thoughtcatalog--2020-12-08--9 Books For Humans Who Feel Deeply

9 Books For Humans Who Feel Deeply

“ Somewhere out beyond the edge of the universe there is a library that contains an infinite number of books , each one the story of another reality .
One tells the story of your life as it is , along with another book for the other life you could have lived if you had made a different choice at any point in your life .
While we all wonder how our lives might have been , what if you had the chance to go to the library and see for yourself ?
Would any of these other lives truly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , Matt Haig ’ s enchanting new novel , Nora Seed finds herself faced with this decision .
Faced with the possibility of changing her life for a new one , following a different career , undoing old breakups , realizing her dreams of becoming a glaciologist ; she must search within herself as she travels through the Midnight Library to decide what is truly fulfilling in life , and what makes it worth living in the first place.
” 2. by The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V. E. Schwab “ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of desperation , a young woman makes a Faustian bargain to live forever—and is cursed to be forgotten by everyone she meets .
Thus begins the extraordinary life of Addie LaRue , and a dazzling adventure that will play out across centuries and continents , across history and art , as a young woman learns how far she will go to leave her mark on the world .
But everything changes when , after nearly 300 years , Addie stumbles across a young man in a hidden bookstore and he remembers her name.
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ Cerrulean Sea by TJ Klune “ Linus Baker is a by-the-book caseworker in the Department in Charge of Magical Youth .
He ’ s tasked with determining whether six dangerous magical children are likely to bring about the end of the world .
Arthur Parnassus is the master of the orphanage .
He would do anything to keep the children safe , even if it means the world will burn .
And his secrets will come to light .
The House in the Cerulean Sea is an enchanting love story , masterfully told @ @ @ @ @ @ @ an unlikely family in an unexpected place—and realizing that family is yours.
” 4 .
No Time Like The Future by Michael J .
Fox “ In No Time Like the Future : An Optimist Considers Mortality , Michael shares personal stories and observations about illness and health , aging , the strength of family and friends , and how our perceptions about time affect the way we approach mortality .
Thoughtful and moving , but with Fox ’ s trademark sense of humor , his book provides a vehicle for reflection about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ our losses.
” 5 .
Mentors : How to Help and Be Helped by Russell Brand “ Could happiness lie in helping others and being open to accepting help yourself ?
Mentors – the follow up to the New York Times bestseller Recovery – describes the benefits of seeking and offering help .
“ I have mentors in every area of my life , as a comic , a dad , a recovering drug addict , a spiritual being and as a man who believes that we , as individuals and the great @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and that through a chain of mentorship we can improve individually and globally , together .
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One of the unexpected advantages my drug addiction granted is that the process of recovery that I practice includes a mentorship tradition .
“ I will encourage you to find mentors of your own and explain how you may better use the ones you already have .
Furthermore , I will tell you about my experiences mentoring others and how invaluable that has been on my ongoing journey to self-acceptance and how it has helped @ @ @ @ @ @ @ volatile vagabond to a ( mostly ) present and ( usually ) focussed husband and father.
” —Russell Brand Mentors : How to Help and Be Helped describes the impact that a series of significant people have had on the author – from the wayward youths he tried to emulate growing up in Essex , through the first ex-junkie sage , to the people he turns to today to help him be a better father .
It explores how we all – consciously and unconsciously – choose guides , mentors and heroes throughout @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they can bring.
” 6 .
The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest “ Coexisting but conflicting needs create self-sabotaging behaviors .
This is why we resist efforts to change , often until they feel completely futile .
But by extracting crucial insight from our most damaging habits , building emotional intelligence by better understanding our brains and bodies , releasing past experiences at a cellular level , and learning to act as our highest potential future selves , we can step out of our own way and into our potential .
For @ @ @ @ @ @ @ as a metaphor for the big challenges we face , especially ones that seem impossible to overcome .
To scale our mountains , we actually have to do the deep internal work of excavating trauma , building resilience , and adjusting how we show up for the climb .
In the end , it is not the mountain we master , but ourselves.
” “ In 1940 , nineteen-year-old Vivian Morris has just been kicked out of Vassar College , owing to her lackluster freshman-year performance .
Her affluent parents send her to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , who owns a flamboyant , crumbling midtown theater called the Lily Playhouse .
There Vivian is introduced to an entire cosmos of unconventional and charismatic characters , from the fun-chasing showgirls to a sexy male actor , a grand-dame actress , a lady-killer writer , and no-nonsense stage manager .
But when Vivian makes a personal mistake that results in professional scandal , it turns her new world upside down in ways that it will take her years to fully understand .
Ultimately , though , it leads her to a new @ @ @ @ @ @ @ craves – and the kind of freedom it takes to pursue it .
It will also lead to the love of her life , a love that stands out from all the rest .
Now eighty-nine years old and telling her story at last , Vivian recalls how the events of those years altered the course of her life – and the gusto and autonomy with which she approached it .
“ At some point in a woman ’ s life , she just gets tired of being ashamed all the time , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , she is free to become whoever she truly is.
” Written with a powerful wisdom about human desire and connection , City of Girls is a love story like no other.
” “ When his mother became President , Alex Claremont-Diaz was promptly cast as the American equivalent of a young royal .
Handsome , charismatic , genius—his image is pure millennial-marketing gold for the White House .
There ’ s only one problem : Alex has a beef with the actual prince , Henry , across the pond .
And when @ @ @ @ @ @ @ involving an Alex-Henry altercation , U.S./British relations take a turn for the worse .
Heads of family , state , and other handlers devise a plan for damage control : staging a truce between the two rivals .
What at first begins as a fake , Instragramable friendship grows deeper , and more dangerous , than either Alex or Henry could have imagined .
Soon Alex finds himself hurtling into a secret romance with a surprisingly unstuffy Henry that could derail the campaign and upend two nations and begs the question : Can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Where do we find the courage , and the power , to be the people we are meant to be ?
And how can we learn to let our true colors shine through ?
Casey McQuiston ’ s Red , White & Royal Blue proves : true love isn ’ t always diplomatic.
” 9 .
The Strength In Our Stars by Bianca Sparacino

1. The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
“Somewhere out beyond the edge of the universe there is a library that contains an infinite number of books, each one the story of another reality. One tells the story of your life as it is, along with another book for the other life you could have lived if you had made a different choice at any point in your life. While we all wonder how our lives might have been, what if you had the chance to go to the library and see for yourself? Would any of these other lives truly be better?
In The Midnight Library, Matt Haig’s enchanting new novel, Nora Seed finds herself faced with this decision. Faced with the possibility of changing her life for a new one, following a different career, undoing old breakups, realizing her dreams of becoming a glaciologist; she must search within herself as she travels through the Midnight Library to decide what is truly fulfilling in life, and what makes it worth living in the first place.”
“France, 1714: in a moment of desperation, a young woman makes a Faustian bargain to live forever—and is cursed to be forgotten by everyone she meets.
Thus begins the extraordinary life of Addie LaRue, and a dazzling adventure that will play out across centuries and continents, across history and art, as a young woman learns how far she will go to leave her mark on the world.
But everything changes when, after nearly 300 years, Addie stumbles across a young man in a hidden bookstore and he remembers her name.”
3. The House in the Cerrulean Sea by TJ Klune
“Linus Baker is a by-the-book caseworker in the Department in Charge of Magical Youth. He’s tasked with determining whether six dangerous magical children are likely to bring about the end of the world.
Arthur Parnassus is the master of the orphanage. He would do anything to keep the children safe, even if it means the world will burn. And his secrets will come to light.
The House in the Cerulean Sea is an enchanting love story, masterfully told, about the profound experience of discovering an unlikely family in an unexpected place—and realizing that family is yours.”
4. No Time Like The Future by Michael J. Fox
“In No Time Like the Future: An Optimist Considers Mortality, Michael shares personal stories and observations about illness and health, aging, the strength of family and friends, and how our perceptions about time affect the way we approach mortality. Thoughtful and moving, but with Fox’s trademark sense of humor, his book provides a vehicle for reflection about our lives, our loves, and our losses.”
5. Mentors: How to Help and Be Helped by Russell Brand
“Could happiness lie in helping others and being open to accepting help yourself? Mentors – the follow up to the New York Times bestseller Recovery – describes the benefits of seeking and offering help.
“I have mentors in every area of my life, as a comic, a dad, a recovering drug addict, a spiritual being and as a man who believes that we, as individuals and the great globe itself, are works in progress and that through a chain of mentorship we can improve individually and globally, together . . . One of the unexpected advantages my drug addiction granted is that the process of recovery that I practice includes a mentorship tradition.
“I will encourage you to find mentors of your own and explain how you may better use the ones you already have. Furthermore, I will tell you about my experiences mentoring others and how invaluable that has been on my ongoing journey to self-acceptance and how it has helped me to transform from a bewildered and volatile vagabond to a (mostly) present and (usually) focussed husband and father.”—Russell Brand
Mentors: How to Help and Be Helped describes the impact that a series of significant people have had on the author – from the wayward youths he tried to emulate growing up in Essex, through the first ex-junkie sage, to the people he turns to today to help him be a better father. It explores how we all – consciously and unconsciously – choose guides, mentors and heroes throughout our lives and examines the new perspectives they can bring.”
6. The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest
“Coexisting but conflicting needs create self-sabotaging behaviors. This is why we resist efforts to change, often until they feel completely futile. But by extracting crucial insight from our most damaging habits, building emotional intelligence by better understanding our brains and bodies, releasing past experiences at a cellular level, and learning to act as our highest potential future selves, we can step out of our own way and into our potential.
For centuries, the mountain has been used as a metaphor for the big challenges we face, especially ones that seem impossible to overcome. To scale our mountains, we actually have to do the deep internal work of excavating trauma, building resilience, and adjusting how we show up for the climb.
In the end, it is not the mountain we master, but ourselves.”
7. City Of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert
“In 1940, nineteen-year-old Vivian Morris has just been kicked out of Vassar College, owing to her lackluster freshman-year performance. Her affluent parents send her to Manhattan to live with her Aunt Peg, who owns a flamboyant, crumbling midtown theater called the Lily Playhouse. There Vivian is introduced to an entire cosmos of unconventional and charismatic characters, from the fun-chasing showgirls to a sexy male actor, a grand-dame actress, a lady-killer writer, and no-nonsense stage manager. But when Vivian makes a personal mistake that results in professional scandal, it turns her new world upside down in ways that it will take her years to fully understand. Ultimately, though, it leads her to a new understanding of the kind of life she craves – and the kind of freedom it takes to pursue it. It will also lead to the love of her life, a love that stands out from all the rest.
Now eighty-nine years old and telling her story at last, Vivian recalls how the events of those years altered the course of her life – and the gusto and autonomy with which she approached it. “At some point in a woman’s life, she just gets tired of being ashamed all the time,” she muses. “After that, she is free to become whoever she truly is.” Written with a powerful wisdom about human desire and connection, City of Girls is a love story like no other.”
8. Red, White, And Royal Blue by Casey McQuinston
“When his mother became President, Alex Claremont-Diaz was promptly cast as the American equivalent of a young royal. Handsome, charismatic, genius—his image is pure millennial-marketing gold for the White House. There’s only one problem: Alex has a beef with the actual prince, Henry, across the pond. And when the tabloids get hold of a photo involving an Alex-Henry altercation, U.S./British relations take a turn for the worse.
Heads of family, state, and other handlers devise a plan for damage control: staging a truce between the two rivals. What at first begins as a fake, Instragramable friendship grows deeper, and more dangerous, than either Alex or Henry could have imagined. Soon Alex finds himself hurtling into a secret romance with a surprisingly unstuffy Henry that could derail the campaign and upend two nations and begs the question: Can love save the world after all? Where do we find the courage, and the power, to be the people we are meant to be? And how can we learn to let our true colors shine through? Casey McQuiston’s Red, White & Royal Blue proves: true love isn’t always diplomatic.”
9. The Strength In Our Stars by Bianca Sparacino
“The Strength In Our Scars is Bianca Sparacino’s reminder to you: No matter what you’re going through, no matter where you are on your healing journey—you are strong.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-08--What Each Zodiac Sign Hopes To Be Doing In The New Year

