iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--10 FAKE APOLOGIES you will hear from a NARCISSIST

We are all human , therefore , we all make mistakes .
Thankfully , some of us are decent enough to genuinely apologize and do their best to fix the damage they caused .
However , there are still far too many narcissistic people who have little to no empathy for others .
They do not feel the need to apologize whenever they do something wrong .
What is more , they even tend to hold others responsible for their own mistakes .
But there is something much more important to narcissists than refusing to admit they are wrong .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ their image .
So , if apologizing will help them , they would do it even if they don ’ t mean it .
And in most cases , they don ’ t .
When narcissists apologize , they do it in a way that makes the other person feel uncomfortable for being treated wrong .
They are masters of manipulation , which makes it easy for them to convince you that you were never right to blame them .
Moreover , even when they say they are sorry , they rather downplay @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and make countless excuses .
Below are listed 10 fake apologies repeatedly used by narcissists .
When a narcissist is trying to minimize their immoral actions , they often say things like “ I was just joking ” or “ I was simply trying to help.
” They believe that by presenting the situation in a way that would make things seem less serious , they would get away with anything .
Anyone who has been in a narcissist ’ s orbit in one way or another knows that blame-shifting is a major @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , it ’ s only natural that they would imply this in their ways of handling an apology .
Instead of taking full responsibility for their actions , they would say things like : “ I ’ m sorry that you think what I ’ ve done is wrong.
” or “ I ’ m sorry that you took things too seriously.
” When someone says the word ‘ if ’ in the middle of their apology , this vividly indicates they don ’ t believe they have anything to be sorry for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I ’ m sorry if you got offended by what I said.
” or “ I ’ m sorry if you feel bad for what I did.
” This is a type of conditional justification that shifts the focus from their mistake and places it on the way the other person has felt or reacted .
Perhaps you are well aware that people with robust narcissistic personalities are quite experienced when it comes to escaping from problems they have caused themselves .
One way they do it is by stating they have already @ @ @ @ @ @ @ In their minds , if something has happened before and they have already said they were sorry , they don ’ t need to do it every time .
They might try to avoid the conflict by saying : “ But I have already said I ’ m sorry.
” This way , they make you feel guilty for pointing out something you have already told them is making you feel bad .
Another way narcissists minimize the severity of the problem is by acting like they actually realize their mistake .
When @ @ @ @ @ @ @ shouldn ’ t have done that.
” or “ I probably should ask the next time.
” they aim to make you believe what they did was not as harmful as you thought .
Narcissists are creatures that are completely convinced that others are obligated to praise them and to admire their greatness .
That is why they believe that the people around them think they would never do anything immoral or indecent .
But when they do such a thing , and they get caught , they get out of the situation @ @ @ @ @ @ @ would never do anything to hurt you.
” or “ You know I didn ’ t mean to make you feel that way.
” These toxic phrases imply that you shouldn ’ t be mad at them for what they did .
This type of apology is pretty much click-bait .
They show you that they understand the situation requires for them to say they are sorry , but they don ’ t actually apologize for anything .
Comments like “ I guess I should say I am sorry.
” do not have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
When someone tells you they would do something for you , only if you do something in return , their intentions can not be selfless or authentic .
A narcissist would say : “ I will apologize if you agree to stop mentioning this.
” to be sure that they would never have to admit their mistakes again .
A person can not be truly regretful of their faults if they try to convince you they have nothing to be sorry about in the very same sentence they say “ I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ someone tells you : “ I ’ m sorry , but you made me do it.
” or “ I ’ m sorry , but I was only trying to protect you.
” they are not pure in their apology .
When a narcissist gets triggered by a situation that requires a serious explanation of their behavior , they might get a bit aggressive in their tone .
Saying things like “ Give me a break !
I ’ m sorry , okay ?
!
” makes their attempt to apologize look a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hardly ever leads to making the situation better .
Fake apologies are narcissists ’ specialty when it comes to preserving their image .
However , sooner or later , their lack of empathy and their indecency inevitably comes to light .

We are all human, therefore, we all make mistakes. Thankfully, some of us are decent enough to genuinely apologize and do their best to fix the damage they caused.
However, there are still far too many narcissistic people who have little to no empathy for others.
They do not feel the need to apologize whenever they do something wrong. What is more, they even tend to hold others responsible for their own mistakes.
But there is something much more important to narcissists than refusing to admit they are wrong.
This essential trait of theirs is preserving their image. So, if apologizing will help them, they would do it even if they don’t mean it. And in most cases, they don’t.
When narcissists apologize, they do it in a way that makes the other person feel uncomfortable for being treated wrong. They are masters of manipulation, which makes it easy for them to convince you that you were never right to blame them. Moreover, even when they say they are sorry, they rather downplay the situation, invalidate your opinion, and make countless excuses.
Below are listed 10 fake apologies repeatedly used by narcissists.
1. “I was just…”
When a narcissist is trying to minimize their immoral actions, they often say things like “I was just joking” or “I was simply trying to help.” They believe that by presenting the situation in a way that would make things seem less serious, they would get away with anything.
2. “I’m sorry that you…”
Anyone who has been in a narcissist’s orbit in one way or another knows that blame-shifting is a major characteristic of their behavioral pattern. Therefore, it’s only natural that they would imply this in their ways of handling an apology. Instead of taking full responsibility for their actions, they would say things like: “I’m sorry that you think what I’ve done is wrong.” or “I’m sorry that you took things too seriously.”
3. “I’m sorry if…”
When someone says the word ‘if’ in the middle of their apology, this vividly indicates they don’t believe they have anything to be sorry for. A narcissist might say: “I’m sorry if you got offended by what I said.” or “I’m sorry if you feel bad for what I did.” This is a type of conditional justification that shifts the focus from their mistake and places it on the way the other person has felt or reacted.
4. “But I have already…”
Perhaps you are well aware that people with robust narcissistic personalities are quite experienced when it comes to escaping from problems they have caused themselves. One way they do it is by stating they have already apologized for the same mistake before. In their minds, if something has happened before and they have already said they were sorry, they don’t need to do it every time. They might try to avoid the conflict by saying: “But I have already said I’m sorry.” This way, they make you feel guilty for pointing out something you have already told them is making you feel bad.
5. “I probably…”
Another way narcissists minimize the severity of the problem is by acting like they actually realize their mistake. When they say things like “I probably shouldn’t have done that.” or “I probably should ask the next time.” they aim to make you believe what they did was not as harmful as you thought.
6. “You know I…”
Narcissists are creatures that are completely convinced that others are obligated to praise them and to admire their greatness. That is why they believe that the people around them think they would never do anything immoral or indecent. But when they do such a thing, and they get caught, they get out of the situation by saying: “You know I would never do anything to hurt you.” or “You know I didn’t mean to make you feel that way.” These toxic phrases imply that you shouldn’t be mad at them for what they did.
7. “I guess I…”
This type of apology is pretty much click-bait. They show you that they understand the situation requires for them to say they are sorry, but they don’t actually apologize for anything. Comments like “I guess I should say I am sorry.” do not have the same value as a genuine apology.
8. “I will apologize if…”
When someone tells you they would do something for you, only if you do something in return, their intentions cannot be selfless or authentic. A narcissist would say: “I will apologize if you agree to stop mentioning this.” to be sure that they would never have to admit their mistakes again.
9. “I’m sorry, but…”
A person cannot be truly regretful of their faults if they try to convince you they have nothing to be sorry about in the very same sentence they say “I’m sorry”. So, when someone tells you: “I’m sorry, but you made me do it.” or “I’m sorry, but I was only trying to protect you.” they are not pure in their apology.
10. “Enough already…”
When a narcissist gets triggered by a situation that requires a serious explanation of their behavior, they might get a bit aggressive in their tone. Saying things like “Give me a break! I’m sorry, okay?!” makes their attempt to apologize look a lot more like a threat. It hardly ever leads to making the situation better.
Fake apologies are narcissists’ specialty when it comes to preserving their image. However, sooner or later, their lack of empathy and their indecency inevitably comes to light.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--Unloved Children Struggle With Self-Compassion In Their Adult Lives

