thoughtcatalog--2020-11-19--People All Over The World Are Dreaming About A Creepy ‘Hat Man’

The “ Hat Man ” is an entity , possibly a shadow person , who people around the world report experiencing during episodes of sleep paralysis .
He takes the shape of a man wearing a fedora or top hat who can fade away or walk through walls .
Hat Man ’ s facial features and dress are generally not visible as he appears to be shadowy .
Here is a drawing one Redditor made of what the Hat Man looks like : Here ’ s what a typical encounter with the Hat Man sounds like “ In 2004 , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ military and living at my fathers house , Quebec Canada .
3h00 am or around , I was falling asleep in the bed watching television in the bedroom and about to fall asleep .
I remember leaving the television open in the living room to the same channel that I was watching in the bedroom ( that ’ s important ) .
Suddently , I can hear the door to the backyard open .
I can hear it but from my point of vision I cant see it .
I think it is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , 3h00 clock in the morning is the time bar close down in Qc so it makes sense in my head so I yell Daaaaaad ?
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I can hear super fast pace coming directly to the entrance to my room , lts hard for me to describe the speed at which I heard it coming , I can say it was way faster than what human beings are capable of .
And then right fucking there , a big shadow almost as high as the door frame , with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ an evil smile , I know most guys here didnt see the smile but I did .
I was paralyzed and petrified , I couldnt move at all , I felt like I was gon na die .
It took only a fraction of a second from the door frame and HE JUMPED/LEAP ON ME !
While he lept on me I closed my eyes , and while I felt his hands on my shoulder , I thought of repelling him with god or jesus christ I opened my eyes to fight back @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and I could move.
” — u/promixt “ When I was around 6 or 7 we lived in a small rural town that was a few miles away from a normal town .
Anyways there was only like 30ish people here and we all knew each other .
Well one day I was watching spongebob and I just had this weird butterfly feeling in my gut , so I decided to look to my right out of the bedroom to check on my dad .
That ’ s when I saw him .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ like that with glowing red eyes standing over my dad .
I didn ’ t know what to do and freaked out .
I kept yelling my dad ’ s name and he wouldn ’ t wake up .
The creature didn ’ t even bother with me , but eventually my dad woke up and that ’ s when the thing looked at me and turned around fast .
He walked toward the back of our house and I followed him .
There was no door exit this way so it wasn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ escape .
Well he was really fast and i barely saw his coat tail righr when he entered the bathroom .
I ran in and he was gone .
Nothing .
No one was there .
I looked everywhere .
Even in the cabinet , under the sink , and in the water tank on the toilet .
Before I left though I looked down and saw a dark liquidy looking pool underneath the water in the toilet bowl .
I just flushed it and ran out.
” — u/Xenostera “ I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ life , but for the most part I can only hear and feel spirits .
I recently met my dad after 34 years , and he lives in a very old , tiny town in Maryland .
His house is 120 years old , and the first time I came to visit , I checked all the energy in all the rooms in the house and didn ’ t feel anything negative .
I came up 2 weeks ago to escape the hotbed for Covid that is Atlanta .
The first night , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ distinct man who woke me up out of my sleep with a command .
He had a 40 ’ s style brimmed hat on , and was pitch black , which I could make out even though the room was pretty dark .
He had a deep voice , and I can ’ t remember what he said , but I got up to walk to the door to do whatever he asked , before realizing he wasn ’ t human ( or my dad ) .
I turned towards him , then @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my two year old daughter .
I didn ’ t feel the crippling fear I used to feel as a child when spirits would come to my bedroom , but it was unsettling .
I asked my dad about it the next day , and he said the only activity he has ever heard of is a man with a 40 ’ s style brimmed hat standing at the end of the bed , staring at his ex-wife .
She would tell him to leave and never had much issue with him .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ !
HatMan !
” When she stands at the top of the stairs , right outside of the room we ’ re sleeping in .
I told him multiple times he had to leave , and since then I ’ ve only heard footsteps up the stairs once , but have not seen him .
There is a very secure baby gate blocking the stairs .
Yesterday , we both walked into our room for me to change .
I heard my daughter yell “ Go hatman !
” and then the baby @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stairs .
I check the baby gate multiple times a day , and we don ’ t use those stairs ( they ’ re not carpeted and extremely steep ) .
” — u/Positiv4ghost4writer Some people think he might be the Grim Reaper “ My first experience with the Hat Man started when I was ending 8th grade , about to enter high school .
My normal routine was to shower at night , and again in the morning ( one to clean , one to wake up my lazy , sleepy self @ @ @ @ @ @ @ earlier than normal .
What was usually 6:45am , turned into a 5:30am shower .
Just for reference , I grew up in a small home .
2 beds , one bath ( across a small hallway from both rooms ) and the living room /kitchen .
Now my parents bedroom overlooks the hallway leading to the living room .my bedroom was right in front of the bathroom , a little more to the side of the house .
Anyway , I got up , showered , and began to walk to the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I had laid out for the following school day .
As soon as I went to grab it , I froze .
I saw a very TALL dark shadow .
Now keep in mind I was on the younger side , and just thinking this is it .
This is how I go .
He was so tall he almost hit the blades of the ceiling fan .
He had a hat , and a trench coat .
He was a dark shadow , but for some reason , I still could see @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wave , speak , smile .
Just stood and stared .
Almost as if just to let me know “ I ’ m here now ” .
What finally snapped me out of it was something grabbing my ankle .
I remember being HORRIFIED because I was still just wrapped in the towel .
I screamed and my mom came running and asking if I was ok .
I had a hand shaped bruise on my ankle , and she kept me home that day .
( She always had a strong connection @ @ @ @ @ @ @ next few years , leading to my Senior year in high school , my mom battled cancer .
I would see him on and off , and she would see him in the hall way or in her bedroom , almost as if he was just watching , waiting .October 2015 , my Mom finally lost her battle , 6 :35pm .
My dad , sister , nieces , brother in law , and nephew were all in the living room until about 530am .
We basically needed to process what had just @ @ @ @ @ @ @ got up to go use the restroom , and had realized the back door was still open from the mortician picking up my mom , so I went to go close it .
I stopped halfway when I noticed a familiar figure .
The hat man .
He looked at me , and tipped his hat , almost as if he was letting me know he was leaving .
I have no idea if he went because of all the negative energy from my mom being sick .
Turns out the rest of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ different instances and times throughout those years revolving around my mom.
” — u/JenArroyo02 One person even had an experience with multiple Hat Men “ In my experience , I have only witnessed the being ( s ) once .
As surreal as this memory is I cant convince myself to believe I was conscious , or unconscious due to what the fuck I saw .
I was 5 or 6 , It was around 8am on a weekend and I was getting up before all the family .
I hopped out of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ headed for the basement stairs , to get down there and play video games of course .
I whipped the corner to the top of the stairs facing down and fuck me guys there was 4 or 5 solid black silhouettes , in trench coats , and top hats in a semicircle facing me just standing there at the bottom of the stairs .
I remember them having no face no red eyes no canes and they said nothing .
I froze and just stared for about 5 seconds and blacked out .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ I literally woke up at the bottom of the stairs , ran back up into my bed and fell asleep .
That Is the last memory of that experience .
This is what really fucks with my head and this is why I dont talk about it , and cant convince myself I was unconscious during that godamn experience.
” — u/growmeplease If he scares you , ask him to leave “ I used to sleepwalk and get night terrors and sleep paralysis as a child .
And every night , without fail @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and long coat would stand in my doorway .
He was darker than the darkest night .
Even if I couldn ’ t see my hand in front of my face I could always see him .
And on moonlit nights , no features were ever visible .
He was just a clean silhouette made of pure darkness .
Around sunset , I would start feeling uneasy because I knew he ’ d be coming soon .
He was never there when I went to bed but at a certain point in the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ he ’ d arrived .
I ’ d always roll over to look at him , and I was never afraid in those moments .
I ’ d just stare at him and feel completely calm .
It was more in the daytime that I felt uncomfortable about the fact that I had some shadow dude hanging out in my room .
I told my mum about it and she suggested that I just ask him to go away .
Her reasoning was that if I wasn ’ t getting bad vibes off @ @ @ @ @ @ @ if he knew I didn ’ t want him there .
So when I was twelve , I asked him to leave and he did .
Vanished without any fuss .
And I haven ’ t seen him since.
” — u/KLestrangeR If you ’ ve had an experience with the Hat Man , please let us know so we can document it .
We ’ re afterdark at thought catalog dot com .

