thoughtcatalog--2020-08-14--What Each Zodiac Sign Shouldn’t Be So Shy About

Your accomplishments .
You ’ ve done some great things .
You ’ re allowed to brag about them .
Your smile .
Your laugh .
Don ’ t let your insecurities stop you from letting loose and having fun .
The most beautiful thing you could do is smile .
Your crushes .
You are allowed to feel .
You are allowed to get butterflies .
Don ’ t hide your emotions away because they deserve to run free .
Your dreams .
Don ’ t worry about what the critics will say .
Dream big — and announce @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your own success .
Your kinks .
You shouldn ’ t be shy when it comes to sex .
Be vocal about what you want because you deserve pleasure .
Your relationship .
You ’ re allowed to brag about your partner .
You ’ re allowed to scream your love from the rooftops .
Your fears .
You don ’ t have to keep them to yourself .
You can share them .
You can admit what has been running through your mind .
Your body .
Everyone has insecurities , but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
It ’ s what keeps your heart pumping .
It ’ s what keeps you alive .
Your interests .
Your passions matter .
You shouldn ’ t be embarrassed to talk about them .
You should ramble to your heart ’ s content .
Your failures .
You don ’ t have to hide your past mistakes from everyone .
You can talk about how much you ’ ve grown , how much you ’ ve learned .
Your past .
You don ’ t have to hide any part of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to be afraid to talk about what you ’ ve been through .
Your opinions .
You have a voice .
You ’ re allowed to use it .
Your opinions are just as important as anyone else ’ s .

Aries
Your accomplishments. You’ve done some great things. You’re allowed to brag about them.
Taurus
Your smile. Your laugh. Don’t let your insecurities stop you from letting loose and having fun. The most beautiful thing you could do is smile.
Gemini
Your crushes. You are allowed to feel. You are allowed to get butterflies. Don’t hide your emotions away because they deserve to run free.
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Cancer
Your dreams. Don’t worry about what the critics will say. Dream big — and announce those dreams to the world. Visualize your own success.
Leo
Your kinks. You shouldn’t be shy when it comes to sex. Be vocal about what you want because you deserve pleasure.
Virgo
Your relationship. You’re allowed to brag about your partner. You’re allowed to scream your love from the rooftops.
Libra
Your fears. You don’t have to keep them to yourself. You can share them. You can admit what has been running through your mind.
Scorpio
Your body. Everyone has insecurities, but you should be proud of your body. It’s what keeps your heart pumping. It’s what keeps you alive.
Sagittarius
Your interests. Your passions matter. You shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about them. You should ramble to your heart’s content.
Capricorn
Your failures. You don’t have to hide your past mistakes from everyone. You can talk about how much you’ve grown, how much you’ve learned.
Aquarius
Your past. You don’t have to hide any part of yourself. You don’t have to be afraid to talk about what you’ve been through.
Pisces
Your opinions. You have a voice. You’re allowed to use it. Your opinions are just as important as anyone else’s.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-14--Horror Movies Streaming This Weekend (8/13-8/15)

We have a special spooky summer themed weekend watch guide today with a batch of seasonal summer favs !
Who doesn ’ t like curling up with a nice shark movie or watching a pack of teenagers get stalked in a beautiful remote cabin ?
Pretty much no one .
Here ’ s the best of horror streaming for this weekend , ( 8/13-8/15 ) : Midsommar ( Prime ) .
We can ’ t talk about summer horror movies without including this powerful , strange , and creepy movie about a midsommar festival in an isolated Scandinavian cult .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ fully on the Midsommar hype train and it ’ s one of my favorite horror movies of all time .
There are some people who don ’ t like or don ’ t “ get ” the movie , but my litmus test for whether someone will love or hate this movie is whether they ’ ve ever been in a toxic relationship .
Do with that information what you will .
If you liked the vibe of Midsommar but don ’ t feel like watching it again , try the 1973 British @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a similar vibe and is very creepy !
It ’ s streaming on Netflix this month .
What Keeps You Alive ( Netflix ) .
We have to include a “ lovers in a remote cabin ” horror movie for a summer themed list .
This new Netflix movie is actually super fun and creepy .
If you have plans for a lil summer vacation with your partner , definitely watch this movie beforehand .
Jaws ( Hulu ) .
I am firmly in the “ Jaws is a horror film ” camp @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the horror world who would say otherwise .
Everyone remembers seeing Jaws for the first time .
Everyone remembers not swimming in the “ dark side ” of the pool afterwards because , you never know , there just might be a great white there and after seeing this movie no one is taking any chances .
If you ’ re looking for something newer , 47 Meters Down and 47 Meters Down : Uncaged are on Amazon ( Uncaged is included in Prime membership ) and both are super suspenseful and scary @ @ @ @ @ @ @ escaped the Warren ’ s Occult Museum .
— “ I matched with a guy on Tinder who doesn ’ t exist ” — The very , very good Creep and Creep 2 both streaming on Netflix if you ’ re craving a double feature .
We ’ ll see you next week with a fresh batch of recommendations based on what ’ s streaming !
Stay spooky !

Hello Creepy Catalog readers,
We have a special spooky summer themed weekend watch guide today with a batch of seasonal summer favs! Who doesn’t like curling up with a nice shark movie or watching a pack of teenagers get stalked in a beautiful remote cabin? Pretty much no one. Here’s the best of horror streaming for this weekend, (8/13-8/15):
Streaming on Prime:
Midsommar (Prime). We can’t talk about summer horror movies without including this powerful, strange, and creepy movie about a midsommar festival in an isolated Scandinavian cult. I have to disclose that I am fully on the Midsommar hype train and it’s one of my favorite horror movies of all time. There are some people who don’t like or don’t “get” the movie, but my litmus test for whether someone will love or hate this movie is whether they’ve ever been in a toxic relationship. Do with that information what you will.
If you liked the vibe of Midsommar but don’t feel like watching it again, try the 1973 British version of The Wicker Man which has a similar vibe and is very creepy! It’s streaming on Netflix this month.
Streaming on Netflix:
What Keeps You Alive (Netflix). We have to include a “lovers in a remote cabin” horror movie for a summer themed list. This new Netflix movie is actually super fun and creepy. If you have plans for a lil summer vacation with your partner, definitely watch this movie beforehand.
Streaming on Hulu:
Jaws (Hulu). I am firmly in the “Jaws is a horror film” camp though there are haters out there in the horror world who would say otherwise. Everyone remembers seeing Jaws for the first time. Everyone remembers not swimming in the “dark side” of the pool afterwards because, you never know, there just might be a great white there and after seeing this movie no one is taking any chances. If you’re looking for something newer, 47 Meters Down and 47 Meters Down: Uncaged are on Amazon (Uncaged is included in Prime membership) and both are super suspenseful and scary!
Other horror happenings
— The real Annabelle doll just escaped the Warren’s Occult Museum.
— “I matched with a guy on Tinder who doesn’t exist”
— Another kind of seasonal horror movie viewing: Tornado movies
— The very, very good Creep and Creep 2 both streaming on Netflix if you’re craving a double feature.
We’ll see you next week with a fresh batch of recommendations based on what’s streaming! Stay spooky!


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-14--Hate To Break It To You But Your Celebrity Obsession Is Certifiably Problematic

A celebrity seems to have an easy , swanky , and happy life .
Red-carpeted roads to stardom , beautiful beaches with private sunsets , good vibes from the public , zero financial burdens , and the company of sophisticated , like-minded celebrities .
Who wouldn ’ t want to obsess over them or live vicariously through them ?
What we don ’ t see behind this veil of grandeur is all their years of sweat and scrap .
Years of practicing their craft , thousands of rejections they have painstakingly endured , throngs of people who have told them @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Even if some celebrities shine the light on their less-than-ideal pasts , we choose to obsess over their now .
Their humanness and common-man-ness are lost on us .
You love that they are loved by billions of people from around the world .
Your heart races with all the resounding applause for Beyonce when she enters the stage .
Do you want to be loved by the public like that ?
Forget the public .
Do you want to be loved by your family and friends like that ?
If so , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ relationships or finding new friends and family who have the capacity to love you like a celebrity ?
You want to be them .
Just like them .
I bet they have something you want but don ’ t have .
Not fame , glory , or money , as that ’ s obvious .
But something more deep-seated and lacking in your very core .
Is it the Kardashian figure that can boost your self-worth in this material society ?
The Ed Sheeran rhythm that can prove every naysayer wrong ?
Kanye @ @ @ @ @ @ @ give a damn about what people think ?
The love Meghan receives from Harry that proves unconditional love still exists ?
Since you can ’ t be them , you fantasize about your imaginary life with them .
How your life would change if only you met them once .
You wonder what will happen if they fall in love with you .
It ’ s worth asking yourself what may be missing from your life as is .
And what can you do to like your life without them in it ?
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ without waiting for someone else , let alone a celebrity , to fulfill your life .
You snack on their personal lives that have become boundaryless with social media .
But did you know most of these social media accounts are managed by their designated marketing teams ?
These accounts are curated to present you with the perfect picture of their messy but luxurious lives .
Marketing agencies spend hours strategizing the personal brand of these celebrities and what we see on this side is the result of their hard work .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
How grandly they should profess their love for you , what gifts are passable , locations that you both must travel to .
Basing current , real-life expectations on such curated , material standards is unhealthy for you and your partner .
One day , they may feel like they can never please you and take off .
If you don ’ t have a significant other yet , you look for celebrity-like dates .
The lavish dinners , the rose petal walkways , and the perfect turn of events on day @ @ @ @ @ @ @ tongue-tied at times , especially on first dates .
They get nervous and may not be the smoothest .
You need to cut them some slack as they are not celebrities ( yet ) .
In no way am I encouraging you to settle in life .
You should have high expectations both for your partner and yourself .
I truly believe you do deserve the best in life .
But holding anyone up to impractical , unreal standards of a celebrity ’ s current lifestyle is like setting yourself up for romantic @ @ @ @ @ @ @ their partner , or gets involved in insider-trading , or goes into rehab , you are disappointed beyond belief .
You question yourself and your faith in people in general .
You wonder what you had missed and how you missed it .
Some of us can even get depressed when our celebrities let us down .
And make no mistake , your celebrity will let you down one day because they are only human like all of us .
Although rich and famous , their human vulnerability will cut through years of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ laid bare for everyone ’ s ridicule .
Their richness and fame will also dip into troughs at times .
You spend hours and hours watching their interviews and performances on replay .
Days turn into nights and nights into early mornings on Netflix .
You remember every word that ’ s ever left their mouths .
Why not spend all that time on bettering your life , working towards your dream of becoming a filmmaker or writer ?
Or to make that side hustle come alive ?
Time and energy are precious @ @ @ @ @ @ @ although I hate to break it to you , your celebrity obsession is certifiably problematic .
A healthy obsession with your celebrity can be aspirational .
As long as you are taking steps to elevate your life to close in on the gap between your life and the celebrity ’ s life .
Let ’ s teach ourselves to look at a celebrity ’ s life in full , from drabs of confusion to expensive crabs in Michelin-star restaurants .
Let that journey inspire you and convince you that you can do the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ take back your life from this maddening celebrity saga .

