thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--30 People Reveal The Brutally Honest Reason They Ghosted A Former Friend

1 .
She flirted with me and didn ’ t stop .
I have a girlfriend and I didn ’ t need that drama .
2 .
When I realized a lot of the things that made her laugh were at my expense .
She thrived off of humiliating me .
3 .
When I realized the relationship was one-sided and they only cared about themselves .
4 .
Getting ditched every time there ’ s a new guy on the scene but being expected to be there the second it all breaks down .
5 .
When I realized @ @ @ @ @ @ @ them .
I hate beer , hate EDM , hate Marvel , hate Channing Tatum , hate football ; these are all things she ’ s said .
It ’ s ok that we don ’ t enjoy the same things , but she ’ d go out of her way to let me know she hated something and rarely talked about what she liked .
6 .
That realization that you ’ re the one initiating all the interactions with them and when you stop , they don ’ t notice .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ she was maybe my best friend , but I was not hers .
In fact , I was only “ useful ” to her .
8 .
Every conversation was about them and their lives .
They rarely asked or were interested in what I had going on .
The selfishness was just too much after a while .
9 .
Too much insult humor , really fucked my esteem .
10 .
I told her not to tell anyone , so she told everyone .
11 .
Depression .
Keeping up communication @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not replying to a message can become a week when you don ’ t know how to explain that you just couldn ’ t be around people that day , which can become a month when it always seems impossible to reach out and explain where you ’ ve been .
Thankfully my friends are the understanding sort and don ’ t give me too hard a time , but I still feel like an asshole .
12 .
He was complaining non-stop about his life , with no intention to change it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that , asking me for advice , and whenever I gave advice to him he would be like “ yes , BUT… ” , “ yes , but I can ’ t because… ” .
There would always be a shitty and pathetic excuse for not trying , even the most basic stuff .
All of this eventually started to tire me out .
13 .
Creepy comments .
He was giving off a bad vibe and I also thought it was gross he was trying to flirt with me when he was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Alcohol .
He ’ s a great friend when he isn ’ t drunk , but after some stuff happened in his life , he ’ s only drunk .
15 .
She had a negative experiences with a lot of things to the point that talking to her was like walking on eggshells .
I hope she ’ s doing alright and I feel bad I stopped talking to her but I had to choose what was better for me .
16 .
I ’ ll ghost people if they only contact @ @ @ @ @ @ @ parties they need bodies to show up for ) and then when I text them besides that they ’ re either unresponsive or short .
17 .
I ’ m bi and when I told them they said gross .
18 .
I ’ m a lazy introvert who doesn ’ t really feel a need to maintain close friendships .
19 .
They were ( are ) emotionally draining .
It ’ s tough to talk to a person that has the same problems over and over again for years .
It @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a problem , but it was emotionally draining for me .
20 .
She cheated on my best friend when they were dating .
21 .
She shit-stirred between everyone , it was just a game to her to ruin friendships , people that she wasn ’ t even close friends with .
22 .
We were hanging out having a great time and he said , “ I always forget how fun you are.
” Suddenly it occurred to me and I said , “ It ’ s like you forget I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ front of you.
” He laughed and agreed , thinking I was joking or something , but it was very real .
Unfortunately I stuck around for a few more months , but this was definitely the tipping point Otherwise for most of my friends , it ’ s just the same as what other people have said .
I shouldn ’ t have to do the relationship maintenance all by myself 100 % of the time .
23 .
Their political Facebook posts that always ended with , “ If you don @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you can just unfriend me.
” Deuces .
24 .
Her two year old was violent towards my two year old .
She thought it was normal and refused to correct his behavior .
25 .
His wife , she scared quite a few of his friends away .
Made it so obvious she did not want his friends around .
Any time the attention wasn ’ t on her it was a problem for everyone .
26 .
Whenever I would talk about feeling stressed and my mental health not being in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ something along the lines of , “ Oh come on , you don ’ t have actual problems , there are people out there that actually have depression , anxiety , etc.
” She always downplayed the struggles I would be going through just because it wasn ’ t the worst possible thing that could happen .
27 .
She pocket called me .
Overheard her talking shit about my personal issues that I had confided in her .
28 .
When you realize that they ’ re never really there for you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and envy .
29 .
Too much drama .
Told a sob story in order to garner sympathy points – story didn ’ t check out and no one believed her so she got even more angry about it .
Decided to book it because her stories and blame-games were getting too much for me .
30 .
Started talking shit about me to my girlfriend and best mate .
His dad had a history of drinking problems and he was starting to exhibit the same behavior , so I suggested we should @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a while and try to focus on some healthier shit .
He apparently took that as I ’ m not the same person and my girlfriend was the person who changed me .

Ask Reddit knows some people aren’t worth the trouble.
1. She flirted with me and didn’t stop. I have a girlfriend and I didn’t need that drama.
2. When I realized a lot of the things that made her laugh were at my expense. She thrived off of humiliating me.
3. When I realized the relationship was one-sided and they only cared about themselves.
4. Getting ditched every time there’s a new guy on the scene but being expected to be there the second it all breaks down.
5. When I realized she liked hating things more than liking them. I hate beer, hate EDM, hate Marvel, hate Channing Tatum, hate football; these are all things she’s said. It’s ok that we don’t enjoy the same things, but she’d go out of her way to let me know she hated something and rarely talked about what she liked.
6. That realization that you’re the one initiating all the interactions with them and when you stop, they don’t notice.
7. When I’ve realized she was maybe my best friend, but I was not hers. In fact, I was only “useful” to her.
8. Every conversation was about them and their lives. They rarely asked or were interested in what I had going on. The selfishness was just too much after a while.
9. Too much insult humor, really fucked my esteem.
10. I told her not to tell anyone, so she told everyone.
11. Depression. Keeping up communication is rough sometimes. A day of not replying to a message can become a week when you don’t know how to explain that you just couldn’t be around people that day, which can become a month when it always seems impossible to reach out and explain where you’ve been. Thankfully my friends are the understanding sort and don’t give me too hard a time, but I still feel like an asshole.
12. He was complaining non-stop about his life, with no intention to change it. He would complain about this and that, asking me for advice, and whenever I gave advice to him he would be like “yes, BUT…”, “yes, but I can’t because…”. There would always be a shitty and pathetic excuse for not trying, even the most basic stuff. All of this eventually started to tire me out.
13. Creepy comments. He was giving off a bad vibe and I also thought it was gross he was trying to flirt with me when he was in a relationship already.
14. Alcohol. He’s a great friend when he isn’t drunk, but after some stuff happened in his life, he’s only drunk.
15. She had a negative experiences with a lot of things to the point that talking to her was like walking on eggshells. I hope she’s doing alright and I feel bad I stopped talking to her but I had to choose what was better for me.
16. I’ll ghost people if they only contact me for social stuff (i.e. parties they need bodies to show up for) and then when I text them besides that they’re either unresponsive or short.
17. I’m bi and when I told them they said gross.
18. I’m a lazy introvert who doesn’t really feel a need to maintain close friendships.
19. They were (are) emotionally draining. It’s tough to talk to a person that has the same problems over and over again for years. It wasn’t even that bad of a problem, but it was emotionally draining for me.
20. She cheated on my best friend when they were dating.
21. She shit-stirred between everyone, it was just a game to her to ruin friendships, people that she wasn’t even close friends with.
22. We were hanging out having a great time and he said, “I always forget how fun you are.”
Suddenly it occurred to me and I said, “It’s like you forget I exist unless I’m right in front of you.”
He laughed and agreed, thinking I was joking or something, but it was very real.
Unfortunately I stuck around for a few more months, but this was definitely the tipping point
Otherwise for most of my friends, it’s just the same as what other people have said. I shouldn’t have to do the relationship maintenance all by myself 100% of the time.
23. Their political Facebook posts that always ended with, “If you don’t agree with this, then you can just unfriend me.” Deuces.
24. Her two year old was violent towards my two year old. She thought it was normal and refused to correct his behavior.
25. His wife, she scared quite a few of his friends away. Made it so obvious she did not want his friends around. Any time the attention wasn’t on her it was a problem for everyone.
26. Whenever I would talk about feeling stressed and my mental health not being in an optimal condition, she would say something along the lines of, “Oh come on, you don’t have actual problems, there are people out there that actually have depression, anxiety, etc.” She always downplayed the struggles I would be going through just because it wasn’t the worst possible thing that could happen.
27. She pocket called me. Overheard her talking shit about my personal issues that I had confided in her.
28. When you realize that they’re never really there for you and your friendship only breeds passive aggressiveness and envy.
29. Too much drama. Told a sob story in order to garner sympathy points – story didn’t check out and no one believed her so she got even more angry about it. Decided to book it because her stories and blame-games were getting too much for me.
30. Started talking shit about me to my girlfriend and best mate. His dad had a history of drinking problems and he was starting to exhibit the same behavior, so I suggested we should both take a break from drinking for a while and try to focus on some healthier shit. He apparently took that as I’m not the same person and my girlfriend was the person who changed me.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--35 Men On The Most Mushy, Thoughtful, Romantic Thing A Woman Has Ever Done For Them