The “Hat Man” is an entity, possibly a shadow person, who people around the world report experiencing during episodes of sleep paralysis. He takes the shape of a man wearing a fedora or top hat who can fade away or walk through walls. Hat Man’s facial features and dress are generally not visible as he appears to be shadowy.
Here is a drawing one Redditor made of what the Hat Man looks like:
And another:
Here’s what a typical encounter with the Hat Man sounds like
“In 2004, I was 19 years old in the military and living at my fathers house, Quebec Canada.
3h00 am or around, I was falling asleep in the bed watching television in the bedroom and about to fall asleep. I remember leaving the television open in the living room to the same channel that I was watching in the bedroom (that’s important).
Suddently, I can hear the door to the backyard open. I can hear it but from my point of vision I cant see it. I think it is my dad coming back from the bar, 3h00 clock in the morning is the time bar close down in Qc so it makes sense in my head so I yell Daaaaaad?????
I can hear super fast pace coming directly to the entrance to my room, lts hard for me to describe the speed at which I heard it coming, I can say it was way faster than what human beings are capable of. And then right fucking there, a big shadow almost as high as the door frame, with a brimed hat and I could see an evil smile, I know most guys here didnt see the smile but I did.
I was paralyzed and petrified, I couldnt move at all, I felt like I was gonna die. It took only a fraction of a second from the door frame and HE JUMPED/LEAP ON ME! While he lept on me I closed my eyes, and while I felt his hands on my shoulder, I thought of repelling him with god or jesus christ I opened my eyes to fight back and he wasn’t there anymore and I could move.” — u/promixt
“When I was around 6 or 7 we lived in a small rural town that was a few miles away from a normal town. Anyways there was only like 30ish people here and we all knew each other. Well one day I was watching spongebob and I just had this weird butterfly feeling in my gut, so I decided to look to my right out of the bedroom to check on my dad. That’s when I saw him. A tall man with a big detective like that with glowing red eyes standing over my dad. I didn’t know what to do and freaked out. I kept yelling my dad’s name and he wouldn’t wake up. The creature didn’t even bother with me, but eventually my dad woke up and that’s when the thing looked at me and turned around fast. He walked toward the back of our house and I followed him. There was no door exit this way so it wasn’t like he was trying to escape. Well he was really fast and i barely saw his coat tail righr when he entered the bathroom. I ran in and he was gone. Nothing. No one was there. I looked everywhere. Even in the cabinet, under the sink, and in the water tank on the toilet. Before I left though I looked down and saw a dark liquidy looking pool underneath the water in the toilet bowl. I just flushed it and ran out.” — u/Xenostera
“I’ve dealt with the paranormal my entire life, but for the most part I can only hear and feel spirits. I recently met my dad after 34 years, and he lives in a very old, tiny town in Maryland. His house is 120 years old, and the first time I came to visit, I checked all the energy in all the rooms in the house and didn’t feel anything negative.
I came up 2 weeks ago to escape the hotbed for Covid that is Atlanta. The first night, there was a very tall, very distinct man who woke me up out of my sleep with a command. He had a 40’s style brimmed hat on, and was pitch black, which I could make out even though the room was pretty dark. He had a deep voice, and I can’t remember what he said, but I got up to walk to the door to do whatever he asked, before realizing he wasn’t human (or my dad). I turned towards him, then quickly laid down in bed and held my two year old daughter. I didn’t feel the crippling fear I used to feel as a child when spirits would come to my bedroom, but it was unsettling. I asked my dad about it the next day, and he said the only activity he has ever heard of is a man with a 40’s style brimmed hat standing at the end of the bed, staring at his ex-wife. She would tell him to leave and never had much issue with him.
My daughter has been saying “Go! HatMan!” When she stands at the top of the stairs, right outside of the room we’re sleeping in. I told him multiple times he had to leave, and since then I’ve only heard footsteps up the stairs once, but have not seen him. There is a very secure baby gate blocking the stairs. Yesterday, we both walked into our room for me to change. I heard my daughter yell “Go hatman!” and then the baby gate and my daughter tumbling down the stairs. I check the baby gate multiple times a day, and we don’t use those stairs (they’re not carpeted and extremely steep).” — u/Positiv4ghost4writer
Some people think he might be the Grim Reaper
“My first experience with the Hat Man started when I was ending 8th grade, about to enter high school. My normal routine was to shower at night, and again in the morning (one to clean, one to wake up my lazy , sleepy self) this particular morning I got up earlier than normal. What was usually 6:45am, turned into a 5:30am shower.
Just for reference, I grew up in a small home. 2 beds, one bath (across a small hallway from both rooms) and the living room /kitchen. Now my parents bedroom overlooks the hallway leading to the living room .my bedroom was right in front of the bathroom, a little more to the side of the house.
Anyway, I got up, showered, and began to walk to the living room to get my clothes that I had laid out for the following school day. As soon as I went to grab it, I froze. I saw a very TALL dark shadow. Now keep in mind I was on the younger side, and just thinking this is it. This is how I go. He was so tall he almost hit the blades of the ceiling fan. He had a hat, and a trench coat. He was a dark shadow, but for some reason, I still could see his features.
He didn’t wave, speak, smile. Just stood and stared. Almost as if just to let me know “I’m here now”. What finally snapped me out of it was something grabbing my ankle. I remember being HORRIFIED because I was still just wrapped in the towel. I screamed and my mom came running and asking if I was ok. I had a hand shaped bruise on my ankle, and she kept me home that day.(She always had a strong connection with the other side)
Over the next few years, leading to my Senior year in high school, my mom battled cancer. I would see him on and off, and she would see him in the hall way or in her bedroom, almost as if he was just watching, waiting .October 2015, my Mom finally lost her battle, 6 :35pm. My dad, sister, nieces, brother in law, and nephew were all in the living room until about 530am. We basically needed to process what had just happened. At that time, I got up to go use the restroom, and had realized the back door was still open from the mortician picking up my mom, so I went to go close it. I stopped halfway when I noticed a familiar figure. The hat man. He looked at me, and tipped his hat , almost as if he was letting me know he was leaving. I have no idea if he went because of all the negative energy from my mom being sick. Turns out the rest of my family had seen him too, different instances and times throughout those years revolving around my mom.” — u/JenArroyo02
One person even had an experience with multiple Hat Men
“In my experience, I have only witnessed the being(s) once. As surreal as this memory is I cant convince myself to believe I was conscious, or unconscious due to what the fuck I saw.
I was 5 or 6, It was around 8am on a weekend and I was getting up before all the family. I hopped out of my bed on the main floor and headed for the basement stairs, to get down there and play video games of course. I whipped the corner to the top of the stairs facing down and fuck me guys there was 4 or 5 solid black silhouettes, in trench coats , and top hats in a semicircle facing me just standing there at the bottom of the stairs. I remember them having no face no red eyes no canes and they said nothing. I froze and just stared for about 5 seconds and blacked out.
But it got fuckin worse, guys I literally woke up at the bottom of the stairs, ran back up into my bed and fell asleep. That Is the last memory of that experience.
This is what really fucks with my head and this is why I dont talk about it, and cant convince myself I was unconscious during that godamn experience.” — u/growmeplease
If he scares you, ask him to leave
“I used to sleepwalk and get night terrors and sleep paralysis as a child. And every night, without fail, this shadow man in a hat and long coat would stand in my doorway. He was darker than the darkest night. Even if I couldn’t see my hand in front of my face I could always see him. And on moonlit nights, no features were ever visible. He was just a clean silhouette made of pure darkness.
Around sunset, I would start feeling uneasy because I knew he’d be coming soon. He was never there when I went to bed but at a certain point in the night, I’d just know he’d arrived. I’d always roll over to look at him, and I was never afraid in those moments. I’d just stare at him and feel completely calm. It was more in the daytime that I felt uncomfortable about the fact that I had some shadow dude hanging out in my room.
I told my mum about it and she suggested that I just ask him to go away. Her reasoning was that if I wasn’t getting bad vibes off him, he’d probably leave if he knew I didn’t want him there. So when I was twelve, I asked him to leave and he did. Vanished without any fuss. And I haven’t seen him since.” — u/KLestrangeR
If you’ve had an experience with the Hat Man, please let us know so we can document it. We’re afterdark at thought catalog dot com.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-19--Check Your Husband’s ‘Calculator’ App

