thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--To The Friends Who Love Us No Matter The Distance

I hate that we are so far apart from each other .
I need you to know that , even if I don ’ t say it every time we talk .
I know the distance takes a toll on you because it takes a toll on me , too .
There was a point in our lives where we really didn ’ t think too hard about being so far apart .
We didn ’ t prepare because it seemed we had all the time in the world to adjust- or that life simply wouldn ’ t dare create @ @ @ @ @ @ @ close as we ’ ve always been .
Thank you for still loving me despite all the space between us .
For taking the love , you ’ ve always shown me and stretching it across hundreds of miles , ensuring I still know it exists .
I know it isn ’ t always simple or easy , but your willingness to even put in the effort speaks volumes in ways I could never forget .
Thank you for knowing that my decision to live far away has nothing to do with not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ everything to do with becoming the person you ’ ve always known I could be .
During my most stressful moments , you ’ ve sat with me , where I honestly thought I would fail at what I hoped to achieve .
You were always right next to me , saying that the only way I definitely failed is if I didn ’ t try .
You know me better than anyone else .
Thank you for making the efforts to come to see me , even though it means going out @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I love the ability to show you the new things happening in my life , and having you there ( even for just a day or two ) to make memories with makes you feel not so far away .
Thank you for making room in your schedule whenever I come back to visit you- I know life is hard and hectic , but it means the world that you ’ ve carved out space for me .
Thank you for understanding when we are unable to talk every day , or even @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when we were in the same city , our lives were always busy , but the distance can make things feel worse .
It can be easy to feel like we aren ’ t important to each other if we are out of easy driving distance- but your love and patience are a constant reminder that this isn ’ t true .
We know that our connection is stronger than distance .
Thank you for supporting and believing in me , even when it took me far from you .
I know how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I know having my back has never been hard for you to do- you ’ re filled with adoration and reliability I ’ ve never known in a person .
Yet I know part of you would ’ ve loved to just grab me in a hug and keep me right by your side .
It ’ s the same part of me that wishes I could ’ ve dragged you with me to my new place .
Yet we ’ ve always known that sometimes you have to step aside for someone @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , and I can ’ t thank you enough for showing me that time and time again .
Thank you for reminding me that friendship isn ’ t an “ out of sight , out of mind ” kind of relationship .
True friendship means doing whatever you can to make things work , even when it won ’ t always feel the same .
Weekend coffee runs may turn into paragraph text messages relaying every detail .
Hanging out at each other ’ s homes turn into Facetime chats .
Social media @ @ @ @ @ @ @ information that keeps us in the loop , knowing we ’ ll give each other the non-post worthy moments later on .
It ’ s knowing that regardless of how far apart we are , our hearts are still as close as they were before .
Thank you for simply existing in my life .
I truly can ’ t imagine what my world would be like without you in it .
I know that regardless of how far away we might be , I won ’ t ever have to

I hate that we are so far apart from each other. I need you to know that, even if I don’t say it every time we talk.
I know the distance takes a toll on you because it takes a toll on me, too. There was a point in our lives where we really didn’t think too hard about being so far apart. We didn’t prepare because it seemed we had all the time in the world to adjust- or that life simply wouldn’t dare create distance between two people who are as close as we’ve always been.
Thank you for still loving me despite all the space between us. For taking the love, you’ve always shown me and stretching it across hundreds of miles, ensuring I still know it exists. I know it isn’t always simple or easy, but your willingness to even put in the effort speaks volumes in ways I could never forget.
Thank you for knowing that my decision to live far away has nothing to do with not wanting to be close to you and everything to do with becoming the person you’ve always known I could be. During my most stressful moments, you’ve sat with me, where I honestly thought I would fail at what I hoped to achieve. You were always right next to me, saying that the only way I definitely failed is if I didn’t try. You know me better than anyone else.
Thank you for making the efforts to come to see me, even though it means going out of your way to do so. I love the ability to show you the new things happening in my life, and having you there (even for just a day or two) to make memories with makes you feel not so far away. Thank you for making room in your schedule whenever I come back to visit you- I know life is hard and hectic, but it means the world that you’ve carved out space for me.
Thank you for understanding when we are unable to talk every day, or even every week for that matter. Even when we were in the same city, our lives were always busy, but the distance can make things feel worse. It can be easy to feel like we aren’t important to each other if we are out of easy driving distance- but your love and patience are a constant reminder that this isn’t true. We know that our connection is stronger than distance.
Thank you for supporting and believing in me, even when it took me far from you. I know how bittersweet of a decision that was. I know having my back has never been hard for you to do- you’re filled with adoration and reliability I’ve never known in a person. Yet I know part of you would’ve loved to just grab me in a hug and keep me right by your side. It’s the same part of me that wishes I could’ve dragged you with me to my new place. Yet we’ve always known that sometimes you have to step aside for someone else to do what they need to, and I can’t thank you enough for showing me that time and time again.
Thank you for reminding me that friendship isn’t an “out of sight, out of mind” kind of relationship. True friendship means doing whatever you can to make things work, even when it won’t always feel the same. Weekend coffee runs may turn into paragraph text messages relaying every detail. Hanging out at each other’s homes turn into Facetime chats. Social media becomes the daily news update for any information that keeps us in the loop, knowing we’ll give each other the non-post worthy moments later on. It’s knowing that regardless of how far apart we are, our hearts are still as close as they were before.
Thank you for simply existing in my life. I truly can’t imagine what my world would be like without you in it.
I know that regardless of how far away we might be, I won’t ever have to.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--When You’re Upset, Try Cheering Yourself Up With These 30 Simple Techniques

1 .
I treat myself to a bath with my favorite smells and my favorite music .
2 .
I will watch a movie that requires me to pay attention and put down my phone so I have to focus on the movie .
A thriller or a drama usually .
I then get involved in that world and leave mine for a bit .
I typically come out in a better mood as I was able to escape my reality for a few hours .
3 .
Read a book , that always takes my mind off things : @ @ @ @ @ @ @ social media .
4 .
Put Great British Bake Off on in the background .
5 .
I wrote a letter to my future self when I was at a happy point in my life to read when I ’ m sad .
You ’ re obviously the only one who knows what you ’ re going through , so it ’ s nice to get advice from the happy version of yourself .
6 .
Being outside .
Doesn ’ t matter why , or how long .
A few minutes outside @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Enjoying the nice weather , the view , how busy or quiet the area is .
It ’ s the little things .
7 .
I like to just find a puzzle of some kind and try to solve it .
I guess this means doing something low stakes without lots of time or effort required that genuinely gives you a little momentary sense of shit I ’ m an actually half intelligent human who can actually accomplish something .
9 .
Listen to good music and dance to it like no @ @ @ @ @ @ @ one is .
10 .
I listen to podcasts or watch videos of Karl Pilkington .
The old Ricky Gervais , Stephen Merchant , and Karl Pilkington XFM radio shows are on Spotify and it ’ s some of the funniest stuff I ’ ve ever heard .
Never fails to cheer me up .
11 .
Some motherfucker said you can literally smile and trick your brain into being happier .
I hate how it actually works sometimes .
12 .
I call my long-distance boyfriend to watch something together if we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
13 .
I listen to Ninja Sex Party/Dan Avidan in general .
He ’ s such a lovely dude , his voice is soothing as all shit , and his music is either super hilarious or soul-wrenchingly beautiful .
14 .
I listen to soft and soulful music .
Calms your mind .
You will be surprised to see how many problems disappear or seem diminutive once you are calm and start thinking clearly .
15 .
I like to paint , so I just take my brushes and paint .
It @ @ @ @ @ @ @ strokes of the brush on canvas .
I just love to make a beautiful , colorful mess .
It is analogous to breaking things and shouting for me .
16 .
Swim .
Makes me feel better to think that at least I ’ m productive today .
17 .
I play video games to distract me from the harsh realities of life .
18 .
Look at old photographs and try and remember the good old memories .
20 .
Drive around and blast my favorite music with the windows rolled down @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Serves as great thinking time and you always feel good afterwards ( if not during ) for putting in work .
22 .
Gratitude list .
Cant be sad or upset when you ’ re grateful .
23 .
If I can , I take a nap or just go to sleep for the night .
My doctor told me an analogy for mental health that I always find helpful .
Mental health is like a table .
The more legs you have under the table ( good sleep hygiene , nutritious diet @ @ @ @ @ @ @ etc… ) the more stable the table is .
It ’ s rarely one thing but we can do a lot of little things throughout the day that can culminatively make a difference .
I ’ m always exhausted and sleep-deprived so that ’ s usually the table leg I ’ m missing , so any rest helps .
25 .
Helping out a stranger is always a nice pick me up .
27 .
Yelling sounds .
You got ta try it .
It really helps .
28 .
I go for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my mind and brighten my mood .
29 .
Listen to music , it ’ s not a lot but it makes me so much better .
30 .
I allow myself to be sad , understand why I am sad , and just continue to do whatever I have planned to do .
Eventually it goes away and I don ’ t even notice the sadness .