A celebrity seems to have an easy, swanky, and happy life. Red-carpeted roads to stardom, beautiful beaches with private sunsets, good vibes from the public, zero financial burdens, and the company of sophisticated, like-minded celebrities. Who wouldn’t want to obsess over them or live vicariously through them?
What we don’t see behind this veil of grandeur is all their years of sweat and scrap. Years of practicing their craft, thousands of rejections they have painstakingly endured, throngs of people who have told them that they will amount to nothing. Even if some celebrities shine the light on their less-than-ideal pasts, we choose to obsess over their now. Their humanness and common-man-ness are lost on us.
You love that they are loved by billions of people from around the world. Your heart races with all the resounding applause for Beyonce when she enters the stage. Do you want to be loved by the public like that? Forget the public. Do you want to be loved by your family and friends like that? If so, why not work on cultivating your personal relationships or finding new friends and family who have the capacity to love you like a celebrity?
You want to be them. Just like them. I bet they have something you want but don’t have. Not fame, glory, or money, as that’s obvious. But something more deep-seated and lacking in your very core. Is it the Kardashian figure that can boost your self-worth in this material society? The Ed Sheeran rhythm that can prove every naysayer wrong? Kanye’s swagger that doesn’t give a damn about what people think? The love Meghan receives from Harry that proves unconditional love still exists?
Since you can’t be them, you fantasize about your imaginary life with them. How your life would change if only you met them once. You wonder what will happen if they fall in love with you. It’s worth asking yourself what may be missing from your life as is. And what can you do to like your life without them in it? Take agency of your wants and needs without waiting for someone else, let alone a celebrity, to fulfill your life.
You snack on their personal lives that have become boundaryless with social media. But did you know most of these social media accounts are managed by their designated marketing teams? These accounts are curated to present you with the perfect picture of their messy but luxurious lives. Marketing agencies spend hours strategizing the personal brand of these celebrities and what we see on this side is the result of their hard work.
You hold your significant other to celebrity standards. How grandly they should profess their love for you, what gifts are passable, locations that you both must travel to. Basing current, real-life expectations on such curated, material standards is unhealthy for you and your partner. One day, they may feel like they can never please you and take off.
If you don’t have a significant other yet, you look for celebrity-like dates. The lavish dinners, the rose petal walkways, and the perfect turn of events on day one. Normal people tend to get tongue-tied at times, especially on first dates. They get nervous and may not be the smoothest. You need to cut them some slack as they are not celebrities (yet).
In no way am I encouraging you to settle in life. You should have high expectations both for your partner and yourself. I truly believe you do deserve the best in life. But holding anyone up to impractical, unreal standards of a celebrity’s current lifestyle is like setting yourself up for romantic failure.
When your celebrity cheats on their partner, or gets involved in insider-trading, or goes into rehab, you are disappointed beyond belief. You question yourself and your faith in people in general. You wonder what you had missed and how you missed it. Some of us can even get depressed when our celebrities let us down.
And make no mistake, your celebrity will let you down one day because they are only human like all of us. Although rich and famous, their human vulnerability will cut through years of orchestration and their deepest blunders will be laid bare for everyone’s ridicule. Their richness and fame will also dip into troughs at times.
You spend hours and hours watching their interviews and performances on replay. Days turn into nights and nights into early mornings on Netflix. You remember every word that’s ever left their mouths. Why not spend all that time on bettering your life, working towards your dream of becoming a filmmaker or writer? Or to make that side hustle come alive? Time and energy are precious and limited, after all.
So although I hate to break it to you, your celebrity obsession is certifiably problematic.
A healthy obsession with your celebrity can be aspirational. As long as you are taking steps to elevate your life to close in on the gap between your life and the celebrity’s life. Let’s teach ourselves to look at a celebrity’s life in full, from drabs of confusion to expensive crabs in Michelin-star restaurants. Let that journey inspire you and convince you that you can do the same.
It’s time to take back your life from this maddening celebrity saga.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-14--The 30 Craziest Reasons Couples Have Gone To Marriage Counseling

1 .
My sister-in-law made an appointment for marriage counseling because her husband greeted their dog before her when coming home from work .
2 .
It ’ s always the dishes .
I don ’ t see couples anymore because I can not have one more conversation with adult human beings about the various philosophies of dish washing .
3 .
My uncle and his wife , reasoning : She lost a frying pan .
4 .
Couldn ’ t decide on which chicken to buy for their chicken farm .
5 .
A pimp and one of his @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me because they were having jealousy issues .
They were legally married and he was unhappy with how she couldn ’ t “ leave work at work.
” Best .
Couple .
Ever .
6 .
My cousin went to counseling because her husband cuts the sandwich straight inside of diagonal .
When I first heard it , I thought it was a joke .
7 .
Because naps .
On weekends , I take a nap in the afternoon .
Boyfriend was not ok with that and insisted I stop .
I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of his roommates watching me leave his house while he yelled at me .
8 .
There was a couple who fought because the husband stopped liking cheese for some reason .
9 .
My aunt and uncle do weekly visits because my aunt doesn ’ t like that my uncle masturbates .
They have been going for 3 years , and my uncle isn ’ t gon na budge .
I don ’ t know why he keeps paying money to a counselor who clearly isnt ever going to convince him to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a domestic because he wouldn ’ t try her jam .
11 .
Not a counselor , but my friend is one , and a couple came to her ( unofficially ) because the wife wouldn ’ t tell her hubby when her mum was coming over because she knew he ’ d be “ sick ” or “ out ” that day .
12 .
He was “ gone too much at work.
” That is also the reason why she cheated on him .
Eleven times .
With his brother .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ inbred part of the country .
Everyone had the same last name , went to a counselor to deal with the issue that his brother was screwing his girlfriend , she was their cousin .
Counselor said , “ Nope , too weird for me , ” and sent him on his way .
15 .
Bananas… Someone bought the wrong amount of bananas .
16 .
Not a marriage counsellor , but my ex gave me so much abuse for having an affair with another woman in her dreams .
Needless to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for the taxi to take her away .
Bat shit crazy , certainly dodged a bullet with that one .
17 .
I think my favorite was a woman who married a man whose dad and brothers worked in a successful family business .
Husband didn ’ t work in the family business and didn ’ t want to .
Wife married him anyway expecting him to be her meal ticket .
Eleven years later he still hasn ’ t gone into the family business and she feels BETRAYED .
18 .
Didn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to have salt and pepper or just salt or pepper on eggs .
19 .
A buddy of mine was in therapy with his wife .
She told me later that my friend ( let ’ s call him Gary ) has a drinking problem .
Me : “ Wait .
What ?
Since when is Gary drinking ?
I never saw him drink alcohol.
” Oh Gary , I hope you are fine now .
20 .
They were arguing over who got the TV remote .
21 .
Well , my @ @ @ @ @ @ @ he wanted to change our oldest child ’ s first name .
I didn ’ t want to and trying to have a reasonable conversation about it wasn ’ t happening .
I think it ’ s a pretty stupid reason to get counseling BECAUSE WHO THE FUCK CHANGES THEIR THREE YEAR OLDS NAME .
22 .
Not a counselor but my ex-wife made an appointment because she felt like me hanging out with my family was wrong and I needed to stay home with her 24/7 .
23 .
One time a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in my office because they disagreed on the better way to cook a hot dog .
He was pro-boil .
She was pro-grill .
They could not find a suitable compromise and that was the husband ’ s final straw .
24 .
A couple went in because the wife wouldn ’ t make coffee in the mornings , the husband thought it was “ grounds ” for divorce… 25 .
My dad took my mom to one because she liked to ride in the car with the window down .
They didn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ When my ex and I were having problems , she suggested marriage counseling .
We went to a few sessions .
I found out after the divorce she only went because she thought it would make her look better in the divorce .
Indiana is a no fault state so all it did was cost me money .
27 .
Not me but my buddy ’ s wife demanded counseling after he refused to “ fix ” his habit of leaving the seat up .
Apparently the straw that broke the camel ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ realize his poo ‘ came back up ’ and she fell into the toilet on his old , waterlogged shit .
28 .
My mum still talks about the Christmas where my dad didn ’ t help her peel and prepare a bag of sprouts .
They were divorced and he ’ s dead and it still comes up from time to time .
29 .
Vaccinate their child .
Dad says go , mom says no .
30 .
My ex made an appointment for us when he got his side girl @ @ @ @ @ @ @ grad school , lonely , stressed , and horribly gaslit , and went along .
At the time the therapist would say , ‘ If he hasn ’ t changed by now he ’ s not going to .
Usually I ’ m trying to keep people together but I ’ m not sure I can now.
’ I would get mad .
Now I look back and think come on girl , run .

