iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--Why Am I So Unhappy? 30 Things That Secretly Make You Unhappy

Do you ever wonder why you feel unhappy even when everything seems right in your life ?
If so , these may be the reasons why .
Sometimes , even when everything seems to be going right , something still feels wrong .
You have a job , you have friends , you have a partner and yet , you feel unfulfilled and deflated .
Sarah Hansen has compiled a lengthy list of reasons why you may be feeling this way .
Worry is a slow poison and a silent killer .
It can not only be the reason behind @ @ @ @ @ @ @ result in serious damage to your health : both mental and physical .
More often than not , the things we worry about and spend sleepless nights overthinking , never even happen .
Do yourself a favor by finding ways to worry less : there are thousands of self-help books written on this subject for precisely this reason .
As much as we want to have control over every little aspect of our lives , this is just not possible .
The sooner you realize that no matter how hard you try , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you want them , the better you will feel .
Accept that there are things that are and will be out of your control .
This will lift a huge weight off your shoulders – a weight you didn ’ t even know was there .
It is likely that the person against whom you hold a grudge has no idea , sense of guilt or sadness .
In other words , you are only poisoning yourself and hurting your own happiness .
Let go , it is not worth it .
4 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ can leave you feeling deeply unhappy .
It is something that a lot of us do without even realizing it : you compare your grades , your looks , your love lives and everything else .
This comparison is not only self-destructive but also completely useless .
Focus on yourself .
5 .
You are happy only when your dreams come true If this is what you are doing , then you are not letting yourself be happy because this means that you are placing conditions on your happiness .
In reality , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ one that should be found within .
You can be truly happy even when the things around you are not yet exactly what you want them to be .
Viewing the world through a negative lens means that you will never be able to appreciate the good .
Living life with a “ glass half-empty ” perspective will only make you more unhappy .
Try to see the silver lining and the bright side of everything life hands you .
If your happiness is based on material things , you will never be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the little things – they are the ones that truly matter and make a difference .
8 .
Your priorities are not set straight Find out what matters most to you .
Is it your career ?
Your relationship ?
Your children ?
Your health ?
Whatever it may be , you may actually be disregarding it .
That is , you might not be making sufficient time for it and this might be causing your unhappiness .
9 .
You surround yourself with toxic people You might find yourself thinking that you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have a loving partner and a big group of friends .
While this may be true , you might need to step back and ask yourself if these people are doing more harm than good .
A lot of the time , we do not realize that our unhappiness is fueled by external , toxic energy .
10 .
You are stuck in the past There is no point in looking back and reliving the past .
In the present , you will find the place and time to change your life .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ you and work towards your happiness .
The past will never change , no matter how much thought and time you give it .
11 .
Alternatively , you focus on the future This point is similar to the previous one as it once again suggests that your unhappiness can be due to the fact that you are not living in the moment .
In the same way that you can not change the past , you can not know what the future holds .
Live your life in the present , live @ @ @ @ @ @ @ best .
Being unhealthy can impact your mental health more than you may realize .
Getting enough sleep , eating right , staying hydrated and exercising from time-to-time can make a huge difference .
Try and see for yourself !
Expecting perfection from yourself and those around you is unrealistic and destructive .
Everybody fails and everybody makes mistakes sometimes .
Learn not to be hard on yourself , learn to be kind and love yourself – even when you make mistakes .
14 .
You are afraid of failure Being afraid of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ avoid things that might make you happy .
In other words , you could unintentionally be hindering your own happiness .
Be brave and know that even if you fail , it is not the end of the world but rather , an experience and a lesson .
Feelings of insecurity can result in deep unhappiness .
What is more , they can cause issues in your relationships and thus , lead to even deeper issues .
Figure out what you need to work on to feel confident and secure in the person @ @ @ @ @ @ @ happiness within .
Seeking validation from others will not make you happy as you are essentially placing your happiness in the hands of others .
You must learn to be content and happy with who you are and what you do , without seeking the approval of others .
People need deep and meaningful connections in order to be happy ; if you are neglecting your relationships – whether platonic , familial or romantic – this might be the reason behind your mysterious unhappiness .
Make time for meaningful connections .
Boredom can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a sense of purpose .
Lacking a sense of purpose can in turn lead to serious mental and emotional issues as you find yourself living a life without fulfillment .
Unrealized dreams can leave you living a life of What ifs .
This means that rather than living in the present and making most of the moment that is right there in front of you , you are stuck wondering what could have been .
Either let go of those dreams or begin working on their realization .
20 .
You do not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your own is more important than a lot of people realize .
This means doing something for yourself by yourself – even if it is just going for a walk in the park !
Being on your own gives you the time and space to be honest with yourself about what you want and need in life .
Being dependent can leave a person feeling unhappy as they find themselves thinking that they are not self-sufficient and independent .
Finding a job , living on your own and doing things for yourself will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ this in turn , will increase your happiness .
22 .
You have no spiritual life For some , unhappiness can stem from their lack of spiritual life .
While not everybody feels this way , some people find that a spiritual life makes them feel more whole and thereby , more content with life .
23 .
You have no real friends If you find that even though you have a big group of friends , there is nobody you can rely on , this might mean that you do not have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ existing relationships or build new ones with people who you will be proud to call friends .
Hating your job , your workplace or your colleagues can leave you feeling miserable .
It is important that you find satisfaction and fulfillment in what you do on a regular basis ; if it makes you unhappy , maybe it is time to let go and find what makes you happy .
Patience is a virtue and a skill which only a few have mastered .
Sometimes , we have no other option but to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ waiting for a call back after a job interview , we need to have patience .
Being stressed and worried instead of calmly waiting for time to go by will drain you and leave you unhappy .
Work on being patient in order to be happier .
Being comfortable does not ensure that you will be happy .
In fact , it is possible that your comfort can be causing your unhappiness .
The reason behind this is that more often than not , people feel their happiest when they are overcoming challenges @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of your comfort zone to find your happiness .
27 .
You do not learn from your mistakes Repeating the same mistakes over and over again can be extremely painful .
Sometimes , we do not even realize that we are doing so .
It is important that you learn from the things that cause you pain in order to ensure that you do not experience it again .
28 .
You are too concerned with the opinions of others By trying to please those around you instead of focusing on what makes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the way of your happiness .
Remember that your life is yours to live , however you wish to and with whoever you want to .
Other people ’ s opinions should not matter because at the end of the day , it is you who is living this life – carve it out the way you want to live it .
29 .
You do not relax Overworking yourself will leave you feeling drained , tired and unhappy .
Whether it is making sure you get eight-hours worth of sleep or going @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to unwind and recharge your batteries in order to feel happier .
30 .
Or maybe , you just do not have a dog !