Those who are raised without love and care grow up to struggle with self-compassion and self-love .
Children of unloving parents face difficulties in their adult lives as they grow up to become adults who are incapable of showing themselves compassion .
It is not surprising that if you have grown up being incessantly criticized and judged , you too will be critical and judgemental of yourself .
If your entire childhood , you have been told that you are not good enough , that you are lazy , weak , etc.
, you will inevitably grow up believing these @ @ @ @ @ @ @ face failure and setbacks , you will likely blame yourself .
You might find yourself saying or thinking things like : • “ Of course I was not the one to get promoted , I am not ambitious enough.
” • “ It is no surprise that they left me , they finally saw that I am not good enough.
” • “ I will never accomplish my goals , I am too lazy to follow through.
” There is a difference between being self-critical and thinking critically .
Being self-critical means ignoring @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and focusing solely on yourself and your perceived shortcomings .
When one is self-critical , they blame themselves – even in situations where they are not at fault .
Self-criticism is different from thinking critically as the latter allows one to analyze a situation , assess their behavior , and be realistic about who is at fault .
People who have been raised by loving and supportive families self-assess and think critically .
Peg Streep , author of Daughter Detox : Recovering from an Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life , explains that @ @ @ @ @ @ @ along with other factors that may have contributed to the result ; they ask themselves how they might have handled things better and factor in those elements of the situation they had no control over ’ .
This thinking process is completely different from that of those who have been raised by unloving parents .
Self-compassion is not self-pity .
It means being able to see yourself in the larger context of humanity and feel compassion for yourself as you would with others .
In other words , you must be able to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ which you show your friends , family , and even strangers .
According to Kristin Neff , there are three things which characterize self-compassion : • Extending kindness and understanding to yourself , rather than judgment or criticism .
• Seeing your experience as aligned with and a part of larger human experience .
• Keeping yourself aware of your painful feelings without over-identification with them .
How can you learn to have self-compassion ?
The first step to learning how to have self-compassion is realizing that you lack it .
You need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ behaviors and self-destructive thoughts before you can begin showing yourself compassion .
Streep writes that there are 3 things one must do : 1 .
Recognize the way you react to situations : Streep recommends paying attention to the voice inside your head when you fail or encounter setbacks .
Ensure that you catch yourself being self-critical and judgmental so that you can correct yourself .
2 .
Notice how you handle compliments or praise : If you find that you ignore compliments and praise , then you are getting in the way @ @ @ @ @ @ @ people ’ s praise is another form of self-criticism which you must work to eliminate .
3 .
Work on being realistic when you fail : Streep suggests tracking your reactivity by journaling so that you can identify the way you feel and how you think .
It is only through identifying your self-destructive behaviors and thought patterns that you can work on changing them .

Those who are raised without love and care grow up to struggle with self-compassion and self-love.
Children of unloving parents face difficulties in their adult lives as they grow up to become adults who are incapable of showing themselves compassion. It is not surprising that if you have grown up being incessantly criticized and judged, you too will be critical and judgemental of yourself. If your entire childhood, you have been told that you are not good enough, that you are lazy, weak, etc., you will inevitably grow up believing these things. This means that when you face failure and setbacks, you will likely blame yourself. You might find yourself saying or thinking things like:
“Of course I was not the one to get promoted, I am not ambitious enough.”
“It is no surprise that they left me, they finally saw that I am not good enough.”
“I will never accomplish my goals, I am too lazy to follow through.”
There is a difference between being self-critical and thinking critically.
Being self-critical means ignoring all of the circumstances in a situation and focusing solely on yourself and your perceived shortcomings. When one is self-critical, they blame themselves – even in situations where they are not at fault. Self-criticism is different from thinking critically as the latter allows one to analyze a situation, assess their behavior, and be realistic about who is at fault. People who have been raised by loving and supportive families self-assess and think critically. Peg Streep, author of Daughter Detox: Recovering from an Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life, explains that they ‘weigh their own performance, along with other factors that may have contributed to the result; they ask themselves how they might have handled things better and factor in those elements of the situation they had no control over’. This thinking process is completely different from that of those who have been raised by unloving parents.
What is self-compassion?
Self-compassion is not self-pity. It means being able to see yourself in the larger context of humanity and feel compassion for yourself as you would with others. In other words, you must be able to show yourself the same kindness and understanding which you show your friends, family, and even strangers. According to Kristin Neff, there are three things which characterize self-compassion:
Extending kindness and understanding to yourself, rather than judgment or criticism. Seeing your experience as aligned with and a part of larger human experience. Keeping yourself aware of your painful feelings without over-identification with them.
How can you learn to have self-compassion?
The first step to learning how to have self-compassion is realizing that you lack it. You need to first become aware of your unconscious behaviors and self-destructive thoughts before you can begin showing yourself compassion.
Streep writes that there are 3 things one must do:
1. Recognize the way you react to situations:
Streep recommends paying attention to the voice inside your head when you fail or encounter setbacks. Ensure that you catch yourself being self-critical and judgmental so that you can correct yourself.
2. Notice how you handle compliments or praise:
If you find that you ignore compliments and praise, then you are getting in the way of your own happiness. Not believing people’s praise is another form of self-criticism which you must work to eliminate.
3. Work on being realistic when you fail:
Streep suggests tracking your reactivity by journaling so that you can identify the way you feel and how you think. It is only through identifying your self-destructive behaviors and thought patterns that you can work on changing them.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--Childhood trauma helps us build empathy as adults, experts say

