iheartintelligence--2020-12-02--Elderly Woman Euthanized to Avoid The Agony of Lockdown Loneliness

An elderly woman from Canada was put down by her doctor because she chose death over going through another coronavirus lockdown .
When she realized that she would have to spend two weeks in her room by herself , she asked for – and was given – the deadly injection due to a breakdown in mental health and vitality .
90-year-old Nancy Russell was described by her family as highly social and energetic .
They say she chose a medically assisted death ( MAID ) after she lost her will to live as she could not imagine going through another @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not have to suffer another lockdown in the care home .
Surprisingly , Nancy ’ s family was allowed to be by her side in her final moments .
They gathered around her bed and sang a song she had chosen to send her off to heaven while the doctor gave her the lethal injection .
Nancy was not allowed to have company while still alive , but somehow it was alright to have people over while she was dying… Her story is a prime example of the psychological harm the coronavirus lockdowns @ @ @ @ @ @ @ world .
Let us hope this nightmare will come to an end as we leave this dreadful year behind us .
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An elderly woman from Canada was put down by her doctor because she chose death over going through another coronavirus lockdown.
When she realized that she would have to spend two weeks in her room by herself, she asked for – and was given – the deadly injection due to a breakdown in mental health and vitality.
90-year-old Nancy Russell was described by her family as highly social and energetic. They say she chose a medically assisted death (MAID) after she lost her will to live as she could not imagine going through another winter in complete isolation.
Facing another retirement home lockdown, 90-year-old chooses medically assisted death https://t.co/2Icwl7D3eo — CTV Edmonton (@ctvedmonton) November 22, 2020
Her request was approved.
Nancy would not have to suffer another lockdown in the care home.
“She just truly did not believe that she wanted to try another one of those two-week confinements into her room,” her daughter Tory told CTV News.
Surprisingly, Nancy’s family was allowed to be by her side in her final moments.
They gathered around her bed and sang a song she had chosen to send her off to heaven while the doctor gave her the lethal injection.
Nancy was not allowed to have company while still alive, but somehow it was alright to have people over while she was dying…
Her story is a prime example of the psychological harm the coronavirus lockdowns are causing to lonely people around the world.
Let us hope this nightmare will come to an end as we leave this dreadful year behind us.
What are your thoughts on this heartbreaking story? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve found it of value.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-02--‘Catfishes’ show off unbelievable transformations – see them without make-up in this viral TikTok ch

‘ Catfishes ’ show off unbelievable transformations – see them without make-up in this viral TikTok challenge Get Catfished : A viral ‘ Catfish ’ TikTok trend has millions of social media users dumbfounded .
Sometimes we forget how powerful makeup can be .
Well , these proud ladies are here to remind us of the deceiving capabilities of heavy makeup .
In a viral social media challenge , talented women are proudly sharing their most wowing catfish moments .
As per Daily Mail , the trend began when 22-year-old Australian TikTok user @ moldogaa shared a Snapchat selfie with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ clip , she says : Since the video was posted earlier this year , it has gained a whopping 6.6 million views .
Other TikTok users started implementing the now-iconic catfish audio into their clips , and the game began .
The Catfish challenge has been done by over 122,000 people .
Thousands of TikTok users decided to take part in the funny trend while also showing mad makeup skills .
Many of them appear absolutely unrecognizable when they reveal their natural looks .
Since most of the challenge followers are women , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , “ Is this what girls are on ?
” Some of their reactions are even more hilarious than the Catfish trend itself .
Would you try the Catfish challenge ?
Have you ever catfished someone or been catfished ?
Let us know in the comment section !

‘Catfishes’ show off unbelievable transformations – see them without make-up in this viral TikTok challenge
‘Catfishes’ show off unbelievable transformations – see them without make-up in this viral TikTok challenge
Get Catfished: A viral ‘Catfish’ TikTok trend has millions of social media users dumbfounded.
Sometimes we forget how powerful makeup can be. Well, these proud ladies are here to remind us of the deceiving capabilities of heavy makeup.
In a viral social media challenge, talented women are proudly sharing their most wowing catfish moments. As per Daily Mail, the trend began when 22-year-old Australian TikTok user @moldogaa shared a Snapchat selfie with her 87,000 followers. In the short clip, she says:
“Just took this photo on Snapchat… I do NOT look like that! Catfish – MEOW!”
Since the video was posted earlier this year, it has gained a whopping 6.6 million views. Other TikTok users started implementing the now-iconic catfish audio into their clips, and the game began.
The Catfish challenge has been done by over 122,000 people.
Thousands of TikTok users decided to take part in the funny trend while also showing mad makeup skills. Many of them appear absolutely unrecognizable when they reveal their natural looks.
Since most of the challenge followers are women, guys couldn’t help but wonder, “Is this what girls are on?” Some of their reactions are even more hilarious than the Catfish trend itself.
Would you try the Catfish challenge? Have you ever catfished someone or been catfished? Let us know in the comment section!


iheartintelligence--2020-12-02--Man ‘held captive in Swedish flat by his mum’ is freed after 28 years

Man ‘ held captive in Swedish flat by his mum ’ is freed after 28 years A Swedish mother has been taken in by police after she allegedly kept her 41-year-old son imprisoned for 28 years in her apartment .
Police received a call , surprisingly after a family member broke into the flat and found the man locked inside .
The woman ’ s son was brought to a hospital after he was found extremely malnourished , had open wounds covering his legs , sores , was toothless , and hardly able to walk .
He was treated for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ mother and sealed off the flat .
According to local media reports the mother kept her son locked in the flat after pulling him out of school back in 1984 when he was 12-years-old .
The Aftonbladet newspaper reported that she was “ very overprotective ” of her child due to a “ family accident ” that took place many years ago .
According to the neighbors , the woman ’ s flat was in terrible condition and had a candle placed on the window for about 30 years .
They say she @ @ @ @ @ @ @ when asked about her son she would say he was “ fine ” and swiftly move to another subject .
Some neighbors say they never met her son and were not aware that he was living in the apartment until the arrival of the authorities .
One of the mother ’ s family members made the shocking discovering after suspecting she was controlling her son ’ s life but was not aware of the severity of the situation .
She broke into the apartment while the mother was in hospital for over a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a blanket on the kitchen floor .
The person said the apartment had not been cleaned in years and stunk of rotten food and urine .
Garbage was everywhere and it was difficult for her to walk through it .
The son was left with just a cheese sandwich , a bowl of chips , and a can of mackerel to last him for days .
The relative had not seen him in over 20 years , but he recognized her and whispered her name .
“ I ’ m in shock , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ relieved .
I ’ ve been waiting for this day for 20 years because I figured out that she was totally controlling his life , but I never imagined the extent of it , ” the relative said .
“ I ’ m just thankful that he got help and is going to survive.
” The mother is suspected of illegal deprivation of liberty causing physical injuries , Ola Osterling , a spokesperson for the Stockholm police told AFP .
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Man ‘held captive in Swedish flat by his mum’ is freed after 28 years
Man ‘held captive in Swedish flat by his mum’ is freed after 28 years
A Swedish mother has been taken in by police after she allegedly kept her 41-year-old son imprisoned for 28 years in her apartment.
Police received a call, surprisingly after a family member broke into the flat and found the man locked inside.
The woman’s son was brought to a hospital after he was found extremely malnourished, had open wounds covering his legs, sores, was toothless, and hardly able to walk.
He was treated for non-life-threatening injuries.
Police then arrested the mother and sealed off the flat.
According to local media reports the mother kept her son locked in the flat after pulling him out of school back in 1984 when he was 12-years-old.
The Aftonbladet newspaper reported that she was “very overprotective” of her child due to a “family accident” that took place many years ago.
Woman in Sweden suspected of keeping son locked up for 28 years https://t.co/hhlwNVYhFH — Los Angeles Times (@latimes) December 1, 2020
According to the neighbors, the woman’s flat was in terrible condition and had a candle placed on the window for about 30 years.
They say she would often chat with them, but when asked about her son she would say he was “fine” and swiftly move to another subject.
Some neighbors say they never met her son and were not aware that he was living in the apartment until the arrival of the authorities.
One of the mother’s family members made the shocking discovering after suspecting she was controlling her son’s life but was not aware of the severity of the situation.
She broke into the apartment while the mother was in hospital for over a week and found the man lying on a blanket on the kitchen floor.
The person said the apartment had not been cleaned in years and stunk of rotten food and urine.
Garbage was everywhere and it was difficult for her to walk through it.
The son was left with just a cheese sandwich, a bowl of chips, and a can of mackerel to last him for days.
Police in Sweden say an elderly woman is suspected of keeping her son locked in an apartment for nearly three decades:https://t.co/CL8hc6puCj — ABC News 4 (@ABCNews4) December 1, 2020
The relative had not seen him in over 20 years, but he recognized her and whispered her name.
“I’m in shock, brokenhearted, but at the same time relieved. I’ve been waiting for this day for 20 years because I figured out that she was totally controlling his life, but I never imagined the extent of it,” the relative said. “I’m just thankful that he got help and is going to survive.”
The mother is suspected of illegal deprivation of liberty causing physical injuries, Ola Osterling, a spokesperson for the Stockholm police told AFP.
She denies all allegations.
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iheartintelligence--2020-12-02--Armed bank robbers leave scattered cash on the road during getaway