Do you ever wonder why you feel unhappy even when everything seems right in your life?
If so, these may be the reasons why.
Sometimes, even when everything seems to be going right, something still feels wrong. You have a job, you have friends, you have a partner and yet, you feel unfulfilled and deflated. Sarah Hansen has compiled a lengthy list of reasons why you may be feeling this way.
1. You overthink and worry
Worry is a slow poison and a silent killer. It can not only be the reason behind your unhappiness, but it can also result in serious damage to your health: both mental and physical. More often than not, the things we worry about and spend sleepless nights overthinking, never even happen. Do yourself a favor by finding ways to worry less: there are thousands of self-help books written on this subject for precisely this reason.
2. You are overly controlling
As much as we want to have control over every little aspect of our lives, this is just not possible. The sooner you realize that no matter how hard you try, things will not always go the way you want them, the better you will feel. Accept that there are things that are and will be out of your control. This will lift a huge weight off your shoulders – a weight you didn’t even know was there.
3. You hold grudges
It is likely that the person against whom you hold a grudge has no idea, sense of guilt or sadness. In other words, you are only poisoning yourself and hurting your own happiness. Let go, it is not worth it.
4. You compare yourself to people
Comparison can leave you feeling deeply unhappy. It is something that a lot of us do without even realizing it: you compare your grades, your looks, your love lives and everything else. This comparison is not only self-destructive but also completely useless. Focus on yourself.
5. You are happy only when your dreams come true
If this is what you are doing, then you are not letting yourself be happy because this means that you are placing conditions on your happiness. In reality, happiness is not an external force but one that should be found within. You can be truly happy even when the things around you are not yet exactly what you want them to be.
6. You are pessimistic
Viewing the world through a negative lens means that you will never be able to appreciate the good. Living life with a “glass half-empty” perspective will only make you more unhappy. Try to see the silver lining and the bright side of everything life hands you.
7. You are materialistic
If your happiness is based on material things, you will never be happy. Happiness should be found in the little things – they are the ones that truly matter and make a difference.
8. Your priorities are not set straight
Find out what matters most to you. Is it your career? Your relationship? Your children? Your health? Whatever it may be, you may actually be disregarding it. That is, you might not be making sufficient time for it and this might be causing your unhappiness.
9. You surround yourself with toxic people
You might find yourself thinking that you have nothing to complain about since you have a loving partner and a big group of friends. While this may be true, you might need to step back and ask yourself if these people are doing more harm than good. A lot of the time, we do not realize that our unhappiness is fueled by external, toxic energy.
10. You are stuck in the past
There is no point in looking back and reliving the past. In the present, you will find the place and time to change your life. Focus on what lies in front of you and work towards your happiness. The past will never change, no matter how much thought and time you give it.
11. Alternatively, you focus on the future
This point is similar to the previous one as it once again suggests that your unhappiness can be due to the fact that you are not living in the moment. In the same way that you cannot change the past, you cannot know what the future holds. Live your life in the present, live it fully, and hope for the best.
12. You are unhealthy
Being unhealthy can impact your mental health more than you may realize. Getting enough sleep, eating right, staying hydrated and exercising from time-to-time can make a huge difference. Try and see for yourself!
13. You are a perfectionist
Expecting perfection from yourself and those around you is unrealistic and destructive. Everybody fails and everybody makes mistakes sometimes. Learn not to be hard on yourself, learn to be kind and love yourself – even when you make mistakes.
14. You are afraid of failure
Being afraid of failure means that you often tend to avoid things that might make you happy. In other words, you could unintentionally be hindering your own happiness. Be brave and know that even if you fail, it is not the end of the world but rather, an experience and a lesson.
15. You are insecure
Feelings of insecurity can result in deep unhappiness. What is more, they can cause issues in your relationships and thus, lead to even deeper issues. Figure out what you need to work on to feel confident and secure in the person that you are and you will find happiness within.
16. You seek validation
Seeking validation from others will not make you happy as you are essentially placing your happiness in the hands of others. You must learn to be content and happy with who you are and what you do, without seeking the approval of others.
17. You neglect personal relationships
People need deep and meaningful connections in order to be happy; if you are neglecting your relationships – whether platonic, familial or romantic – this might be the reason behind your mysterious unhappiness. Make time for meaningful connections.
18. You are bored
Boredom can make you feel as though you lack a sense of purpose. Lacking a sense of purpose can in turn lead to serious mental and emotional issues as you find yourself living a life without fulfillment.
19. You have unrealized dreams
Unrealized dreams can leave you living a life of What ifs. This means that rather than living in the present and making most of the moment that is right there in front of you, you are stuck wondering what could have been. Either let go of those dreams or begin working on their realization.
20. You do not spend enough time alone
Spending time on your own is more important than a lot of people realize. This means doing something for yourself by yourself – even if it is just going for a walk in the park! Being on your own gives you the time and space to be honest with yourself about what you want and need in life.
21. You are dependent
Being dependent can leave a person feeling unhappy as they find themselves thinking that they are not self-sufficient and independent. Finding a job, living on your own and doing things for yourself will make you feel fulfilled and confident; this in turn, will increase your happiness.
22. You have no spiritual life
For some, unhappiness can stem from their lack of spiritual life. While not everybody feels this way, some people find that a spiritual life makes them feel more whole and thereby, more content with life.
23. You have no real friends
If you find that even though you have a big group of friends, there is nobody you can rely on, this might mean that you do not have any real friends. Work on strengthening existing relationships or build new ones with people who you will be proud to call friends.
24. You hate your job
Hating your job, your workplace or your colleagues can leave you feeling miserable. It is important that you find satisfaction and fulfillment in what you do on a regular basis; if it makes you unhappy, maybe it is time to let go and find what makes you happy.
25. You are impatient
Patience is a virtue and a skill which only a few have mastered. Sometimes, we have no other option but to wait. From waiting in queues to waiting for a call back after a job interview, we need to have patience. Being stressed and worried instead of calmly waiting for time to go by will drain you and leave you unhappy. Work on being patient in order to be happier.
26. You believe Comfort = Happiness
Being comfortable does not ensure that you will be happy. In fact, it is possible that your comfort can be causing your unhappiness. The reason behind this is that more often than not, people feel their happiest when they are overcoming challenges and achieving new things. Get out of your comfort zone to find your happiness.
27. You do not learn from your mistakes
Repeating the same mistakes over and over again can be extremely painful. Sometimes, we do not even realize that we are doing so. It is important that you learn from the things that cause you pain in order to ensure that you do not experience it again.
28. You are too concerned with the opinions of others
By trying to please those around you instead of focusing on what makes you happy, you are getting in the way of your happiness. Remember that your life is yours to live, however you wish to and with whoever you want to. Other people’s opinions should not matter because at the end of the day, it is you who is living this life – carve it out the way you want to live it.
29. You do not relax
Overworking yourself will leave you feeling drained, tired and unhappy. Whether it is making sure you get eight-hours worth of sleep or going on a week-long vacation, you need to unwind and recharge your batteries in order to feel happier.
30. Or maybe, you just do not have a dog!


iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--10 subtle signs you’re what’s known as a ‘Highly Sensitive Person’

Have you been called ‘ too sensitive ’ far too often ?
Have you been made fun of for crying at the end of a touching movie ?
Do you feel deeply moved by art in all of its forms ?
Chances are you ’ re a highly sensitive person ( HSP ) who loves deeply , values honesty , and truly appreciates the little things in life .
If you relate to the following signs , then you are definitely one of the few highly sensitive souls in this harsh , chaotic world .
Highly sensitive people feel every @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with every cell of their body .
The heat of the moment consumes them .
If you ’ re an HSP , then you perfectly know there is no in-between when it comes to feelings and emotions .
When you are happy , everyone around you can sense the beaming vibes in the air .
When you are sad , it feels like your whole being is aching .
Sometimes , others may note you ’ re overreacting to a certain situation , but it ’ s just the way your fragile mind @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to a not-so-sensitive person that you ’ re so overwhelmed with emotions that you need a spare heart to feel all the things you feel ?
Oftentimes , you spend a lot of time and energy worrying about what other people may or may not think about you .
Besides , jumping into conclusions is kind of your specialty .
You repeat the last words you said to someone just to look through all of the possible ways these words may have affected that person ’ s opinion or feelings about you .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ head of what may or may not happen and how you should have reacted in the first place .
Sadly , all of this emotional chaos is not only overwhelming you , but also leading you to anxiety and even depression .
That ’ s why it ’ s important for you to understand that in reality , things are almost never as bad as they seem .
3 .
You need more time to recharge .
For HSPs , having enough time to restore their energy and reconnect with themselves is vital @ @ @ @ @ @ @ feel comfortable in their own skin .
What they need is a little more time than usual to reflect and think through a certain situation that left them mindblown or deeply overwhelmed .
And in most cases , they need to spend this extra time alone with their own thoughts .
However , needing some time on their own doesn ’ t mean all HSPs are introverts .
It simply means they genuinely cherish their alone time more than others .
If you ’ re a highly sensitive person , then words have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ most people .
While compliments and other positive words can entirely change your whole mood , hearing criticism , or being involved in conflicts , gets painfully deep under your skin .
This often leads to you being too hard on yourself and believing that everything is your fault , even when you had nothing to do with it .
However , it can still be conquered .
What you need to do is simply stop letting other people ’ s judgments define who you are .
The only person who has the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ !
Never forget that .
Usually , you prefer to have some defined order in your life .
You have created a certain routine that helps you control your feelings , emotions , and life in general .
This routine makes you feel like you have it all together and gives you a slight sense of comfort .
On the other hand , change can shake you to your core .
If things aren ’ t going to plan , you feel like you ’ re no longer in control , which rapidly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is you just need to accept that you need a little more time than others to adjust to change .
That emotional roller coaster we mentioned before often makes your eyes water .
Even something as trivial as watching ‘ Titanic ’ for the 17th time can leave you in tears .
After all , these two had only each other .
How can someone not be moved by their heart-tearing story ?
However , sad romantic movies are not the only thing that makes you cry .
Your soul trembles to utter @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , and so much more .
The best thing is that by crying your eyes out as often as you do , you realize the cathartic essence of this simple way of expressing your emotions .
7 .
You can ’ t just ‘ let it go ’ .
Many times , when you are visibly deeply affected by something , the people around you will tell you : “ Just let it go and move on.
” While they might have nothing but good intentions while saying this , they usually have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s like to be highly sensitive .
No , you can not let things go .
Your soul isn ’ t capable of moving on as if nothing happened .
So , your friends and family need to understand that a simple cliche phrase doesn ’ t have the power to calm your spirits and help you forgive and forget .
Yes , you are highly sensitive .
No , it is not a sin to feel deeply and catch vibes more easily than others .
Sadly , being called ‘ too sensitive @ @ @ @ @ @ @ no value to others .
It makes you feel like your sensitivity is a weakness , while it ’ s actually what makes you unique .
It makes you kinder , more empathetic , more reflective , and even more self-aware .
It makes you , well , YOU .
People who don ’ t take others ’ feelings into account outrage you .
You just can not come into terms with the idea that someone can carelessly say whatever pops into their minds , even if their words or actions can hurt @ @ @ @ @ @ @ highly sensitive doesn ’ t end with being overwhelmed by emotions and feelings .
It also means that your soul is so delicate that all forms of art and beauty deeply move you .
Gazing at the night sky , listening to a stirring melody , staring at a marvelous piece of art , even tasting a delicious meal can have an incredibly intense impact on you .
You appreciate every single detail and pick up on every tiny signal around you with an admirable tenderness .
This is one of the greatest @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a highly sensitive person living in a cold world , you may struggle more , but you also love more and cherish every little thing that makes life so bewildering .
Sensitivity is power , not a weakness .
Embrace that .

