thoughtcatalog--2020-10-29--33 Signs Someone Has A Soft Heart And Gentle Soul

1 .
They clean up the table to make it as easy as possible for a waiter/waitress .
2 .
They ’ re not jealous when you succeed and they don ’ t treat you as a second-class citizen when you fail .
3 .
They remember a tiny detail about your life or something you like and bring it up in convo much later on .
4 .
They say good things about people behind their backs .
5 .
They help you with stuff without prompting/asking for help .
6 .
They can apologize to another , and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 7 .
They show up on time at least 99.5 % of the time .
8 .
When something terrible has happened to you but that person still sticks to you and encourages you .
9 .
When in a group of people walking , they make sure nobody gets left behind by spacing themselves between the leaders and the stragglers and keeping an eye on both .
10 .
They drop you off and then wait until they see you go inside safely .
11 .
They are not trying to gain @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
12 .
They always get food last at communal meals .
Making sure everyone else got enough food is a sign they ’ ve really conquered their inner caveman .
13 .
When someone noticed you were going to talk in a group but get cut off then later they say , “ You were about to say something , right ?
” 14 .
They can admit when they are wrong about something without getting angry or defensive .
15 .
They take time to hold the door for strangers when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of someone .
16 .
They let someone with only a few items go in front of them in a checkout lane if they have a full cart .
17 .
They always return the cart to the cart corrals .
20 .
Even if they don ’ t quite understand or relate to a topic you brought up , they ask follow up questions .
Bonus points if they don ’ t seem particularly interested in the topic , but they still remain invested in the conversation since you ’ re excited @ @ @ @ @ @ @ They keep the trash with them until they find a dustbin .
22 .
If they decide they don ’ t want to buy something , they put it back where they found it instead of just leaving on a shelf somewhere else .
23 .
If they are working on something and drop small trash ( bits of paper , tape ) they pick it up and throw it away .
24 .
In social settings , they notice when someone is kinda left out and they find a way to include @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fun is being had .
25 .
If they see someone looking confused in a public space , asking if they need directions .
26 .
They pick up nails , screws , or sharp objects they come across from the parking lot or road so people don ’ t get flat tires .
27 .
When conflict arises , they seek peace by being introspective .
In addition , they seek to resolve the dispute directly with that person as opposed to gossiping or triangulating .
29 .
They wait for you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ shoes .
30 .
They look engaged when you speak to them , and are patient if you ’ re struggling to explain something .
I ’ m so used to feeling like I have to “ sell ” my conversation points to hold anyone ’ s attention that someone actually asking me to expand more on my thoughts really takes me off guard .
31 .
They always remember to pay you back without having to be reminded , if you loaned them money .
32 .
They ask you to text @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Then if you forget to text them , they text you to say , “ Just checking to make sure you made it home alright.
” 33 .
They do nice things without telling others or even taking credit .

Ask Reddit can tell you whether someone has a soft heart.
1. They clean up the table to make it as easy as possible for a waiter/waitress.
2. They’re not jealous when you succeed and they don’t treat you as a second-class citizen when you fail.
3. They remember a tiny detail about your life or something you like and bring it up in convo much later on.
4. They say good things about people behind their backs.
5. They help you with stuff without prompting/asking for help.
6. They can apologize to another, and accept forgiveness when someone offers that.
7. They show up on time at least 99.5% of the time.
8. When something terrible has happened to you but that person still sticks to you and encourages you.
9. When in a group of people walking, they make sure nobody gets left behind by spacing themselves between the leaders and the stragglers and keeping an eye on both.
10. They drop you off and then wait until they see you go inside safely.
11. They are not trying to gain anything from having a relationship with you.
12. They always get food last at communal meals. Making sure everyone else got enough food is a sign they’ve really conquered their inner caveman.
13. When someone noticed you were going to talk in a group but get cut off then later they say, “You were about to say something, right?”
14. They can admit when they are wrong about something without getting angry or defensive.
15. They take time to hold the door for strangers when entering a building a short ways ahead of someone.
16. They let someone with only a few items go in front of them in a checkout lane if they have a full cart.
17. They always return the cart to the cart corrals.
18. They don’t ruin your jokes.
19. They don’t steal money they find.
20. Even if they don’t quite understand or relate to a topic you brought up, they ask follow up questions. Bonus points if they don’t seem particularly interested in the topic, but they still remain invested in the conversation since you’re excited to talk about it.
21. They keep the trash with them until they find a dustbin.
22. If they decide they don’t want to buy something, they put it back where they found it instead of just leaving on a shelf somewhere else.
23. If they are working on something and drop small trash (bits of paper, tape) they pick it up and throw it away.
24. In social settings, they notice when someone is kinda left out and they find a way to include that person in the conversation or whatever fun is being had.
25. If they see someone looking confused in a public space, asking if they need directions.
26. They pick up nails, screws, or sharp objects they come across from the parking lot or road so people don’t get flat tires.
27. When conflict arises, they seek peace by being introspective. In addition, they seek to resolve the dispute directly with that person as opposed to gossiping or triangulating.
28. When a person can create a positive environment.
29. They wait for you when you bend down to tie your shoes.
30. They look engaged when you speak to them, and are patient if you’re struggling to explain something. I’m so used to feeling like I have to “sell” my conversation points to hold anyone’s attention that someone actually asking me to expand more on my thoughts really takes me off guard.
31. They always remember to pay you back without having to be reminded, if you loaned them money.
32. They ask you to text them when you get home safe. Then if you forget to text them, they text you to say, “Just checking to make sure you made it home alright.”
33. They do nice things without telling others or even taking credit.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-29--30 Real People On The Lesson They Learned From Their First Love