Check Your Husband’s ‘Calculator’ App

What American Murder : The Family Next Door , Netflix ’ s documentary on the Watts family murders , taught us is that things can look perfect from the outside .
A family can seem happy .
And a father/husband can still decide to murder his entire family .
We know that Chris Watts murdered his pregnant wife , Shanann , and their two little girls , Bella and Celeste .
American Murder was so compelling because Shanann Watts was an avid social media user so we were able to hear a lot of the story told in her own @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Their marital problems seemed so normal .
If I was Shanann , I would have no idea my husband was about to murder me and my children .
She may have had some kind of heads up if she knew Chris was having an affair with a coworker named Nichol Kessinger .
Shanann was unaware of the affair while Nichol had been Googling Shanann ’ s name since a year before she and Chris even started a relationship .
Investigators found the Google searches along with evidence that Nichol frequented Shanann ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ her beautiful family and “ loving ” husband .
We know now that Chris hid the affair from his wife .
While Shanann went on work trips , Chris would plan romantic rendezvous with Nichol .
The two often exchanged photos , which Chris kept and hid from Shanann in a folder on his phone meant to look like a simple calculator app .
He may have used the Secret Calculator App to accomplish this .
All the clues that Shanann needed to take her kids and run were hidden in plain sight @ @ @ @ @ @ @ works : It kills me to think that if Shanann ( who frequently used her husband ’ s phone ) had known to check this app , she could have uncovered the affair and put herself in a safe position before confronting him about it .
He seemed like such a normal husband .
I can ’ t help but want every woman to know about this app ( or about the ability to hid evidence of an affair in plain sight ) .
If your husband or boyfriend ’ s behavior has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ if he has this app .
Chris Watts Wrote A Letter Explaining How He Murdered His Family Chris Watts ’ Parents Tried To Collect $ 450k In Insurance Money From Shanann ’ s Murder

What American Murder: The Family Next Door, Netflix’s documentary on the Watts family murders, taught us is that things can look perfect from the outside. A family can seem happy. And a father/husband can still decide to murder his entire family.
We know that Chris Watts murdered his pregnant wife, Shanann, and their two little girls, Bella and Celeste.
American Murder was so compelling because Shanann Watts was an avid social media user so we were able to hear a lot of the story told in her own words. She seemed so normal. Their marital problems seemed so normal. If I was Shanann, I would have no idea my husband was about to murder me and my children.
She may have had some kind of heads up if she knew Chris was having an affair with a coworker named Nichol Kessinger.
Shanann was unaware of the affair while Nichol had been Googling Shanann’s name since a year before she and Chris even started a relationship. Investigators found the Google searches along with evidence that Nichol frequented Shanann’s Facebook page where Shanann frequently posted about her beautiful family and “loving” husband.
We know now that Chris hid the affair from his wife. While Shanann went on work trips, Chris would plan romantic rendezvous with Nichol. The two often exchanged photos, which Chris kept and hid from Shanann in a folder on his phone meant to look like a simple calculator app. He may have used the Secret Calculator App to accomplish this.
All the clues that Shanann needed to take her kids and run were hidden in plain sight. Here’s how the app works:
It kills me to think that if Shanann (who frequently used her husband’s phone) had known to check this app, she could have uncovered the affair and put herself in a safe position before confronting him about it. He seemed like such a normal husband. I can’t help but want every woman to know about this app (or about the ability to hid evidence of an affair in plain sight). If your husband or boyfriend’s behavior has changed, you should look and see if he has this app.
More reading:
Chris Watts Wrote A Letter Explaining How He Murdered His Family
Chris Watts, Family Murderer, Is A ‘Ladies Man’ In Prison
Chris Watts’ Parents Tried To Collect $450k In Insurance Money From Shanann’s Murder


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-19--What Each Zodiac Sign Cares About More Than Love And Dating

Their career .
They want to make something of themselves .
They have a strong drive to succeed .
Nothing .
Their main goal in life is to find their soulmate , that one special person they can share their life with .
Their mental health .
They would rather be alone and happy than be in a relationship with someone who brings out the worst in them .
Their family .
They will always place their relatives ( whether it ’ s their parents or children or siblings ) above anyone who enters their world later in life .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ like children .
No one can compare to their furry friends .
Travel .
They would rather see the world on their own than be stuck in one place with one person .
Themselves .
They treat themselves as a priority .
They put their own needs above the needs of any partner .
Money .
It ’ s important for them to be able to support themselves .
They don ’ t want to rely on anyone else .
Their education .
They put learning first .
To them , it ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ love .
Everything .
Getting into a relationship is the last thing on their mind .
They are perfectly fine being alone .
Their hobbies .
Their interests are what make them them and they need enough time to pursue those passions .
They would never give them up .
Their friendships .
They would rather have free time to spend with their closest friends than waste that time on a boy/girl who probably isn ’ t going to call them back .

