thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--The Thriller Each Zodiac Sign Should Read When They’re Bored To Tears

“ During the languid days of the Christmas break , a group of thirtysomething friends from Oxford meet to welcome in the New Year together , a tradition they began as students ten years ago .
For this vacation , they ’ ve chosen an idyllic and isolated estate in the Scottish Highlands—the perfect place to get away and unwind by themselves .
The trip begins innocently enough : admiring the stunning if foreboding scenery , champagne in front of a crackling fire , and reminiscences about the past .
But after a decade , the weight of secret resentments @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s tenuous nostalgia to bear .
Amid the boisterous revelry of New Year ’ s Eve , the cord holding them together snaps , just as a historic blizzard seals the lodge off from the outside world .
Two days later , on New Year ’ s Day , one of them is dead .
.
.
and another of them did it .
Keep your friends close , the old adage says .
But how close is too close ?
” “ Everyone in Fairview knows the story .
Pretty and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ murdered by her boyfriend , Sal Singh , who then killed himself .
It was all anyone could talk about .
And five years later , Pip sees how the tragedy still haunts her town .
But she can ’ t shake the feeling that there was more to what happened that day .
She knew Sal when she was a child , and he was always so kind to her .
How could he possibly have been a killer ?
Now a senior herself , Pip decides to reexamine the closed case @ @ @ @ @ @ @ just to cast doubt on the original investigation .
But soon she discovers a trail of dark secrets that might actually prove Sal innocent…and the line between past and present begins to blur .
Someone in Fairview doesn ’ t want Pip digging around for answers , and now her own life might be in danger .
This is the story of an investigation turned obsession , full of twists and turns and with an ending you ’ ll never expect.
” “ A murder…A tragic accident…Or just parents behaving badly ?
What @ @ @ @ @ @ @ dead .
Madeline is a force to be reckoned with .
She ’ s funny , biting , and passionate ; she remembers everything and forgives no one .
Celeste is the kind of beautiful woman who makes the world stop and stare but she is paying a price for the illusion of perfection .
New to town , single mom Jane is so young that another mother mistakes her for a nanny .
She comes with a mysterious past and a sadness beyond her years .
These three women are at different @ @ @ @ @ @ @ up in the same shocking place.
” “ My name is Amber Reynolds .
There are three things you should know about me : 1 .
I ’ m in a coma .
2 .
My husband doesn ’ t love me anymore .
3 .
Sometimes I lie .
Amber wakes up in a hospital .
She can ’ t move .
She can ’ t speak .
She can ’ t open her eyes .
She can hear everyone around her , but they have no idea .
Amber doesn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ has a suspicion her husband had something to do with it .
Alternating between her paralyzed present , the week before her accident , and a series of childhood diaries from twenty years ago , this brilliant psychological thriller asks : Is something really a lie if you believe it ’ s the truth ?
” “ In 1986 , Eddie and his friends are on the verge of adolescence , spending their days biking in search of adventure .
The chalk men are their secret code , stick figures they draw for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ one morning the friends find a chalk man leading them to the woods .
They follow the message , only to find the dead body of a teenage girl .
In 2016 , Eddie is nursing a drinking problem and trying to forget his past , until one day he gets a letter containing a chalk man—the same one he and his friends saw when they found the body .
Soon he learns that all his old friends received the same note .
When one of them is killed , Eddie realizes that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ all those years ago .
But digging into the past proves more dangerous than he could have known .
Because in this town , everyone has secrets , no one is innocent , and some will do anything to bury the truth.
” The Turn Of The Key by Ruth Ware “ When she stumbles across the ad , she ’ s looking for something else completely .
But it seems like too good an opportunity to miss – a live-in nannying post , with a staggeringly generous salary .
And when Rowan @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is smitten – by the luxurious “ smart ” home fitted out with all modern conveniences , by the beautiful Scottish Highlands , and by this picture-perfect family .
What she doesn ’ t know is that she ’ s stepping into a nightmare – one that will end with a child dead and herself in prison awaiting trial for murder .
Writing to her lawyer from prison , she struggles to explain the unravelling events that led to her incarceration .
It wasn ’ t just the constant surveillance from the cameras @ @ @ @ @ @ @ malfunctioning technology that woke the household with booming music , or turned the lights off at the worst possible time .
It wasn ’ t just the girls , who turned out to be a far cry from the immaculately behaved model children she met at her interview .
It wasn ’ t even the way she was left alone for weeks at a time , with no adults around apart from the enigmatic handyman , Jack Grant .
It was everything .
She knows she ’ s made mistakes .
She admits @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , and that her behavior toward the children wasn ’ t always ideal .
She ’ s not innocent , by any means .
But , she maintains , she ’ s not guilty – at least not of murder .
Which means someone else is.
” We Were Liars by E. Lockhart “ A night out .
A few hours of fun .
That ’ s all it was meant to be .
They call themselves the May Mothers—a group of new moms whose babies were born in the same month .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ in Brooklyn ’ s Prospect Park for some much-needed adult time .
When the women go out for drinks at the hip neighborhood bar , they want a fun break from their daily routine .
But on this hot Fourth of July night , something goes terrifyingly wrong : one of the babies is taken from his crib .
Winnie , a single mom , was reluctant to leave six-week-old Midas with a babysitter , but her fellow May Mothers insisted everything would be fine .
Now he is missing .
What follows @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , during which secrets are exposed , marriages are tested , and friendships are destroyed.
” Never Tell by Lisa Gardner “ A man is dead , shot three times in his home office .
But his computer has been shot twelve times , and when the cops arrive , his pregnant wife is holding the gun .
D. D. Warren arrives on the scene and recognizes the woman – Evie Carter – from a case many years back .
Evie ’ s father was killed in a shooting that was ruled an @ @ @ @ @ @ @ coincidental murders is too many .
Flora Dane sees the murder of Conrad Carter on the TV news and immediately knows his face .
She remembers a night when she was still a victim – a hostage – and her captor knew this man .
Overcome with guilt that she never tracked him down , Flora is now determined to learn the truth of Conrad ’ s murder .
But D.D .
and Flora are about to discover that in this case the truth is a devilishly elusive thing .
As layer by @ @ @ @ @ @ @ outright lies , they wonder : How many secrets can one family have ?
” “ When Claire sees Hannah Wilson at an exclusive Manhattan hair salon , it ’ s like a knife slicing through barely healed scars .
It may have been 10 years since Claire last saw Hannah , but she has thought of her every day , and not in a good way .
So Claire does what anyone would do in her position – she stalks her .
Hannah is now Mrs. Carter , living the charmed life @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
It ’ s the life Claire used to have before Hannah came along and took it all away from her .
Back then , Claire was a happy teenager with porcelain skin and long blond wavy hair .
Now she ’ s an overweight , lazy drunk with hair the color of compost and skin to match .
And that ’ s why when Hannah advertises for a housekeeper , Claire is confident she can apply and not be recognized – especially since she has time on her hands , revenge on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ acting… .
What better way to seek retribution – and redress – than from within the beautiful Mrs. Hannah Carter ’ s own home ?
But it ’ s not just Claire who has secrets .
Everyone in that house seems to have something to hide.
” The Boy From The Woods by Harlan Coben “ Thirty years ago , Wilde was found as a boy living feral in the woods , with no memory of his past .
Now an adult , he still doesn ’ t know where he comes from @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
No one seems to take Naomi Pine ’ s disappearance seriously , not even her father-with one exception .
Hester Crimstein , a television criminal attorney , knows through her grandson that Naomi was relentlessly bullied at school .
Hester asks Wilde-with whom she shares a tragic connection-to use his unique skills to help find Naomi .
Wilde can ’ t ignore an outcast in trouble , but in order to find Naomi he must venture back into the community where he has never fit in , a place where the powerful @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that could destroy the lives of millions… secrets that Wilde must uncover before it ’ s too late.
” The Lost Night by And Bartz “ In 2009 , Edie had New York ’ s social world in her thrall .
Mercurial and beguiling , she was the shining star of a group of recent graduates living in a Brooklyn loft and treating New York like their playground .
When Edie ’ s body was found near a suicide note at the end of a long , drunken night , no one could @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and resentment scattered the group and brought the era to an abrupt end .
A decade later , Lindsay has come a long way from the drug-addled world of Calhoun Lofts .
She has devoted best friends , a cozy apartment , and a thriving career as a magazine ’ s head fact-checker .
But when a chance reunion leads Lindsay to discover an unsettling video from that hazy night , she starts to wonder if Edie was actually murdered—and , worse , if she herself was involved .
As she rifles through @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , old technology , and her fractured memories—Lindsay is forced to confront the demons of her own violent history to bring the truth to light .
”