Brazilian bank robbers left cash scattered across the streets after robbing a local bank in Criciúma , Santa Catarina .
• The robbers were armed with assault riffles and are believed to be specialised professionals .
• They held at least six people hostage and shot two others .
• Mayor Clésio Salvaro : “ I have no idea where they are from , but they are specialised.
” Dozens of armed robbers invaded Criciúma in the middle of the night as they launched an attack on a local bank .
Arriving in the city just before midnight , the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hostage for approximately two hours .
The New York Times reported that the gunmen ‘ wore head coverings and body armor , and were armed with powerful rifles and loads of explosives ’ .
Moreover , they allegedly used ‘ people as human shields ’ while they set off explosives at a local bank .
The detonation of the explosives resulted in bills flying into the air and scattering onto the streets of Criciúma .
In addition to this , according to the Daily Mail , the armed robbers held at least six @ @ @ @ @ @ @ including a police officer .
In a tweet , Mayor Clésio Salvaro warned people to stay at home .
While the terrifying events were unfolding , the mayor wrote “ Criciúma is the target of a major assault .
Together with the military authorities and security forces , we continue to monitor and follow the facts .
Stay at home .
VERY CAREFUL !
” In addition to this , the Daily Mail reported that Salvaro spoke to Radio Gaúcha and explained that three or four sites were robbed by the gunmen .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ no idea where they are from , but they are specialised .
We have never experienced this in the history of the city ” .
Salvaro also assured the people of Criciúma that the six hostages were not harmed , “ I talked to them .
They are well .
The information we have is that everyone was released ” .
Witnesses were left in a state of shock and panic .
The New York Times wrote that Bruno Adriano Della had been woken up by gunfire in the middle of the night @ @ @ @ @ @ @ which transpired reminded him of scenes from the Spanish crime drama Money Heist .
“ The whole city was in shock , and with gunshots everywhere .
Nobody knew what to do .
We were just praying that it would end , ” Della explained .
Although the police has not disclosed how much money was stolen , they have reportedly recovered a part of the stolen amount .
Furthermore , the Daily Mail claimed that four suspects have also been arrested .

Brazilian bank robbers left cash scattered across the streets after robbing a local bank in Criciúma, Santa Catarina.
The robbers were armed with assault riffles and are believed to be specialised professionals.
They held at least six people hostage and shot two others.
Mayor Clésio Salvaro: “I have no idea where they are from, but they are specialised.”
Dozens of armed robbers invaded Criciúma in the middle of the night as they launched an attack on a local bank.
Arriving in the city just before midnight, the armed robbers held the city of Criciúma hostage for approximately two hours. The New York Times reported that the gunmen ‘wore head coverings and body armor, and were armed with powerful rifles and loads of explosives’. Moreover, they allegedly used ‘people as human shields’ while they set off explosives at a local bank. The detonation of the explosives resulted in bills flying into the air and scattering onto the streets of Criciúma. In addition to this, according to the Daily Mail, the armed robbers held at least six locals hostage and shot two people, including a police officer.
December 1: People take money scattered on the floor after a mega robbery in the city of Criciúma – Brazil. Despite the tragedy, Christmas will be better for many people in need. The gang looks specialized and was armed with Bazooka.pic.twitter.com/4UTiavPir7 — Zel Florizel🇧🇷 (@ZellFlorizel) December 1, 2020
In a tweet, Mayor Clésio Salvaro warned people to stay at home.
While the terrifying events were unfolding, the mayor wrote “Criciúma is the target of a major assault. Together with the military authorities and security forces, we continue to monitor and follow the facts. Stay at home. VERY CAREFUL!” In addition to this, the Daily Mail reported that Salvaro spoke to Radio Gaúcha and explained that three or four sites were robbed by the gunmen. Furthermore, he disclosed “I have no idea where they are from, but they are specialised. We have never experienced this in the history of the city”. Salvaro also assured the people of Criciúma that the six hostages were not harmed, “I talked to them. They are well. The information we have is that everyone was released”.
Criciúma é alvo de um assalto de grandes proporções. Junto às autoridades militares e forças de segurança, seguimos monitorando e acompanhando o desenrolar dos fatos. Fiquem em casa. MUITO CUIDADO!#Criciúma #ClesioSalvaro #SantaCatarina pic.twitter.com/lebQ71aM9d — Clésio Salvaro (@ClesioSalvaro) December 1, 2020
Anselmo Cruz, a police supervisor commented on the organized gang:
The criminals clearly planned, prepared and invested beforehand […] This points to a group that came from outside. We don’t have criminals with this profile in Santa Catarina.
Witnesses were left in a state of shock and panic.
The New York Times wrote that Bruno Adriano Della had been woken up by gunfire in the middle of the night. The 20-year-old shared that the events which transpired reminded him of scenes from the Spanish crime drama Money Heist. “The whole city was in shock, and with gunshots everywhere. Nobody knew what to do. We were just praying that it would end,” Della explained.
Although the police has not disclosed how much money was stolen, they have reportedly recovered a part of the stolen amount. Furthermore, the Daily Mail claimed that four suspects have also been arrested.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Adorable koala made its way into a family home and climbed up their Christmas tree

An Australian family was left in shock when they found a live koala in their Christmas tree .
• After their dog began sniffing around the tree , the family noticed baubles on the floor .
• Looking up at their Christmas tree , they were shocked to find a live koala .
• A rescue team was called to remove the koala from the Adelaide home .
A family in Adelaide left their home at 3 pm and returned to an unexpected surprise 3 hours later .
On Wednesday , a family left their home in Coromandel Valley , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ leaving , 16-year-old Taylah made sure that the dog was outside , the doors were closed , and the lights were turned off .
However , the family returned to an unexpected visitor when they arrived back home at 6 pm .
Speaking to The Guardian , Taylah shared the family ’ s experience : I think the dog went straight to the Christmas tree and was sniffing around and Mum thought that was a bit weird .
There was baubles all over the floor … and she looked up and there was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ was pretty tangled up in the lights .
It was a fake tree and very old but she still tried eating the leaves off it … I saw her munch down on some but she stopped when she realised it was plastic .
I thought ‘ Is this a joke ?
’ I thought one of my kids may have put like a soft toy in there , but no , it was a live one .
We ’ ve had them in our trees before but not inside on our Christmas tree @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the doors were open , it would have been in our house for at least three hours .
The family quickly called a rescue group to remove the koala .
In a Facebook post , the Adelaide and Hills Koala Rescue group explained that when the hotline operator received the call , they thought they were being pranked .
According to the Guardian , the family had to try and convince the rescue team that they were not joking and that a koala truly had snuck into their home and climbed up their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ team arrived at the Adelaide home and removed the adorable visitor from the tree .

An Australian family was left in shock when they found a live koala in their Christmas tree.
After their dog began sniffing around the tree, the family noticed baubles on the floor.
Looking up at their Christmas tree, they were shocked to find a live koala.
A rescue team was called to remove the koala from the Adelaide home.
A family in Adelaide left their home at 3 pm and returned to an unexpected surprise 3 hours later.
On Wednesday, a family left their home in Coromandel Valley, Adelaide at around 3 pm. Before leaving, 16-year-old Taylah made sure that the dog was outside, the doors were closed, and the lights were turned off. However, the family returned to an unexpected visitor when they arrived back home at 6 pm. Speaking to The Guardian, Taylah shared the family’s experience:
I think the dog went straight to the Christmas tree and was sniffing around and Mum thought that was a bit weird. There was baubles all over the floor … and she looked up and there was a koala in the tree. It was pretty tangled up in the lights. It was a fake tree and very old but she still tried eating the leaves off it … I saw her munch down on some but she stopped when she realised it was plastic.
Taylah’s mother, Amanda McCormick, also commented:
I thought ‘Is this a joke?’ I thought one of my kids may have put like a soft toy in there, but no, it was a live one. We’ve had them in our trees before but not inside on our Christmas tree … It must have crawled in when the doors were open, it would have been in our house for at least three hours.
The family quickly called a rescue group to remove the koala.
In a Facebook post, the Adelaide and Hills Koala Rescue group explained that when the hotline operator received the call, they thought they were being pranked. According to the Guardian, the family had to try and convince the rescue team that they were not joking and that a koala truly had snuck into their home and climbed up their Christmas tree. Eventually, the rescue team arrived at the Adelaide home and removed the adorable visitor from the tree.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--‘We’re hustlers’: Amid coronavirus fears, this couple has made more than $100,000 reselling Lysol wi

‘We’re hustlers’: Amid coronavirus fears, this couple has made more than $100,000 reselling Lysol wipes

A Canadian couple has been profiting from the global crisis by buying Lysol wipes in bulk and selling them for an inflated price online .
• Manny Ranga and Violeta Perez have made over CAD $ 100,000 ( $ 72,000 ) .
• They bought disinfectant products in bulk every day and sold them for around 4 times their price .
• Violeta Perez : “ Everything we do , we ’ re in the moment .
We ’ re hustlers.
” While millions struggled worldwide , this Canadian couple profited off the fear and panic .
Manny Ranga and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 100,000 ( $ 72,000 ) by purchasing Lysol disinfectant wipes and liquids in bulk and selling them at an inflated rate .
According to the Toronto Star , the couple would visit Costco stores every day and spend thousands of dollars on Lysol wipes and liquid cleaners .
After this , they would sell them online for around four times their retail price .
Ranga reportedly explained that a six-pack of wipes would cost $ 20 .
Looking at their Amazon account “ Violeta & Sons Trading ltd ” , the Toronto Star @ @ @ @ @ @ @ six-pack for $ 89 .
The couple claimed that they are “ hustlers ” .
Ranga and Perez began their price-gouging after they were stopped by a woman outside a store .
The woman had seen that the couple had purchased supplies and hand-sanitizers and had offered to pay double the amount they paid for the sanitizers .
It was then that they had the idea to buy in bulk and sell online .
“ Everything we do , we ’ re in the moment .
We ’ re hustlers , ” explained @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the couple admitted to visiting Costcos in Vancouver , Richmond , and Burnaby every day .
Moreover , Perez disclosed that while many managers criticized their daily visits , others greeted them with a “ good for you ” attitude .
Ken Whitehurst , the executive director of the Consumers Council of Canada , commented : When asked if he felt bad about what he is doing , Ranga told the Toronto Star that unlike people who stock up on supplies for themselves , he is putting the products back on the market @ @ @ @ @ @ @ pay the pills .
With a regular job , I won ’ t be making this money , ” he said .
Fox 29 have reported that Amazon has suspended the couples account .