Once the world returns to normal ( whenever that may be ) , this is what each zodiac is the most excited about doing : You hope you ’ re going to get to travel around the world instead of being cooped up in your home .
You hope you ’ re going to advance in your career and take a step closer to your dreams .
You hope you ’ re going to get to go on romantic dates and search for someone to steal your heart .
You hope you ’ re going to get to spend plenty @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in person .
You hope you ’ re going to meet new people and go on new adventures outside of your hometown .
You hope you ’ re going to get to go to concerts and festivals and parties again .
You hope you ’ re going to get to know a special someone better and take the next step in your relationship .
You hope you ’ re going to get laid again ( and maybe find a forever person in the process ) .
You hope you ’ re going to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hobbies and having fun .
You hope you ’ re going to drink less alcohol and work fewer hours .
You hope you ’ re going to get to try new cuisines and cocktails and desserts .
You hope you ’ re going to feel more comfortable inside your own skin .

Once the world returns to normal (whenever that may be), this is what each zodiac is the most excited about doing:
Aries
You hope you’re going to get to travel around the world instead of being cooped up in your home.
Taurus
You hope you’re going to advance in your career and take a step closer to your dreams.
Gemini
You hope you’re going to get to go on romantic dates and search for someone to steal your heart.
Cancer
You hope you’re going to get to spend plenty of time with your family and friends in person.
Leo
You hope you’re going to meet new people and go on new adventures outside of your hometown.
Virgo
You hope you’re going to get to go to concerts and festivals and parties again.
Libra
You hope you’re going to get to know a special someone better and take the next step in your relationship.
Scorpio
You hope you’re going to get laid again (and maybe find a forever person in the process).
Sagittarius
You hope you’re going to have more energy to focus on your hobbies and having fun.
Capricorn
You hope you’re going to drink less alcohol and work fewer hours.
Aquarius
You hope you’re going to get to try new cuisines and cocktails and desserts.
Pisces
You hope you’re going to feel more comfortable inside your own skin.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-09--7 Simple Mistakes You’re Making When Your Dreams Fail

1 .
You aren ’ t getting back up and trying again .
If you really want something , it ’ s silly to quit after your first failure .
It can take years ( or even decades ) to grow good enough to succeed at something .
The one thing all successful people have in common is that they never give up on themselves .
They are resilient .
They keep trying .
They don ’ t let anything or anyone talk them out of their dreams .
2 .
You aren ’ t actually learning from your mistakes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ thing overall , it ’ s dangerous if you try again too soon .
If you made a mistake , then you should take the time to reflect on it and learn from it .
Your past is a tool .
Your experience is an asset .
Make sure you aren ’ t so starved for success that you forget to take the time to process your failure and figure out what you did wrong originally .
3 .
You ’ re blaming outside forces for what went wrong .
You need to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ want to grow .
You can ’ t start blaming all of the people around you , the weather , the traffic , and whatever else pops into your mind .
You need to accept that it ’ s possible you did something wrong — but that ’ s a good thing .
That means you can do something in the future to fix it .
4 .
You ’ re only blaming yourself for what went wrong .
There ’ s a difference between taking responsibility for your actions and completely beating @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Although you might ’ ve made a mistake , you might ’ ve done your absolute best .
You have to understand that life is unpredictable .
You could be amazing in your field , but the timing could ’ ve been wrong .
Today just might not have been your day .
5 .
You get mad at the world because you feel like you deserved to succeed .
Even though your dreams mean a lot to you , even though you want this so badly , that doesn ’ t mean @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you .
Life is unfair .
If you want something , you ’ re going to have to keep working hard .
Let your anger fuel you to succeed instead of letting it convince you to stop trying because it ’ s pointless anyway .
6 .
You make enemies with your competition instead of learning from them .
You don ’ t have to compare yourself to other people in your field .
You don ’ t have to hate them because they reached success earlier than you .
You should celebrate @ @ @ @ @ @ @ celebrate yours in the future .
Besides , you might be able to learn something from them .
They might teach you some valuable lessons .
7 .
You ’ re acting like this one failure means you ’ re a failure overall .
You can ’ t shut down the second something goes wrong .
You can ’ t let yourself believe that you ’ re a complete failure and you can ’ t do anything right .
Even though you have doubts about yourself , you have to learn to believe @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you have what it takes , and hope that other people will realize it someday , too .

1. You aren’t getting back up and trying again. If you really want something, it’s silly to quit after your first failure. It can take years (or even decades) to grow good enough to succeed at something. The one thing all successful people have in common is that they never give up on themselves. They are resilient. They keep trying. They don’t let anything or anyone talk them out of their dreams.
2. You aren’t actually learning from your mistakes. Although trying again is a good thing overall, it’s dangerous if you try again too soon. If you made a mistake, then you should take the time to reflect on it and learn from it. Your past is a tool. Your experience is an asset. Make sure you aren’t so starved for success that you forget to take the time to process your failure and figure out what you did wrong originally.
3. You’re blaming outside forces for what went wrong. You need to take responsibility for your actions if you want to grow. You can’t start blaming all of the people around you, the weather, the traffic, and whatever else pops into your mind. You need to accept that it’s possible you did something wrong — but that’s a good thing. That means you can do something in the future to fix it.
4. You’re only blaming yourself for what went wrong. There’s a difference between taking responsibility for your actions and completely beating yourself up over every little thing. Although you might’ve made a mistake, you might’ve done your absolute best. You have to understand that life is unpredictable. You could be amazing in your field, but the timing could’ve been wrong. Today just might not have been your day.
5. You get mad at the world because you feel like you deserved to succeed. Even though your dreams mean a lot to you, even though you want this so badly, that doesn’t mean anything is going to be handed to you. Life is unfair. If you want something, you’re going to have to keep working hard. Let your anger fuel you to succeed instead of letting it convince you to stop trying because it’s pointless anyway.
6. You make enemies with your competition instead of learning from them. You don’t have to compare yourself to other people in your field. You don’t have to hate them because they reached success earlier than you. You should celebrate their successes the way you hope others celebrate yours in the future. Besides, you might be able to learn something from them. They might teach you some valuable lessons.
7. You’re acting like this one failure means you’re a failure overall. You can’t shut down the second something goes wrong. You can’t let yourself believe that you’re a complete failure and you can’t do anything right. Even though you have doubts about yourself, you have to learn to believe in yourself. You have to recognize you have what it takes, and hope that other people will realize it someday, too.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-09--29 Cozy Winter Dates To Go On When You’re Stuck Indoors