Aries
The Hunting Party by Lucy Foley
“During the languid days of the Christmas break, a group of thirtysomething friends from Oxford meet to welcome in the New Year together, a tradition they began as students ten years ago. For this vacation, they’ve chosen an idyllic and isolated estate in the Scottish Highlands—the perfect place to get away and unwind by themselves.
The trip begins innocently enough: admiring the stunning if foreboding scenery, champagne in front of a crackling fire, and reminiscences about the past. But after a decade, the weight of secret resentments has grown too heavy for the group’s tenuous nostalgia to bear. Amid the boisterous revelry of New Year’s Eve, the cord holding them together snaps, just as a historic blizzard seals the lodge off from the outside world.
Two days later, on New Year’s Day, one of them is dead. . . and another of them did it.
For the person who is always googling astrological compatibility when they meet someone new. How You’ll Do Everything Based On Your Zodiac Sign includes an exhaustive analysis of each sign’s personality. You’ll learn which high school clique represents them (Pisces are the cool art kids), who would get eaten first in a scary movie (Gemini, obviously) to how each sign prefers to say ‘I love you’ (for Taurus, it’s with good food). Alternating between silly, sweet, and serious, this book is filled with deep dives into the mind of everyone whose birth chart you can get your hands on. Buy now
Keep your friends close, the old adage says. But how close is too close?”
Taurus
A Good Girl’s Guide To Murder by Holly Jackson
“Everyone in Fairview knows the story.
Pretty and popular high school senior Andie Bell was murdered by her boyfriend, Sal Singh, who then killed himself. It was all anyone could talk about. And five years later, Pip sees how the tragedy still haunts her town.
But she can’t shake the feeling that there was more to what happened that day. She knew Sal when she was a child, and he was always so kind to her. How could he possibly have been a killer?
Now a senior herself, Pip decides to reexamine the closed case for her final project, at first just to cast doubt on the original investigation. But soon she discovers a trail of dark secrets that might actually prove Sal innocent…and the line between past and present begins to blur. Someone in Fairview doesn’t want Pip digging around for answers, and now her own life might be in danger.
This is the story of an investigation turned obsession, full of twists and turns and with an ending you’ll never expect.”
Gemini
Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
“A murder…A tragic accident…Or just parents behaving badly? What’s indisputable is that someone is dead.
Madeline is a force to be reckoned with. She’s funny, biting, and passionate; she remembers everything and forgives no one. Celeste is the kind of beautiful woman who makes the world stop and stare but she is paying a price for the illusion of perfection. New to town, single mom Jane is so young that another mother mistakes her for a nanny. She comes with a mysterious past and a sadness beyond her years. These three women are at different crossroads, but they will all wind up in the same shocking place.”
Cancer
Sometimes I Lie by Alice Feeney
“My name is Amber Reynolds. There are three things you should know about me:
1. I’m in a coma.
2. My husband doesn’t love me anymore.
3. Sometimes I lie.
Amber wakes up in a hospital. She can’t move. She can’t speak. She can’t open her eyes. She can hear everyone around her, but they have no idea. Amber doesn’t remember what happened, but she has a suspicion her husband had something to do with it. Alternating between her paralyzed present, the week before her accident, and a series of childhood diaries from twenty years ago, this brilliant psychological thriller asks: Is something really a lie if you believe it’s the truth?”
Leo
The Chalk Man by C.J. Tudor
“In 1986, Eddie and his friends are on the verge of adolescence, spending their days biking in search of adventure. The chalk men are their secret code, stick figures they draw for one another as hidden messages. But one morning the friends find a chalk man leading them to the woods. They follow the message, only to find the dead body of a teenage girl.
In 2016, Eddie is nursing a drinking problem and trying to forget his past, until one day he gets a letter containing a chalk man—the same one he and his friends saw when they found the body. Soon he learns that all his old friends received the same note. When one of them is killed, Eddie realizes that saving himself means figuring out what happened all those years ago. But digging into the past proves more dangerous than he could have known. Because in this town, everyone has secrets, no one is innocent, and some will do anything to bury the truth.”
Virgo
The Turn Of The Key by Ruth Ware
“When she stumbles across the ad, she’s looking for something else completely. But it seems like too good an opportunity to miss – a live-in nannying post, with a staggeringly generous salary. And when Rowan Caine arrives at Heatherbrae House, she is smitten – by the luxurious “smart” home fitted out with all modern conveniences, by the beautiful Scottish Highlands, and by this picture-perfect family.
What she doesn’t know is that she’s stepping into a nightmare – one that will end with a child dead and herself in prison awaiting trial for murder.
Writing to her lawyer from prison, she struggles to explain the unravelling events that led to her incarceration. It wasn’t just the constant surveillance from the cameras installed around the house, or the malfunctioning technology that woke the household with booming music, or turned the lights off at the worst possible time. It wasn’t just the girls, who turned out to be a far cry from the immaculately behaved model children she met at her interview. It wasn’t even the way she was left alone for weeks at a time, with no adults around apart from the enigmatic handyman, Jack Grant.
It was everything.
She knows she’s made mistakes. She admits that she lied to obtain the post, and that her behavior toward the children wasn’t always ideal. She’s not innocent, by any means. But, she maintains, she’s not guilty – at least not of murder. Which means someone else is.”
Libra
We Were Liars by E. Lockhart
“A beautiful and distinguished family.
A private island.
A brilliant, damaged girl; a passionate, political boy.
A group of four friends—the Liars—whose friendship turns destructive.
A revolution. An accident. A secret.
Lies upon lies.
True love.
The truth.”
Scorpio
The Perfect Mother by Aimee Molloy
“A night out. A few hours of fun. That’s all it was meant to be.
They call themselves the May Mothers—a group of new moms whose babies were born in the same month. Twice a week, they get together in Brooklyn’s Prospect Park for some much-needed adult time.
When the women go out for drinks at the hip neighborhood bar, they want a fun break from their daily routine. But on this hot Fourth of July night, something goes terrifyingly wrong: one of the babies is taken from his crib. Winnie, a single mom, was reluctant to leave six-week-old Midas with a babysitter, but her fellow May Mothers insisted everything would be fine. Now he is missing. What follows is a heart-pounding race to find Midas, during which secrets are exposed, marriages are tested, and friendships are destroyed.”
Sagittarius
Never Tell by Lisa Gardner
“A man is dead, shot three times in his home office. But his computer has been shot twelve times, and when the cops arrive, his pregnant wife is holding the gun.
D. D. Warren arrives on the scene and recognizes the woman – Evie Carter – from a case many years back. Evie’s father was killed in a shooting that was ruled an accident. But for D.D., two coincidental murders is too many.
Flora Dane sees the murder of Conrad Carter on the TV news and immediately knows his face. She remembers a night when she was still a victim – a hostage – and her captor knew this man. Overcome with guilt that she never tracked him down, Flora is now determined to learn the truth of Conrad’s murder.
But D.D. and Flora are about to discover that in this case the truth is a devilishly elusive thing. As layer by layer they peel away the half-truths and outright lies, they wonder: How many secrets can one family have?”
Capricorn
The House Keeper by Natalie Barelli
“When Claire sees Hannah Wilson at an exclusive Manhattan hair salon, it’s like a knife slicing through barely healed scars. It may have been 10 years since Claire last saw Hannah, but she has thought of her every day, and not in a good way. So Claire does what anyone would do in her position – she stalks her.
Hannah is now Mrs. Carter, living the charmed life that should have been Claire’s. It’s the life Claire used to have before Hannah came along and took it all away from her.
Back then, Claire was a happy teenager with porcelain skin and long blond wavy hair. Now she’s an overweight, lazy drunk with hair the color of compost and skin to match. And that’s why when Hannah advertises for a housekeeper, Claire is confident she can apply and not be recognized – especially since she has time on her hands, revenge on her mind, and a talent for acting….
What better way to seek retribution – and redress – than from within the beautiful Mrs. Hannah Carter’s own home?
But it’s not just Claire who has secrets. Everyone in that house seems to have something to hide.”
Aquarius
The Boy From The Woods by Harlan Coben
“Thirty years ago, Wilde was found as a boy living feral in the woods, with no memory of his past. Now an adult, he still doesn’t know where he comes from, and another child has gone missing.
No one seems to take Naomi Pine’s disappearance seriously, not even her father-with one exception. Hester Crimstein, a television criminal attorney, knows through her grandson that Naomi was relentlessly bullied at school. Hester asks Wilde-with whom she shares a tragic connection-to use his unique skills to help find Naomi.
Wilde can’t ignore an outcast in trouble, but in order to find Naomi he must venture back into the community where he has never fit in, a place where the powerful are protected even when they harbor secrets that could destroy the lives of millions… secrets that Wilde must uncover before it’s too late.”
Pisces
The Lost Night by And Bartz
“In 2009, Edie had New York’s social world in her thrall. Mercurial and beguiling, she was the shining star of a group of recent graduates living in a Brooklyn loft and treating New York like their playground. When Edie’s body was found near a suicide note at the end of a long, drunken night, no one could believe it. Grief, shock, and resentment scattered the group and brought the era to an abrupt end.
A decade later, Lindsay has come a long way from the drug-addled world of Calhoun Lofts. She has devoted best friends, a cozy apartment, and a thriving career as a magazine’s head fact-checker. But when a chance reunion leads Lindsay to discover an unsettling video from that hazy night, she starts to wonder if Edie was actually murdered—and, worse, if she herself was involved. As she rifles through those months in 2009—combing through case files, old technology, and her fractured memories—Lindsay is forced to confront the demons of her own violent history to bring the truth to light.”