If you’re feeling down, try one or two of these techniques to cheer up from Ask Reddit.
1. I treat myself to a bath with my favorite smells and my favorite music.
2. I will watch a movie that requires me to pay attention and put down my phone so I have to focus on the movie. A thriller or a drama usually. I then get involved in that world and leave mine for a bit. I typically come out in a better mood as I was able to escape my reality for a few hours.
3. Read a book, that always takes my mind off things: way better for your mental health than social media.
4. Put Great British Bake Off on in the background.
5. I wrote a letter to my future self when I was at a happy point in my life to read when I’m sad. You’re obviously the only one who knows what you’re going through, so it’s nice to get advice from the happy version of yourself.
6. Being outside. Doesn’t matter why, or how long. A few minutes outside is usually a good thing for me. Enjoying the nice weather, the view, how busy or quiet the area is. It’s the little things.
7. I like to just find a puzzle of some kind and try to solve it. I guess this means doing something low stakes without lots of time or effort required that genuinely gives you a little momentary sense of shit I’m an actually half intelligent human who can actually accomplish something.
8. Puppy and Kitten compilations on YouTube.
9. Listen to good music and dance to it like no one’s watching. Because no one is.
10. I listen to podcasts or watch videos of Karl Pilkington. The old Ricky Gervais, Stephen Merchant, and Karl Pilkington XFM radio shows are on Spotify and it’s some of the funniest stuff I’ve ever heard. Never fails to cheer me up.
11. Some motherfucker said you can literally smile and trick your brain into being happier. I hate how it actually works sometimes.
12. I call my long-distance boyfriend to watch something together if we’re available at the same time.
13. I listen to Ninja Sex Party/Dan Avidan in general. He’s such a lovely dude, his voice is soothing as all shit, and his music is either super hilarious or soul-wrenchingly beautiful.
14. I listen to soft and soulful music. Calms your mind. You will be surprised to see how many problems disappear or seem diminutive once you are calm and start thinking clearly.
15. I like to paint, so I just take my brushes and paint. It is so soothing to feel the soft strokes of the brush on canvas. I just love to make a beautiful, colorful mess. It is analogous to breaking things and shouting for me.
16. Swim. Makes me feel better to think that at least I’m productive today.
17. I play video games to distract me from the harsh realities of life.
18. Look at old photographs and try and remember the good old memories.
19. Adult coloring books.
20. Drive around and blast my favorite music with the windows rolled down at night.
21. Exercise. Serves as great thinking time and you always feel good afterwards (if not during) for putting in work.
22. Gratitude list. Cant be sad or upset when you’re grateful.
23. If I can, I take a nap or just go to sleep for the night. My doctor told me an analogy for mental health that I always find helpful.
Mental health is like a table. The more legs you have under the table (good sleep hygiene, nutritious diet, exercise, social contact, therapy etc…) the more stable the table is. It’s rarely one thing but we can do a lot of little things throughout the day that can culminatively make a difference.
I’m always exhausted and sleep-deprived so that’s usually the table leg I’m missing, so any rest helps.
24. Crying somehow helps.
25. Helping out a stranger is always a nice pick me up.
26. Chocolate. It’s good shit.
27. Yelling sounds. You gotta try it. It really helps.
28. I go for a walk. Never fails to clear my mind and brighten my mood.
29. Listen to music, it’s not a lot but it makes me so much better.
30. I allow myself to be sad, understand why I am sad, and just continue to do whatever I have planned to do. Eventually it goes away and I don’t even notice the sadness.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--7 Things Girls Expect Over Text

7 Things Girls Expect Over Text

1 .
Girls want good morning messages .
Girls want to know that they ’ re on your mind all the time .
They want to feel spoiled from the first second they wake up in the morning until their head hits the pillow at night .
Sending them good morning messages ( and good night messages ) is the best way to show you care from afar .
Your text doesn ’ t have to say anything special .
Something short and sweet works perfectly fine because it ’ s the thought that counts .
2 .
Girls want @ @ @ @ @ @ @ only reasons you ’ re texting her are to sext , trade photos , and ask her whether she ’ s busy later that night , then she ’ s going to get annoyed with you .
She wants to know how you ’ re doing .
She wants to have an actual conversation .
She wants you to talk to her the same way you would talk if you were sitting face-to-face .
She doesn ’ t want days to go by without hearing from you — until you need her for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ like she ’ s being used , like you only want her around for sex .
3 .
Girls want proof you ’ re paying attention .
They want you to put an equal amount of effort into texting .
If she ’ s sending three paragraphs about her day and you reply with a one-word answer , then she ’ s not going to be pleased .
She wants you to comment on what she ’ s saying , ask her questions , and bring up what happened during your day .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ carrying the entire conversation , she is going to stop texting .
She ’ s going to wonder why you ’ re bothering to text her at all .
4 .
Girls want you to send cute pictures .
She doesn ’ t want to be the only one sending cute selfies throughout the day .
She wants pictures of you to save , too .
Or pictures of your dog .
Or your apartment .
Or what you ’ re eating .
Anything .
It ’ ll make her feel like you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ life .
5 .
Girls want you to talk about how much you miss them .
Talking to them over text shouldn ’ t be enough for you .
She wants you to set up plans to see her in person .
She wants to know that you miss her .
She wants to know that you ’ re interested in something more than flirting over text .
She doesn ’ t want to text back and forth for months without the relationship going anywhere — and she hopes you feel the same @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
6 .
Girls want you to put effort into your texts .
You don ’ t have to spend an hour trying to figure out what you want to say — but you shouldn ’ t send texts littered with typos either .
She shouldn ’ t have to wonder what you were trying to say because it ’ s impossible to make sense of your words .
You should care enough to pay attention to what you ’ re doing .
Otherwise , she ’ s going to feel like an @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to call , too .
Texting is great , but she wants to listen to your voice .
She wants to hear your laugh .
She wants to feel like you ’ re right there with her .

1. Girls want good morning messages. Girls want to know that they’re on your mind all the time. They want to feel spoiled from the first second they wake up in the morning until their head hits the pillow at night. Sending them good morning messages (and good night messages) is the best way to show you care from afar. Your text doesn’t have to say anything special. Something short and sweet works perfectly fine because it’s the thought that counts.
2. Girls want to have actual conversations. If the only reasons you’re texting her are to sext, trade photos, and ask her whether she’s busy later that night, then she’s going to get annoyed with you. She wants to know how you’re doing. She wants to have an actual conversation. She wants you to talk to her the same way you would talk if you were sitting face-to-face. She doesn’t want days to go by without hearing from you — until you need her for something. That will make her feel like she’s being used, like you only want her around for sex.
3. Girls want proof you’re paying attention. They want you to put an equal amount of effort into texting. If she’s sending three paragraphs about her day and you reply with a one-word answer, then she’s not going to be pleased. She wants you to comment on what she’s saying, ask her questions, and bring up what happened during your day. If it feels like she’s carrying the entire conversation, she is going to stop texting. She’s going to wonder why you’re bothering to text her at all.
4. Girls want you to send cute pictures. She doesn’t want to be the only one sending cute selfies throughout the day. She wants pictures of you to save, too. Or pictures of your dog. Or your apartment. Or what you’re eating. Anything. It’ll make her feel like you’re really letting her into your life.
5. Girls want you to talk about how much you miss them. Talking to them over text shouldn’t be enough for you. She wants you to set up plans to see her in person. She wants to know that you miss her. She wants to know that you’re interested in something more than flirting over text. She doesn’t want to text back and forth for months without the relationship going anywhere — and she hopes you feel the same. She hopes you want something real.
6. Girls want you to put effort into your texts. You don’t have to spend an hour trying to figure out what you want to say — but you shouldn’t send texts littered with typos either. She shouldn’t have to wonder what you were trying to say because it’s impossible to make sense of your words. You should care enough to pay attention to what you’re doing. Otherwise, she’s going to feel like an afterthought.
7. Girls want you to call, too. Texting is great, but she wants to listen to your voice. She wants to hear your laugh. She wants to feel like you’re right there with her.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--You Deserve Someone Who Makes You Feel Safe

You deserve someone who makes you feel safe .
Someone who makes you feel comfortable .
Someone who brings you peace and relaxation instead of stress and tension .
Even though relationships where you ’ re always fighting might feel exciting , they aren ’ t good for you .
You don ’ t want to be with someone who gets into a screaming match with you every time you make the tiniest mistake .
You want to be with someone who is understanding , who will talk through problems with you in a mature , respectful way .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to hold your mistakes against you because they aren ’ t perfect , either , and they wouldn ’ t want you to feel worse than you already do .
You deserve someone who gives you the freedom to be yourself .
Someone who encourages you to pursue your passions and follow your dreams , even if it means they might have to spend a little less time with you than usual while you ’ re working .
You don ’ t want to be with someone who demands every second of your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ attention to them and only them without leaving room for anything else that makes you feel fulfilled .
You want someone who gives you space to explore , space to dream .
You deserve someone who loves you exactly as you are .
You shouldn ’ t be with someone who consistently points out the areas where you need improvements , who pushes you to change even when you ’ re happy with your current self .
You should be with someone who accepts you , who loves the real you , but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you try to become the best version of yourself .
But only if that ’ s what you want .
They won ’ t push you to change , but they will support you in whatever ways you want to change .
You deserve someone who makes you feel safe .
Someone who can calm you down when you ’ re spiraling .
Someone who can successfully convince you everything is going to be okay , even when it feels like your world is falling apart .
You don ’ t want to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ days worse .
You want someone who takes some of the weight off your shoulders , someone who acts as your teammate and stands beside you so you can face your problems together .
You deserve someone who brings a sense of stability to your world , someone who makes you feel grounded and loved .
You shouldn ’ t be with someone who you ’ re worried will leave out of the blue , someone who brings out your worst abandonment issues .
You shouldn ’ t be questioning whether your partner @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t be wishing they would treat you like more of a priority .
You should be with someone who puts you first , who reassures you they aren ’ t going anywhere , who makes you believe this love is actually going to last .
You deserve someone who makes your heart feel full .
Someone who makes you excited about what the future has in store .
Someone who gives you as much as you give them without needing to be asked .