A Canadian couple has been profiting from the global crisis by buying Lysol wipes in bulk and selling them for an inflated price online.
Manny Ranga and Violeta Perez have made over CAD$100,000 ($72,000).
They bought disinfectant products in bulk every day and sold them for around 4 times their price.
Violeta Perez: “Everything we do, we’re in the moment. We’re hustlers.”
Amazon has suspended the couple’s account “Violeta & Sons Trading ltd”.
While millions struggled worldwide, this Canadian couple profited off the fear and panic.
Manny Ranga and Violeta Perez allegedly made over CAD$100,000 ($72,000) by purchasing Lysol disinfectant wipes and liquids in bulk and selling them at an inflated rate. According to the Toronto Star, the couple would visit Costco stores every day and spend thousands of dollars on Lysol wipes and liquid cleaners. After this, they would sell them online for around four times their retail price. Ranga reportedly explained that a six-pack of wipes would cost $20. Looking at their Amazon account “Violeta & Sons Trading ltd”, the Toronto Star found that the couple was selling the six-pack for $89.
The couple claimed that they are “hustlers”.
Ranga and Perez began their price-gouging after they were stopped by a woman outside a store. The woman had seen that the couple had purchased supplies and hand-sanitizers and had offered to pay double the amount they paid for the sanitizers. It was then that they had the idea to buy in bulk and sell online. “Everything we do, we’re in the moment. We’re hustlers,” explained Perez. The Toronto Star reported that the couple admitted to visiting Costcos in Vancouver, Richmond, and Burnaby every day. Moreover, Perez disclosed that while many managers criticized their daily visits, others greeted them with a “good for you” attitude.
Ken Whitehurst, the executive director of the Consumers Council of Canada, commented:
It makes you queasy in the stomach when people exploit an emergency solely for the purpose of making a few extra dollars.
When asked if he felt bad about what he is doing, Ranga told the Toronto Star that unlike people who stock up on supplies for themselves, he is putting the products back on the market. “I’ve got to pay the pills. With a regular job, I won’t be making this money,” he said.
Fox 29 have reported that Amazon has suspended the couples account.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Bodybuilder Who Fell In Love With Doll And Married It: ‘There Is A Tender Soul Inside’

Bodybuilder Who Fell In Love With Doll And Married It : ‘ There Is A Tender Soul Inside ’ Even though the advance of technology is a great thing for the most part , some inventions just do not help humanity advance in any way whatsoever .
Especially when certain inventions are put forward to replace human love .
It all started when Kazakhstani actor and bodybuilder , Yuri Tolochko first saw and immediately fell in love with Margo… the doll .
The two had met in a bar when she was being assaulted by another man .
Yuri claimed @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ever since the two have been inseparable .
One thing led to another , and very soon the couple decided to get married .
According to The Daily Star , Yuri had reasons to believe that she had been struggling with low self-esteem .
He said that she “ began to develop a complex ” ever since he announced their relationship to the world .
Yuri believes that the surgery helped Margo , and said : The unusual couple is now regularly posting pictures together doing all kinds of things , for everyone @ @ @ @ @ @ @ both have separate social media profiles .
They were even invited to Russian TV show , Comedy Club , to talk about their relationship .
But despite the show ’ s name , Yuri ’ s fans take his relationship with Margo very seriously .
The couple had dated for 8 months before taking their relationship to the next level .
Yuri sees Margo as a normal human being and even said they fight just like regular couples .
He was even able to get her a waitressing job at a bar but @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Yuri said that “ she swears but there is a tender soul inside ” and also loves Georgian cuisine .
Yuri says he is “ pansexual ” , which means he can fall in love with , The couple might have become an internet sensation , but there are some who still doubt the validity of their relationship .
Another person noted that the use of steroids might have damaged Yuri ’ s brain .
And someone even said that Yuri ’ s love for Margo is caused by a medical condition @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is : But this does not in any way change Yuri ’ s feelings for his wife .
At first , the wedding had been planned for March 2020 , but the pandemic derailed the couple ’ s plans .
Back then , Yuri made an Instagram post saying : But according to Start Tribune , the two eventually tied the knot in the company of family and friends in a magical wedding ceremony .
Wearing a black suit , Yuri was looking stunning beside his wife dressed in a white lace gown @ @ @ @ @ @ @ out to enjoy a night of dancing and drinking .
What are your thoughts on this unusual story ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve found it of value .

Bodybuilder Who Fell In Love With Doll And Married It: ‘There Is A Tender Soul Inside’
Bodybuilder Who Fell In Love With Doll And Married It: ‘There Is A Tender Soul Inside’
Even though the advance of technology is a great thing for the most part, some inventions just do not help humanity advance in any way whatsoever.
Especially when certain inventions are put forward to replace human love.
It all started when Kazakhstani actor and bodybuilder, Yuri Tolochko first saw and immediately fell in love with Margo… the doll. The two had met in a bar when she was being assaulted by another man. Yuri claimed he was able to save her and ever since the two have been inseparable. One thing led to another, and very soon the couple decided to get married.
According to The Daily Star, Yuri had reasons to believe that she had been struggling with low self-esteem.
He said that she “began to develop a complex” ever since he announced their relationship to the world.
“When I presented her photo to the world, there was a lot of criticism and she began to develop a complex so we decided to have plastic surgery,” he said.
View this post on Instagram A post shared by OddJack / Юрий Толочко (@yurii_tolochko)
Yuri believes that the surgery helped Margo, and said:
“She has changed a lot. At first, it was hard to accept but I got used to it later on. It was at a real clinic with real doctors.”
View this post on Instagram A post shared by OddJack / Юрий Толочко (@yurii_tolochko)
The unusual couple is now regularly posting pictures together doing all kinds of things, for everyone to see.
And surprisingly, they both have separate social media profiles. They were even invited to Russian TV show, Comedy Club, to talk about their relationship. But despite the show’s name, Yuri’s fans take his relationship with Margo very seriously. The couple had dated for 8 months before taking their relationship to the next level.
Yuri sees Margo as a normal human being and even said they fight just like regular couples. He was even able to get her a waitressing job at a bar but admitted that she needs assistance when walking.
“She can’t walk by herself,” he said.
View this post on Instagram A post shared by OddJack / Юрий Толочко (@yurii_tolochko)
Yuri said that “she swears but there is a tender soul inside” and also loves Georgian cuisine.
“Her favorite dish is khinkali,” he added.
Yuri says he is “pansexual”, which means he can fall in love with,
“A soul, an image, a character, or a person. I like the process of sex itself. And gender, sexual orientation is not particularly important here,” as per EuroNewsWeekly.
View this post on Instagram A post shared by OddJack / Юрий Толочко (@yurii_tolochko)
The couple might have become an internet sensation, but there are some who still doubt the validity of their relationship.
One person wrote on Twitter:
“I feel sorry for these men because they are clearly incapable of having an intimate relationship with an actual human being. They really need to go see a psychologist.”
Another person noted that the use of steroids might have damaged Yuri’s brain.
And someone even said that Yuri’s love for Margo is caused by a medical condition.
According to Psychology Today, Agalmatophilia is:
“a sexual paraphilia in which individuals derive sexual arousal from an attraction to (usually nude) statues, dolls, mannequins and/or other similar body shaped objects.”
View this post on Instagram A post shared by OddJack / Юрий Толочко (@yurii_tolochko)
But this does not in any way change Yuri’s feelings for his wife.
At first, the wedding had been planned for March 2020, but the pandemic derailed the couple’s plans. Back then, Yuri made an Instagram post saying:
“Dear friends, our wedding has been postponed due to self-isolation. As soon as the mandatory quarantine is lifted, we will plan the wedding within a few days.”
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But according to Start Tribune, the two eventually tied the knot in the company of family and friends in a magical wedding ceremony. Wearing a black suit, Yuri was looking stunning beside his wife dressed in a white lace gown. They posed for photographs before heading out to enjoy a night of dancing and drinking.
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iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Anti-Gay Hungarian Politician Resigns After Being Caught Fleeing 25-Man Lockdown Gay Orgy