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--30 Misleading Pieces Of Advice About Love, Happiness, And Success That Will Lead You In The Wrong Di

30 Misleading Pieces Of Advice About Love, Happiness, And Success That Will Lead You In The Wrong Direction

Like sometimes it ’ s okay and even better for you to give up .
If you are so hyper focused on trying to make one thing happen , you ’ ll completely miss the opportunities around you .
Also 100 % sometimes you should just give up on a relationship , not all of them are worth saving .
Sometimes you have to go out there and make sure it happens .
3 .
“ Wait 5-15 minutes before replying to a text or else you ’ ll seem desperate.
” I freaking hate it when people do this @ @ @ @ @ @ @ then answer 15 minutes later ?
You ’ re not desperate if you do this , you ’ re just much easier to talk to .
While true , it is misleading , because money can greatly contribute to providing security and things that tend to make people happy .
5 .
“ Just think , it could be worse .
Someone has it worse off than you.
” This can be an incredibly destructive thing to say to someone .
Just because someone else might have a broken leg , it doesn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ any less .
6 .
“ Flattery will get you nowhere.
” It actually helps you get most places to kiss ass .
The thing about family is , you didn ’ t chose them , but your friends ?
They were your choice .
8 .
“ If you can ’ t love yourself , you ’ re unable to love anyone else.
” A lot of people who struggle with mental health issues ( or just regular people going through shit ) have issues loving themselves , but that doesn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ able to feel love for others or even love people romantically .
Loving yourself and loving other people is so incredibly different .
Turns out my heart isn ’ t the most logical part of me .
This well intentioned advice can lead to relationship problems .
Many times it is better to sleep , relax , and awaken with more level-headed emotions .
Polite honest dialog leads to the best relationships .
The cover is supposed to tell you what ’ s in the book .
If you choose to dress a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ advertisement to the world .
12 .
“ If he ’ s mean to you , it means he likes you.
” No , it means he abuses women .
No it doesn ’ t… And actually it ’ s a dangerous idea , one that alongside many other shitty clichés about relationships have been creating problems to generations of people .
14 .
“ If you don ’ t have anything nice to say , don ’ t say anything at all.
” No… Karen needs to hear how much of a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ need to change Karen !
15 .
“ Try your best and you will succeed.
” Sometimes , no matter how hard you try , you just won ’ t succeed .
It ’ ll give you the best chance , but no guarantee .
16 .
“ Honesty is the best policy.
” This is bad advice .
I think it doesn ’ t prepare you for the price of telling the truth ( as you perceive it ) .
Also , what if you have no idea what the fuck you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a lot of ways it could go wrong .
Okay obviously this works out in some situations but then take someone with anxiety whose intuition is telling them all the wrong things but they ’ ve always heard this saying so whatever their “ gut ” ( anxiety ) is telling them must be true .
It doesn ’ t mean don ’ t work hard .
It means it doesn ’ t matter how smart you are if you don ’ t work hard .
Sorry , you can ’ t always @ @ @ @ @ @ @ being loud , obnoxious , self-centered , etc .
We live in a society and your freedom of being yourself ends where it interferes with other people ’ s freedom .
Let people express their feelings and cry if that ’ s what they need .
No , not everyone can keep it good always no matter what .
I think it ’ s actually healthier to accept the bad feelings so you can go through them and eventually feel better .
While inspiring , people can often take this as an excuse @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to eventually achieve something that makes them happy .
23 .
“ You have nothing to lose.
” Oftentimes your self-respect , dignity , and pride are what you actually have to lose .
24 .
“ Don ’ t let anyone tell you what you can or can ’ t do.
” People think this means that they can shut down any potentially-helpful criticism if it isn ’ t what they want to hear .
Rather depends on how you spend it .
I mean there are circumstances when this works but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ doesn ’ t .
Especially when the “ them ” is a bully or abuser .
27 .
“ If you follow your dreams , they will come true.
” Bullshit .
You not only have to work your ass off to achieve that dream , you also need to work to support yourself UNTIL you achieve said dream .
Plus , you need the talent , connections , know-how , and temperament to be whatever it is you want to be .
Following your dreams is fine , just make sure you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , or else you ’ re just following them to watch someone else live them .
Naw dude all that pent up negative emotions will manifest as depression .
29 .
“ Live each day like it ’ s your last.
” The things I would do knowing that it was my last day would make waking up the next day rough .
30 .
“ Good things come to those who wait.
” Nope .
Go out there and make it happen .

Be careful, because these pieces of advice mentioned on Ask Reddit can be misleading.
1. “Never give up!”
Like sometimes it’s okay and even better for you to give up. If you are so hyper focused on trying to make one thing happen, you’ll completely miss the opportunities around you. Also 100% sometimes you should just give up on a relationship, not all of them are worth saving.
2. “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen.”
Sometimes you have to go out there and make sure it happens.
3. “Wait 5-15 minutes before replying to a text or else you’ll seem desperate.”
I freaking hate it when people do this. You leave me on read, then answer 15 minutes later? You’re not desperate if you do this, you’re just much easier to talk to.
4. “Money can’t buy happiness.”
While true, it is misleading, because money can greatly contribute to providing security and things that tend to make people happy.
5. “Just think, it could be worse. Someone has it worse off than you.”
This can be an incredibly destructive thing to say to someone. Just because someone else might have a broken leg, it doesn’t make your broken toe hurt any less.
6. “Flattery will get you nowhere.”
It actually helps you get most places to kiss ass.
7. “Blood is thicker than water.”
The thing about family is, you didn’t chose them, but your friends? They were your choice.
8. “If you can’t love yourself, you’re unable to love anyone else.”
A lot of people who struggle with mental health issues (or just regular people going through shit) have issues loving themselves, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not able to feel love for others or even love people romantically. Loving yourself and loving other people is so incredibly different.
9. “Follow your heart.”
Turns out my heart isn’t the most logical part of me.
10. “Never go to bed angry.”
This well intentioned advice can lead to relationship problems. Many times it is better to sleep, relax, and awaken with more level-headed emotions. Polite honest dialog leads to the best relationships.
11. “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
The cover is supposed to tell you what’s in the book. If you choose to dress a certain way, that’s your advertisement to the world.
12. “If he’s mean to you, it means he likes you.”
No, it means he abuses women.
13. “Love conquers all.”
No it doesn’t… And actually it’s a dangerous idea, one that alongside many other shitty clichés about relationships have been creating problems to generations of people.
14. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
No… Karen needs to hear how much of a bitch she is to everyone. Things need to change Karen!
15. “Try your best and you will succeed.”
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you just won’t succeed. It’ll give you the best chance, but no guarantee.
16. “Honesty is the best policy.”
This is bad advice. I think it doesn’t prepare you for the price of telling the truth (as you perceive it). Also, what if you have no idea what the fuck you’re talking about? There are a lot of ways it could go wrong.
17. “Always trust your gut.”
Okay obviously this works out in some situations but then take someone with anxiety whose intuition is telling them all the wrong things but they’ve always heard this saying so whatever their “gut” (anxiety) is telling them must be true.
18. “Work smarter, not harder.”
It doesn’t mean don’t work hard. It means it doesn’t matter how smart you are if you don’t work hard.
19. “Be yourself.”
Sorry, you can’t always be yourself. Especially if it entails being loud, obnoxious, self-centered, etc. We live in a society and your freedom of being yourself ends where it interferes with other people’s freedom.
20. “Don’t cry.”
Let people express their feelings and cry if that’s what they need.
21. “It’s all about attitude.”
No, not everyone can keep it good always no matter what. I think it’s actually healthier to accept the bad feelings so you can go through them and eventually feel better.
22. “Do what makes you happy.”
While inspiring, people can often take this as an excuse to slack, instead of working hard to eventually achieve something that makes them happy.
23. “You have nothing to lose.”
Oftentimes your self-respect, dignity, and pride are what you actually have to lose.
24. “Don’t let anyone tell you what you can or can’t do.”
People think this means that they can shut down any potentially-helpful criticism if it isn’t what they want to hear.
25. “Time heals all wounds.”
Rather depends on how you spend it.
26. “Ignore them and they’ll stop.”
I mean there are circumstances when this works but 99% of the time, it doesn’t. Especially when the “them” is a bully or abuser.
27. “If you follow your dreams, they will come true.”
Bullshit. You not only have to work your ass off to achieve that dream, you also need to work to support yourself UNTIL you achieve said dream. Plus, you need the talent, connections, know-how, and temperament to be whatever it is you want to be.
Following your dreams is fine, just make sure you’re working toward them, too, or else you’re just following them to watch someone else live them.
28. “Just ignore it.”
Naw dude all that pent up negative emotions will manifest as depression.
29. “Live each day like it’s your last.”
The things I would do knowing that it was my last day would make waking up the next day rough.
30. “Good things come to those who wait.”
Nope. Go out there and make it happen.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--6 Brutally Honest Reasons You Might Want To Postpone Your 2020 Wedding

If you ’ re getting married later in the year , it ’ s hard to determine whether you should postpone your wedding or keep your fingers crossed .
There ’ s no telling what ’ s going to happen tomorrow , let alone a few weeks or months from now .
But considering life isn ’ t going to return to normal anytime soon , here are some signs you should probably consider postponing your wedding until next year : 1 .
If you want the whole shebang — the bridal shower , the bachelorette party , the rehearsal @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you to have your wedding by the time your date rolls around .
But are you going to have the chance to have a bridal shower a month before and a bachelorette party two months before ?
It ’ s not greedy to want the whole bridal experience .
This is your only wedding .
You shouldn ’ t settle for less than you ’ ve dreamed about since you were a little girl .
2 .
If you don ’ t want masks in the photographs you ’ re paying thousands of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ gatherings are allowed by the time your wedding date arrives , you ’ re probably going to need to stay cautious .
That means guests could be wearing masks in all your photographs .
There are even bridal masks being made — and you probably don ’ t want to walk down the aisle in one .
3 .
If you want everyone to hug and kiss and dance and drink to the music .
If you planned a big wedding , you probably want all the bells and whistles that come along @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You want to drink .
You want to have fun — and you want your loved ones to feel the same .
You don ’ t want them shying away from you ( or the dance floor ) because they ’ re scared to get too close to anyone .
It could ruin the magic .
4 .
If you want your relatives out of town to watch you say your vows .
If your family lives in another state , or another country , there ’ s a chance they aren @ @ @ @ @ @ @ on a plane anytime soon .
You could always livestream your wedding , but if you want certain special people there in person and they live far away ( or are in high-risk groups ) , it might be best to hold off on your wedding for now .
Besides , it ’ s better to be safe than sorry .
5 .
If you don ’ t want all the weekend dates to be gone .
The 2021 wedding scene is going to be chaotic .
There are already a lot of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are brides who originally planned on getting married that year before all of this happened .
If you wait until the last second to postpone your wedding , other brides are going to snatch up weekend dates .
You might be stuck holding your wedding in the middle of the week — and that is not what you paid for .
6 .
If you are getting overwhelmed by the uncertainty .
You don ’ t want to look back on the beautiful wedding you put so much time and effort into , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ don ’ t want your guests to be talking about your party for years to come for the wrong reasons .
You ’ re still going to be madly in love next year , so waiting might be worth it in the end .
That way , you can celebrate with the normal amount of stress .