Aries
Their career. They want to make something of themselves. They have a strong drive to succeed.
Taurus
Nothing. Their main goal in life is to find their soulmate, that one special person they can share their life with.
Gemini
Their mental health. They would rather be alone and happy than be in a relationship with someone who brings out the worst in them.
Cancer
Their family. They will always place their relatives (whether it’s their parents or children or siblings) above anyone who enters their world later in life.
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Leo
Their pets. They treat their animals like children. No one can compare to their furry friends.
Virgo
Travel. They would rather see the world on their own than be stuck in one place with one person.
Libra
Themselves. They treat themselves as a priority. They put their own needs above the needs of any partner.
Scorpio
Money. It’s important for them to be able to support themselves. They don’t want to rely on anyone else.
Sagittarius
Their education. They put learning first. To them, it’s way more important than falling in love.
Capricorn
Everything. Getting into a relationship is the last thing on their mind. They are perfectly fine being alone.
Aquarius
Their hobbies. Their interests are what make them them and they need enough time to pursue those passions. They would never give them up.
Pisces
Their friendships. They would rather have free time to spend with their closest friends than waste that time on a boy/girl who probably isn’t going to call them back.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-20--What Each Zodiac Sign Is Doing Wrong In Life (November 2020 Edition)

You ’ re letting your anger control you .
You ’ re giving it more attention than any other emotion .
You ’ re putting the best interest of your partner before yourself .
You ’ re not thinking about your own needs .
You ’ re spending too much time trying to ‘ beat ’ others when you ’ re not playing a game .
You ’ re not in competition against anyone other than yourself .
You ’ re underestimating your abilities and allowing other people to look down on you instead of showing your greatness .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ planning out your future instead of enjoying the moment and taking it one day at a time .
You ’ re letting outside opinions change the way you behave instead of living for yourself .
You ’ re waiting for someone to swoop into your life and save you instead of putting effort into fixing problems yourself .
You ’ re trying too hard to impress people who are never going to be happy , no matter what you do for them .
You ’ re working your ass off without getting credit @ @ @ @ @ @ @ let yourself take a short break .
You ’ re letting your fears overpower your desire to succeed and are giving up before really trying .
You ’ re assuming the worst from others and are pulling yourself away before forming genuine connections .
You ’ re ignoring your mental health and pushing through the day instead of reaching out for help .

Aries
You’re letting your anger control you. You’re giving it more attention than any other emotion.
Taurus
You’re putting the best interest of your partner before yourself. You’re not thinking about your own needs.
Gemini
You’re spending too much time trying to ‘beat’ others when you’re not playing a game. You’re not in competition against anyone other than yourself.
Cancer
You’re underestimating your abilities and allowing other people to look down on you instead of showing your greatness.
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Leo
You’re putting too much emphasis on planning out your future instead of enjoying the moment and taking it one day at a time.
Virgo
You’re letting outside opinions change the way you behave instead of living for yourself.
Libra
You’re waiting for someone to swoop into your life and save you instead of putting effort into fixing problems yourself.
Scorpio
You’re trying too hard to impress people who are never going to be happy, no matter what you do for them.
Sagittarius
You’re working your ass off without getting credit, and you won’t even let yourself take a short break.
Capricorn
You’re letting your fears overpower your desire to succeed and are giving up before really trying.
Aquarius
You’re assuming the worst from others and are pulling yourself away before forming genuine connections.
Pisces
You’re ignoring your mental health and pushing through the day instead of reaching out for help.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-20--The Biggest Perk Of Being Friends With Each Zodiac Sign

They ’ ll hype you up whenever you post a picture on social media .
They ’ ll drown you in compliments .
They ’ ll send you presents ( or cards ) for every birthday and holiday .
They ’ ll never forget about you .
They ’ ll always have freshly brewed coffee waiting — and they ’ ll always offer you a cup .
They ’ ll constantly bake you desserts ( like cookies and cakes and brownies ) that will taste absolutely delicious .
They ’ ll let you pet their dog , play with their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ their dog .
They ’ ll take flattering photos of you to post on Instagram .
They ’ ll capture all your best angles .
They ’ ll always show up with a bottle of wine or a six-pack of beer .
They never arrive empty-handed .
They ’ ll text you to check in every few days .
They ’ ll make it clear they care about you .
They ’ ll always buy enough food to share with you .
They won ’ t hesitate to give you some fries .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ they love you .
They ’ ll never hesitate to remind you they care .
They ’ ll answer the phone at any time of night .
They ’ ll listen to you vent for hours .

Aries
They’ll hype you up whenever you post a picture on social media. They’ll drown you in compliments.
Taurus
They’ll send you presents (or cards) for every birthday and holiday. They’ll never forget about you.
Gemini
They’ll always have freshly brewed coffee waiting — and they’ll always offer you a cup.
Cancer
They’ll constantly bake you desserts (like cookies and cakes and brownies) that will taste absolutely delicious.
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Leo
They’ll remember important dates. They’ll have your birthday memorized.
Virgo
They’ll let you pet their dog, play with their dog, and send you pictures of their dog.
Libra
They’ll take flattering photos of you to post on Instagram. They’ll capture all your best angles.
Scorpio
They’ll always show up with a bottle of wine or a six-pack of beer. They never arrive empty-handed.
Sagittarius
They’ll text you to check in every few days. They’ll make it clear they care about you.
Capricorn
They’ll always buy enough food to share with you. They won’t hesitate to give you some fries.
Aquarius
They’ll tell you how much they love you. They’ll never hesitate to remind you they care.
Pisces
They’ll answer the phone at any time of night. They’ll listen to you vent for hours.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-20--30 Things That Need To Stop Being Sexualized Because It’s Annoying AF

1 .
Going on your knees or bending over .
I always hesitate to pick up things and often reposition myself .
2 .
Yoga pants !
They ’ re comfortable and practical whilst practicing yoga .
WTF is up with people ?
!
3 .
Cheerleaders .
Cheerleading is a predominantly high school sport and most cheerleaders are children .
It ’ s icky .
4 .
Being nice .
I hate when I ’ m decent towards a guy and they get pissed when I don ’ t like them .
5 .
Lesbians — no we will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ No , you can not join .
Yes , we are in a REAL relationship .
And for the love of God stop asking how we have sex .
6 .
Massages .
Like dude , if you ’ re going to offer me a massage when my body hurts then ACTUALLY massage me .
I ’ ll let you touch my butt in a minute just ffs please rub my muscles out .
7 .
Popsicles , bananas , lollipops , candy canes… I just want to eat without weird looks/comments .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Winter is cold , mate .
I ’ d like to be able to wear them with tights and a mid to shortish length skirt without it being assumed that I ’ m going for a schoolgirl/porn vibe .
9 .
The word daddy .
My kids gon na call me bruh and shit .
10 .
Sexualizing daddy/mommy issues .
Your dad abused you ?
Oh you must like being hit and choked and made to feel like you ’ re worthless .
That ’ s one of the most mentally @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of .
How can people live like that willingly ?
11 .
Women getting murdered .
Horror movies and reenactments in shows like Cold Case Files , the woman murder victim is always wearing like sexy lingerie to get brutally killed in .
12 .
Boobies .
Damn it would be so cool to be able to go shirtless on a hot day without people being creepy about it .
13 .
Male-female friendships .
I ’ m incredibly tired of having to explain and justify my awesome and supportive friendships to others @ @ @ @ @ @ @ do they blur out the female ones on TV , but males are fine going topless ?
It ’ s infuriating .
17 .
Halloween costumes that shouldn ’ t be sexy : Spongebob , Elmo , nuns , children ’ s cartoon/game characters , etc .
19 .
Clothes .
I seriously hate dresses and skirts because it is so sexualized that I ’ m seriously worried people will think I ’ m ‘ asking ’ for it because I want to wear a dress and look pretty .
20 .
Student-teacher @ @ @ @ @ @ @ doing a project with this girl who was complaining that in one of her other classes , all the teacher did was talk about her favorite student and then she said there might be something going on and ughhh I hate that shit .
22 .
Cosplay .
And not the fault of the cosplayer .
Annoying neckbeards who insult and harass the cosplayer for simply being an attractive woman , even in situations when the cosplay is not intended to be sexual at all .
23 .
Physical affection with friends , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
No seriously .
Can women just exist without being made into sex objects ?
The irony is that I reckon we ’ d all have far more sex if we didn ’ t oversexualize women in movies , TV , ads , art , everywhere , creating toxic attitudes and forcing women to be naturally suspicious of men .
Women want to fuck every bit as much as men , but they have to be so damn careful with it because men have been taught that women are objects to be used @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Conquests .
It ’ s all bullshit .
Let them just be people .
25 .
Pregnancy .
Yes , they had sex to get that way but it doesn ’ t typically tend to be a sexy thing to go through .
I know so many people that will argue it but… No .
Just stop .
26 .
The words ‘ dirty ’ and ‘ naughty ’ .
Trying to discipline my nieces and nephews just sounds awful .
‘ Don ’ t be a naughty girl , that ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Not wearing a bra .
Bras are so uncomfortable but I can ’ t go outside in a t-shirt/sweater without one because people will stare .
28 .
Animals and animal-characters in movies .
Honestly who the fuck thought that putting boobs on a fucking cat was good ?
29 .
The cervix .
For whatever reason , some men still think they should ‘ destroy ’ it or need to push through or something .
What ?
!
30 .
The number 69 .
You all know what I mean .