1 .
Getting into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is the worst reason to be in a relationship .
Likewise , liking someone because they like you is the worst reason to like someone .
You want to date “ a person , ” not “ their company.
” 2 .
Don ’ t ignore the red flags .
Don ’ t let go of your self-respect .
3 .
Being alone is better than forcing yourself to be with someone you don ’ t love .
4 .
Love isn ’ t enough of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ doesn ’ t respect you .
5 .
You should never take any relationship for granted – you always need to make efforts and work towards keeping a happy relationship with the ones you love .
6 .
You are not responsible for the other person ’ s happiness if you aren ’ t happy yourself .
Don ’ t feel obligated to stay just because you ’ ve been together a while .
7 .
You ’ re never 100 % compatible with the other person .
You just have to find @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 5 % incompatibility , and if you don ’ t think you can , you need to leave ASAP .
Don ’ t wait several years , hoping things will be different or that you will change your mind .
8 .
Don ’ t try to change for someone .
It won ’ t work .
9 .
You can love someone but not want to make a lifelong commitment to them .
10 .
You absolutely have to be on the same page as far as life goals go .
11 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ face in them .
Doesn ’ t matter how in love you are , people get cruel after breakups .
12 .
Screaming at each other during arguments is not healthy .
13 .
Red flags on the first date won ’ t go away , so better to save yourself trouble and leave instead of leaving a few months later for those same flags , no matter how desperate you are .
15 .
The phrase “ trust but verify ” is real and should be taken seriously .
16 .
Just @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t mean they ’ ll return the favor , and the amount of people you can trust in this world is a lot less than you think .
17 .
I learned not to ever let someone threaten me with their own mental health/decisions again .
18 .
Despite how much you love someone , you can be incompatible .
19 .
Consistent small things are far more valuable than big months or anniversary efforts .
20 .
“ Feelings ” will fade away and what makes a relationship strong and healthy is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ one another .
21 .
If you join their friend group while you ’ re dating , then the relationship ends , you ’ re going to have no friends .
22 .
Sometimes people just fall out of love and there nothing you can do about , regardless of how much you love them .
You just have to move on with your life .
23 .
You don ’ t have to hate your ex .
24 .
Don ’ t get too attached to the family .
25 .
Lust @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
26 .
You can ’ t make someone love you simply because you do so much for them .
Doormat is not a good look on anybody !
Also , listen to your gut .
27 .
Communicate , be open , share fully , and take it one day at a time .
28 .
How important pillow talk is , it takes little effort and seems minuscule but it can mean a lot to the other person and really strengthen your connection with the other person .
29 .
The @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You can ’ t change someone who doesn ’ t want to change themselves .

Ask Reddit wants you to remember these little lessons about love.
1. Getting into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is the worst reason to be in a relationship.
Likewise, liking someone because they like you is the worst reason to like someone.
You want to date “a person,” not “their company.”
2. Don’t ignore the red flags. Don’t let go of your self-respect.
3. Being alone is better than forcing yourself to be with someone you don’t love.
4. Love isn’t enough of a reason to stay with someone who doesn’t respect you.
5. You should never take any relationship for granted – you always need to make efforts and work towards keeping a happy relationship with the ones you love.
6. You are not responsible for the other person’s happiness if you aren’t happy yourself. Don’t feel obligated to stay just because you’ve been together a while.
7. You’re never 100% compatible with the other person. You just have to find out if you can live with that 5% incompatibility, and if you don’t think you can, you need to leave ASAP. Don’t wait several years, hoping things will be different or that you will change your mind.
8. Don’t try to change for someone. It won’t work.
9. You can love someone but not want to make a lifelong commitment to them.
10. You absolutely have to be on the same page as far as life goals go.
11. Never send sexy pictures with your face in them. Doesn’t matter how in love you are, people get cruel after breakups.
12. Screaming at each other during arguments is not healthy.
13. Red flags on the first date won’t go away, so better to save yourself trouble and leave instead of leaving a few months later for those same flags, no matter how desperate you are.
14. Long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone.
15. The phrase “trust but verify” is real and should be taken seriously.
16. Just because you treat someone well doesn’t mean they’ll return the favor, and the amount of people you can trust in this world is a lot less than you think.
17. I learned not to ever let someone threaten me with their own mental health/decisions again.
18. Despite how much you love someone, you can be incompatible.
19. Consistent small things are far more valuable than big months or anniversary efforts.
20. “Feelings” will fade away and what makes a relationship strong and healthy is the everyday, conscious commitment to love one another.
21. If you join their friend group while you’re dating, then the relationship ends, you’re going to have no friends.
22. Sometimes people just fall out of love and there nothing you can do about, regardless of how much you love them. You just have to move on with your life.
23. You don’t have to hate your ex.
24. Don’t get too attached to the family.
25. Lust is VERY easy to confuse with love.
26. You can’t make someone love you simply because you do so much for them. Doormat is not a good look on anybody! Also, listen to your gut.
27. Communicate, be open, share fully, and take it one day at a time.
28. How important pillow talk is, it takes little effort and seems minuscule but it can mean a lot to the other person and really strengthen your connection with the other person.
29. The best apology is changed behavior.
30. You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change themselves.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-29--30 Things That Will Turn An Attractive Person Ugly

1 .
Being unreliable .
Like when they say , “ Oh we should totally [ go to this place , do this thing , watch this movie , play this game , etc ] !
” and then either never follow through on the plan , cancel at the last minute , or meet up with you and change what you ’ re doing .
2 .
Narcissism is the worst .
It ’ s like eating an apple that looks delicious but is devoid of flavor .
There is no substance .
It ’ s hands down the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ makes an attractive person ugly and unfortunately , a fair amount of “ attractive ” people suffer from this and I ’ m not sure what the cure is .
It seems deeply ingrained and can be hard to spot at first glance .
3 .
Fishing for compliments they know are true .
Usually accompanied with a giggle .
4 .
Ignorance .
I hate people that don ’ t know anything and choose to not learn anything new .
People who think they ’ re better than others , who choose @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s identities , it just makes me mad .
I can see no beauty in a closed off brain .
6 .
Bad hygiene… bad breath , no deodorant , dirt under nails , etc .
7 .
Them having to be the leader or center of attention in order to be cooperative .
So annoying .
8 .
Twisting a situation that they caused , so it ’ s more favorable for them .
9 .
Abusing the fact that they ’ re attractive to be manipulative .
It ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when they think they ’ re attractive enough to get away with it .
10 .
Being pushy .
No means no even if you have washboard abs , Brian .
11 .
Someone that is snobby , dumb , or indecisive .
I don ’ t mean uneducated , I mean dumb .
Plain dumb .
12 .
Frequent and inappropriate use of the word literally .
13 .
Alcohol .
Some really attractive people become sloppy , unintelligible , belligerent piles of goo .
Some become very ugly , most end @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 14 .
Lack of sense of humor or taking sarcastic jokes way too seriously .
16 .
Glued to phone , condescending , lack of empathy , and inability to apologize or see flaws in themselves .
Nobody is perfect but if sorry is nowhere in your vocabulary then I will stay far away from you .
Accountability is sexy .
17 .
Projecting your insecurities upon other people .
18 .
Racism .
There are so many attractive people who if they open their mouths say some of the ugliest things .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ taken with conspiracy theories .
So many of them are based on an attitude of , “ Haha !
I know more than you .
You ’ re nothing but a sheep for not believing the special knowledge that I have to impart to you.
” So often their arguments boil down to nothing more than ad hominem attacks .
21 .
Smoking .
This is more of a personal preference , but as soon as I see someone smoking , it ’ s not even they ’ re unattractive , I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ know the type , film themselves feeding a homeless dude or giving him 20 quid to show “ what a good person they are ” or bragging on social media about all the good they do in the world .
It ’ s those self-same people who say that starving kids are their parent ’ s problem right up until it ’ s on-trend to help them .
It doesn ’ t make you good or even look good , it makes you a narcissistic , attention-seeking asshole .
25 .
Blaming their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 26 .
Not being willing to try new things .
28 .
I ’ ve seen beautiful , affluent , A-game women scream at their kids to get the perfect Instagram pics .
Using your offspring as props and turning what should be their best memories into sad photo ops to farm out likes… huge turn-off .
29 .
Being an asshole to waiters , janitors , and the like .
Or just being an asshole and having a shit attitude about everything .