Have you been called ‘too sensitive’ far too often?
Have you been made fun of for crying at the end of a touching movie? Do you feel deeply moved by art in all of its forms? Chances are you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) who loves deeply, values honesty, and truly appreciates the little things in life.
If you relate to the following signs, then you are definitely one of the few highly sensitive souls in this harsh, chaotic world.
1. You’re on a constant emotional roller coaster.
“Sometimes I think, I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.”
Sanober Khan
Highly sensitive people feel every single emotion, positive and negative, with every cell of their body. The heat of the moment consumes them. If you’re an HSP, then you perfectly know there is no in-between when it comes to feelings and emotions. When you are happy, everyone around you can sense the beaming vibes in the air. When you are sad, it feels like your whole being is aching. Sometimes, others may note you’re overreacting to a certain situation, but it’s just the way your fragile mind works. But how can you explain to a not-so-sensitive person that you’re so overwhelmed with emotions that you need a spare heart to feel all the things you feel?
2. You’re prone to anxiety and depression.
Oftentimes, you spend a lot of time and energy worrying about what other people may or may not think about you. Besides, jumping into conclusions is kind of your specialty. You repeat the last words you said to someone just to look through all of the possible ways these words may have affected that person’s opinion or feelings about you. You fictionize thousands of scenarios in your head of what may or may not happen and how you should have reacted in the first place. Sadly, all of this emotional chaos is not only overwhelming you, but also leading you to anxiety and even depression. That’s why it’s important for you to understand that in reality, things are almost never as bad as they seem.
3. You need more time to recharge.
For HSPs, having enough time to restore their energy and reconnect with themselves is vital. Otherwise, they don’t feel comfortable in their own skin. What they need is a little more time than usual to reflect and think through a certain situation that left them mindblown or deeply overwhelmed. And in most cases, they need to spend this extra time alone with their own thoughts. However, needing some time on their own doesn’t mean all HSPs are introverts. It simply means they genuinely cherish their alone time more than others.
4. You internalize criticism and conflict.
If you’re a highly sensitive person, then words have a deeper meaning to you than to most people. While compliments and other positive words can entirely change your whole mood, hearing criticism, or being involved in conflicts, gets painfully deep under your skin. This often leads to you being too hard on yourself and believing that everything is your fault, even when you had nothing to do with it. However, it can still be conquered. What you need to do is simply stop letting other people’s judgments define who you are. The only person who has the power to define your self-worth is you! Never forget that.
5. You fear change.
Usually, you prefer to have some defined order in your life. You have created a certain routine that helps you control your feelings, emotions, and life in general. This routine makes you feel like you have it all together and gives you a slight sense of comfort. On the other hand, change can shake you to your core. If things aren’t going to plan, you feel like you’re no longer in control, which rapidly intensifies your stress levels. The truth is you just need to accept that you need a little more time than others to adjust to change.
6. You cry. A lot.
That emotional roller coaster we mentioned before often makes your eyes water. Even something as trivial as watching ‘Titanic’ for the 17th time can leave you in tears. After all, these two had only each other. How can someone not be moved by their heart-tearing story? However, sad romantic movies are not the only thing that makes you cry. Your soul trembles to utter happiness, mesmerizing views, touching memories, and so much more. The best thing is that by crying your eyes out as often as you do, you realize the cathartic essence of this simple way of expressing your emotions.
7. You can’t just ‘let it go’.
Many times, when you are visibly deeply affected by something, the people around you will tell you: “Just let it go and move on.” While they might have nothing but good intentions while saying this, they usually have little to no idea what it’s like to be highly sensitive. No, you cannot let things go. Your soul isn’t capable of moving on as if nothing happened. So, your friends and family need to understand that a simple cliche phrase doesn’t have the power to calm your spirits and help you forgive and forget.
8. You’ve been called ‘too sensitive’ like it’s a bad habit.
Yes, you are highly sensitive. No, it is not a sin to feel deeply and catch vibes more easily than others. Sadly, being called ‘too sensitive’ often feels like your emotions have no value to others. It makes you feel like your sensitivity is a weakness, while it’s actually what makes you unique. It makes you kinder, more empathetic, more reflective, and even more self-aware. It makes you, well, YOU.
“I used to dislike being sensitive. I thought it made me weak. But take away that single trait, and you take away the very essence of who I am. You take away my conscience, my ability to empathize, my intuition, my creativity, my deep appreciation for the little things, my vivid inner life, my keen awareness of other’s pain and my passion for it all.”
Caitlin Japa
9. You cannot stand insensitive people.
People who don’t take others’ feelings into account outrage you. You just cannot come into terms with the idea that someone can carelessly say whatever pops into their minds, even if their words or actions can hurt someone else’s feelings.
10. You’re deeply moved by beauty.
Being highly sensitive doesn’t end with being overwhelmed by emotions and feelings. It also means that your soul is so delicate that all forms of art and beauty deeply move you. Gazing at the night sky, listening to a stirring melody, staring at a marvelous piece of art, even tasting a delicious meal can have an incredibly intense impact on you. You appreciate every single detail and pick up on every tiny signal around you with an admirable tenderness. This is one of the greatest traits of highly sensitive people.
As a highly sensitive person living in a cold world, you may struggle more, but you also love more and cherish every little thing that makes life so bewildering.
Sensitivity is power, not a weakness. Embrace that.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--10 Crazily Confusing Signs He Has A Huge Crush On You

Men do funny things when they have a crush on someone , and , sometimes their signals can come across as a little weird .
In fact , you can even start believing a guy hates you if you don ’ t know exactly how to tell whether he likes you and translate the things he ’ s doing accurately .
But be sure : if a man does any of the following things , he ’ s been hoping to connect with you on a deeper level .
1 .
He looks at you like he ’ s being @ @ @ @ @ @ @ You catch him gazing at you with his eyes full of wonder , but only when he thinks you aren ’ t able to see him .
2 .
He laughs at everything he says Also known as nervous laughter , this is what happens when a guy freaks out over a girl he likes .
If he laughs at everything from disliking soft drinks to the ‘ stupid weather ’ , he is likely worried that you might think he ’ s a nerd .
3 .
When you talk about the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , he tries to fit into that category This funny way of showing that he is desperate for your approval can sometimes be hard to notice .
For instance , if you mention another man ’ s cool sense of humor , he might jokingly say , “ Hey , I can be funny , too.
” 4 .
He opens up to you on a deep level You dive into a meaningful , intimate conversation about his difficult past .
He opens up to a point where his eyes start to fill @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a sudden , he switches topics and tries to bring the conversation back to something more casual .
5 .
He goes crazy with his phone This happens when a man starts sending unexpected texts as soon as you stop answering .
It could be anything from telling you he wishes you all the best , to mentioning that he just got that new project of his going , to just sending a funny meme .
Whatever it may be , he is fishing for your attention .
And if you like him @ @ @ @ @ @ @ little encouragement .
6 .
He never told you about his feelings… But you heard from his friends that he ’ s really into you and often talks to them about you .
7 .
He doesn ’ t miss a chance to poke fun at you This is a game that some guys might play when they want to get to the next level with you but are too afraid to tell you how they feel .
And even though it may seem childish , this behavior is often a man ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fallen for you head over heels .
8 .
The way he acts has turned into attention-seeking craziness If he is often trying to shine by talking about his accomplishments , or if he ’ s doing crazy stunts in which he might end up hurt , don ’ t worry he ’ s just trying to impress you .
9 .
If you ask him whether he likes you more than just as a friend , he blushes and denies it Men don ’ t normally turn red when they ’ re @ @ @ @ @ @ @ no interest in , so , there you go .
People ’ s gut feelings rarely lie .
And that is exactly why we should listen to them more .
Are there any more signs you believe we may have missed here ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve found it of value .