Hungarian lawmaker resigns after he was caught fleeing a ‘ sex party ’ during lockdown .
• József Szàjer allegedly attended a ‘ sex party ’ with around 25 men in Brussels .
• The politician reportedly played a key role in the government ’ s crackdown on LGBTQ rights .
• A passerby identified Szàjer and claimed that he had seen him climbing down a drainpipe .
József Szàjer resigned after admitting to breaching lockdown rules to attend a private party .
József Szàjer is a member of the European Parliament ( MEP ) representing the Hungarian Prime Minister @ @ @ @ @ @ @ The MEP resigned from his position after he was reportedly caught fleeing what the media reported as “ a 25-man orgy ” .
According to CNN , Szàjer released a statement in which he admitted that he had been “ present ” at a “ private party ” during lockdown .
Sarah Durant , the spokeswoman for the Brussels ’ public prosecutor ’ s office , revealed that the “ private party ” took place in an apartment above a bar in the historic city center at around 9:30 pm last Friday .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ called the police and “ complained of nighttime noise and potential violations of measures linked to the COVID-19 pandemic.
” The politician had tried to flee by climbing down a drainpipe .
Szàjer had leaped out of a window and climbed down a drainpipe to avoid being arrested .
The public prosecutor ’ s office further explained : “ A passer-by reported to the police that he had seen a man fleeing along the gutter ; he was able to identify the man .
The man ’ s hands were bloody .
It @ @ @ @ @ @ @ injured while fleeing .
Narcotics were found in his backpack .
The man was unable to produce any identity documents .
He was escorted to his place of residence , where he identified himself as S. J .
( 1961 ) by means of a diplomatic passport.
” According to The Guardian , the 59-year-old politician had denied carrying narcotics but had nevertheless apologized for his actions .
In addition to this , Szájer begged his wife and daughter to forgive him : A newspaper article appeared in the Belgian press today about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , which I attended .
After the police asked for my identity – since I did not have ID on me – I declared that I was an MEP .
The police continued the process and finally issued an official verbal warning and transported me home .
I did not use drugs .
I offered to the police to take an instant test , but they did not do it .
Police said an ecstasy pill was found .
It ’ s not mine , I don ’ t know who placed it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to the police about this .
I deeply regret violating the Covid restrictions – it was irresponsible on my part .
I am ready to pay the fine that occurs .
With my resignation on Sunday I drew the political and personal consequences .
I apologise to my family , to my colleagues , to my voters .
I ask them to evaluate my misstep against a background of 30 years of devoted and hard work .
The misstep is strictly personal .
I am the one who owns responsibility for it .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ against discrimination based on the grounds of sexual orientation in Hungary .
Taking this further , CNN reported that Szájer is one of the co-authors of the ‘ controversial constitution in 2010 that defined marriage as being solely between a man and a woman ’ .

Hungarian lawmaker resigns after he was caught fleeing a ‘sex party’ during lockdown.
József Szàjer allegedly attended a ‘sex party’ with around 25 men in Brussels.
The politician reportedly played a key role in the government’s crackdown on LGBTQ rights.
A passerby identified Szàjer and claimed that he had seen him climbing down a drainpipe.
József Szàjer resigned after admitting to breaching lockdown rules to attend a private party.
József Szàjer is a member of the European Parliament (MEP) representing the Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orban’s Fidesz party. The MEP resigned from his position after he was reportedly caught fleeing what the media reported as “a 25-man orgy”. According to CNN, Szàjer released a statement in which he admitted that he had been “present” at a “private party” during lockdown. Sarah Durant, the spokeswoman for the Brussels’ public prosecutor’s office, revealed that the “private party” took place in an apartment above a bar in the historic city center at around 9:30 pm last Friday. Furthermore, Durant disclosed that neighbors had called the police and “complained of nighttime noise and potential violations of measures linked to the COVID-19 pandemic.”
The politician had tried to flee by climbing down a drainpipe.
Szàjer had leaped out of a window and climbed down a drainpipe to avoid being arrested. The public prosecutor’s office further explained: “A passer-by reported to the police that he had seen a man fleeing along the gutter; he was able to identify the man. The man’s hands were bloody. It is possible that he may have been injured while fleeing. Narcotics were found in his backpack. The man was unable to produce any identity documents. He was escorted to his place of residence, where he identified himself as S. J. (1961) by means of a diplomatic passport.”
Szàjer released a statement, apologizing for his behavior.
According to The Guardian, the 59-year-old politician had denied carrying narcotics but had nevertheless apologized for his actions. In addition to this, Szájer begged his wife and daughter to forgive him:
A newspaper article appeared in the Belgian press today about a house party in Brussels on Friday, which I attended. After the police asked for my identity – since I did not have ID on me – I declared that I was an MEP. The police continued the process and finally issued an official verbal warning and transported me home. I did not use drugs. I offered to the police to take an instant test, but they did not do it. Police said an ecstasy pill was found. It’s not mine, I don’t know who placed it and how. I made a statement to the police about this. I deeply regret violating the Covid restrictions – it was irresponsible on my part. I am ready to pay the fine that occurs. With my resignation on Sunday I drew the political and personal consequences. I apologise to my family, to my colleagues, to my voters. I ask them to evaluate my misstep against a background of 30 years of devoted and hard work. The misstep is strictly personal. I am the one who owns responsibility for it. József Szàjer


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Chinese company that bought an Australian island blocks Aussies from entering and keeps it exclusive

Chinese company that bought an Australian island blocks Aussies from entering and keeps it exclusively for Asian tourists Chinese developers who bought an island on the Great Barrier Reef are closing it for Australians , local residents reveal .
• A Chinese company that owns an island near Queensland is banning it for Aussies , locals claim .
• Local residents were forced to leave their homes or pay thousands of dollars to continue living in the area .
• According to former residents , the company wants to turn the island into an exclusive spot for rich Chinese tourists @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bought a 99-year lease to a portion of the idyllic Keswick Island near Queensland in 2019 , Daily Mail reports .
According to locals , Aussies have been forced to stay away from the company ’ s property .
They claim that the new owners have banned boats from accessing the public ramp , denied them access to the airstrip .
What ’ s more , residents even insist that they have attempted to stop locals from using the beach , making it exclusive for lavish Chinese tourists only .
In an interview @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Julie Willis said : Along with signs welcoming guests to the island , there is an array of other signs reading : “ Keep out !
” Ms. Willis and her partner Robert Lee were outraged when they were forced to leave their rental property in February .
The couple has been living there for six years , but the new owners had other plans .
Even when Willis and Lee tried to buy a home in the area , the Chinese company demanded they pay an extortionate $ 100,000 as a security @ @ @ @ @ @ @ house .
The angry former resident explained : Moreover , locals are also certain that China Bloom has killed tourism in the area .
They claim that the company has banned homeowners from renting their properties or advertising on Airbnb .
Rayna Asbury , who has owned a home on the island for 15 years , said : “ As far as I know , there have been no tourists since September last year .
At the end of the day , we are all law-abiding citizens , we all want to do @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s all we are asking for on this island – for everybody to be doing the right thing.
” Ms. Asbry was clear : “ The first line of the head lease agreement is that Keswick Island is for tourism.
” However , the nearby beach , which is a known turtle nesting sea , hasn ’ t seen tourists since last year and has been overrun with heavy machinery .
Greaton Holdings , which represents China Bloom in Australia , is responsible for a number of elaborate construction projects across the country @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Resources ’ spokesperson , the issue should be resolved privately .
They stated : “ The Department ’ s responsibility is to work with both the head lessee China Bloom and sublessees to ensure all relevant activities are in accordance with the terms of the lease , particularly as China Bloom works to upgrade the island ’ s roads , boat ramps , jetties , and marine infrastructure .
The majority of the issues raised by a small number of sublessees do not fall under the terms of the lease and are a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ lessee to resolve.
” Furthermore , a spokesperson from the Department of Environment and Science claimed that an investigation revealed that turtle habitats were not disrupted by the new owners .
Despite that , Ms. Willis firmly believes that the people of Australia should be outraged at the Chinese company .

Chinese company that bought an Australian island blocks Aussies from entering and keeps it exclusively for Asian tourists
Chinese company that bought an Australian island blocks Aussies from entering and keeps it exclusively for Asian tourists
Chinese developers who bought an island on the Great Barrier Reef are closing it for Australians, local residents reveal.
A Chinese company that owns an island near Queensland is banning it for Aussies, locals claim.
Local residents were forced to leave their homes or pay thousands of dollars to continue living in the area.
According to former residents, the company wants to turn the island into an exclusive spot for rich Chinese tourists only.
The affluent company China Bloom bought a 99-year lease to a portion of the idyllic Keswick Island near Queensland in 2019, Daily Mail reports.
According to locals, Aussies have been forced to stay away from the company’s property. They claim that the new owners have banned boats from accessing the public ramp, denied them access to the airstrip. What’s more, residents even insist that they have attempted to stop locals from using the beach, making it exclusive for lavish Chinese tourists only.
In an interview with A Current Affair, former resident Julie Willis said:
“I just don’t think they want Australians on the island. I think that they want to have this island solely for the use of the Chinese tourism market.”
Along with signs welcoming guests to the island, there is an array of other signs reading: “Keep out!”
Ms. Willis and her partner Robert Lee were outraged when they were forced to leave their rental property in February. The couple has been living there for six years, but the new owners had other plans. Even when Willis and Lee tried to buy a home in the area, the Chinese company demanded they pay an extortionate $100,000 as a security deposit to fix any damages to the house. The angry former resident explained:
“I think they’re trying to deter us from buying the property. They don’t want us here.”
Moreover, locals are also certain that China Bloom has killed tourism in the area. They claim that the company has banned homeowners from renting their properties or advertising on Airbnb. Rayna Asbury, who has owned a home on the island for 15 years, said:
“As far as I know, there have been no tourists since September last year. At the end of the day, we are all law-abiding citizens, we all want to do the right thing, and that’s all we are asking for on this island – for everybody to be doing the right thing.”
Ms. Asbry was clear: “The first line of the head lease agreement is that Keswick Island is for tourism.”
However, the nearby beach, which is a known turtle nesting sea, hasn’t seen tourists since last year and has been overrun with heavy machinery.
Greaton Holdings, which represents China Bloom in Australia, is responsible for a number of elaborate construction projects across the country.
According to a Queensland Department of Resources’ spokesperson, the issue should be resolved privately. They stated:
“The Department’s responsibility is to work with both the head lessee China Bloom and sublessees to ensure all relevant activities are in accordance with the terms of the lease, particularly as China Bloom works to upgrade the island’s roads, boat ramps, jetties, and marine infrastructure. The majority of the issues raised by a small number of sublessees do not fall under the terms of the lease and are a commercial matter between them and the head lessee to resolve.”
Furthermore, a spokesperson from the Department of Environment and Science claimed that an investigation revealed that turtle habitats were not disrupted by the new owners. Despite that, Ms. Willis firmly believes that the people of Australia should be outraged at the Chinese company.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Third metal monolith suddenly appears, this time in California, matches the ones in Utah and Romania