1 .
Take personality tests .
You can learn your love language or learn something silly , like what kind of Disney princess you are .
2 .
Hold your very own beer tasting .
Pick up a few brands you ’ ve never tried before and make a night out of taste testing them .
3 .
Sign up for an online cooking class and whip up something yummy in your own kitchen .
4 .
Watch a virtual theater performance .
Or YouTube videos that have a holiday theme .
5 .
Hop in your car and drive @ @ @ @ @ @ @ at the lights and other outdoor decorations .
You could even decorate your own yard !
6 .
Make homemade dog treats in the shape of snowmen and snowflakes .
Then record your pup eating them !
7 .
Watch a hockey game on television and take bets on who is going to win .
8 .
Take turns reading a steamy romance novel out loud — and act out whatever scenes you wish .
9 .
Have an indoor picnic ( with a homemade cheeseboard ! )
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Spread a blanket across @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 10 .
Go online holiday shopping together .
Sit side-by-side and scroll through different websites to find gifts for your family and friends .
11 .
Dig up old home videos from past holidays and watch them together so they can see how your family has grown and changed .
12 .
Get dressed up in your fanciest clothes , put on holiday music , and dance around the house together .
Pretend you ’ re at a holiday party , even though it ’ s only the two of you .
13 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ The loser gets smacked with a snowball .
14 .
Build a fort in the middle of your room and then make out inside of it .
15 .
Bake cookies together and then compete to see who can decorate them in the cutest way .
16 .
Put on your favorite holiday movies and make a drinking game out of them .
17 .
Scribble down a list of dates you want to go on during the new year and see which ideas overlap .
18 .
Create smores over your own @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a virtual paint nite with a holiday theme !
20 .
Instead of waiting until nighttime to do something fun , cook breakfast together and eat in bed !
21 .
When it snows , run into your backyard to build a snowman together .
Don ’ t be afraid to act like little kids !
22 .
Exercise together inside your own home .
Try watching some YouTube videos and see if you can keep up .
23 .
Build a gingerbread house together .
Then compete to see who can take @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
24 .
Create your own photobooth .
Print out some props to use , throw up a blanket or towel to use as a background , and start snapping pictures .
25 .
Put together a puzzle that has a winter theme .
Time yourselves to see how quickly you can complete it .
26 .
Buy movie theater snacks and then sit down to watch a comedy special or a taped concert .
27 .
Make hot chocolate — or your own cocktails .
Then do a taste test together .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ whether it ’ s bread , pizza , or pretzels .
29 .
Simply light some candles and have a romantic dinner without any electronics in the room .

1. Take personality tests. You can learn your love language or learn something silly, like what kind of Disney princess you are.
2. Hold your very own beer tasting. Pick up a few brands you’ve never tried before and make a night out of taste testing them.
3. Sign up for an online cooking class and whip up something yummy in your own kitchen.
4. Watch a virtual theater performance. Or YouTube videos that have a holiday theme.
5. Hop in your car and drive through the neighborhood so you can look at the lights and other outdoor decorations. You could even decorate your own yard!
6. Make homemade dog treats in the shape of snowmen and snowflakes. Then record your pup eating them!
7. Watch a hockey game on television and take bets on who is going to win.
8. Take turns reading a steamy romance novel out loud — and act out whatever scenes you wish.
9. Have an indoor picnic (with a homemade cheeseboard!). Spread a blanket across the floor and then dig in.
10. Go online holiday shopping together. Sit side-by-side and scroll through different websites to find gifts for your family and friends.
11. Dig up old home videos from past holidays and watch them together so they can see how your family has grown and changed.
12. Get dressed up in your fanciest clothes, put on holiday music, and dance around the house together. Pretend you’re at a holiday party, even though it’s only the two of you.
13. Have a board game tournament. The loser gets smacked with a snowball.
14. Build a fort in the middle of your room and then make out inside of it.
15. Bake cookies together and then compete to see who can decorate them in the cutest way.
16. Put on your favorite holiday movies and make a drinking game out of them.
17. Scribble down a list of dates you want to go on during the new year and see which ideas overlap.
18. Create smores over your own stove.
19. Sign up for a virtual paint nite with a holiday theme!
20. Instead of waiting until nighttime to do something fun, cook breakfast together and eat in bed!
21. When it snows, run into your backyard to build a snowman together. Don’t be afraid to act like little kids!
22. Exercise together inside your own home. Try watching some YouTube videos and see if you can keep up.
23. Build a gingerbread house together. Then compete to see who can take the most Instagram-worthy photos of their masterpiece.
24. Create your own photobooth. Print out some props to use, throw up a blanket or towel to use as a background, and start snapping pictures.
25. Put together a puzzle that has a winter theme. Time yourselves to see how quickly you can complete it.
26. Buy movie theater snacks and then sit down to watch a comedy special or a taped concert.
27. Make hot chocolate — or your own cocktails. Then do a taste test together.
28. Bake something from scratch, whether it’s bread, pizza, or pretzels.
29. Simply light some candles and have a romantic dinner without any electronics in the room.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-09--7 Signs You Should Leave A Relationship, Career, Or Friendship

1 .
You ’ re staying for your past self — not your current self .
Sometimes , your feelings about who you ’ re dating or where you ’ re working will change .
When that happens , you shouldn ’ t try to shut down those feelings .
It ’ s okay to grow as you get older .
It ’ s okay for your idea of happiness to change .
You shouldn ’ t stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable because the person you were in the past really wanted this life .
What you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 2 .
You ’ re feeling completely unappreciated .
If you feel like every single good thing you do goes unnoticed , you need to make a change .
You should never feel like your hard work is pointless .
Your effort should be appreciated .
It should be admired .
If others are unable to see how much you ’ re doing for them , and don ’ t even muster up a thank you every once in a while , then you might want to think about saying your goodbyes .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ 3 .
You ’ re crying much more than you usually do .
Rough patches are normal .
But if you ’ re dreading hanging out with a certain someone or showing up at work every single morning , then something needs to change .
You shouldn ’ t be crying literal tears because you ’ re unhappy with your situation .
If you ’ re that miserable , then you should talk to your partner or boss or friend about ways to make the situation better — or you should leave the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ like you aren ’ t making any forward progression .
You shouldn ’ t feel like you ’ re stuck in a relationship , a friendship , or a career .
You shouldn ’ t feel like you ’ re being held back .
If you ’ re not growing anymore , then you ’ re allowed to admit what you ’ ve been doing hasn ’ t been working for you .
You ’ re allowed to leave , so you can embark on a journey that feels better for you .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ exhausted , and burning out .
You shouldn ’ t be the only one initiating conversations with your friends , doing favors for your partner , or putting out fires at your company .
If you feel like you ’ re the only one putting in effort and all the pressure is becoming too much for you , then you ’ re allowed to leave .
You shouldn ’ t feel like the weight of the world is resting on your shoulders .
Other people should be playing their part , too .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ less than you deserve .
You might doubt your worth , but you shouldn ’ t settle for a relationship where you ’ re not treated well or a career where you ’ re not paid enough .
You should expect more from others .
You should set your standards high .
7 .
You ’ ve simply lost interest .
You don ’ t have to have a huge falling out with a friend , or get cheated on by a partner , or get disrespected by your boss in order to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
If you aren ’ t happy in your current situation , then go .
You don ’ t have to wait for something bad to happen .
You don ’ t need a better excuse to leave .
You wanting to leave is reason enough to pack your bags and bolt .

1. You’re staying for your past self — not your current self. Sometimes, your feelings about who you’re dating or where you’re working will change. When that happens, you shouldn’t try to shut down those feelings. It’s okay to grow as you get older. It’s okay for your idea of happiness to change. You shouldn’t stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable because the person you were in the past really wanted this life. What you want now is much more important.
2. You’re feeling completely unappreciated. If you feel like every single good thing you do goes unnoticed, you need to make a change. You should never feel like your hard work is pointless. Your effort should be appreciated. It should be admired. If others are unable to see how much you’re doing for them, and don’t even muster up a thank you every once in a while, then you might want to think about saying your goodbyes. You might be more appreciated elsewhere.
3. You’re crying much more than you usually do. Rough patches are normal. But if you’re dreading hanging out with a certain someone or showing up at work every single morning, then something needs to change. You shouldn’t be crying literal tears because you’re unhappy with your situation. If you’re that miserable, then you should talk to your partner or boss or friend about ways to make the situation better — or you should leave the situation completely.
4. You feel like you aren’t making any forward progression. You shouldn’t feel like you’re stuck in a relationship, a friendship, or a career. You shouldn’t feel like you’re being held back. If you’re not growing anymore, then you’re allowed to admit what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working for you. You’re allowed to leave, so you can embark on a journey that feels better for you.
5. You’re drained, exhausted, and burning out. You shouldn’t be the only one initiating conversations with your friends, doing favors for your partner, or putting out fires at your company. If you feel like you’re the only one putting in effort and all the pressure is becoming too much for you, then you’re allowed to leave. You shouldn’t feel like the weight of the world is resting on your shoulders. Other people should be playing their part, too.
6. You’re settling for less than you deserve. You might doubt your worth, but you shouldn’t settle for a relationship where you’re not treated well or a career where you’re not paid enough. You should expect more from others. You should set your standards high.
7. You’ve simply lost interest. You don’t have to have a huge falling out with a friend, or get cheated on by a partner, or get disrespected by your boss in order to decide it’s time to leave. If you aren’t happy in your current situation, then go. You don’t have to wait for something bad to happen. You don’t need a better excuse to leave. You wanting to leave is reason enough to pack your bags and bolt.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-09--30 Mistakes Women Make While Sleeping With Men