Men do funny things when they have a crush on someone, and, sometimes their signals can come across as a little weird.
In fact, you can even start believing a guy hates you if you don’t know exactly how to tell whether he likes you and translate the things he’s doing accurately.
But be sure: if a man does any of the following things, he’s been hoping to connect with you on a deeper level.
1. He looks at you like he’s being hypnotized when you’re not looking
You catch him gazing at you with his eyes full of wonder, but only when he thinks you aren’t able to see him.
2. He laughs at everything he says
Also known as nervous laughter, this is what happens when a guy freaks out over a girl he likes. If he laughs at everything from disliking soft drinks to the ‘stupid weather’, he is likely worried that you might think he’s a nerd.
3. When you talk about the things you look for in a man, he tries to fit into that category
This funny way of showing that he is desperate for your approval can sometimes be hard to notice.
For instance, if you mention another man’s cool sense of humor, he might jokingly say, “Hey, I can be funny, too.”
4. He opens up to you on a deep level
You dive into a meaningful, intimate conversation about his difficult past. He opens up to a point where his eyes start to fill with tears and then, all of a sudden, he switches topics and tries to bring the conversation back to something more casual.
5. He goes crazy with his phone
This happens when a man starts sending unexpected texts as soon as you stop answering. It could be anything from telling you he wishes you all the best, to mentioning that he just got that new project of his going, to just sending a funny meme.
Whatever it may be, he is fishing for your attention. And if you like him too, you should give him a little encouragement.
6. He never told you about his feelings…
But you heard from his friends that he’s really into you and often talks to them about you.
7. He doesn’t miss a chance to poke fun at you
This is a game that some guys might play when they want to get to the next level with you but are too afraid to tell you how they feel.
And even though it may seem childish, this behavior is often a man’s final stand against admitting he has fallen for you head over heels.
8. The way he acts has turned into attention-seeking craziness
If he is often trying to shine by talking about his accomplishments, or if he’s doing crazy stunts in which he might end up hurt, don’t worry he’s just trying to impress you.
9. If you ask him whether he likes you more than just as a friend, he blushes and denies it
Men don’t normally turn red when they’re getting romantically approached by women they have no interest in, so, there you go.
10. You have a feeling…
People’s gut feelings rarely lie. And that is exactly why we should listen to them more.
Good luck, let’s hope he’s a keeper 🙂
Are there any more signs you believe we may have missed here? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve found it of value.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--6 things this 96-year-old man teaches us about love

Having been married for almost 75 years , this elderly couple still appreciates the importance of a date night .
In 2017 , a woman captured the moment the 96-year-old husband was feeding his 93-year-old wife who was suffering from Alzheimer ’ s .
The photograph and the caption which accompanied it can be seen below : As I was sitting eating my double cheeseburger at Wendy ’ s , I glanced over at this older couple , and thought ‘ That ’ s sweet ’ And continued with my meal .
But when I looked again , in between @ @ @ @ @ @ @ his wife .
My whole life I ’ ve yearned for a love that strong .
The gentleman got up from his seat to throw his food away and I couldn ’ t resist asking how long he and his wife had been married .
He looked at me and asked me to guess his age but not to guess too low .
After a few guesses he told me he was 96 and his wife is 93 who is suffering from Alzheimer ’ s .
This is their date night .
He @ @ @ @ @ @ @ it till June , they will be celebrating 75 years of marriage !
Getting all the way to the end of the line with the person you started out with is one of the most glorious things on the face of this earth .
Could a couple be more blessed than to have that happen ?
To share a deep love and bond that only grows as we age , that is a beautiful thing .
According to Aria Gmitter , this couple teaches us the following things about love and how we @ @ @ @ @ @ @ time goes by , couples forget the importance of date nights .
In fact , many do not even have a designated date night once they get married and have children .
Although it becomes difficult and expensive to arrange a night out once you have a family , it is important that you find a way to do so .
Date nights keep the love alive as a couple focuses on nothing else apart from each other .
This means that partners can voice and express any concerns they might have , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of what ’ s truly important .
2 .
It is the little things that matter most In the case of the elderly couple , the simple act of feeding your partner shows how deep the love is .
The same goes for all small gestures as they speak volumes about the feelings you hold for one another .
Actions often speak louder than words and this is especially true in love .
3 .
Romance does not have to be expensive Your date night does not have to be expensive : it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , a picnic or like this elderly couple , a dinner at Wendy ’ s .
Aria Gmitter comments on this as she writes : ‘ Focus on each other and you ’ ll have a relationship money could never buy ’ .
4 .
Do not worry about what others may think You should not care and it should not matter how you appear in public .
If you want to have your date night at a small and relatively inexpensive place – do so !
If you want to feed your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you need to do in order to feel closer to one another without worrying how you may appear to strangers .
5 .
Love is about giving without expectations This 96-year-old man reminds us that love is selfless : it is about giving without expecting absolutely anything in return .
6 .
It is not about what you have but what you do When it comes to love , it is your gestures and actions which make all the difference .
Money and material things do not speak as loudly as the gestures @ @ @ @ @ @ @

“In sickness and in health”.
Having been married for almost 75 years, this elderly couple still appreciates the importance of a date night.
In 2017, a woman captured the moment the 96-year-old husband was feeding his 93-year-old wife who was suffering from Alzheimer’s. The photograph and the caption which accompanied it can be seen below:
As I was sitting eating my double cheeseburger at Wendy’s, I glanced over at this older couple, and thought ‘That’s sweet’ And continued with my meal. But when I looked again, in between bites, I saw this gentleman feeding his wife. My whole life I’ve yearned for a love that strong. The gentleman got up from his seat to throw his food away and I couldn’t resist asking how long he and his wife had been married. He looked at me and asked me to guess his age but not to guess too low. After a few guesses he told me he was 96 and his wife is 93 who is suffering from Alzheimer’s. This is their date night. He also told me that if they make it till June, they will be celebrating 75 years of marriage! Getting all the way to the end of the line with the person you started out with is one of the most glorious things on the face of this earth. Could a couple be more blessed than to have that happen? To share a deep love and bond that only grows as we age, that is a beautiful thing.
According to Aria Gmitter, this couple teaches us the following things about love and how we can make it last forever:
1. The importance of date night
As time goes by, couples forget the importance of date nights. In fact, many do not even have a designated date night once they get married and have children. Although it becomes difficult and expensive to arrange a night out once you have a family, it is important that you find a way to do so. Date nights keep the love alive as a couple focuses on nothing else apart from each other. This means that partners can voice and express any concerns they might have, making sure that they never lose track of what’s truly important.
2. It is the little things that matter most
In the case of the elderly couple, the simple act of feeding your partner shows how deep the love is. The same goes for all small gestures as they speak volumes about the feelings you hold for one another. Actions often speak louder than words and this is especially true in love.
3. Romance does not have to be expensive
Your date night does not have to be expensive: it can be a walk on the beach, a picnic or like this elderly couple, a dinner at Wendy’s. Aria Gmitter comments on this as she writes: ‘Focus on each other and you’ll have a relationship money could never buy’.
4. Do not worry about what others may think
You should not care and it should not matter how you appear in public. If you want to have your date night at a small and relatively inexpensive place – do so! If you want to feed your wife – do so! Do whatever you need to do in order to feel closer to one another without worrying how you may appear to strangers.
5. Love is about giving without expectations
This 96-year-old man reminds us that love is selfless: it is about giving without expecting absolutely anything in return.
6. It is not about what you have but what you do
When it comes to love, it is your gestures and actions which make all the difference. Money and material things do not speak as loudly as the gestures which show tremendous and profound love.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--Man, 84, in critical condition after being ruthlessly attacked outside his home

Man , 84 , in critical condition after being ruthlessly attacked outside his home Fighting for life : An 84-year-old man suffers critical injuries after being brutally assaulted outside his own home .
The elderly man was attacked on Sunday evening , outside his home in Cannington , Perth , Australia , Daily Mail reports .
At about 7 pm on Sunday , August 16 , the 84-year-old man heard a disturbance happening outside his Henry Street East property .
He went outside his home to check what was going on when he was brutally assaulted .
The monstrous attack @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , black eye , numerous deep cuts and covered in blood .
According to acting Detective Sergeant Alexandra Hill , the attackers used a weapon in the ‘ cowardly , disgusting and appalling act ’ .
Det Sgt Hill told Perth Now : After being found by police , the victim was taken to Royal Perth Hospital .
There , he is awaiting surgery in intensive care while being in critical condition .
There appeared to be no motive behind the nearly fatal act .
Officers have identified two white men aged between @ @ @ @ @ @ @ regarding the distressing incident .
In addition , the assaulted man ’ s personal vehicle , which was left with a smashed window and bloodstains , is also being used in the ongoing investigation .
On Sunday night , there were at least five other reports of damage and disturbance in the area .
The locations reported include Derisleigh Street , Henry Street , Burge Way , Railway Parade , and Central Terrace .
Police urged anyone who was in the area or has CCTV or dashcam footage of the assault to come @ @

Man, 84, in critical condition after being ruthlessly attacked outside his home
Man, 84, in critical condition after being ruthlessly attacked outside his home
Fighting for life: An 84-year-old man suffers critical injuries after being brutally assaulted outside his own home.
WARNING: Graphic Content
The elderly man was attacked on Sunday evening, outside his home in Cannington, Perth, Australia, Daily Mail reports.
At about 7 pm on Sunday, August 16, the 84-year-old man heard a disturbance happening outside his Henry Street East property. He went outside his home to check what was going on when he was brutally assaulted. The monstrous attack left the man with a broken nose, black eye, numerous deep cuts and covered in blood.
According to acting Detective Sergeant Alexandra Hill, the attackers used a weapon in the ‘cowardly, disgusting and appalling act’. Det Sgt Hill told Perth Now:
“This is an 84-year-old man who’s lived in this suburb for 40 years … and he’s been brutally assaulted in his front yard. They are horrific, horrific injuries that this man has sustained to his face.”
After being found by police, the victim was taken to Royal Perth Hospital. There, he is awaiting surgery in intensive care while being in critical condition.
There appeared to be no motive behind the nearly fatal act.
Officers have identified two white men aged between 25 and 35 as people of interest regarding the distressing incident.
In addition, the assaulted man’s personal vehicle, which was left with a smashed window and bloodstains, is also being used in the ongoing investigation.
On Sunday night, there were at least five other reports of damage and disturbance in the area. The locations reported include Derisleigh Street, Henry Street, Burge Way, Railway Parade, and Central Terrace. Police urged anyone who was in the area or has CCTV or dashcam footage of the assault to come forward.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-18--Glowing red tentacles of jellyfish-shaped lightning captured over Texas