The monolith mystery continues as a third metal pillar suddenly appears in California .
• The metal pillar was spotted on top of California ’ s Pine Mountain .
• Similar monoliths briefly appeared in Utah and Romania last month .
• Adventure tour guide Sylvan Christensen admitted to being one of the culprits who tore down the monolith in Utah .
After two monoliths appeared in Utah and Romania , a third pillar has been spotted in California .
The metal structure was spotted on top of California ’ s Pine Mountain in Atascadero .
According to the Daily @ @ @ @ @ @ @ tall and 18 inches wide .
In addition to this , it is estimated to weigh around 200 lbs and is made of stainless steel .
It is important to note that unlike the monolith found in the Utah desert , this pillar is not attached to the ground .
What is more , this monolith is the only remaining pillar as the ones found in Romania and Utah suddenly disappeared .
Four men tore down the monolith found in the Utah desert .
The first mysterious monolith appeared on November 18 in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ per the Daily Mail , photographer Ross Bernards visited the monolith on Friday and described how four men had appeared out of the blue , dismantled the monolith , and carried it away .
Adventure tour guide Sylvan Christensen has reportedly identified himself as one of the four men who tore down the Utah monolith .
He uploaded videos depicting the demolition of the metal pillar on TikTok where it was viewed over 100,000 times .
Alongside the TikTok video , Christensen posted the following caption : “ Don ’ t abandon your @ @ @ @ @ @ @ don ’ t want it to be taken out # utahmonolith # leavenotrace ” .
Christensen explained why they removed the Utah monolith .
In a statement to the Daily Mail , Christensen explained that they are not proud of what they did .
However , he notes that the monolith was harmful to the land and that there are ‘ clear precedents for how we share and standardize the use of our public lands , natural wildlife , native plants , fresh water sources , and human impacts upon them.
’ He @ @ @ @ @ @ @ artists and their work , there are ethics that have to be followed .
Christensen revealed that the damage caused by the Utah monolith ‘ was not even close to the damage caused by the internet sensationalism and subsequent reaction from the world ’ .
This land wasn ’ t physically prepared for the population shift ( especially during a pandemic ) .
People arrived by car , by bus , by van , helicopter , planes , trains , motorcycles and E-bikes and there isn ’ t even a parking lot .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ , pooping in the desert is a misdemeanor .
There was a lot of that .
There are no marked trails , no trash cans , and its not a user group area .
There are no designated camp sites .
Each and every user on public land is supposed to be aware of the importance and relevance of this information and the laws associated with them .
Because if you did , anyone going out there and filming the monolith and monetizing it without properly permitting the use of the land— would @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
[ … ] We encourage artists to create , land management to mange [ sic ] , and the community to take responsibility for their actions and property .
What we need right now is a massive movement in the direction towards education of use and management of our lands— not a distraction from it .
While the City of Atascadero in California is aware of the monolith ’ s presence , nobody knows what will happen next .

The monolith mystery continues as a third metal pillar suddenly appears in California.
The metal pillar was spotted on top of California’s Pine Mountain.
Similar monoliths briefly appeared in Utah and Romania last month.
Adventure tour guide Sylvan Christensen admitted to being one of the culprits who tore down the monolith in Utah.
After two monoliths appeared in Utah and Romania, a third pillar has been spotted in California.
The metal structure was spotted on top of California’s Pine Mountain in Atascadero. According to the Daily Mail, the pillar is 10 ft tall and 18 inches wide. In addition to this, it is estimated to weigh around 200 lbs and is made of stainless steel. It is important to note that unlike the monolith found in the Utah desert, this pillar is not attached to the ground.
What is more, this monolith is the only remaining pillar as the ones found in Romania and Utah suddenly disappeared.
Four men tore down the monolith found in the Utah desert.
The first mysterious monolith appeared on November 18 in the deep desert in Utah. As per the Daily Mail, photographer Ross Bernards visited the monolith on Friday and described how four men had appeared out of the blue, dismantled the monolith, and carried it away.
Adventure tour guide Sylvan Christensen has reportedly identified himself as one of the four men who tore down the Utah monolith. He uploaded videos depicting the demolition of the metal pillar on TikTok where it was viewed over 100,000 times. Alongside the TikTok video, Christensen posted the following caption: “Don’t abandon your personal property on public land if you don’t want it to be taken out #utahmonolith #leavenotrace”.
Christensen explained why they removed the Utah monolith. In a statement to the Daily Mail, Christensen explained that they are not proud of what they did. However, he notes that the monolith was harmful to the land and that there are ‘clear precedents for how we share and standardize the use of our public lands, natural wildlife, native plants, fresh water sources, and human impacts upon them.’ He further disclosed that while they completely support artists and their work, there are ethics that have to be followed. Christensen revealed that the damage caused by the Utah monolith ‘was not even close to the damage caused by the internet sensationalism and subsequent reaction from the world’.
This land wasn’t physically prepared for the population shift (especially during a pandemic). People arrived by car, by bus, by van, helicopter, planes, trains, motorcycles and E-bikes and there isn’t even a parking lot. There aren’t bathrooms— and yes, pooping in the desert is a misdemeanor. There was a lot of that. There are no marked trails, no trash cans, and its not a user group area. There are no designated camp sites. Each and every user on public land is supposed to be aware of the importance and relevance of this information and the laws associated with them. Because if you did, anyone going out there and filming the monolith and monetizing it without properly permitting the use of the land— would know that’s an offense too. […] We encourage artists to create, land management to mange [sic], and the community to take responsibility for their actions and property. What we need right now is a massive movement in the direction towards education of use and management of our lands— not a distraction from it.
While the City of Atascadero in California is aware of the monolith’s presence, nobody knows what will happen next.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--The 27-year-old baby girl: Child conceived in 1992 makes history as the longest-frozen embryo to be

The 27-year-old baby girl : Child conceived in 1992 makes history as the longest-frozen embryo to be born A baby girl just set a new record by being born from a 27-year-old frozen embryo .
On October 26 , Tennessee couple Tina and Benjamin Gibson , were blessed with a daughter they named Molly in what became a historic event that happened 27 years after the embryo was frozen back in 1992 .
The birth of Tina ’ s second child , who now holds the record for the longest-frozen embryo to ever have been born , according to University @ @ @ @ @ @ @ started with an embryo transfer to Tina ’ s body on 12 February .
The miracle took place at the National Embryo Donation Center ( NEDC ) , which helps couples have children through in-vitro fertilization .
But the incredible achievement is not the first for the Gibson ’ s , as their first daughter Emma previously held the record after she was born in 2017 from a 24-year-old frozen embryo .
The two girls , who were chosen from a number of donor profiles , were frozen together as embryos on the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , true siblings .
Of the latest record , NEDC ’ s laboratory director and embryologist , Carol Sommerfelt , said the event reflects positively on the technology used at the time of the embryo freezing .
“ When Tina and Ben returned for their sibling transfer , I was thrilled that the remaining two embryos from the donor that resulted in Emma Wren ’ s birth survived the thaw and developed into two very good quality embryos for their transfer , ” she said .
“ This definitely reflects on the technology @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ability to preserve the embryos for future use under an indefinite time frame.
” What are your thoughts on these miracle babies ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve enjoyed the read .