1 .
My girlfriend remembers every detail of when we first started dating .
On a long drive together , one of our songs came on and she described the first night we listened to it and when she fell in love with me .
She didn ’ t even finish the story because it just broke me .
I was leaking tears and it wouldn ’ t stop .
Get a partner who appreciates your efforts .
2 .
She made me a scrapbook of our entire relationship and saved everything from all our previous dates in order to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
I lost my favorite pair of sunglasses at a building on campus .
By the time I realized I was in my dorm and was swamped with a paper .
I was upset and expressed this to her .
She left and came back soaking wet .
She went back to campus and walked along every path I had taken and checked the building for me to try and find them as a pick me up .
Unfortunately she couldn ’ t find them but it was so sweet .
4 .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ we casually talked about me loving chocolates .
She brought chocolates on our first date .
Every kind of chocolates , from bars to chips to lozenges .
5 .
I hooked up with a girl and she was gone when I woke up , but she left a note saying , “ There ’ s Fruity Pebbles on the counter.
” I had mentioned I like to eat cereal after having sex .
I married her .
6 .
4 days ago my wife came home from work and revealed that she @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Remake tucked into her pants .
She didn ’ t have any underwear on either , naturally I could not decide what I wanted to do first .
7 .
My girlfriend had flowers sent to my work .
It ’ s the only time I ’ ve ever been given flowers , by anyone… ever .
I ’ m a 33 year old prior active duty Marine who ’ s been to war .
I still cried .
Get your man flowers , girls .
8 .
I was running a fever @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Throughout the night I would wake up to see my girlfriend kneeling on the floor , using a wet handkerchief to sponge me down .
I love her so much .
9 .
In the movie “ Die Hard ” a girl runs and throws herself into the arms of a guy she is meeting , who is getting off of a plane .
She jumps up and into his arms .
Ever since I saw that , oh so many years ago , I ’ ve wanted someone to be so thrilled @ @ @ @ @ @ @ into my arms like that .
It took me 40+ years , but it did eventually happen , and the girl had no idea it was something I ’ d always fantasized about .
It became a thing for us – when we hadn ’ t seen each other in a while , she ’ d run and just jump into my arms .
10 .
I ’ m pretty simple .
Little gestures go a long with me .
This past week has been absolutely terrible for reasons completely unrelated to my @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my protests ) that I head over and spend the night with her to take my mind off of the many things I had going on at my own house .
She had my favorite wine ready , a Netflix comedy special ready to go , and then she woke me up this morning with a back massage and an awesome homemade breakfast bagel sandwich .
I feel like the luckiest dude there is .
11 .
She wrote reasons why she loves me every single day for 365 days to give me @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the next year reading one every day .
12 .
I don ’ t know what other people think of as something romantic that women do for men , but to me , it doesn ’ t take much .
If she buys me the drinks I like at the store without me asking , that tells me she thinks about me when I ’ m not around , and that she cares .
That ’ s all the romance I need .
13 .
Not a romantic , but here goes… My @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I was away for three months working on a project .
She wrote in some detail what she wanted me to do to her when I got back .
It was a masterpiece .
14 .
She was a graffiti artist .
An excellent one and the kind that would sneak into rail yards .
She did a mini mural with my first name and the date .
I have a picture and look at it all the time .
15 .
Once a woman dropped off a 6 pack of beer and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a LONG day at work !
16 .
Not sure if it was the most romantic , but after three years of marriage , my wife wrapped her drivers license up and gave it as a gift to show me that she changed her name .
Prior to that , I never cared about her changing her name , but I thought that it was really sweet that she did that on her own .
Especially with my shit name .
17 .
She listened to me .
She listened .
Not judging @ @ @ @ @ @ @ even a little impatient .
Slow honest listening .
I could marry her for that .
18 .
Bought me a rare out-of-print book that I thought I would never own .
19 .
It was my 31st birthday and my lady asked all of my friends and family to wish me a happy birthday from a video made in their homes ( due to CoViD-19 ) and edited it together into a 10 minute video .
She randomly streamed it on the TV shortly after midnight .
It made me feel amazing @ @ @ @ @ @ @ picnic with her large family , and already being a socially anxious person , was absolutely wearing The Mask .
Full cascades of sound pouring over me , difficulty hearing people talk , couldn ’ t make eye contact .
This was super early in our relationship .
She glanced at me to check in , saw The Mask , and under the table , gently took my hand in her lap and began tracing the back of it with her fingernails .
It was the most loving form of grounding I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wherever she is she knows how much that meant to me .
21 .
She gave me those cards that said : “ Open when you feel sad , ” “ Open when you feel happy , ” “ Open when you want to know how much I care about you.
” 22 .
My wife paid off all my debt and student loans with a smile and hugged me after she did .
She didn ’ t have an inch of sadness parting with all that money .
23 .
My last @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me at a trampoline park .
I was turning 30 .
24 .
My wife cut my hair tonight because I can ’ t go to the barber and she knew it was bugging me .
25 .
She bought us tickets to Cedar Point even though she was afraid of roller coasters .
26 .
I dated a girl who decorated a matchbox with the message , “ We ’ re a great MATCH !
” She filled it with edible “ matches ” ; little pretzel sticks dipped in colored chocolate @ @ @ @ @ @ @ match .
She clearly put a lot of thought and effort into it , which was really what meant the most to me .
27 .
My birthday was the 9th and since we can ’ t go out she made me my own escape room in our house .
It made me feel so loved I almost cried .
I lucked out with the greatest girl in the world .
28 .
I had watched an animated Disney music video and really enjoyed the song .
Weeks later , the girl I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ song and singing it for me .
She had been practicing to surprise me .
29 .
Pulled me to a dance floor dragging a chair behind her , standing up on the chair and we danced… .
I ’ m quite tall .
30 .
I didn ’ t have a mattress throughout high school , and my then girlfriend came over for the first time and she looked very disgruntled , so she talked to her parents and arranged a surprise visit for me to go to Ikea and get a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ve never loved someone so much .
31 .
I was having a rough day and she simply put my head on her lap and petted my head and gently scratched me until I fell asleep .
32 .
Helped me move .
I never felt more loved than when I was flipping the hell out trying to get packed and figure out how I was going to get everything to my apartment and my very organized girlfriend drove out from an hour away several nights in one week to help me make @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my leg 3 months into a relationship ( unrelated to the relationship ) .
My family had just left town that day .
I had emergency surgery ; she drove me to the surgery , picked up my meds during the surgery , picked me up when I woke up , drove me back to her place and took care of me for a month there .
This included sponge baths , waking up to give me pain killers in the middle of the night so I wouldn ’ t wake up in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the day when she went to work , and making sure I was happy overall .
4 years later and we are still together .
If all that shit ain ’ t romantic , I don ’ t know what is .
34 .
On my birthday a few years ago my girlfriend told me to pack my bags and some warm gear .
I thought she was taking me on a surprise camping trip , but instead we hopped on a train to the airport and flew to Norway .
We ended @ @ @ @ @ @ @ night in a yurt at the husky lodge , going snowmobiling up to a canyon , staying in an ice hotel , and going on a northern lights tour ( lucky enough to catch a particularly awesome display too ) .
She also made the effort to get in touch with a guy I had recently done some business with online who I had really liked .
He picked us up from the airport in a chauffeur hat with a sign , and then took us all around Oslo to see the sights @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
My girlfriend paid for a maritime course that I couldn ’ t afford so that I could get a higher license and a better paying job .
We ’ re married now and I ’ m a Captain .