Ask Reddit proves marriage counselors have seen it all, so you should never be embarrassed to visit one.
1. My sister-in-law made an appointment for marriage counseling because her husband greeted their dog before her when coming home from work.
2. It’s always the dishes. I don’t see couples anymore because I cannot have one more conversation with adult human beings about the various philosophies of dish washing.
3. My uncle and his wife, reasoning: She lost a frying pan.
4. Couldn’t decide on which chicken to buy for their chicken farm.
5. A pimp and one of his sex workers scheduled a session to see me because they were having jealousy issues. They were legally married and he was unhappy with how she couldn’t “leave work at work.” Best. Couple. Ever.
6. My cousin went to counseling because her husband cuts the sandwich straight inside of diagonal. When I first heard it, I thought it was a joke.
7. Because naps. On weekends, I take a nap in the afternoon. Boyfriend was not ok with that and insisted I stop. I’ll never forget the surreal feeling of his roommates watching me leave his house while he yelled at me.
8. There was a couple who fought because the husband stopped liking cheese for some reason.
9. My aunt and uncle do weekly visits because my aunt doesn’t like that my uncle masturbates. They have been going for 3 years, and my uncle isn’t gonna budge. I don’t know why he keeps paying money to a counselor who clearly isnt ever going to convince him to stop.
10. They got into a domestic because he wouldn’t try her jam.
11. Not a counselor, but my friend is one, and a couple came to her (unofficially) because the wife wouldn’t tell her hubby when her mum was coming over because she knew he’d be “sick” or “out” that day.
12. He was “gone too much at work.” That is also the reason why she cheated on him. Eleven times. With his brother.
13. Couldn’t decide to buy a dog or cat.
14. Guy I knew from an inbred part of the country. Everyone had the same last name, went to a counselor to deal with the issue that his brother was screwing his girlfriend, she was their cousin. Counselor said, “Nope, too weird for me,” and sent him on his way.
15. Bananas… Someone bought the wrong amount of bananas.
16. Not a marriage counsellor, but my ex gave me so much abuse for having an affair with another woman in her dreams. Needless to say I helped her pack and paid for the taxi to take her away. Bat shit crazy, certainly dodged a bullet with that one.
17. I think my favorite was a woman who married a man whose dad and brothers worked in a successful family business. Husband didn’t work in the family business and didn’t want to. Wife married him anyway expecting him to be her meal ticket. Eleven years later he still hasn’t gone into the family business and she feels BETRAYED.
18. Didn’t know how to decide whether to have salt and pepper or just salt or pepper on eggs.
19. A buddy of mine was in therapy with his wife. She told me later that my friend (let’s call him Gary) has a drinking problem.
Me: “Wait. What? Since when is Gary drinking? I never saw him drink alcohol.”
Her: “That’s the problem.”
Oh Gary, I hope you are fine now.
20. They were arguing over who got the TV remote.
21. Well, my SO and I went to counseling because he wanted to change our oldest child’s first name. I didn’t want to and trying to have a reasonable conversation about it wasn’t happening. I think it’s a pretty stupid reason to get counseling BECAUSE WHO THE FUCK CHANGES THEIR THREE YEAR OLDS NAME.
22. Not a counselor but my ex-wife made an appointment because she felt like me hanging out with my family was wrong and I needed to stay home with her 24/7.
23. One time a couple decided to get divorced while sitting in my office because they disagreed on the better way to cook a hot dog. He was pro-boil. She was pro-grill. They could not find a suitable compromise and that was the husband’s final straw.
24. A couple went in because the wife wouldn’t make coffee in the mornings, the husband thought it was “grounds” for divorce…
25. My dad took my mom to one because she liked to ride in the car with the window down. They didn’t last long.
26. When my ex and I were having problems, she suggested marriage counseling. We went to a few sessions. I found out after the divorce she only went because she thought it would make her look better in the divorce. Indiana is a no fault state so all it did was cost me money.
27. Not me but my buddy’s wife demanded counseling after he refused to “fix” his habit of leaving the seat up. Apparently the straw that broke the camel’s back was he didn’t realize his poo ‘came back up’ and she fell into the toilet on his old, waterlogged shit.
28. My mum still talks about the Christmas where my dad didn’t help her peel and prepare a bag of sprouts. They were divorced and he’s dead and it still comes up from time to time.
29. Vaccinate their child. Dad says go, mom says no.
30. My ex made an appointment for us when he got his side girl pregnant. I was 26 and in grad school, lonely, stressed, and horribly gaslit, and went along. At the time the therapist would say, ‘If he hasn’t changed by now he’s not going to. Usually I’m trying to keep people together but I’m not sure I can now.’ I would get mad. Now I look back and think come on girl, run.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-14--What Venus In Cancer Means For Each Zodiac Sign