1 .
Turning over as soon as we ’ re finished and grabbing her phone .
We like attention and feeling like we did a good job too , damn it !
2 .
Waiting for me to take all our clothes off .
Take mine off !
3 .
Starfishing , or not taking some initiative .
I mean , I ’ ll do the heavy-lifting , but ya got ta put SOMETHING into it !
4 .
Going bananas when reversed cowgirl , it doesn ’ t bend that way !
!
5 .
Thinking we are in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ some of us do want some emotional connection as well .
Also , make and maintain eye contact , that is a huge plus .
6 .
I ’ d rather have a BJ with less teeth and more hands than less hands and and more teeth .
7 .
Expecting me to always initiate .
8 .
The amount of grip they use for hand jobs .
It ’ s a penis , not a poisonous snake you ’ re trying to choke to death .
9 .
Overselling it .
Too @ @ @ @ @ @ @ !
OHHH !
” and not enough just having fun with it .
10 .
Pulling the foreskin back too hard/ too far .
11 .
Pressuring me to cum .
Dirty talk is fine , but the more pressure you put on me to cum the less likely it ’ s going to happen .
Also expecting me to cum every time we have sex .
Sometimes it just doesn ’ t happen .
It doesn ’ t mean I didn ’ t enjoy myself , or that you were bad , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I didn ’ t cum .
12 .
Squeezing my balls .
Don ’ t fucking do that , it hurts .
I don ’ t care what porno you watched where the girl grabs the dude ’ s balls aggressively .
13 .
Faking orgasms .
Just don ’ t .
Either help me get you there , help yourself ( that ’ s hot ) , or don ’ t have one .
You know what you need and I ’ m here to help if you want me to .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ t fake it .
14 .
If we do missionary , feel free to hug me hard or grab my ass , or kiss me , don ’ t just lie there , operate .
15 .
When you ’ re naked in front of us , we ’ re stoked to see it .
No need to be insecure .
I know it ’ s easier said than done but trust me , we ’ re not thinking “ eeew rolls ” or “ eeew stretch marks.
” We ’ re thinking @ @ @ @ @ @ @ As a dom I get so upset when my subs know they have a safe word and won ’ t use it for fear that I would be upset at them for using it .
These words are given for safety purposes , not saying them hurts our interactions with one another .
17 .
Not getting out of their own head .
I can practically feel it when they ’ re worried about performing , thinking too critically , or worried about things .
It ’ s like dancing , it ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ moment and go with the flow when you ’ re not thinking about what steps and rhythm are next .
18 .
No , I was not good to go again a few minutes later !
I never knew that kind of pain before .
Felt like I tried to fuck a sledgehammer .
19 .
Expecting us to read your minds .
You ’ re all different .
If we aren ’ t doing it right for you , let us know and we ’ ll change it up , otherwise , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for the last girl until we ’ re told otherwise .
20 .
When you ’ re getting nailed from behind , stop trying to counter the pounding motion .
You end up going in the same direction and fucking it all up .
21 .
Put your ass up , way up , you think it is up , but it is not .
22 .
While riding in reverse cowgirl , please don ’ t put all your weight in your hands when they are on my legs just above my @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hurt like hell when you death grip that area with your weight .
26 .
ALWAYS shake those boobs !
You don ’ t need to hit me with them , but let me know you know how damn sexy you are .
Boob jiggle is half the reason we like your body !
27 .
Teeth .
Do not use teeth .
No one likes a potato peeler .
28 .
Sometimes I just want to hold your hand .
That is not a cue to start stripping .
Just cuddle for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ there .
29 .
Not showering for three days and then expecting me to go down there .
30 .
The thing about men is that when we want to have sex with some girl , we want to have sex with HER , not a wannabe pornstar .
Just be yourself .

Some men from Ask Reddit want women to know they aren’t exactly into the following things:
1. Turning over as soon as we’re finished and grabbing her phone. We like attention and feeling like we did a good job too, damn it!
2. Waiting for me to take all our clothes off. Take mine off!
3. Starfishing, or not taking some initiative. I mean, I’ll do the heavy-lifting, but ya gotta put SOMETHING into it!
4. Going bananas when reversed cowgirl, it doesn’t bend that way!!
5. Thinking we are in it just for the physical pleasure, some of us do want some emotional connection as well. Also, make and maintain eye contact, that is a huge plus.
6. I’d rather have a BJ with less teeth and more hands than less hands and and more teeth.
7. Expecting me to always initiate.
8. The amount of grip they use for hand jobs. It’s a penis, not a poisonous snake you’re trying to choke to death.
9. Overselling it. Too much of the “Ohhh! Yes! OHHH!” and not enough just having fun with it.
10. Pulling the foreskin back too hard/ too far.
11. Pressuring me to cum. Dirty talk is fine, but the more pressure you put on me to cum the less likely it’s going to happen. Also expecting me to cum every time we have sex. Sometimes it just doesn’t happen. It doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy myself, or that you were bad, or anything negative. It just means I didn’t cum.
12. Squeezing my balls. Don’t fucking do that, it hurts. I don’t care what porno you watched where the girl grabs the dude’s balls aggressively.
13. Faking orgasms. Just don’t. Either help me get you there, help yourself (that’s hot), or don’t have one. You know what you need and I’m here to help if you want me to. All is fine, but don’t fake it.
14. If we do missionary, feel free to hug me hard or grab my ass, or kiss me, don’t just lie there, operate.
15. When you’re naked in front of us, we’re stoked to see it. No need to be insecure.
I know it’s easier said than done but trust me, we’re not thinking “eeew rolls” or “eeew stretch marks.” We’re thinking “yay boobies!”
16. As a dom I get so upset when my subs know they have a safe word and won’t use it for fear that I would be upset at them for using it. These words are given for safety purposes, not saying them hurts our interactions with one another.
17. Not getting out of their own head. I can practically feel it when they’re worried about performing, thinking too critically, or worried about things.
It’s like dancing, it’s much better to just enjoy the moment and go with the flow when you’re not thinking about what steps and rhythm are next.
18. No, I was not good to go again a few minutes later! I never knew that kind of pain before. Felt like I tried to fuck a sledgehammer.
19. Expecting us to read your minds. You’re all different. If we aren’t doing it right for you, let us know and we’ll change it up, otherwise, we’ll just do what worked for the last girl until we’re told otherwise.
20. When you’re getting nailed from behind, stop trying to counter the pounding motion. You end up going in the same direction and fucking it all up.
21. Put your ass up, way up, you think it is up, but it is not.
22. While riding in reverse cowgirl, please don’t put all your weight in your hands when they are on my legs just above my knees. There are nerves there that hurt like hell when you death grip that area with your weight.
23. Blurting out stuff that’s completely off-topic.
24. Unexpected finger in your asshole.
25. Dry hand jobs. No bueno.
26. ALWAYS shake those boobs! You don’t need to hit me with them, but let me know you know how damn sexy you are. Boob jiggle is half the reason we like your body!
27. Teeth. Do not use teeth. No one likes a potato peeler.
28. Sometimes I just want to hold your hand. That is not a cue to start stripping. Just cuddle for a bit, we’ll get there.
29. Not showering for three days and then expecting me to go down there.
30. The thing about men is that when we want to have sex with some girl, we want to have sex with HER, not a wannabe pornstar. Just be yourself.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-09--What Will Cause Each Zodiac Sign To Shut Down And Stop Talking To You

Teasing them about their interests .
Acting like their thoughts are silly .
Talking over them in conversation .
Never @ @ @ @ @ in .
Looking at your phone in the middle of the conversation instead of making @ @ @ @ @ mhming without actively contributing to the conversation at all .
Trying to one-up them whenever @ @ @ @ @ ( or miserable ) they are .
Fact-checking them and telling them they ’ re @ @ @ @ @ way .
Turning every conversation back around to themselves and what they want to talk @ @ @ @ @ body instead of looking them in the eyes .
Laughing at them when they ’ @ @ @ @ @ and vulnerable with you .
Arguing with them about every word that comes out of @ @ @ @ @ you without letting you finish a thought .
Making a rude comment about your grammar @ @ @

Aries
Teasing them about their interests. Acting like their thoughts are silly.
Talking over them in conversation. Never letting them get a word in.
Gemini
Looking at your phone in the middle of the conversation instead of making eye contact.
Cancer
Nodding and mhming without actively contributing to the conversation at all.
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Leo
Trying to one-up them whenever they talk about how happy (or miserable) they are.
Fact-checking them and telling them they’re wrong to feel a certain way.
Libra
Turning every conversation back around to themselves and what they want to talk about.
Scorpio
Staring at their body instead of looking them in the eyes.
Sagittarius
Laughing at them when they’re trying to be serious and vulnerable with you.
Capricorn
Arguing with them about every word that comes out of their mouth.
Repeatedly interrupting you without letting you finish a thought.
Pisces
Making a rude comment about your grammar or appearance.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-10--The Unedited Truth About Loneliness