If you’re getting married later in the year, it’s hard to determine whether you should postpone your wedding or keep your fingers crossed. There’s no telling what’s going to happen tomorrow, let alone a few weeks or months from now. But considering life isn’t going to return to normal anytime soon, here are some signs you should probably consider postponing your wedding until next year:
1. If you want the whole shebang — the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, the rehearsal dinner. Maybe your venue will allow you to have your wedding by the time your date rolls around. But are you going to have the chance to have a bridal shower a month before and a bachelorette party two months before? It’s not greedy to want the whole bridal experience. This is your only wedding. You shouldn’t settle for less than you’ve dreamed about since you were a little girl.
2. If you don’t want masks in the photographs you’re paying thousands of dollars to own. Even if large gatherings are allowed by the time your wedding date arrives, you’re probably going to need to stay cautious. That means guests could be wearing masks in all your photographs. There are even bridal masks being made — and you probably don’t want to walk down the aisle in one.
3. If you want everyone to hug and kiss and dance and drink to the music. If you planned a big wedding, you probably want all the bells and whistles that come along with one. You want to dance. You want to drink. You want to have fun — and you want your loved ones to feel the same. You don’t want them shying away from you (or the dance floor) because they’re scared to get too close to anyone. It could ruin the magic.
4. If you want your relatives out of town to watch you say your vows. If your family lives in another state, or another country, there’s a chance they aren’t going to feel comfortable getting on a plane anytime soon. You could always livestream your wedding, but if you want certain special people there in person and they live far away (or are in high-risk groups), it might be best to hold off on your wedding for now. Besides, it’s better to be safe than sorry.
5. If you don’t want all the weekend dates to be gone. The 2021 wedding scene is going to be chaotic. There are already a lot of brides moving their date, and there are brides who originally planned on getting married that year before all of this happened. If you wait until the last second to postpone your wedding, other brides are going to snatch up weekend dates. You might be stuck holding your wedding in the middle of the week — and that is not what you paid for.
6. If you are getting overwhelmed by the uncertainty. You don’t want to look back on the beautiful wedding you put so much time and effort into, and only remember the virus. You don’t want your guests to be talking about your party for years to come for the wrong reasons. You’re still going to be madly in love next year, so waiting might be worth it in the end. That way, you can celebrate with the normal amount of stress.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--If You Want Someone Spontaneous, You Shouldn’t Date Me

I consider myself adventurous , but I ’ m not even close to spontaneous .
I will go hiking with you .
Road tripping .
Skydiving .
Bungee jumping .
White water rafting .
I ’ m up for absolutely anything — as long as you give me plenty of time to prepare .
I ’ m a planner .
An overthinker .
A worrier .
I need to set plans in advance so I can get ready for them , both mentally and physically .
I ’ m not the type of person who is going to agree to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ morning without any warning ahead of time .
I ’ m not going to be in the mood .
I ’ m not going to enjoy myself .
Changing plans at the last second freaks me out .
Even something as small as finding out extra people are going to be joining us when I expected just the two of us will throw me off .
I don ’ t like surprises .
I don ’ t like unexpected guests or unplanned activities .
I like to know what I ’ m getting @ @ @ @ @ @ @ If you want someone spontaneous , you shouldn ’ t date me .
If you text me at the last second , inviting me out , you ’ re not going to get a yes from me .
You need to let me know early on in the day , or even better , early on in the week .
Honestly , I will be up for pretty much anything .
I will be willing to do whatever you want .
As long as you ask me about it early enough .
I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the morning if you give me a head ’ s up ahead of time — but if you don ’ t , then I ’ m going to be in my pajamas by the time you text me to meet you .
I ’ m going to be ready to stay in for the night .
I ’ m not going to want to change my plans because it will require a shift in my thinking , in my attitude .
I understand some people like to live in the moment and make @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me , asking me to hang out at the last second makes me feel like you don ’ t respect my time or my sanity .
It makes me feel like you don ’ t know me at all , because if you did , then you would try to make me feel comfortable .
You would try to meet me in the middle .
You would try to set plans at least a little earlier than you usually would .
If you want someone spontaneous , someone who is going to drop @ @ @ @ @ @ @ second you text , then I ’ m not the right person for you .
If you want someone who will get excited about attending a party at the last minute , in the middle of the night , then you ’ re not the right person for me .
If you want someone who is going to book plane tickets across the country on a whim , without packing bags or coming up with an itinerary , then I ’ m not the right person for you .
If you want someone @ @ @ @ @ @ @ at a moment ’ s notice , without prepping and planning , then I ’ m not the right person for you .
And you ’ re definitely not the right person for me .

I consider myself adventurous, but I’m not even close to spontaneous. I will go hiking with you. Road tripping. Skydiving. Bungee jumping. White water rafting. I’m up for absolutely anything — as long as you give me plenty of time to prepare.
I’m a planner. An overthinker. A worrier. I need to set plans in advance so I can get ready for them, both mentally and physically. I’m not the type of person who is going to agree to a random drive at two in the morning without any warning ahead of time. I’m not going to be in the mood. I’m not going to enjoy myself.
Changing plans at the last second freaks me out. Even something as small as finding out extra people are going to be joining us when I expected just the two of us will throw me off. I don’t like surprises. I don’t like unexpected guests or unplanned activities. I like to know what I’m getting myself into as early as possible.
If you want someone spontaneous, you shouldn’t date me. If you text me at the last second, inviting me out, you’re not going to get a yes from me. You need to let me know early on in the day, or even better, early on in the week.
Honestly, I will be up for pretty much anything. I will be willing to do whatever you want. As long as you ask me about it early enough. I’ll stay out until two in the morning if you give me a head’s up ahead of time — but if you don’t, then I’m going to be in my pajamas by the time you text me to meet you. I’m going to be ready to stay in for the night. I’m not going to want to change my plans because it will require a shift in my thinking, in my attitude.
I understand some people like to live in the moment and make plans on the fly, but for me, asking me to hang out at the last second makes me feel like you don’t respect my time or my sanity. It makes me feel like you don’t know me at all, because if you did, then you would try to make me feel comfortable. You would try to meet me in the middle. You would try to set plans at least a little earlier than you usually would.
If you want someone spontaneous, someone who is going to drop everything to hang out with you the second you text, then I’m not the right person for you.
If you want someone who will get excited about attending a party at the last minute, in the middle of the night, then you’re not the right person for me.
If you want someone who is going to book plane tickets across the country on a whim, without packing bags or coming up with an itinerary, then I’m not the right person for you.
If you want someone who is ready to leave the house at a moment’s notice, without prepping and planning, then I’m not the right person for you. And you’re definitely not the right person for me.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--Keeping Busy Keeps Me From Spiraling

Keeping Busy Keeps Me From Spiraling

Keeping busy keeps me feeling productive .
Even if I ’ m not in the greatest emotional state , at least , at the end of the week I can look back at everything I ’ ve accomplished .
I can be proud of myself in at least one area of my life .
I can feel like I ’ m gaining forward momentum , like I ’ m not as stuck as I ’ ve been telling myself , like I ’ m getting closer and closer to my goals .
Keeping busy keeps me in a routine — @ @ @ @ @ @ @ on routine .
I could just as easily get into the habit of sleeping in every single day , of doing nothing , of accomplishing zero .
I could easily spend my days crying , spend my nights moping , and it would be hard for me to stop .
That ’ s why I try my hardest to stick to a healthier routine , to continuously better myself , to try to get things done , even when I ’ m not in the mood .
Keeping busy keeps me from spiraling @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me .
It forces my brain to focus on something other than the pain .
I know it ’ s only a temporary solution .
I know I ’ m going to have to cope with my emotions eventually .
But in the meantime , it keeps me grounded .
It keeps me from falling back on other coping mechanisms , more toxic coping mechanisms , like smoking or drinking .
My routine is the healthiest way to give myself a break from my dark thoughts .
It ’ s not perfect , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of my alternatives .
Keeping busy keeps me from giving up hope .
It makes me feel like my life is headed somewhere , like things are going to get better , like I ’ m headed down the right path .
It helps me ignore the voice in the back of my head warning me that there ’ s no point , that my effort is useless , that I ’ m wasting my time .
It helps me feel like I have some semblance of control over my own life , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
It makes me feel more powerful , even during the moments when my emotions are tricking me into feeling weak .
Keeping busy keeps me from falling apart .
Honestly , I don ’ t know how to relax anymore .
I have a long to-do list that keeps me occupied from the moment I wake up in the morning until I fall asleep at night .
On the rare occasions when I ’ m running ahead of schedule , when I have some downtime for myself at the end of the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ what to do with myself .
I don ’ t know how to unwind , how to let loose , how to enjoy myself .
Even though a part of me is annoyed by my schedule and wants to finish everything as quickly as possible , I actually prefer it better when my mind is occupied , when it is kept from wandering .
After all , too much time leads to too much thinking .
And too much thinking leads to too much pain .
Keeping busy keeps me sane .
It @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s helping me today .