Venus entered the sign of Cancer on August 7 and will remain there until September 6 .
Venus in Gemini has been with us since April 3 , and it will finally make its exit .
Our focus will go from expressing love through communicating to feeling the grounding passion associated with the sign of Cancer .
In Gemini , we experienced the playfulness of Venus .
The issues here revolve around the opposition that Venus will create with Saturn and Pluto .
There is also the dreaded square that Venus will make with Mars in Aries , creating more @ @ @ @ @ @ @ loneliness and isolation we may experience .
We will feel the tension with people we know .
Friendships and romantic relationships might be strained .
The ups and downs that accompany this transit will make us all feel the stress and pressure .
Nevertheless , that will begin to manifest towards the end of the transit as the degrees begin to close in .
Venus will still create some joyous moments for us .
We have felt the impact of the Saturn , Jupiter , and Pluto transit since the beginning of the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ this new normal .
This transit will be a moment of reflection .
Venus in Gemini wants to explore , to learn and experience passions through mental stimulation , while Venus in Cancer seeks stability , nurturing , and expressing love through endless devotion .
Emotions will be strong this transit because Venus in water likes to feel and are bound by a deep connection .
Get ready for the emotional journey to self-discovery .
You are connecting with your roots this transit as Venus in Cancer as it provides a grounding force @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your sign , it is best to check the ego when you can not get your way or when things appear to keep slowing during these Capricorn transits with Saturn , Pluto , and Jupiter .
Venus reminds you that your foundation is imperative before reaching your next phase .
During this transit , you can try to exercise more diplomacy and bring that peaceful energy to your home and surroundings .
If there are any conflicts with partners or family members at this time , remember to breathe in and out .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ flourish during this transit .
You will be more willing to step out of your comfort zone when you are expressing yourself because you will have a confidence boost , which is necessary , since Mars is currently hidden for you , so tapping into that energy will be more frustrating compared to Venus .
When the Venus opposition with the Capricorn stellium happens , you will be more inclined to be forceful with getting your point across .
This can take an emotional toll , especially if you aren ’ t getting @ @ @ @ @ @ @ this transit and enjoy the magic you can conjure with words .
Venus , which has been in your sign since April , will finally exit and make its way to the sign of Cancer .
Your karmic wounds will begin to heal as you consider new methods of exerting your Venusian energies through self-care and splurging .
Make sure not to get too carried away this transit and to mind your finances .
When the square with Mars happens , make sure to hang on tight and do not let the wounds @ @ @ @ @ @ @ might feel the hurt , but it will be a time where you will feel comfortable in yourself , and the confidence will allow you to keep pushing forward .
Channel the energy to create successes that will contribute to your stability .
Mercury has exited your sign and now Venus enters .
This will be a wonderful time for you , and even with the opposition with Saturn and Pluto , you should still feel some of that benefits that Venus has to bring .
This transit will feel heavy towards the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ will make you feel lost and isolated , but overall , you should feel the nurturing love of Venus through and through .
Venus in your sign is still lovely and joyful once we focus on the positives .
You will definitely be in your element , expressing love and devotion of the highest forms to the ones you adore .
During this transit , you will be fine with feeling the pleasures and comforts in a way that brings you peace and emotional security .
Venus in Cancer will be a different @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you might have felt more focused on socializing and connecting with friends and family .
Things will begin to shift during this upcoming transit as you bring the attention back to your needs but from a more private setting .
With the Sun and Mercury still in your sign , you will still feel radiant and vibrant , but Venus has you emotionally content even when you are away from the spotlight and alone .
One of those transits that will force you to come out of your shell ( briefly ) .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ limelight now , but Venus makes you more comfortable in your expression .
This can be a good time for single Virgos to meet someone through their social circles ( if they want to ) .
Venus in Cancer can make you nostalgic for the past , and those new connections might have you reminiscing about exes .
Nevertheless , it will be a transit that will have you experiencing both the positives and negatives .
You will still feel the pressures and wanting to isolate due to the Capricorn stellium , but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your chances by having fun and trying to find love .
This Venus transit will be emotional for the Cardinal signs .
Right now , you are feeling the tensions from Mars opposing your sign and Capricorn stellium squaring your rising .
This Venus transit will show you the fruits of your labor and how your efforts and successes have impacted your home front .
This can be a frustrating period but filled with rewards afterwards since you will learn how to manage the stresses , the challenges and embrace them as necessary @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for success .
Venus will show you how to radiate this season even when you feel on the verge of collapsing .
Stay strong .
Water sign Venus transits will be welcoming for you and this one will show you the power and importance of higher love and learning .
It can be a period of spiritual awakening , with Venus teaching you new things revolving topics that you are curious about .
Venus here will find some tensions as the planet faces off the Capricorn stellium towards the end of the transit @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , but as a Scorpio , you will manage to bounce through this .
Passions will accelerate when it comes to getting what you want , and with Mars in Aries having you fearless and motivated , you will be pretty much unstoppable when it comes to reaching goals this transit .
Your karmic love story has taken hiatus with Venus shifting from Gemini into Cancer .
Now you will bring your focus to healing of the heart and the results from the previous Venus transit .
Although relationships from the past might @ @ @ @ @ @ @ last several months , you still have some wounds to heal .
Venus wants you to take action , to value yourself , and to be more cautious with relationships moving forward .
Lessons learned during this transit , especially after this Venus Retrograde , will help you uncover those needs for your future relationships to flourish .
With this Venus transit creating an opposition to your sign and the stellium of planets in it , this can feel like a very stressful and emotional period for you .
Tensions will flare when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ friction in your partnerships and home front .
It is a good idea to not let your anger get the best of you and to focus on the lessons this transit can bring you .
Honor yourself and those around you .
Venus can still bring you joy even if it can feel challenging .
The warmth of Venus will bring benefits and excitement to the melancholy that your sign might be enduring .
You will focus more on yourself this transit , welcoming routine and order into your life , especially after @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in your sign .
With Venus in Cancer , you will be the go-to person for colleagues during this transit because Venus will make you more personable and ready to help others out .
When the square to Mars happens , you might feel the conflict with home and work or school .
Try to strike a balance here , since you might feel the pressures from the external colliding with your inner world .
This Venus in Cancer transit will be quite welcoming for you , as you enjoy the pleasant aspects @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You will be more inclined to experience new things and enjoy yourself for the next several weeks .
Venus here will eventually create some tensions when it opposes Capricorn and squares Mars .
Your focus would shift on how you are managing how you expense your time and what you can do to create more efficiency .
Although you will be having a lot of fun , it can make you negligent .
Overall , you should still enjoy the good moments Venus has to offer .

Venus entered the sign of Cancer on August 7 and will remain there until September 6. Venus in Gemini has been with us since April 3, and it will finally make its exit. Our focus will go from expressing love through communicating to feeling the grounding passion associated with the sign of Cancer. In Gemini, we experienced the playfulness of Venus. The issues here revolve around the opposition that Venus will create with Saturn and Pluto. There is also the dreaded square that Venus will make with Mars in Aries, creating more tension and frustration and adding onto the loneliness and isolation we may experience.
We will feel the tension with people we know. Friendships and romantic relationships might be strained. The ups and downs that accompany this transit will make us all feel the stress and pressure. Nevertheless, that will begin to manifest towards the end of the transit as the degrees begin to close in. Venus will still create some joyous moments for us. We have felt the impact of the Saturn, Jupiter, and Pluto transit since the beginning of the year. We are somewhat used to this new normal. This transit will be a moment of reflection.
Venus in Gemini wants to explore, to learn and experience passions through mental stimulation, while Venus in Cancer seeks stability, nurturing, and expressing love through endless devotion. Emotions will be strong this transit because Venus in water likes to feel and are bound by a deep connection. Get ready for the emotional journey to self-discovery.
Aries
You are connecting with your roots this transit as Venus in Cancer as it provides a grounding force in your life. With Mars in your sign, it is best to check the ego when you cannot get your way or when things appear to keep slowing during these Capricorn transits with Saturn, Pluto, and Jupiter. Venus reminds you that your foundation is imperative before reaching your next phase. During this transit, you can try to exercise more diplomacy and bring that peaceful energy to your home and surroundings. If there are any conflicts with partners or family members at this time, remember to breathe in and out.
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Taurus
Venus in Cancer will make your words flourish during this transit. You will be more willing to step out of your comfort zone when you are expressing yourself because you will have a confidence boost, which is necessary, since Mars is currently hidden for you, so tapping into that energy will be more frustrating compared to Venus. When the Venus opposition with the Capricorn stellium happens, you will be more inclined to be forceful with getting your point across. This can take an emotional toll, especially if you aren’t getting your way. Remember to relax during this transit and enjoy the magic you can conjure with words.
Gemini
Venus, which has been in your sign since April, will finally exit and make its way to the sign of Cancer. Your karmic wounds will begin to heal as you consider new methods of exerting your Venusian energies through self-care and splurging. Make sure not to get too carried away this transit and to mind your finances. When the square with Mars happens, make sure to hang on tight and do not let the wounds from the past open up. You might feel the hurt, but it will be a time where you will feel comfortable in yourself, and the confidence will allow you to keep pushing forward. Channel the energy to create successes that will contribute to your stability.
Cancer
Mercury has exited your sign and now Venus enters. This will be a wonderful time for you, and even with the opposition with Saturn and Pluto, you should still feel some of that benefits that Venus has to bring. This transit will feel heavy towards the end, as Saturn’s impact will make you feel lost and isolated, but overall, you should feel the nurturing love of Venus through and through. Venus in your sign is still lovely and joyful once we focus on the positives. You will definitely be in your element, expressing love and devotion of the highest forms to the ones you adore.
Leo
During this transit, you will be fine with feeling the pleasures and comforts in a way that brings you peace and emotional security. Venus in Cancer will be a different energy from the Gemini one, where you might have felt more focused on socializing and connecting with friends and family. Things will begin to shift during this upcoming transit as you bring the attention back to your needs but from a more private setting. With the Sun and Mercury still in your sign, you will still feel radiant and vibrant, but Venus has you emotionally content even when you are away from the spotlight and alone.
Virgo
One of those transits that will force you to come out of your shell (briefly). You might be shying away from the limelight now, but Venus makes you more comfortable in your expression. This can be a good time for single Virgos to meet someone through their social circles (if they want to). Venus in Cancer can make you nostalgic for the past, and those new connections might have you reminiscing about exes. Nevertheless, it will be a transit that will have you experiencing both the positives and negatives. You will still feel the pressures and wanting to isolate due to the Capricorn stellium, but you will feel empowered to still take your chances by having fun and trying to find love.
Libra
This Venus transit will be emotional for the Cardinal signs. Right now, you are feeling the tensions from Mars opposing your sign and Capricorn stellium squaring your rising. This Venus transit will show you the fruits of your labor and how your efforts and successes have impacted your home front. This can be a frustrating period but filled with rewards afterwards since you will learn how to manage the stresses, the challenges and embrace them as necessary in order to advance in your path for success. Venus will show you how to radiate this season even when you feel on the verge of collapsing. Stay strong.
Scorpio
Water sign Venus transits will be welcoming for you and this one will show you the power and importance of higher love and learning. It can be a period of spiritual awakening, with Venus teaching you new things revolving topics that you are curious about. Venus here will find some tensions as the planet faces off the Capricorn stellium towards the end of the transit, marking your journey with some frustrations, but as a Scorpio, you will manage to bounce through this. Passions will accelerate when it comes to getting what you want, and with Mars in Aries having you fearless and motivated, you will be pretty much unstoppable when it comes to reaching goals this transit.
Sagittarius
Your karmic love story has taken hiatus with Venus shifting from Gemini into Cancer. Now you will bring your focus to healing of the heart and the results from the previous Venus transit. Although relationships from the past might not influence you as much as the last several months, you still have some wounds to heal. Venus wants you to take action, to value yourself, and to be more cautious with relationships moving forward. Lessons learned during this transit, especially after this Venus Retrograde, will help you uncover those needs for your future relationships to flourish.
Capricorn
With this Venus transit creating an opposition to your sign and the stellium of planets in it, this can feel like a very stressful and emotional period for you. Tensions will flare when Venus begins to square Mars, creating friction in your partnerships and home front. It is a good idea to not let your anger get the best of you and to focus on the lessons this transit can bring you. Honor yourself and those around you. Venus can still bring you joy even if it can feel challenging. The warmth of Venus will bring benefits and excitement to the melancholy that your sign might be enduring.
Aquarius
You will focus more on yourself this transit, welcoming routine and order into your life, especially after the effects of this Full Moon transit in your sign. With Venus in Cancer, you will be the go-to person for colleagues during this transit because Venus will make you more personable and ready to help others out. When the square to Mars happens, you might feel the conflict with home and work or school. Try to strike a balance here, since you might feel the pressures from the external colliding with your inner world.
Pisces
This Venus in Cancer transit will be quite welcoming for you, as you enjoy the pleasant aspects this planet will make to your sign. You will be more inclined to experience new things and enjoy yourself for the next several weeks. Venus here will eventually create some tensions when it opposes Capricorn and squares Mars. Your focus would shift on how you are managing how you expense your time and what you can do to create more efficiency. Although you will be having a lot of fun, it can make you negligent. Overall, you should still enjoy the good moments Venus has to offer.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-15--These Are The Most Irresistible Zodiac Signs