You deserve someone who makes you feel safe. Someone who makes you feel comfortable. Someone who brings you peace and relaxation instead of stress and tension.
Even though relationships where you’re always fighting might feel exciting, they aren’t good for you. You don’t want to be with someone who gets into a screaming match with you every time you make the tiniest mistake. You want to be with someone who is understanding, who will talk through problems with you in a mature, respectful way. You want someone who isn’t going to hold your mistakes against you because they aren’t perfect, either, and they wouldn’t want you to feel worse than you already do.
You deserve someone who gives you the freedom to be yourself. Someone who encourages you to pursue your passions and follow your dreams, even if it means they might have to spend a little less time with you than usual while you’re working. You don’t want to be with someone who demands every second of your time, who expects you to pay attention to them and only them without leaving room for anything else that makes you feel fulfilled. You want someone who gives you space to explore, space to dream.
You deserve someone who loves you exactly as you are. You shouldn’t be with someone who consistently points out the areas where you need improvements, who pushes you to change even when you’re happy with your current self. You should be with someone who accepts you, who loves the real you, but who will be there for you while you try to become the best version of yourself. But only if that’s what you want. They won’t push you to change, but they will support you in whatever ways you want to change.
You deserve someone who makes you feel safe. Someone who can calm you down when you’re spiraling. Someone who can successfully convince you everything is going to be okay, even when it feels like your world is falling apart. You don’t want to be with someone who makes your hard days worse. You want someone who takes some of the weight off your shoulders, someone who acts as your teammate and stands beside you so you can face your problems together.
You deserve someone who brings a sense of stability to your world, someone who makes you feel grounded and loved. You shouldn’t be with someone who you’re worried will leave out of the blue, someone who brings out your worst abandonment issues. You shouldn’t be questioning whether your partner has bad intentions and you shouldn’t be wishing they would treat you like more of a priority. You should be with someone who puts you first, who reassures you they aren’t going anywhere, who makes you believe this love is actually going to last.
You deserve someone who makes your heart feel full. Someone who makes you excited about what the future has in store. Someone who gives you as much as you give them without needing to be asked.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--30 Single People Reveal How A Friend Accidentally Turned Them On

1 .
Ruffled my hair .
It wasn ’ t that big a deal , but she was one of my close friends and that just… Wow .
2 .
At the school dance a friend who I had a crush on came over and sat on my lap , despite there being plenty of free chairs next to me , and just casually had a conversation .
4 .
I slept over my friend ’ s house because it was late and I didn ’ t feel like driving home .
She walks out of the room to change @ @ @ @ @ @ @ was a sleeveless band shirt with holes in it .
The armholes were stretched and showed side boob , no bra , and just underwear bottoms .
She insists to this day that she had no intention of seducing me .
Its just what she ’ s comfortable sleeping in .
5 .
Have had several female friends bite me in a playful manner .
Turned me on every single time .
6 .
I was once speaking to this customer and I couldn ’ t understand her because of her thick Russian @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and started speaking fluent Russian and I swear it was the hottest thing ever .
I definitely have a thing for accents because that shit was Putin ’ me in some type of mood .
Fuck .
7 .
A colleague ’ s friend took care of my wounded knee during work .
We were alone in the canteen and he was very sweet and caring .
Guess I ’ m not used to that .
8 .
We were sleeping in the same bed after a night out at our friend ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ spoon with her because she was cold .
9 .
I remember a girl classmate friend liking the smell of my deodorant and just grabbing onto my arm and then proceeding to walk beside me .
10 .
Was colder out than I expected and I didn ’ t have a jacket .
Wrapped his arms around me from behind .
11 .
She asked me to touch her thigh .
She was very proud of them after working out .
Little did she know I really like thighs .
We ’ re @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ” me playfully .
Shocked the hell out of me .
13 .
In high school a girl I hung out with changed clothes in front of me on the basis that “ well you ’ ve seen me in a bikini so whatever ” and I was like YUPP .
14 .
A girl I became friends with on a school trip in high school fell asleep on my shoulders on the ride back .
I ’ m 28 and I ’ m still coasting on that memory .
15 .
I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ name , he was the only person to always use my full name .
Dunno why , but always made me weak .
16 .
She was pulling me like aggressively but playfully .
There came this weird comfort I had never felt even from my parents .
17 .
Sat beside each other .
She lied her head down on my lap .
18 .
I was making coffee in my Aeropress for us and pressing slowly on the top of it like you ’ re supposed to , when she shouldered @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my hand to push it down faster .
It was cute as fuck and I ’ ll never forget it .
19 .
A group of us went to a firework display and during the louder and bigger finale fireworks she jumped , grabbed my arm tight , and didn ’ t let go .
Not sure what happened inside me but yeah , that did it .
20 .
Have this friend of mine , one day at home while we were drinking with some other friends she started singing… at that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t just see my friend , I saw a very attractive young woman .
I sometimes still see that moment when I look at her and shake the thought away .
21 .
A friend of mine I had a crush on sucked on my fingers , as a joke kinda .
Then someone told her they do it in porn all the time and she never did it again .
22 .
My back is an erogenous zone for me !
Whenever a friend of mine gets too huggy I need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 23 .
I was sitting shotgun , and he was messing with me in the chair behind me .
Stuff like grabbing my shoulders , pinning me to the seat by shortening the seatbelt , stroking my hair .
I was red but I didn ’ t tell him to stop .
24 .
Male friend of mine was responding to a question another friend asked and my eyes met with his .
He gave me a quick wink which was never a thing he did and it caught me so off guard @ @ @ @ @ @ @ swooning at the move .
25 .
Had a friend who got a tattoo on the back of her neck .
Decided to kneel down in front of me so I could see it .
Never been so happy for willpower in my life .
Last thing I needed was her turning around to find a tent .
26 .
Writing their name on my hand/arm… .
Extra points if they add a little heart .
27 .
Not very subtle but she spontaneously pulled her pants down to tan her legs while @ @ @ @ @ @ @ suggested doing it I was like , “ Oh sure ” assuming she had shorts on underneath – ha nope , Victoria ’ s Secret panties , I laughed and said , “ DUDE WE ’ RE OUTSIDE , ” but in truth god I was turned the hell on .
She wasn ’ t the brightest friend but that ’ s what made hanging out with her so fun .
28 .
Pulled the collar of his shirt down and leaned his head to the other side because he wanted me to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t know , I probably have some fetish for collar bones and necks .
29 .
Pet my head .
I ’ m sensitive up there .
30 .
My crush felt my hoodie because it was soft .
I don ’ t know .
It felt weird and turned me on .
God , I ’ m so lonely .

These people from Ask Reddit know the simplest things can be the hottest.
1. Ruffled my hair. It wasn’t that big a deal, but she was one of my close friends and that just… Wow.
2. At the school dance a friend who I had a crush on came over and sat on my lap, despite there being plenty of free chairs next to me, and just casually had a conversation.
3. Whisper in my ear! Instant boner.
4. I slept over my friend’s house because it was late and I didn’t feel like driving home. She walks out of the room to change into what she sleeps in, which was a sleeveless band shirt with holes in it. The armholes were stretched and showed side boob, no bra, and just underwear bottoms.
I made a move and we’re married now.
She insists to this day that she had no intention of seducing me. Its just what she’s comfortable sleeping in.
5. Have had several female friends bite me in a playful manner. Turned me on every single time.
6. I was once speaking to this customer and I couldn’t understand her because of her thick Russian accent, so my coworker stepped in and started speaking fluent Russian and I swear it was the hottest thing ever. I definitely have a thing for accents because that shit was Putin’ me in some type of mood. Fuck.
7. A colleague’s friend took care of my wounded knee during work. We were alone in the canteen and he was very sweet and caring. Guess I’m not used to that.
8. We were sleeping in the same bed after a night out at our friend’s flat and she told me to spoon with her because she was cold.
9. I remember a girl classmate friend liking the smell of my deodorant and just grabbing onto my arm and then proceeding to walk beside me.
10. Was colder out than I expected and I didn’t have a jacket. Wrapped his arms around me from behind.
11. She asked me to touch her thigh. She was very proud of them after working out. Little did she know I really like thighs. We’re engaged now.
12. “Choked” me playfully. Shocked the hell out of me.
13. In high school a girl I hung out with changed clothes in front of me on the basis that “well you’ve seen me in a bikini so whatever” and I was like YUPP.
14. A girl I became friends with on a school trip in high school fell asleep on my shoulders on the ride back. I’m 28 and I’m still coasting on that memory.
15. I always went by an abbreviation of my name, he was the only person to always use my full name. Dunno why, but always made me weak.
16. She was pulling me like aggressively but playfully. There came this weird comfort I had never felt even from my parents.
17. Sat beside each other. She lied her head down on my lap.
18. I was making coffee in my Aeropress for us and pressing slowly on the top of it like you’re supposed to, when she shouldered me over a little and leaned on my hand to push it down faster. It was cute as fuck and I’ll never forget it.
19. A group of us went to a firework display and during the louder and bigger finale fireworks she jumped, grabbed my arm tight, and didn’t let go. Not sure what happened inside me but yeah, that did it.
20. Have this friend of mine, one day at home while we were drinking with some other friends she started singing… at that moment I looked at her and didn’t just see my friend, I saw a very attractive young woman. I sometimes still see that moment when I look at her and shake the thought away.
21. A friend of mine I had a crush on sucked on my fingers, as a joke kinda. Then someone told her they do it in porn all the time and she never did it again.
22. My back is an erogenous zone for me! Whenever a friend of mine gets too huggy I need to quietly extract myself from them.
23. I was sitting shotgun, and he was messing with me in the chair behind me. Stuff like grabbing my shoulders, pinning me to the seat by shortening the seatbelt, stroking my hair. I was red but I didn’t tell him to stop.
24. Male friend of mine was responding to a question another friend asked and my eyes met with his. He gave me a quick wink which was never a thing he did and it caught me so off guard. I later caught myself giggling and swooning at the move.
25. Had a friend who got a tattoo on the back of her neck. Decided to kneel down in front of me so I could see it. Never been so happy for willpower in my life. Last thing I needed was her turning around to find a tent.
26. Writing their name on my hand/arm…. Extra points if they add a little heart.
27. Not very subtle but she spontaneously pulled her pants down to tan her legs while we were chilling outside. When she suggested doing it I was like, “Oh sure” assuming she had shorts on underneath – ha nope, Victoria’s Secret panties, I laughed and said, “DUDE WE’RE OUTSIDE,” but in truth god I was turned the hell on. She wasn’t the brightest friend but that’s what made hanging out with her so fun.
28. Pulled the collar of his shirt down and leaned his head to the other side because he wanted me to scratch his neck. I don’t know, I probably have some fetish for collar bones and necks.
29. Pet my head. I’m sensitive up there.
30. My crush felt my hoodie because it was soft. I don’t know. It felt weird and turned me on. God, I’m so lonely.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--7 Ways You’re Accidentally Signaling That You Don’t Want To Date (When You Actually Do)