Surviving traumatic experiences throughout childhood can reflect positively on your emotional intelligence .
As per psychologist David J. Ley Ph.D. , people who have been victims of disheartening experiences in their early years are more likely to develop higher levels of aggression , violence , personality disorders , and physical health problems .
However , these unpleasant events can still have a “ silver lining.
” In some cases , going through hurtful events can give you the ability to understand other people ’ s feelings in certain situations .
According to a study published in the PLoS One journal @ @ @ @ @ @ @ have more eminent levels of empathy than others .
Experts from New York and Cambridge have analyzed the relationship between childhood traumas and empathy levels throughout adulthood .
The researchers were involved in multiple tests aiming to explore exactly how traumatic experiences throughout childhood affected the results of different measures and factors of empathy .
They examined a total of two study groups via electronic testing , taking into consideration two empathy components – affective and cognitive empathy .
Affective empathy is when we feel the pain of others , while cognitive empathy @ @ @ @ @ @ @ into the shoes of other people and their experiences .
Most participants had endured some kind of childhood trauma in both study groups .
The experts discovered that different types of trauma experiences had different effects .
For instance , the loss of a loved one associated with enhanced cognitive empathy .
Meanwhile , other traumatic experiences , including physical abuse , were correlated to affective empathy .
Overall , the more severe the trauma is , the more likely a person is to have increased levels of compassion as an adult .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ explanation about the long-term influence a childhood trauma can have on adults .
It proves that surviving adversity in your early years helps you develop higher levels of empathy and emotional intelligence .
According to the authors , “ empathy may be an ‘ end-product ’ of posttraumatic growth that is longer lasting than the initial personal distress that is expected to be felt immediately after a trauma.
” They conclude : Truthfully , for most of us , traumatic experiences are helping us shape ourselves as mature human beings .
Going through @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the pain others feel .
Moreover , it shows us how to empathize even with the ones who have zero empathy for others .
While childhood trauma undoubtedly leaves many scars , it also benefits the development of high levels of compassion and helps us see the world clearly .

Surviving traumatic experiences throughout childhood can reflect positively on your emotional intelligence.
As per psychologist David J. Ley Ph.D., people who have been victims of disheartening experiences in their early years are more likely to develop higher levels of aggression, violence, personality disorders, and physical health problems. However, these unpleasant events can still have a “silver lining.”
In some cases, going through hurtful events can give you the ability to understand other people’s feelings in certain situations.
According to a study published in the PLoS One journal, those who have experienced childhood trauma have more eminent levels of empathy than others. Experts from New York and Cambridge have analyzed the relationship between childhood traumas and empathy levels throughout adulthood.
The researchers were involved in multiple tests aiming to explore exactly how traumatic experiences throughout childhood affected the results of different measures and factors of empathy. They examined a total of two study groups via electronic testing, taking into consideration two empathy components – affective and cognitive empathy. Affective empathy is when we feel the pain of others, while cognitive empathy relates to the act of imaging ourselves into the shoes of other people and their experiences. Most participants had endured some kind of childhood trauma in both study groups.
The experts discovered that different types of trauma experiences had different effects.
For instance, the loss of a loved one associated with enhanced cognitive empathy. Meanwhile, other traumatic experiences, including physical abuse, were correlated to affective empathy. Overall, the more severe the trauma is, the more likely a person is to have increased levels of compassion as an adult.
The groundbreaking research also serves as an explanation about the long-term influence a childhood trauma can have on adults. It proves that surviving adversity in your early years helps you develop higher levels of empathy and emotional intelligence. According to the authors, “empathy may be an ‘end-product’ of posttraumatic growth that is longer lasting than the initial personal distress that is expected to be felt immediately after a trauma.” They conclude:
“Adversity can lead to posttraumatic growth.”
Truthfully, for most of us, traumatic experiences are helping us shape ourselves as mature human beings. Going through emotional adversity teaches us how to recognize the pain others feel. Moreover, it shows us how to empathize even with the ones who have zero empathy for others. While childhood trauma undoubtedly leaves many scars, it also benefits the development of high levels of compassion and helps us see the world clearly.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--This is why introverts struggle putting their thoughts into words