McDonald Observatory specialist Stephen Hummel has photographed the magical , jellyfish-shaped lightning known as a red sprite .
Although red sprites are an extremely rare phenomenon which occurs for mere tenths of a second , Hummel has successfully captured the moment one of these sprites appeared .
According to the Business Insider , the photograph was taken “ from a ridge on Mount Locke in Texas ” on July 2 , 2020 .
The word ‘ sprite ’ is synonymous with elf or fairy .
For this reason , the late University of Alaska physics professor Davis Sentman used this @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , fairy-like phenomenon .
The Mind Unleashed explains that sprites were first discovered in 1989 and have since been spotted over every continent apart from Antarctica .
Due to its relatively recent discovery , there has not been sufficient research on the phenomenon .
Sprites are enormous and can be seen from space .
Hummel has reportedly stated that the sprite in the above photograph was enormous , spanning “ probably around 30 miles long and 30 miles tall ” .
What is more , sprites can even be seen from a distance @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are caused due to the positive electrical energy which lightning releases when it strikes the ground ; taking this further , The Mind Unleashed claims that they occur because this positive energy needs to be “ balanced out by equal and oppositely charged energy elsewhere in the sky ” .
What is more , according to the Business Insider , the glowing red color is due to the nitrogen gas which floats in the Earth ’ s atmosphere and gets excited by the electricity .
Several people have been lucky enough to spot @ @ @ @ @ @ @ magical sprite .
Twitter user and Executive Editor of The Atlantic , Adrienne LaFrance has posted two photographs of this majestic phenomenon : one taken from the ground and one taken by NASA from space .
Hummel has further said that “ sprites usually appear to the eye as very brief , dim , grey structures .
You need to be looking for them to spot them , and oftentimes I am not certain I actually saw one until I check the camera footage to confirm ” .
So , the next time @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you too might get lucky !

McDonald Observatory specialist Stephen Hummel has photographed the magical, jellyfish-shaped lightning known as a red sprite.
Although red sprites are an extremely rare phenomenon which occurs for mere tenths of a second, Hummel has successfully captured the moment one of these sprites appeared. According to the Business Insider, the photograph was taken “from a ridge on Mount Locke in Texas” on July 2, 2020.
The word ‘sprite’ is synonymous with elf or fairy.
For this reason, the late University of Alaska physics professor Davis Sentman used this term as a name for this magical, fairy-like phenomenon. The Mind Unleashed explains that sprites were first discovered in 1989 and have since been spotted over every continent apart from Antarctica. Due to its relatively recent discovery, there has not been sufficient research on the phenomenon.
Sprites are enormous and can be seen from space.
Hummel has reportedly stated that the sprite in the above photograph was enormous, spanning “probably around 30 miles long and 30 miles tall”. What is more, sprites can even be seen from a distance of around 300 miles away! Sprites are caused due to the positive electrical energy which lightning releases when it strikes the ground; taking this further, The Mind Unleashed claims that they occur because this positive energy needs to be “balanced out by equal and oppositely charged energy elsewhere in the sky”. What is more, according to the Business Insider, the glowing red color is due to the nitrogen gas which floats in the Earth’s atmosphere and gets excited by the electricity.
Several people have been lucky enough to spot and document the moment they witnessed a magical sprite.
Twitter user and Executive Editor of The Atlantic, Adrienne LaFrance has posted two photographs of this majestic phenomenon: one taken from the ground and one taken by NASA from space.
Here's some sprite lightning as photographed from the International Space Station in August 2015. City lights in an orbital blur, a flash of red, stars everywhere. It is so unbelievably cool we get to live on this planet. (credit: NASA/Expedition 44) pic.twitter.com/G1Ie7Z4II7 — Adrienne LaFrance (@AdrienneLaF) August 15, 2020
Hummel has further said that “sprites usually appear to the eye as very brief, dim, grey structures. You need to be looking for them to spot them, and oftentimes I am not certain I actually saw one until I check the camera footage to confirm”.
So, the next time there is a storm, observe and you too might get lucky!


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--Florida airport evacuated after a live missile was found in a cargo container

French-made S-530 air-to-air missile was found in a shipping container at Lakeland Linder International Airport in Florida .
A contractor working at Lakeland Linder International Airport was shocked to find a live missile in a container .
This discovery was shocking as Lakeland Linder is an airport for private jets and is therefore not associated with the military .
The missile was found Friday afternoon and the airport was evacuated immediately .
Air Force bomb squad was called to remove the missile .
Shortly after the missile had been found , bomb disposal experts were called to remove the warhead @ @ @ @ @ @ @ live but not armed .
The distinction between these two things is explained by Air Force 1st Lt. Brandon Hanner , a spokesman for the 6th Air Refueling Wing : It was like having a gun with bullet in chamber , but on safety .
Someone would have to arm the missile to fire it .
It was live , but unarmed .
It is unclear how the missile ended up at Lakeland Linder International Airport .
The container is reported to have originally belonged to Draken International , an aerospace and defense @ @ @ @ @ @ @ company has spoken about the explosive discovery to a local news station as they said : Draken International , in the process of evaluating arriving shipments discovered something questionable and potentially explosive .
Adhering to the explosive safety rule of exposing the minimum amount of people for the minimum amount of time to a potential explosive hazard the decision was made to evacuate the facility and its surrounding neighbors and contact the appropriate authorities .
Draken takes its roll in the community seriously and always wants to ensure it performs safe and reliable @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Conrad explained : “ I ’ ve been here for 10 years and Draken has been here since 2011 , but this is a first ” .
Thankfully , nobody was harmed and the missile was safely removed from the airport .

French-made S-530 air-to-air missile was found in a shipping container at Lakeland Linder International Airport in Florida.
A contractor working at Lakeland Linder International Airport was shocked to find a live missile in a container. This discovery was shocking as Lakeland Linder is an airport for private jets and is therefore not associated with the military. The missile was found Friday afternoon and the airport was evacuated immediately.
Air Force bomb squad was called to remove the missile.
Shortly after the missile had been found, bomb disposal experts were called to remove the warhead. Daily Mail reports that it was live but not armed. The distinction between these two things is explained by Air Force 1st Lt. Brandon Hanner, a spokesman for the 6th Air Refueling Wing:
It was like having a gun with bullet in chamber, but on safety. Someone would have to arm the missile to fire it. It was live, but unarmed.
It is unclear how the missile ended up at Lakeland Linder International Airport.
The container is reported to have originally belonged to Draken International, an aerospace and defense company. Business Insider claims that the company has spoken about the explosive discovery to a local news station as they said:
Draken International, in the process of evaluating arriving shipments discovered something questionable and potentially explosive. Adhering to the explosive safety rule of exposing the minimum amount of people for the minimum amount of time to a potential explosive hazard the decision was made to evacuate the facility and its surrounding neighbors and contact the appropriate authorities. Draken takes its roll in the community seriously and always wants to ensure it performs safe and reliable operations.
Moreover, airport director Eugene Conrad explained: “I’ve been here for 10 years and Draken has been here since 2011, but this is a first”.
Thankfully, nobody was harmed and the missile was safely removed from the airport.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--Britney Spears wants her father Jamie removed as conservator

Jamie Spears has been Britney ’ s conservator since her breakdown in 2008 .
A conservatorship is a legal concept whereby a conservator is appointed to take care of the financial affairs of someone on account of their mental or physical limitations .
In the case of Britney Spears , her father Jamie was appointed as conservator of her estate and finances following her breakdown 12 years ago in 2008 .
Now , Britney wants Jamie removed as her permanent conservator .
TMZ has reported that the pop star wants Jodi Montgomery to take over instead .
Jodi Montgomery has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ almost a year and now , she wants her to take on the role permanently .
The star ’ s court-appointed attorney has filed court documents which reflect these wishes .
In addition , TMZ claims that Britney does not want Jamie to be the only one handling her estate ( as he has been managing it exclusively since 2019 ) .
Britney is said to prefer a “ qualified corporate fiduciary ” instead , however it is unclear whether or not this will be alongside her father or if she does not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Britney Spears no longer wants to perform .
According to Daily Mail , Britney ’ s attorney Samuel Ingham has stated : “ We are now at a point where the conservatorship must be changed substantially in order to reflect the major changes in her current lifestyle and her stated wishes “ .
The pop star has not performed live since October 2018 and does not wish to continue performing .
This request comes after the # FreeBritney and Free Britney Movement took over social media .
Daily Mail reported that recently @ @ @ @ @ @ @ even some celebrities – believed a conspiracy theory that the star was being abused and “ held hostage by her caretakers ” .
As a result , they ’ ve been signing petitions and even protesting in hopes of having the star ’ s conservatorship removed .
The next case hearing on the matter was scheduled for Wednesday .