These men from Ask Reddit have some pretty amazing girlfriends.
1. My girlfriend remembers every detail of when we first started dating. On a long drive together, one of our songs came on and she described the first night we listened to it and when she fell in love with me. She didn’t even finish the story because it just broke me. I was leaking tears and it wouldn’t stop. Get a partner who appreciates your efforts.
2. She made me a scrapbook of our entire relationship and saved everything from all our previous dates in order to put it into the book.
3. I lost my favorite pair of sunglasses at a building on campus. By the time I realized I was in my dorm and was swamped with a paper. I was upset and expressed this to her. She left and came back soaking wet. She went back to campus and walked along every path I had taken and checked the building for me to try and find them as a pick me up. Unfortunately she couldn’t find them but it was so sweet.
4. During one of our first interactions, we casually talked about me loving chocolates. She brought chocolates on our first date. Every kind of chocolates, from bars to chips to lozenges.
5. I hooked up with a girl and she was gone when I woke up, but she left a note saying, “There’s Fruity Pebbles on the counter.” I had mentioned I like to eat cereal after having sex. I married her.
6. 4 days ago my wife came home from work and revealed that she had a copy of Final Fantasy VII Remake tucked into her pants. She didn’t have any underwear on either, naturally I could not decide what I wanted to do first.
7. My girlfriend had flowers sent to my work. It’s the only time I’ve ever been given flowers, by anyone… ever. I’m a 33 year old prior active duty Marine who’s been to war. I still cried. Get your man flowers, girls.
8. I was running a fever and slept on the couch outside. Throughout the night I would wake up to see my girlfriend kneeling on the floor, using a wet handkerchief to sponge me down. I love her so much.
9. In the movie “Die Hard” a girl runs and throws herself into the arms of a guy she is meeting, who is getting off of a plane. She jumps up and into his arms. Ever since I saw that, oh so many years ago, I’ve wanted someone to be so thrilled to greet me that they threw themselves into my arms like that. It took me 40+ years, but it did eventually happen, and the girl had no idea it was something I’d always fantasized about. It became a thing for us – when we hadn’t seen each other in a while, she’d run and just jump into my arms.
10. I’m pretty simple. Little gestures go a long with me. This past week has been absolutely terrible for reasons completely unrelated to my relationship. My girlfriend insisted (despite my protests) that I head over and spend the night with her to take my mind off of the many things I had going on at my own house. She had my favorite wine ready, a Netflix comedy special ready to go, and then she woke me up this morning with a back massage and an awesome homemade breakfast bagel sandwich. I feel like the luckiest dude there is.
11. She wrote reasons why she loves me every single day for 365 days to give me on our first anniversary. I spent the next year reading one every day.
12. I don’t know what other people think of as something romantic that women do for men, but to me, it doesn’t take much. If she buys me the drinks I like at the store without me asking, that tells me she thinks about me when I’m not around, and that she cares. That’s all the romance I need.
13. Not a romantic, but here goes… My wife sent a me a letter when I was away for three months working on a project. She wrote in some detail what she wanted me to do to her when I got back. It was a masterpiece.
14. She was a graffiti artist. An excellent one and the kind that would sneak into rail yards. She did a mini mural with my first name and the date. I have a picture and look at it all the time.
15. Once a woman dropped off a 6 pack of beer and dinner for me and my roommate after a LONG day at work!
16. Not sure if it was the most romantic, but after three years of marriage, my wife wrapped her drivers license up and gave it as a gift to show me that she changed her name. Prior to that, I never cared about her changing her name, but I thought that it was really sweet that she did that on her own. Especially with my shit name.
17. She listened to me. She listened. Not judging. Not even silently judging. Not even a little impatient. Slow honest listening. I could marry her for that.
18. Bought me a rare out-of-print book that I thought I would never own.
19. It was my 31st birthday and my lady asked all of my friends and family to wish me a happy birthday from a video made in their homes (due to CoViD-19) and edited it together into a 10 minute video. She randomly streamed it on the TV shortly after midnight. It made me feel amazing!
20. I was at a picnic with her large family, and already being a socially anxious person, was absolutely wearing The Mask. Full cascades of sound pouring over me, difficulty hearing people talk, couldn’t make eye contact.
This was super early in our relationship. She glanced at me to check in, saw The Mask, and under the table, gently took my hand in her lap and began tracing the back of it with her fingernails.
It was the most loving form of grounding I’ve ever experienced, and I hope wherever she is she knows how much that meant to me.
21. She gave me those cards that said: “Open when you feel sad,” “Open when you feel happy,” “Open when you want to know how much I care about you.”
22. My wife paid off all my debt and student loans with a smile and hugged me after she did. She didn’t have an inch of sadness parting with all that money.
23. My last girlfriend arranged a surprise birthday party for me at a trampoline park. I was turning 30.
24. My wife cut my hair tonight because I can’t go to the barber and she knew it was bugging me.
25. She bought us tickets to Cedar Point even though she was afraid of roller coasters.
26. I dated a girl who decorated a matchbox with the message, “We’re a great MATCH!” She filled it with edible “matches”; little pretzel sticks dipped in colored chocolate at the end to look like a match. She clearly put a lot of thought and effort into it, which was really what meant the most to me.
27. My birthday was the 9th and since we can’t go out she made me my own escape room in our house. It made me feel so loved I almost cried. I lucked out with the greatest girl in the world.
28. I had watched an animated Disney music video and really enjoyed the song. Weeks later, the girl I was dating surprised me by playing the song and singing it for me. She had been practicing to surprise me.
29. Pulled me to a dance floor dragging a chair behind her, standing up on the chair and we danced…. I’m quite tall.
30. I didn’t have a mattress throughout high school, and my then girlfriend came over for the first time and she looked very disgruntled, so she talked to her parents and arranged a surprise visit for me to go to Ikea and get a bed and a desk, I’ve never loved someone so much.
31. I was having a rough day and she simply put my head on her lap and petted my head and gently scratched me until I fell asleep.
32. Helped me move. I never felt more loved than when I was flipping the hell out trying to get packed and figure out how I was going to get everything to my apartment and my very organized girlfriend drove out from an hour away several nights in one week to help me make it happen.
33. I broke my leg 3 months into a relationship (unrelated to the relationship). My family had just left town that day. I had emergency surgery; she drove me to the surgery, picked up my meds during the surgery, picked me up when I woke up, drove me back to her place and took care of me for a month there. This included sponge baths, waking up to give me pain killers in the middle of the night so I wouldn’t wake up in agony, having food for me during the day when she went to work, and making sure I was happy overall. 4 years later and we are still together. If all that shit ain’t romantic, I don’t know what is.
34. On my birthday a few years ago my girlfriend told me to pack my bags and some warm gear. I thought she was taking me on a surprise camping trip, but instead we hopped on a train to the airport and flew to Norway.
We ended up going husky sledding, spending the night in a yurt at the husky lodge, going snowmobiling up to a canyon, staying in an ice hotel, and going on a northern lights tour (lucky enough to catch a particularly awesome display too).
She also made the effort to get in touch with a guy I had recently done some business with online who I had really liked. He picked us up from the airport in a chauffeur hat with a sign, and then took us all around Oslo to see the sights and to meet his family.
Truly a special holiday. We’re now engaged.
35. My girlfriend paid for a maritime course that I couldn’t afford so that I could get a higher license and a better paying job. We’re married now and I’m a Captain.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--6 Signs You Need To Stay The Fuck Away From Them

1 .
They expect more from you than they ’ re willing to give to you .
If you don ’ t answer their texts in ten minutes , they freak out , even though they take days to answer your messages .
It ’ s the same with hangout sessions .
They expect you to be available whenever they invite you over , even though they claim they ’ re too busy to see you all the time .
They want you to drop everything for them , but they ’ re not willing to return the favor .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ unfair .
2 .
They refuse to take responsibility for their actions .
When you call them out on ignoring your texts or treating you poorly in general , they act like they have no idea what you ’ re talking about and laugh it off .
Or immediately change the subject .
Or sweet talk you until you completely forget the question you asked in the first place .
No matter what method they use , they never take responsibility for their actions .
They never admit to being in the wrong @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 3 .
Every interaction you have with them makes you more stressed out .
They are draining .
You miss them when you ’ re apart from them , but honestly , you ’ re relieved to leave after spending even a small amount of time with them .
They are always involved in some sort of drama .
They are always finding new ways to bring down your happiness .
Your excitement to see them fades pretty quickly after your first few minutes together because they ’ re never as fun as @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your head .
4 .
They don ’ t put any effort toward supporting you .
They don ’ t check in on you randomly to see how you ’ ve done on your big test or the presentation at work you mentioned the other day .
They don ’ t even pretend to be interested when you come to them with exciting news you ’ re personally pumped about revealing .
They simply don ’ t seem to care about the things you do .
It doesn ’ t make a difference @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Sometimes , it seems like they like it better when you fail .
5 .
They can ’ t hold a conversation without lying .
They lie about the stupidest little things , things that don ’ t even make a difference to you , but it takes away your trust in them .
It makes you feel like you can never rely on them for the full story because they are constantly twisting the truth to make themselves sound more intelligent , more exciting , more interesting .
And if you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , it ’ s only going to start a fight .
6 .
They won ’ t change their behavior after hurting you .
If they ’ ve done something to upset you , and you ’ ve told them they ’ ve upset you , then they should take your feelings into consideration .
They shouldn ’ t continue to do whatever they want without worrying about the consequences .
They shouldn ’ t act like what you want means nothing to them .
If they refuse to better themselves for your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , then you ’ re better off keeping your distance .