Keeping busy keeps me feeling productive. Even if I’m not in the greatest emotional state, at least, at the end of the week I can look back at everything I’ve accomplished. I can be proud of myself in at least one area of my life. I can feel like I’m gaining forward momentum, like I’m not as stuck as I’ve been telling myself, like I’m getting closer and closer to my goals.
Keeping busy keeps me in a routine — and I’m someone who thrives on routine. I could just as easily get into the habit of sleeping in every single day, of doing nothing, of accomplishing zero. I could easily spend my days crying, spend my nights moping, and it would be hard for me to stop. That’s why I try my hardest to stick to a healthier routine, to continuously better myself, to try to get things done, even when I’m not in the mood.
Keeping busy keeps me from spiraling. It distracts me. It occupies me. It forces my brain to focus on something other than the pain. I know it’s only a temporary solution. I know I’m going to have to cope with my emotions eventually. But in the meantime, it keeps me grounded. It keeps me from falling back on other coping mechanisms, more toxic coping mechanisms, like smoking or drinking. My routine is the healthiest way to give myself a break from my dark thoughts. It’s not perfect, but it’s better than most of my alternatives.
Keeping busy keeps me from giving up hope. It makes me feel like my life is headed somewhere, like things are going to get better, like I’m headed down the right path. It helps me ignore the voice in the back of my head warning me that there’s no point, that my effort is useless, that I’m wasting my time. It helps me feel like I have some semblance of control over my own life, like I can make my own decisions. It makes me feel more powerful, even during the moments when my emotions are tricking me into feeling weak.
Keeping busy keeps me from falling apart. Honestly, I don’t know how to relax anymore. I have a long to-do list that keeps me occupied from the moment I wake up in the morning until I fall asleep at night. On the rare occasions when I’m running ahead of schedule, when I have some downtime for myself at the end of the day, I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to unwind, how to let loose, how to enjoy myself. Even though a part of me is annoyed by my schedule and wants to finish everything as quickly as possible, I actually prefer it better when my mind is occupied, when it is kept from wandering. After all, too much time leads to too much thinking. And too much thinking leads to too much pain.
Keeping busy keeps me sane. It might not help forever. But it’s helping me today.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--The Truth Is, Sometimes You’re Going To Get Screwed Over

There are going to be times when you do everything right — when you make the right decisions , when you take the right steps — and are going to get screwed over anyway .
You didn ’ t do anything wrong .
You couldn ’ t have planned for this to happen .
But it did .
And there ’ s nothing you can do to change it .
The only thing you ’ re in control of is how you react to the situation , how you bounce back from whatever you were put through , how you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ start hating the world , hating yourself , hating everyone around you ?
Do you self-destruct , spiral , throw away all of your hard work because you ’ re filled with so much rage ?
Or do you make the best of your situation ?
Do you decide you aren ’ t going to let your predicament get you down for long and keep chugging along , keep moving forward , keep your hopes high ?
The harsh truth is , no matter what you do , no matter how perfect you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ plan or overthink , sometimes you ’ re going to get screwed over .
Instead of letting that scare you , you should let it comfort you .
After all , this means that you shouldn ’ t be too upset with yourself when your world is flipped upside down , because some things are completely out of your control .
Some things aren ’ t your fault .
You aren ’ t to blame .
You aren ’ t a failure .
You didn ’ t deserve for this to happen to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a way , understanding that shitty things are bound to happen to you is inspirational .
It ’ s why you shouldn ’ t spend your entire life inside of your comfort zone .
It ’ s why you should push yourself to take risks .
It ’ s why you should follow your heart , follow your dreams , follow your gut , because even if you do all the ‘ right ’ things , there ’ s still a chance you could end up in a shitty situation .
You might @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You might as well reach for the stars and see where you land .
The truth is , your life isn ’ t always going to go the way you planned .
You ’ re going to need to be flexible .
You ’ re going to need to find ways to recover when you go through a heartache or a failure or a loss .
You ’ re going to need to figure out how you can grow from what ’ s happened to you .
As hard as it is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ going to get screwed over .
Sometimes you ’ re going to get disappointed .
Sometimes you ’ re going to get stuck in a situation you never deserved to be in .
This doesn ’ t mean you ’ re a failure or a fuck up .
It ’ s simply part of life .
And another part of life is finding ways to accept what ’ s happened to you and move forward .
You can ’ t be upset about the shit life has thrown at you forever .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to refuse to give up .
You have to learn how to handle the bad things and hold out for the good .

There are going to be times when you do everything right — when you make the right decisions, when you take the right steps — and are going to get screwed over anyway. You didn’t do anything wrong. You couldn’t have planned for this to happen. But it did. And there’s nothing you can do to change it. The only thing you’re in control of is how you react to the situation, how you bounce back from whatever you were put through, how you choose to move forward.
Do you start hating the world, hating yourself, hating everyone around you? Do you self-destruct, spiral, throw away all of your hard work because you’re filled with so much rage? Or do you make the best of your situation? Do you decide you aren’t going to let your predicament get you down for long and keep chugging along, keep moving forward, keep your hopes high?
The harsh truth is, no matter what you do, no matter how perfect you are, no matter how much you plan or overthink, sometimes you’re going to get screwed over. Instead of letting that scare you, you should let it comfort you.
After all, this means that you shouldn’t be too upset with yourself when your world is flipped upside down, because some things are completely out of your control. Some things aren’t your fault. You aren’t to blame. You aren’t a failure. You didn’t deserve for this to happen to you. It just happened.
In a way, understanding that shitty things are bound to happen to you is inspirational. It’s why you shouldn’t spend your entire life inside of your comfort zone. It’s why you should push yourself to take risks. It’s why you should follow your heart, follow your dreams, follow your gut, because even if you do all the ‘right’ things, there’s still a chance you could end up in a shitty situation. You might as well do what makes you happiest. You might as well reach for the stars and see where you land.
The truth is, your life isn’t always going to go the way you planned. You’re going to need to be flexible. You’re going to need to find ways to recover when you go through a heartache or a failure or a loss. You’re going to need to figure out how you can grow from what’s happened to you.
As hard as it is to hear, sometimes you’re going to get screwed over. Sometimes you’re going to get disappointed. Sometimes you’re going to get stuck in a situation you never deserved to be in.
This doesn’t mean you’re a failure or a fuck up. It’s simply part of life. And another part of life is finding ways to accept what’s happened to you and move forward. You can’t be upset about the shit life has thrown at you forever. You have to keep going. You have to refuse to give up. You have to learn how to handle the bad things and hold out for the good.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-23--One Word To Describe Each Zodiac Sign’s Coping Mechanism

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thoughtcatalog--2020-04-24--The Way You Know Each Zodiac Sign Is About To Break Up With You

They grow distant .
They stop answering your texts quickly .
They stop setting plans every weekend .
They get moody .
They complain about everything you do .
They start fights over every little thing .
They stop showing interest in talking to you , kissing you , touching you , having sex with you .
They stop telling you every detail about their day .
They give you one-word answers .
They avoid serious conversations .
They stop caring .
They don ’ t call you out on your mistakes anymore .
They don ’ t freak out @ @ @ @ @ @ @ They don ’ t care enough to argue .
They point out your flaws .
They pick fights .
They give you reasons to break up with them .
They stop saying I love you .
They stop doing cute things for you .
They stop putting in the effort .
They spend a lot of time crying over the relationship .
A lot of time questioning the relationship .
They compare your relationship to every other relationship , to friends , to exes , to strangers .
They are blunt with you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ how much longer the relationship is going to last .
They withdraw emotionally .
They stop opening up .
They put up walls again .
They stop talking about their future with you .
They stop setting plans for too far ahead .

Aries
They grow distant. They stop answering your texts quickly. They stop setting plans every weekend.
Taurus
They get moody. They complain about everything you do. They start fights over every little thing.
Gemini
They stop showing interest in talking to you, kissing you, touching you, having sex with you.
Cancer
They stop telling you every detail about their day. They give you one-word answers. They avoid serious conversations.
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Leo
They stop caring. They don’t call you out on your mistakes anymore. They don’t freak out when you do something wrong anymore. They don’t care enough to argue.
Virgo
They point out your flaws. They pick fights. They give you reasons to break up with them.
Libra
They stop saying I love you. They stop doing cute things for you. They stop putting in the effort.
Scorpio
They spend a lot of time crying over the relationship. A lot of time questioning the relationship.
Sagittarius
They compare your relationship to every other relationship, to friends, to exes, to strangers.
Capricorn
They are blunt with you about how they aren’t sure how much longer the relationship is going to last.
Aquarius
They withdraw emotionally. They stop opening up. They put up walls again.
Pisces
They stop talking about their future with you. They stop setting plans for too far ahead.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-24--33 Wild Facts That Will Make You Sound Smart In Front Of Your Friends

1 .
President Coolidge got sent a raccoon for Thanksgiving one year , but instead of eating it , he granted it a pardon because it was “ cute ” .
2 .
The day Michael Jackson ’ s hair caught on fire was the exact middle of his life , to the day .
3 .
A Russian luxury SUV Manufacturer attempted and failed to use whale penis skin for their SUV interiors .
4 .
When compasses were first used on ships , sailors were afraid of them because they thought they had evil powers .
Compasses were @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ” .
5 .
It takes 2 years for a pineapple to grow .
6 .
There isn ’ t a single bridge across the Amazon river .
8 .
The Ethiopian calendar is seven years behind the rest of the world .
9 .
The 10th president of the US , John Tyler ( 1790-1862 ) , has 2 living grandchildren .
10 .
Pocahontas and Shakespeare lived during the same time .
11 .
Stop signs used to be yellow .
In 1922 , the American Association of State Highway Officials @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stop signs , and that ’ s where they decided on the color : yellow ( because they thought that would grab drivers ’ attention ) .
They ’ d also considered red , but there was no dye available at the time that wouldn ’ t eventually fade .
By 1954 , sign-makers had access to fade-resistant porcelain enamel , and could finally start making stop signs the red color recognized today .
12 .
A lyrebird ’ s imitations will seriously sound exactly like the thing they ’ re trying to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , you will think it ’ s a chainsaw .
It sounds like a perfect recording .
13 .
The founders of Adidas ( Adi Dassler ) and Puma ( Rudolf Dassler ) are brothers .
…and their HQs are literally next door to each other in Germany .
14 .
The guy who sang Peanut Butter Jelly Time died in a police shootout .
Also , his brother in law was there trying to talk him out of shooting himself .
You know who that stepbrother was ?
15 .
Mercury is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
16 .
The United States has no federal law that forbids owning a tiger .
17 .
Male giraffes will head butt a female in the bladder until she urinates , then it tastes the pee to help it determine whether or not the female is ovulating .
18 .
El Paso Texas is closer to Los Angeles than it is to Beaumont Texas .
19 .
The yearly risk in the US of dying from a shark bite is around 1 in 250 million and the yearly risk of dying from @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in 112 million .
Therefore , vending machines are about twice as deadly as sharks .
20 .
Dinosaurs never ate grass because it didn ’ t exist yet .
21 .
During WWII , the Polish Army had a brown bear in their ranks .
The bear was really helpful to the force , particularly for carrying heavy artillery .
22 .
Most of the oxygen on earth doesn ’ t come from trees .
It comes from plankton in the ocean .
23 .
The previous owner of the company Segway @ @ @ @ @ @ @ cliff .
24 .
One ten inch pizza is more pizza than two seven inch pizzas .
25 .
There used to be a species of parrot native to what is now Kentucky and Tennessee .
26 .
A common ingredient in Chemotherapy is horse sperm… of course listed under some long medical term .
27 .
Jack the Ripper was still active when Nintendo was founded .
28 .
Ancient sailors believed that cats were magic and would often risk their own lives , even in an “ every man for himself @ @ @ @ @ @ @ from a sinking ship .
All ships had at least one ship ’ s cat as cats would eat the rats that have always plagued ships .
The ship ’ s cat would often be given a rank and sailors would generally take excessively good care of their cats .
30 .
Chickens are one of many species of birds that don ’ t have penetrative genitalia .
Read ; cocks are cockless .
The method of reproduction they use is commonly called a “ cloacal kiss ” and you can think of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bumping holes ” is the grossest possible way to phrase chicken sex .
Also chickens are not a flightless species like lots of people think and are generally totally capable of short flight .
31 .
A barnacle has a penis up to 10 times the length of its body .
32 .
The entire state of Wyoming only has 2 sets of escalators .