1 .
You ’ re treating your crushes like best friends .
You want to be friends with the people you date — but early on , you don ’ t want to confuse them about their role in your life .
You don ’ t want to call them buddy or pal or make them feel like they ’ re a brother/sister to you .
You need to make it clear that you see them as more than a friend , that there ’ s a romantic and sexual interest as well .
Otherwise , they might not make @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re happy staying friends .
2 .
You talk to them about your other crushes .
Maybe you ’ re trying to make them jealous by bringing up other people — or maybe you ’ re trying to make it seem like you ’ re desirable and have plenty of other options .
Either way , this could easily backfire on you .
If your crush thinks you ’ re interested in someone else , they aren ’ t going to ask you out because they ’ ll assume they ’ ll @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they aren ’ t your type .
3 .
You complain to them about how much you hate dating .
Maybe you ’ re ranting about dating in order to get romance on their mind .
But if you ’ re always whining about how much you hate first dates and awkward kisses and finding people who are worth your energy , they might assume you aren ’ t interested in dating right now .
Or they might think you ’ re a little too dramatic for them .
They want to be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not someone who stresses them out .
4 .
You only flirt with them when you ’ re wasted .
You might think you ’ re getting your point across by flirting with them half the time and acting normal half the time , but you might actually be sending mixed signals .
You might be confusing them .
Even worse , they might assume you aren ’ t all that serious about them since you only flirt when you ’ re drunk .
They might assume it doesn ’ t mean anything @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the same way you treat them .
If they realize you ’ re giving cute little compliments to all your friends , then they aren ’ t going to think anything of it when you compliment them .
They ’ re going to assume you ’ re just being nice .
You need to make it clear that you think of them differently .
Make it obvious you have strong , romantic feelings for them .
6 .
You only hang out with them in groups .
Maybe you ’ re nervous about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ like them so much , but you ’ re never going to date if you can ’ t be alone together .
If you only hang out in groups , they won ’ t know whether you ’ re showing up to see them or to see someone else .
They won ’ t have any idea who you ’ re interested in dating .
7 .
You never send the first message .
Maybe you ’ re bad at coming up with conversation starters or get nervous about sending the first text @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your nerves stop you from flirting .
If you never initiate conversations or hangout sessions , they ’ re going to assume you aren ’ t interested .
They ’ re going to assume you can easily go days without talking to them .
They ’ re going to assume you aren ’ t looking for a relationship .

1. You’re treating your crushes like best friends. You want to be friends with the people you date — but early on, you don’t want to confuse them about their role in your life. You don’t want to call them buddy or pal or make them feel like they’re a brother/sister to you. You need to make it clear that you see them as more than a friend, that there’s a romantic and sexual interest as well. Otherwise, they might not make a move. They might assume you’re happy staying friends.
2. You talk to them about your other crushes. Maybe you’re trying to make them jealous by bringing up other people — or maybe you’re trying to make it seem like you’re desirable and have plenty of other options. Either way, this could easily backfire on you. If your crush thinks you’re interested in someone else, they aren’t going to ask you out because they’ll assume they’ll get rejected. They’ll assume they aren’t your type.
3. You complain to them about how much you hate dating. Maybe you’re ranting about dating in order to get romance on their mind. But if you’re always whining about how much you hate first dates and awkward kisses and finding people who are worth your energy, they might assume you aren’t interested in dating right now. Or they might think you’re a little too dramatic for them. They want to be around someone who makes them happy, not someone who stresses them out.
4. You only flirt with them when you’re wasted. You might think you’re getting your point across by flirting with them half the time and acting normal half the time, but you might actually be sending mixed signals. You might be confusing them. Even worse, they might assume you aren’t all that serious about them since you only flirt when you’re drunk. They might assume it doesn’t mean anything.
5. You treat everyone else the same way you treat them. If they realize you’re giving cute little compliments to all your friends, then they aren’t going to think anything of it when you compliment them. They’re going to assume you’re just being nice. You need to make it clear that you think of them differently. Make it obvious you have strong, romantic feelings for them.
6. You only hang out with them in groups. Maybe you’re nervous about hanging out with them one-on-one because you like them so much, but you’re never going to date if you can’t be alone together. If you only hang out in groups, they won’t know whether you’re showing up to see them or to see someone else. They won’t have any idea who you’re interested in dating.
7. You never send the first message. Maybe you’re bad at coming up with conversation starters or get nervous about sending the first text, but you can’t let your nerves stop you from flirting. If you never initiate conversations or hangout sessions, they’re going to assume you aren’t interested. They’re going to assume you can easily go days without talking to them. They’re going to assume you aren’t looking for a relationship.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-19--Why Each Zodiac Sign Should Be More Selfish

You should be more selfish because no one else is going to save you .
You need to take your happiness into your own hands .
You should be more selfish because you aren ’ t going to get anywhere in life if you keep letting others walk all over you .
There ’ s a difference between being nice and being a doormat .
You should be more selfish because you deserve to treat yourself , to pamper yourself , to spoil yourself .
You deserve a little self-love .
You should be more selfish because you are always @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to give yourself at least some of the kindness you ’ ve been giving to others .
You should be more selfish because your opinion is the only one that matters .
You need to stop caring what other people think and start listening to what your own heart wants .
You should be more selfish because there ’ s nothing wrong with doing what ’ s best for yourself .
There ’ s nothing wrong with making your own decisions .
You should be more selfish because you can ’ t please @ @ @ @ @ @ @ be upset with you , so instead of doing what you think others expect of you , do what you really want to do .
You should be more selfish because you ’ ve been giving away too much of yourself .
You ’ ve been stressing yourself out trying to be there for everyone else — and you haven ’ t been there for yourself .
You should be more selfish because it ’ s possible to be too nice , too generous , too giving .
Sometimes , you need to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you .
You should be more selfish because you only get one life .
You might as well live it the way you want .
You should be more selfish because you can ’ t take care of others until you take care of yourself .
You can ’ t let yourself burn out .
You can ’ t let yourself suffer .
You should be more selfish because you always put others before yourself .
You never treat yourself like a priority .

Aries
You should be more selfish because no one else is going to save you. You need to take your happiness into your own hands.
Taurus
You should be more selfish because you aren’t going to get anywhere in life if you keep letting others walk all over you. There’s a difference between being nice and being a doormat.
Gemini
You should be more selfish because you deserve to treat yourself, to pamper yourself, to spoil yourself. You deserve a little self-love.
Cancer
You should be more selfish because you are always giving, always offering. You deserve to give yourself at least some of the kindness you’ve been giving to others.
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Leo
You should be more selfish because your opinion is the only one that matters. You need to stop caring what other people think and start listening to what your own heart wants.
Virgo
You should be more selfish because there’s nothing wrong with doing what’s best for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with making your own decisions.
Libra
You should be more selfish because you can’t please everyone. Someone is always going to be upset with you, so instead of doing what you think others expect of you, do what you really want to do.
Scorpio
You should be more selfish because you’ve been giving away too much of yourself. You’ve been stressing yourself out trying to be there for everyone else — and you haven’t been there for yourself.
Sagittarius
You should be more selfish because it’s possible to be too nice, too generous, too giving. Sometimes, you need to worry about yourself. Not everyone around you.
Capricorn
You should be more selfish because you only get one life. You might as well live it the way you want.
Aquarius
You should be more selfish because you can’t take care of others until you take care of yourself. You can’t let yourself burn out. You can’t let yourself suffer.
Pisces
You should be more selfish because you always put others before yourself. You never treat yourself like a priority.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--Why Each Zodiac Can Come Across As Antisocial Sometimes

Sometimes , they pull out their phone and spend too much time texting instead of focusing on the conversations around them .
Sometimes , they turn down invitations out because they would rather spend time in their own homes where they can really relax .
Sometimes , they get distracted and don ’ t answer texts messages , then leave them unanswered for weeks .
Sometimes , they retreat into the kitchen at parties to help with the food and the cleaning , and don ’ t get a chance to socialize .
Sometimes , they put in their headphones @ @ @ @ @ @ @ don ’ t want to be bothered .
Sometimes , they give one-word , sarcastic answers that make it seem like they aren ’ t interested in a conversation .
Sometimes , they have their head in a book and are oblivious to the world around them .
Sometimes , they are exhausted from all the running around they ’ ve been doing and prefer to be alone .
Sometimes , they get self-conscious and hide themselves away in a bathroom or bedroom to avoid talking .
Sometimes , they clam up and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ conversation because they ’ re focused on listening instead .
Sometimes , they get lost in their own world and don ’ t even remember that there are other people around .
Sometimes , they stick so close to their best friend that no one else gets the chance to have a conversation with them .