The Unedited Truth About Loneliness

It happens suddenly .
It is a sinking feeling in your heart , your gut , or your neck , depending where your trigger points are .
It ’ s a panic attack in slow motion .
It ’ s not passing .
The thoughts are getting darker and darker .
No friend can rescue you right now .
You know what they will say .
“ You have so much to offer.
” “ Do you want me to come over ?
” “ Have you discussed this with your therapist ?
” “ Make something delicious for yourself @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the house for a little bit.
” None of that is helpful to you .
You know all the hacks are temporary .
The feeling will come back , and there you are again .
Feeling lonely today is far more common than we realize .
There is this obsessive need for connection created largely by social media and technology .
We need to feel “ connected ” all the time to absolutely anyone .
We refresh our Instagram feed for the 10th time in a day to see stories of people we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Bumble or Tinder to see if the match responded five minutes after we sent them a message .
Our phones are mostly on silent , yet our fingers check in every couple of minutes to see who said what on which platform .
We watch videos sent to us by a family of strangers in different parts of the world doing bizarre things we don ’ t even care about .
Work meetings drag on for longer than required because people don ’ t want to hit “ leave meeting ” and be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ yet , meetings that could have been emails or that were absolutely redundant are set up weekly for “ check-ins ” on this project or that .
Yet once all 50 participants log on , the host says there is no update : “ I ’ ll give you back your thirty minutes.
” A message makes us feel important , a meeting invite makes us feel important , a “ like ” makes us feel important , a “ shoutout ” makes us feel important .
The truth of the matter is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
That meeting ends , the message from your Bumble match never comes through , the “ likes ” stop meaning anything if it ’ s only from your mom or your best friend .
You finally have to put that family group chat on mute because the messages that were once funny are now just dull .
You can ’ t find joy in your phone or on your computer anymore .
Joy is lacking big time .
Another major cause for loneliness is the increased number of people we know who @ @ @ @ @ @ @ re feeling lonely , you will find couples even in squirrels , pigeons , extremely old seniors in wheelchairs .
Netflix will suddenly only produce rom coms , and the leading drama everyone is talking about will be a love story .
Everywhere you look , there ’ s a couple .
Logically , you understand that just finding someone is not healthy .
Logically , you understand that most people in relationships would rather be in a relationship than be alone .
Why ?
Because being alone means you have a lot @ @ @ @ @ @ @ problems .
Being in a couple means you can largely blame each other for your shortcomings and generally be distracted in each other ’ s lives .
You can also ask someone else to throw out the garbage once in a while .
Trust me , it adds up .
Logically , you know why people stay in low quality relationships .
Because likely , you once did it too .
In an age where having multiple partners has become largely okay , we are shocked and gravely disappointed to have not even @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t it simply the loveliest thing in the world to share moments with a beloved ?
The day we were born , we were given skin-to-skin contact because our survival depended on that basic need for physical touch , yet now we go one to two years without having touched another person or having someone touch us .
We are ashamed to tell anyone how long it has been .
Then , when the opportunity presents itself , we let go of all moral regard and standards , because after all , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ need touch , even if it is abusive .
I don ’ t know what the solution is or what the antidote to being lonely is .
But I do know this : When loneliness comes knocking on your door , you can either let it in or pretend you ’ re not home , but you ’ ll live in fear knowing it ’ s waiting for you on the other side , and as soon as you open the metaphoric door , it ’ s going to come in .
Don @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Let it in .
Have some silly fun with it .
Ask it to have a seat , offer it a cup of coffee , and then talk .
Why are you here ?
What do you need ?
What am I missing ?
For me , it took a long conversation with a friend to realize my loneliness is not from a lack of group of friends , or a lover , or family .
My loneliness is my longing for me .
I am missing me .
I need to become @ @ @ @ @ @ @ this when I talked about how I have good friends but I don ’ t feel like spending more time with them than I already do .
I have hobbies that I enjoy working on from time to time .
I have a lovely family that I like in small doses .
On paper , everything is great .
But I am so lonely .
What am I missing ?
It wasn ’ t anyone else .
It was me .
I filled my life with all the things I was “ supposed @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I left no time for me .
What are my values ?
What gives me the greatest joy ?
What inspires me ?
Am I pursuing a career I love ?
Why not ?
Am I making healthy choices in food , finances , romance ?
Why not ?
When was the last time I gave myself a new experience without knowing the end result ?
Do I take chances ?
So many things I don ’ t know about myself because I haven ’ t taken the time to get to know @ @ @ @ @ @ @ dull personality , but I can ’ t say for sure because I just don ’ t know !
Sure , a relationship would be great and I would feel less lonely , but I have also been in relationships where I have been most lonely .
At the end of the day , I live with my thoughts .
I live in my body , and being lonely may help me become more intimate with myself and live a more authentic life .
For now , I ’ m letting it in @

It happens suddenly. It is a sinking feeling in your heart, your gut, or your neck, depending where your trigger points are. It’s a panic attack in slow motion. It’s not passing. The thoughts are getting darker and darker. No friend can rescue you right now. You know what they will say.
“You are loved.”
“You are special.”
“You have so much to offer.”
“It’s okay to feel sad.”
“Do you want me to come over?”
“Have you discussed this with your therapist?”
“Make something delicious for yourself or order in.”
“Go outside the house for a little bit.”
None of that is helpful to you. You know all the hacks are temporary. The feeling will come back, and there you are again.
Feeling lonely today is far more common than we realize. There is this obsessive need for connection created largely by social media and technology. We need to feel “connected” all the time to absolutely anyone. We refresh our Instagram feed for the 10th time in a day to see stories of people we don’t know. We check Bumble or Tinder to see if the match responded five minutes after we sent them a message. Our phones are mostly on silent, yet our fingers check in every couple of minutes to see who said what on which platform. We watch videos sent to us by a family of strangers in different parts of the world doing bizarre things we don’t even care about. Work meetings drag on for longer than required because people don’t want to hit “leave meeting” and be left in their silence, or better yet, meetings that could have been emails or that were absolutely redundant are set up weekly for “check-ins” on this project or that. Yet once all 50 participants log on, the host says there is no update: “I’ll give you back your thirty minutes.”
A message makes us feel important, a meeting invite makes us feel important, a “like” makes us feel important, a “shoutout” makes us feel important. The truth of the matter is that all this so-called connection is temporary. That meeting ends, the message from your Bumble match never comes through, the “likes” stop meaning anything if it’s only from your mom or your best friend. You finally have to put that family group chat on mute because the messages that were once funny are now just dull. You can’t find joy in your phone or on your computer anymore. Joy is lacking big time.
Another major cause for loneliness is the increased number of people we know who are coupling. Especially when you’re feeling lonely, you will find couples even in squirrels, pigeons, extremely old seniors in wheelchairs. Netflix will suddenly only produce rom coms, and the leading drama everyone is talking about will be a love story. Everywhere you look, there’s a couple. Logically, you understand that just finding someone is not healthy. Logically, you understand that most people in relationships would rather be in a relationship than be alone. Why? Because being alone means you have a lot of time to focus on your own problems. Being in a couple means you can largely blame each other for your shortcomings and generally be distracted in each other’s lives. You can also ask someone else to throw out the garbage once in a while. Trust me, it adds up. Logically, you know why people stay in low quality relationships. Because likely, you once did it too.
In an age where having multiple partners has become largely okay, we are shocked and gravely disappointed to have not even found one. After all, isn’t it simply the loveliest thing in the world to share moments with a beloved? The day we were born, we were given skin-to-skin contact because our survival depended on that basic need for physical touch, yet now we go one to two years without having touched another person or having someone touch us. We are ashamed to tell anyone how long it has been. Then, when the opportunity presents itself, we let go of all moral regard and standards, because after all, our survival is at stake. We need touch, even if it is abusive.
I don’t know what the solution is or what the antidote to being lonely is. But I do know this: When loneliness comes knocking on your door, you can either let it in or pretend you’re not home, but you’ll live in fear knowing it’s waiting for you on the other side, and as soon as you open the metaphoric door, it’s going to come in. Don’t be afraid of it. Let it in. Have some silly fun with it. Ask it to have a seat, offer it a cup of coffee, and then talk. Why are you here? What do you need? What am I missing?
For me, it took a long conversation with a friend to realize my loneliness is not from a lack of group of friends, or a lover, or family. My loneliness is my longing for me. I am missing me. I need to become more intimate with me. I realized this when I talked about how I have good friends but I don’t feel like spending more time with them than I already do. I have hobbies that I enjoy working on from time to time. I have a lovely family that I like in small doses. On paper, everything is great. But I am so lonely. What am I missing?
It wasn’t anyone else. It was me. I filled my life with all the things I was “supposed” to, so much so that I left no time for me. What are my values? What gives me the greatest joy? What inspires me? Am I pursuing a career I love? Why not? Am I making healthy choices in food, finances, romance? Why not? When was the last time I gave myself a new experience without knowing the end result? Do I take chances? So many things I don’t know about myself because I haven’t taken the time to get to know myself. Maybe I have a terribly dull personality, but I can’t say for sure because I just don’t know!
Sure, a relationship would be great and I would feel less lonely, but I have also been in relationships where I have been most lonely. At the end of the day, I live with my thoughts. I live in my body, and being lonely may help me become more intimate with myself and live a more authentic life. For now, I’m letting it in.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-10--How She Wants You To Apologize After Screwing Her Over

Some mistakes are too big to recover from .
Some boundaries can not be uncrossed .
However , if there ’ s even a chance she ’ s going to forgive you for the mistakes you ’ ve made , you should give her a genuine , heartfelt apology .
You should make it clear that you ’ re never going to hurt her again in the future .
The most important thing you can do is own up to your mistakes .
Feel free to explain the reasoning behind why you did what you did , but make sure @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re throwing out random excuses .
You shouldn ’ t pass the blame off to your exes , your parents , your friends , and everyone else around you .
You should be mature enough to say I screwed up and I ’ m sorry .
If you can ’ t even admit what you ’ ve done wrong — or can ’ t even see what you ’ ve done wrong — then she ’ s not going to give you another chance .
The first step is being self-aware .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ , then you need to take her feelings seriously .
You can not accuse her of overreacting or act like she doesn ’ t have a right to be upset with you .
You can ’ t tell her how to feel .
You have to respect her emotions and understand that they are just as valid as yours .
If you want her to forgive you , then you need to promise you ’ re going to treat her better in the future — but you actually have to carry through on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ act like you ’ re going to turn your attitude around one day and go right back to your old habits the next day .
If you keep repeating your mistakes , you might keep her around for the short-term , but she ’ s going to be gone soon .
She ’ s going to come to her senses and realize you aren ’ t a man of your word .
If you want her to forgive you , don ’ t rely on expensive gifts to do the talking for you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ things up to her by surprising her with flowers and chocolates , then have fun .
However , don ’ t assume your work is over .
You can ’ t buy her trust back .
Your changed behavior is the best apology .
If you want her to forgive you , make sure you actually say what you mean .
Say you ’ re sorry .
Say you love her .
Say you aren ’ t going to hurt her again .
Don ’ t assume she already knows those things .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ go without being said .
Be clear that you want her , you want this relationship , and you want to be the best partner you can be .
If you want her to forgive you , you have to give her time .
You can ’ t rush her toward healing .
It might take her a little while to come to terms with what you ’ ve done .
She probably won ’ t snap back to hugging and kissing you right away .
But if she ’ s the only @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ll be worth the wait .
Just remember , she doesn ’ t want you to apologize in order to shut her up .
She wants you to apologize because you mean it , because you feel horrible about hurting her , because you believe she deserves better .