Jamie Spears has been Britney’s conservator since her breakdown in 2008.
A conservatorship is a legal concept whereby a conservator is appointed to take care of the financial affairs of someone on account of their mental or physical limitations. In the case of Britney Spears, her father Jamie was appointed as conservator of her estate and finances following her breakdown 12 years ago in 2008. Now, Britney wants Jamie removed as her permanent conservator.
TMZ has reported that the pop star wants Jodi Montgomery to take over instead.
Jodi Montgomery has been Britney’s temporary conservator for almost a year and now, she wants her to take on the role permanently. The star’s court-appointed attorney has filed court documents which reflect these wishes. In addition, TMZ claims that Britney does not want Jamie to be the only one handling her estate (as he has been managing it exclusively since 2019). Britney is said to prefer a “qualified corporate fiduciary” instead, however it is unclear whether or not this will be alongside her father or if she does not want Jamie as a co-conservator at all.
Britney Spears no longer wants to perform.
According to Daily Mail, Britney’s attorney Samuel Ingham has stated: “We are now at a point where the conservatorship must be changed substantially in order to reflect the major changes in her current lifestyle and her stated wishes“. The pop star has not performed live since October 2018 and does not wish to continue performing.
This request comes after the #FreeBritney and Free Britney Movement took over social media.
Daily Mail reported that recently, Britney’s fans – and even some celebrities – believed a conspiracy theory that the star was being abused and “held hostage by her caretakers”. As a result, they’ve been signing petitions and even protesting in hopes of having the star’s conservatorship removed.
The next case hearing on the matter was scheduled for Wednesday.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--Avoid these 6 types of toxic relationships like the plague

Nothing drains your energy , productivity , and happiness more than working in a toxic environment .
If you have already experienced the struggle of spending eight hours a day with people that make you hate Mondays with every cell of your body , then you know what toxic working environment actually means .
It ’ s not just a modern way to say you don ’ t fancy your job , but rather a severe issue millions of people are dealing with on a daily basis .
A study published in the January-February 2013 issue of Harvard Business Review @ @ @ @ @ @ @ people have reported experiencing toxic behavior at work .
It turned out that working in an overwhelming environment makes employees less committed to their organization , significantly decreases their productivity , and rapidly lowers their quality of work .
Unfortunately , we can not control the toxicity of others .
However , we can control the way we react to it .
Being able to recognize toxicity in an early stage and control it has the power to alter the course of a relationship , as noted by Dr. Travis Bradberry , author @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ .
Just like any other obstacle in life , you must first understand what ’ s making a certain type of relationship toxic to be able to overcome it .
In the best-case scenario , by understanding the cause of toxicity , you will be able to eliminate it and control the course of the relationship into your favor .
But even if you can ’ t fight the cause , at least you will know which interactions to avoid .
Below are listed 6 common types of toxic relationships you need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your own mental health .
Whether it ’ s a manager who forces you to do all the dirty work or a co-worker who does the bare minimum and leaves all the responsibilities to you , passive-aggressive relationships can be found everywhere in the working hierarchy .
That ’ s because many people fail to understand what working ethic truly is about .
These unethical beings have little to no understanding of what teamwork truly means .
It ’ s all about avoiding the problem and handing it to someone else for them @ @ @ @ @ @ @ becomes invisible to colleagues who build their relationships on lies .
They get so caught up in the stories they tell , that they often forget what ’ s real and what ’ s just an embellishment .
That ’ s when the lies pile up .
You should always be careful around people who can not give you straight answers and would rather tell you a whole story to keep your mind off the serious matter .
Relationships are all about partnership .
If there is no mutual effort and understanding , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fades away .
When it comes to one-sided relationships in the workplace , this can severely affect the whole working process .
So , as hard as it may be , the best way to oppose such toxicity is to stop giving .
Stop being the only one putting effort into making the relationship work .
And when this isn ’ t possible , try to have a frank conversation with the other one involved in this interaction about the way their indifference affects both of you .
Everyone makes mistakes at work @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s important here is how you react to those mistakes , whether you were the one in the wrong or not .
Some employees get so obsessed with their co-workers ’ errors , that they forget they can fall into the same situation themselves .
They start acting like a single mistake can erase all the trust that has been built over time and refuse to give forgiveness .
But when they are the ones in the wrong , they expect you to forgive them in the blink of an eye .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ idealize a colleague a little too soon .
It ’ s considered toxic because it washes away the boundaries you usually need for a healthy working environment .
A clear illustration of suchlike relationship is when you just assume your co-worker is right even when their actions are against your personal beliefs or defy your understanding of working ethic .
In this case , it ’ s crucial for you to remember to stay objective , no matter how great you believe a certain colleague of yours is .
These kinds of relationships @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the other one for certain actions that don ’ t meet their initial expectations .
People with suchlike punitive instincts believe they can just punish whomever they want without fully understanding the situation .
And what ’ s most frustrating about these relationships is that when you try to make thins clear and explain why you behaved a certain way , the other party refuses to accept your explanation and labels you as ‘ too sensitive ’ .
While maintaining an emotional distance from a toxic co-worker or an entire overwhelming working environment @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s vital for preserving your own wellbeing .
Luckily , once you ’ ve identified the cause of toxicity in the workplace , it gets quite easier to overcome it .
You just need to be a little patient .
Learning how to control toxic relationships in order to keep your mental health on track is definitely worth the effort .

Nothing drains your energy, productivity, and happiness more than working in a toxic environment.
If you have already experienced the struggle of spending eight hours a day with people that make you hate Mondays with every cell of your body, then you know what toxic working environment actually means. It’s not just a modern way to say you don’t fancy your job, but rather a severe issue millions of people are dealing with on a daily basis.
A study published in the January-February 2013 issue of Harvard Business Review, has found that 98% of people have reported experiencing toxic behavior at work. It turned out that working in an overwhelming environment makes employees less committed to their organization, significantly decreases their productivity, and rapidly lowers their quality of work.
Unfortunately, we cannot control the toxicity of others. However, we can control the way we react to it. Being able to recognize toxicity in an early stage and control it has the power to alter the course of a relationship, as noted by Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of the book ‘Emotional Intelligence 2.0’.
Just like any other obstacle in life, you must first understand what’s making a certain type of relationship toxic to be able to overcome it. In the best-case scenario, by understanding the cause of toxicity, you will be able to eliminate it and control the course of the relationship into your favor. But even if you can’t fight the cause, at least you will know which interactions to avoid.
Below are listed 6 common types of toxic relationships you need to avoid if you want to preserve your own mental health.
1. Passive-aggressive relationships.
Whether it’s a manager who forces you to do all the dirty work or a co-worker who does the bare minimum and leaves all the responsibilities to you, passive-aggressive relationships can be found everywhere in the working hierarchy. That’s because many people fail to understand what working ethic truly is about. These unethical beings have little to no understanding of what teamwork truly means. It’s all about avoiding the problem and handing it to someone else for them.
2. Relationships built on lies.
The line between facts and fiction becomes invisible to colleagues who build their relationships on lies. They get so caught up in the stories they tell, that they often forget what’s real and what’s just an embellishment. That’s when the lies pile up. You should always be careful around people who cannot give you straight answers and would rather tell you a whole story to keep your mind off the serious matter.
3. One-sided relationships.
Relationships are all about partnership. If there is no mutual effort and understanding, the whole point of maintaining a relationship fades away. When it comes to one-sided relationships in the workplace, this can severely affect the whole working process. So, as hard as it may be, the best way to oppose such toxicity is to stop giving. Stop being the only one putting effort into making the relationship work. And when this isn’t possible, try to have a frank conversation with the other one involved in this interaction about the way their indifference affects both of you.
4. Relationships that lack forgiveness and trust.
Everyone makes mistakes at work. It’s inevitable. What’s important here is how you react to those mistakes, whether you were the one in the wrong or not. Some employees get so obsessed with their co-workers’ errors, that they forget they can fall into the same situation themselves. They start acting like a single mistake can erase all the trust that has been built over time and refuse to give forgiveness. But when they are the ones in the wrong, they expect you to forgive them in the blink of an eye.
5. Idealistic relationships.
That’s when you begin to idealize a colleague a little too soon. It’s considered toxic because it washes away the boundaries you usually need for a healthy working environment. A clear illustration of suchlike relationship is when you just assume your co-worker is right even when their actions are against your personal beliefs or defy your understanding of working ethic. In this case, it’s crucial for you to remember to stay objective, no matter how great you believe a certain colleague of yours is.
6. Relationships based on punishment.
These kinds of relationships occur when one of the parties punishes the other one for certain actions that don’t meet their initial expectations. People with suchlike punitive instincts believe they can just punish whomever they want without fully understanding the situation. And what’s most frustrating about these relationships is that when you try to make thins clear and explain why you behaved a certain way, the other party refuses to accept your explanation and labels you as ‘too sensitive’.
While maintaining an emotional distance from a toxic co-worker or an entire overwhelming working environment can be incredibly difficult, it’s vital for preserving your own wellbeing. Luckily, once you’ve identified the cause of toxicity in the workplace, it gets quite easier to overcome it. You just need to be a little patient.
Learning how to control toxic relationships in order to keep your mental health on track is definitely worth the effort.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--7 Secret Things Every Man Wants From His Woman