Ask Reddit knows that personality matters even more than looks.
1. Being unreliable. Like when they say, “Oh we should totally [go to this place, do this thing, watch this movie, play this game, etc]!” and then either never follow through on the plan, cancel at the last minute, or meet up with you and change what you’re doing.
2. Narcissism is the worst. It’s like eating an apple that looks delicious but is devoid of flavor. There is no substance. It’s hands down the worst trait I have come across that makes an attractive person ugly and unfortunately, a fair amount of “attractive” people suffer from this and I’m not sure what the cure is. It seems deeply ingrained and can be hard to spot at first glance.
3. Fishing for compliments they know are true. Usually accompanied with a giggle.
4. Ignorance. I hate people that don’t know anything and choose to not learn anything new. People who think they’re better than others, who choose to not learn about cultures or people’s identities, it just makes me mad. I can see no beauty in a closed off brain.
5. Arrogance is definitely a huge turn-off.
6. Bad hygiene… bad breath, no deodorant, dirt under nails, etc.
7. Them having to be the leader or center of attention in order to be cooperative. So annoying.
8. Twisting a situation that they caused, so it’s more favorable for them.
9. Abusing the fact that they’re attractive to be manipulative. It’s disgusting what people will try to pull when they think they’re attractive enough to get away with it.
10. Being pushy. No means no even if you have washboard abs, Brian.
11. Someone that is snobby, dumb, or indecisive. I don’t mean uneducated, I mean dumb. Plain dumb.
12. Frequent and inappropriate use of the word literally.
13. Alcohol. Some really attractive people become sloppy, unintelligible, belligerent piles of goo. Some become very ugly, most end up somewhere between unattractive and unbearable.
14. Lack of sense of humor or taking sarcastic jokes way too seriously.
15. Social media obsession.
16. Glued to phone, condescending, lack of empathy, and inability to apologize or see flaws in themselves. Nobody is perfect but if sorry is nowhere in your vocabulary then I will stay far away from you. Accountability is sexy.
17. Projecting your insecurities upon other people.
18. Racism. There are so many attractive people who if they open their mouths say some of the ugliest things. Sad really.
19. Being totally taken with conspiracy theories. So many of them are based on an attitude of, “Haha! I know more than you. You’re nothing but a sheep for not believing the special knowledge that I have to impart to you.” So often their arguments boil down to nothing more than ad hominem attacks.
20. Not accepting responsibility.
21. Smoking. This is more of a personal preference, but as soon as I see someone smoking, it’s not even they’re unattractive, I’m just not interested anymore.
22. Virtue signaling.
You know the type, film themselves feeding a homeless dude or giving him 20 quid to show “what a good person they are” or bragging on social media about all the good they do in the world.
It’s those self-same people who say that starving kids are their parent’s problem right up until it’s on-trend to help them.
It doesn’t make you good or even look good, it makes you a narcissistic, attention-seeking asshole.
23. Selfishness.
25. Blaming their shitty personality on their zodiac sign.
26. Not being willing to try new things.
27. Littering, of course.
28. I’ve seen beautiful, affluent, A-game women scream at their kids to get the perfect Instagram pics. Using your offspring as props and turning what should be their best memories into sad photo ops to farm out likes… huge turn-off.
29. Being an asshole to waiters, janitors, and the like. Or just being an asshole and having a shit attitude about everything.
30. Meth.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-29--Why Each Zodiac Will (Eventually) Say Goodbye To Someone Toxic

You ’ ll say goodbye because you ’ re too impatient to wait for them to realize what you ’ re worth .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you ’ re sick of accepting the same exact apologies over and over and watching them make the same mistakes over and over .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you understand you can ’ t change someone who refuses to try to get better .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you already gave out a million different chances and they ruined each one .
You ’ ll say goodbye @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in your world for so much drama .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you ’ re sick of putting so much effort into someone who takes advantage of your soft heart .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you don ’ t have the heart to sit there and watch them destroy themselves .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you have no problem cutting people out of your life who no longer serve you .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you have a tight-knit group of friends and have no @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ ll say goodbye because you deserve respect and won ’ t settle for being belittled .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you ’ re not a fan of conflict and drama and stress .
You ’ ll say goodbye because you can ’ t expose your children/pets/friends/family to this person in their current state .

Aries
You’ll say goodbye because you’re too impatient to wait for them to realize what you’re worth.
Taurus
You’ll say goodbye because you’re sick of accepting the same exact apologies over and over and watching them make the same mistakes over and over.
Gemini
You’ll say goodbye because you understand you can’t change someone who refuses to try to get better.
Cancer
You’ll say goodbye because you already gave out a million different chances and they ruined each one.
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Leo
You’ll say goodbye because you don’t have room in your world for so much drama.
Virgo
You’ll say goodbye because you’re sick of putting so much effort into someone who takes advantage of your soft heart.
Libra
You’ll say goodbye because you don’t have the heart to sit there and watch them destroy themselves.
Scorpio
You’ll say goodbye because you have no problem cutting people out of your life who no longer serve you.
Sagittarius
You’ll say goodbye because you have a tight-knit group of friends and have no room for the wrong people.
Capricorn
You’ll say goodbye because you deserve respect and won’t settle for being belittled.
Aquarius
You’ll say goodbye because you’re not a fan of conflict and drama and stress.
Pisces
You’ll say goodbye because you can’t expose your children/pets/friends/family to this person in their current state.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--Please Do Not Vote This Creepy Duggar Into Office