Ask Reddit wants you to stop sexualizing the following things ASAP.
1. Going on your knees or bending over. I always hesitate to pick up things and often reposition myself.
2. Yoga pants! They’re comfortable and practical whilst practicing yoga. WTF is up with people?!
3. Cheerleaders. Cheerleading is a predominantly high school sport and most cheerleaders are children. It’s icky.
4. Being nice. I hate when I’m decent towards a guy and they get pissed when I don’t like them.
5. Lesbians — no we will not makeout for you to watch. No, you cannot join. Yes, we are in a REAL relationship. And for the love of God stop asking how we have sex.
6. Massages. Like dude, if you’re going to offer me a massage when my body hurts then ACTUALLY massage me. I’ll let you touch my butt in a minute just ffs please rub my muscles out.
7. Popsicles, bananas, lollipops, candy canes… I just want to eat without weird looks/comments.
8. Long over the knee socks. Winter is cold, mate. I’d like to be able to wear them with tights and a mid to shortish length skirt without it being assumed that I’m going for a schoolgirl/porn vibe.
9. The word daddy. My kids gonna call me bruh and shit.
10. Sexualizing daddy/mommy issues. Your dad abused you? Oh you must like being hit and choked and made to feel like you’re worthless. That’s one of the most mentally unhealthy things I’ve ever heard of. How can people live like that willingly?
11. Women getting murdered. Horror movies and reenactments in shows like Cold Case Files, the woman murder victim is always wearing like sexy lingerie to get brutally killed in.
12. Boobies. Damn it would be so cool to be able to go shirtless on a hot day without people being creepy about it.
13. Male-female friendships. I’m incredibly tired of having to explain and justify my awesome and supportive friendships to others.
14. Female nipples. Why do they blur out the female ones on TV, but males are fine going topless? It’s infuriating.
15. Bra straps.
16. Breastfeeding.
17. Halloween costumes that shouldn’t be sexy: Spongebob, Elmo, nuns, children’s cartoon/game characters, etc.
18. School uniforms.
19. Clothes. I seriously hate dresses and skirts because it is so sexualized that I’m seriously worried people will think I’m ‘asking’ for it because I want to wear a dress and look pretty.
20. Student-teacher relationships. The other day I was doing a project with this girl who was complaining that in one of her other classes, all the teacher did was talk about her favorite student and then she said there might be something going on and ughhh I hate that shit.
21. Mental illness. Manic pixie dream girls. Depressed goths. Socially anxious, low self-esteem nerdy girls.
22. Cosplay. And not the fault of the cosplayer. Annoying neckbeards who insult and harass the cosplayer for simply being an attractive woman, even in situations when the cosplay is not intended to be sexual at all.
23. Physical affection with friends, ESPECIALLY between men.
24. Women. No seriously. Can women just exist without being made into sex objects? The irony is that I reckon we’d all have far more sex if we didn’t oversexualize women in movies, TV, ads, art, everywhere, creating toxic attitudes and forcing women to be naturally suspicious of men. Women want to fuck every bit as much as men, but they have to be so damn careful with it because men have been taught that women are objects to be used for sex. Notches on the bedpost. Conquests. It’s all bullshit. Let them just be people.
25. Pregnancy. Yes, they had sex to get that way but it doesn’t typically tend to be a sexy thing to go through. I know so many people that will argue it but… No. Just stop.
26. The words ‘dirty’ and ‘naughty’. Trying to discipline my nieces and nephews just sounds awful. ‘Don’t be a naughty girl, that’s dirty!’ 🤮
27. Not wearing a bra. Bras are so uncomfortable but I can’t go outside in a t-shirt/sweater without one because people will stare.
28. Animals and animal-characters in movies. Honestly who the fuck thought that putting boobs on a fucking cat was good?
29. The cervix. For whatever reason, some men still think they should ‘destroy’ it or need to push through or something. What?!
30. The number 69. You all know what I mean.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-23--If You Ever Feel Lost, Please Remember That You Can Make A Home Within Your Own Heart

You were never meant to find a permanent home in a temporary world .
Other people were never meant to love you into a feeling of safety and security .
The truth is that you are here to make a home within your own heart .
You are here to learn not that you don ’ t need connection , but that without being connected to yourself , nothing else is viable .
You are here not to burrow yourself into a life someone else built , but to find the courage to create your own .
You are your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you were waiting for .
You are the love of your life and the hero of this story .
Your chest is where peace is .
Your heart is where love is .
Your mind is where inspiration is .
You do not need anyone to offer you anything more in order to create what ’ s meant to be yours .
You are here for yourself , first and foremost .
The people who walk along with you on the journey are never to be taken for granted , but they are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ own emotional labor .
Because the truth is that it is nobody else ’ s job to make us feel safe , to make us feel that all is well and right .
Until you are at home in your own heart , you will never make peace with the world .
This is because you will constantly be requiring things to be different than they are , constantly be needing people to fulfill your own expectations of them , constantly needing to weave around your fears and your triggers .
What you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is not an idea , it ’ s not a place , it ’ s a way of being .
It ’ s a way you show up to your life and make it your own .
It ’ s a way you find comfort in the contours of who you are , not who you might one day become .
It ’ s the way you seek presence in all things , to realize that nothing is meant to be perfect , but everything is a new experience that you didn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have again .
Making a home within yourself is knowing you will always be okay not because everything will go the way you initially planned , but because you will adapt even if it doesn ’ t .
Making a home within yourself is knowing that you will always move forward not because it won ’ t be hard to let go , but because you can do hard things .
Making a home within yourself is knowing that you will always return to peace , not because you will always be comfortable @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feel uncomfortable in order to have the life you ’ ve asked for .
We are not alive to coast .
We are not alive to seek safe spaces within the idea of another .
We are here to realize that we are the source of our own existence , of all that we create , of all that we are .
We are here to bring ourselves home , and then to show others the way back to themselves .