1. They expect more from you than they’re willing to give to you. If you don’t answer their texts in ten minutes, they freak out, even though they take days to answer your messages. It’s the same with hangout sessions. They expect you to be available whenever they invite you over, even though they claim they’re too busy to see you all the time. They want you to drop everything for them, but they’re not willing to return the favor. The relationship is unbalanced, unequal, unfair.
2. They refuse to take responsibility for their actions. When you call them out on ignoring your texts or treating you poorly in general, they act like they have no idea what you’re talking about and laugh it off. Or immediately change the subject. Or sweet talk you until you completely forget the question you asked in the first place. No matter what method they use, they never take responsibility for their actions. They never admit to being in the wrong. They never give out apologies.
3. Every interaction you have with them makes you more stressed out. They are draining. You miss them when you’re apart from them, but honestly, you’re relieved to leave after spending even a small amount of time with them. They are always involved in some sort of drama. They are always finding new ways to bring down your happiness. Your excitement to see them fades pretty quickly after your first few minutes together because they’re never as fun as the version you have of them in your head.
4. They don’t put any effort toward supporting you. They don’t check in on you randomly to see how you’ve done on your big test or the presentation at work you mentioned the other day. They don’t even pretend to be interested when you come to them with exciting news you’re personally pumped about revealing. They simply don’t seem to care about the things you do. It doesn’t make a difference to them whether you succeed or fail. Sometimes, it seems like they like it better when you fail.
5. They can’t hold a conversation without lying. They lie about the stupidest little things, things that don’t even make a difference to you, but it takes away your trust in them. It makes you feel like you can never rely on them for the full story because they are constantly twisting the truth to make themselves sound more intelligent, more exciting, more interesting. And if you try to call them out on it, it’s only going to start a fight.
6. They won’t change their behavior after hurting you. If they’ve done something to upset you, and you’ve told them they’ve upset you, then they should take your feelings into consideration. They shouldn’t continue to do whatever they want without worrying about the consequences. They shouldn’t act like what you want means nothing to them. If they refuse to better themselves for your sake, or for their own sake, then you’re better off keeping your distance.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--Missing Someone Toxic Can Make You Feel Like You’re Going Crazy

Missing someone toxic can really mess with your brain .
There are moments when you feel like you can forgive the bad stuff they put you through , when you feel like you ’ re over the pain by now , when you feel like it might be time to give them another chance .
You ’ re tempted to reach out to them , to talk to them again , to hear their voice , to check in to make sure they ’ re doing okay .
You feel like it wouldn ’ t cause any harm , considering @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You wouldn ’ t be stupid enough to get hurt by them again .
You know what you ’ re doing .
You have a handle on yourself .
You ’ re good .
And then a memory will pop out of nowhere , flooding you with bad feelings .
All of a sudden , you will remember what it felt like when they were in your world — the anxiety you felt , the fear , the guilt , the confusion , the paranoia , the anger , the disappointment , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you ’ ll remember why you walked away from them .
You ’ ll remember why you swore you would never look back .
You ’ ll remember why you deserved so much better than them .
Just like that , you ’ re back to wanting nothing to do with them .
You can not believe that , even for a second , there was a part of you interested in allowing them back into your world .
It makes you sick that you were going to give them another chance to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ heart .
After all , you ’ re not actually done dealing with the damage they ’ ve caused .
You ’ re still coping with the things they ’ ve said to you , still healing from the pain they ’ ve caused .
Even though there are days when you feel much better , when you swear you ’ re making progress , the trauma hasn ’ t disappeared completely .
It still surfaces here and there , at random times , just when you ’ re finally feeling safe .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s a roller coaster .
Your emotions can change by the hour .
You can switch between wishing you could reach out and give them another chance because they were such an important part of your world at one point — and insisting that you never want to see their face again because they hurt you worse than anyone else has ever hurt you .
You never know exactly how to feel about this person because they were horrible to you — but they were also sweet to you .
They did @ @ @ @ @ @ @ but they also were there for you during your worst moments .
If you ’ re feeling this way , you need to know it ’ s okay to miss someone toxic .
Your brain isn ’ t wired wrong .
Your heart doesn ’ t have horrible taste .
It ’ s natural to miss someone who was such a big part of your life .
It ’ s normal to feel tempted to reach out to them .
But missing someone doesn ’ t mean you need to get in touch @ @ @ @ @ @ @ mean they deserve a second chance .
It doesn ’ t mean you ’ re meant to be together .
Sometimes , you can miss them and be glad they ’ re gone at the same time .

Missing someone toxic can really mess with your brain. There are moments when you feel like you can forgive the bad stuff they put you through, when you feel like you’re over the pain by now, when you feel like it might be time to give them another chance.
You’re tempted to reach out to them, to talk to them again, to hear their voice, to check in to make sure they’re doing okay. You feel like it wouldn’t cause any harm, considering you’re older and wiser now. You wouldn’t be stupid enough to get hurt by them again. You know what you’re doing. You have a handle on yourself. You’re good.
And then a memory will pop out of nowhere, flooding you with bad feelings. All of a sudden, you will remember what it felt like when they were in your world — the anxiety you felt, the fear, the guilt, the confusion, the paranoia, the anger, the disappointment, the sadness.
In an instant, you’ll remember why you walked away from them. You’ll remember why you swore you would never look back. You’ll remember why you deserved so much better than them.
Just like that, you’re back to wanting nothing to do with them. You cannot believe that, even for a second, there was a part of you interested in allowing them back into your world. It makes you sick that you were going to give them another chance to hurt you, to rip apart your heart.
After all, you’re not actually done dealing with the damage they’ve caused. You’re still coping with the things they’ve said to you, still healing from the pain they’ve caused. Even though there are days when you feel much better, when you swear you’re making progress, the trauma hasn’t disappeared completely. It still surfaces here and there, at random times, just when you’re finally feeling safe.
When you miss someone toxic, it’s a roller coaster. Your emotions can change by the hour. You can switch between wishing you could reach out and give them another chance because they were such an important part of your world at one point — and insisting that you never want to see their face again because they hurt you worse than anyone else has ever hurt you.
You never know exactly how to feel about this person because they were horrible to you — but they were also sweet to you. They did the worst things imaginable to you — but they also were there for you during your worst moments.
If you’re feeling this way, you need to know it’s okay to miss someone toxic. Your brain isn’t wired wrong. Your heart doesn’t have horrible taste. It’s natural to miss someone who was such a big part of your life. It’s normal to feel tempted to reach out to them. But missing someone doesn’t mean you need to get in touch with someone. It doesn’t mean they deserve a second chance. It doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together.
Sometimes, you can miss them and be glad they’re gone at the same time.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--5 Reminders To Read When Your Dark Thoughts Are Starting To Scare You

1 .
You ’ re not as fucked up as you feel .
Nothing is wrong with you .
You ’ re not broken .
You ’ re not a lost cause .
You ’ re not destined to fail , destined to disappoint , destined to feel this miserable forever .
You need to stop beating yourself up about things you ’ ve done wrong in the past and the questions you have about your future .
Above all , you need to stop feeling so ashamed about the way your mind works , because your feelings are valid @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are valid .
2 .
All you need to focus on is today , this second , this moment .
It can be overwhelming to wonder about tomorrow and then next day and the day after that .
But you don ’ t have to think too hard about your future right now .
You can focus on the moment .
Focus on getting through whatever you are feeling , right now , and worry about the rest later .
Right now is all that matters .
And right now , you need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t put off asking for help for any longer .
You should reach out to someone who can help you get through this time , whether it ’ s a therapist or a trusted friend .
You ’ ve held onto your feelings for long enough .
You ’ ve tried staying silent — and now you should try being honest .
Instead of worrying about how others might look at you if they heard the ‘ crazy ’ thoughts swarming around in your brain , you should be more worried about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ those words out loud .
You should be more worried about what will happen to you if you bottle everything up inside .
You need to work through your pain .
You need to take the proper steps to heal yourself , and that requires asking for help .
4 .
You know yourself better than anyone else does .
Other people might assume you ’ re fine .
They might have no idea you ’ re going through tough times because you keep your worries in your head and save your crying @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You can ’ t wait around for someone else to realize you ’ re struggling and help solve the problem .
No one else is going to play the part of your hero .
You need to take care of your problems on your own .
After all , you know yourself best .
If something is wrong , you shouldn ’ t ignore the feeling in your gut .
You shouldn ’ t keep putting off getting help until you reach your breaking point .
Take your future into your own @ @ @ @ @ @ @ yourself today , because you deserve it more than you realize .
5 .
You are going to survive this , just like you ’ ve survived everything else .
You can ’ t waste too much time doubting yourself .
You can ’ t question your strength .
You ’ ve made it this far .
Even though it was hard .
Even though there were moments when you wanted to give up hope .
Even though you struggled .
You ’ ve proven yourself wrong before and you ’ re going @ @ @ @ @ @ @ re going to be okay again soon .
You ’ re going to get through these harsh moments .