It ’ s hard to not be drawn in by someone with such confidence , and Leos know this from the start .
They aren ’ t afraid to praise themselves for their accomplishments .
While some people might find them to be arrogant , their sociable and charming nature usually combines well to make them likable .
Leos light up whatever room they walk into , and whether someone intends to or not , they ’ ll likely find themselves drawn to the Leo before the night is over .
Aries have a downright contagious energy .
It ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you ’ re around them .
They are an interesting mix of bold and enthusiastic , and they aren ’ t afraid to take charge in any given situation .
They know how to make others feel comfortable around them without having to try too hard .
Aries have a fire that people just can ’ t seem to resist .
Geminis can be a little unpredictable , and that ’ s why people are drawn to them like moths to a flame .
They can hold conversations over dozens of topics , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ most people they come into contact with .
Their quick-witted comebacks and a desire to explore everything in their path pull people in- because they want to be the interesting thing that a Gemini sets their eyes on .
Sags are easy-going and playful , with a strong sense of humor .
They often get away with bluntly saying things because they pair it with a smile and infectious laughter that puts everyone else at ease .
They are usually focused on the positive aspects life has to offer , so being around @ @ @ @ @ @ @ happen to around them- it ’ s hard not to be excited about life when you ’ re with a Saggitarius .
You find yourself always wanting to stay in that mindset .
Libras are sociable and can make friends with anyone , and they usually do .
They don ’ t have to pull people in- their combination of charm , warmth , and wit does the job for them .
Libras prefer to be associated with beautiful things , and that association isn ’ t lost on others .
Plus , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ so others find themselves seeking their approval- because if a Libra doesn ’ t like you , then there must be a glaring reason .
Scorpios definitely know how to cast a spell on others , even if they aren ’ t trying to .
They are reserved and mysterious , but if you happen to talk to them , they expose an effortless and charming layer underneath .
They won ’ t tell everything about themselves , and that ’ s a big reason why people are so desperate to discover anything @ @ @ @ @ @ @ through chemistry or remaining just out of reach , Scorpios are used to people flocking to their side- and they honestly enjoy it , at least a little .

It’s hard to not be drawn in by someone with such confidence, and Leos know this from the start. They aren’t afraid to praise themselves for their accomplishments. While some people might find them to be arrogant, their sociable and charming nature usually combines well to make them likable. Leos light up whatever room they walk into, and whether someone intends to or not, they’ll likely find themselves drawn to the Leo before the night is over.
Aries have a downright contagious energy. It’s hard not to be excited when you’re around them. They are an interesting mix of bold and enthusiastic, and they aren’t afraid to take charge in any given situation. They know how to make others feel comfortable around them without having to try too hard. Aries have a fire that people just can’t seem to resist.
Geminis can be a little unpredictable, and that’s why people are drawn to them like moths to a flame. They can hold conversations over dozens of topics, and can likely find common ground with most people they come into contact with. Their quick-witted comebacks and a desire to explore everything in their path pull people in- because they want to be the interesting thing that a Gemini sets their eyes on.
Sags are easy-going and playful, with a strong sense of humor. They often get away with bluntly saying things because they pair it with a smile and infectious laughter that puts everyone else at ease. They are usually focused on the positive aspects life has to offer, so being around them lifts the spirits of those who happen to around them- it’s hard not to be excited about life when you’re with a Saggitarius. You find yourself always wanting to stay in that mindset.
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Libras are sociable and can make friends with anyone, and they usually do. They don’t have to pull people in- their combination of charm, warmth, and wit does the job for them. Libras prefer to be associated with beautiful things, and that association isn’t lost on others. Plus, Libras can get along with everyone, so others find themselves seeking their approval- because if a Libra doesn’t like you, then there must be a glaring reason.
Scorpios definitely know how to cast a spell on others, even if they aren’t trying to. They are reserved and mysterious, but if you happen to talk to them, they expose an effortless and charming layer underneath. They won’t tell everything about themselves, and that’s a big reason why people are so desperate to discover anything about them. Whether it’s through chemistry or remaining just out of reach, Scorpios are used to people flocking to their side- and they honestly enjoy it, at least a little.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-15--Some Lessons I’ve Learned From Reflecting On Life In 150 Essays

As I look back over my last 149 essays , I see memories , heartbreaks , and joys , all poured into my essays of size 12 font .
I see times I was feeling high on life , and simultaneously , times I was struggling and felt as though I was stuck in the dark..
But even more than a simple timeline of moments and checkpoints , I see someone trying desperately to make sense of a messy world full of complicated emotions .
I see someone a little bit lost at times , a little bit curious , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ just trying her best to seek meaning , inspiration , and above all , healing .
It is an understatement to say that writing has been therapeutic for me .
When I have felt lonely , or afraid , or let down , I have often sought comfort in writing .
Words have been magical – they have been a way to gain a new perspective on my life and on the lives of all of the people around me .
Writing has unfailingly encouraged me to look twice at life – to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ rather than accepting things at face value .
And when I look back at all of these thoughts I have spilled across the white pages of my MacBook , I see many themes that seem to pop into my life over and over again , with each passing year .
These themes are mainly lessons – those that I have learned , and those that I am still learning ( or relearning ) .
Looking over my writing , I can ’ t help but notice how as human beings , we are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stop changing , growing , or healing .
While I do not have all of the answers ( or any answers with certainty ) , I do hope that some of the thoughts I have gathered and the lessons I have learned through examining the world through words may resonate with you as well .
I hope they can bring you some comfort or reassurance in the midst of the mountains and valleys of your own life .
1 .
It can feel comforting to seek home in nostalgia – to live in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and over again , like little film strips that continue to roll on .
But at some point , we have to remember that life is still happening and the earth is still spinning , right here , right now .
At some point , we have to be here for ourselves and for our hearts in the present .
We have to be brave enough to hope that the present and the future will be just as good , if not better , than the old memories we are living in .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ joy doesn ’ t necessarily mean the absence of sadness , and grief doesn ’ t necessarily imply the absence of joy .
Though we often want to choose an either or , life is not quite as binary as we make it out to be .
3 .
I ’ m realizing that being at peace with life doesn ’ t mean that everything is perfect , or that we don ’ t have any troubles or tribulations or low energy nagging at our hearts .
Being at peace doesn ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that we aren ’ t stressed , or facing anxiety .
More so , being at peace means finding some form of “ okayness ” amidst all of the parts of life that are not ( yet ) “ okay.
” It means sitting amidst the chaos and making the conscious decision to remain calm .
To be okay .
Ultimately , finding peace means acknowledging the storm and coexisting with it , rather than sitting in the eye of the tornado .
4 .
It ’ s the hardest lesson in the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ thing we can do is let them go .
Sometimes we have to say goodbye to someone good and wait patiently for someone better .
5 .
Something odd about life is that the right choices don ’ t always feel right in our bodies .
Sometimes , though difficult , we have to find the courage within us to pursue what we need , rather than what we want in the present .
We have to take care of ourselves by honoring what we know is best for us in the long @ @ @ @ @ @ @ present , it really does hurt a lot .
The pain doesn ’ t mean the decision is wrong .
Sometimes the best choices can leave us let down and hurt .
But later on , we will be thankful .
6 .
I don ’ t believe that everything happens for a reason .
I don ’ t believe in fate .
But I do believe that we can give meaning to some of our hardest most heartbreaking moments .
We don ’ t need to build an identity that is rooted @ @ @ @ @ @ @ or pain , but if or when we want to , we can allow the healing process to bring out our best .
We can grow new , fresh roots , and we can choose to define ourselves by how we rise back up again .
7 .
We can ’ t expect others to heal us – no one can love us so much that we automatically love ourselves .
But maybe , when someone does love us , they can remind us what love feels like .
They can help us @ @ @ @ @ @ @ And this can be the first step of loving ourselves – knowing that we deserve to be loved .
8 .
Grief is ugly and painful and devastating .
Grief is dark swollen eyes and tear-stained cheeks .
Grief hurts .
But we can not deny the sheer beauty that grief holds .
We can not deny that grief is , in some ways , a gift .
To grieve means that we are blessed enough to have loved and to have been loved by someone special – and this is remarkable .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ someone who touched our lives in an irreplaceable way .
And thus , I ’ d like to believe that the sadness and grief we endure when we lose someone close to us is simply the price we pay for loving them .
And there ’ s something so dear and precious about this .
9 .
As hard as it is to hear , some people aren ’ t meant to stay in our lives forever .
They are passerbys , like boats in the night .
And though they may only @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stay safely in our hearts indefinitely .
Temporary people can leave permanent footprints .
10 .
Anxiety and overthinking do not change the situation .
They only turn a gentle rain shower into a hurricane .
11 .
We can miss someone , but we can ’ t lose ourselves when we lose them .
We can miss them , but we can ’ t let our lives be over when they are gone .
Because we still have our lives to live .
And we still have so much love left in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ don ’ t need a reason to have hope – we don ’ t need evidence or logic , as much as we think we do .
We don ’ t even need to fully understand or grasp what hope is .
We just have to find it in our hearts to believe that hope exists .
We have to bravely decide to give in to hope , even when we can ’ t see it or touch it – even when we don ’ t know if it is there .
When @ @ @ @ @ @ @ believe that there is something still worth living for around the corner .
And this belief – this hope – this is what will help us move forward .
13 .
It ’ s okay to find home in another person .
It ’ s one of the sweetest , purest parts of life .
But somewhere along the way , we must also find home within ourselves .
14 .
We know we are healing when we piece back together our broken parts and turn them into something greater than what we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when someone doesn ’ t love us or doesn ’ t fight for us , it isn ’ t actually a reflection of us .
Perhaps their inability to love us does not mean that we are unloveable , or hard to love .
Maybe it means that they have been hurt one too many times before and that their walls are now built high of concrete and stone .
Or maybe it means that they have been defeated by love one too many times – maybe love continues to let them down @ @ @ @ @ @ @ maybe , even if they want to love us , they simply can not .
And we can keep trying and trying to knock down those walls .
But perhaps when they don ’ t love us , the very best thing we can do is to hug them close , wish them the best , and then walk away .
Because even if they were special , we each deserve someone who is ready to let us in fully .
16 .
Most of the time , when we think we need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ truly need is closure from ourselves – permission from ourselves to let things be .
To accept the ending and to understand that it ’ s time to let the ending stay an ending .
We must find the strength to seek peace and healing on our own .
Healing is our responsibility , not the responsibility of the person who hurt us .
17 .
Sometimes growth is quiet and subtle and doesn ’ t look like growth .
Sometimes growth is simply viewing a situation from a fresh perspective .
Sometimes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ whether or not it ends up being a good experience .
Sometimes growth just means making it through each day and noticing one small good thing about the world each night .
Some seasons are for making leaps and bounds , while others are simply for surviving and just being .
Both seasons are important .
Both are needed .
18 .
How do we know when we are healing ?
I think we know that we are coming close when we feel immense gratitude that something happened , rather than devastated by @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
We don ’ t always need to find the silver lining .
Sometimes really crappy , awful things happen , and there is much more bad than good in the world .
Sometimes we go through devastating , heartbreaking experiences that don ’ t have a silver lining , and the idea of trying to find one only hurts us further .
In these really rough moments , we don ’ t need to search for the light .
But maybe , when we are ready , we can remind ourselves that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Maybe there ’ s no shining light in our situation , but there is still goodness somewhere out there .
And hopefully knowing this will help us make it to the other side Perhaps the secret isn ’ t avoiding pain or numbing ourselves from pain , but rather , putting our energy into cultivating joy and peace .
Perhaps when we value joy over pain , life becomes a little bit easier .