The 27-year-old baby girl: Child conceived in 1992 makes history as the longest-frozen embryo to be born
The 27-year-old baby girl: Child conceived in 1992 makes history as the longest-frozen embryo to be born
A baby girl just set a new record by being born from a 27-year-old frozen embryo.
On October 26, Tennessee couple Tina and Benjamin Gibson, were blessed with a daughter they named Molly in what became a historic event that happened 27 years after the embryo was frozen back in 1992.
The birth of Tina’s second child, who now holds the record for the longest-frozen embryo to ever have been born, according to University of Tennessee Preston Medical Library researchers, started with an embryo transfer to Tina’s body on 12 February.
The miracle took place at the National Embryo Donation Center (NEDC), which helps couples have children through in-vitro fertilization.
But the incredible achievement is not the first for the Gibson’s, as their first daughter Emma previously held the record after she was born in 2017 from a 24-year-old frozen embryo.
The two girls, who were chosen from a number of donor profiles, were frozen together as embryos on the same day and are, in fact, true siblings.
Of the latest record, NEDC’s laboratory director and embryologist, Carol Sommerfelt, said the event reflects positively on the technology used at the time of the embryo freezing.
“When Tina and Ben returned for their sibling transfer, I was thrilled that the remaining two embryos from the donor that resulted in Emma Wren’s birth survived the thaw and developed into two very good quality embryos for their transfer,” she said. “This definitely reflects on the technology used all those years ago and its ability to preserve the embryos for future use under an indefinite time frame.”
What are your thoughts on these miracle babies? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed the read.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-03--Nurse loses her mom, tells her dying husband she’s still alive so he can die in peace

“ The virus keeps winning ” : A nurse lost both her mother and her husband to coronavirus within days .
• An Oklahoma City ICU nurse lost her mother and her husband to coronavirus within three days from each other .
• Wishing for her partner to be at peace moments before passing away , she decided to spare him the news of her mother ’ s death .
• The grieving nurse is urging people to “ stop being selfish ” and follow the COVID-19 restrictions .
Lizanne Jennings , an Oklahoma City ICU nurse , went through @ @ @ @ @ @ @ three days .
On November 20 , she had to say her last goodbyes to her mother , 78 , who died of COVID-19 .
Only three days later , her husband Dennis passed away from the very same virus .
As Newsner reveals , Lizanne ’ s mother ’ s last words were : “ I ’ m weary and I ’ m miserable .
I can ’ t do this anymore.
” Sadly , the grieving daughter had no time to mourn for her mother .
Her husband was in the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
During his last moments , Dennis was breathing with the help of the machine he was hooked up to , as The New York Times reports .
Thankfully , his beloved wife was right by his side .
But she had a heart-tearing task to fulfill .
Since Lizanne was aware that her husband would not be able to survive in the battle with coronavirus , she wanted to help him be at peace before he takes his last breath .
Therefore , she decided not to let him know that her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t want him to be upset that she is going to be alone while grieving for him .
“ You can finally be at peace.
” In a touching interview with CNN , the Oklahoma nurse admitted she told her husband that her mother was still alive to comfort him during his last moments .
Recalling the devastating day of November 23 , Lizanne said : “ I said , ‘ OK .
Mom ’ s fine .
She ’ s back at the house .
She ’ s going to stay @ @ @ @ @ @ @ would keep fighting if I told him my mom had already died .
And so they started giving him morphine and Ativan .
I turned him over and I rubbed his back .
I said , ‘ I love you.
’ He said , ‘ I love you.
’ And I said , ‘ You ’ re going to go now , OK ?
You can finally be at peace . '
” Sharing about the deep grief she and her children are presently undergoing , she added : “ It ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ m grieving for my husband and then I realize my mom ’ s gone .
And I ’ m grieving for my mom .
I just think… oh , I ’ m going to go tell Dennis but then Dennis is gone .
So the two people that would have been so supportive… you know , they ’ re both gone.
” As a nurse during the COVID-19 pandemic , Lizane knew that things would get worse , but she never expected the virus to strike her family .
Back in March , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the rest of her family to be extremely cautious .
She told Dennis : Although she was well aware of the seriousness of coronavirus , Lizanne had no idea it would strike both her mother and her husband within ways from each other .
She was shocked to find out about Dennis ’ s severe condition , as he was a strong and healthy former bodybuilder .
But his strength wasn ’ t enough to beat the deadly disease .
The grieving daughter and wife shared :

“The virus keeps winning”: A nurse lost both her mother and her husband to coronavirus within days.
An Oklahoma City ICU nurse lost her mother and her husband to coronavirus within three days from each other.
Wishing for her partner to be at peace moments before passing away, she decided to spare him the news of her mother’s death.
The grieving nurse is urging people to “stop being selfish” and follow the COVID-19 restrictions.
Lizanne Jennings, an Oklahoma City ICU nurse, went through not one but two tragic losses within three days. On November 20, she had to say her last goodbyes to her mother, 78, who died of COVID-19. Only three days later, her husband Dennis passed away from the very same virus.
As Newsner reveals, Lizanne’s mother’s last words were: “I’m weary and I’m miserable. I can’t do this anymore.”
Sadly, the grieving daughter had no time to mourn for her mother. Her husband was in the very same position only three days later. During his last moments, Dennis was breathing with the help of the machine he was hooked up to, as The New York Times reports. Thankfully, his beloved wife was right by his side. But she had a heart-tearing task to fulfill.
Since Lizanne was aware that her husband would not be able to survive in the battle with coronavirus, she wanted to help him be at peace before he takes his last breath. Therefore, she decided not to let him know that her mother had died, as she didn’t want him to be upset that she is going to be alone while grieving for him.
“You can finally be at peace.”
In a touching interview with CNN, the Oklahoma nurse admitted she told her husband that her mother was still alive to comfort him during his last moments. Recalling the devastating day of November 23, Lizanne said:
“I said, ‘OK. Mom’s fine. She’s back at the house. She’s going to stay with me.’ Because I knew he would keep fighting if I told him my mom had already died. And so they started giving him morphine and Ativan. I turned him over and I rubbed his back. I said, ‘I love you.’ He said, ‘I love you.’ And I said, ‘You’re going to go now, OK? You can finally be at peace.'”
Sharing about the deep grief she and her children are presently undergoing, she added:
“It’s just so raw. Sometimes I’m grieving for my husband and then I realize my mom’s gone. And I’m grieving for my mom. I just think… oh, I’m going to go tell Dennis but then Dennis is gone. So the two people that would have been so supportive… you know, they’re both gone.”
As a nurse during the COVID-19 pandemic, Lizane knew that things would get worse, but she never expected the virus to strike her family.
Back in March, the ICU nurse warned her husband and the rest of her family to be extremely cautious. She told Dennis:
“I need you to pay attention. Look at me: People we know, people we love—our family, our friends—people are going to get this virus. And people we know are going to die.”
Although she was well aware of the seriousness of coronavirus, Lizanne had no idea it would strike both her mother and her husband within ways from each other. She was shocked to find out about Dennis’s severe condition, as he was a strong and healthy former bodybuilder. But his strength wasn’t enough to beat the deadly disease. The grieving daughter and wife shared:


iheartintelligence--2020-12-04--Jennifer Lopez, 51, shocks fans with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look while promoting her new skincare

Jennifer Lopez , 51 , shocks fans with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look while promoting her new skincare line J .
Lo has never failed to astonish her fans .
This time it was with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look .
• ‘ The secret is out ’ – Jennifer Lopez is launching a new skincare line .
• The singer , actress , and businesswoman stunned her fans with a bare-faced spotless look while promoting her products .
• J .
Lo revealed that the secret ingredient in her beauty series is something you probably have in your kitchen right now @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bare-faced to promote her new skincare line ‘ JLo Beauty ’ on Instagram .
She revealed that her ‘ timeless beauty , ’ as one of her followers commented , doesn ’ t even need makeup – only a proper skincare routine .
The project JLo Beauty was not a passionate decision in the heat of a moment .
In fact , it was something the singer has been “ thinking about it for about 20 years , ” she told People .
As Daily Mail reports , during a Wednesday Zoom call @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t ever had Botox to this day .
I ’ m not that person .
I don ’ t have anything against people doing that ; it ’ s just not my thing .
I ’ m more about a natural approach to skincare… but I want [ my products ] to work .
I want the hyaluronic acid in there .
I want the things that are going to help because I don ’ t want to have to go to the needles at some point .
I ’ m not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , but I haven ’ t yet.
” With not a sign of foundation or blush , the celebrity stunned all of her 134m followers on Instagram .
The only thing Lopez had on her face was her new skin cream .
Captioning her product-promoting post , she wrote : The secret ingredient in J.
Lo ’ s new skincare line is a product most people have in their kitchen cabinets .
You probably have it too .
As the now-businesswoman reveals , her latest project was inspired by her upbringing , as @ @ @ @ @ @ @ oil as a natural skin and hair glow booster .
She explains : “ We did have one kind of secret that I remembered from when I was younger .
That was olive oil .
And my mom , my grandma , and my aunts – they would use it on their skin and on their body , their face and their hair to get like a glow and to get like highly hydrated and moisturized.
” The products in the JLo Beauty line include a Gel Cream Cleanser , Multitasking Serum , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Broad Spectrum SPF 30 Moisturizer , Eye Cream , Complexion Booster , and Skin-Nutritious Dietary Supplement .
J.
Lo ’ s beauty products are intended to combat the combined effects of aging and weathering on skin .
However , the in-vogue star was clear that her products are suitable for people from all age groups , saying : The beauty line is set to launch on January 1 .
It will be distributed through Amazon , Sephora , and the brand ’ s website .