1. You’re not as fucked up as you feel. Nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken. You’re not a lost cause. You’re not destined to fail, destined to disappoint, destined to feel this miserable forever. You need to stop beating yourself up about things you’ve done wrong in the past and the questions you have about your future. Above all, you need to stop feeling so ashamed about the way your mind works, because your feelings are valid. Your fears are valid. You are valid.
2. All you need to focus on is today, this second, this moment. It can be overwhelming to wonder about tomorrow and then next day and the day after that. But you don’t have to think too hard about your future right now. You can focus on the moment. Focus on getting through whatever you are feeling, right now, and worry about the rest later. Right now is all that matters. And right now, you need to breathe.
3. You can’t put off asking for help for any longer. You should reach out to someone who can help you get through this time, whether it’s a therapist or a trusted friend. You’ve held onto your feelings for long enough. You’ve tried staying silent — and now you should try being honest. Instead of worrying about how others might look at you if they heard the ‘crazy’ thoughts swarming around in your brain, you should be more worried about what will happen if you never say those words out loud. You should be more worried about what will happen to you if you bottle everything up inside. You need to work through your pain. You need to take the proper steps to heal yourself, and that requires asking for help.
4. You know yourself better than anyone else does. Other people might assume you’re fine. They might have no idea you’re going through tough times because you keep your worries in your head and save your crying for when you’re all alone. You can’t wait around for someone else to realize you’re struggling and help solve the problem. No one else is going to play the part of your hero. You need to take care of your problems on your own. After all, you know yourself best. If something is wrong, you shouldn’t ignore the feeling in your gut. You shouldn’t keep putting off getting help until you reach your breaking point. Take your future into your own hands. Start taking better care of yourself today, because you deserve it more than you realize.
5. You are going to survive this, just like you’ve survived everything else. You can’t waste too much time doubting yourself. You can’t question your strength. You’ve made it this far. Even though it was hard. Even though there were moments when you wanted to give up hope. Even though you struggled. You’ve proven yourself wrong before and you’re going to do it again. You’re going to be okay again soon. You’re going to get through these harsh moments.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-21--How You Know The Relationship Is Serious, Based On The Zodiac Sign You’re Dating

They ’ ve finally introduced you to their parents .
They text you every single day without fail .
They @ @ @ @ @ you on their social media .
They ’ ve let you see them cry .
@ @ @ @ @ night at your place — without having sex .
They can sit in comfortable silence @ @ @ @ @ ve deleted all of their old dating apps .
They ’ ve opened up to @ @ @ @ @ insecurities .
They spend every holiday and birthday with you .
They ’ ve spoken @ @ @ @ @ .
They ’ ve invited you out with their closest friends .

Aries
They’ve finally introduced you to their parents.
Taurus
They text you every single day without fail.
Gemini
They’ve posted pictures of you on their social media.
Cancer
They’ve finally put a label on the relationship.
For the person who is always googling astrological compatibility when they meet someone new. How You’ll Do Everything Based On Your Zodiac Sign includes an exhaustive analysis of each sign’s personality. You’ll learn which high school clique represents them (Pisces are the cool art kids), who would get eaten first in a scary movie (Gemini, obviously) to how each sign prefers to say ‘I love you’ (for Taurus, it’s with good food). Alternating between silly, sweet, and serious, this book is filled with deep dives into the mind of everyone whose birth chart you can get your hands on. Buy now
Leo
They’ve let you see them cry.
Virgo
They’ve spent the night at your place — without having sex.
Libra
They can sit in comfortable silence with you.
Scorpio
They’ve deleted all of their old dating apps.
Sagittarius
They’ve opened up to you about their fears and insecurities.
Capricorn
They spend every holiday and birthday with you.
Aquarius
They’ve spoken to you about the future.
Pisces
They’ve invited you out with their closest friends.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--A Story About The Neighborhood

A Story About The Neighborhood

Pushing open the doors , a gray overcast sky greets me , poking in between the colds to create space are the houses , A-frame ticky-tacky colorless comfortable shelters that protect us from the elements and each other .
A few windows are cracked open , the blinds still drawn closed and the curtains ruffled to hold back the outside from the inside .
At least the birds are awake , they sing in a magic of drunken stupor for a brand new day .
And even though every bird has its own song , the chorus of their sweet @ @ @ @ @ @ @ sun the conductor and the sky , their audience .
My feet draw me down the sidewalk , caring the weight of last night ’ s dreams scrambled up in my head and drawing back down under the earth like worms that were uncovered with a gigantic shovel .
The darkness is where the warmth lives , the wetness of soft ground and the comfortability of the weight pressured downwards .
Winter ’ s transition into spring has been one of handholding and uncertain releases of wild rains across the ground .
The @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and flowers colliding with the deserts that sprawl in their dryness .
We somehow have made a home in the middle , finding the balance and creating what is possible .
The neighborhoods awoken to the sunlight , filtered through the gray , casting shadows across the driveways as coffee is made and engines are revved .
Each door slams , each key clicks , and the gears trudge from reverse to a forward motion , taking each of us individually in our metal boxes to join the cowherd of the highway heading @ @ @ @ @ @ @ just rest in the morning quietude , present in the open air , watching the birds flutter from one branch to another , wings vibrating overhead .
Unique in their similar ways , houses stack behind hedges , plants peaking through fence lines and creating barriers from the street .
Are the neighbors protecting themselves from the outside world or the outside world is protected from them ?
Flowers and cacti dot the yards , someone ’ s motivation to create a sanctuary space of beauty left to take over what it wants @ @ @ @ @ @ @ gardeners will take better care , trimming back the branches and leaves to maintain a sense of organization .
Litter of the street , old crushed water bottles and McDonald ’ s food wrappers strewn in the gutters from last night ’ s party .
The street belongs to us all , the ocean as our mother , who is going to take care of picking these things up ?
Apartment buildings are stacked on top of one another , no smoking signs plastered to doorways as the other side of the street @ @ @ @ @ @ @ prohibited activities .
Parents won ’ t know their kids are drinking shooters of 99 bananas and cans of Modelos if they are buried among the icicle plants that climb up and down the neighbor ’ s retaining wall .
Without a doubt , the emptied cans and bottles come become lawn ornaments , hidden under trees and lost among the bushes for treasure seekers to find in one hundred years .
Early in the morning , the dogs will begin to bark as each passerby gets too close to their invisible boundary @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with a rough transition to the hurriedness of what needs to be accomplished that day .
While not everyone is in a rush to begin their morning , there are the elderly neighbors in their oversized windbreakers , hunched a bit with a crooked step slowly hobbling down the street .
From fields away , they look up with a wave and a trumpeted greeting , saying “ hello !
” to all who meet their gaze .
Even in the stacked houses , one next to another , there is life teeming @ @ @ @ @ @ @ at the break of dawn on their patrol for food , crying with the train ’ s whistle .
Crows with their black feathers and purple sunlit hues caw , jumping from lamppost to palm frond .
The sand dunes that flood and melt with the transitional rains pour onto the sidewalks , leaving mud for the tracks of wildlife to make their mark .
The lagoon slopes down to meet the opening to the ocean , waiting for the tides to rise so that their waters can be exchanged .
Between the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and nest in the muck , banding together and gliding across the rippled morning waters in search for food to grace their female counterparts with .
The quiet of the morning opens in a vast skyline towards the ocean ’ s horizon .
Gray though the sky may be , the ocean gently crashes along the shoreline and flows smoothly across bridge pillars to reach new sands .
Even the cars crossing the highway in their whir and woosh sound like waves along the cement , echoing up and across the pylons to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ tranquil sleep .
The neighborhood is where we have grown our roots among Mother Earth , with her , and on her .
She has offered enough space so that life can continue to thrive , providing shade with her trees and nourishment with her depths .
We surround ourselves with walls to protect us from the outside world , building up and expanding out .
Our closed curtains , unopened windows and whirring garage doors block us from experiencing the vastness of the sky above and the sweet air of an oceanic @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bit cool , it offers a vitality and a space for courage to grow openly .
The neighborhood is our community , we share it with our loved ones , we trust our walls to protect us but don ’ t spend the time hugging the trees that provide groundedness with its roots and shade with its branches .
Not often enough do we simply sit to appreciate the breeze as it cools our skin in the warm summer sun , nor wiggle our toes amongst the grass that we have cultivated and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ grass beneath it .
And so I choose to open my windows .
I stick my finger through the hole in the screen and crack it a bit wider as the rusted wires snap a bit under the force .
I watch as the glowing green hummingbird darts among the purple morning glories and perches so gently on top of the orange birds of paradise .
Simplicity in the quiet , gratitude expanded through the heart to open to the greenery hands of the trees that extend down to rub our heads and @ @ @ @