Life as an introvert can be difficult .
For an introvert , putting thoughts into words is almost always a struggle .
When trying to communicate and express their feelings and ideas , introverts are often overcome by anxiety and stress .
While many believe that introverts are simply unsociable , research has shown that there is actual science behind why they find it difficult to articulate their thoughts .
The truth is that introverts are simply wired differently .
They process information more deeply than most people do and , as a result , they tend to struggle more @ @ @ @ @ @ @ use .
According to J In her book The Introvert Advantage , Dr. Marti Olsen explains that introverts may prefer long-term memory over working memory .
The difference between the two is that while working memory stores information for mere seconds , long-term memory stores information indefinitely .
Working memory is thus more easy to access than long-term memory and this could be why introverts take longer to put their thoughts into words .
Taking this further Dr. Olsen writes that extroverts do the opposite as they prefer working memory and essentially have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ tip of their tongue.
” Anxiety can make an already difficult process worse .
Feelings of anxiety can make an introvert ’ s struggle to articulate their thoughts even more difficult .
Granneman comments on this as she notes that while ‘ not all introverts experience social anxiety ’ it is still common for introverts to experience ‘ some level of anxiety in social situations ’ .
The reason why anxiety makes an introvert ’ s struggle even worse is because anxiety can actually interfere with memory .
That is , when one @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the stress hormone ) and this hormone affects the brain .
Cortisol ’ s effect can cause memory loss and make it even more difficult to find the words or access the information one needs .
What can you do if you struggle putting your thoughts into words ?
It has been found that introverts can express themselves more easily by writing instead of talking .
This means that while extroverts prefer to pick up the phone to make a call and arrange a meeting , introverts would much rather send an email @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , they get to eliminate stress and anxiety while successfully putting their ideas across .
Be patient with yourself Whenever you are caught unprepared and asked to speak , be kind and patient with yourself .
Allow yourself to have a moment before beginning to talk .
Granneman recommends actually voicing your need for time by saying , “ Give me a moment to think about that ” or “ Let me see ” .
If the pressure and anxiety is overwhelming , simply remove yourself from the situation by saying that you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to them at a later time .

Life as an introvert can be difficult.
For an introvert, putting thoughts into words is almost always a struggle. When trying to communicate and express their feelings and ideas, introverts are often overcome by anxiety and stress. While many believe that introverts are simply unsociable, research has shown that there is actual science behind why they find it difficult to articulate their thoughts.
Introverts process information differently.
The truth is that introverts are simply wired differently. They process information more deeply than most people do and, as a result, they tend to struggle more when trying to find the words to use. According to J
Introverts favor long-term memory.
In her book The Introvert Advantage, Dr. Marti Olsen explains that introverts may prefer long-term memory over working memory. The difference between the two is that while working memory stores information for mere seconds, long-term memory stores information indefinitely. Working memory is thus more easy to access than long-term memory and this could be why introverts take longer to put their thoughts into words. Taking this further Dr. Olsen writes that extroverts do the opposite as they prefer working memory and essentially have the information they need “on the tip of their tongue.”
Anxiety can make an already difficult process worse.
Feelings of anxiety can make an introvert’s struggle to articulate their thoughts even more difficult. Granneman comments on this as she notes that while ‘not all introverts experience social anxiety’ it is still common for introverts to experience ‘some level of anxiety in social situations’. The reason why anxiety makes an introvert’s struggle even worse is because anxiety can actually interfere with memory. That is, when one feels anxious, they release cortisol (the stress hormone) and this hormone affects the brain. Cortisol’s effect can cause memory loss and make it even more difficult to find the words or access the information one needs.
What can you do if you struggle putting your thoughts into words?
Write, journal, text, or email
It has been found that introverts can express themselves more easily by writing instead of talking. This means that while extroverts prefer to pick up the phone to make a call and arrange a meeting, introverts would much rather send an email or a text message. This way, they get to eliminate stress and anxiety while successfully putting their ideas across.
Be patient with yourself
Whenever you are caught unprepared and asked to speak, be kind and patient with yourself. Allow yourself to have a moment before beginning to talk. Granneman recommends actually voicing your need for time by saying, “Give me a moment to think about that” or “Let me see”. If the pressure and anxiety is overwhelming, simply remove yourself from the situation by saying that you will think things over and get back to them at a later time.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--8 Things Introverts Need In Order To Be Happy

What makes an introvert different ?
Being introverted is more than just liking to be alone and socializing less .
Introverted people tend to think differently and perceive the world more deeply than those around them .
In addition to this , they become tired , overwhelmed , and irritable more quickly than extroverted people ; for this reason , they tend to need more alone time than others do .
Furthermore , because of these differences , introverts need different things in life .
There are 8 things introverts need to be happy : 1 .
Alone time to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ way they are wired to process events and information , introverts get easily overwhelmed by everyday things .
Therefore , they need time to wind down , recharge , and fully comprehend what they have experienced .
If introverts fail to set time aside to do so , they may begin feeling burnout and intense fatigue .
Introverts avoid engaging in small talk as much as possible .
However , this does not mean that they do not like communicating and socializing .
Instead , it just means that they prefer having deep @ @ @ @ @ @ @ learn and grow .
While everybody needs some quiet from time to time , introverts need companionable silence .
This means that they need people who are comfortable with silence and can spend time with them without feeling like they have to awkwardly make conversation .
Introverts need space to be themselves and dive into their hobbies , interests , and thoughts .
In fact , many have a room or corner which is specifically assigned for this .
While some may use this space to engage in hobbies , others just need @ @ @ @ @ @ @ will not be disturbed .
5 .
Friends who do not pressure them to go out Introverted people may often choose to stay home instead of going out – even if they have already agreed to plans .
For this reason , they need friends who will understand and accept them instead of pressure them .
In the same way that they do not like small talk , they do not like meaningless work .
Introverted people prefer doing work that has a deeper purpose .
They want their jobs to do more @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , they want to engage in work that changes lives and touches people .
Contrary to what many may believe , introverted people value independence and freedom .
Having independence means being free to make your own decisions about how you want to live your life and for introverts , this is vital .
Introverts are never the center of attention .
On the contrary , they tend to blend into the background and remain hidden behind the extroverted and loud people .
However , just like everybody else , they crave people @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Having friends and family who love and accept them despite their introverted quirks means more to them than one can imagine .