You were never meant to find a permanent home in a temporary world.
Other people were never meant to love you into a feeling of safety and security.
The truth is that you are here to make a home within your own heart. You are here to learn not that you don’t need connection, but that without being connected to yourself, nothing else is viable. You are here not to burrow yourself into a life someone else built, but to find the courage to create your own.
You are your own home.
You are the person you were waiting for.
You are the love of your life and the hero of this story.
Your chest is where peace is. Your heart is where love is. Your mind is where inspiration is.
You do not need anyone to offer you anything more in order to create what’s meant to be yours.
You are here for yourself, first and foremost.
The people who walk along with you on the journey are never to be taken for granted, but they are also never to be utilized for your own emotional labor.
Because the truth is that it is nobody else’s job to make us feel safe, to make us feel that all is well and right.
Until you are at home in your own heart, you will never make peace with the world.
This is because you will constantly be requiring things to be different than they are, constantly be needing people to fulfill your own expectations of them, constantly needing to weave around your fears and your triggers.
What you have to realize instead is that home is not an idea, it’s not a place, it’s a way of being.
It’s a way you show up to your life and make it your own.
It’s a way you find comfort in the contours of who you are, not who you might one day become.
It’s the way you seek presence in all things, to realize that nothing is meant to be perfect, but everything is a new experience that you didn’t have before, and might never have again.
Making a home within yourself is knowing you will always be okay not because everything will go the way you initially planned, but because you will adapt even if it doesn’t.
Making a home within yourself is knowing that you will always move forward not because it won’t be hard to let go, but because you can do hard things.
Making a home within yourself is knowing that you will always return to peace, not because you will always be comfortable, but because you are willing to feel uncomfortable in order to have the life you’ve asked for.
We are not alive to coast.
We are not alive to seek safe spaces within the idea of another.
We are here to realize that we are the source of our own existence, of all that we create, of all that we are.
We are here to bring ourselves home, and then to show others the way back to themselves.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-24--A Master List Of ‘Reasons’ Chris Watts Has Given For Murdering His Family

Chris Watts was a suspect in the murder of his pregnant wife and two children for all of 48 hours before he confessed to killing his family .
He confessed pretty much immediately and the investigation changed from figuring out what happened to Shanann and her kids to just gathering enough information to ensure Chris would be convicted .
I ’ m not the only true crime fan who thinks there ’ s something not right about this case .
I ’ m glad that Chris is in jail , by all accounts he deserves to be .
But I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
There may still be more justice that needs to be delivered in this case .
Here ’ s what we know about family annihilators and what Chris has said himself motivated him to do something so evil : A family annihilator is someone who kills the members of their own family in a short time period .
When we hear about shootings or other mass murder situations , we generally think about a lone gunman attacking a group of strangers .
However , over half of mass murders are committed by someone @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
As absolutely gutting as the reality is , family annihilators like Chris Watts are the most common form of mass murder in the US .
Most family annihilators are white men in their 30s .
Interestingly , the most common month for family annihilators to strike is August .
( Shanann and her children were murdered on the morning of August 13th ) .
They also generally occur in response to relationship problems between the parents which either lead to a custody dispute or fear of a custody dispute .
One study @ @ @ @ @ @ @ their families found that “ Men who murder their entire families usually do so because they believe their spouse performed a wrongdoing and that the spouse needs to be punished , they feel that the family members caused a disappointment , they feel that their own financial failings ruined the point of having a family , and because they wish to save their family from a perceived threat.
” Another study considered the motivations of four “ types ” of family annihilators : “ In this typology , the anomic killer sees his @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when his economic status collapses , he sees them as surplus to requirements .
The disappointed killer seeks to punish the family for not living up to his ideals of family life .
The self-righteous killer destroys the family to exact revenge upon the mother , in an act that he blames on her .
Finally , the paranoid killer kills their family in what they imagine to be an attempt to protect them from something even worse.
” The heat of the moment/ ” blind rage ” [ * ] At first @ @ @ @ @ @ @ what happened to his wife and children .
Then , he said he told Shanann he wanted to break up and pursue a relationship with his mistress , Nichol Kessinger .
Watts says Shanann became angry and strangled her daughters .
He said he then murdered Shanann and disposed of all three bodies .
[ * ] A lawyer for Shanann ’ s family said that Chris murdered Shanann during an argument after he asked for a divorce .
Bella witnessed the murder .
Chris then brought his ( living ) children with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of Shanann ’ s body and killed the girls there .
[ * ] A former FBI criminal profiler said on Dr. Phil that she believes Chris Watts is a narcissist and a psychopath .
She points out that Chris does not show emotion , even when interviewed on camera about his missing wife and kids ( a situation where it would be normal to show emotion ) .
He tends to victimize himself and depersonalize the people he killed , for instance by avoiding saying their names .
[ * ] Seven @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 2018 Chris Watts wrote a note and gave it to his sister while he was visiting her .
The note read : [ * ] 6-7 months after the murders , while he was beginning to serve his five life sentences , Chris Watts was interviewed by the FBI .
What came out of this is a letter Chris Watts wrote explaining why and how he killed his family .
In this letter he goes back on his “ blind rage ” story and the murders begin to look more and more premeditated @ @ @ @ @ @ @ [ * ] In this version of events , Chris says he went to the girls room and attempted to murder them first .
He then “ climbed into bed ” with Shanann , they argued , and he murdered her .
At this time he says Bella and Celeste “ woke up ” and he realized they were not deceased .
He wrote , “ The girls were just kind of running around the house , and watching me with scared looks on their faces .
Bella started to cry and when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a nightmare this was.
” [ * ] The final blow against Chris “ blind rage ” story is when he writes in this letter that he had previously tried to force Shanann to have a miscarriage by drugging her .
This is what premeditation looks like : [ * ] He spoke to his mistress for 111 minutes around the time of the murders .
Neither he nor Nichol have been able to say what they spoke about during this time .
One theory is that Nichol helped him with the murders @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in the Watts ’ town that morning when she lived 25 minutes away ) .
Another is that she gave him an ultimatum and threatened to tell Shanann about their affair leading Chris to panic and murder his family .
[ * ] There ’ s another theory ( which I think is reasonable ) that Nichol Kessinger may have sought out Chris Watts as a romantic partner , but her real motive was the commit insurance fraud against Chris ’ employer where she was also a contractor .
This would explain why @ @ @ @ @ @ @ work site , and why he did such a poor job covering his tracks — they expected the site to have an explosion and have time to make it all look like an accident .
Nichol and Chris could then collect hundreds of thousands of dollars ( if not millions ) in insurance money and start a new life together .
Here is a good synopsis of this theory .
I think we will never get one clear motive from Chris Watts .
I agree with the profiler who said he fits the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ kind of person doesn ’ t feel guilt or remorse and thrives on attention .
He ’ s in jail writing letters to “ dozens ” of women pretending he ’ s found god now .
He also very well may be covering up his mistress Nichol Kessinger ’ s ( or someone else ’ s ) involvement in the murders .
Chris Watts is serving five life sentences and the judge who sentenced him told him he will “ never ” see the outside of a prison again .
I think he @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and he ’ ll tell each woman a different story about what happened .
We ’ ll get books about Chris Watts .
There ’ s already one on preorder from one of his girlfriends ( no , I won ’ t link it but you can Google it ) .
He says he ’ s writing a book about Jesus with another inmate .
I think he just likes being the center of attention .