Aries
Sometimes, they pull out their phone and spend too much time texting instead of focusing on the conversations around them.
Taurus
Sometimes, they turn down invitations out because they would rather spend time in their own homes where they can really relax.
Gemini
Sometimes, they get distracted and don’t answer texts messages, then leave them unanswered for weeks.
Cancer
Sometimes, they retreat into the kitchen at parties to help with the food and the cleaning, and don’t get a chance to socialize.
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Leo
Sometimes, they put in their headphones and sunglasses, and look like they don’t want to be bothered.
Virgo
Sometimes, they give one-word, sarcastic answers that make it seem like they aren’t interested in a conversation.
Libra
Sometimes, they have their head in a book and are oblivious to the world around them.
Scorpio
Sometimes, they are exhausted from all the running around they’ve been doing and prefer to be alone.
Sagittarius
Sometimes, they get self-conscious and hide themselves away in a bathroom or bedroom to avoid talking.
Capricorn
Sometimes, they clam up and don’t contribute anything to the conversation because they’re focused on listening instead.
Aquarius
Sometimes, they get lost in their own world and don’t even remember that there are other people around.
Pisces
Sometimes, they stick so close to their best friend that no one else gets the chance to have a conversation with them.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--6 Harsh (But Effective) Ways To Get Over Your Ex Faster

Sometimes , it ’ s possible to stay friends with an ex .
Other times , it ’ s best for you to never speak again .
If you fall into the latter category and are having trouble getting over your ex , here are a few ways to stop missing them so much : 1 .
Get rid of their photographs .
Go through your social media feed and delete every single picture of you together .
Go through your phone and do the same .
If you want to hold onto the memories for the future , then @ @ @ @ @ @ @ them away in a folder that you can ’ t access easily .
The point is to get their pictures out of sight .
You don ’ t want their photos to pop up on your social media memories and you don ’ t want to randomly come across them when you ’ re scrolling through your camera feed .
You want their face far , far away .
2 .
Delete them from social media .
Block them .
Mute them .
Delete them .
Whatever works .
Just make sure you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ platform — Instagram , Facebook , Tiktok , Snapchat , Twitter .
Don ’ t leave any tethers to them .
Don ’ t give yourself the chance to snoop on them when you ’ re bored or feeling lonely without them .
While you ’ re at it , you should also delete their number from your phone .
Take away your ability to contact them .
If you keep them out of sight , it will be easier to keep them off your mind .
3 .
Put away ( or @ @ @ @ @ @ @ given you .
Stop wearing the necklace they gave you if you can ’ t look at it without crying .
Stop using the phone case they gave you if it makes you miss them .
And stop wearing any outfits that remind you of the perfect dates you ’ ve had until the clothes are separate from the memory .
You can give these things away , throw them in the trash , or put them in a box so you can look at them in the future when you ’ re @ @ @ @ @ @ @ keep them sitting around your room in plain sight .
Hide them for a while .
4 .
Delete your joint accounts .
You shouldn ’ t be sharing a Netflix or Disney Plus account with an ex you want to stop thinking about .
You should change the password or create your own account .
Separate yourself from them .
Pay the extra few bucks in order to make your own account or share one with your friends .
5 .
Ask your friends not to mention them .
Some friends will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
However , if you ’ re struggling to get over someone , give them a head ’ s up that you aren ’ t really interested in talking about the breakup anymore .
Let them know the conversation is off the table .
That way , your fun nights out won ’ t be ruined when they bring him up out of the blue .
6 .
Flirt with new people .
You don ’ t have to jump into a new relationship right away but start putting yourself out there again @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Show yourself that the person you left behind isn ’ t the only person in the world .
You have other options .
You haven ’ t ruined your one chance at love .

Sometimes, it’s possible to stay friends with an ex. Other times, it’s best for you to never speak again. If you fall into the latter category and are having trouble getting over your ex, here are a few ways to stop missing them so much:
1. Get rid of their photographs. Go through your social media feed and delete every single picture of you together. Go through your phone and do the same. If you want to hold onto the memories for the future, then download them to your computer and hide them away in a folder that you can’t access easily. The point is to get their pictures out of sight. You don’t want their photos to pop up on your social media memories and you don’t want to randomly come across them when you’re scrolling through your camera feed. You want their face far, far away.
2. Delete them from social media. Block them. Mute them. Delete them. Whatever works. Just make sure you do this on every single social media platform — Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok, Snapchat, Twitter. Don’t leave any tethers to them. Don’t give yourself the chance to snoop on them when you’re bored or feeling lonely without them. While you’re at it, you should also delete their number from your phone. Take away your ability to contact them. If you keep them out of sight, it will be easier to keep them off your mind.
3. Put away (or give away) everything they’ve given you. Stop wearing the necklace they gave you if you can’t look at it without crying. Stop using the phone case they gave you if it makes you miss them. And stop wearing any outfits that remind you of the perfect dates you’ve had until the clothes are separate from the memory. You can give these things away, throw them in the trash, or put them in a box so you can look at them in the future when you’re over them. Just don’t keep them sitting around your room in plain sight. Hide them for a while.
4. Delete your joint accounts. You shouldn’t be sharing a Netflix or Disney Plus account with an ex you want to stop thinking about. You should change the password or create your own account. Separate yourself from them. Pay the extra few bucks in order to make your own account or share one with your friends.
5. Ask your friends not to mention them. Some friends will want to gossip whenever they see you. However, if you’re struggling to get over someone, give them a head’s up that you aren’t really interested in talking about the breakup anymore. Let them know the conversation is off the table. That way, your fun nights out won’t be ruined when they bring him up out of the blue.
6. Flirt with new people. You don’t have to jump into a new relationship right away but start putting yourself out there again. Harmlessly flirt. Play around. Show yourself that the person you left behind isn’t the only person in the world. You have other options. You haven’t ruined your one chance at love.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--Here’s A Twitter Thread Of Women Exposing Men Who Asked Them For Money

Historically women have been called gold-diggers any time they require any kind of effort from men , even if he doesn ’ t have any gold to dig .
Now , with more women getting college degrees and young women out-earning men , these same men are starting to change their tune .
Luckily , women of Twitter have started exposing the men who as them for money .
Some of these men just met the women on Tinder !
And another one : She hadn ’ t even known him for a full week : At least he wanted @ @ @ @ @ @ @ gaslighting for me “ I don ’ t know how you could feel comfortable asking ” If you won ’ t give me money you ’ re fake This is how it ’ s done Queens I think in a healthy relationship giving money to someone you love is perfectly fine .
But that ’ s in an established , committed relationship where you are already valued and trust that they are loyal to you .
These texts are just… unhinged on a whole different level and I pray for any woman who @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s a little anthem you can keep in your head until someone demonstrates that they are trustworthy .

Historically women have been called gold-diggers any time they require any kind of effort from men, even if he doesn’t have any gold to dig. Now, with more women getting college degrees and young women out-earning men, these same men are starting to change their tune. Luckily, women of Twitter have started exposing the men who as them for money. Some of these men just met the women on Tinder!
Here’s the original tweet:
y’all …. he finna be 30 🥴😭 pic.twitter.com/OuK8r2Jtxo — exodia . (@rarestofall_) October 18, 2020
And another one:
I had one saying him and his child was starving , which he failed to realized I knew he ain’t have a child. And I was still tryna be nice and DoorDash but guess you can’t help ppl. pic.twitter.com/dLcoZqX8GB — bluntopia ✝ (@RomanTwinSister) October 19, 2020
And another:
i knew this man for a week tops & he wanted me to let him move into my house because his pieces wasn’t hitting…he was 29. pic.twitter.com/HiF1ClkQHO — j. (@thejemerialenae) October 19, 2020
crazy thing is he tried again the next day 🥴 pic.twitter.com/Z6x1YU0ZyE — j. (@thejemerialenae) October 19, 2020
She hadn’t even known him for a full week:
Hadn’t been texting him a week lol the $10 was fine THE FIRST TIME but the second time I had to block him bc sir you need to focus on yourself. 34 with no kids yet struggling to eat every time I talk to you. 🥴 pic.twitter.com/IK3VwzwmJW — Billie Ocean ✨🦋 (@JetBombshell) October 19, 2020
Literally a whole grand
At least y’all get the $10-$30 people. When people ask me for money it’s always $500 or more 🤦🏾♀ pic.twitter.com/VbRgspZixu — 𝔊𝔬𝔡𝔡𝔢𝔰𝔰 ℜ𝔢𝔦𝔤𝔫𝔇𝔯𝔬𝔭 ✨👸🏾💧✨ (@GoddessreignD) October 19, 2020
BTW this is a scam
Like nigga was you waiting for me offer anything. 😂 pic.twitter.com/bpqNd2iYv7 — ithinkitsjasmine (@Ms_Jasmine_T) October 19, 2020
Another scam
I’ll never forget when a man casually asked me for a whole letter of invitation and $300 🤣 pic.twitter.com/BBy3Pg45W5 — nay (@WHATSNAYSAYING) October 19, 2020
Spoons?
The proof. This was last year. 😓 pic.twitter.com/2xVFe7cxkO — Meecreaux Wavé Stan (@SaveTheFvcks) October 19, 2020
NO.
🙃 he wasn’t even a boo or nothing, I’m just a sucker….and the received was just him sending my money back so I could give it to him a different way pic.twitter.com/SlxhvC8UXk — Nena (@yungyenn) October 19, 2020
“This sucks”
LMFAOO another one😭😭 like how is that my problem.. pic.twitter.com/uFaMLIbq2R — cassandra🦋 (@corderocass) October 19, 2020
At least he wanted to work?
Does this count till this day he still got me fucked up pic.twitter.com/E79GzcvSeK — Naj (@Najayy) October 19, 2020
It’s the gaslighting for me
He tried saving his own ass 😭 pic.twitter.com/2ReypIsUid — Julianna 🍇 (@juliannamoreno_) October 19, 2020
“I don’t know how you could feel comfortable asking”
If you won’t give me money you’re fake
Mind you this man was 34. Gave him money a couple times, and once I started saying no…. this narcissistic behavior would continue. Messages back to back about how “terrible” I was for not giving him money. pic.twitter.com/21dUbwmN8o — Jamilah_TooSpicy🌶🥵😈 (@BigJuicyyJ) October 19, 2020
“I don’t even remember your name”
I had met this guy while out with my girlfriends and the very next day this happens 😂 pic.twitter.com/5XII0Rqi8p — Bambina 🍭💖 (@___Bambina___) October 19, 2020
This is how it’s done Queens
Ooooo I wanna play!!! pic.twitter.com/PoGd88aAIS — Baby Girl Krissy🌻 (@KrissyDeClou29) October 19, 2020
I think in a healthy relationship giving money to someone you love is perfectly fine. But that’s in an established, committed relationship where you are already valued and trust that they are loyal to you. These texts are just… unhinged on a whole different level and I pray for any woman who is falling for it. Here’s a little anthem you can keep in your head until someone demonstrates that they are trustworthy.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--6 Signs That You Should Make The Change You’ve Been Thinking About