What makes an introvert different?
Being introverted is more than just liking to be alone and socializing less. Introverted people tend to think differently and perceive the world more deeply than those around them. In addition to this, they become tired, overwhelmed, and irritable more quickly than extroverted people; for this reason, they tend to need more alone time than others do. Furthermore, because of these differences, introverts need different things in life.
There are 8 things introverts need to be happy:
1. Alone time to wind down
As a result of the way they are wired to process events and information, introverts get easily overwhelmed by everyday things. Therefore, they need time to wind down, recharge, and fully comprehend what they have experienced. If introverts fail to set time aside to do so, they may begin feeling burnout and intense fatigue.
Introverts avoid engaging in small talk as much as possible. However, this does not mean that they do not like communicating and socializing. Instead, it just means that they prefer having deep and meaningful conversations that allow them to learn and grow.
3. Silence
While everybody needs some quiet from time to time, introverts need companionable silence. This means that they need people who are comfortable with silence and can spend time with them without feeling like they have to awkwardly make conversation.
4. Space for themselves
Introverts need space to be themselves and dive into their hobbies, interests, and thoughts. In fact, many have a room or corner which is specifically assigned for this. While some may use this space to engage in hobbies, others just need a quiet space where they know they will not be disturbed.
5. Friends who do not pressure them to go out
Introverted people may often choose to stay home instead of going out – even if they have already agreed to plans. For this reason, they need friends who will understand and accept them instead of pressure them.
6. Meaningful and purposeful work
In the same way that they do not like small talk, they do not like meaningless work. Introverted people prefer doing work that has a deeper purpose. They want their jobs to do more than just pay the bills; instead, they want to engage in work that changes lives and touches people.
7. Independence
Contrary to what many may believe, introverted people value independence and freedom. Having independence means being free to make your own decisions about how you want to live your life and for introverts, this is vital.
8. Loving and caring friends and family
Introverts are never the center of attention. On the contrary, they tend to blend into the background and remain hidden behind the extroverted and loud people. However, just like everybody else, they crave people who will love and care for them. Having friends and family who love and accept them despite their introverted quirks means more to them than one can imagine.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--London bus-sized ASTEROID missed us by 240 miles on Friday 13

On Friday 13th , a London bus-sized asteroid missed the Earth by only 240 miles ( 386 km ) .
The news of the massive space rock came a day after , astronomers have revealed .
The asteroid named ‘ 2020 VT4 ’ was spotted 15 hours after its closest approach to our planet , Daily Mail reports .
It was detected by the Asteroid Terrestrial-impact Last Alert System on Mauna Loa , Hawaii .
If the astronomical object , which was estimated to be 16–33 feet ( 5–10 m ) , had come closer to the Earth , it @ @ @ @ @ @ @ over the South Pacific .
2020 VT4 was the closest asteroid to pass by Earth on record to date .
The asteroid ’ s orbit brought it about the same distance from the Earth as the International Space Station .
Before being given the name ‘ 2020 VT4 , ’ the massive space rock was called ‘ A10sHcN.
’ Astronomer Tony Dunn , who runs the website ‘ Orbit Simulator , ’ said in a Twitter post : Luckily , this particular asteroid was at a safe distance while making its closest approach @ @ @ @ @ @ @ an asteroid would need to be at least 82ft ( 25m ) across to wreak localized damage on the Earth ’ s surface and about 0.6–1.2mi ( 1–2 km ) to have global impacts .
Besides , 2020 VT4 was small enough to be considered non-dangerous , compared to the Chelyabinsk meteor that exploded above Russia in 2013 and shattered the windows of thousands of buildings , which was 30 times bigger .
Earlier this year , another astronomical object made a close approach to our planet .
In August , an asteroid @ @ @ @ @ @ @ just 1,830mi ( 2,945km ) of Earth .
Similarly , astronomers did not spot the space body until after it had passed on .
“ At roughly 10 to 20 feet ( 3 to 6 meters ) across , asteroid 2020 QG is very small by asteroid standards : If it had actually been on an impact trajectory , it would likely have become a fireball as it broke up in Earth ’ s atmosphere , which happens several times a year .
”

On Friday 13th, a London bus-sized asteroid missed the Earth by only 240 miles (386 km).
The news of the massive space rock came a day after, astronomers have revealed.
The asteroid named ‘2020 VT4’ was spotted 15 hours after its closest approach to our planet, Daily Mail reports. It was detected by the Asteroid Terrestrial-impact Last Alert System on Mauna Loa, Hawaii.
If the astronomical object, which was estimated to be 16–33 feet (5–10 m), had come closer to the Earth, it would have burned up in the atmosphere over the South Pacific.
A Record Close-Shave: Asteroid 2020 VT4 Just Skimmed by the Earth – @Astroguyz on the closest observed Earth-crosser that failed to produce a meteor: https://t.co/sbrWc822up pic.twitter.com/6WzAt2WMIe — Universe Today (@universetoday) November 17, 2020
2020 VT4 was the closest asteroid to pass by Earth on record to date.
The asteroid’s orbit brought it about the same distance from the Earth as the International Space Station. Before being given the name ‘2020 VT4,’ the massive space rock was called ‘A10sHcN.’
Astronomer Tony Dunn, who runs the website ‘Orbit Simulator,’ said in a Twitter post:
“Newly-discovered asteroid A10sHcN approached Earth yesterday, passing only a few hundred miles above the South Pacific Ocean. This encounter shortened its orbit, ensuring that this Earth-crosser will make more frequent close approaches.”
Newly-discovered asteroid A10sHcN approached Earth yesterday, passing only a few hundred miles above the South Pacific Ocean. This encounter shortened its orbit, ensuring that this Earth-crosser will make more frequent close approaches.https://t.co/TmkzojIzPf pic.twitter.com/XrnKiiGTyJ — Tony Dunn (@tony873004) November 14, 2020
Luckily, this particular asteroid was at a safe distance while making its closest approach to our planet. Experts claim that an asteroid would need to be at least 82ft (25m) across to wreak localized damage on the Earth’s surface and about 0.6–1.2mi (1–2 km) to have global impacts.
Besides, 2020 VT4 was small enough to be considered non-dangerous, compared to the Chelyabinsk meteor that exploded above Russia in 2013 and shattered the windows of thousands of buildings, which was 30 times bigger.
A Record Close-Shave, as Asteroid 2020 VT4 Passed 400 km from the Earth on Friday the 13th – our latest post for @universetoday –https://t.co/koTTQseIEW – Nice try, 2020… pic.twitter.com/pplIcw2Y5z — Dave 'Indoor Cat' Dickinson (@Astroguyz) November 17, 2020
Earlier this year, another astronomical object made a close approach to our planet.
In August, an asteroid named ‘2020 QG’ passed within just 1,830mi(2,945km) of Earth. Similarly, astronomers did not spot the space body until after it had passed on.
At the time, NASA wrote:


iheartintelligence--2020-11-19--Caring 13-year-old Trades In Xbox and Does Yard Work to Buy His Struggling Mom a Car