Chris Watts was a suspect in the murder of his pregnant wife and two children for all of 48 hours before he confessed to killing his family. He confessed pretty much immediately and the investigation changed from figuring out what happened to Shanann and her kids to just gathering enough information to ensure Chris would be convicted. I’m not the only true crime fan who thinks there’s something not right about this case.
I’m glad that Chris is in jail, by all accounts he deserves to be. But I’m not convinced he acted alone. There may still be more justice that needs to be delivered in this case. Here’s what we know about family annihilators and what Chris has said himself motivated him to do something so evil:
General psychology of family annihilators
A family annihilator is someone who kills the members of their own family in a short time period. When we hear about shootings or other mass murder situations, we generally think about a lone gunman attacking a group of strangers. However, over half of mass murders are committed by someone in the victim’s immediate family. As absolutely gutting as the reality is, family annihilators like Chris Watts are the most common form of mass murder in the US.
Most family annihilators are white men in their 30s. Interestingly, the most common month for family annihilators to strike is August. (Shanann and her children were murdered on the morning of August 13th). They also generally occur in response to relationship problems between the parents which either lead to a custody dispute or fear of a custody dispute. One study on the motivation of men who murder their families found that “Men who murder their entire families usually do so because they believe their spouse performed a wrongdoing and that the spouse needs to be punished, they feel that the family members caused a disappointment, they feel that their own financial failings ruined the point of having a family, and because they wish to save their family from a perceived threat.”
Another study considered the motivations of four “types” of family annihilators: “In this typology, the anomic killer sees his family purely as a status symbol; when his economic status collapses, he sees them as surplus to requirements. The disappointed killer seeks to punish the family for not living up to his ideals of family life. The self-righteous killer destroys the family to exact revenge upon the mother, in an act that he blames on her. Finally, the paranoid killer kills their family in what they imagine to be an attempt to protect them from something even worse.”
The heat of the moment/”blind rage”
[*] At first Chris Watts said he had no idea what happened to his wife and children. Then, he said he told Shanann he wanted to break up and pursue a relationship with his mistress, Nichol Kessinger. Watts says Shanann became angry and strangled her daughters. He said he then murdered Shanann and disposed of all three bodies.
[*] A lawyer for Shanann’s family said that Chris murdered Shanann during an argument after he asked for a divorce. Bella witnessed the murder. Chris then brought his (living) children with him to his work site to dispose of Shanann’s body and killed the girls there.
Signs of premeditation
[*] A former FBI criminal profiler said on Dr. Phil that she believes Chris Watts is a narcissist and a psychopath. She points out that Chris does not show emotion, even when interviewed on camera about his missing wife and kids (a situation where it would be normal to show emotion). He tends to victimize himself and depersonalize the people he killed, for instance by avoiding saying their names.
[*] Seven days before murders on August 6, 2018 Chris Watts wrote a note and gave it to his sister while he was visiting her. The note read:
“To Whom it May Concern: If anyone gets this letter, I would never do anything to hurt myself or my children or my wife. If anything happens to me, please investigate my wife. Chris Watts”
The letter
[*] 6-7 months after the murders, while he was beginning to serve his five life sentences, Chris Watts was interviewed by the FBI. What came out of this is a letter Chris Watts wrote explaining why and how he killed his family. In this letter he goes back on his “blind rage” story and the murders begin to look more and more premeditated. For instance, Chris wrote:
“I walked away and said, ‘That’s the last time I’m going to be tucking my babies.’
And:
“I knew what was going to happen the day before and I did nothing to stop it.”
[*] In this version of events, Chris says he went to the girls room and attempted to murder them first. He then “climbed into bed” with Shanann, they argued, and he murdered her. At this time he says Bella and Celeste “woke up” and he realized they were not deceased. He wrote, “The girls were just kind of running around the house, and watching me with scared looks on their faces. Bella started to cry and when she did Celeste started whimpering. What a nightmare this was.”
[*] The final blow against Chris “blind rage” story is when he writes in this letter that he had previously tried to force Shanann to have a miscarriage by drugging her. This is what premeditation looks like:
“The reason the medical examiner found oxycodone in Shanann’s system is because I gave it to her. I thought it would be easier to be with Nichol if Shanann wasn’t pregnant.”
Other theories
[*] He spoke to his mistress for 111 minutes around the time of the murders. Neither he nor Nichol have been able to say what they spoke about during this time. One theory is that Nichol helped him with the murders (her phone also pinged a tower in the Watts’ town that morning when she lived 25 minutes away). Another is that she gave him an ultimatum and threatened to tell Shanann about their affair leading Chris to panic and murder his family.
[*] There’s another theory (which I think is reasonable) that Nichol Kessinger may have sought out Chris Watts as a romantic partner, but her real motive was the commit insurance fraud against Chris’ employer where she was also a contractor. This would explain why Chris disposed of the bodies at his work site, and why he did such a poor job covering his tracks — they expected the site to have an explosion and have time to make it all look like an accident. Nichol and Chris could then collect hundreds of thousands of dollars (if not millions) in insurance money and start a new life together. Here is a good synopsis of this theory.
Conclusion
I think we will never get one clear motive from Chris Watts. I agree with the profiler who said he fits the criteria for a narcissistic psychopath. This kind of person doesn’t feel guilt or remorse and thrives on attention. He’s in jail writing letters to “dozens” of women pretending he’s found god now.
He also very well may be covering up his mistress Nichol Kessinger’s (or someone else’s) involvement in the murders.
Chris Watts is serving five life sentences and the judge who sentenced him told him he will “never” see the outside of a prison again. I think he’ll keep up with his harem and he’ll tell each woman a different story about what happened. We’ll get books about Chris Watts. There’s already one on preorder from one of his girlfriends (no, I won’t link it but you can Google it). He says he’s writing a book about Jesus with another inmate. I think he just likes being the center of attention.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-25--11 Things I’m Thankful About This Thanksgiving In 2020

1 .
I ’ m thankful for the people in my life who keep me grounded and stop me from spiraling when I ’ m falling apart at the seams .
I ’ m thankful that they are always there to cheer me up and encourage me when it seems like everything is wrong .
I ’ m thankful that I never feel alone , even when I ’ m in an empty room .
2 .
I ’ m thankful for the television shows , books , movies , and songs that transport me to another dimension when I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I ’ m thankful for the artists who continue to make a mark on this world , even when they aren ’ t sure whether their voices are going to be heard .
3 .
I ’ m thankful for the roof over my head , the clothes on my back , and the food on my table .
I ’ m thankful for the little things that allow me to survive , the necessities that I don ’ t pay much attention to on a daily basis and have unfortunately taken for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ thankful for the mistakes I ’ ve made over the course of 2020 and the lessons I ’ ve learned in the process .
I ’ m thankful that I ’ ve grown wise and mature enough to look back on what I ’ ve done wrong and admit I was wrong instead of continuing on in my ignorance .
5 .
I ’ m thankful for the technology that allows me to see my friends and family , even when we ’ re miles apart .
I ’ m thankful that we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ talk or jump on a video call or play silly games over the internet , despite how many states or countries are separating us .
6 .
I ’ m thankful for the pets that give me unconditional love and affection and trust me to protect them .
I ’ m thankful for the dogs who come up with a reason to get excited every single day and the cats who are always ready to cuddle .
7 .
I ’ m thankful for the tiny compliments given and received throughout the year @ @ @ @ @ @ @ small moments that never should ’ ve become memories but are forever stuck in my mind .
I ’ m thankful for the little acts of kindness that can change the world .
8 .
I ’ m thankful for the moments when people came together and helped one another — and the moments people stayed apart and socially distanced out of love .
I ’ m thankful for everyone who put the greater good above themselves and their own selfish needs .
9 .
I ’ m thankful for the ongoing love @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the most to me .
I ’ m thankful that I have the ability to be my most authentic self .
I ’ m thankful that no one and nothing is holding me back from unlocking my greatest potential .
10 .
I ’ m thankful for my present , although it may seem crummy right now .
I ’ m thankful to be here today .
I ’ m thankful I ’ m still walking and breathing and being .
11 .
I ’ m thankful for the future ahead of me @ @ @ @ @ @ @ knowledge that there are so many amazing things awaiting me .
I ’ m thankful that , even though this year was a nightmare , there ’ s always next year .
It ’ s going to get better than this .
It must .