1 .
You can ’ t stop thinking about it .
If there ’ s something you can ’ t stop thinking about — whether it ’ s asking someone out , dying your hair a new color , switching career paths , or moving to a new town — there ’ s a reason it ’ s been on your mind .
It ’ s probably because that ’ s what you really want to do .
It ’ s probably because that ’ s what your heart truly desires .
However , just make sure it ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ idea that your parent or partner or society put in your head .
Make sure you ’ re not considering the change out of peer pressure .
2 .
You can list out more pros than cons .
Ask yourself whether the potential rewards outweigh the risks .
What are the bad things that could happen if you made this change ?
What would you lose ?
What struggles would you face ?
But more importantly , what would you gain ?
What would you discover about yourself and the world around you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ outweigh the risks , then you should probably go with your gut and make the change .
3 .
You would regret not making a change .
Ask yourself whether you could live with yourself if you let this opportunity pass you by .
If you continue living your life the same exact way for another few months , years , or even decades , would you have regrets ?
Would you wish you had done things differently ?
Would you be disappointed in yourself ?
You have the power to change your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ action , then give yourself permission to do so .
No one is stopping you except for yourself .
4 .
You ’ re only holding yourself back because of silly fears .
Fear of what others will say about you .
Fear of failing .
Fear of the unknown .
If you desperately want to make this change , you shouldn ’ t allow your doubts to hold you back .
You should listen to your heart .
You should push aside your what ifs and make a change .
Of course @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
If you ’ re worried you ’ re going to get physically hurt or won ’ t have enough money to pay the bills after a change , you should make sure you have a solid plan ahead of time .
Make sure you aren ’ t putting yourself in an even worse position .
5 .
You admire others who have done the same .
If you admire people who have done this thing that you ’ ve been thinking about , or are jealous of those people , then you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ people .
They ’ ve proven what you want is possible , so why not try it yourself ?
Why not see what happens if you act out of bravery instead of playing it so safe ?
6 .
You ’ ve thought the change through for a while .
You don ’ t want to make a huge decision on a whim without thinking through the consequences .
However , if you ’ ve been considering making this change for a while and you still have your heart set on it , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Take the risk .
Take a chance on yourself .
You ’ re not going to be happy until you do .

1. You can’t stop thinking about it. If there’s something you can’t stop thinking about — whether it’s asking someone out, dying your hair a new color, switching career paths, or moving to a new town — there’s a reason it’s been on your mind. It’s probably because that’s what you really want to do. It’s probably because that’s what your heart truly desires. However, just make sure it’s something that you want and not an idea that your parent or partner or society put in your head. Make sure you’re not considering the change out of peer pressure.
2. You can list out more pros than cons. Ask yourself whether the potential rewards outweigh the risks. What are the bad things that could happen if you made this change? What would you lose? What struggles would you face? But more importantly, what would you gain? What would you discover about yourself and the world around you? If you feel like the rewards outweigh the risks, then you should probably go with your gut and make the change.
3. You would regret not making a change. Ask yourself whether you could live with yourself if you let this opportunity pass you by. If you continue living your life the same exact way for another few months, years, or even decades, would you have regrets? Would you wish you had done things differently? Would you be disappointed in yourself? You have the power to change your life. If you want to take action, then give yourself permission to do so. No one is stopping you except for yourself.
4. You’re only holding yourself back because of silly fears. Fear of what others will say about you. Fear of failing. Fear of the unknown. If you desperately want to make this change, you shouldn’t allow your doubts to hold you back. You should listen to your heart. You should push aside your what ifs and make a change. Of course, practical fears are a bit different. If you’re worried you’re going to get physically hurt or won’t have enough money to pay the bills after a change, you should make sure you have a solid plan ahead of time. Make sure you aren’t putting yourself in an even worse position.
5. You admire others who have done the same. If you admire people who have done this thing that you’ve been thinking about, or are jealous of those people, then you probably want to be one of those people. They’ve proven what you want is possible, so why not try it yourself? Why not see what happens if you act out of bravery instead of playing it so safe?
6. You’ve thought the change through for a while. You don’t want to make a huge decision on a whim without thinking through the consequences. However, if you’ve been considering making this change for a while and you still have your heart set on it, then you should take the leap. Take the risk. Take a chance on yourself. You’re not going to be happy until you do.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--Raise Your Standards And Never Put Up With These 7 Things Again

1 .
Boys who only want you for your body .
You are worth so much more than your body .
Your person should appreciate what a strong , sweet , independent human you are .
They shouldn ’ t assume your looks are the only thing you have going for you .
They shouldn ’ t want to spend a single night with you before abandoning you .
Unless you ’ re also looking for a one-night stand , don ’ t waste your time with boys who are unable to see your core value .
2 .
Boys @ @ @ @ @ @ @ No one is perfect .
Whoever you end up with is bound to make mistakes .
But are they going to take responsibility for those mistakes ?
Are they going to apologize ?
Or are they going to gaslight you , lie about their actions , and make you feel like you ’ re crazy for getting upset ?
You don ’ t want to settle for someone who is too immature to admit when they are wrong .
3 .
Boys who put in the minimum amount of effort .
You shouldn @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ehh about simply because they answer your texts and take you out on dates and treat you with respect .
Every single boyfriend should be doing those things .
That is the minimum amount to expect , not the maximum .
Instead of settling for someone who meets your simplest standards , you should search for someone who actually understands you , who actually excites you .
4 .
Boys who aren ’ t interested in staying faithful .
You shouldn ’ t waste your time with him if he refuses to put @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to delete dating apps , refuses to walk away from exes who are still interested in him .
You should be the only person he wants .
He should stay loyal to you if he wants to keep you .
If his eyes are always wandering , if he ’ s not satisfied with the woman right in front of him , then you can do better .
5 .
Boys who only come around when it ’ s convenient .
You don ’ t want to settle for someone who turns on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ forgets you exist the other half of the time .
You don ’ t want to settle for someone who only pays attention to you when they ’ re bored or lonely or high or drunk .
You want someone who is there for you whenever you need them , even when it ’ s inconvenient .
6 .
Boys who can ’ t give you a straight answer .
You don ’ t want to waste your time with someone who sends mixed signals , someone who refuses to tell you how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ questions with another question .
If he won ’ t explain where he ’ s been or who he ’ s been hanging around , then that ’ s pretty sketchy .
That ’ s grounds to walk away .
7 .
Boys who treat every other girl like crap .
It doesn ’ t matter if you ’ re the exception .
It doesn ’ t matter if he treats you like a queen .
If he ’ s always saying horrible things about other women , then he probably doesn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t want to settle for someone who is mean to other girls for no reason .
You want someone who has a good heart .