Teenagers are often viewed with negativity due to their rebellious nature , and even those of us who have made it through our teen years see them as trouble .
However , there are many teens in the world who have set an incredible example for other kids as well as for grownups .
Today , we will look at the story of a 13-year-old boy from Nevada who sold his X-Box video game console and did all kinds of work in order to raise some money to surprise his struggling mother .
William Preston gave his mom an incredible @ @ @ @ @ @ @ desperately needed ; a new car .
The big-hearted boy understood that his mother was having a hard time caring for him and his two siblings as well as their three dogs without a car .
William saw a Facebook advert for a 1999 Chevrolet Metro and decided to go for it .
When William gave his mother the much-needed present , at first she was speechless , and then she became overly excited .
“ I lost it , I bawled , I was just like , there ’ s no way @ @ @ @ @ @ @ The fact that my kid did this , I ’ m proud , but as a mom I ’ m supposed to be able to take care of my kids , I ’ m supposed to do this , not the other way around , ” she said .
“ What 13-year-old buys their mom a car ?
“ I can ’ t even express it ; there are no words that can express my gratitude and how proud I am , ” William ’ s mom said .
Not long after , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a terrible financial situation .
“ WILLIAMS STORY amazing story is one of a kind , he was an amazingly outgoing person since the day he was born .
He was born with a severe case of biolateral clubfoot .
So from a week old William had surgeries and casting in both legs for years .
He never once couldn ’ t do something he set his mind to .
Learned to walk with cast on and everything .
He ’ s alwayse been an out going person .
He loves helping people @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s been a struggle for him so a couple years back he started doing lemonade stands then it went to dog poop clean up to yard work to mowing lawns using weed eaters then he started helping construction workers and he loves it .
He does all kinds of work and loves to learn new trades then he even got awarded a trip for a week by the city of fernley for helping around town and cleaning up the streets and yards of many people .
He is always trying to make @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the move and wants to help and make people smile .
And that ’ s why you are now even reading this is because William helped me his mom in a way that is unremarkable and so inspiring and loving .
I ’ m very proud of him .
Our family is going through a rough time in every aspect so anything you give is appreciated more than you know… Thank you all so much and God bless.. ” Thanks to the help of wonderful people from all around the world , they @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wish the Preston family a quick financial recovery and all the best for the future !
They deserve it !
If you wish to learn more about the story please see the video below .
What are your thoughts on this boy ’ s heartwarming gesture of kindness for his mother ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve enjoyed it .

Teenagers are often viewed with negativity due to their rebellious nature, and even those of us who have made it through our teen years see them as trouble.
However, there are many teens in the world who have set an incredible example for other kids as well as for grownups.
Today, we will look at the story of a 13-year-old boy from Nevada who sold his X-Box video game console and did all kinds of work in order to raise some money to surprise his struggling mother.
Such an inspiring story! A family in Fernley recently had to start life over from scratch. To help provide for his single mother and family, the 13-year-old son bought his mom a car! The one of a kind story airing tonight exclusively on @KOLO8 News at 10 and 11! Don’t miss it! pic.twitter.com/frda3kOpZL — Kelsey Marier (@KelseyMarier) March 29, 2019
William Preston gave his mom an incredible gift she could have never expected but desperately needed; a new car.
The big-hearted boy understood that his mother was having a hard time caring for him and his two siblings as well as their three dogs without a car.
“I saw on YouTube where people get their mom a car and then surprise her with it,” William told KOLO. “I wanted to do that.”
William saw a Facebook advert for a 1999 Chevrolet Metro and decided to go for it.
“It was really cheap so I asked her (the woman selling the car) if I could trade it for my Xbox or earn it,” the boy said. “At first she said no and after she thought about it, then she said yes.”
'What 13-year-old buys their mom a car?' William Preston took it upon himself as the oldest boy in his family to help his struggling, single mom https://t.co/tObASHEzSZ — ABC7 Eyewitness News (@ABC7) April 2, 2019
When William gave his mother the much-needed present, at first she was speechless, and then she became overly excited.
“I lost it, I bawled, I was just like, there’s no way,” Krystal Preston said. “The fact that my kid did this, I’m proud, but as a mom I’m supposed to be able to take care of my kids, I’m supposed to do this, not the other way around,” she said. “What 13-year-old buys their mom a car? “I can’t even express it; there are no words that can express my gratitude and how proud I am,” William’s mom said.
Not long after, William’s family found themselves in a terrible financial situation.
Krystal set up a GoFundMe page explaining:
“WILLIAMS STORY amazing story is one of a kind, he was an amazingly outgoing person since the day he was born. He was born with a severe case of biolateral clubfoot. So from a week old William had surgeries and casting in both legs for years. He never once couldn’t do something he set his mind to. Learned to walk with cast on and everything. He’s alwayse been an out going person . He loves helping people. William also has ADHD and it’s been a struggle for him so a couple years back he started doing lemonade stands then it went to dog poop clean up to yard work to mowing lawns using weed eaters then he started helping construction workers and he loves it. He does all kinds of work and loves to learn new trades then he even got awarded a trip for a week by the city of fernley for helping around town and cleaning up the streets and yards of many people. He is always trying to make people smile . William is always on the move and wants to help and make people smile . And that’s why you are now even reading this is because William helped me his mom in a way that is unremarkable and so inspiring and loving . I’m very proud of him . Our family is going through a rough time in every aspect so anything you give is appreciated more than you know… Thank you all so much and God bless..”
Thanks to the help of wonderful people from all around the world, they managed to raise $13,000!
We wish the Preston family a quick financial recovery and all the best for the future! They deserve it!
If you wish to learn more about the story please see the video below.
What are your thoughts on this boy’s heartwarming gesture of kindness for his mother? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed it.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--8 natural medicines to boost your immune system