We need to be completely clear on something .
The Duggar family aren ’ t just conservative Christians .
They belong to and actively participate in the continuation of a fundamentalist cult , the Institute in Basic Life Principles .
Family dad Jim Bob is a cult leader and generally arranges marriages for his children with the children of other IBLP leaders .
The IBLP is famous for it ’ s sex pest leader , Bill Gothard , preying on at least 34 young women and children as well as its teachings that focus on purity , submissive gender roles @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a groomer ’ s paradise .
Another fun fact about the IBLP is that it ’ s a 501c3 non-profit that rakes in 80 million dollars each year .
Tax free .
This means that the cult is free to enjoy public services paid for by taxpayers without contributing anything back to the community other than inflicting sex pests on unsuspecting women and children .
Former IBLP members have created the website Recovering Grace to bring attention to the harm the cult does and provide support groups for former members .
Here is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the IBLP cult in The Guardian : One of the Duggars , Josh Duggar , molested his younger sisters and a babysitter and still resides on the Duggar compound where many young girls ( the same ages as his sisters when he abused them ) live .
He is now married to a woman who inexplicably continues to provide him with more children to victimize .
Basically , he is living the sex predator dream life and no one close to him seems to have a problem with it — perhaps because their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ who created it to be as convenient to predatory men as possible .
Originally Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar , the adults in the family ( though I won ’ t say “ parents ” because those roles are taken up by Jana Duggar and a variety of children through the family ’ s “ buddy system ” ) , decided to try to pray Josh ’ s predatory sex behaviors away .
Shockingly , this didn ’ t work and Josh continued molesting his sisters in increasingly concerning ways such as fondling @ @ @ @ @ @ @ his lap underneath her clothing .
It ’ s important to know that during the time Josh was molesting his sisters , Jim Bob Duggar was serving in the Arkansas House of Representatives for District 6 .
Ironically he was vice chair of the House Corrections and Criminal Law Subcommittee .
Now , Jedidiah Duggar is currently running for Arkansas State House District 89 despite only having a GED and having no life experience .
He only recently left Jim Bob and Michelle ’ s home in order to live in the district @ @ @ @ @ @ @ He would not otherwise be eligible to run for this office .
This a shady political practice known as “ carpetbagging ” .
He currently shares a small bedroom with his twin brother where they each have a twin bed : The reality star is running against a competent , qualified candidate who has actual experience serving the district .
If elected , Jedidiah ’ s website states he would like to “ advocate for pro-life measures ” and “ take a stand against liberal judges who trample on our God-given constitutional rights @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the Duggar family practices is called complementarianism .
They believe that men are the heads of their household and women are DESIGNED BY GOD to be submissive to them .
This does not end in the bedroom or the home of a family , it extends to public life and women these men aren ’ t even related to , including women who have not consented to their headship .
One study found that complementarianism “ positively correlates with the acceptance of beliefs that facilitate abuse ” .
Complementarians believe men are created @ @ @ @ @ @ @ leaders and women were created for the purpose of cooking , cleaning , being sexually available to their husband and birthing children .
Even a “ godly ” woman in their religion can only be trusted to teach children , not other adults .
According to complementarianism , a woman with a degree in theology is less qualified to be a pastor than any idiot man off the street with a copy of the King James bible and a “ feeling ” about how to interpret it .
This explains a lot about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ run for office .
Complementarians don ’ t believe there are exceptions to gender roles as they define them .
A female bodybuilder would not be more qualified to do heavy lifting than a male who doesn ’ t lift because these roles are not defined by reality or ability , but by what they believe god ordained .
IBLP also teaches that medical issues like cancer and miscarriages are caused by not being a good enough Christian as IBLP defines it .
For instance , one homeschooling handbook created by IBLP teaches @ @ @ @ @ @ @ women , but only if they are not married to the person ejaculating the semen .
This isn ’ t a belief that is compatible with someone who wants to hold public office and make medical decisions for others .
If someone in an IBLP family is sexually abused , they teach that the victim should be counseled about what they did to deserve it .
In a handout created by the IBLP , they recommend asking the victim if perhaps god let the sex abuse happen to them because they dressed immodestly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ We all need to ask what kind of laws a person who believes this would support or refrain from supporting .
If you ’ d like another glimpse at how IBLP families are run , here is a clip of Austin Forsyth ’ s family on a short-lived TV show called World ’ s Strictest Parents in which they traumatize two troubled children unfamiliar with their cult : The Forsyth family owns Fort Rock Family camp which has had such honored guests as Michael and Debi Pearl , who wrote a handbook about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the Pearl Method .
The Pearl Method has lead to the deaths of at least three children , Sean Paddock , Lydia Schatz , and Hana Grace-Rose Williams .
The prosecutor in the Schatz case called it “ truly an evil book ” .
In response to the dead children , the Pearls added a statement to their website which reads : “ I laugh at my caustic critics , for our properly-spanked and trained children grow to maturity in great peace and love.
” Austin Forsyth is the teen boy of the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ clip .
He grew up to marry Joyanna Duggar , one of Josh Duggar ’ s victims .
He is now brother-in-law to Jed Duggar .
There is likely a lot more scandal left to talk about where the Duggars are involved .
For instance , where does the money that the family makes from their TLC show go ?
When the Josh Duggar molestation scandal broke , TLC cancelled the Duggars show and replaced it with a show about the family called Counting On which focuses on the adult women who were @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are supposed to be receiving money for this show that would give them financial freedom from the predatory men in their lives .
However , most fans and critics believe Jim Bob is given this money by TLC and uses it to continue to control his family .
To be honest , there are only so many abused children I can read about and what I ’ ve compiled here is more than enough reason to pass over an unqualified candidate for public office .
In America , you can believe whatever you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t free to use those beliefs to get into public office and force those beliefs on your unsuspecting constituents .
People of Arkansas district 89 : please , please , please vote against this man .
We have seen what happens when IBLP men are given power and there are too many victims already .
If you don ’ t live in Jed ’ s district , I hope you will join me in giving his opponent , Megan Godfrey , whatever kind of support you can .