Pushing open the doors, a gray overcast sky greets me, poking in between the colds to create space are the houses, A-frame ticky-tacky colorless comfortable shelters that protect us from the elements and each other. A few windows are cracked open, the blinds still drawn closed and the curtains ruffled to hold back the outside from the inside.
At least the birds are awake, they sing in a magic of drunken stupor for a brand new day. And even though every bird has its own song, the chorus of their sweet tones bring them into unison, the sun the conductor and the sky, their audience.
My feet draw me down the sidewalk, caring the weight of last night’s dreams scrambled up in my head and drawing back down under the earth like worms that were uncovered with a gigantic shovel. The darkness is where the warmth lives, the wetness of soft ground and the comfortability of the weight pressured downwards.
Winter’s transition into spring has been one of handholding and uncertain releases of wild rains across the ground. The meeting of tropical plants, palms, and flowers colliding with the deserts that sprawl in their dryness. We somehow have made a home in the middle, finding the balance and creating what is possible.
The neighborhoods awoken to the sunlight, filtered through the gray, casting shadows across the driveways as coffee is made and engines are revved. Each door slams, each key clicks, and the gears trudge from reverse to a forward motion, taking each of us individually in our metal boxes to join the cowherd of the highway heading south. It’s nice to just rest in the morning quietude, present in the open air, watching the birds flutter from one branch to another, wings vibrating overhead.
Unique in their similar ways, houses stack behind hedges, plants peaking through fence lines and creating barriers from the street. Are the neighbors protecting themselves from the outside world or the outside world is protected from them? Flowers and cacti dot the yards, someone’s motivation to create a sanctuary space of beauty left to take over what it wants where it is. Hopefully, the gardeners will take better care, trimming back the branches and leaves to maintain a sense of organization.
Litter of the street, old crushed water bottles and McDonald’s food wrappers strewn in the gutters from last night’s party. The street belongs to us all, the ocean as our mother, who is going to take care of picking these things up? Apartment buildings are stacked on top of one another, no smoking signs plastered to doorways as the other side of the street becomes the secret place to partake in prohibited activities. Parents won’t know their kids are drinking shooters of 99 bananas and cans of Modelos if they are buried among the icicle plants that climb up and down the neighbor’s retaining wall. Without a doubt, the emptied cans and bottles come become lawn ornaments, hidden under trees and lost among the bushes for treasure seekers to find in one hundred years.
Early in the morning, the dogs will begin to bark as each passerby gets too close to their invisible boundary, stagnating the birds cheerful wakeup calls with a rough transition to the hurriedness of what needs to be accomplished that day. While not everyone is in a rush to begin their morning, there are the elderly neighbors in their oversized windbreakers, hunched a bit with a crooked step slowly hobbling down the street. From fields away, they look up with a wave and a trumpeted greeting, saying “hello!” to all who meet their gaze.
Even in the stacked houses, one next to another, there is life teeming from the natural world. Coyotes howl at the break of dawn on their patrol for food, crying with the train’s whistle. Crows with their black feathers and purple sunlit hues caw, jumping from lamppost to palm frond. The sand dunes that flood and melt with the transitional rains pour onto the sidewalks, leaving mud for the tracks of wildlife to make their mark. The lagoon slopes down to meet the opening to the ocean, waiting for the tides to rise so that their waters can be exchanged. Between the cattails and muddied inlets, mallards quack and nest in the muck, banding together and gliding across the rippled morning waters in search for food to grace their female counterparts with.
The quiet of the morning opens in a vast skyline towards the ocean’s horizon. Gray though the sky may be, the ocean gently crashes along the shoreline and flows smoothly across bridge pillars to reach new sands. Even the cars crossing the highway in their whir and woosh sound like waves along the cement, echoing up and across the pylons to lull those who can back into a tranquil sleep.
The neighborhood is where we have grown our roots among Mother Earth, with her, and on her. She has offered enough space so that life can continue to thrive, providing shade with her trees and nourishment with her depths. We surround ourselves with walls to protect us from the outside world, building up and expanding out. Our closed curtains, unopened windows and whirring garage doors block us from experiencing the vastness of the sky above and the sweet air of an oceanic breeze. Though it may be a bit cool, it offers a vitality and a space for courage to grow openly.
The neighborhood is our community, we share it with our loved ones, we trust our walls to protect us but don’t spend the time hugging the trees that provide groundedness with its roots and shade with its branches. Not often enough do we simply sit to appreciate the breeze as it cools our skin in the warm summer sun, nor wiggle our toes amongst the grass that we have cultivated and continues to be nourished by the fertile grass beneath it.
And so I choose to open my windows. I stick my finger through the hole in the screen and crack it a bit wider as the rusted wires snap a bit under the force. I watch as the glowing green hummingbird darts among the purple morning glories and perches so gently on top of the orange birds of paradise. Simplicity in the quiet, gratitude expanded through the heart to open to the greenery hands of the trees that extend down to rub our heads and caress our minds.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--What He Secretly Wants To Try During Sex, Based On His Zodiac Sign

He wants to try bondage .
He wants to have a threesome .
He wants to try anal sex .
@ @ @ @ @ talking .
He wants to watch you with someone else .
He wants to have @ @ @ @ @ you to dominate him .
He wants to try mutual masturbation .
He wants to @ @ @ @ @ .
He wants to have public sex .
He wants to try role playing .
@ @ @ @ @ sex .

Aries
He wants to try bondage.
Taurus
He wants to have a threesome.
Gemini
He wants to try anal sex.
Cancer
He wants to try dirty talking.
For the person who is always googling astrological compatibility when they meet someone new. How You’ll Do Everything Based On Your Zodiac Sign includes an exhaustive analysis of each sign’s personality. You’ll learn which high school clique represents them (Pisces are the cool art kids), who would get eaten first in a scary movie (Gemini, obviously) to how each sign prefers to say ‘I love you’ (for Taurus, it’s with good food). Alternating between silly, sweet, and serious, this book is filled with deep dives into the mind of everyone whose birth chart you can get your hands on. Buy now
Leo
He wants to watch you with someone else.
Virgo
He wants to have shower sex.
Libra
He wants you to dominate him.
Scorpio
He wants to try mutual masturbation.
Sagittarius
He wants to use sex toys on you.
Capricorn
He wants to have public sex.
Aquarius
He wants to try role playing.
Pisces
He wants to have rough sex.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--33 Things You’ve Been Lied To About Your Whole Life

1 .
No one was ever burned at the Salem witch trials .
They were all either hanged , died in jail , or crushed by rocks .
2 .
It ’ s not dangerous to wake a sleepwalker .
They won ’ t have a heart attack or be put into a coma .
They ’ ll just be confused and it won ’ t be pleasant for them , that ’ s it .
3 .
The beverage used by Jim Jones to kill all of those people was not Kool-aid , it was another brand called “ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ put birds back in their nests .
The mother will not reject them .
5 .
It ’ s commonly said that , “ Lightning never strikes twice in the same place.
” In fact , it does – and frequently .
6 .
You most probably weren ’ t the fastest sperm cell .
The egg has an outer protective layer that takes several sperm to wear down before fertilization .
Honestly , you were probably one of the slowest sperm cells who arrived too late to do any work but still @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , the egg actually has a number of chemical barriers that select sperm with certain attractive chemical markers .
The egg actually chooses which packet of DNA makes it to fertilization .
7 .
Humans don ’ t eat 8 spiders a year in their sleep .
Spiders generally like cool , dry places .
The inside of your mouth is not an appealing place for them .
8 .
“ We only use 10 % of our brainpower.
” More specifically , you use all of your brain , but use different @ @ @ @ @ @ @ all at once .
This is why you never hear doctors saying , “ Thank god , he got shot in the 90 % of the brain that doesn ’ t do anything.
” 9 .
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day… Kellogs paid researchers to create studies confirming that statement and started using it as a slogan to sell more cereal .
10 .
Napolean wasn ’ t short , he was actually 5 ’ 7 which was considered average-to-tall height for the time .
The penis consists of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and restricts the blood from leaving , which inflates the tissue and creates an erection .
The same type of tissue exists in your nose , which is why you get a stuffy nose from sneezing/crying/allergies , all of which increase blood flow to the face .
12 .
Cow Tipping .
Cows don ’ t sleep standing up , the ones standing are usually on like a guard duty to alert the others who are sleeping should a danger arise .
No one is sneaking up on an awake cow and pushing @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that “ Jingle Bells ” was written to be a Christmas song .
Wrong .
It was intended to be a Thanksgiving song .
14 .
Dogs do not see in black and white .
They can see some color , it just looks really washed out .
15 .
There ’ s no solid division between left and right brain .
The left side can learn “ right-brain ” skills and vice-versa .
In WWII , the British had come up with a novel way to spot incoming German bombing raids – @ @ @ @ @ @ @ from discovering it , they attributed their AMAZING ability to spot airplanes at night to their AA crews eating lots of carrots .
Thanks to British deadpan humor , people have been believing this crap for 80+ years .
17 .
You shouldn ’ t tilt your head back if you have a nosebleed .
It causes the blood to run backwards and down the throat , and you can choke on it , or it could even enter your stomach .
18 .
Decimate doesn ’ t mean to completely wipe out @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
19 .
Chameleons do not solely change color based on the background .
It ’ s based on health , temperature , and mood .
20 .
“ The AR in AR-15 stands for assault rifle.
” It actually stands stands for Armalite , the company that engineered the rifle .
21 .
You don ’ t defibrillate someone to revive them from death .
Defibrillators are used to fix irregular heartbeats .
Not restart a stopped heart .
22 .
That hot water opens your pores and cold water closes them @ @ @ @ @ @ @ !
The only difference is that hot water can be drying to the skin whereas cold water isn ’ t , and drying out your skin again and again can cause it to over produce sebum , developing zits on the face and body ( if you have acne prone skin ) .
But also don ’ t make out that hot water is the devil !
It ’ s really good for relaxing your muscles .
23 .
That a tomato isn ’ t a vegetable .
A tomato is technically a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s no such thing as a vegetable in botany .
Vegetable is a culinary term and a tomato would be classified as one .
24 .
That there are only three states of matter : solid , liquid and gas .
There is also plasma as well as other special situations such as superfluids .
25 .
That Adolf Hitler was an atheist .
Actually Hitler was raised Roman Catholic .
But when he wrote Mein Kampf he believed that God created the people .
SS members were also required to believe @ @ @ @ @ @ @ referenced God in many of his speeches .
26 .
Period blood doesn ’ t just flow out constantly , it can stop for a while and continue .
One time my flow stopped for an entire day and I stopped wearing pads because I thought my period was over , just to be happily reminded that my body hates me by staining my favorite jeans the next day ( and continuing to do so for a few more days ) .
27 .
The phrase wasn ’ t , “ Luke , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , “ No , I , am your father.
” 28 .
Shit is all digested and unprocessable food waste .
When really up to 50 % of it is dead bacteria cells .
29 .
That fish have a 3 second memory .
They have up to a 3 year memory .
30 .
Gladiator games in ancient Rome were not “ two men go in , one comes out.
” The figure I ’ ve seen in most studies is a chance of 1:9 for a gladiator to die during a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ That ’ s huge , of course… but still means that , in most cases , it wasn ’ t a fight to the death .
31 .
Blood isn ’ t blue when there ’ s no oxygen in it , blood vessels just appear blue under the skin due to the way light is absorbed .
In actuality , blood is red when it has oxygen in it and dark red when it doesn ’ t .
32 .
“ Daddy long legs ” are not very venomous , they can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ docile ) , and they ’ re actually not even spiders .
They are opiliones , a relative of spiders .
A bite from would would be about as bad as a mosquito bite .
33 .
Mount Everest is the tallest mountain .
If you ’ re talking about sea level you are right , but if you ’ re talking about from when it starts going up it ’ s Mauna Kea in Hawaii , because most of it is under water .

