great period to make changes, close chapters, and make some revisions to our goals. Positive thoughts and finding out inner strength can bring us gifts in the darker moments of this month.
Aries
This New Moon will feel like a blast from the past. You might be reminiscing about people you no longer speak to or the impact of your past romantic relationships. Although this is a new beginning, you will feel like cutting out things from the past to move on. With Mars in your sign, you will want to focus on your rebirth, but you first need to prioritize your needs and wants to truly channel this energy into. Rest up if you are burnt out so you can come out stronger than ever in November.
Taurus
You will be pushed to excel with this transit. There may be a lot of responsibilities thrown your way, which will make you feel overwhelmed. Understand that if things are becoming unbearable, you need to take a break and analyze what is causing you stress. The New Moon in Libra is a time for you to find balance in the chaos. It might be tough now to assert yourself with Mars retrograde, but you have the power to push through. Remember that slow and steady always wins, especially now.
Gemini
We need lighthearted transits, and this one may be a little easier for you compared to others. Of course, it will present some challenges as you try to appease to your friends and those who you may be interested in romantically. Strike a balance with both parties and try to preserve the peace within them. This can also translate into you not feeling lost when it comes to your creative side. Find the confidence to finish some projects and to rekindle some faith in what you are capable of.
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Cancer
A New Moon in Libra means that a lot of your energy will be expended on yourself and your immediate environment. You might feel the tensions in your relationships arise as you start to also feel a little forlorn. Try not to get your spirits crushed and focus on the things that bring you happiness. This can be a transit where you can find the comfort, beauty, and peace in relaxing without the pressures from the world.
Leo
A New Moon in Libra for you means that this can be an illuminating period where you will learn a lot about the people around you. This transit will have you focused on efficiency because you could feel some of those challenges reflecting themselves in school or work. As I have mentioned in the last couple of months, this will be a time for patience. You might become frustrated with changes happening and with the plans you have made (if they are not going your way). Take things easy now until November.
Virgo
With this New Moon in the works, you might look forward to the opportunities it might bring, but you might also already be aware that getting what you want will not be so easy. Saturn and Mars are applying pressure to this New Moon, but this will not stop you. Get ready to put the focus and self-care on you while also finding methods of improving your financial stability. There are lots of changes on the horizon, so be ready and patient.
Libra
The New Moon in your sign is a very important transit for you this month. It will have a nostalgic feel with it opposing Mars and squaring Saturn. It is a transformative period for you, where you regain your independence and find the fighting spirit to continue to battle through these Cardinal transits. You have come out stronger than ever during this Saturn transit, now get to appreciate how much you have grown and matured during the last several years.
Scorpio
If you have been burnt out and overworked, this transit can create wonderful things for you. Mars might be burning you (and everyone else) out, so it is crucial you discover and strike a balance between work and your personal life. There are a lot of things that you still must complete, so take it slow, because Scorpio season is closing in and you want to be refreshed and ready on your birthday.
Sagittarius
Prepare to see changes to those social circles around you. It can be an interesting time where you will learn and see who is there for you and who might be against you. This transit will impact your romantic life as well, so make sure to view potential interests without rose-colored glasses. Although it is a period of the new stages, this will have you focused on the closing in order to make way for the new and improved.
Capricorn
This is another interesting transit for you that will inspire you to achieve and succeed even with the major planets causing friction and stressors to the Moon. You will evaluate your next steps. This is a favorable time to impress your superiors and will focus on keeping your goals alive. Capricorns, right now you need this momentum and shift in energy because we are closing in on the final months of this Saturn transit in your sign.
Aquarius
You are going through many changes, especially after feeling the effects of Aquarius in your sign earlier this year. This New Moon will make a favorable aspect to your sign, showing that there is maturity in you and a potential change to your thoughts and ideologies. You are on a quest to discover and learn more about yourself and the evolving world around you. It will not be easy with the pressures from other signs, but you’ve got this.
Pisces
This can be a powerful transit for you as you continue to find yourself in the maze of these Cardinal planetary influences. For now, this New Moon puts things of importance in the spotlight. How you manage to overcome what is holding you back will be crucial to your continued growth, especially when things shift to Scorpio season in a few weeks. Stay confident and shine.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--Why Each Zodiac Sign Has Spent Most Of 2020 Feeling Insecure