Some mistakes are too big to recover from. Some boundaries cannot be uncrossed. However, if there’s even a chance she’s going to forgive you for the mistakes you’ve made, you should give her a genuine, heartfelt apology. You should make it clear that you’re never going to hurt her again in the future.
The most important thing you can do is own up to your mistakes. Feel free to explain the reasoning behind why you did what you did, but make sure it doesn’t sound like you’re throwing out random excuses. You shouldn’t pass the blame off to your exes, your parents, your friends, and everyone else around you. You should be mature enough to say I screwed up and I’m sorry. If you can’t even admit what you’ve done wrong — or can’t even see what you’ve done wrong — then she’s not going to give you another chance. The first step is being self-aware.
If you want her to forgive you, then you need to take her feelings seriously. You cannot accuse her of overreacting or act like she doesn’t have a right to be upset with you. You can’t tell her how to feel. You have to respect her emotions and understand that they are just as valid as yours.
If you want her to forgive you, then you need to promise you’re going to treat her better in the future — but you actually have to carry through on that promise. You can’t act like you’re going to turn your attitude around one day and go right back to your old habits the next day. If you keep repeating your mistakes, you might keep her around for the short-term, but she’s going to be gone soon. She’s going to come to her senses and realize you aren’t a man of your word.
If you want her to forgive you, don’t rely on expensive gifts to do the talking for you. If you want to start making things up to her by surprising her with flowers and chocolates, then have fun. However, don’t assume your work is over. You can’t buy her trust back. Your changed behavior is the best apology.
If you want her to forgive you, make sure you actually say what you mean. Say you’re sorry. Say you love her. Say you aren’t going to hurt her again. Don’t assume she already knows those things. Don’t assume your feelings can go without being said. Be clear that you want her, you want this relationship, and you want to be the best partner you can be.
If you want her to forgive you, you have to give her time. You can’t rush her toward healing. It might take her a little while to come to terms with what you’ve done. She probably won’t snap back to hugging and kissing you right away. But if she’s the only one you want, then she’ll be worth the wait.
Just remember, she doesn’t want you to apologize in order to shut her up. She wants you to apologize because you mean it, because you feel horrible about hurting her, because you believe she deserves better.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-10--How Each Zodiac Sign Will Behave After Cheating On You

They will try to blame you for pushing them to cheat in the first place .
They will shower you with presents and chocolates to earn your forgiveness .
They will blame the person they cheated with and act like they were innocent in the situation .
They will start crying their eyes out and beg you not to leave them .
They will continue lying about what they ’ ve done , even though they ’ ve been caught .
They will blame their ex or their parents or some issue from their past for messing them up .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ story about how they only cheated because they felt insecure .
They will swear it will never happen again and insist they don ’ t want to lose you .
They will make up a complicated explanation for their behavior that makes zero sense .
They will answer all your questions and completely own up to what they ’ ve done .
They will let you go through their phone and messages so you feel more comfortable .
They will break up with you because you had the nerve to get upset with @ @

They will try to blame you for pushing them to cheat in the first place.
Taurus
They will shower you with presents and chocolates to earn your forgiveness.
Gemini
They will blame the person they cheated with and act like they were innocent in the situation.
Cancer
They will start crying their eyes out and beg you not to leave them.
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Leo
They will continue lying about what they’ve done, even though they’ve been caught.
They will blame their ex or their parents or some issue from their past for messing them up.
Libra
They will come up with a sob story about how they only cheated because they felt insecure.
Scorpio
They will swear it will never happen again and insist they don’t want to lose you.
Sagittarius
They will make up a complicated explanation for their behavior that makes zero sense.
Capricorn
They will answer all your questions and completely own up to what they’ve done.
They will let you go through their phone and messages so you feel more comfortable.
Pisces
They will break up with you because you had the nerve to get upset with them.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-10--60+ Bible Scriptures on Healing

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thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--Why ‘The Killing Of A Sacred Deer’ Is The Creepiest Movie Currently On Netflix

From just the trailer I knew The Killing of a Sacred Deer was going to be a different kind of horror movie .
We see a child collapsing , failing to walk , and collapsing again .
A girl crawls down a flight of stairs .
A boy pulls his lower half along a hardwood living room floor .
A surgeon acknowledges he was unable to save a psychologically disturbed boy ’ s father .
A revenge story , then .
I feel sickly after I watch it .
See for yourself : The plot revolves around a surgeon , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ father recently died .
At first the surgeon ’ s friendship with the boy seems positive .
He seems to be mentoring him and helping him deal with the loss of his father .
But the boy is dark .
Troubled .
And then the surgeon ’ s family begins to experience a mysterious illness that causes their legs to go numb , rendering them paralyzed .
That ’ s when the boy reveals his secret and gives the surgeon a gruesome choice .
The Killing of a Sacred Deer comes in through @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t promise or deliver jump scares or a barbarian killer with a knife hulking toward the screen .
Rather than scary , it ’ s unsettling .
It gets under your skin and dares you to start to scratch .
What ’ s so compelling about this movie is how… odd it is .
There ’ s no warmth .
You might think you ’ re at a table read until you remember that this is how some people really live — a scary and unsettling fact in its own right .
Even @ @ @ @ @ @ @ just egregiously weird .
The movie ’ s quality of being close to reality and serious in tone but just a little hollow throws you off-kilter , distracted from the impending bombshell that comes halfway through the film .
Modeled on the Greek tragedy Iphigenia at Aulis by Euripides ( spoiler alert if you decide to click through ) , The Killing of a Sacred Deer is co-written and directed by four-time Oscar nominated director/writer Yorgos Lanthimos .
It won best screenplay at Cannes when it came out .
Colin Farrell and Nicole @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you watching this movie yet ?
?
The Killing of a Sacred Deer is currently streaming on Netflix .

From just the trailer I knew The Killing of a Sacred Deer was going to be a different kind of horror movie. We see a child collapsing, failing to walk, and collapsing again. A girl crawls down a flight of stairs. A boy pulls his lower half along a hardwood living room floor. A surgeon acknowledges he was unable to save a psychologically disturbed boy’s father. A revenge story, then. I feel sickly after I watch it.
See for yourself:
The plot revolves around a surgeon, his family, and a boy whose father recently died. At first the surgeon’s friendship with the boy seems positive. He seems to be mentoring him and helping him deal with the loss of his father. But the boy is dark. Troubled. And then the surgeon’s family begins to experience a mysterious illness that causes their legs to go numb, rendering them paralyzed. That’s when the boy reveals his secret and gives the surgeon a gruesome choice.
The Killing of a Sacred Deer comes in through a side door. It doesn’t promise or deliver jump scares or a barbarian killer with a knife hulking toward the screen. Rather than scary, it’s unsettling. It gets under your skin and dares you to start to scratch.
What’s so compelling about this movie is how… odd it is. There’s no warmth. You might think you’re at a table read until you remember that this is how some people really live — a scary and unsettling fact in its own right. Even the way this kid eats spaghetti is just egregiously weird. The movie’s quality of being close to reality and serious in tone but just a little hollow throws you off-kilter, distracted from the impending bombshell that comes halfway through the film.
Modeled on the Greek tragedy Iphigenia at Aulis by Euripides (spoiler alert if you decide to click through), The Killing of a Sacred Deer is co-written and directed by four-time Oscar nominated director/writer Yorgos Lanthimos. It won best screenplay at Cannes when it came out. Colin Farrell and Nicole Kidman star. Why aren’t you watching this movie yet??
The Killing of a Sacred Deer is currently streaming on Netflix.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--Maybe We Were Meant To Be Temporary — But This Still Sucks

Maybe we were meant to be temporary , but that doesn ’ t change the fact that it hurts to lose you .
That doesn ’ t stop me from picturing the way you laugh and smile and snore every single night when my head hits the pillow .
Knowing we weren ’ t meant to last doesn ’ t take away any of the pain .
It doesn ’ t make my heart heal any faster .
Losing you hurts like hell .
It ’ s hard to see a bright side or a silver lining , at least @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Maybe sometime in the future , I ’ ll be able to look back at this moment and be thankful .
Maybe this will be the exact point where my entire world changes for the better .
Maybe everyone is right when they keep telling me this is a good thing .
But right here , right now , my existence feels miserable .
It ’ s a struggle to survive without you .
Every breath brings me pain .
Every heartbeat feels like a waste when you ’ re not here @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Maybe we were never meant to last — but we made so much sense together .
You brought me so much peace and comfort and friendship .
You supported me through my darkest , most inescapable moments .
You made me feel like a good person , even when I was convinced there was a monster inside me .
Whether I was feeling hopeless or angry or upset , you never flinched at my nastiest emotions .
You could handle everything thrown at you — and you didn ’ t act like @ @ @ @ @ @ @ You acted like it was a privilege to be near me .
And I felt the same way about you .
I still , do .
Maybe we were meant to be temporary .
Maybe we were meant to guide each other further in life , and then part ways so we could travel the rest of our journeys alone .
Maybe every moment in our relationship meant something , but our separation means something , too .
Just because we ’ re parting doesn ’ t mean we ’ re going to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t mean we ’ re going to start badmouthing each other and forget how much we cared about each other .
Just because our love story is over doesn ’ t mean it never happened .
Our memories aren ’ t going anywhere .
However , knowing this is the right thing doesn ’ t make it any easier .
Knowing , in the long-run , we ’ re going to be fine without each other doesn ’ t bring me any peace .
Not yet .
Not now .
You taught me @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s only fitting you teach me the meaning of heartbreak .
Maybe we were always meant to be temporary — but losing you still sucks .
I ’ m not going to pretend this is easy on me .
I ’ m not going to act like the transition from your lover to less has been easy on me .
But I ’ m not going to kick and scream about it anymore , either .
I ’ m not going to resist doing what ’ s best for you and best @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to be temporary — but there ’ s a beauty in temporary things .