We are currently living in difficult and frightening times .
Due to the Coronavirus pandemic , many of us are anxious and afraid .
Some fear for their lives and others are afraid that they may lose their loved ones .
All over the world , people are being told to wash their hands more often , wear face masks , and practice social distancing .
However , despite the enforcement of these measures , the number of those infected is not diminishing .
In fact , many countries are seeing a drastic spike in cases now that winter is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are proving to be insufficient , then it is time to search for other ways in which we can protect ourselves .
There are 8 natural medicines that can boost the immune system .
Fruits like oranges , grapefruits , clementines , tangerines , lemons , and limes are high in vitamin C. Healthline explains that this vitamin increases the production of white blood cells which are key in helping your body fight off infections .
The immune-boosting properties of garlic are believed to originate from ‘ a heavy concentration of sulfur-containing compounds @ @ @ @ @ @ @ is used all over the world and many recognize its ability to strengthen the immune system .
It is also said to slow down the hardening of arteries and to lower blood pressure , although the evidence to support this is considered weak .
This food can be used to fight infections as it helps decrease inflammation and therefore , reduces sore throat and inflammatory illnesses .
In addition to this , Healthline notes that it can help with nausea , decrease chronic pain , and lower cholesterol .
Raw honey has proven @ @ @ @ @ @ @ fighting infections , healing wounds , and soothing a sore throat .
This is as a result of the antioxidant compounds , hydrogen peroxide , and phytonutrients that are found in honey .
Due to its high concentrations of curcumin , turmeric is believed to have immune-boosting properties .
In addition to this , according to Healthline , the spice can be used as an anti-inflammatory in treating osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis .
NDTV reports that onions have numerous immune-boosting nutrients such as selenium , sulfur compounds , zinc , and vitamin C. @ @ @ @ @ @ @ can help strengthen your immune system and fight against toxins .
It is important to note that only yogurts that have “ live and active cultures ” printed on their labels can help boost immunity .
The vitamin D present in ( plain ) yogurt can help strengthen the immune system and fight against diseases .
Moreover , the cultures found in yogurt may further boost immunity .
Adding honey to plain yogurt can make it even healthier and more beneficial !
Almonds contain high levels of vitamin E and healthy fats .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ at preventing and fighting colds and viruses , vitamin E is also key to a healthy immune system .
Healthline writes that adults need only 15mg of vitamin E to keep healthy and boost their immunity .
If you want to ensure that you do all that you can to protect yourself and your family , try adding these 8 things to your diet .

We are currently living in difficult and frightening times.
Due to the Coronavirus pandemic, many of us are anxious and afraid. Some fear for their lives and others are afraid that they may lose their loved ones. All over the world, people are being told to wash their hands more often, wear face masks, and practice social distancing. However, despite the enforcement of these measures, the number of those infected is not diminishing. In fact, many countries are seeing a drastic spike in cases now that winter is rapidly approaching. If the current measures are proving to be insufficient, then it is time to search for other ways in which we can protect ourselves.
There are 8 natural medicines that can boost the immune system.
1. Citrus fruits
Fruits like oranges, grapefruits, clementines, tangerines, lemons, and limes are high in vitamin C. Healthline explains that this vitamin increases the production of white blood cells which are key in helping your body fight off infections.
2. Garlic
The immune-boosting properties of garlic are believed to originate from ‘a heavy concentration of sulfur-containing compounds, such as allicin’. Garlic is used all over the world and many recognize its ability to strengthen the immune system. It is also said to slow down the hardening of arteries and to lower blood pressure, although the evidence to support this is considered weak.
3. Ginger
This food can be used to fight infections as it helps decrease inflammation and therefore, reduces sore throat and inflammatory illnesses. In addition to this, Healthline notes that it can help with nausea, decrease chronic pain, and lower cholesterol.
4. Raw honey
Raw honey has proven to have numerous different benefits such as fighting infections, healing wounds, and soothing a sore throat. This is as a result of the antioxidant compounds, hydrogen peroxide, and phytonutrients that are found in honey.
5. Turmeric
Due to its high concentrations of curcumin, turmeric is believed to have immune-boosting properties. In addition to this, according to Healthline, the spice can be used as an anti-inflammatory in treating osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis.
6. Onions
NDTV reports that onions have numerous immune-boosting nutrients such as selenium, sulfur compounds, zinc, and vitamin C. Therefore, adding onions to your diet can help strengthen your immune system and fight against toxins.
7. Yogurt
It is important to note that only yogurts that have “live and active cultures” printed on their labels can help boost immunity. The vitamin D present in (plain) yogurt can help strengthen the immune system and fight against diseases. Moreover, the cultures found in yogurt may further boost immunity. Adding honey to plain yogurt can make it even healthier and more beneficial!
8. Almonds
Almonds contain high levels of vitamin E and healthy fats. While vitamin C is seen as better at preventing and fighting colds and viruses, vitamin E is also key to a healthy immune system. Healthline writes that adults need only 15mg of vitamin E to keep healthy and boost their immunity.
If you want to ensure that you do all that you can to protect yourself and your family, try adding these 8 things to your diet.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--Unlike Extroverts, Most Introverts Do Not Consider Everyone Their Friend

For introverts , the word ‘ friend ’ carries more meaning and significance than it does for extroverts .
While extroverts can call almost anyone they meet their ‘ friend ’ , introverts divide people into acquaintances and friends .
It takes a lot more than just a meeting for an introvert to call someone their friend .
That is , for them , a friend is someone who they can let into their inner world and be themselves around .
An acquaintance , on the other hand , is a person around who introverts feel uncomfortable as they have @ @ @ @ @ @ @ small talk .
It can take months for an introvert to call someone a friend .
After they meet someone for the first time , introverted people take time to analyze and observe the person .
They can spend months wondering and considering whether or not they have the potential to be a close friend .
In other words , they ask themselves if they can trust the person or have meaningful discussions with them .
In contrast with this , extroverts do not spend any time analyzing people .
The reason behind @ @ @ @ @ @ @ having small talk and conversations about everyday things without feeling overwhelmed , pressured , and fatigued .
Introverts may seem unfriendly and uninterested .
To those who do not fully understand them , introverts may seem as though they are unfriendly as they do not seem to put in the effort to make friends .
In reality , introverted people are just extremely picky when it comes to making friends .
When they do make close friends , they are extremely friendly and can even be talkative !
The truth is that introverts @ @ @ @ @ @ @ time and energy on people who they know will not become their close friends .
They learn to outgrow the pressure to be ‘ popular ’ .
Growing up , children often feel pressured to socialize with everyone and become popular .
Moreover , it is believed that being popular is synonymous with being ( or having the potential to become ) successful .
For introverts , this is not only difficult but also exhausting as they would much rather stay home or be surrounded by a small group of friends .
Ultimately @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and their occasional need to be alone .