These facts from Ask Reddit might sound fake, but are completely true.
1. President Coolidge got sent a raccoon for Thanksgiving one year, but instead of eating it, he granted it a pardon because it was “cute”.
2. The day Michael Jackson’s hair caught on fire was the exact middle of his life, to the day.
3. A Russian luxury SUV Manufacturer attempted and failed to use whale penis skin for their SUV interiors.
4. When compasses were first used on ships, sailors were afraid of them because they thought they had evil powers. Compasses were stored in boxes called a “binnacle”.
5. It takes 2 years for a pineapple to grow.
6. There isn’t a single bridge across the Amazon river.
7. Netflix was founded before Google.
8. The Ethiopian calendar is seven years behind the rest of the world.
9. The 10th president of the US, John Tyler (1790-1862), has 2 living grandchildren.
10. Pocahontas and Shakespeare lived during the same time.
11. Stop signs used to be yellow.
In 1922, the American Association of State Highway Officials met to determine a standard design for stop signs, and that’s where they decided on the color: yellow (because they thought that would grab drivers’ attention).
They’d also considered red, but there was no dye available at the time that wouldn’t eventually fade. By 1954, sign-makers had access to fade-resistant porcelain enamel, and could finally start making stop signs the red color recognized today.
12. A lyrebird’s imitations will seriously sound exactly like the thing they’re trying to imitate. If they imitate a chainsaw, you will think it’s a chainsaw. It sounds like a perfect recording.
13. The founders of Adidas (Adi Dassler) and Puma (Rudolf Dassler) are brothers.
…and their HQs are literally next door to each other in Germany.
14. The guy who sang Peanut Butter Jelly Time died in a police shootout. Also, his brother in law was there trying to talk him out of shooting himself.
You know who that stepbrother was?
Fucking Snoop Dogg.
15. Mercury is the closest planet to every other planet.
16. The United States has no federal law that forbids owning a tiger.
17. Male giraffes will head butt a female in the bladder until she urinates, then it tastes the pee to help it determine whether or not the female is ovulating.
18. El Paso Texas is closer to Los Angeles than it is to Beaumont Texas.
19. The yearly risk in the US of dying from a shark bite is around 1 in 250 million and the yearly risk of dying from a vending machine accident is roughly 1 in 112 million. Therefore, vending machines are about twice as deadly as sharks.
20. Dinosaurs never ate grass because it didn’t exist yet.
21. During WWII, the Polish Army had a brown bear in their ranks. The bear was really helpful to the force, particularly for carrying heavy artillery.
22. Most of the oxygen on earth doesn’t come from trees. It comes from plankton in the ocean.
23. The previous owner of the company Segway died from driving a Segway off a cliff.
24. One ten inch pizza is more pizza than two seven inch pizzas.
25. There used to be a species of parrot native to what is now Kentucky and Tennessee.
26. A common ingredient in Chemotherapy is horse sperm… of course listed under some long medical term.
27. Jack the Ripper was still active when Nintendo was founded.
28. Ancient sailors believed that cats were magic and would often risk their own lives, even in an “every man for himself” situation, to save a cat from a sinking ship. All ships had at least one ship’s cat as cats would eat the rats that have always plagued ships. The ship’s cat would often be given a rank and sailors would generally take excessively good care of their cats.
29. Cheetahs can’t roar. They meow like house cats.
30. Chickens are one of many species of birds that don’t have penetrative genitalia. Read; cocks are cockless. The method of reproduction they use is commonly called a “cloacal kiss” and you can think of it as chickens scissoring, because “bumping holes” is the grossest possible way to phrase chicken sex.
Also chickens are not a flightless species like lots of people think and are generally totally capable of short flight.
31. A barnacle has a penis up to 10 times the length of its body.
32. The entire state of Wyoming only has 2 sets of escalators.
33. A typical cumulus cloud actually weighs 1.1 million pounds (498,951 kg).


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-24--7 Reminders For When You Feel Like You’re Stuck In The Same Exact Place

1 .
It ’ s up to you to change the course you ’ re currently on .
You can ’ t wait around for someone to offer you a sparkling new opportunity .
You can ’ t cross your fingers that things will magically change if you wait long enough .
If there ’ s a change you ’ re interested in making in your world , then you need to be the one to make it .
You need to put in the effort .
You need to take the initiative .
You have the power to transform @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 2 .
Moving backward , or putting your goals on pause , is part of life .
It ’ s good that you want to move forward — but you shouldn ’ t be too hard on yourself for any setbacks you have faced .
You ’ re not always going to be taking steps forward .
Sometimes , you ’ ll take steps sideways and sometimes you ’ ll step backwards , but that doesn ’ t mean you should quit .
Mistakes are bound to happen .
They aren ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ how you recover from them .
3 .
Procrastinating isn ’ t going to do you any favors .
The timing is never going to be perfect .
You ’ re always going to be able to come up with an excuse to wait until tomorrow if you let yourself .
You have to learn the difference between moments when waiting is a rational choice and when waiting is a form of procrastination .
You can not allow fear to hold you in place .
Eventually , you need to stop talking about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and actually follow through on the idea .
4 .
Your comfort zone isn ’ t going to help you grow .
You need to get out there and take ( smart , thoughtful ) risks .
If you remain in your comfort zone because it ’ s easier , more comfortable , more reliable , then you ’ re never going to evolve .
You need to challenge yourself .
You need to put yourself in new situations .
You need to trust yourself enough to take a chance on yourself .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ doesn ’ t mean it ’ s the reality .
Maybe you feel like you haven ’ t been making an ounce of progress lately .
Maybe you feel like you ’ re no closer to your dreams today than you were years ago .
That doesn ’ t mean it ’ s the truth .
You could be making invisible progress .
You could be advancing toward your dreams without even realizing it .
You might not actually be stuck right now .
You might be doing fine .
6 .
It @ @ @ @ @ @ @ out of life .
You should never settle for less than you want .
If you aren ’ t happy , you aren ’ t happy .
You shouldn ’ t feel guilty over your sadness .
You shouldn ’ t feel like you don ’ t have any right to be upset when there are so many beautiful aspects to your life .
It ’ s possible to be thankful for everything you have and still want more .
Those feelings are valid .
7 .
You might be stuck right now @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stuck forever .
Maybe you ’ re in a position where you quite literally can not make a change you ’ ve been dreaming about for ages .
But one day , you ’ ll get there .
One day , you ’ ll get out of your rut .
One day , you ’ ll break free and find true happiness .
You just can ’ t give up hope .
You can ’ t doubt yourself .
You can ’ t settle for less than you deserve .

1. It’s up to you to change the course you’re currently on. You can’t wait around for someone to offer you a sparkling new opportunity. You can’t cross your fingers that things will magically change if you wait long enough. If there’s a change you’re interested in making in your world, then you need to be the one to make it. You need to put in the effort. You need to take the initiative. You have the power to transform your own life. Take it.
2. Moving backward, or putting your goals on pause, is part of life. It’s good that you want to move forward — but you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself for any setbacks you have faced. You’re not always going to be taking steps forward. Sometimes, you’ll take steps sideways and sometimes you’ll step backwards, but that doesn’t mean you should quit. Mistakes are bound to happen. They aren’t important. What’s important is how you recover from them.
3. Procrastinating isn’t going to do you any favors. The timing is never going to be perfect. You’re always going to be able to come up with an excuse to wait until tomorrow if you let yourself. You have to learn the difference between moments when waiting is a rational choice and when waiting is a form of procrastination. You cannot allow fear to hold you in place. Eventually, you need to stop talking about what you’re planning on doing and actually follow through on the idea.
4. Your comfort zone isn’t going to help you grow. You need to get out there and take (smart, thoughtful) risks. If you remain in your comfort zone because it’s easier, more comfortable, more reliable, then you’re never going to evolve. You need to challenge yourself. You need to put yourself in new situations. You need to trust yourself enough to take a chance on yourself.
5. Just because you feel stuck doesn’t mean it’s the reality. Maybe you feel like you haven’t been making an ounce of progress lately. Maybe you feel like you’re no closer to your dreams today than you were years ago. That doesn’t mean it’s the truth. You could be making invisible progress. You could be advancing toward your dreams without even realizing it. You might not actually be stuck right now. You might be doing fine.
6. It’s not greedy to want more out of life. You should never settle for less than you want. If you aren’t happy, you aren’t happy. You shouldn’t feel guilty over your sadness. You shouldn’t feel like you don’t have any right to be upset when there are so many beautiful aspects to your life. It’s possible to be thankful for everything you have and still want more. Those feelings are valid.
7. You might be stuck right now, but you won’t be stuck forever. Maybe you’re in a position where you quite literally cannot make a change you’ve been dreaming about for ages. But one day, you’ll get there. One day, you’ll get out of your rut. One day, you’ll break free and find true happiness. You just can’t give up hope. You can’t doubt yourself. You can’t settle for less than you deserve.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-24--What Each Zodiac Sign Needs To Feel Loved