We need to be completely clear on something. The Duggar family aren’t just conservative Christians. They belong to and actively participate in the continuation of a fundamentalist cult, the Institute in Basic Life Principles. Family dad Jim Bob is a cult leader and generally arranges marriages for his children with the children of other IBLP leaders. The IBLP is famous for it’s sex pest leader, Bill Gothard, preying on at least 34 young women and children as well as its teachings that focus on purity, submissive gender roles for women, and homeschooling. AKA a groomer’s paradise.
Another fun fact about the IBLP is that it’s a 501c3 non-profit that rakes in 80 million dollars each year. Tax free. This means that the cult is free to enjoy public services paid for by taxpayers without contributing anything back to the community other than inflicting sex pests on unsuspecting women and children. Former IBLP members have created the website Recovering Grace to bring attention to the harm the cult does and provide support groups for former members.
Here is one woman talking about the rules of the IBLP cult in The Guardian:
“An emphasis on controlling every aspect of a woman’s physical appearance was central to the ATI [Advanced Training Institute, the homeschooling program run by IBLP] lifestyle, and conforming to Gothard’s personal tastes was an obsession shared by women and men. This meant wearing our hair (our Biblical “crowning glory”) long and keeping our curls touchably soft and loose. Gothard even made it known he strongly disliked the “wet look” (women wearing too much gel in their hair), and I was even once pulled aside at an ATI training institute in Oklahoma and told to start wearing less product.”
One of the Duggars, Josh Duggar, molested his younger sisters and a babysitter and still resides on the Duggar compound where many young girls (the same ages as his sisters when he abused them) live. He is now married to a woman who inexplicably continues to provide him with more children to victimize. Basically, he is living the sex predator dream life and no one close to him seems to have a problem with it — perhaps because their entire cult was formed by a man who created it to be as convenient to predatory men as possible.
Originally Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, the adults in the family (though I won’t say “parents” because those roles are taken up by Jana Duggar and a variety of children through the family’s “buddy system”), decided to try to pray Josh’s predatory sex behaviors away. Shockingly, this didn’t work and Josh continued molesting his sisters in increasingly concerning ways such as fondling a little girl who was sitting on his lap underneath her clothing.
It’s important to know that during the time Josh was molesting his sisters, Jim Bob Duggar was serving in the Arkansas House of Representatives for District 6. Ironically he was vice chair of the House Corrections and Criminal Law Subcommittee.
Now, Jedidiah Duggar is currently running for Arkansas State House District 89 despite only having a GED and having no life experience. He only recently left Jim Bob and Michelle’s home in order to live in the district where he is running for office. He would not otherwise be eligible to run for this office. This a shady political practice known as “carpetbagging”. He currently shares a small bedroom with his twin brother where they each have a twin bed.
The reality star is running against a competent, qualified candidate who has actual experience serving the district. If elected, Jedidiah’s website states he would like to “advocate for pro-life measures” and “take a stand against liberal judges who trample on our God-given constitutional rights”.
(Disclosure: I got so upset compiling information on the Duggar family for this article I donated $50 to Jed’s competitor, Megan Godfrey, despite thankfully not living anywhere near their district.)
Another cool thing everyone in the Duggar family practices is called complementarianism. They believe that men are the heads of their household and women are DESIGNED BY GOD to be submissive to them. This does not end in the bedroom or the home of a family, it extends to public life and women these men aren’t even related to, including women who have not consented to their headship. One study found that complementarianism “positively correlates with the acceptance of beliefs that facilitate abuse”.
Complementarians believe men are created by god to be pastors and community leaders and women were created for the purpose of cooking, cleaning, being sexually available to their husband and birthing children. Even a “godly” woman in their religion can only be trusted to teach children, not other adults. According to complementarianism, a woman with a degree in theology is less qualified to be a pastor than any idiot man off the street with a copy of the King James bible and a “feeling” about how to interpret it. This explains a lot about why Jed feels he is qualified to run for office.
Complementarians don’t believe there are exceptions to gender roles as they define them. A female bodybuilder would not be more qualified to do heavy lifting than a male who doesn’t lift because these roles are not defined by reality or ability, but by what they believe god ordained.
IBLP also teaches that medical issues like cancer and miscarriages are caused by not being a good enough Christian as IBLP defines it. For instance, one homeschooling handbook created by IBLP teaches that contact with semen causes cancer in women, but only if they are not married to the person ejaculating the semen. This isn’t a belief that is compatible with someone who wants to hold public office and make medical decisions for others.
If someone in an IBLP family is sexually abused, they teach that the victim should be counseled about what they did to deserve it. In a handout created by the IBLP, they recommend asking the victim if perhaps god let the sex abuse happen to them because they dressed immodestly or have “evil friends”:
We all need to ask what kind of laws a person who believes this would support or refrain from supporting.
If you’d like another glimpse at how IBLP families are run, here is a clip of Austin Forsyth’s family on a short-lived TV show called World’s Strictest Parents in which they traumatize two troubled children unfamiliar with their cult:
The Forsyth family owns Fort Rock Family camp which has had such honored guests as Michael and Debi Pearl, who wrote a handbook about how to abuse your children they call the Pearl Method. The Pearl Method has lead to the deaths of at least three children, Sean Paddock, Lydia Schatz, and Hana Grace-Rose Williams. The prosecutor in the Schatz case called it “truly an evil book”.
In response to the dead children, the Pearls added a statement to their website which reads: “I laugh at my caustic critics, for our properly-spanked and trained children grow to maturity in great peace and love.”
Austin Forsyth is the teen boy of the “strictest” parents shown in the clip. He grew up to marry Joyanna Duggar, one of Josh Duggar’s victims. He is now brother-in-law to Jed Duggar.
There is likely a lot more scandal left to talk about where the Duggars are involved. For instance, where does the money that the family makes from their TLC show go? When the Josh Duggar molestation scandal broke, TLC cancelled the Duggars show and replaced it with a show about the family called Counting On which focuses on the adult women who were Josh Duggar’s victims. They are supposed to be receiving money for this show that would give them financial freedom from the predatory men in their lives. However, most fans and critics believe Jim Bob is given this money by TLC and uses it to continue to control his family. To be honest, there are only so many abused children I can read about and what I’ve compiled here is more than enough reason to pass over an unqualified candidate for public office. In America, you can believe whatever you want to. But you aren’t free to use those beliefs to get into public office and force those beliefs on your unsuspecting constituents. People of Arkansas district 89: please, please, please vote against this man. We have seen what happens when IBLP men are given power and there are too many victims already. If you don’t live in Jed’s district, I hope you will join me in giving his opponent, Megan Godfrey, whatever kind of support you can.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--6 Times When It’s Okay To Call It Quits And Start Over

1 .
When you ’ ve realized you want to change directions .
You don ’ t have to continue doing what you ’ ve been doing , simply because you ’ ve already started walking down a certain path .
You ’ re allowed to change your mind .
You ’ re growing and changing .
If you want something different today than you wanted yesterday , there ’ s nothing wrong with you .
You can change your course at any point in time .
You can do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable .
2 .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ making yourself miserable .
It ’ s never going to be easy to accomplish your goals .
Every career is going to have speedbumps .
Every relationship is going to have arguments .
However , if you ’ re starting to realize the stress you ’ ve been putting yourself through isn ’ t worth it , then you ’ re allowed to give up .
You ’ re not a quitter .
You ’ re not a failure .
You ’ re simply someone wise enough to decide they need a change @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wasn ’ t what you wanted at all .
Maybe you ’ ve been trying to make the wrong relationship work or trying to reach the top of a career ladder that you never wanted to climb .
Maybe you did what was expected of you .
Maybe you allowed your family and friends to guide your decisions , or maybe you allowed society to tell you where to go .
Either way , if you ’ re realizing that what you want is completely different than what you ’ ve been telling @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re allowed to start anew .
4 .
You ’ ve been wanting to give up for a while — but feel like you aren ’ t allowed .
You don ’ t have to fight for a relationship or career or friendship that has only been bringing you down .
You don ’ t have to stick with someone or something , simply because that ’ s the way it ’ s always been .
History doesn ’ t have to repeat itself .
It doesn ’ t have to continue @ @ @ @ @ @ @ You can say goodbye to people you ’ ve known your whole life and places you ’ ve lived your whole life .
You can completely rewrite your story .
There ’ s no rule saying you ’ re not allowed .
5 .
When you ’ re spending every single day in tears .
If you ’ re always breaking down into sobs after seeing your partner or after coming home from work , something needs to change .
You shouldn ’ t be this miserable every single day .
You shouldn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and your life .
You need to put yourself first for a change and reevaluate your priorities .
You don ’ t want to be this upset forever .
You don ’ t want to get into the habit of repeating a routine you can not stand .
6 .
When your gut is telling you it ’ s the right thing to do .
Your brain might be warning you there will be consequences if you make a change .
Your heart might be warning you people will judge you if you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you feel like this is the best move for you , if you ’ re convinced it will bring you joy , then listen to your gut .
Do what you have to do .
It doesn ’ t matter what anyone else thinks .
It matters whether you ’ re happy .