As I look back over my last 149 essays, I see memories, heartbreaks, and joys, all poured into my essays of size 12 font. I see times I was feeling high on life, and simultaneously, times I was struggling and felt as though I was stuck in the dark.. But even more than a simple timeline of moments and checkpoints, I see someone trying desperately to make sense of a messy world full of complicated emotions. I see someone a little bit lost at times, a little bit curious, and also a bit hopeful – someone just trying her best to seek meaning, inspiration, and above all, healing.
It is an understatement to say that writing has been therapeutic for me. When I have felt lonely, or afraid, or let down, I have often sought comfort in writing. Words have been magical – they have been a way to gain a new perspective on my life and on the lives of all of the people around me. Writing has unfailingly encouraged me to look twice at life – to examine what lies beneath the surface, rather than accepting things at face value.
And when I look back at all of these thoughts I have spilled across the white pages of my MacBook, I see many themes that seem to pop into my life over and over again, with each passing year. These themes are mainly lessons – those that I have learned, and those that I am still learning (or relearning). Looking over my writing, I can’t help but notice how as human beings, we are constantly learning. We never seem to stop changing, growing, or healing.
While I do not have all of the answers (or any answers with certainty), I do hope that some of the thoughts I have gathered and the lessons I have learned through examining the world through words may resonate with you as well. I hope they can bring you some comfort or reassurance in the midst of the mountains and valleys of your own life.
1. It can feel comforting to seek home in nostalgia – to live in our memories, to replay them over and over again, like little film strips that continue to roll on. But at some point, we have to remember that life is still happening and the earth is still spinning, right here, right now. At some point, we have to be here for ourselves and for our hearts in the present. We have to be brave enough to hope that the present and the future will be just as good, if not better, than the old memories we are living in.
2. I’m learning that joy doesn’t necessarily mean the absence of sadness, and grief doesn’t necessarily imply the absence of joy. Though we often want to choose an either or, life is not quite as binary as we make it out to be.
3. I’m realizing that being at peace with life doesn’t mean that everything is perfect, or that we don’t have any troubles or tribulations or low energy nagging at our hearts. Being at peace doesn’t mean that life is wonderful, or that we aren’t stressed, or facing anxiety. More so, being at peace means finding some form of “okayness” amidst all of the parts of life that are not (yet) “okay.” It means sitting amidst the chaos and making the conscious decision to remain calm. To be okay. Ultimately, finding peace means acknowledging the storm and coexisting with it, rather than sitting in the eye of the tornado.
4. It’s the hardest lesson in the world, but sometimes, the best thing we can do is let them go. Sometimes we have to say goodbye to someone good and wait patiently for someone better.
5. Something odd about life is that the right choices don’t always feel right in our bodies. Sometimes, though difficult, we have to find the courage within us to pursue what we need, rather than what we want in the present. We have to take care of ourselves by honoring what we know is best for us in the long run. And oftentimes, in the present, it really does hurt a lot. The pain doesn’t mean the decision is wrong. Sometimes the best choices can leave us let down and hurt. But later on, we will be thankful.
6. I don’t believe that everything happens for a reason. I don’t believe in fate. But I do believe that we can give meaning to some of our hardest most heartbreaking moments. We don’t need to build an identity that is rooted in our grief or in our trauma or pain, but if or when we want to, we can allow the healing process to bring out our best. We can grow new, fresh roots, and we can choose to define ourselves by how we rise back up again.
7. We can’t expect others to heal us – no one can love us so much that we automatically love ourselves. But maybe, when someone does love us, they can remind us what love feels like. They can help us to believe that we are loveable. And this can be the first step of loving ourselves – knowing that we deserve to be loved.
8. Grief is ugly and painful and devastating. Grief is dark swollen eyes and tear-stained cheeks. Grief hurts. But we cannot deny the sheer beauty that grief holds. We cannot deny that grief is, in some ways, a gift. To grieve means that we are blessed enough to have loved and to have been loved by someone special – and this is remarkable. Grief means we are missing someone – someone who touched our lives in an irreplaceable way. And thus, I’d like to believe that the sadness and grief we endure when we lose someone close to us is simply the price we pay for loving them. And there’s something so dear and precious about this.
9. As hard as it is to hear, some people aren’t meant to stay in our lives forever. They are passerbys, like boats in the night. And though they may only stay for a short while, they stay safely in our hearts indefinitely. Temporary people can leave permanent footprints.
10. Anxiety and overthinking do not change the situation. They only turn a gentle rain shower into a hurricane.
11. We can miss someone, but we can’t lose ourselves when we lose them. We can miss them, but we can’t let our lives be over when they are gone. Because we still have our lives to live. And we still have so much love left in us to give.
12. We don’t need a reason to have hope – we don’t need evidence or logic, as much as we think we do. We don’t even need to fully understand or grasp what hope is. We just have to find it in our hearts to believe that hope exists. We have to bravely decide to give in to hope, even when we can’t see it or touch it – even when we don’t know if it is there. When life is dark, we have to believe that there is something still worth living for around the corner. And this belief – this hope – this is what will help us move forward.
13. It’s okay to find home in another person. It’s one of the sweetest, purest parts of life. But somewhere along the way, we must also find home within ourselves.
14. We know we are healing when we piece back together our broken parts and turn them into something greater than what we had before.
15. Perhaps, when someone doesn’t love us or doesn’t fight for us, it isn’t actually a reflection of us. Perhaps their inability to love us does not mean that we are unloveable, or hard to love. Maybe it means that they have been hurt one too many times before and that their walls are now built high of concrete and stone. Or maybe it means that they have been defeated by love one too many times – maybe love continues to let them down, time and time again. And maybe, even if they want to love us, they simply cannot. And we can keep trying and trying to knock down those walls. But perhaps when they don’t love us, the very best thing we can do is to hug them close, wish them the best, and then walk away. Because even if they were special, we each deserve someone who is ready to let us in fully.
16. Most of the time, when we think we need closure from someone else, what we truly need is closure from ourselves – permission from ourselves to let things be. To accept the ending and to understand that it’s time to let the ending stay an ending. We must find the strength to seek peace and healing on our own. Healing is our responsibility, not the responsibility of the person who hurt us.
17. Sometimes growth is quiet and subtle and doesn’t look like growth. Sometimes growth is simply viewing a situation from a fresh perspective. Sometimes growth is trying something new, despite whether or not it ends up being a good experience. Sometimes growth just means making it through each day and noticing one small good thing about the world each night. Some seasons are for making leaps and bounds, while others are simply for surviving and just being. Both seasons are important. Both are needed.
18. How do we know when we are healing? I think we know that we are coming close when we feel immense gratitude that something happened, rather than devastated by the fact that it ended.
19. We don’t always need to find the silver lining. Sometimes really crappy, awful things happen, and there is much more bad than good in the world. Sometimes we go through devastating, heartbreaking experiences that don’t have a silver lining, and the idea of trying to find one only hurts us further. In these really rough moments, we don’t need to search for the light. But maybe, when we are ready, we can remind ourselves that there is still light in the world. Maybe there’s no shining light in our situation, but there is still goodness somewhere out there. And hopefully knowing this will help us make it to the other side
Perhaps the secret isn’t avoiding pain or numbing ourselves from pain, but rather, putting our energy into cultivating joy and peace. Perhaps when we value joy over pain, life becomes a little bit easier.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-17--12 Hidden Ways High-Functioning Depression Completely Devastates Your Life