1. I’m thankful for the people in my life who keep me grounded and stop me from spiraling when I’m falling apart at the seams. I’m thankful that they are always there to cheer me up and encourage me when it seems like everything is wrong. I’m thankful that I never feel alone, even when I’m in an empty room.
2. I’m thankful for the television shows, books, movies, and songs that transport me to another dimension when I need an escape from my problems. I’m thankful for the artists who continue to make a mark on this world, even when they aren’t sure whether their voices are going to be heard.
3. I’m thankful for the roof over my head, the clothes on my back, and the food on my table. I’m thankful for the little things that allow me to survive, the necessities that I don’t pay much attention to on a daily basis and have unfortunately taken for granted.
4. I’m thankful for the mistakes I’ve made over the course of 2020 and the lessons I’ve learned in the process. I’m thankful that I’ve grown wise and mature enough to look back on what I’ve done wrong and admit I was wrong instead of continuing on in my ignorance.
5. I’m thankful for the technology that allows me to see my friends and family, even when we’re miles apart. I’m thankful that we can easily pick up the phone to talk or jump on a video call or play silly games over the internet, despite how many states or countries are separating us.
6. I’m thankful for the pets that give me unconditional love and affection and trust me to protect them. I’m thankful for the dogs who come up with a reason to get excited every single day and the cats who are always ready to cuddle.
7. I’m thankful for the tiny compliments given and received throughout the year. I’m thankful for the small moments that never should’ve become memories but are forever stuck in my mind. I’m thankful for the little acts of kindness that can change the world.
8. I’m thankful for the moments when people came together and helped one another — and the moments people stayed apart and socially distanced out of love. I’m thankful for everyone who put the greater good above themselves and their own selfish needs.
9. I’m thankful for the ongoing love and support from the people who mean the most to me. I’m thankful that I have the ability to be my most authentic self. I’m thankful that no one and nothing is holding me back from unlocking my greatest potential.
10. I’m thankful for my present, although it may seem crummy right now. I’m thankful to be here today. I’m thankful I’m still walking and breathing and being.
11. I’m thankful for the future ahead of me. I’m thankful for the knowledge that there are so many amazing things awaiting me. I’m thankful that, even though this year was a nightmare, there’s always next year. It’s going to get better than this. It must.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-25--6 Reasons You Keep Chasing After The Wrong People

1 .
You don ’ t fall in love with people .
You fall in love with attention .
It doesn ’ t really matter if you like the person you ’ ve been seeing .
It matters if they like you , if they give you attention , if they make you feel attractive .
You care more about their feelings than your own feelings because all you want is to feel wanted .
All you want is to be romanced the way women are in the movies .
It doesn ’ t matter who you ’ re dating @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feel beautiful and intelligent and validated .
2 .
Your standards are dangerously low .
If someone actually answers your texts and calls you pretty and treats you with respect , you feel like you ’ ve found a catch .
It doesn ’ t matter if there ’ s chemistry .
It doesn ’ t matter if you have anything in common .
The second someone treats you somewhat decently , you feel like you ’ ve won the lottery .
You ’ re so used to being treated like dirt that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ but they haven ’ t risen nearly enough .
3 .
You enjoy the chase more than the actual relationship .
You like flirting .
You like playing the field .
You like the idea of this person more than you like the actual person .
Being with them is never as beautiful as you imagined because you had an unrealistic version of them in your head .
You liked the person you thought they were instead of who they really are because you weren ’ t paying close enough attention .
4 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you ’ re supposed to want instead of what you really want .
You date anyone who looks good on paper .
If they ’ re somewhat attractive and work hard and say all the right things , then you give them a chance .
After all , you don ’ t want to stay single .
You don ’ t really mind being alone — but you mind the way it makes you look .
You mind the way others judge you over your relationship status .
That ’ s why you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your relationship looks on social media than whether you ’ re truly fulfilled .
5 .
You have absolutely no idea what you want .
You assume you know what you want because you ’ re supposed to know what you want .
You ’ re supposed to have this figured out by now .
You ’ re supposed to be in touch with your emotions , in tune with your inner self .
But you haven ’ t really stopped to consider the question .
You haven ’ t really invested energy @ @ @ @ @ @ @ would make you happy .
6 .
You feel pressured to find someone soon .
You ’ re getting older .
Relationships are getting more serious .
So many people you know have already settled down with the love of their life — and you don ’ t want to feel like you ’ re being left out .
That ’ s why you usually date whoever happens to come along .
You don ’ t put much thought into it .
You simply go with the flow .
If there ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you take it , because why not ?
You might as well enter a serious relationship , too .
You might as well give love a shot .
However , it ’ s okay to be picky .
It ’ s okay to really think about what would make you happy and be more selective in the dating process .

1. You don’t fall in love with people. You fall in love with attention. It doesn’t really matter if you like the person you’ve been seeing. It matters if they like you, if they give you attention, if they make you feel attractive. You care more about their feelings than your own feelings because all you want is to feel wanted. All you want is to be romanced the way women are in the movies. It doesn’t matter who you’re dating. It matters whether they make you feel beautiful and intelligent and validated.
2. Your standards are dangerously low. If someone actually answers your texts and calls you pretty and treats you with respect, you feel like you’ve found a catch. It doesn’t matter if there’s chemistry. It doesn’t matter if you have anything in common. The second someone treats you somewhat decently, you feel like you’ve won the lottery. You’re so used to being treated like dirt that you think your standards have risen, but they haven’t risen nearly enough.
3. You enjoy the chase more than the actual relationship. You like flirting. You like playing the field. You like the idea of this person more than you like the actual person. Being with them is never as beautiful as you imagined because you had an unrealistic version of them in your head. You liked the person you thought they were instead of who they really are because you weren’t paying close enough attention.
4. You’re going after what you’re supposed to want instead of what you really want. You date anyone who looks good on paper. If they’re somewhat attractive and work hard and say all the right things, then you give them a chance. After all, you don’t want to stay single. You don’t really mind being alone — but you mind the way it makes you look. You mind the way others judge you over your relationship status. That’s why you’re more concerned with the way your relationship looks on social media than whether you’re truly fulfilled.
5. You have absolutely no idea what you want. You assume you know what you want because you’re supposed to know what you want. You’re supposed to have this figured out by now. You’re supposed to be in touch with your emotions, in tune with your inner self. But you haven’t really stopped to consider the question. You haven’t really invested energy into figuring out what type of person would make you happy.
6. You feel pressured to find someone soon. You’re getting older. Relationships are getting more serious. So many people you know have already settled down with the love of their life — and you don’t want to feel like you’re being left out. That’s why you usually date whoever happens to come along. You don’t put much thought into it. You simply go with the flow. If there’s a chance to start a relationship, you take it, because why not? You might as well enter a serious relationship, too. You might as well give love a shot.
However, it’s okay to be picky. It’s okay to really think about what would make you happy and be more selective in the dating process.


thoughtcatalog--2020-11-25--The 3 Traits Each Zodiac Is Searching For In A Forever Person

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