1. When you’ve realized you want to change directions. You don’t have to continue doing what you’ve been doing, simply because you’ve already started walking down a certain path. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re growing and changing. If you want something different today than you wanted yesterday, there’s nothing wrong with you. You can change your course at any point in time. You can do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.
2. When you realize you’ve been making yourself miserable. It’s never going to be easy to accomplish your goals. Every career is going to have speedbumps. Every relationship is going to have arguments. However, if you’re starting to realize the stress you’ve been putting yourself through isn’t worth it, then you’re allowed to give up. You’re not a quitter. You’re not a failure. You’re simply someone wise enough to decide they need a change.
3. When you realize this wasn’t what you wanted at all. Maybe you’ve been trying to make the wrong relationship work or trying to reach the top of a career ladder that you never wanted to climb. Maybe you did what was expected of you. Maybe you allowed your family and friends to guide your decisions, or maybe you allowed society to tell you where to go. Either way, if you’re realizing that what you want is completely different than what you’ve been telling yourself you should want, then you’re allowed to start anew.
4. You’ve been wanting to give up for a while — but feel like you aren’t allowed. You don’t have to fight for a relationship or career or friendship that has only been bringing you down. You don’t have to stick with someone or something, simply because that’s the way it’s always been. History doesn’t have to repeat itself. It doesn’t have to continue. You can do things differently. You can say goodbye to people you’ve known your whole life and places you’ve lived your whole life. You can completely rewrite your story. There’s no rule saying you’re not allowed.
5. When you’re spending every single day in tears. If you’re always breaking down into sobs after seeing your partner or after coming home from work, something needs to change. You shouldn’t be this miserable every single day. You shouldn’t feel this down about yourself and your life. You need to put yourself first for a change and reevaluate your priorities. You don’t want to be this upset forever. You don’t want to get into the habit of repeating a routine you cannot stand.
6. When your gut is telling you it’s the right thing to do. Your brain might be warning you there will be consequences if you make a change. Your heart might be warning you people will judge you if you make a change. However, if you feel like this is the best move for you, if you’re convinced it will bring you joy, then listen to your gut. Do what you have to do. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It matters whether you’re happy.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--Here’s The First Look At ‘The Conjuring 3’

One of my all time favorite horror franchises is pushing through the coronavirus pandemic as best they can and looking to bring us a new installation of the series in 2021 .
One Media just released this sneak peak into production of The Conjuring : The Devil Made Me Do It : The third Conjuring movie follows Ed and Lorraine Warren as they get pulled into the trial of Arne Cheyenne Johnson .
Johnson ’ s 1981 trial is known colloquially as the “ Devil Made Me Do It ” case and was the first time in US history that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ strategy .
Arne Cheyenne Johnson killed his landlord during an argument .
Months earlier the Warrens and Johnson were present for an exorcism on an 11-year-old boy during which Johnson taunted the demon and urged it to possess him in order to save the boy ’ s life .
During the murder , Johnson was said to be “ growling like an animal ” .
This case has previously been featured on season 2 of A Haunting called “ Where Demons Dwell ” which is available for purchase on YouTube and Amazon .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ coverage of the court case since it was the first time demonic possession was used .
Here ’ s an interview with the Warrens : And some more background on the case : If you ’ re as interested in the backstory to the Conjuring movies in general and as obsessed with Ed and Lorraine Warren as I am , there is a fantastic and VERY CREEPY book that Vera Farminga recommends , The Demonologist .
Of the book , Vera said : “ It is unlike any book I have ever read @ @ @ @ @ @ @ mystical theology .
In it , one learns just how and why mystical phenomena occur .
It scared the daylights out of me .
Profoundly .
The preface insists that it is not dangerous to read and that ‘ knowledge is power.
’ Whatever .
I felt a sense of terror every time I cracked it open .
I never read the book in the sanctity of my home .
I could only read it in flight , funnily enough .
Somehow I felt safeguarded in an airplane.
” The Conjuring 3 was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 2020 , but is now scheduled for June 4 , 2021 .

One of my all time favorite horror franchises is pushing through the coronavirus pandemic as best they can and looking to bring us a new installation of the series in 2021. One Media just released this sneak peak into production of The Conjuring: The Devil Made Me Do It:
The third Conjuring movie follows Ed and Lorraine Warren as they get pulled into the trial of Arne Cheyenne Johnson. Johnson’s 1981 trial is known colloquially as the “Devil Made Me Do It” case and was the first time in US history that demonic possession was used as a defense strategy. Arne Cheyenne Johnson killed his landlord during an argument. Months earlier the Warrens and Johnson were present for an exorcism on an 11-year-old boy during which Johnson taunted the demon and urged it to possess him in order to save the boy’s life. During the murder, Johnson was said to be “growling like an animal”.
This case has previously been featured on season 2 of A Haunting called “Where Demons Dwell” which is available for purchase on YouTube and Amazon.
There’s also a lot of coverage of the court case since it was the first time demonic possession was used. Here’s an interview with the Warrens:
And some more background on the case:
If you’re as interested in the backstory to the Conjuring movies in general and as obsessed with Ed and Lorraine Warren as I am, there is a fantastic and VERY CREEPY book that Vera Farminga recommends, The Demonologist. Of the book, Vera said:
“It is unlike any book I have ever read. It’s a book about mystical theology. In it, one learns just how and why mystical phenomena occur. It scared the daylights out of me. Profoundly. The preface insists that it is not dangerous to read and that ‘knowledge is power.’ Whatever. I felt a sense of terror every time I cracked it open. I never read the book in the sanctity of my home. I could only read it in flight, funnily enough. Somehow I felt safeguarded in an airplane.”
The Conjuring 3 was originally scheduled to be released in September 2020, but is now scheduled for June 4, 2021.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--7 Things Your Relationship Should Be Able To Withstand