Get ready to have your mind blown by Ask Reddit.
1. No one was ever burned at the Salem witch trials. They were all either hanged, died in jail, or crushed by rocks.
2. It’s not dangerous to wake a sleepwalker. They won’t have a heart attack or be put into a coma. They’ll just be confused and it won’t be pleasant for them, that’s it.
3. The beverage used by Jim Jones to kill all of those people was not Kool-aid, it was another brand called “Flavor-aid”.
4. You can put birds back in their nests. The mother will not reject them.
5. It’s commonly said that, “Lightning never strikes twice in the same place.” In fact, it does – and frequently.
6. You most probably weren’t the fastest sperm cell. The egg has an outer protective layer that takes several sperm to wear down before fertilization. Honestly, you were probably one of the slowest sperm cells who arrived too late to do any work but still won the race of life. Also, the egg actually has a number of chemical barriers that select sperm with certain attractive chemical markers. The egg actually chooses which packet of DNA makes it to fertilization.
7. Humans don’t eat 8 spiders a year in their sleep. Spiders generally like cool, dry places. The inside of your mouth is not an appealing place for them.
8. “We only use 10% of our brainpower.”
More specifically, you use all of your brain, but use different parts at different times, rather than all at once.
This is why you never hear doctors saying, “Thank god, he got shot in the 90% of the brain that doesn’t do anything.”
9. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day… Kellogs paid researchers to create studies confirming that statement and started using it as a slogan to sell more cereal.
10. Napolean wasn’t short, he was actually 5’7 which was considered average-to-tall height for the time.
11. “The penis is a muscle.” False.
The penis consists of a unique tissue that inflates with blood and restricts the blood from leaving, which inflates the tissue and creates an erection. The same type of tissue exists in your nose, which is why you get a stuffy nose from sneezing/crying/allergies, all of which increase blood flow to the face.
12. Cow Tipping. Cows don’t sleep standing up, the ones standing are usually on like a guard duty to alert the others who are sleeping should a danger arise. No one is sneaking up on an awake cow and pushing it over.
13. The belief that “Jingle Bells” was written to be a Christmas song. Wrong. It was intended to be a Thanksgiving song.
14. Dogs do not see in black and white. They can see some color, it just looks really washed out.
15. There’s no solid division between left and right brain. The left side can learn “right-brain” skills and vice-versa.
16. Eating carrots doesn’t improve your eyesight.
In WWII, the British had come up with a novel way to spot incoming German bombing raids – radar. But to keep the Germans from discovering it, they attributed their AMAZING ability to spot airplanes at night to their AA crews eating lots of carrots.
Thanks to British deadpan humor, people have been believing this crap for 80+ years.
17. You shouldn’t tilt your head back if you have a nosebleed. It causes the blood to run backwards and down the throat, and you can choke on it, or it could even enter your stomach.
18. Decimate doesn’t mean to completely wipe out. It means to remove 10%.
19. Chameleons do not solely change color based on the background. It’s based on health, temperature, and mood.
20. “The AR in AR-15 stands for assault rifle.” It actually stands stands for Armalite, the company that engineered the rifle.
21. You don’t defibrillate someone to revive them from death. Defibrillators are used to fix irregular heartbeats. Not restart a stopped heart.
22. That hot water opens your pores and cold water closes them. Your pores don’t change! The only difference is that hot water can be drying to the skin whereas cold water isn’t, and drying out your skin again and again can cause it to over produce sebum, developing zits on the face and body (if you have acne prone skin). But also don’t make out that hot water is the devil! It’s really good for relaxing your muscles.
23. That a tomato isn’t a vegetable. A tomato is technically a fruit in the botanical sense because there’s no such thing as a vegetable in botany. Vegetable is a culinary term and a tomato would be classified as one.
24. That there are only three states of matter: solid, liquid and gas. There is also plasma as well as other special situations such as superfluids.
25. That Adolf Hitler was an atheist. Actually Hitler was raised Roman Catholic. But when he wrote Mein Kampf he believed that God created the people. SS members were also required to believe in God as well. Hitler also referenced God in many of his speeches.
26. Period blood doesn’t just flow out constantly, it can stop for a while and continue. One time my flow stopped for an entire day and I stopped wearing pads because I thought my period was over, just to be happily reminded that my body hates me by staining my favorite jeans the next day (and continuing to do so for a few more days).
27. The phrase wasn’t, “Luke, I am your father.” It was, “No, I, am your father.”
28. Shit is all digested and unprocessable food waste. When really up to 50% of it is dead bacteria cells.
29. That fish have a 3 second memory. They have up to a 3 year memory.
30. Gladiator games in ancient Rome were not “two men go in, one comes out.”
The figure I’ve seen in most studies is a chance of 1:9 for a gladiator to die during a munus that he took part in. That’s huge, of course… but still means that, in most cases, it wasn’t a fight to the death.
31. Blood isn’t blue when there’s no oxygen in it, blood vessels just appear blue under the skin due to the way light is absorbed. In actuality, blood is red when it has oxygen in it and dark red when it doesn’t.
32. “Daddy long legs” are not very venomous, they can bite you (but are just mostly docile), and they’re actually not even spiders. They are opiliones, a relative of spiders. A bite from would would be about as bad as a mosquito bite.
33. Mount Everest is the tallest mountain. If you’re talking about sea level you are right, but if you’re talking about from when it starts going up it’s Mauna Kea in Hawaii, because most of it is under water.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--I Might Break Down — But I’m Trying My Best

I might break down every once in a while , but that doesn ’ t mean I ’ m not trying .
I ’ m putting in effort every single day .
I ’ m staying hopeful .
I ’ m staying as positive as my mind allows .
I might burst into tears at times , I might have trouble getting through the night , but I ’ m always going to pull myself back together again .
I ’ m always going to continue forward .
I ’ m not going to let my fear slow me down @ @ @ @ @ @ @ realize releasing my emotions isn ’ t a sign of weakness .
Bottling up those emotions would be much worse .
It would make my pain linger .
It would breed resentment .
It would make me even more miserable in the long-run .
I would much rather be open with myself about my feelings .
I would rather be in touch with my emotions .
I would rather feel deeply than pretend I don ’ t feel anything at all .
I might break down when I give myself too much time @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wonder , but that doesn ’ t make me any less independent .
It doesn ’ t make me any less strong .
I ’ m allowed to have moments where I feel like I ’ m losing control .
I ’ m allowed to have doubts about my past , my present , and my future .
I ’ m allowed to fall apart sometimes .
I ’ m never going to be embarrassed about my low points .
I ’ m never going to feel ashamed about my whirlwind emotions .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ like there ’ s something wrong with me for feeling this much because my emotions are valid .
I ’ m allowed to sob .
I ’ m allowed to complain .
I ’ m allowed to feel sorry for myself .
But I will never allow those feelings to linger for too long .
I will find a way to push past them .
I will find a way to raise my hopes again .
I will find a way to survive .
Even though there might be times when my heart @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when my expectations plummet , I ’ m doing the best I possibly can at the moment .
I ’ m putting in as much effort as humanly possible .
I ’ m working my ass off to better myself .
I ’ m putting in the work .
I haven ’ t given up faith in myself .
I haven ’ t lost belief in my abilities .
Yes , there are times when it feels like the world is crashing down around me , when it feels like my effort has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ m confident I ’ m going to get through this negativity .
I know I ’ ve been in plenty of rough spots before and have made it out okay .
I know I ’ ve been through worse and survived .
I ’ m going to survive this , too .
I ’ m going to survive every breakdown .
Survive every question .
Survive every doubt .
My breakdowns might make it impossible to get anything done today , but they aren ’ t going to hold me back tomorrow @ @ @ @ @ @ @ m going to put them behind me .
I ’ m going to keep going even when it ’ s hard , especially when it ’ s hard .
There might be more moments when I break down right around the corner , but that ’ s okay .
I ’ m not giving up on myself .
I ’ m not going to stop trying .
I ’ m not going to quit .