We are all aware that flawless relationships don ’ t exist – even the most fulfilling relationships are built on negotiations and sacrifices .
But that doesn ’ t mean that we stop dreaming about the perfect relationship , where there are no fights and no issues to complain about .
It isn ’ t unheard of for a woman to dream about her prince on a white horse and her dream of a beautiful house , even if she knows her wishes have a chance of not being granted .
However – even though it isn ’ t often @ @ @ @ @ @ @ dreams .
They dream of an amazing wife and a life lived in perfect harmony .
Your man might avoid approaching you directly to help him make his dreams come true , so it is crucial that you familiarize yourself with them if you want to lift your relationship up a little .
So , here are 7 things your man secretly wants from you : 1 .
Be honest with him A man wants his woman to be totally honest .
And even though , as human beings , we are not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of it the better .
Do your best not to hide important things from him and talk openly about your needs and your worries .
He will love you even more for it .
Any smart man dreams of a partner who has various interests and can hold a meaningful conversation .
Challenge his ideas when you feel he might be wrong , explore different topics together , and complement each other intellectually .
An unexpected trip , a surprise dinner , or a spontaneous intimate adventure , your man will love you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ woman you love is every man ’ s dream .
4 .
Let him know when he makes you happy We all love a little confidence tickle .
Men love to hear they make their woman happy – so don ’ t hold back on telling your man when he makes you happy in your relationship .
This will make it even stronger .
5 .
To know that you love yourself A man cherishes a woman who takes good care of herself because she is confident in herself .
He loves you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not ashamed of who you are by taking care of your body and looks is impressive to him .
He feels lucky to have someone like you to share his life with .
Men greatly appreciate it when they ’ re being trusted with their own space and time .
If your man is going out with his buddies , let him have fun .
Trust him to be smart and act faithfully when you are not present , and he will love you even more for it .
Men love women who @ @ @ @ @ @ @ every little thing ( they ’ ve had enough of that with their mothers ) .
Even if he sometimes forgets to pick up after himself , try to be patient and don ’ t get too upset about it .
Rather , try to find ways to build him up and help him feel more valued because after all , he does it for you .
Your man might not admit to you that he would love to have more of these 7 things , but be sure , your relationship will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ We hope that this article was of help to you .
Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share if you ’ ve enjoyed the read .

We are all aware that flawless relationships don’t exist – even the most fulfilling relationships are built on negotiations and sacrifices.
But that doesn’t mean that we stop dreaming about the perfect relationship, where there are no fights and no issues to complain about.
It isn’t unheard of for a woman to dream about her prince on a white horse and her dream of a beautiful house, even if she knows her wishes have a chance of not being granted.
However – even though it isn’t often talked about – men also have such dreams. They dream of an amazing wife and a life lived in perfect harmony. Your man might avoid approaching you directly to help him make his dreams come true, so it is crucial that you familiarize yourself with them if you want to lift your relationship up a little.
So, here are 7 things your man secretly wants from you:
1. Be honest with him
A man wants his woman to be totally honest. And even though, as human beings, we are not capable of complete honesty, the more of it the better. Do your best not to hide important things from him and talk openly about your needs and your worries. He will love you even more for it.
Any smart man dreams of a partner who has various interests and can hold a meaningful conversation. Challenge his ideas when you feel he might be wrong, explore different topics together, and complement each other intellectually.
3. Surprises
An unexpected trip, a surprise dinner, or a spontaneous intimate adventure, your man will love you for it. Being surprised by the woman you love is every man’s dream.
4. Let him know when he makes you happy
We all love a little confidence tickle. Men love to hear they make their woman happy – so don’t hold back on telling your man when he makes you happy in your relationship. This will make it even stronger.
5. To know that you love yourself
A man cherishes a woman who takes good care of herself because she is confident in herself. He loves you regardless, but showing that you are not ashamed of who you are by taking care of your body and looks is impressive to him. He feels lucky to have someone like you to share his life with.
6. Trust
Men greatly appreciate it when they’re being trusted with their own space and time. If your man is going out with his buddies, let him have fun. Trust him to be smart and act faithfully when you are not present, and he will love you even more for it.
7. To feel appreciated
Men love women who don’t nag at them for every little thing (they’ve had enough of that with their mothers). Even if he sometimes forgets to pick up after himself, try to be patient and don’t get too upset about it. Rather, try to find ways to build him up and help him feel more valued because after all, he does it for you.
Your man might not admit to you that he would love to have more of these 7 things, but be sure, your relationship will be much stronger thanks to them.
We hope that this article was of help to you. Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share if you’ve enjoyed the read.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--I cry not because I am weak, but because I am sick of having to be strong all the time

I cry not because I am weak , but because I am sick of having to be strong all the time I am at my limits .
I am tired of feeling the need to be endlessly strong .
My body , my heart , and my soul feel an indescribable sense of exhaustion .
I am sick of pretending that everything is alright and I can no longer keep on pretending that I have it all under control .
I have always had this feeling that somehow I don ’ t have it in me to achieve all of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ my own .
I have always looked up to strong and independent people , but I have never thought I would become one of them .
And here I am today , walking among them .
But I believe I have reached my limits .
I held on for too long .
I ’ ve been strong for everyone around me and for myself .
And while I was trying to keep myself from falling , life was throwing more weight at me , while taking all the things I loved away from @ @ @ @ @ @ @ reset button .
I had forbidden myself to cry .
I feel like I am not allowed to break down because everyone expects me to be strong all the time .
They have become used to it because I ’ ve never shown my vulnerable , soft side to the world .
And that ’ s the core issue .
Because they don ’ t think I can bend for anything .
They believe I ’ ll be fine no matter what life throws at me .
That I have solutions for everything @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and independent .
But the truth is , I am hiding so much inside me .
When I am totally on my own , I sometimes cry myself to sleep because I am so tired of it all .
I don ’ t have the strength to be the rock that everyone keeps holding onto .
I , just like every other human being out there , need someone to be there for me when I ’ m at my weakest .
I need someone to hear me out and hug me .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ struggle .
I want to stop having to wear this ever-smiling mask .
I want to be able to show my weak side without being judged .
I want to have someone by my side… Someone I can rely on for a change… We hope that this article was of help to you .
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I cry not because I am weak, but because I am sick of having to be strong all the time
I cry not because I am weak, but because I am sick of having to be strong all the time
I am at my limits. I am tired of feeling the need to be endlessly strong.
My body, my heart, and my soul feel an indescribable sense of exhaustion.
I am sick of pretending that everything is alright and I can no longer keep on pretending that I have it all under control.
I have always had this feeling that somehow I don’t have it in me to achieve all of my goals. At least not on my own. I have always looked up to strong and independent people, but I have never thought I would become one of them. And here I am today, walking among them.
But I believe I have reached my limits.
I held on for too long. I’ve been strong for everyone around me and for myself. And while I was trying to keep myself from falling, life was throwing more weight at me, while taking all the things I loved away from me.
I need to hit the reset button.
I had forbidden myself to cry. I feel like I am not allowed to break down because everyone expects me to be strong all the time. They have become used to it because I’ve never shown my vulnerable, soft side to the world.
And that’s the core issue. Because they don’t think I can bend for anything. They believe I’ll be fine no matter what life throws at me. That I have solutions for everything – after all, I am strong and independent.
But the truth is, I am hiding so much inside me.
When I am totally on my own, I sometimes cry myself to sleep because I am so tired of it all. I don’t have the strength to be the rock that everyone keeps holding onto.
I, just like every other human being out there, need someone to be there for me when I’m at my weakest. I need someone to hear me out and hug me. Someone who will listen and understand my struggle.
I want to stop having to wear this ever-smiling mask.
I want to be able to show my weak side without being judged. I want to have someone by my side… Someone I can rely on for a change…
We hope that this article was of help to you. Let us know your thoughts on the topic and please share with your friends and family if you believe they might enjoy the read.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--Strong women don’t beg for love, they walk away as soon as they feel unwanted