1 .
Distance .
You should be able to spend a few days apart from each other without self-destructing .
You shouldn ’ t be so co-dependent that the thought of going a few hours on your own sounds impossible .
You should have your own lives .
You should have your own hobbies .
You should be independent enough to survive on your own , even if you would rather be together .
2 .
A dry spell .
If you ’ re not in the mood for a while , or if a sickness makes it impossible for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ weeks , then your whole relationship shouldn ’ t fall apart .
You should like each other for more than your bodies .
You should enjoy each other ’ s company , even when you aren ’ t stripping down , even when you ’ re simply sitting in silence on the opposite ends of the couch .
Your person should be more than someone who gets you off .
They should be someone who gets you .
3 .
Your pasts .
You probably aren ’ t the first person your partner @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to be okay with that knowledge .
You have to accept their past .
You have to accept they have baggage and unresolved issues from their old relationships .
Even though you ’ re their future , you have to be okay with their past .
You can ’ t hold it against them .
You can ’ t be upset with them for something they did before they even met you .
4 .
Your small , daily arguments .
You ’ re going to have small disagreements every once in a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ be in a relationship with someone without having silly little arguments with them about the dishes and the laundry — so what ’ s really important is how you handle those arguments .
Do you treat each other with respect ?
Do you come to fair compromises ?
Do you make sure you ’ re both satisfied in the end ?
5 .
Jealousy .
No , your partner shouldn ’ t be flirting with other people or swiping through dating apps .
However , if you ’ re jealous of their favorite @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , you should be able to push through that jealousy .
You should rest assured they want you and only you .
You shouldn ’ t be concerned they ’ re going to leave you for someone else .
You should trust they mean it when they say they love you .
6 .
Family drama .
Your families probably aren ’ t perfect .
If they see your parents or siblings or cousins at their worst , it shouldn ’ t impact your relationship .
They should stand by you , no @ @ @ @ @ @ @ shouldn ’ t be a dealbreaker for them .
It should be something they deal with because they love you , because they want to support you at all times .
7 .
Personal issues .
If you ’ re suffering from mental health issues or are grieving the loss of a loved one or are simply feeling off , your person shouldn ’ t distance themselves from you .
They should stick with you .
They should encourage you .
They should be there in whatever way you need .
They shouldn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ signs of trouble .
They should be there with you through your best and worst moments .

1. Distance. You should be able to spend a few days apart from each other without self-destructing. You shouldn’t be so co-dependent that the thought of going a few hours on your own sounds impossible. You should have your own lives. You should have your own hobbies. You should be independent enough to survive on your own, even if you would rather be together.
2. A dry spell. If you’re not in the mood for a while, or if a sickness makes it impossible for you to sleep together for a few weeks, then your whole relationship shouldn’t fall apart. You should like each other for more than your bodies. You should enjoy each other’s company, even when you aren’t stripping down, even when you’re simply sitting in silence on the opposite ends of the couch. Your person should be more than someone who gets you off. They should be someone who gets you.
3. Your pasts. You probably aren’t the first person your partner has ever loved — and you have to be okay with that knowledge. You have to accept their past. You have to accept they have baggage and unresolved issues from their old relationships. Even though you’re their future, you have to be okay with their past. You can’t hold it against them. You can’t be upset with them for something they did before they even met you.
4. Your small, daily arguments. You’re going to have small disagreements every once in a while. It’s impossible to be in a relationship with someone without having silly little arguments with them about the dishes and the laundry — so what’s really important is how you handle those arguments. Do you treat each other with respect? Do you come to fair compromises? Do you make sure you’re both satisfied in the end?
5. Jealousy. No, your partner shouldn’t be flirting with other people or swiping through dating apps. However, if you’re jealous of their favorite celebrity or a mutual friend they have, you should be able to push through that jealousy. You should rest assured they want you and only you. You shouldn’t be concerned they’re going to leave you for someone else. You should trust they mean it when they say they love you.
6. Family drama. Your families probably aren’t perfect. If they see your parents or siblings or cousins at their worst, it shouldn’t impact your relationship. They should stand by you, no matter who raised you. Your family shouldn’t be a dealbreaker for them. It should be something they deal with because they love you, because they want to support you at all times.
7. Personal issues. If you’re suffering from mental health issues or are grieving the loss of a loved one or are simply feeling off, your person shouldn’t distance themselves from you. They should stick with you. They should encourage you. They should be there in whatever way you need. They shouldn’t run away at the first signs of trouble. They should be there with you through your best and worst moments.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--6 Things You And Your Boyfriend Do That Make Your Friends Uncomfortable

1 .
Fighting in public .
You should probably wait until you ’ re in the privacy of your own home to settle your arguments .
You don ’ t want to make your friends feel awkward by fighting in front of them — and you definitely don ’ t want to get your friends involved in the argument and ask them to take sides .
It ’ s not their responsibility to figure out who is right .
Your problems are between you and your partner .
You need to learn how to come to compromises on your own @ @ @ @ @ @ @ much PDA .
It ’ s fine to give your partner a kiss here and there or to hold hands with them beneath the dinner table .
However , if you ’ re out with a group of friends , you don ’ t want to make them uncomfortable by initiating a full-on makeout session .
Your friends don ’ t want to watch you get turned on .
They don ’ t want to be forced to imagine what you look like in the bedroom together .
Do them a favor and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you get home .
3 .
Acting like you ’ re the only two people in the room .
You might feel more comfortable with your partner than anyone else around you .
You might have more to say to them and more inside jokes to share .
However , if you wanted it to be just the two of you , you could ’ ve gone on a date by yourself .
If you ’ re at a party or a dinner with friends , try to mingle .
Don ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ like everyone else is invisible to you .
Don ’ t ignore what your other friends are saying because you ’ re too busy having a private conversation with your partner .
4 .
Talking nonstop about your newest milestone .
Even though you might be excited about moving in together or planning your wedding or trying for a baby , your friends want to talk about other topics , too .
You ’ re allowed to get excited about the milestone you ’ ve hit .
You ’ re allowed to celebrate @ @ @ @ @ @ @ important to you .
Just remember your friends have lives , too .
They have things they want to share , too .
You don ’ t want every conversation to center around your relationship , even if that ’ s the only thing you ’ ve been thinking about lately .
5 .
Rehashing private moments .
Your friends probably don ’ t want to hear too many details about your sex life when you ’ re both sitting right there .
They probably don ’ t want to hear about your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ get a little awkward .
It can make it tricky for them to respond .
To put it bluntly , there are some things that should be kept between you and your partner .
6 .
Playing matchmaker .
You don ’ t have to set up your friends with your partner ’ s friends .
You don ’ t have to help them find love .
They might be perfectly happy on their own .
You can ’ t assume they want a partner ( or that you ’ re an expert @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re in a happy relationship .
They ’ ll stay out of your relationship and you can stay out of theirs .
That way , things won ’ t get messy .