You feel insecure because you haven ’ t been as active as you normally are and it ’ s been taking a toll on your physical and mental health .
You feel insecure because you haven ’ t been practicing self-care .
You ’ ve been too exhausted to take care of yourself .
You feel insecure because you keep seeing your face on Zoom and don ’ t love what you look like ( and are worried everyone else is judging you ) .
You feel insecure because you ’ ve spent most of your time alone and haven @ @ @ @ @ @ @ encourage you , support you , and hype you up .
You feel insecure because everyone on social media looks like they ’ re handling their stress better than you are right now .
You feel insecure because you ’ ve had a lot of time to think about your life lately and have been able to pinpoint the things you regret and wish you could change .
You feel insecure because you ’ ve spent more time than usual in pajamas and sweatpants , and haven ’ t had any reason to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feel insecure because it feels like so much time has passed without you getting anything done .
You feel much less productive than usual .
You feel insecure because you haven ’ t been on a real date in a long time .
You feel insecure because you ’ ve isolated yourself .
You haven ’ t spent time with friends or family in a long time and it ’ s making you feel alone .
You feel insecure because you ’ ve been drinking more than usual lately and the alcohol has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ insecure because you ’ re going through a dry spell and miss being touched ( and even hugged ) .

Aries
You feel insecure because you haven’t been as active as you normally are and it’s been taking a toll on your physical and mental health.
Taurus
You feel insecure because you haven’t been practicing self-care. You’ve been too exhausted to take care of yourself.
Gemini
You feel insecure because you keep seeing your face on Zoom and don’t love what you look like (and are worried everyone else is judging you).
Cancer
You feel insecure because you’ve spent most of your time alone and haven’t had your friends around to encourage you, support you, and hype you up.
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Leo
You feel insecure because everyone on social media looks like they’re handling their stress better than you are right now.
Virgo
You feel insecure because you’ve had a lot of time to think about your life lately and have been able to pinpoint the things you regret and wish you could change.
Libra
You feel insecure because you’ve spent more time than usual in pajamas and sweatpants, and haven’t had any reason to dress up and feel confident.
Scorpio
You feel insecure because it feels like so much time has passed without you getting anything done. You feel much less productive than usual.
Sagittarius
You feel insecure because you haven’t been on a real date in a long time.
Capricorn
You feel insecure because you’ve isolated yourself. You haven’t spent time with friends or family in a long time and it’s making you feel alone.
Aquarius
You feel insecure because you’ve been drinking more than usual lately and the alcohol has been making you moody.
Pisces
You feel insecure because you’re going through a dry spell and miss being touched (and even hugged).


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--8 Things You Shouldn’t Have To Do To Make Them Love You

1 .
Sleep with them .
Sex isn ’ t going to convince them to date you .
Sex isn ’ t going to make them value you more .
Sex isn ’ t going to change their mind about whether they want to keep you in their world for longer or walk away .
If that is the case , then you ’ re with the wrong person who values the wrong things .
Your person should love you for your heart , mind , and soul , not only your body .
2 .
Spend money on them @ @ @ @ @ @ @ counts .
Putting effort into surprising them and making them smile should be enough for them , even if you don ’ t spend a single cent .
You shouldn ’ t have to buy them expensive gifts and dinners in order to impress them .
Money shouldn ’ t be their main priority .
3 .
Send them naked photos .
You don ’ t have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable .
If you want to send photos to someone , have fun .
But if it ’ s their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , then listen to your gut .
Don ’ t let them peer pressure you .
4 .
Change your personality or appearance .
You shouldn ’ t have to change anything about yourself in order to make them love you .
You shouldn ’ t have to dress differently or do your hair differently .
You shouldn ’ t have to lose weight or gain weight .
You shouldn ’ t have to alter your hobbies or your career goals to match theirs better .
You shouldn ’ t have to play @ @ @ @ @ @ @ self around them .
5 .
Accept poor treatment .
You shouldn ’ t accept poor treatment from them so they can wake up one morning and realize you ’ re such a good person for putting up with them .
You shouldn ’ t have to endure heartache in order to prove to them that you aren ’ t going to leave .
You shouldn ’ t be forced to play those games .
You shouldn ’ t be treated like you ’ re nothing .
6 .
Cut others out of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have to pull away from your friends and family in order to spend more time with this person .
You shouldn ’ t have to walk away from guy friends to prove you ’ re going to stay loyal , either .
You shouldn ’ t have to rearrange your friend group in a way that makes this other person feel better .
7 .
Fight for their attention .
Your person should treat you like a priority .
You shouldn ’ t feel like a backup plan .
You shouldn ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they settle for when everyone else is busy .
There should be enough room in their lives for you and their loved ones .
If it feels like you ’ re in constant competition with the other people in their life , then you probably deserve better .
You should probably leave .
8 .
Convince them you have value .
You ’ re not responsible for convincing someone you are worth their time and attention .
You shouldn ’ t have to list out your best traits , do constant favors for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ accommodate them so that they ’ ll give you a chance .
The right person will be interested from the start .
They won ’ t need you to chase them before giving you the time of day .