1. Boys who only want you for your body. You are worth so much more than your body. Your person should appreciate what a strong, sweet, independent human you are. They shouldn’t assume your looks are the only thing you have going for you. They shouldn’t want to spend a single night with you before abandoning you. Unless you’re also looking for a one-night stand, don’t waste your time with boys who are unable to see your core value.
2. Boys who make excuses for hurting you. No one is perfect. Whoever you end up with is bound to make mistakes. But are they going to take responsibility for those mistakes? Are they going to apologize? Or are they going to gaslight you, lie about their actions, and make you feel like you’re crazy for getting upset? You don’t want to settle for someone who is too immature to admit when they are wrong.
3. Boys who put in the minimum amount of effort. You shouldn’t settle for someone you feel ehh about simply because they answer your texts and take you out on dates and treat you with respect. Every single boyfriend should be doing those things. That is the minimum amount to expect, not the maximum. Instead of settling for someone who meets your simplest standards, you should search for someone who actually understands you, who actually excites you.
4. Boys who aren’t interested in staying faithful. You shouldn’t waste your time with him if he refuses to put a label on the relationship, refuses to delete dating apps, refuses to walk away from exes who are still interested in him. You should be the only person he wants. He should stay loyal to you if he wants to keep you. If his eyes are always wandering, if he’s not satisfied with the woman right in front of him, then you can do better.
5. Boys who only come around when it’s convenient. You don’t want to settle for someone who turns on the charm half the time and completely forgets you exist the other half of the time. You don’t want to settle for someone who only pays attention to you when they’re bored or lonely or high or drunk. You want someone who is there for you whenever you need them, even when it’s inconvenient.
6. Boys who can’t give you a straight answer. You don’t want to waste your time with someone who sends mixed signals, someone who refuses to tell you how they feel, someone who answers your questions with another question. If he won’t explain where he’s been or who he’s been hanging around, then that’s pretty sketchy. That’s grounds to walk away.
7. Boys who treat every other girl like crap. It doesn’t matter if you’re the exception. It doesn’t matter if he treats you like a queen. If he’s always saying horrible things about other women, then he probably doesn’t respect women. You don’t want to settle for someone who is mean to other girls for no reason. You want someone who has a good heart.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--6 Reminders When It Feels Like You’re The Only One Staying Inside

1 .
You ’ re doing the right thing .
Even though you might be jealous ( or angry or bitter or upset ) about the people who are going out to parties and having fun on weekends like nothing bad is happening in the world , you need to remember you ’ re doing the right thing .
Staying home could save a life .
It could even save your life .
Even though you might be bored out of your mind and wishing you could break the rules like you see everyone else doing , you should be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ appreciate your self-restraint , your compassion , your care for other people .
2 .
You can ’ t control anyone other than yourself .
You can scream at other people to do the right thing until you ’ re blue in the face .
You can spit facts at them .
You can try to talk sense into them .
But that doesn ’ t mean they ’ re going to listen to you .
Even though it ’ s a good thing to spread awareness , don ’ t beat yourself @ @ @ @ @ @ @ listen to you .
You can ’ t force them to make the smart decision .
You can ’ t make them obey orders .
3 .
You ’ re allowed to get emotional .
It ’ s frustrating to know you ’ ve been doing the right thing while other people have been living their lives normally .
It ’ s frustrating to cancel plans you were excited about , plans that might have turned into a reality if people listened earlier , if they helped get the world back under control @ @ @ @ @ @ @ angry .
It ’ s hard not to be angry .
But you should try to channel your anger into something positive — like voting .
4 .
You ’ re strong enough to keep going .
Things haven ’ t gotten any easier .
If anything , they ’ ve gotten more stressful .
More frustrating .
More alarming .
However , you ’ ve gotten this far .
You might be low on energy right now , but you ’ re going to push through this .
You ’ re going @ @ @ @ @ @ @ as you keep doing the right thing , keep following your heart , keep caring about the people around you .
5 .
You ’ re not actually the only one .
Maybe everyone on your social media has been posting partying pictures — but there are a lot of people who are doing the right thing .
There are a lot of people in the same exact situation as you .
You aren ’ t alone in your feelings or in your situation .
It ’ s easier to spot the rule-breakers @ @ @ @ @ @ @ who are trying their hardest , too .
6 .
Everything is going to go back to normal eventually .
You might feel like this is a lie because you ’ ve been telling yourself the same thing since March and almost eight months have passed .
But this isn ’ t going to last forever .
You ’ re not going to feel this trapped forever .
You ’ re not going to be stuck inside forever .
You ’ re eventually going to get the chance to hang out with your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , to hook up with complete strangers at bars .
You ’ re going to need to wait a little longer than you originally thought , but everything will be okay again eventually .

1. You’re doing the right thing. Even though you might be jealous (or angry or bitter or upset) about the people who are going out to parties and having fun on weekends like nothing bad is happening in the world, you need to remember you’re doing the right thing. Staying home could save a life. It could even save your life. Even though you might be bored out of your mind and wishing you could break the rules like you see everyone else doing, you should be proud of yourself. So many people appreciate your self-restraint, your compassion, your care for other people.
2. You can’t control anyone other than yourself. You can scream at other people to do the right thing until you’re blue in the face. You can spit facts at them. You can try to talk sense into them. But that doesn’t mean they’re going to listen to you. Even though it’s a good thing to spread awareness, don’t beat yourself up when someone you love refuses to listen to you. You can’t force them to make the smart decision. You can’t make them obey orders.
3. You’re allowed to get emotional. It’s frustrating to know you’ve been doing the right thing while other people have been living their lives normally. It’s frustrating to cancel plans you were excited about, plans that might have turned into a reality if people listened earlier, if they helped get the world back under control. You’re allowed to be angry. It’s hard not to be angry. But you should try to channel your anger into something positive — like voting.
4. You’re strong enough to keep going. Things haven’t gotten any easier. If anything, they’ve gotten more stressful. More frustrating. More alarming. However, you’ve gotten this far. You might be low on energy right now, but you’re going to push through this. You’re going to survive these terrible times as long as you keep doing the right thing, keep following your heart, keep caring about the people around you.
5. You’re not actually the only one. Maybe everyone on your social media has been posting partying pictures — but there are a lot of people who are doing the right thing. There are a lot of people in the same exact situation as you. You aren’t alone in your feelings or in your situation. It’s easier to spot the rule-breakers, but there are so many people who are trying their hardest, too.
6. Everything is going to go back to normal eventually. You might feel like this is a lie because you’ve been telling yourself the same thing since March and almost eight months have passed. But this isn’t going to last forever. You’re not going to feel this trapped forever. You’re not going to be stuck inside forever. You’re eventually going to get the chance to hang out with your friends, to hug your family members, to hook up with complete strangers at bars. You’re going to need to wait a little longer than you originally thought, but everything will be okay again eventually.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--Don’t Stay Single Because You’re Scared

Don’t Stay Single Because You’re Scared

Don ’ t stay single because you ’ re scared of letting down your walls .
You can ’ t keep your guard up forever .
You can ’ t push away everyone who tries to get close to you .
You might feel like you ’ re protecting yourself by isolating yourself but you ’ re only making yourself feel lonelier .
Once in a while , you need to take a risk and let other people into your world .
Express your opinions to them .
Speak your thoughts and desires aloud .
You don ’ t have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t have to spill your whole heart at once either .
You can move slowly .
You can take things one step at a time .
Don ’ t stay single because you ’ re scared of losing your independence .
You don ’ t have to act codependent once you ’ re in a committed relationship .
You can have your own lives .
You can have your own friends , your own hobbies , your own careers .
You don ’ t have to spend every waking moment together .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ on your person to bring you happiness or a sense of peace .
You can maintain your independence , even when you ’ re dating the love of your life .
A relationship doesn ’ t mean you lose your freedom .
It doesn ’ t mean you stop being you .
Don ’ t stay single because you ’ re scared of rejection .
Not everyone is going to like you .
Not everyone is going to give you a chance .
Sometimes you ’ re going to get turned down — @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of your worth .
It doesn ’ t mean you ’ re unlovable .
It doesn ’ t mean you should give up hope of finding your happily ever after .
It simply means you haven ’ t found the right person yet .
Rejection might sting , but it will bring you closer to the person you ’ re meant to discover .
Don ’ t stay single because you ’ re scared of getting betrayed .
Falling in love always comes with a risk — but if you ’ re with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t going to put you through pain .
They aren ’ t going to hurt you the way you ’ ve been hurt in the past .
You need to learn to trust others , even though they ’ re imperfect .
Even though they might lie to you .
Even though they might cheat .
Yes , you could get hurt , but sometimes love is worth that risk .
Sometimes you need to push aside your fears and give someone a shot .
Don ’ t stay single because you ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ relationship might not last , but that doesn ’ t mean you wasted your time with that person .
It doesn ’ t mean you never should have let them into your world .
Some connections are temporary , but they are still meaningful .
They are still worthwhile .
You might learn something from them .
You might grow while you ’ re with them .
You might not regret them at all , even if they don ’ t linger for long .
Don ’ t stay single because you ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Because you ’ re scared of getting attached .
Because you ’ re scared of something real .
Even though there ’ s a chance everything could fall apart and you could end up heartbroken , there ’ s also a chance it works out .
There ’ s a chance you stay with this person forever .

Don’t stay single because you’re scared of letting down your walls. You can’t keep your guard up forever. You can’t push away everyone who tries to get close to you. You might feel like you’re protecting yourself by isolating yourself but you’re only making yourself feel lonelier. Once in a while, you need to take a risk and let other people into your world. Express your opinions to them. Speak your thoughts and desires aloud. You don’t have to hold back — but you don’t have to spill your whole heart at once either. You can move slowly. You can take things one step at a time.
Don’t stay single because you’re scared of losing your independence. You don’t have to act codependent once you’re in a committed relationship. You can have your own lives. You can have your own friends, your own hobbies, your own careers. You don’t have to spend every waking moment together. You don’t have to rely on your person to bring you happiness or a sense of peace. You can maintain your independence, even when you’re dating the love of your life. A relationship doesn’t mean you lose your freedom. It doesn’t mean you stop being you.
Don’t stay single because you’re scared of rejection. Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to give you a chance. Sometimes you’re going to get turned down — but that’s not an indication of your worth. It doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It doesn’t mean you should give up hope of finding your happily ever after. It simply means you haven’t found the right person yet. Rejection might sting, but it will bring you closer to the person you’re meant to discover.
Don’t stay single because you’re scared of getting betrayed. Falling in love always comes with a risk — but if you’re with the right person, they aren’t going to put you through pain. They aren’t going to hurt you the way you’ve been hurt in the past. You need to learn to trust others, even though they’re imperfect. Even though they might lie to you. Even though they might cheat. Yes, you could get hurt, but sometimes love is worth that risk. Sometimes you need to push aside your fears and give someone a shot.
Don’t stay single because you’re scared of getting abandoned. The relationship might not last, but that doesn’t mean you wasted your time with that person. It doesn’t mean you never should have let them into your world. Some connections are temporary, but they are still meaningful. They are still worthwhile. You might learn something from them. You might grow while you’re with them. You might not regret them at all, even if they don’t linger for long.
Don’t stay single because you’re scared of falling in love. Because you’re scared of getting attached. Because you’re scared of something real. Even though there’s a chance everything could fall apart and you could end up heartbroken, there’s also a chance it works out. There’s a chance you stay with this person forever.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-20--How Each Zodiac Is Spending Their Halloween In 2020