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-25--Even Here, Even Now — You Are Still Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be

Your growth as a person is not contingent upon everything unfolding perfectly .
Your growth as a person is not dependent on how seamlessly you can manage all the moving parts around you .
It is not going to be the result of whether or not the entire world bends to your will at all times .
It will not be born out of your sheer desire to move what ’ s unmovable , change what ’ s already been done , or control what ’ s distinctly out of your hands .
Your growth is contingent upon your response @ @ @ @ @ @ @ upon how you learn to adapt .
It is contingent upon whether you see setbacks as failures or opportunities .
Growth is not always a constant forward motion .
Sometimes , growth is staying still .
Sometimes , growth is stopping to reconsider where you ’ re headed .
Sometimes , growth is letting yourself settle , sometimes it is letting yourself blossom , sometimes , it is learning how to appreciate what ’ s already good in your life — because there is so much that you forget about .
It ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ re on the right course when everything is upended and we don ’ t know which direction is forward .
It ’ s hard to imagine that we aren ’ t forever going to be at the whim of the world around us and everything that can go right and wrong within it .
We often think that we can measure and manage our progress in life by how many things we can do correctly in succession of one another .
What we don ’ t realize is that it is the gaps @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the unexpected that gives us the real fertile breeding ground of our lives .
Even if you are not where you thought you ’ d be , you are still where you are meant to be .
That ’ s what you have to remember .
Every single season of your life presents a purpose , a lesson , a step toward your ultimate destiny .
What really measures our progress in life is whether we see the valleys as failures or simply pathways to the peaks .
What really shifts in our @ @ @ @ @ @ @ lives separated into pieces that were “ right ” and pieces that were “ wrong , ” and instead viewing the entire thing as this interwoven , living experience that offered us a different type of breakthrough at each turn .
The truth is that everything you went through before this was preparing you for right now .
Everything you are going through right now is preparing you for the future you asked for .
I know that it is easy to feel as though your life has been irrevocably changed because , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ But you are going to decide what that change means for you .
You are going to decide whether in this season you find gratitude and connection and deep rest and healing .
You are going to decide whether in this season you find bitterness and resentment and the readiness to give up .
Sometimes , the path bows in a direction we didn ’ t expect .
That does not mean we have to change our final destination .
It only means there is something in the wilderness that it is imperative @ @ @ @ @

Your growth as a person is not contingent upon everything unfolding perfectly.
Your growth as a person is not dependent on how seamlessly you can manage all the moving parts around you.
It is not going to be the result of whether or not the entire world bends to your will at all times.
It will not be born out of your sheer desire to move what’s unmovable, change what’s already been done, or control what’s distinctly out of your hands.
Your growth is contingent upon your response to those things. It is contingent upon how you learn to adapt. It is contingent upon whether you see setbacks as failures or opportunities.
Growth is not always a constant forward motion.
Sometimes, growth is staying still.
Sometimes, growth is deep rest.
Sometimes, growth is stopping to reconsider where you’re headed.
Sometimes, growth is letting yourself settle, sometimes it is letting yourself blossom, sometimes, it is learning how to appreciate what’s already good in your life — because there is so much that you forget about.
It’s hard to imagine that we’re on the right course when everything is upended and we don’t know which direction is forward.
It’s hard to imagine that we aren’t forever going to be at the whim of the world around us and everything that can go right and wrong within it.
We often think that we can measure and manage our progress in life by how many things we can do correctly in succession of one another.
What we don’t realize is that it is the gaps, the stops, the pauses, the unexpected that gives us the real fertile breeding ground of our lives.
Even if you are not where you thought you’d be, you are still where you are meant to be.
That’s what you have to remember.
Every single season of your life presents a purpose, a lesson, a step toward your ultimate destiny.
What really measures our progress in life is whether we see the valleys as failures or simply pathways to the peaks.
What really shifts in our consciousness is whether we think of our lives separated into pieces that were “right” and pieces that were “wrong,” and instead viewing the entire thing as this interwoven, living experience that offered us a different type of breakthrough at each turn.
The truth is that everything you went through before this was preparing you for right now.
Everything you are going through right now is preparing you for the future you asked for.
I know that it is easy to feel as though your life has been irrevocably changed because, in a way, it has.
But you are going to decide what that change means for you.
You are going to decide whether in this season you find gratitude and connection and deep rest and healing. You are going to decide whether in this season you find bitterness and resentment and the readiness to give up.
Sometimes, the path bows in a direction we didn’t expect.
That does not mean we have to change our final destination.
It only means there is something in the wilderness that it is imperative for us to see.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-25--An Unknown Caller Stalked Her For Months, Then Got Away With Murder: The Haunting Case Of Dorothy Sc

An Unknown Caller Stalked Her For Months, Then Got Away With Murder: The Haunting Case Of Dorothy Scott

For anyone that believes life was more pleasant before technology , let this case serve as a reminder that the world was terrifying before the internet and Caller ID .
It takes work to remain anonymous these days ; just a few decades ago , all you had to do was pick up a phone book to start an untraceable reign of terror .
In 1980 , Dorothy Jane Scott was a 32-year-old single mother living in Stanton , California , when she started receiving eerie calls from an unknown male .
The stranger told Scott that he loved her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ listing accurate details of her day .
Scott told her mother that the voice seemed familiar , but she couldn ’ t put her finger on how she recognized it .
The calls occurred over several months , eventually leading to threats of murder and at least one occasion where the man came to her home .
The stalker called Scott and told her to go outside because he had something for her .
She cautiously ventured out and found a single dead rose on the windshield of her car .
On the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Scott attended a work meeting .
Glancing around the room , she noticed one of her co-workers , Conrad Bostron , didn ’ t look well .
She and another co-worker , Pam Head , intervened and took Bostron to the hospital .
Once they arrived at UC Irvine Medical Center , it was determined that Bostron had suffered a bite from a black widow spider .
He was treated and discharged around 11:00 PM .
As the group was leaving , Scott offered to run ahead and bring her car to the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have to walk far .
Head stayed with Bostron as he got his prescription filled and went to the restroom , then the duo waited outside the E.R .
for Scott .
After several minutes , they grew concerned that she still hadn ’ t arrived .
As they began walking to the parking lot to look for her , Scott ’ s car came speeding toward them .
They were blinded by high beams as they tried to get her attention , but the car went barreling past them and turned out @ @ @ @ @ @ @ weren ’ t commonplace in those days , so Head and Bostron initially weren ’ t sure how to proceed .
Had she used a pay phone to check on her 4-year-old son before leaving ?
Her co-workers thought perhaps there had been an emergency , so they sat stranded for nearly two hours before alerting UCI police .
University police weren ’ t overly concerned with the dramatic exit , so Head contacted Scott ’ s mother to check on her .
She quickly learned that Scott still hadn ’ t picked @ @ @ @ @ @ @ her family .
At 4:30 AM on May 29 , Scott ’ s abandoned car was found on fire in an alleyway 10 miles from the hospital .
Less than two weeks later , the phone calls started back up .
Mrs. Scott answered the phone at her residence and the caller asked , “ Are you related to Dorothy Scott ?
Well , I ’ ve got her.
” The Scott ’ s received these calls nearly every Wednesday for years after their daughter went missing .
Often , the caller would @ @ @ @ @ @ @ times , he would simply state that he had killed her .
Law enforcement was unable to trace the calls because the man never stayed on the line long enough .
The Scott ’ s weren ’ t the only ones contacted by the killer .
In June of 1980 , the Orange County Register ran a story about Scott ’ s disappearance .
The following day , they received a call from the unknown man .
According to the managing editor , he said , “ I killed her .
I killed @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
I caught her cheating with another man .
She denied having someone else .
I killed her.
” He also mentioned specific details from that night , such as the color of Scott ’ s scarf and Bostron ’ s spider bite .
Scott ’ s friends and family denied the possibility of a serious relationship .
While they say she occasionally dated , it would have been hard for her to have an ongoing boyfriend without anyone noticing .
Scott worked often , during which time her parents babysat her son @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Scott wasn ’ t working she was almost always home with her son .
According to Scott ’ s parents , the last call she ever received really shook her up .
The man had told her , “ When I get you alone , I will cut you up into bits so no one will ever find you.
” As years passed by , the possibility of never finding Dorothy Scott grew .
Until August 6 , 1984 when construction workers found charred human remains near Santa Ana Canyon Road .
A @ @ @ @ @ @ @ area in 1982 and authorities believed that to be the cause of the charring .
But they also found a turquoise ring and a watch .
The time on the watch was 12:30 AM on May 29 , about an hour after Scott was last seen .
Dental records positively matched the skeletal remains to Dorothy Jane Scott but they weren ’ t able to identify a cause of death .
Mr. Scott passed away in 1994 followed by Mrs. Scott in 2002 without ever knowing the true fate of their daughter .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ is still working to find the identity of his mother ’ s killer and bring her justice .