You have to keep your feelings locked away .
You can ’ t let yourself feel sadness , or grief , or pain .
Even your joy is manufactured – you ’ re so defeated on the inside that you don ’ t even know what happiness feels like anymore .
The idea of letting someone in , showing them your pain and your darkness , scares you more than no one ever knowing you at all .
You never truly allow anyone to see you .
The only way that you can survive is if you don ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ underneath your carefully maintained surface .
Every day is a struggle to stay afloat , but you ’ re terrified that if you slip , even for an instant , the persona that you present to the world comes crashing down and you ’ re exposed .
You cause yourself literal pain .
When you ’ re this tightly wound and bottled up , the body responds by manifesting all your internal suffering in external symptoms .
You might have migraines , digestive troubles , body aches , extremely tight muscles , irregular @ @ @ @ @ @ @ symptoms related to constant mental and emotional stress .
You think you ’ re fooling the world , but you can ’ t fool your own system .
It doesn ’ t matter if your days are full or free – you ’ re tired .
You ’ re so busy keeping up appearances with your high-functioning version of depression , you don ’ t give yourself any time to rest .
Again , you ’ re afraid that if you have a moment to actually sit with what ’ s going on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fragile facade you ’ ve built and never recover .
You are trapped in your own mind .
When you have no outlet for your pain and your fears , you end up caught in a cycle of self-destructive thoughts .
You may turn to anything and everything to try to numb your brain , but it only helps temporarily .
You might function fine , even exceptionally , in the outside world … but your internal world is barely hanging on .
It ’ s such a constant state that you don @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is no release , no relief , no break in your need to keep up appearances .
Not only are you depressed , no one understands that you are having a hard time .
Your high-functioning tendencies only keep you isolated and misunderstood .
They are a burden , not a help .
You are completely disconnected from yourself .
It ’ s pretty tough to stay rooted in your intuition and inner self if your system is constantly working to present an image of high functionality to the outside world .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are – that ’ s how focused you have to be on controlling your image .
You ’ re in a toxic rut and you see no way out .
You numb to cope with the pain .
You can get away with many sorts of socially acceptable numbing , like drinking a couple glasses of wine every night or spending your free time mindlessly watching trash TV .
Just because it ’ s how a lot of people cope with their unhappiness doesn ’ t mean that it ’ s healthy or @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your pain , but that ’ s what you always end up doing .
You can ’ t change any of your unhealthy patterns .
When you ’ re spending all of your energy covering them up , you ’ ll never fix them .
Living in survival mode is not sustainable and that ’ s why you are always sick , stressed , and sad .
Just because you can function in a passable fashion in society doesn ’ t mean that you are living a fulfilled life .
You are stuck @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a recurring theme , but it deserves its own section .
This is something pretty much everyone with high-functioning depression experiences , but you ’ re probably not even aware of it .
If you were , it might send you over the edge , so you live in this constant denial of your truth that feels like a uniquely torturous sort of purgatory .
You can ’ t do this forever .
You seem like you ’ ve got everything together , but really you ’ re miserable .
That ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ability to move through life as if you ’ re fine .
That ’ s what makes it so dangerous .
You are less likely to display obvious signs that alert others you might need help or support .
It ’ s horrible to live in a self-made cage where no one really sees or knows the real you .
When things get really bad , you feel more alone than ever .
You don ’ t have the capacity to find real healing .
As long as you stay stuck in this @ @ @ @ @ @ @ nothing will ever change .
That sounds like reason enough to seek a way out , but that doesn ’ t work when you are so wrapped up in your patterns that you feel entirely trapped .
Nothing is more devastating than living your entire life in a state of complete and utter unhappiness that you feel you must maintain in order to stay alive at all .

You have to keep your feelings locked away.
You can’t let yourself feel sadness, or grief, or pain. Even your joy is manufactured – you’re so defeated on the inside that you don’t even know what happiness feels like anymore. The idea of letting someone in, showing them your pain and your darkness, scares you more than no one ever knowing you at all.
You never truly allow anyone to see you.
The only way that you can survive is if you don’t let anyone see what’s hiding underneath your carefully maintained surface. Every day is a struggle to stay afloat, but you’re terrified that if you slip, even for an instant, the persona that you present to the world comes crashing down and you’re exposed.
You cause yourself literal pain.
When you’re this tightly wound and bottled up, the body responds by manifesting all your internal suffering in external symptoms. You might have migraines, digestive troubles, body aches, extremely tight muscles, irregular appetite, or a myriad of other symptoms related to constant mental and emotional stress. You think you’re fooling the world, but you can’t fool your own system.
You are constantly exhausted.
It doesn’t matter if your days are full or free – you’re tired. You’re so busy keeping up appearances with your high-functioning version of depression, you don’t give yourself any time to rest. Again, you’re afraid that if you have a moment to actually sit with what’s going on inside, you’ll lose that fragile facade you’ve built and never recover.
You are trapped in your own mind.
When you have no outlet for your pain and your fears, you end up caught in a cycle of self-destructive thoughts. You may turn to anything and everything to try to numb your brain, but it only helps temporarily. You might function fine, even exceptionally, in the outside world … but your internal world is barely hanging on.
You feel heavy and hopeless.
It’s such a constant state that you don’t know any different. There is no release, no relief, no break in your need to keep up appearances. Not only are you depressed, no one understands that you are having a hard time. Your high-functioning tendencies only keep you isolated and misunderstood. They are a burden, not a help.
You are completely disconnected from yourself.
It’s pretty tough to stay rooted in your intuition and inner self if your system is constantly working to present an image of high functionality to the outside world. You may not even realize how disconnected you are – that’s how focused you have to be on controlling your image. You’re in a toxic rut and you see no way out.
You numb to cope with the pain.
You can get away with many sorts of socially acceptable numbing, like drinking a couple glasses of wine every night or spending your free time mindlessly watching trash TV. Just because it’s how a lot of people cope with their unhappiness doesn’t mean that it’s healthy or that you should use it to numb your pain, but that’s what you always end up doing.
You can’t change any of your unhealthy patterns.
When you’re spending all of your energy covering them up, you’ll never fix them. Living in survival mode is not sustainable and that’s why you are always sick, stressed, and sad. Just because you can function in a passable fashion in society doesn’t mean that you are living a fulfilled life.
You are stuck in survival mode.
It’s a recurring theme, but it deserves its own section. This is something pretty much everyone with high-functioning depression experiences, but you’re probably not even aware of it. If you were, it might send you over the edge, so you live in this constant denial of your truth that feels like a uniquely torturous sort of purgatory. You can’t do this forever.
You seem like you’ve got everything together, but really you’re miserable.
That’s basically what high-functioning depression is – the ability to move through life as if you’re fine. That’s what makes it so dangerous. You are less likely to display obvious signs that alert others you might need help or support. It’s horrible to live in a self-made cage where no one really sees or knows the real you. When things get really bad, you feel more alone than ever.
You don’t have the capacity to find real healing.
As long as you stay stuck in this endless cycle of misery and numbing, nothing will ever change. That sounds like reason enough to seek a way out, but that doesn’t work when you are so wrapped up in your patterns that you feel entirely trapped. Nothing is more devastating than living your entire life in a state of complete and utter unhappiness that you feel you must maintain in order to stay alive at all.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-18--Ranking The Zodiac Signs Based On Who’s The Most Intimidating Vs. The Most Approachable