Even though you can ’ t attend any parties this year , you can still have fun on Halloween .
This is what each zodiac will most likely be doing : You ’ re going to marathon scary movies with your partner ( in person ) or your long-distance friends ( over the internet ) .
You ’ re going to watch Halloweentown and Hocus Pocus for the hundredth time because you can never get enough of them .
You ’ re going to carve pumpkins ( or paint them ! )
to let out your creative side .
You @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the day scrolling through social media , admiring all of the cute costumes people are posting from home .
You ’ re going to play horror games that jumpscare you — or play something fun online with your friends like Among Us .
You ’ re going to bake a pumpkin pie , make candy apples , or throw together some other deliciously unhealthy dessert .
You ’ re going to get dressed up and take a million pictures for Instagram even though you aren ’ t leaving the house .
You ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in costumes and take pictures of them to spam social media .
You ’ re going to get wasted because you can still celebrate Halloween inside your own home .
You ’ re going to stock up on candy and eat most of it yourself ( because no one should be trick or treating anyway ) .
You ’ re going to dance around to your favorite Halloween music , like The Monster Mash and The Devil Went Down to Georgia .
You ’ re going to watch true crime documentaries on Netflix @ @ @ @ @ @ @

Even though you can’t attend any parties this year, you can still have fun on Halloween. This is what each zodiac will most likely be doing:
Aries
You’re going to marathon scary movies with your partner (in person) or your long-distance friends (over the internet).
Taurus
You’re going to watch Halloweentown and Hocus Pocus for the hundredth time because you can never get enough of them.
Gemini
You’re going to carve pumpkins (or paint them!) to let out your creative side.
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Cancer
You’re going to spend most of the day scrolling through social media, admiring all of the cute costumes people are posting from home.
Leo
You’re going to play horror games that jumpscare you — or play something fun online with your friends like Among Us.
Virgo
You’re going to bake a pumpkin pie, make candy apples, or throw together some other deliciously unhealthy dessert.
Libra
You’re going to get dressed up and take a million pictures for Instagram even though you aren’t leaving the house.
Scorpio
You’re going to dress your pets up in costumes and take pictures of them to spam social media.
Sagittarius
You’re going to get wasted because you can still celebrate Halloween inside your own home.
Capricorn
You’re going to stock up on candy and eat most of it yourself (because no one should be trick or treating anyway).
Aquarius
You’re going to dance around to your favorite Halloween music, like The Monster Mash and The Devil Went Down to Georgia.
Pisces
You’re going to watch true crime documentaries on Netflix in order to freak yourself out.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-21--The Problem Each Zodiac Sign Has Been Trying To Run Away From

You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact you ’ re burning yourself out and it ’ s only a matter of time until you collapse .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact you ’ re with ( or chasing after ) the wrong person and haven ’ t found the one yet .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact you ’ re unhappy with your career and belong in a different field .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact someone you care about is toxic and you shouldn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ much longer .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact you haven ’ t been treating your body right and need to take better care of yourself .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact that you ’ re not over your ex and need to put effort into examining those feelings .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact that you are angry at someone from your past and need to confront them about how they treated you .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and need to make a change to who you ’ ve been letting into your bed .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact you haven ’ t been moving forward in life and need to be more productive .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact your mental health is suffering and you should see a therapist .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact your household is toxic and you need to move out .
You ’ ve been trying to ignore the fact that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ make a serious change in order to feel more fulfilled .

Aries
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you’re burning yourself out and it’s only a matter of time until you collapse.
Taurus
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you’re with (or chasing after) the wrong person and haven’t found the one yet.
Gemini
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you’re unhappy with your career and belong in a different field.
Cancer
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact someone you care about is toxic and you shouldn’t keep them in your world for much longer.
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Leo
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you haven’t been treating your body right and need to take better care of yourself.
Virgo
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact that you’re not over your ex and need to put effort into examining those feelings.
Libra
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact that you are angry at someone from your past and need to confront them about how they treated you.
Scorpio
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you’re sexually unsatisfied and need to make a change to who you’ve been letting into your bed.
Sagittarius
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact you haven’t been moving forward in life and need to be more productive.
Capricorn
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact your mental health is suffering and you should see a therapist.
Aquarius
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact your household is toxic and you need to move out.
Pisces
You’ve been trying to ignore the fact that you’re unhappy and need to make a serious change in order to feel more fulfilled.


thoughtcatalog--2020-10-21--5 Reasons You’ve Been Feeling Uninspired In 2020

1 .
You ’ re not taking good enough care of your mental health .
Your physical and mental health can get tied together .
If you ’ re not in a good space , mentally , you can feel tired .
Frustrated .
Angry .
Even sick .
Burnout is a real thing and if you don ’ t take precautions to fight against it , you ’ re going to suffer .
You need to make sure that you ’ re giving yourself the essentials .
Make sure you ’ re eating enough meals , drinking enough water @ @ @ @ @ @ @ enough social interaction ( even if it ’ s online or over the phone ) .
Those things sound stupidly simple , but if you ’ re lacking in one of those areas , it can make it hard to focus throughout the day .
2 .
You ’ re working in a cluttered , uncomfortable area .
If you ’ re working in a messy space , you ’ re going to feel disorganized .
It ’ s going to be easy for your mind to wander .
You ’ re going @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the easiest things you can do is clean up your office , clear off your desk , and dump the extra clutter .
You want the space around you to encourage you to get shit done .
You don ’ t want it to make it even harder for you to stay in the zone .
3 .
You ’ re opening yourself up to distractions .
Maybe you ’ ve been working from home and keep getting interrupted by the other people living with you .
Maybe you ’ ve been distracted @ @ @ @ @ @ @ onto your social media feeds .
Maybe it ’ s hard to focus when it feels like the world around you is burning .
It ’ s normal for you to lose focus under these circumstances , but you can take tiny steps to limit distractions .
Turn off your notifications while you ’ re working .
Try to find a door you can close and lock .
Set a timer for when you can take a break , answer texts , and doomscroll .
You can even download programs to your computer @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hours so you can ’ t check them even if you wanted .
4 .
You ’ ve spent most of your time alone , cooped up at home .
You might feel like you ’ ve been reliving the same day over and over again , which is exhausting .
However , you can break up the monotony and regain some energy by planning fun activities .
Schedule virtual movie marathons with friends .
Go on an online museum tour .
Play Among Us .
Learn how to crochet .
Learn how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Watch yoga and meditation tutorials .
Even something as small as buying a new type of coffee or vodka or pizza rolls to try can give you something to look forward to .
Remember , even though your options for going out are limited , there are a million things you can do at home .
5 .
The problems in the world feel bigger than your own problems .
It ’ s hard to feel like your work matters when horrible things are happening in the world around you , but it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ into something that matters to you .
It ’ s also not selfish to take a break when you feel yourself spiraling .
These aren ’ t normal times .
If you ’ re not as productive as usual , it ’ s okay .

1. You’re not taking good enough care of your mental health. Your physical and mental health can get tied together. If you’re not in a good space, mentally, you can feel tired. Frustrated. Angry. Even sick. Burnout is a real thing and if you don’t take precautions to fight against it, you’re going to suffer. You need to make sure that you’re giving yourself the essentials. Make sure you’re eating enough meals, drinking enough water, sleeping enough hours, and getting enough social interaction (even if it’s online or over the phone). Those things sound stupidly simple, but if you’re lacking in one of those areas, it can make it hard to focus throughout the day.
2. You’re working in a cluttered, uncomfortable area. If you’re working in a messy space, you’re going to feel disorganized. It’s going to be easy for your mind to wander. You’re going to have trouble concentrating. One of the easiest things you can do is clean up your office, clear off your desk, and dump the extra clutter. You want the space around you to encourage you to get shit done. You don’t want it to make it even harder for you to stay in the zone.
3. You’re opening yourself up to distractions. Maybe you’ve been working from home and keep getting interrupted by the other people living with you. Maybe you’ve been distracted by the news articles that keep popping onto your social media feeds. Maybe it’s hard to focus when it feels like the world around you is burning. It’s normal for you to lose focus under these circumstances, but you can take tiny steps to limit distractions. Turn off your notifications while you’re working. Try to find a door you can close and lock. Set a timer for when you can take a break, answer texts, and doomscroll. You can even download programs to your computer that will block certain websites during certain hours so you can’t check them even if you wanted.
4. You’ve spent most of your time alone, cooped up at home. You might feel like you’ve been reliving the same day over and over again, which is exhausting. However, you can break up the monotony and regain some energy by planning fun activities. Schedule virtual movie marathons with friends. Go on an online museum tour. Play Among Us. Learn how to crochet. Learn how to speak French. Go hiking. Watch yoga and meditation tutorials. Even something as small as buying a new type of coffee or vodka or pizza rolls to try can give you something to look forward to. Remember, even though your options for going out are limited, there are a million things you can do at home.
5. The problems in the world feel bigger than your own problems. It’s hard to feel like your work matters when horrible things are happening in the world around you, but it’s not selfish to put energy into something that matters to you. It’s also not selfish to take a break when you feel yourself spiraling. These aren’t normal times. If you’re not as productive as usual, it’s okay.