Jennifer Lopez, 51, shocks fans with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look while promoting her new skincare line
Jennifer Lopez, 51, shocks fans with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look while promoting her new skincare line
J. Lo has never failed to astonish her fans. This time it was with her flawless MAKEUP-FREE look.
‘The secret is out’ – Jennifer Lopez is launching a new skincare line.
The singer, actress, and businesswoman stunned her fans with a bare-faced spotless look while promoting her products.
J. Lo revealed that the secret ingredient in her beauty series is something you probably have in your kitchen right now!
The 51-year-old star showed up completely bare-faced to promote her new skincare line ‘JLo Beauty’ on Instagram. She revealed that her ‘timeless beauty,’ as one of her followers commented, doesn’t even need makeup – only a proper skincare routine.
The project JLo Beauty was not a passionate decision in the heat of a moment. In fact, it was something the singer has been “thinking about it for about 20 years,” she told People.
As Daily Mail reports, during a Wednesday Zoom call, Lopez said:
“I haven’t ever had Botox to this day. I’m not that person. I don’t have anything against people doing that; it’s just not my thing. I’m more about a natural approach to skincare… but I want [my products] to work. I want the hyaluronic acid in there. I want the things that are going to help because I don’t want to have to go to the needles at some point. I’m not saying one day I won’t, but I haven’t yet.”
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With not a sign of foundation or blush, the celebrity stunned all of her 134m followers on Instagram.
The only thing Lopez had on her face was her new skin cream. Captioning her product-promoting post, she wrote:
“This moment is a dream come true for me. I am so excited to finally share my #JLOBEAUTY products with all of you. ✨“
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The secret ingredient in J. Lo’s new skincare line is a product most people have in their kitchen cabinets. You probably have it too. As the now-businesswoman reveals, her latest project was inspired by her upbringing, as her family members would frequently use olive oil as a natural skin and hair glow booster. She explains:
“We did have one kind of secret that I remembered from when I was younger. That was olive oil. And my mom, my grandma, and my aunts – they would use it on their skin and on their body, their face and their hair to get like a glow and to get like highly hydrated and moisturized.”
The products in the JLo Beauty line include a Gel Cream Cleanser, Multitasking Serum, Multitasking Mask, Nonstop Wonder Cream, Broad Spectrum SPF 30 Moisturizer, Eye Cream, Complexion Booster, and Skin-Nutritious Dietary Supplement.
J. Lo’s beauty products are intended to combat the combined effects of aging and weathering on skin.
“One of the things I learned is that inflammation and dehydration cause aging…The ingredients [of the supplement] help fight oxidative stress. I want it to be a big part of people’s skincare routines.”
However, the in-vogue star was clear that her products are suitable for people from all age groups, saying:
“It’s about being limitless. It’s about being powerful and understanding beauty really doesn’t have an expiration date.”
The beauty line is set to launch on January 1. It will be distributed through Amazon, Sephora, and the brand’s website.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-04--Mother, 32, is CLEARED over sex with 14-year-old boy

Gloucestershire , UK : A mother of three has been cleared by a jury of engaging in sexual intercourse with a 14-year-old boy .
Teah Vincent pleaded guilty to having sex with the teen she invited to her house after watching him play soccer but says he looked more mature and she had no idea he was underage .
According to The Mirror , Teah told the Gloucester Crown Court she was certain the boy told her he was 16 and she “ felt he looked much older ” .
Previously , the court heard that Teah saw the teen @ @ @ @ @ @ @ 21 , 2018 , before she invited him over .
Prosecutor Christopher Smyth told the court she eventually took the 14-year-old to her bedroom , and The two had intercourse , but the teen ended up pushing her off and went back to his friend , who was waiting downstairs .
The decision came after evidence was brought forward that the teen had put false information on his social media page which listed his date of birth as 2000 , according to The Mirror .
The boy defended himself by saying he put @ @ @ @ @ @ @ got a new phone for his birthday so he can “ access games and other things straight away ” .
In her final address to the jury , Defense barrister Catherine Flint said : “ You have heard a lot about Ms Vincent ’ s behaviour on that Sunday .
“ You may have formed a view that her behaviour was morally questionable .
However , your role is not to make moral judgements , but to decide if she broke the law.
” Teah ’ s charges were dropped on Thursday by @ @ @ @ @ @ @ found not guilty of knowingly engaging in sexual intercourse with an underage boy .
Teah shared the news on her Facebook page , writing : What are your thoughts on this case ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve found it informative .

Gloucestershire, UK: A mother of three has been cleared by a jury of engaging in sexual intercourse with a 14-year-old boy.
Teah Vincent pleaded guilty to having sex with the teen she invited to her house after watching him play soccer but says he looked more mature and she had no idea he was underage.
According to The Mirror, Teah told the Gloucester Crown Court she was certain the boy told her he was 16 and she “felt he looked much older”.
“He definitely didn’t tell me he was in Year 9, or that he was only 14 before we had sex.”
Mum, 32, who had sex with 14-year-old boy cleared of knowing he was underage https://t.co/SUXqX0oo8r — Daily Mirror (@DailyMirror) December 3, 2020
Previously, the court heard that Teah saw the teen playing soccer near her house on October 21, 2018, before she invited him over.
Prosecutor Christopher Smyth told the court she eventually took the 14-year-old to her bedroom, and
“told him to sit down on the bed, left the room and reappeared a few moments later having removed her clothes”.
The two had intercourse, but the teen ended up pushing her off and went back to his friend, who was waiting downstairs.
“I don’t deny we had sex. I didn’t force him, he happily responded on his own accord,” the mother explained to the court.
The decision came after evidence was brought forward that the teen had put false information on his social media page which listed his date of birth as 2000, according to The Mirror.
The boy defended himself by saying he put a fake date of birth after he got a new phone for his birthday so he can “access games and other things straight away”.
“I chose 2000 because 2001 or 2003 was ‘disorganised’. I forgot to change it when I got older.”
In her final address to the jury, Defense barrister Catherine Flint said:
“You have heard a lot about Ms Vincent’s behaviour on that Sunday. “You may have formed a view that her behaviour was morally questionable. However, your role is not to make moral judgements, but to decide if she broke the law.”
Teah’s charges were dropped on Thursday by Judge Ian Lawrie QC after she was found not guilty of knowingly engaging in sexual intercourse with an underage boy.
Teah shared the news on her Facebook page, writing:
“NOT GUILTY”. “THANKYOU EVERYONE THAT STOOD BEHIND ME AND BELIEVED ME ITS BEEN THE HARDEST TWO YEARS OFF MY LIFE.”
What are your thoughts on this case? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve found it informative.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-04--Eleven Years Later, Triplet No. 3 Arrives

Little Ryleigh Shepherd was conceived back in 1998 , the same year as her 11-year-old twin sister , but she was born more than a decade later in 2010 .
This is the story of three girls from Walsall , UK , who were born in two different centuries , and are , in fact , genetic triplets born thanks to in vitro fertilization .
Ryleigh ’ s parents , Lisa and Adrian , already had two twins , Megan and Bethany , from the same batch of embryos that gave her life .
According to experts , there is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in which three siblings from the same fertility treatment have been born with an age gap this big .
The longest interval between freezing and conception is in the case of a Tennessee woman whose embryo had been stored for 27 years .
“ It seemed strange to think that we were using embryos that we had stored all those years ago , that were conceived at the same time as the girls , ” Lisa Shepherd told Daily Mail .
“ We knew that if we had another baby it would in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they were all conceived at the same time , ” she added .
According to Lisa , her girls look exactly alike .
For exactly how long an embryo can remain frozen and still be viable is currently unknown , but American fertility experts are confident in the success of new techniques for reproduction .
According to Barbara Collura , executive director of RESOLVE , the National Infertility Association , Data shows that around 620,000 frozen embryos are currently kept in storage across the U.S .
While some couples pay a price to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ others choose to donate their frozen embryos to infertile couples .
Cryogenic techniques have been improving immensely since the 1990s when Lisa ’ s babies were conceived .
Women in their early 30s who are opting for in vitro fertilization can be hopeful that their frozen embryos might be used when the time comes .
And that was the case for Lisa and Adrian , who got married in 1994 and wanted to have a family .
However , Lisa had been diagnosed with endometriosis and polycystic ovaries , and experts told the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ were low .
Back in 1998 , the couple went through a fertility procedure ; 24 eggs were collected and 14 were fertilized with Adrian ’ s sperm .
The embryos were implanted and the last 12 were frozen .
Lisa and Adrian said they didn ’ t expect much .
But eventually , the couple was blessed with twin girls , who were born by Caesarian section .
When the children reached 9 years of age , the family started thinking of a new baby .
At the end of 2009 , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Clinic for another in vitro procedure , using the decade-old embryos .
And Ryleigh arrived in November of 2010 .
According to doctors , there aren ’ t many concerns when it comes to using long-frozen embryos .
Doctor Ellen Clayton , director of the Center for Biomedical Ethics and Society at Vanderbilt University , said the Shepherd family case is “ interesting , and yet mundane.
” There are certain ethical concerns when it comes to in vitro fertilization , according to Clayton , but the “ relevant metric ” is how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the family of triplets , Clayton said : What are your thoughts on this incredible story ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve found it of value .