For anyone that believes life was more pleasant before technology, let this case serve as a reminder that the world was terrifying before the internet and Caller ID. It takes work to remain anonymous these days; just a few decades ago, all you had to do was pick up a phone book to start an untraceable reign of terror.
In 1980, Dorothy Jane Scott was a 32-year-old single mother living in Stanton, California, when she started receiving eerie calls from an unknown male. The stranger told Scott that he loved her and had been following her, even listing accurate details of her day. Scott told her mother that the voice seemed familiar, but she couldn’t put her finger on how she recognized it.
The calls occurred over several months, eventually leading to threats of murder and at least one occasion where the man came to her home. The stalker called Scott and told her to go outside because he had something for her. She cautiously ventured out and found a single dead rose on the windshield of her car.
On the evening of May 28, 1980, Scott attended a work meeting. Glancing around the room, she noticed one of her co-workers, Conrad Bostron, didn’t look well. She and another co-worker, Pam Head, intervened and took Bostron to the hospital.
Once they arrived at UC Irvine Medical Center, it was determined that Bostron had suffered a bite from a black widow spider. He was treated and discharged around 11:00 PM. As the group was leaving, Scott offered to run ahead and bring her car to the entrance so the others didn’t have to walk far. Head stayed with Bostron as he got his prescription filled and went to the restroom, then the duo waited outside the E.R. for Scott.
After several minutes, they grew concerned that she still hadn’t arrived. As they began walking to the parking lot to look for her, Scott’s car came speeding toward them. They were blinded by high beams as they tried to get her attention, but the car went barreling past them and turned out of the parking lot.
Cell phones weren’t commonplace in those days, so Head and Bostron initially weren’t sure how to proceed. Had she used a pay phone to check on her 4-year-old son before leaving? Her co-workers thought perhaps there had been an emergency, so they sat stranded for nearly two hours before alerting UCI police.
University police weren’t overly concerned with the dramatic exit, so Head contacted Scott’s mother to check on her. She quickly learned that Scott still hadn’t picked up her son or made contact with her family. At 4:30 AM on May 29, Scott’s abandoned car was found on fire in an alleyway 10 miles from the hospital.
Less than two weeks later, the phone calls started back up. Mrs. Scott answered the phone at her residence and the caller asked, “Are you related to Dorothy Scott? Well, I’ve got her.” The Scott’s received these calls nearly every Wednesday for years after their daughter went missing. Often, the caller would ask if Dorothy was home. Other times, he would simply state that he had killed her. Law enforcement was unable to trace the calls because the man never stayed on the line long enough.
The Scott’s weren’t the only ones contacted by the killer. In June of 1980, the Orange County Register ran a story about Scott’s disappearance. The following day, they received a call from the unknown man. According to the managing editor, he said, “I killed her. I killed Dorothy Scott. She was my love. I caught her cheating with another man. She denied having someone else. I killed her.” He also mentioned specific details from that night, such as the color of Scott’s scarf and Bostron’s spider bite.
Scott’s friends and family denied the possibility of a serious relationship. While they say she occasionally dated, it would have been hard for her to have an ongoing boyfriend without anyone noticing. Scott worked often, during which time her parents babysat her son. Friends and coworkers claimed that when Scott wasn’t working she was almost always home with her son.
According to Scott’s parents, the last call she ever received really shook her up. The man had told her, “When I get you alone, I will cut you up into bits so no one will ever find you.” As years passed by, the possibility of never finding Dorothy Scott grew.
Until August 6, 1984 when construction workers found charred human remains near Santa Ana Canyon Road. A bushfire had damaged much of the surrounding area in 1982 and authorities believed that to be the cause of the charring. But they also found a turquoise ring and a watch. The time on the watch was 12:30 AM on May 29, about an hour after Scott was last seen. Dental records positively matched the skeletal remains to Dorothy Jane Scott but they weren’t able to identify a cause of death.
Mr. Scott passed away in 1994 followed by Mrs. Scott in 2002 without ever knowing the true fate of their daughter. Scott’s son, Shawn, is still working to find the identity of his mother’s killer and bring her justice.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-25--You Can’t Make Them Want You

You Can’t Make Them Want You

The questions linger in your head , even when you try to ignore them .
“ Why don ’ t they want me ?
What ’ s wrong with me ?
” The truth is , it ’ s not always about you .
It ’ s not that something is wrong with you .
It ’ s not that you did or said anything wrong .
It ’ s not that you drove them away .
They just didn ’ t want to be part of your life .
And that hurts .
It painstakingly and irrevocably hurts .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ more , or said less .
If only you had tried harder , or played it cool .
If only you had been more open or been more aloof .
If only you had been precisely what they were looking for , even if that meant changing who you were .
I need you to ask yourself why you want someone who doesn ’ t want to be with the authentic , genuine version of yourself that you ’ re working so hard on every day ?
I know that the answer is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ them badly .
Feelings drive us to do crazy things .
A sense of connection can push us to believe we have to do anything to keep it alive .
The possibility of “ what if ?
” convinces us to bend the “ what is , ” in order to make it happen .
Yet I need you to ask yourself again , why do you want someone who doesn ’ t want to be with you ?
Because what if you did change ?
What if you did become the person @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ?
Because that person isn ’ t who you are- it ’ s an idea .
That means you have to keep up that idea for as long as you ’ re with them .
It means you spend every moment with them not being yourself .
Because if you think for a moment that you can pretend to be someone different , until they get comfortable enough to know the real you , and then try to be the person you ’ ve always been ?
It ’ s not going to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to stay .
Heck , they may not even stay if you keep being the fake version of yourself- they may decide they want something different .
We want people because they make us feel something incredible .
They fill our minds and our hearts , and we love that .
We love that this person is with us right now .
We are willing to do so much to keep it that way .
Yet the good news is , there are billions of people on this planet .
You haven ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
This person may not want you , and that doesn ’ t mean it ’ s your fault .
You can ’ t make them want you .
You just can ’ t .
Maybe they have their own issues .
Maybe they aren ’ t in a healthy state to appreciate what you have .
Maybe you ’ re not in a healthy state to be what they need .
Maybe they just have different preferences that don ’ t add up to you- and that isn ’ t a sign @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to change .
It means that one person , out of everyone on the planet , doesn ’ t want to be with you .
And that while it feels like it , it ’ s not the end of the world .
I know that either way , it sucks .
You ’ re allowed to feel hurt .
You ’ re allowed to be sad .
You ’ re allowed to wish that things were different .
You ’ re allowed to wish they wanted you .
It ’ s not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a sin .
But you also have to get to the other side , where you realize this doesn ’ t mean you ’ re not worthy of love .
This doesn ’ t mean you ’ re undesirable .
That you ’ re unlovable .
You can ’ t let this one person dictate how you see yourself for the rest of your life .
They are just a person .
They aren ’ t a god .
They aren ’ t the end-all and be-all of your happiness .
They are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have to find connection , love , and joy .
There are others out there who want you for exactly who you are .
You will find them .
They will find you .
You have your whole life ahead of you , so why waste it on someone who isn ’ t worth the time ?
You can ’ t make them want you , but I promise that one day , you won ’ t even want them to .

The questions linger in your head, even when you try to ignore them.
“Why don’t they want me? What’s wrong with me?”
The truth is, it’s not always about you. It’s not that something is wrong with you. It’s not that you did or said anything wrong. It’s not that you drove them away. They just didn’t want to be part of your life. And that hurts. It painstakingly and irrevocably hurts.
You wonder if only you had said more, or said less. If only you had tried harder, or played it cool. If only you had been more open or been more aloof. If only you had been precisely what they were looking for, even if that meant changing who you were.
I need you to ask yourself why you want someone who doesn’t want to be with the authentic, genuine version of yourself that you’re working so hard on every day? I know that the answer is you want them, and you want them badly. Feelings drive us to do crazy things. A sense of connection can push us to believe we have to do anything to keep it alive. The possibility of “what if?” convinces us to bend the “what is,” in order to make it happen.
Yet I need you to ask yourself again, why do you want someone who doesn’t want to be with you? Because what if you did change? What if you did become the person they were seeking after? Then what? Because that person isn’t who you are- it’s an idea. That means you have to keep up that idea for as long as you’re with them. It means you spend every moment with them not being yourself.
Because if you think for a moment that you can pretend to be someone different, until they get comfortable enough to know the real you, and then try to be the person you’ve always been? It’s not going to last. They aren’t going to stay. Heck, they may not even stay if you keep being the fake version of yourself- they may decide they want something different.
We want people because they make us feel something incredible. They fill our minds and our hearts, and we love that. We love that this person is with us right now. We are willing to do so much to keep it that way. Yet the good news is, there are billions of people on this planet. You haven’t met even a fraction of them. This person may not want you, and that doesn’t mean it’s your fault.
You can’t make them want you. You just can’t. Maybe they have their own issues. Maybe they aren’t in a healthy state to appreciate what you have. Maybe you’re not in a healthy state to be what they need. Maybe they just have different preferences that don’t add up to you- and that isn’t a sign that you’re broken or need to change. It means that one person, out of everyone on the planet, doesn’t want to be with you. And that while it feels like it, it’s not the end of the world.
I know that either way, it sucks. You’re allowed to feel hurt. You’re allowed to be sad. You’re allowed to wish that things were different. You’re allowed to wish they wanted you. It’s not a crime. It’s not a sin.
But you also have to get to the other side, where you realize this doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of love. This doesn’t mean you’re undesirable. That you’re unlovable. You can’t let this one person dictate how you see yourself for the rest of your life. They are just a person. They aren’t a god. They aren’t the end-all and be-all of your happiness. They are not the only chance you will ever have to find connection, love, and joy. There are others out there who want you for exactly who you are. You will find them. They will find you. You have your whole life ahead of you, so why waste it on someone who isn’t worth the time?
You can’t make them want you, but I promise that one day, you won’t even want them to.