Maybe we were meant to be temporary, but that doesn’t change the fact that it hurts to lose you. That doesn’t stop me from picturing the way you laugh and smile and snore every single night when my head hits the pillow.
Knowing we weren’t meant to last doesn’t take away any of the pain. It doesn’t make my heart heal any faster.
Losing you hurts like hell. It’s hard to see a bright side or a silver lining, at least from where I’m currently standing. Maybe sometime in the future, I’ll be able to look back at this moment and be thankful. Maybe this will be the exact point where my entire world changes for the better. Maybe everyone is right when they keep telling me this is a good thing.
But right here, right now, my existence feels miserable. It’s a struggle to survive without you. Every breath brings me pain. Every heartbeat feels like a waste when you’re not here to press your ear against my chest.
Maybe we were never meant to last — but we made so much sense together. You brought me so much peace and comfort and friendship. You supported me through my darkest, most inescapable moments. You made me feel like a good person, even when I was convinced there was a monster inside me.
Whether I was feeling hopeless or angry or upset, you never flinched at my nastiest emotions. You could handle everything thrown at you — and you didn’t act like you were handling me at all. You acted like it was a privilege to be near me. And I felt the same way about you. I still, do.
Maybe we were meant to be temporary. Maybe we were meant to guide each other further in life, and then part ways so we could travel the rest of our journeys alone. Maybe every moment in our relationship meant something, but our separation means something, too.
Just because we’re parting doesn’t mean we’re going to forget each other. It doesn’t mean we’re going to start badmouthing each other and forget how much we cared about each other. Just because our love story is over doesn’t mean it never happened. Our memories aren’t going anywhere.
However, knowing this is the right thing doesn’t make it any easier. Knowing, in the long-run, we’re going to be fine without each other doesn’t bring me any peace. Not yet. Not now.
You taught me the meaning of love, so it’s only fitting you teach me the meaning of heartbreak.
Maybe we were always meant to be temporary — but losing you still sucks. I’m not going to pretend this is easy on me. I’m not going to act like the transition from your lover to less has been easy on me. But I’m not going to kick and scream about it anymore, either. I’m not going to resist doing what’s best for you and best for me.
Maybe we were meant to be temporary — but there’s a beauty in temporary things.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--At The End Of The Day, We All Want the Same Two Things

I don ’ t write as much “ self-help ” as I used to , mostly because your problems are mostly bigger than you alone can solve .
There are about a quadrillion systemic forces weighing down the vast majority of folks ’ pursuit of the extraordinary , and if we really want to improve people ’ s lives at scale , with the highest ROI , we need to address cultural norms and policy .
That said : I also don ’ t write as much “ self-help ” as I used to , because I ’ ve candidly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ think about .
I ’ m not going to improve upon The 4 Pillars , 3 Keys , 2 Energies , 7 Noble Pursuits , or 12 Common Ways .
I can expand on them , and poke around them , or dive deep into each topic individually , but for the most part , the guts of the Gorman Doctrine there .
Value life above all , and value all life equally .
Your purpose in life is to find ways to ease the burden of suffering for yourself and others .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ , and share something every single day .
Live with humility , curiosity , and empathy .
Balance ambition and appreciation .
Strive for health , joy , peace , purpose , communion , wisdom , and freedom .
Drink more water , eat more plants , minimize and organize , go outside , get more exercise , have more fun , put down your phone , drink a little less , smoke a lot less , go to therapy , distance yourself from people who suck .
And , if all else @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t — do enough hallucinogens to kill a Maine Coon .
Boom .
Compile the essays , slap a colorful cover and an ISBN on it .

I don’t write as much “self-help” as I used to, mostly because your problems are mostly bigger than you alone can solve. There are about a quadrillion systemic forces weighing down the vast majority of folks’ pursuit of the extraordinary, and if we really want to improve people’s lives at scale, with the highest ROI, we need to address cultural norms and policy.
That said: I also don’t write as much “self-help” as I used to, because I’ve candidly run out of big life-improvement ideas to think about. I’m not going to improve upon The 4 Pillars, 3 Keys, 2 Energies, 7 Noble Pursuits, or 12 Common Ways. I can expand on them, and poke around them, or dive deep into each topic individually, but for the most part, the guts of the Gorman Doctrine there.
Value life above all, and value all life equally. Your purpose in life is to find ways to ease the burden of suffering for yourself and others. Try to learn, make, experience, and share something every single day. Live with humility, curiosity, and empathy. Balance ambition and appreciation. Strive for health, joy, peace, purpose, communion, wisdom, and freedom.
Drink more water, eat more plants, minimize and organize, go outside, get more exercise, have more fun, put down your phone, drink a little less, smoke a lot less, go to therapy, distance yourself from people who suck.
And, if all else fails — or even if it doesn’t — do enough hallucinogens to kill a Maine Coon. Boom. Compile the essays, slap a colorful cover and an ISBN on it.


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--30 Hilarious Conversations From Porn Scenes (That Are Far From Sexy)

“ Hey , Dave , good to see you .
You ’ re looking tall.
” 2 .
“ Omg your asshole is so hot !
” 3 .
Alien woman : “ Don ’ t move or I ’ ll shoot you with my sex ray gun.
” You can ’ t make this crap up .
I actually spent money to rent the damn movie at a video store !
Porn from 20 years ago definitely had its ups and downs .
I want a sex ray gun too !
4 .
The first time I heard a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ give me that fucking baby batter !
” I died .
I couldn ’ t even finish I was laughing so hard .
5 .
There ’ s this one movie where a girl catches her boyfriend and her mom fucking and she goes on this breathless rant about how they ’ ve never treated her with any respect .
While they ’ re still fucking of course .
“ No body of water is safe without a lifeguard.
” “ It ’ s two feet deep lady , what ’ re you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Fuck me like one of your french girls !
” Yeah… I ’ m not proud of that one but whatever works .
8 .
“ I miss your uncle so much .
You remind me of him.
” “ Well he is my uncle , it ’ s in our genes.
” “ Speaking of genes ( jeans ) , I want to get in yours.
” 9 .
A guy came on the girl ’ s nose then said , “ Looks like you sneezed.
” Her : “ Why don @ @ @ @ @ @ @ out ?
” Him : “ Lady , I ’ ve got a job to do .
I can ’ t just blow off work.
” 11 .
Guy : I ’ m gon na fuck you in the ass .
Girl : But I poop from there .
12 .
Once this girl was posing as a math teacher and it got to the point where she was interested in a student and shit , and anyways she starts unzipping his pants and he says , “ What about the lesson ?
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ That ’ s gon na be useless to you anyways.
” 13 .
I don ’ t remember exactly , but it was something to the effect of : “ Can you make me a sandwich ?
I tried , but this is a left-handed knife and I am right-handed.
” 14 .
A woman in an office was drinking a glass of milk , so the boss who had like a Slavic accent comes up and says , “ So you like milk ?
” and after she responds he just takes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ inside it .
15 .
The chick was getting pounded from behind and kept screaming , “ Oh God , ” over and over .
And then the guy was like , “ There is no God here , ” and kept going .
I dunno why , but it made me laugh .
Guy who looks vaguely like Nixon : “ I am not a crook !
” Woman riding him : “ No you ’ re not , ’ cause I ’ m giving you my ass.
” 17 .
There @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a dude ’ s sports car .
Dude busted the chick , she asked if there was anything she could do to make sure he didn ’ t turn her in .
He proposes getting some ass and he would even give her the car .
Then she asks for the keys and the dude digs in his bag and pulls out the ignition switch and wires ( he stole the car ) .
18 .
“ Watch how easily the knife chops through the carrots.
” “ I dunno , is there @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me ?
” 19 .
“ Are you serious ?
Right in front of my salad ?
” Mother : What are you doing in there ?
“ Sherwood like you to come over here and suck our cocks.
” 23 .
One time I was watching a porn where the dude is fucking his stepmom and she looks at him and says , “ Don ’ t feel weird , feel good.
” I still use that line , even outside of sexual contexts .
25 .
“ I haven ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ long time , that ’ s awesome !
” “ Well , what if I showed you my ass ?
” Fred looks at them from the driver ’ s seat .
27 .
“ A man once convinced me to touch his pet dragon .
It turned out to be his penis.
” 28 .
“ Please don ’ t tell anyone I was fucking a fruit.
” 29 .
My friend directed and starred in a porno where she plays an escaped mental patient .
Another woman mistakes her for her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ pelvic exam .
My friend put her ear to the other lady ’ s vagina and said , “ I can hear the ocean !
” 30 .
Someone from off-screen saying : “ Stay in character .
”