1. Sleep with them. Sex isn’t going to convince them to date you. Sex isn’t going to make them value you more. Sex isn’t going to change their mind about whether they want to keep you in their world for longer or walk away. If that is the case, then you’re with the wrong person who values the wrong things. Your person should love you for your heart, mind, and soul, not only your body.
2. Spend money on them. It’s the thought that counts. Putting effort into surprising them and making them smile should be enough for them, even if you don’t spend a single cent. You shouldn’t have to buy them expensive gifts and dinners in order to impress them. Money shouldn’t be their main priority.
3. Send them naked photos. You don’t have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If you want to send photos to someone, have fun. But if it’s their idea and it makes you feel strange, then listen to your gut. Don’t let them peer pressure you.
4. Change your personality or appearance. You shouldn’t have to change anything about yourself in order to make them love you. You shouldn’t have to dress differently or do your hair differently. You shouldn’t have to lose weight or gain weight. You shouldn’t have to alter your hobbies or your career goals to match theirs better. You shouldn’t have to play pretend. You should be your true self around them.
5. Accept poor treatment. You shouldn’t accept poor treatment from them so they can wake up one morning and realize you’re such a good person for putting up with them. You shouldn’t have to endure heartache in order to prove to them that you aren’t going to leave. You shouldn’t be forced to play those games. You shouldn’t be treated like you’re nothing.
6. Cut others out of your life. You shouldn’t have to pull away from your friends and family in order to spend more time with this person. You shouldn’t have to walk away from guy friends to prove you’re going to stay loyal, either. You shouldn’t have to rearrange your friend group in a way that makes this other person feel better.
7. Fight for their attention. Your person should treat you like a priority. You shouldn’t feel like a backup plan. You shouldn’t feel like the last case scenario that they settle for when everyone else is busy. There should be enough room in their lives for you and their loved ones. If it feels like you’re in constant competition with the other people in their life, then you probably deserve better. You should probably leave.
8. Convince them you have value. You’re not responsible for convincing someone you are worth their time and attention. You shouldn’t have to list out your best traits, do constant favors for them, and bend over backward to accommodate them so that they’ll give you a chance. The right person will be interested from the start. They won’t need you to chase them before giving you the time of day.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--6 Signs You Should Stop Chasing Him Once And For All