Scorpios are mysterious , reserved , and unafraid to embrace the darker aspects of their personality .
Their secrecy usually means that people don ’ t know what to expect from them- they might blow up or be totally calm about a situation .
Plus , they don ’ t allow many people to be close to them in general .
It takes quite a bit of effort to get a Scorpio to let you in if you can get past their initial reluctance .
Intriguing and put together , Virgos are admirable but not always approachable .
They are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
They are critical- of themselves and others- so their high expectations tend to cause some hesitation from those who might want to know them better .
Virgos have their walls up , and they make it known- they aren ’ t exactly the most inviting people , and they embrace it .
With a reputation for being loners , it ’ s no shock that these signs aren ’ t the easiest to engage with initially .
Aquarius signs aren ’ t opposed to being close to people , but they prefer @ @ @ @ @ @ @ When they are interacting with a group , despite the fact they can be charming , they won ’ t hesitate to call someone out if they believe they ’ re being ignorant .
This can cause people to be cautious in opening up around Aquarius signs- they don ’ t want to say the wrong thing .
Capricorns are typically a no-nonsense sign with a pessimistic habit- they don ’ t always exude the most friendly vibe .
They prefer to observe than engage with others unless there is a specific reason @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t go out of their way to make others feel comfortable , though they ’ ll be polite and cordial .
They aren ’ t the easiest to start a conversation with .
Taurus signs can be extremely kind-hearted , but they don ’ t really open up unless they ’ ve spent a great deal of time with you .
They are relatively reserved , and if you don ’ t make the best first impression on them , they don ’ t make it easy to approach them .
They are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with who ends up in their inner circles- and they can be a bit stubborn about it .
Getting through their walls takes some serious effort , and while they aren ’ t known to be exceptionally secretive , they don ’ t always make themselves the most available .
It ’ s well known that Leos can be a little over the top- it ’ s part of their charm .
They ’ re usually pretty self-assured and aren ’ t afraid to embrace their best sides .
Being around them means @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of pride or be content to stand to the side .
The confidence can be admirable , but can also be intimidating to those who aren ’ t as confident in themselves .
Aries are usually pretty friendly and do their best to be open to others , and they ’ re often successful in doing so .
However , their bold and occasional over-the-top attitudes can be a bit intimidating to some .
Mainly if they are on a rant or engaged in something they are passionate about , they can lean @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t always the most welcoming .
Geminis are sociable and easy to converse with .
They are known to interact with people from all walks of life and hold all types of opinions , and they usually can adapt to make others feel comfortable in their presence .
However , their know-it-all tendencies can alienate them from others who aren ’ t as secure .
They like to show off a little with the things they know , and occasionally reach to have the upper hand , which can make them somewhat @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not , though , they are easy to get along with .
Brash and free-spirited , Sagittarius signs aren ’ t afraid to have a good time .
They are humorous and try to include others in the fun , and others are often drawn to them .
They are the life of the party and want everyone to enjoy themselves as much as possible .
They try to keep spirits up and welcome anyone to join in on the fun .
Their blunt and gregarious nature can seem much to some , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ can balance themselves out enough to be likable to everyone .
Cancers are nurturing and go almost too far to make people feel welcomed and comfortable .
They want people to feel safe and free to express themselves freely .
Though they are sensitive and can react strongly to something that ’ s said , it ’ s usually short-lived .
They aren ’ t afraid to approach people , and they give a warm vibe that draws others in .
Pisces have a penchant for being emotional , but their empathy still @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
They have an uncanny ability to make others feel understood and accepted- and because they enjoy helping others with their struggles , they make themselves as easy to approach as possible .
They ’ re pretty big softies at heart .
Libras are one , of if not the most , likable zodiac signs around .
They exude kindness and hospitality and are huge social butterflies .
Paired up with their intense dislike of conflict , and tendency to avoid most confrontational situations , they are considered far from threatening or intimidating @

1. Scorpio
Scorpios are mysterious, reserved, and unafraid to embrace the darker aspects of their personality. Their secrecy usually means that people don’t know what to expect from them- they might blow up or be totally calm about a situation. Plus, they don’t allow many people to be close to them in general. It takes quite a bit of effort to get a Scorpio to let you in if you can get past their initial reluctance.
2. Virgo
Intriguing and put together, Virgos are admirable but not always approachable. They are unafraid to put you in your place. They are critical- of themselves and others- so their high expectations tend to cause some hesitation from those who might want to know them better. Virgos have their walls up, and they make it known- they aren’t exactly the most inviting people, and they embrace it.
3. Aquarius
With a reputation for being loners, it’s no shock that these signs aren’t the easiest to engage with initially. Aquarius signs aren’t opposed to being close to people, but they prefer processing their thoughts and feelings alone. When they are interacting with a group, despite the fact they can be charming, they won’t hesitate to call someone out if they believe they’re being ignorant. This can cause people to be cautious in opening up around Aquarius signs- they don’t want to say the wrong thing.
4. Capricorn
Capricorns are typically a no-nonsense sign with a pessimistic habit- they don’t always exude the most friendly vibe. They prefer to observe than engage with others unless there is a specific reason to do so. They don’t go out of their way to make others feel comfortable, though they’ll be polite and cordial. They aren’t the easiest to start a conversation with.
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5. Taurus
Taurus signs can be extremely kind-hearted, but they don’t really open up unless they’ve spent a great deal of time with you. They are relatively reserved, and if you don’t make the best first impression on them, they don’t make it easy to approach them. They are particular in who they associate with and with who ends up in their inner circles- and they can be a bit stubborn about it. Getting through their walls takes some serious effort, and while they aren’t known to be exceptionally secretive, they don’t always make themselves the most available.
6. Leo
It’s well known that Leos can be a little over the top- it’s part of their charm. They’re usually pretty self-assured and aren’t afraid to embrace their best sides. Being around them means you either have to match their level of pride or be content to stand to the side. The confidence can be admirable, but can also be intimidating to those who aren’t as confident in themselves.
7. Aries
Aries are usually pretty friendly and do their best to be open to others, and they’re often successful in doing so. However, their bold and occasional over-the-top attitudes can be a bit intimidating to some. Mainly if they are on a rant or engaged in something they are passionate about, they can lean into the aspects of them that aren’t always the most welcoming.
8. Gemini
Geminis are sociable and easy to converse with. They are known to interact with people from all walks of life and hold all types of opinions, and they usually can adapt to make others feel comfortable in their presence. However, their know-it-all tendencies can alienate them from others who aren’t as secure. They like to show off a little with the things they know, and occasionally reach to have the upper hand, which can make them somewhat intimidating to others. More often than not, though, they are easy to get along with.
9. Sagittarius
Brash and free-spirited, Sagittarius signs aren’t afraid to have a good time. They are humorous and try to include others in the fun, and others are often drawn to them. They are the life of the party and want everyone to enjoy themselves as much as possible. They try to keep spirits up and welcome anyone to join in on the fun. Their blunt and gregarious nature can seem much to some, but most of the time, Sags can balance themselves out enough to be likable to everyone.
10. Cancer
Cancers are nurturing and go almost too far to make people feel welcomed and comfortable. They want people to feel safe and free to express themselves freely. Though they are sensitive and can react strongly to something that’s said, it’s usually short-lived. They aren’t afraid to approach people, and they give a warm vibe that draws others in.
11. Pisces
Pisces have a penchant for being emotional, but their empathy still triumphs in what others know them for. They have an uncanny ability to make others feel understood and accepted- and because they enjoy helping others with their struggles, they make themselves as easy to approach as possible. They’re pretty big softies at heart.
12. Libra
Libras are one, of if not the most, likable zodiac signs around. They exude kindness and hospitality and are huge social butterflies. Paired up with their intense dislike of conflict, and tendency to avoid most confrontational situations, they are considered far from threatening or intimidating.


thoughtcatalog--2020-08-18--Why Your Wedding Will Be Unforgettable, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

You ’ re going to have the most intense playlist with a packed dance floor .
You ’ re going to perform an adorable , meticulously planned first dance .
You ’ re going to pick the most breathtaking venue that your guests won ’ t be able to shut up about .
You ’ re going to deliver the mushiest , most tear-jerking vows .
For centuries , the mountain has been used as a metaphor for the big challenges we face , especially ones that seem impossible to overcome .
To scale our mountains , we actually have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ excavating trauma , building resilience , and adjusting how we show up for the climb .
In the end , it is not the mountain we master , but ourselves .
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You ’ re going to serve the best food your guests have ever tasted .
You ’ re going to pack the place with flowers and the most beautiful decor your guests have ever seen .
You ’ re going to look so madly in love with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ will be jealous .
You ’ re going to serve the tastiest drinks and keep the party going all night long .
You ’ re going to break tradition and surprise your guests by doing the unexpected .
You ’ re going to take the most stunning photographs that you ’ ll never stop posting across social media .
You ’ re going to serve the most elaborate , delicious cake ( with an adorable topper ) .

Aries
You’re going to have the most intense playlist with a packed dance floor.
Taurus
You’re going to perform an adorable, meticulously planned first dance.
Gemini
You’re going to pick the most breathtaking venue that your guests won’t be able to shut up about.
Cancer
You’re going to deliver the mushiest, most tear-jerking vows.
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Leo
You’re going to wear the most gorgeous, princess-esque dress.
Virgo
You’re going to serve the best food your guests have ever tasted.
Libra
You’re going to pack the place with flowers and the most beautiful decor your guests have ever seen.
Scorpio
You’re going to look so madly in love with your partner that everyone in the room will be jealous.
Sagittarius
You’re going to serve the tastiest drinks and keep the party going all night long.
Capricorn
You’re going to break tradition and surprise your guests by doing the unexpected.
Aquarius
You’re going to take the most stunning photographs that you’ll never stop posting across social media.
Pisces
You’re going to serve the most elaborate, delicious cake (with an adorable topper).