Ask Reddit has seen some ridiculous porn scenes.
1. In a gay porn:
“Hey, Dave, good to see you. You’re looking tall.”
“Yeah, I’ve been playing a lot of basketball.”
2. “Omg your asshole is so hot!”
“You thought my asshole was cold?”
3. Alien woman: “Don’t move or I’ll shoot you with my sex ray gun.”
Guy: “No, not the sex ray gun!”
Woman: shoots
Guy: “I have a boner!”
You can’t make this crap up. I actually spent money to rent the damn movie at a video store! Porn from 20 years ago definitely had its ups and downs. I want a sex ray gun too!
4. The first time I heard a chick say, “Oh yeah, give me that fucking baby batter!” I died. I couldn’t even finish I was laughing so hard.
5. There’s this one movie where a girl catches her boyfriend and her mom fucking and she goes on this breathless rant about how they’ve never treated her with any respect. While they’re still fucking of course.
6. “This isn’t a beach, it’s a bathtub.”
“No body of water is safe without a lifeguard.”
“It’s two feet deep lady, what’re you doing here?”
7. “Fuck me like one of your french girls!” Yeah… I’m not proud of that one but whatever works.
8. “I miss your uncle so much. You remind me of him.”
“Well he is my uncle, it’s in our genes.”
“Speaking of genes (jeans), I want to get in yours.”
*rubs leg*
“Well, these are shorts.”
9. A guy came on the girl’s nose then said, “Looks like you sneezed.”
I laughed so hard, dick in hand.
10. Classic porn scenario – girl orders pizza, girl can’t pay for pizza.
Her: “Why don’t you just stay and hang out?”
Him: “Lady, I’ve got a job to do. I can’t just blow off work.”
Her: “I’ve got PBR.”
Him: “PBR? Fuckin’ A!”
11. Guy: I’m gonna fuck you in the ass.
Girl: But I poop from there.
Guy: Not today you don’t.
12. Once this girl was posing as a math teacher and it got to the point where she was interested in a student and shit, and anyways she starts unzipping his pants and he says, “What about the lesson?” And she replied with” “That’s gonna be useless to you anyways.”
13. I don’t remember exactly, but it was something to the effect of: “Can you make me a sandwich? I tried, but this is a left-handed knife and I am right-handed.”
14. A woman in an office was drinking a glass of milk, so the boss who had like a Slavic accent comes up and says, “So you like milk?” and after she responds he just takes the glass proceeds to put his dick inside it.
15. The chick was getting pounded from behind and kept screaming, “Oh God,” over and over.
And then the guy was like, “There is no God here,” and kept going.
I dunno why, but it made me laugh.
16. From a Nixon-themed porno:
Guy who looks vaguely like Nixon: “I am not a crook!”
Woman riding him: “No you’re not, ’cause I’m giving you my ass.”
17. There was a chick that tried to steal a dude’s sports car.
Dude busted the chick, she asked if there was anything she could do to make sure he didn’t turn her in.
He proposes getting some ass and he would even give her the car.
They fuck.
Then she asks for the keys and the dude digs in his bag and pulls out the ignition switch and wires (he stole the car).
18. “Watch how easily the knife chops through the carrots.”
“I dunno, is there something bigger and harder you can show me?”
“This titanium rod.”
19. “Are you serious? Right in front of my salad?”
20. Mother approaches daughters bedroom door.
Mother: What are you doing in there?
Sister is Fucking Brother.
Sister: Nothing Mom! Just Masturbating!
Mother: Oh, well good luck!
Mother leaves the door.
21. Girl: “Fuck me.”
Guy: “Gross, no.”
Guy behind the camera: “John, please.”
22. “Knock knock.”
“Whos there?”
“Sherwood.”
“Sherwood who?”
“Sherwood like you to come over here and suck our cocks.”
23. One time I was watching a porn where the dude is fucking his stepmom and she looks at him and says, “Don’t feel weird, feel good.”
I still use that line, even outside of sexual contexts.
24. Taps dick on girl’s forehead: “Knock, knock… daddy’s home!”
25. “I haven’t seen carpet in a bathroom in a long time, that’s awesome!”
26. “How about a Scooby Snack?'”
“Nooo.”
“How about 2 Scooby Snacks?”
“Nooooooo.”
“Well, what if I showed you my ass?”
“…Okaaay.”
Fred looks at them from the driver’s seat.
27. “A man once convinced me to touch his pet dragon. It turned out to be his penis.”
28. “Please don’t tell anyone I was fucking a fruit.”
29. My friend directed and starred in a porno where she plays an escaped mental patient. Another woman mistakes her for her gynecologist and lets her give her a pelvic exam. My friend put her ear to the other lady’s vagina and said, “I can hear the ocean!”
30. Someone from off-screen saying: “Stay in character.”


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--I Wonder What You Would Tell Me If You Were Here

I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you be proud of everything I ’ ve accomplished over these past few years ?
Would you surprise me with champagne bottles and balloons to celebrate ?
Would you be my biggest cheerleader , the person who encourages me to keep going because there ’ s so much potential hidden within me ?
Would you guide me toward my biggest dreams ?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you be talking me off of ledges at two o ’ clock @ @ @ @ @ @ @ getting the best of me ?
Would you wrap your arms around me , squeeze me tight , and dry my tears ?
Would you give me pep talks that replay on a loop in my head because you were always so much wiser than me ?
Would you talk me out of doing the stupid , impulsive things that are so hard for me to resist ?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you be cracking jokes ?
Would you be causing smiles ?
Would @ @ @ @ @ @ @ reasons to get excited about getting up in the morning , to look forward to the future ahead of me ?
Would you be the bright spot in every week ?
Would you keep me sane , stop me from jumping off the edge ?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you be blunt with me about the things I ’ ve been doing wrong ?
Would you call me out on my mistakes without letting me off the hook , without looking in the other @ @ @ @ @ @ @ sense into me in the hopes I would change my world for the better ?
Would you be brutally honest with me because you care too much to let me fall down the wrong path ?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you want to hear every little detail from my life ?
Would you be interested in the small things as well as the big things ?
Would you remind me it ’ s okay to feel , okay to cry , and okay to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ?
Would you give me a place where I felt comfortable , a place that felt home more than any building ever could ?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here .
Would you encourage me to stop beating myself up so much ?
Would you wish that I did a better job of learning to love myself ?
Would you push me to take better care of myself , to think more of myself , to recognize my strengths more ?
Would you want me to treat myself @ @ @ @ @ @ @ would tell me if you were here .
Would you tell me my best actually is good enough ?
Would you tell me so much more happiness is waiting for me right around the corner ?
Would you tell me everything is going to be okay in the end , even without you here ?

I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you be proud of everything I’ve accomplished over these past few years? Would you surprise me with champagne bottles and balloons to celebrate? Would you be my biggest cheerleader, the person who encourages me to keep going because there’s so much potential hidden within me? Would you guide me toward my biggest dreams?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you be talking me off of ledges at two o’clock in the morning when my doubts are getting the best of me? Would you wrap your arms around me, squeeze me tight, and dry my tears? Would you give me pep talks that replay on a loop in my head because you were always so much wiser than me? Would you talk me out of doing the stupid, impulsive things that are so hard for me to resist?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you be cracking jokes? Would you be causing smiles? Would you be giving me more and more reasons to get excited about getting up in the morning, to look forward to the future ahead of me? Would you be the bright spot in every week? Would you keep me sane, stop me from jumping off the edge?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you be blunt with me about the things I’ve been doing wrong? Would you call me out on my mistakes without letting me off the hook, without looking in the other direction? Would you try to talk sense into me in the hopes I would change my world for the better? Would you be brutally honest with me because you care too much to let me fall down the wrong path?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you want to hear every little detail from my life? Would you be interested in the small things as well as the big things? Would you remind me it’s okay to feel, okay to cry, and okay to open up to you about absolutely anything? Would you give me a place where I felt comfortable, a place that felt home more than any building ever could?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you encourage me to stop beating myself up so much? Would you wish that I did a better job of learning to love myself? Would you push me to take better care of myself, to think more of myself, to recognize my strengths more? Would you want me to treat myself more gently?
I wonder what you would tell me if you were here. Would you tell me my best actually is good enough? Would you tell me so much more happiness is waiting for me right around the corner? Would you tell me everything is going to be okay in the end, even without you here?


thoughtcatalog--2020-12-11--What Each Zodiac Needs Instead Of Closure

You need to learn how to love yourself .
You need to focus on your confidence so you don ’ t need someone else to feel fulfilled .
You need bonding time with your friends .
You need to be reminded you ’ re loved , even if you ’ re not in love .
You need a break .
You need to take some time off so you can come back refreshed and recharged .
You need to reevaluate your priorities .
You need to focus on the things that matter more than relationships .
You need a drink @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have some fun , and stop caring so much .
You need to touch yourself .
You need to stop feeling like this other person is the only one who can make you excited .
You need to raise your standards .
You have to understand you dodged a bullet and are better off with someone else .
You need a therapist .
You need to get your feelings off your chest instead of bottling everything up inside .
You need to focus on work .
You need to distract yourself from this @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You need a pet ( whether it ’ s a puppy or a fish ) that will give you unconditional love .
You need to treat yourself .
You need to make yourself happy instead of waiting around for someone else to do the job .
You need to travel ( when you can ) .
You need to see that the world is bigger than your heartbreak .

Aries
You need to learn how to love yourself. You need to focus on your confidence so you don’t need someone else to feel fulfilled.
Taurus
You need bonding time with your friends. You need to be reminded you’re loved, even if you’re not in love.
You need a break. You need to take some time off so you can come back refreshed and recharged.
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Cancer
You need to reevaluate your priorities. You need to focus on the things that matter more than relationships.
Leo
You need a drink. You need to let loose, have some fun, and stop caring so much.
Virgo
You need to touch yourself. You need to stop feeling like this other person is the only one who can make you excited.
Libra
You need to raise your standards. You have to understand you dodged a bullet and are better off with someone else.
Scorpio
You need a therapist. You need to get your feelings off your chest instead of bottling everything up inside.
You need to focus on work. You need to distract yourself from this person until you get over this person.
Capricorn
You need a pet (whether it’s a puppy or a fish) that will give you unconditional love.
Aquarius
You need to treat yourself. You need to make yourself happy instead of waiting around for someone else to do the job.
You need to travel (when you can). You need to see that the world is bigger than your heartbreak.