1 .
You ’ ve been chasing him for a while — and nothing has changed .
If he ’ s still sending you mixed signals , if he ’ s still leading you on , if he ’ s still not committing to you , then you ’ re probably wasting your time with him .
You might feel like you ’ ve already invested this much time into him , so you might as well wait a little longer , but that ’ s not the best idea .
You don ’ t want to miss out on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ busy focusing on someone who is never going to rise to your expectations .
2 .
He ’ s made it clear he isn ’ t interested .
If he ’ s actually sat you down and told you that he doesn ’ t have feelings for you , that he doesn ’ t want to ruin your friendship , or that he ’ s not ready for a relationship right now , then you shouldn ’ t assume he ’ s lying .
You shouldn ’ t hold out hope that he @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
There are plenty of people who are going to jump at the chance to date you .
You don ’ t have to try hard to prove your worth to someone who simply isn ’ t interested .
You can ’ t change his mind .
You can ’ t make him love you .
Respect his decision and move on .
3 .
He ’ s in a completely different stage in his life .
If you want a serious relationship and he wants to play the field , give up @ @ @ @ @ @ @ get married in his forties and you want to get married much younger , give up on him .
Your feelings aren ’ t enough to make a relationship work .
You need to be on the same page about your futures .
You need to agree on the big things in order to date .
Otherwise , you ’ re bound to break up quickly anyway .
4 .
He has a girlfriend .
It doesn ’ t matter if he ’ s sending you all the right signals .
It doesn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ enjoying time with you more than time with his own girlfriend .
If he really wants to be with you , then he ’ ll break up with her .
You don ’ t want to get in the middle of something messy .
You don ’ t want to contribute to someone ’ s broken heart .
If he ’ s serious about liking you , then he won ’ t stay with her for long anyway .
5 .
He treats the other women in his life terribly .
Sure , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ if he has cheated on everyone he ’ s dated , if he doesn ’ t show respect for his female friends , if he acts like women are objects , then you don ’ t want to settle for him .
He ’ s not good enough for you .
6 .
You can ’ t remember why you liked him in the first place .
You need to ask yourself whether you actually like this person or are only obsessed with the idea of this person .
Sometimes , you ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ time that you can remember why you fell for them in the first place .
If he ’ s been annoying you lately , if he ’ s been causing more drama than he ’ s worth , then you don ’ t need to continue chasing him .
You can walk away .
You can find someone new .

1. You’ve been chasing him for a while — and nothing has changed. If he’s still sending you mixed signals, if he’s still leading you on, if he’s still not committing to you, then you’re probably wasting your time with him. You might feel like you’ve already invested this much time into him, so you might as well wait a little longer, but that’s not the best idea. You don’t want to miss out on someone great because you’re too busy focusing on someone who is never going to rise to your expectations.
2. He’s made it clear he isn’t interested. If he’s actually sat you down and told you that he doesn’t have feelings for you, that he doesn’t want to ruin your friendship, or that he’s not ready for a relationship right now, then you shouldn’t assume he’s lying. You shouldn’t hold out hope that he’ll change his mind, either. There are plenty of people who are going to jump at the chance to date you. You don’t have to try hard to prove your worth to someone who simply isn’t interested. You can’t change his mind. You can’t make him love you. Respect his decision and move on.
3. He’s in a completely different stage in his life. If you want a serious relationship and he wants to play the field, give up on him. If he wants to get married in his forties and you want to get married much younger, give up on him. Your feelings aren’t enough to make a relationship work. You need to be on the same page about your futures. You need to agree on the big things in order to date. Otherwise, you’re bound to break up quickly anyway.
4. He has a girlfriend. It doesn’t matter if he’s sending you all the right signals. It doesn’t matter if he admits to enjoying time with you more than time with his own girlfriend. If he really wants to be with you, then he’ll break up with her. You don’t want to get in the middle of something messy. You don’t want to contribute to someone’s broken heart. If he’s serious about liking you, then he won’t stay with her for long anyway.
5. He treats the other women in his life terribly. Sure, you might be the exception. But if he has cheated on everyone he’s dated, if he doesn’t show respect for his female friends, if he acts like women are objects, then you don’t want to settle for him. He’s not good enough for you.
6. You can’t remember why you liked him in the first place. You need to ask yourself whether you actually like this person or are only obsessed with the idea of this person. Sometimes, you’ll like someone for such a long time that you can remember why you fell for them in the first place. If he’s been annoying you lately, if he’s been causing more drama than he’s worth, then you don’t need to continue chasing him. You can walk away. You can find someone new.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--7 Signs You’re Dating Them For The Wrong Reasons