Little Ryleigh Shepherd was conceived back in 1998, the same year as her 11-year-old twin sister, but she was born more than a decade later in 2010.
This is the story of three girls from Walsall, UK, who were born in two different centuries, and are, in fact, genetic triplets born thanks to in vitro fertilization.
Ryleigh’s parents, Lisa and Adrian, already had two twins, Megan and Bethany, from the same batch of embryos that gave her life.
According to experts, there is no other known case in the UK in which three siblings from the same fertility treatment have been born with an age gap this big.
The longest interval between freezing and conception is in the case of a Tennessee woman whose embryo had been stored for 27 years.
“It seemed strange to think that we were using embryos that we had stored all those years ago, that were conceived at the same time as the girls,” Lisa Shepherd told Daily Mail. “We knew that if we had another baby it would in effect be the girls’ triplet as they were all conceived at the same time,” she added.
According to Lisa, her girls look exactly alike.
“It was uncanny,” the mother said.
For exactly how long an embryo can remain frozen and still be viable is currently unknown, but American fertility experts are confident in the success of new techniques for reproduction.
According to Barbara Collura, executive director of RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association,
“It’s incredibly common for people to go back and second and third time.” “There have been recorded cases of kids born far longer apart. This doesn’t tip the scales.”
Data shows that around 620,000 frozen embryos are currently kept in storage across the U.S.
While some couples pay a price to freeze their embryos for future fertilization, others choose to donate their frozen embryos to infertile couples.
“When they are done with their family building and years pass, they can donate to another couple,” Collura said.
Cryogenic techniques have been improving immensely since the 1990s when Lisa’s babies were conceived.
Women in their early 30s who are opting for in vitro fertilization can be hopeful that their frozen embryos might be used when the time comes.
And that was the case for Lisa and Adrian, who got married in 1994 and wanted to have a family. However, Lisa had been diagnosed with endometriosis and polycystic ovaries, and experts told the couple their chances of having a baby were low.
“I was given drug treatments to help me conceive, but nothing worked,” she said. “It was devastating.”
Back in 1998, the couple went through a fertility procedure; 24 eggs were collected and 14 were fertilized with Adrian’s sperm.
The embryos were implanted and the last 12 were frozen. Lisa and Adrian said they didn’t expect much.
But eventually, the couple was blessed with twin girls, who were born by Caesarian section.
When the children reached 9 years of age, the family started thinking of a new baby.
“We had been so busy raising the twins that it wasn’t until then that we stopped to think about having another one,” said Lisa. “‘So we asked the girls what they thought about having another addition to the family and they really wanted it.”
At the end of 2009, the two went back to Midland Fertility Clinic for another in vitro procedure, using the decade-old embryos. And Ryleigh arrived in November of 2010.
“The girls are thrilled to have a sister — and they know that she was conceived at the same time that they were, but has been in the freezer,” the happy mother said.
According to doctors, there aren’t many concerns when it comes to using long-frozen embryos.
“Once an embryo is frozen, it’s essentially frozen in time,” said Dr. Jani Jenson, a reproductive endocrinologist at the Mayo Clinic. “As a group, children born with IVF are one of the most scrutinized cohorts.”
Jensen added:
“The data we know from fresh and frozen transfers are that it doesn’t put them at any unique or known risks like learning disabilities or birth defects.”
Doctor Ellen Clayton, director of the Center for Biomedical Ethics and Society at Vanderbilt University, said the Shepherd family case is “interesting, and yet mundane.”
“They are just siblings and this is clearly a family where everyone resembles everyone else. The twins look like two peas out of a pod and this is the third pea.”
There are certain ethical concerns when it comes to in vitro fertilization, according to Clayton, but the “relevant metric” is how parents make their choices.
“The current thinking is that parents are free to make pretty broad choices,” she said. “They are free to continue a pregnancy with Down syndrome. People make all kinds of choices that are potentially risky.”
As for the family of triplets, Clayton said:
“God bless them. This looks like a happy family that is now even happier.”
What are your thoughts on this incredible story? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve found it of value.


iheartintelligence--2020-12-04--When Parents Gaslight Their Children Instead Of Loving Them

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and abuse which can leave people doubting themselves , their memories , and their reality .
It is used to undermine the victim ’ s confidence and their ability to recognize what is real and what is not .
In this way , the deceiver or the ‘ gaslighter ’ gains control over the victim as they become dependent on their abuser .
The term ‘ gaslighting ’ originated from Patrick Hamilton ’ s 1938 stage play Gas Light .
In this play , a husband convinces his wife and those around them that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ achieves this by gradually dimming the gas lights in the home and pretending that they are the same when his wife notices the change .
In doing so , the manipulative and mentally abusive husband makes her question her perception of reality .
Gaslighting is not limited to romantic relationships .
When we think of abuse and manipulation , most people think of romantic partners and toxic relationships .
Very few acknowledge that their parents might be manipulative and abusive .
This is because identifying a gaslighting parent is extremely difficult due to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ further , children look up to their parents , believe in their perception of the world , and trust that everything they say is true .
For this reason , many children grow up not knowing that their parent is a gaslighter .
So , how can you identify a gaslighting parent ?
Parents who gaslight their children may do so by undermining their recollection and insisting that their memories are wrong .
They might pretend as though something did not happen as they claim that their children are making things up .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ scenario or conversation and insist that it happened .
When they do this , gaslighting parents often say things such as , “ We spoke about this , don ’ t you remember ?
” or “ You were not paying attention , were you ?
” Moreover , they often deny their own actions , refuse to apologize , and put the blame on others .
Of course , their children are the ones who they most frequently blame .
They bully their children and undermine their accomplishments .
Gaslighting parents abuse @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
When a child confides in their parent , they hope to receive love and understanding .
Unfortunately , children of mentally abusive parents might hear some of the following things instead : “ You are too sensitive ” , “ You are being irrational ” and “ You sound crazy ” .
In addition to this , they undermine the accomplishments of their children , crushing their confidence and destroying their self-esteem .
When parents offer abuse and gaslighting instead of love , they destroy their children .
Children do not realize @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and they can not understand the effect it can have on them .
More importantly , they do not know that their parents are being abusive and manipulative .
Therefore , they grow up believing everything that they are told : they believe that they deserve to be bullied , they believe that their accomplishments are meaningless , and they believe that their perception of reality is false .
In other words , gaslighting parents have the power to destroy their children .
It is only once children become adults that they realize @ @ @ @ @ @ @ will feel anger , disbelief , and shock as they ask themselves , “ How can my own mother/father do this to me ?
” They will look back on everything in their life and they will try to see what role their upbringing played .
Although this will be painful and difficult , it will be the beginning of a healing process .
The child , now an adult , will be able to understand that they are not to blame .
That is , they will see that their low self-esteem @ @ @ @ @ @ @ else : their parents .
How can children of abusive parents heal ?
According to Iskra Fileva Ph.D. , the key to healing ‘ is to fully accept that you were not at fault .
A child should not have to win a parent ’ s love nor compete for it [ … ] That your parents didn ’ t love you is simply not on you .
It ’ s on them.
’ Admittedly , this is easier said than done as realizing that your parents did not love you as they @ @ @ @ @ @ @ As adults , children of gaslighting parents can benefit greatly from seeking professional help as this will help them interpret their emotions and understand the events that happened in their childhood .
Ultimately , the journey to happiness and forgiveness will be long , challenging and painful ; however , it will be worth it as you will undoubtedly become self-assured , strong , and confident .

What is gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and abuse which can leave people doubting themselves, their memories, and their reality. It is used to undermine the victim’s confidence and their ability to recognize what is real and what is not. In this way, the deceiver or the ‘gaslighter’ gains control over the victim as they become dependent on their abuser. The term ‘gaslighting’ originated from Patrick Hamilton’s 1938 stage play Gas Light. In this play, a husband convinces his wife and those around them that she is delusional and insane. He achieves this by gradually dimming the gas lights in the home and pretending that they are the same when his wife notices the change. In doing so, the manipulative and mentally abusive husband makes her question her perception of reality.
Gaslighting is not limited to romantic relationships.
When we think of abuse and manipulation, most people think of romantic partners and toxic relationships. Very few acknowledge that their parents might be manipulative and abusive. This is because identifying a gaslighting parent is extremely difficult due to the parent-child dynamic. Taking this idea further, children look up to their parents, believe in their perception of the world, and trust that everything they say is true. For this reason, many children grow up not knowing that their parent is a gaslighter. So, how can you identify a gaslighting parent?
Abusive and manipulative parents rewrite history and lie.
Parents who gaslight their children may do so by undermining their recollection and insisting that their memories are wrong. They might pretend as though something did not happen as they claim that their children are making things up. Alternatively, they might make up a scenario or conversation and insist that it happened. When they do this, gaslighting parents often say things such as, “We spoke about this, don’t you remember?” or “You were not paying attention, were you?” Moreover, they often deny their own actions, refuse to apologize, and put the blame on others. Of course, their children are the ones who they most frequently blame.
They bully their children and undermine their accomplishments.
Gaslighting parents abuse their children by mocking and bullying them. When a child confides in their parent, they hope to receive love and understanding. Unfortunately, children of mentally abusive parents might hear some of the following things instead: “You are too sensitive”, “You are being irrational” and “You sound crazy”. In addition to this, they undermine the accomplishments of their children, crushing their confidence and destroying their self-esteem.
When parents offer abuse and gaslighting instead of love, they destroy their children.
Children do not realize the gravity of their parents’ behavior and they cannot understand the effect it can have on them. More importantly, they do not know that their parents are being abusive and manipulative. Therefore, they grow up believing everything that they are told: they believe that they deserve to be bullied, they believe that their accomplishments are meaningless, and they believe that their perception of reality is false. In other words, gaslighting parents have the power to destroy their children.
It is only once children become adults that they realize what has happened.
Initially, they will feel anger, disbelief, and shock as they ask themselves, “How can my own mother/father do this to me?” They will look back on everything in their life and they will try to see what role their upbringing played. Although this will be painful and difficult, it will be the beginning of a healing process. The child, now an adult, will be able to understand that they are not to blame. That is, they will see that their low self-esteem and lack of confidence stems from something else: their parents.
How can children of abusive parents heal?
According to Iskra Fileva Ph.D., the key to healing ‘is to fully accept that you were not at fault. A child should not have to win a parent’s love nor compete for it […] That your parents didn’t love you is simply not on you. It’s on them.’ Admittedly, this is easier said than done as realizing that your parents did not love you as they should have is heartbreaking and devastating. As adults, children of gaslighting parents can benefit greatly from seeking professional help as this will help them interpret their emotions and understand the events that happened in their childhood.
Ultimately, the journey to happiness and forgiveness will be long, challenging and painful; however, it will be worth it as you will undoubtedly become self-assured, strong, and confident.