I might break down every once in a while, but that doesn’t mean I’m not trying.
I’m putting in effort every single day. I’m staying hopeful. I’m staying as positive as my mind allows.
I might burst into tears at times, I might have trouble getting through the night, but I’m always going to pull myself back together again. I’m always going to continue forward. I’m not going to let my fear slow me down.
I’m mature enough to realize releasing my emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Bottling up those emotions would be much worse. It would make my pain linger. It would breed resentment. It would make me even more miserable in the long-run.
I would much rather be open with myself about my feelings. I would rather be in touch with my emotions. I would rather feel deeply than pretend I don’t feel anything at all.
I might break down when I give myself too much time to think, to worry, to wonder, but that doesn’t make me any less independent. It doesn’t make me any less strong. I’m allowed to have moments where I feel like I’m losing control. I’m allowed to have doubts about my past, my present, and my future. I’m allowed to fall apart sometimes.
I’m never going to be embarrassed about my low points. I’m never going to feel ashamed about my whirlwind emotions. I’m never going to act like there’s something wrong with me for feeling this much because my emotions are valid.
I’m allowed to sob. I’m allowed to complain. I’m allowed to feel sorry for myself.
But I will never allow those feelings to linger for too long. I will find a way to push past them. I will find a way to raise my hopes again. I will find a way to survive.
Even though there might be times when my heart drops, when my tears fall, when my expectations plummet, I’m doing the best I possibly can at the moment. I’m putting in as much effort as humanly possible. I’m working my ass off to better myself. I’m putting in the work. I haven’t given up faith in myself. I haven’t lost belief in my abilities.
Yes, there are times when it feels like the world is crashing down around me, when it feels like my effort has been getting me nowhere, but I’m confident I’m going to get through this negativity.
I know I’ve been in plenty of rough spots before and have made it out okay. I know I’ve been through worse and survived. I’m going to survive this, too. I’m going to survive every breakdown. Survive every question. Survive every doubt.
My breakdowns might make it impossible to get anything done today, but they aren’t going to hold me back tomorrow or the next day. I’m going to put them behind me. I’m going to keep going even when it’s hard, especially when it’s hard.
There might be more moments when I break down right around the corner, but that’s okay. I’m not giving up on myself. I’m not going to stop trying. I’m not going to quit.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--Your Effort Is Worthwhile, Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It Right Now

Right now , it might feel like you haven ’ t been making any progress .
It might feel like you ’ re stuck in the same place .
It might feel like you ’ ve been wasting your time and your energy because you haven ’ t gotten the results you ’ ve been hoping to find .
It ’ s hard to keep putting in effort when you feel like everything you ’ ve been doing has been useless .
It ’ s hard to feel productive when it seems like all of your hard work hasn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s hard to give yourself an incentive to keep going when it seems like you aren ’ t getting any closer to your goals .
But you have to remember , you aren ’ t going to see results overnight .
You need to stay patient .
You need to hold onto your hope .
Nothing good comes quickly .
You ’ re going to need to wait a while .
You ’ re going to need to convince yourself your hard work will be worth it eventually , even if you ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ right now .
Besides , you probably are making progress that you ’ re unable to see , unable to track .
You ’ re probably learning a little more each day , growing a bit more each week .
You probably aren ’ t even aware of your own growth .
Remember , it ’ s natural for you to have doubts about everything you ’ ve been doing , but you shouldn ’ t let yourself get discouraged .
You shouldn ’ t let yourself believe that all of your effort @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s far from the truth .
One day , you ’ re going to look back and be proud you put so much energy into the things you care about .
You ’ re going to be thankful that you took steps toward following your dreams .
Right now , you might feel like giving up .
You might feel like you haven ’ t been making any progress , even though you ’ ve been working your ass off every single day .
You might wonder whether it ’ s worth it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hard work hasn ’ t been making a difference anyway .
You might feel like it ’ s time to quit .
But you need to remind yourself that you ’ re going to see results eventually .
You ’ re going to reach your goals eventually .
It ’ s only a matter of time .
You have to stay open .
You have to stay patient .
You have to stay hopeful .
If you really want something , then giving up shouldn ’ t be an option you entertain for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fears , shake away your doubts , and get back to working on your goals .
You should also remind yourself how important it is to enjoy the journey .
It ’ s much better than obsessing over the end result , something you can not fully control .
If you enjoy the journey , then it doesn ’ t matter how much progress you can see .
It doesn ’ t matter how close you are to your goals .
Even if you don ’ t reach them anytime soon , you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
You ’ re still going to feel like everything you ’ ve been doing has been worth it .
Remember , your effort is worthwhile , even if it doesn ’ t feel like it right now .

Right now, it might feel like you haven’t been making any progress. It might feel like you’re stuck in the same place. It might feel like you’ve been wasting your time and your energy because you haven’t gotten the results you’ve been hoping to find.
It’s hard to keep putting in effort when you feel like everything you’ve been doing has been useless. It’s hard to feel productive when it seems like all of your hard work hasn’t been paying off. It’s hard to give yourself an incentive to keep going when it seems like you aren’t getting any closer to your goals.
But you have to remember, you aren’t going to see results overnight. You need to stay patient. You need to hold onto your hope. Nothing good comes quickly. You’re going to need to wait a while. You’re going to need to convince yourself your hard work will be worth it eventually, even if you’re questioning whether it make any difference right now.
Besides, you probably are making progress that you’re unable to see, unable to track. You’re probably learning a little more each day, growing a bit more each week. You probably aren’t even aware of your own growth.
Remember, it’s natural for you to have doubts about everything you’ve been doing, but you shouldn’t let yourself get discouraged. You shouldn’t let yourself believe that all of your effort has been for nothing because that’s far from the truth.
One day, you’re going to look back and be proud you put so much energy into the things you care about. You’re going to be thankful that you took steps toward following your dreams.
Right now, you might feel like giving up. You might feel like you haven’t been making any progress, even though you’ve been working your ass off every single day. You might wonder whether it’s worth it to keep tiring yourself out when your hard work hasn’t been making a difference anyway. You might feel like it’s time to quit.
But you need to remind yourself that you’re going to see results eventually. You’re going to reach your goals eventually. It’s only a matter of time. You have to stay open. You have to stay patient. You have to stay hopeful.
If you really want something, then giving up shouldn’t be an option you entertain for long. You should shake away your fears, shake away your doubts, and get back to working on your goals.
You should also remind yourself how important it is to enjoy the journey. It’s much better than obsessing over the end result, something you cannot fully control. If you enjoy the journey, then it doesn’t matter how much progress you can see. It doesn’t matter how close you are to your goals. Even if you don’t reach them anytime soon, you’re still going to enjoy yourself. You’re still going to feel like everything you’ve been doing has been worth it.
Remember, your effort is worthwhile, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.


thoughtcatalog--2020-04-22--Why You Don’t Trust Anyone, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Everyone disappoints you .
Everyone eventually lets you down .
People are liars .
They break promises .
They bend the truth .
You can ’ t believe a word that comes out of their mouth .
You ’ ve been burned before .
You know what people are capable of doing , even people who claim to love you .
In your mind , everyone cares about themselves above anything else .
They ’ ll make the selfish choice every time .
You feel like it ’ s easier to see the worst in others than to see the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ yourself than on someone else who could do you wrong .
Every time you trust someone , you get screwed over .
You get your heart shattered .
You ’ ve never met anyone who has proven you can trust them , anyone who has treated you right .
So many people have hurt you in the past that you expect the trend to continue .
You would rather expect the worst in others than get disappointed when they fail to reach your expectations .
You ’ re terrified of getting hurt , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ one else is worth the trouble .
You know yourself .
And you don ’ t trust yourself .
So why would you trust anyone else ?

Aries
Everyone disappoints you. Everyone eventually lets you down.
Taurus
People are liars. They break promises. They bend the truth. You can’t believe a word that comes out of their mouth.
Gemini
You’ve been burned before. You know what people are capable of doing, even people who claim to love you.
Cancer
In your mind, everyone cares about themselves above anything else. They’ll make the selfish choice every time.
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Leo
You feel like it’s easier to see the worst in others than to see the best.
Virgo
You would rather rely on yourself than on someone else who could do you wrong.
Libra
Every time you trust someone, you get screwed over. You get your heart shattered.
Scorpio
You’ve never met anyone who has proven you can trust them, anyone who has treated you right.
Sagittarius
So many people have hurt you in the past that you expect the trend to continue.
Capricorn
You would rather expect the worst in others than get disappointed when they fail to reach your expectations.
Aquarius
You’re terrified of getting hurt, so you would rather tell yourself no one else is worth the trouble.
Pisces
You know yourself. And you don’t trust yourself. So why would you trust anyone else?