1 .
You don ’ t want to go back to being single .
You would rather be in a relationship — any relationship — than be single again .
You don ’ t want to be the only one in your friend group who doesn ’ t have a partner .
And you don ’ t want to be questioned by every relative about when you ’ re going to settle down .
It ’ s easier to stay in the relationship you ’ ve already built than to tell everyone you ’ re single again .
2 .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ children or a house ) .
You ’ re not staying with this person because of how excited you are to spend forever alongside them .
You ’ re staying with them because you ’ re excited about the milestones they ’ re going to help you reach .
You ’ ll get to walk down the aisle .
You ’ ll get to paint a nursery .
You ’ ll get to own your own home .
You desperately want to check certain items off your bucket list and you feel like @ @ @ @ @ @ @ accomplished without this person , so you stay .
3 .
You like the way everyone treats you when you ’ re together .
You like that other girls look at you , jealous about the person you ’ ve landed .
You like that your family members repeatedly tell you how happy they are for you and they ’ re proud of you .
You even like getting hearts on couple photos you post online .
Everyone assumes you ’ re happy — and you want it to stay that way .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ your shit together .
4 .
The sex is fantastic .
Even though you ’ ve found someone who matches you perfectly in the bedroom , that doesn ’ t mean you match well in other areas .
That doesn ’ t mean that the rest of the relationship is going to go smoothly .
You don ’ t want to stay with someone , simply because they ’ re good in bed .
There should be much more you enjoy about your partner than the way they touch you .
If sex @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , you might not belong together .
5 .
You ’ re scared of breaking their heart .
Leaving would hurt your partner — but staying with them when you aren ’ t fully invested in the relationship is going to hurt them even more .
You don ’ t want to force yourself to stay in an uncomfortable situation .
You ’ re going to leave eventually , whether it ’ s tomorrow or ten years down the line , so you might as well do it now and put them through @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , the harder it will be for your person to handle .
6 .
Everyone else wants you to stay together .
This is your life .
No one else gets to choose who you date .
Maybe your parents will be disappointed if you break up .
Maybe your friends will feel like you ’ re making a mistake .
But it doesn ’ t matter what they think .
All that matters is whether or not you ’ re happy .
You have to stop worrying about how a breakup would @ @ @ @ @ @ @ asking yourself what you really want .
7 .
You ’ re too comfortable to go anywhere .
You shouldn ’ t stay with someone , simply because you have a history .
Because you ’ re used to dating them .
Because it would be scary to leave .
If you don ’ t want to be together , then you shouldn ’ t be together .
You have no obligation to stay .
You ’ re allowed to go .

1. You don’t want to go back to being single. You would rather be in a relationship — any relationship — than be single again. You don’t want to be the only one in your friend group who doesn’t have a partner. And you don’t want to be questioned by every relative about when you’re going to settle down. It’s easier to stay in the relationship you’ve already built than to tell everyone you’re single again.
2. You really want a wedding (or children or a house). You’re not staying with this person because of how excited you are to spend forever alongside them. You’re staying with them because you’re excited about the milestones they’re going to help you reach. You’ll get to walk down the aisle. You’ll get to paint a nursery. You’ll get to own your own home. You desperately want to check certain items off your bucket list and you feel like they’re not going to get accomplished without this person, so you stay.
3. You like the way everyone treats you when you’re together. You like that other girls look at you, jealous about the person you’ve landed. You like that your family members repeatedly tell you how happy they are for you and they’re proud of you. You even like getting hearts on couple photos you post online. Everyone assumes you’re happy — and you want it to stay that way. You want people to think you have your shit together.
4. The sex is fantastic. Even though you’ve found someone who matches you perfectly in the bedroom, that doesn’t mean you match well in other areas. That doesn’t mean that the rest of the relationship is going to go smoothly. You don’t want to stay with someone, simply because they’re good in bed. There should be much more you enjoy about your partner than the way they touch you. If sex is the only thing keeping you together, you might not belong together.
5. You’re scared of breaking their heart. Leaving would hurt your partner — but staying with them when you aren’t fully invested in the relationship is going to hurt them even more. You don’t want to force yourself to stay in an uncomfortable situation. You’re going to leave eventually, whether it’s tomorrow or ten years down the line, so you might as well do it now and put them through less pain. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for your person to handle.
6. Everyone else wants you to stay together. This is your life. No one else gets to choose who you date. Maybe your parents will be disappointed if you break up. Maybe your friends will feel like you’re making a mistake. But it doesn’t matter what they think. All that matters is whether or not you’re happy. You have to stop worrying about how a breakup would impact the people around you and start asking yourself what you really want.
7. You’re too comfortable to go anywhere. You shouldn’t stay with someone, simply because you have a history. Because you’re used to dating them. Because it would be scary to leave. If you don’t want to be together, then you shouldn’t be together. You have no obligation to stay. You’re allowed to go.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-14--The 6 Worst Texts A Man Can Send Me