Surely most women have found themselves in the following situation with a man : You meet a guy you ’ re intrigued by .
The sparks start flying and eventually you start dating .
Your feelings start becoming more intense and eventually , you fall in love , believing that you are each other ’ s soulmates .
And all of a sudden your dreamworld breaks into pieces as for some reason he realizes that he ’ s not ready for long-term commitment and just disappears from your life .
Your prince on a white horse has vanished and you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hope that he may one day come back asking to be forgiven .
And it ’ s more than normal to get furious and feel a strong need to get back at him or least to find him and tell him what a fool he is to let you go .
But trust me , it ’ s not worth the sweat .
Furthermore , messaging him and giving him even tiny bits of attention will make you look like an obsessive maniac .
So stop it – be the woman who has @ @ @ @ @ @ @ she feels unwanted .
Instead , spend your precious energy on investing in yourself , traveling , and meeting new , like-minded people .
Because even if you don ’ t want to admit it – the signs were there all along .
You just chose to ignore them .
And you kept on holding on and believing the lie .
Until he disappeared and broke your heart .
You mustn ’ t go through all this , because life is just too short to be wasted on chasing phantoms .
There ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ who would even be willing to take down the sky just to be with a woman like you .
And if you ’ re sitting all by yourself wondering how you can be sure that your partner is no longer into you , here are two red flags to look out for .
1 .
Spending time with you isn ’ t a priority for him Alright , let ’ s get one thing straight ; If a guy wants to see you – he will , no matter how busy he truly @ @ @ @ @ @ @ his promises to you and starts looking for excuses , just know that it may be time for you to look for happiness elsewhere .
2 .
He behaves in a way that shows you he doesn ’ t truly care Men are not hard to please and quite easy to read too .
You just need to look at their actions and not their words and you ’ ll understand how they feel about certain things .
If your guy acts like his mind is somewhere else when he ’ s with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not a priority for him .
And if he doesn ’ t care you shouldn ’ t care either .
It ’ s that simple .
True , sometimes a man will realize what he ’ s lost and start chasing his woman after she ’ s left him .
But that ’ s rarely the case , and let ’ s be real , life rarely plays out as a romantic movie .
In a perfect world , we should all end up with someone who doesn ’ t need to lose @ @ @ @ @ @ @ So , be strong , know your worth , and never beg for love , no matter how crushed you may feel .
Life will reward you for it !
We hope that you enjoyed this article .
Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share with your friends and family if you believe they would enjoy it too .

Surely most women have found themselves in the following situation with a man: You meet a guy you’re intrigued by.
The sparks start flying and eventually you start dating. Your feelings start becoming more intense and eventually, you fall in love, believing that you are each other’s soulmates.
And all of a sudden your dreamworld breaks into pieces as for some reason he realizes that he’s not ready for long-term commitment and just disappears from your life.
Your prince on a white horse has vanished and you’re left hanging on to a hope that he may one day come back asking to be forgiven.
And it’s more than normal to get furious and feel a strong need to get back at him or least to find him and tell him what a fool he is to let you go. But trust me, it’s not worth the sweat. Furthermore, messaging him and giving him even tiny bits of attention will make you look like an obsessive maniac.
So stop it – be the woman who has the strength and pride to leave when she feels unwanted.
Instead, spend your precious energy on investing in yourself, traveling, and meeting new, like-minded people. Because even if you don’t want to admit it – the signs were there all along. You just chose to ignore them. And you kept on holding on and believing the lie. Until he disappeared and broke your heart.
You mustn’t go through all this, because life is just too short to be wasted on chasing phantoms. There’s plenty of decent men out there who would even be willing to take down the sky just to be with a woman like you.
And if you’re sitting all by yourself wondering how you can be sure that your partner is no longer into you, here are two red flags to look out for.
1. Spending time with you isn’t a priority for him
Alright, let’s get one thing straight; If a guy wants to see you – he will, no matter how busy he truly is. But when he stops keeping his promises to you and starts looking for excuses, just know that it may be time for you to look for happiness elsewhere.
2. He behaves in a way that shows you he doesn’t truly care
Men are not hard to please and quite easy to read too. You just need to look at their actions and not their words and you’ll understand how they feel about certain things. If your guy acts like his mind is somewhere else when he’s with you, then you’re likely not a priority for him. And if he doesn’t care you shouldn’t care either. It’s that simple.
True, sometimes a man will realize what he’s lost and start chasing his woman after she’s left him. But that’s rarely the case, and let’s be real, life rarely plays out as a romantic movie.
In a perfect world, we should all end up with someone who doesn’t need to lose us to realize what they had.
So, be strong, know your worth, and never beg for love, no matter how crushed you may feel. Life will reward you for it!
We hope that you enjoyed this article. Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share with your friends and family if you believe they would enjoy it too.


iheartintelligence--2020-08-19--Why it’s better to settle down late than to settle down with the wrong person

Why it ’ s better to settle down late than to settle down with the wrong person You don ’ t have to settle down at the exact time as your peers do .
You don ’ t have to find your soulmate in your twenties .
You don ’ t have to be in line with the rest just because the pressure is on .
It is wiser to wait until you ’ ve met the right person than to settle with someone while you ’ re young just for the sake of it .
If you ’ ve @ @ @ @ @ @ @ past , you should not have to feel bad about being a lone wolf for a while .
In fact , you should feel pride for having the strength to endure the pain of loneliness until you ’ ve found the right one .
You should be happy for not settling for just anybody .
You shouldn ’ t be ashamed of being single .
You can be using this time for working on yourself and growing in your career so that when one day you do settle down , you wouldn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
There is no rule that can force you to settle down with someone your heart isn ’ t fully in touch with .
Even though your friends and colleagues have started to post photos of their weddings and newborn babies , you shouldn ’ t have to feel like you ’ re getting left behind .
It ’ s better to do things right than rush into something you ’ ll most likely regret later on .
Furthermore , not everyone meets their soulmate at a young age .
Many people are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ And that ’ s alright .
If you have to make a choice between being the last one in your friends circle to put on a ring or marrying the wrong person in order to fit in , then the first option should be the obvious choice .
You should always choose true happiness and fulfillment before mindless conformity .
Take your time and don ’ t lose your patience .
Do not go on convincing yourself you should be married and have a house at a certain age .
If you are @ @ @ @ @ @ @ take things slowly .
Don ’ t rush yourself into creating a family if you ’ re unsure about your feelings or if your financial situation is shaky .
If your relationship is meant to be , your other half won ’ t be going anywhere , no matter if you have a ring on your finger or not .
Don ’ t let the masses get into your head by telling you you should be rushing things “ before it ’ s too late.
” Don ’ t let society pressure you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you ’ re unsure about .
You should not have to feel pressure to marry the person you ’ re with because you ’ ve hit 30 and everyone around you has already tied the knot .
Marriage should be a choice made purely on the basis of true love and an unshakable need to spend your life with that person because you simply can not imagine existing without them .
So until you find the right one , you should not feel bad about staying single .
You should stick it out @ @ @ @ @ @ @ promise yourself you ’ ll be patient enough to wait for true love because otherwise , you might just miss out on true love entirely… Your time will come and happiness will shine upon you .
Just keep on going .
We hope that this article was of help to you .
Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share if you ’ ve enjoyed the read .

Why it’s better to settle down late than to settle down with the wrong person
Why it’s better to settle down late than to settle down with the wrong person
You don’t have to settle down at the exact time as your peers do.
You don’t have to find your soulmate in your twenties. You don’t have to be in line with the rest just because the pressure is on.
It is wiser to wait until you’ve met the right person than to settle with someone while you’re young just for the sake of it.
If you’ve had difficult and soul-crushing relationships in the past, you should not have to feel bad about being a lone wolf for a while. In fact, you should feel pride for having the strength to endure the pain of loneliness until you’ve found the right one. You should be happy for not settling for just anybody.
You shouldn’t be ashamed of being single.
You can be using this time for working on yourself and growing in your career so that when one day you do settle down, you wouldn’t have to worry about your finances. There is no rule that can force you to settle down with someone your heart isn’t fully in touch with.
Even though your friends and colleagues have started to post photos of their weddings and newborn babies, you shouldn’t have to feel like you’re getting left behind.
It’s better to do things right than rush into something you’ll most likely regret later on. Furthermore, not everyone meets their soulmate at a young age. Many people are meant to search a little longer. And that’s alright.
If you have to make a choice between being the last one in your friends circle to put on a ring or marrying the wrong person in order to fit in, then the first option should be the obvious choice. You should always choose true happiness and fulfillment before mindless conformity.
Take your time and don’t lose your patience.
Do not go on convincing yourself you should be married and have a house at a certain age. If you are not ready for marriage yet, then take things slowly. Don’t rush yourself into creating a family if you’re unsure about your feelings or if your financial situation is shaky.
If your relationship is meant to be, your other half won’t be going anywhere, no matter if you have a ring on your finger or not.
Don’t let the masses get into your head by telling you you should be rushing things “before it’s too late.”
Don’t let society pressure you into stepping inside the altar with someone you’re unsure about.
You should not have to feel pressure to marry the person you’re with because you’ve hit 30 and everyone around you has already tied the knot. Marriage should be a choice made purely on the basis of true love and an unshakable need to spend your life with that person because you simply cannot imagine existing without them.
So until you find the right one, you should not feel bad about staying single.
You should stick it out for the right one. You should promise yourself you’ll be patient enough to wait for true love because otherwise, you might just miss out on true love entirely…
Your time will come and happiness will shine upon you. Just keep on going.
We hope that this article was of help to you. Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share if you’ve enjoyed the read.