1. Fighting in public. You should probably wait until you’re in the privacy of your own home to settle your arguments. You don’t want to make your friends feel awkward by fighting in front of them — and you definitely don’t want to get your friends involved in the argument and ask them to take sides. It’s not their responsibility to figure out who is right. Your problems are between you and your partner. You need to learn how to come to compromises on your own.
2. Engaging in way too much PDA. It’s fine to give your partner a kiss here and there or to hold hands with them beneath the dinner table. However, if you’re out with a group of friends, you don’t want to make them uncomfortable by initiating a full-on makeout session. Your friends don’t want to watch you get turned on. They don’t want to be forced to imagine what you look like in the bedroom together. Do them a favor and save your most intense kisses for when you get home.
3. Acting like you’re the only two people in the room. You might feel more comfortable with your partner than anyone else around you. You might have more to say to them and more inside jokes to share. However, if you wanted it to be just the two of you, you could’ve gone on a date by yourself. If you’re at a party or a dinner with friends, try to mingle. Don’t isolate yourself. Don’t act like everyone else is invisible to you. Don’t ignore what your other friends are saying because you’re too busy having a private conversation with your partner.
4. Talking nonstop about your newest milestone. Even though you might be excited about moving in together or planning your wedding or trying for a baby, your friends want to talk about other topics, too. You’re allowed to get excited about the milestone you’ve hit. You’re allowed to celebrate alongside the people who are the most important to you. Just remember your friends have lives, too. They have things they want to share, too. You don’t want every conversation to center around your relationship, even if that’s the only thing you’ve been thinking about lately.
5. Rehashing private moments. Your friends probably don’t want to hear too many details about your sex life when you’re both sitting right there. They probably don’t want to hear about your recent arguments, either. It can get a little awkward. It can make it tricky for them to respond. To put it bluntly, there are some things that should be kept between you and your partner.
6. Playing matchmaker. You don’t have to set up your friends with your partner’s friends. You don’t have to help them find love. They might be perfectly happy on their own. You can’t assume they want a partner (or that you’re an expert on love now) simply because you’re in a happy relationship. They’ll stay out of your relationship and you can stay out of theirs. That way, things won’t get messy.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-30--What Each Zodiac Sign Thinks When They See Their Person

You think about how excited you are to embark on future adventures together .
You think about how long you ’ ve been together and how much you ’ ve grown as a couple .
You think about how much you ’ ve overcome together and how proud you are of yourselves .
You think of how much you admire this person , respect this person , and want to marry this person .
You think of how good it feels to be wanted by them , and how you could never ask for anything more .
You think about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with this person than before you crossed paths .
You think about how attracted you are to this person ’ s looks and personality .
You think of all the things you ’ ve accomplished together , all the beautiful milestones you ’ ve reached .
You think about how thankful you are to have someone in your life who understands you , who doesn ’ t judge you .
You think about how lucky you are to have found a best friend you can kiss .
You think about how long it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ every second was worth the trouble .
You think about what a great team you make and how perfectly compatible you are .

Aries
You think about how excited you are to embark on future adventures together.
Taurus
You think about how long you’ve been together and how much you’ve grown as a couple.
Gemini
You think about how much you’ve overcome together and how proud you are of yourselves.
Cancer
You think of how much you admire this person, respect this person, and want to marry this person.
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Leo
You think of how good it feels to be wanted by them, and how you could never ask for anything more.
Virgo
You think about how much more amazing life has been with this person than before you crossed paths.
Libra
You think about how attracted you are to this person’s looks and personality.
Scorpio
You think of all the things you’ve accomplished together, all the beautiful milestones you’ve reached.
Sagittarius
You think about how thankful you are to have someone in your life who understands you, who doesn’t judge you.
Capricorn
You think about how lucky you are to have found a best friend you can kiss.
Aquarius
You think about how long it took you to find them and how every second was worth the trouble.
Pisces
You think about what a great team you make and how perfectly compatible you are.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-02--Science Says This Is The Scariest Movie Of All Time

Lots of horror fans claim that their personal favorite is “ the scariest movie of all time ” but now one movie has the backing of actual measurable evidence !
A UK website did a study in which they were able to monitor the heart rate of participants while they watched popular horror films in surround sound .
The participants had an average resting heart rate of 65 bpm and topped out at 86 bpm while watching the scariest selection .
Movies shown to participants included : Insidious , The Conjuring , Hereditary , Paranormal Activity , It Follows , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Babadook , The Descent , The Visit , The Exorcist , The Texas Chainsaw Massacre , Halloween , A Nightmare on Elm Street and Scream .
The movie that consistently gave people the highest elevated heart beat ?
Sinister !
True crime writer Ellison Oswalt moves his family into a house made available because the entire family was murdered under mysterious circumstances .
In the home ’ s attic , Oswalt finds a box of 8mm films containing snuff films about multiple families who were annihilated in particularly gruesome ways .
Oswalt becomes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the house .
Later , he is warned that the murdered families are connected by all having lived in the home of a previously murdered family before moving away .
It ’ s also one of those rare horror movies that has a kick ass sequel .
Sinister 2 takes place in a different murder house where a woman on the run from her abusive ex is living with her two young boys .
The boys discover the tapes and Bughuul and are pressured to take part in the family annihilation ritual .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ s deputy race to keep the family safe from dangers both real and paranormal .
Probably the scariest part of each film are the death montages of previous families : Sinister and Sinister II are on Prime Video .

Lots of horror fans claim that their personal favorite is “the scariest movie of all time” but now one movie has the backing of actual measurable evidence!
A UK website did a study in which they were able to monitor the heart rate of participants while they watched popular horror films in surround sound. The participants had an average resting heart rate of 65 bpm and topped out at 86 bpm while watching the scariest selection. Movies shown to participants included: Insidious, The Conjuring, Hereditary, Paranormal Activity, It Follows, Sinister, The Conjuring 2, The Babadook, The Descent, The Visit, The Exorcist, The Texas Chainsaw Massacre, Halloween, A Nightmare on Elm Street and Scream.
The movie that consistently gave people the highest elevated heart beat? Sinister!
Sinister is a unique horror movie about a pagan diety named Bughuul.
True crime writer Ellison Oswalt moves his family into a house made available because the entire family was murdered under mysterious circumstances. In the home’s attic, Oswalt finds a box of 8mm films containing snuff films about multiple families who were annihilated in particularly gruesome ways. Oswalt becomes spooked and moves his family out of the house. Later, he is warned that the murdered families are connected by all having lived in the home of a previously murdered family before moving away.
It’s also one of those rare horror movies that has a kick ass sequel.
Sinister 2 takes place in a different murder house where a woman on the run from her abusive ex is living with her two young boys. The boys discover the tapes and Bughuul and are pressured to take part in the family annihilation ritual. Their mother and a sympathetic Sheriff’s deputy race to keep the family safe from dangers both real and paranormal.
Probably the scariest part of each film are the death montages of previous families:
Sinister and Sinister II are on Prime Video.