The 6 Worst Texts A Man Can Send Me

1 .
“ You up ?
” No one sends this text unless they ’ re looking to hookup — and I would rather be in a serious relationship ninety-nine percent of the time .
I would rather put my energy into talking to someone who genuinely wants to date me , who views me as more than a body , who wants me for more than a single night .
If you want to sleep with me once and only once , at least put some effort into it .
I ’ m open to casual sex — but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ put in the minimum amount of effort to get me into bed .
2 .
“ Hey.
” I don ’ t want to carry the entire conversation .
I don ’ t want to come up with the topic .
I don ’ t want to fight to keep you interested .
If you ’ re going to text me , I would rather have you say something more substantial than hey .
I ’ ll be happy that you were thinking of me and decided to reach out to me , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to tell what you want when you send a single word sentence .
I need a little more than that to come up with a response .
3 .
“ What are you wearing ?
” There are much better lines to use when sexting .
This one is too much of a cliche .
Besides , I ’ m probably not going to tell you the truth about what I ’ m wearing in the middle of the night .
Instead of admitting I ’ m stuck in pajamas or old workout @ @ @ @ @ @ @ look better than I actually do .
Honestly , if I decided to dress up that day , then you would ’ ve gotten a selfie already .
I would ’ ve been showing off the look .
If I ’ m not doing that , then I ’ m probably not dressed well .
4 .
“ You ’ re acting crazy.
” You might not understand my emotions .
You might not like my emotions .
But you don ’ t get to invalidate my emotions .
I ’ m not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you refuse to hear me out .
I need someone who is going to take my concerns seriously , someone who encourages me to open up to them , someone who makes me feel seen .
5 .
“ Are you free right now ?
” I ’ m not a fan of last minute plans .
Every once in a while , it ’ s fun to do something spontaneous , but I won ’ t be happy if you ’ re physically incapable of making plans with me in advance .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ your backup when the rest of your friends are busy .
I don ’ t want to be te person you call when you ’ re bored and have nothing better to do .
I want you to put in the effort to plan a date with me — and follow through .
6 .
No text at all .
Ghosting me is going to annoy me .
You won ’ t be able to walk back into my world in the future if you decide to drop off the face of the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ going to remember that you left me hanging .
I ’ m going to be bitter about it .
I ’ m not going to give you another chance to hurt me .

1. “You up?” No one sends this text unless they’re looking to hookup — and I would rather be in a serious relationship ninety-nine percent of the time. I would rather put my energy into talking to someone who genuinely wants to date me, who views me as more than a body, who wants me for more than a single night. If you want to sleep with me once and only once, at least put some effort into it. I’m open to casual sex — but not with someone who is going to put in the minimum amount of effort to get me into bed.
2. “Hey.” I don’t want to carry the entire conversation. I don’t want to come up with the topic. I don’t want to fight to keep you interested. If you’re going to text me, I would rather have you say something more substantial than hey. I’ll be happy that you were thinking of me and decided to reach out to me, but I won’t be able to tell what you want when you send a single word sentence. I need a little more than that to come up with a response.
3. “What are you wearing?” There are much better lines to use when sexting. This one is too much of a cliche. Besides, I’m probably not going to tell you the truth about what I’m wearing in the middle of the night. Instead of admitting I’m stuck in pajamas or old workout clothes, I’ll pretend to look better than I actually do. Honestly, if I decided to dress up that day, then you would’ve gotten a selfie already. I would’ve been showing off the look. If I’m not doing that, then I’m probably not dressed well.
4. “You’re acting crazy.” You might not understand my emotions. You might not like my emotions. But you don’t get to invalidate my emotions. I’m not going to waste time with you if you refuse to hear me out. I need someone who is going to take my concerns seriously, someone who encourages me to open up to them, someone who makes me feel seen.
5. “Are you free right now?” I’m not a fan of last minute plans. Every once in a while, it’s fun to do something spontaneous, but I won’t be happy if you’re physically incapable of making plans with me in advance. I don’t want to be your backup when the rest of your friends are busy. I don’t want to be te person you call when you’re bored and have nothing better to do. I want you to put in the effort to plan a date with me — and follow through.
6. No text at all. Ghosting me is going to annoy me. You won’t be able to walk back into my world in the future if you decide to drop off the face of the planet without warning. I’m going to remember that you left me hanging. I’m going to be bitter about it. I’m not going to give you another chance to hurt me.