For introverts, the word ‘friend’ carries more meaning and significance than it does for extroverts.
While extroverts can call almost anyone they meet their ‘friend’, introverts divide people into acquaintances and friends. It takes a lot more than just a meeting for an introvert to call someone their friend. That is, for them, a friend is someone who they can let into their inner world and be themselves around. An acquaintance, on the other hand, is a person around who introverts feel uncomfortable as they have to fake their smiles and make meaningless small talk.
It can take months for an introvert to call someone a friend.
After they meet someone for the first time, introverted people take time to analyze and observe the person. They can spend months wondering and considering whether or not they have the potential to be a close friend. In other words, they ask themselves if they can trust the person or have meaningful discussions with them. In contrast with this, extroverts do not spend any time analyzing people. The reason behind this is that they are capable of having small talk and conversations about everyday things without feeling overwhelmed, pressured, and fatigued.
Introverts may seem unfriendly and uninterested.
To those who do not fully understand them, introverts may seem as though they are unfriendly as they do not seem to put in the effort to make friends. In reality, introverted people are just extremely picky when it comes to making friends. When they do make close friends, they are extremely friendly and can even be talkative! The truth is that introverts do not see the point in spending time and energy on people who they know will not become their close friends.
They learn to outgrow the pressure to be ‘popular’.
Growing up, children often feel pressured to socialize with everyone and become popular. Moreover, it is believed that being popular is synonymous with being (or having the potential to become) successful. For introverts, this is not only difficult but also exhausting as they would much rather stay home or be surrounded by a small group of friends. Ultimately, introverts prefer friends who understand them and their occasional need to be alone.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--7 Weird Thoughts Every Introvert Has After Socializing

Do you ever find yourself having weird thoughts as an introvert ?
Do you sometimes feel out of place being a quiet person ?
It ’ s like the world tells you being less than overly social is simply unacceptable .
Extroverts often make you feel inadequate for preferring to be quiet .
If that fits your description , you may recognize some of the following weird thoughts introverts often find themselves having .
1 .
“ I ’ ll Only Come If I Can Go Home Whenever I Feel Like It ” We introverts usually like to have a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ parties .
Actually , this is the key reason why some of us like to drive our own vehicle when we go to such events .
Especially when it comes to parties we did not want to attend in the first place .
2 .
“ Don ’ t ask me why I ’ m so quiet ” We hate it when people ask us why we ’ re being so quiet .
We ’ re just tired of people coming to us with this annoying question time and time again .
We @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Why is that so hard to understand ?
3 .
“ And this is meant to be more fun than reading ?
” Sure , extroverts enjoy reading books too .
But it can be said that only introverts know what it ’ s like to start daydreaming about the great book they left home when they find themselves in the midst of a birthday party , a loud club , or some other “ cool ” event that young people are meant to enjoy .
4 .
“ Maybe if I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ from the bathroom right into my room before my flatmates notice me ” Of course , not all introverts feel that they have to hide from their flatmates , but many of us strongly feel this way .
The truth is , introverts often avoid talking even to perfectly decent people just to avoid the agony that is small talk .
5 .
“ I wish my neighbors weren ’ t so chatty ” It ’ s not that we introverts want our neighbors to not be friendly to us .
We all @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ re even slightly introverted , then you know there aren ’ t many things more annoying than having the kind of neighbors who chat you up every time you cross paths – or , even worse , drop by unannounced .
6 .
“ I need to be in the company of likeminded people , but I don ’ t really want to talk to anyone right now ” This is why many introverts are very selective about who they let into their private circle .
Because it isn ’ t always @ @ @ @ @ @ @ an introvert , especially if you ’ re an extrovert .
On some days , we just want to do our own thing and paint something or watch a movie , but that doesn ’ t mean we don ’ t need to have other human beings around while we do these things .
It is a strange kind of loneliness that extroverts might not relate to .
7 .
“ I hope there ’ ll be a pet I can play with at that party ” Again , introverts don ’ t @ @ @ @ @ @ @ lot but feel more at ease having animals around than people we don ’ t know most of the time .
Pets are not judgemental , they don ’ t talk about boring topics , and they surely won ’ t expect you to snap photos of them .
You won ’ t have to engage in small talk with them either .
Can you relate to these points ?
Do you believe there ’ s something we might have missed here ?
Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining @ @ @ @ @ @ @ share this article if you ’ ve enjoyed the read .

“I wish, as well as everybody else, to be perfectly happy; but like everybody else, it must
be in my own way.” ~ Jane Austen
Do you ever find yourself having weird thoughts as an introvert?
Do you sometimes feel out of place being a quiet person? It’s like the world tells you being less than overly social is simply unacceptable. Extroverts often make you feel inadequate for preferring to be quiet.
If that fits your description, you may recognize some of the following weird thoughts introverts often find themselves having.
1. “I’ll Only Come If I Can Go Home Whenever I Feel Like It”
We introverts usually like to have a plan of escape when it comes to parties. Actually, this is the key reason why some of us like to drive our own vehicle when we go to such events. Especially when it comes to parties we did not want to attend in the first place.
2. “Don’t ask me why I’m so quiet”
We hate it when people ask us why we’re being so quiet. We’re just tired of people coming to us with this annoying question time and time again. We are quiet because we feel like it. Why is that so hard to understand?
3. “And this is meant to be more fun than reading?”
Sure, extroverts enjoy reading books too. But it can be said that only introverts know what it’s like to start daydreaming about the great book they left home when they find themselves in the midst of a birthday party, a loud club, or some other “cool” event that young people are meant to enjoy.
4. “Maybe if I’m quick enough I can jump from the bathroom right into my room before my flatmates notice me”
Of course, not all introverts feel that they have to hide from their flatmates, but many of us strongly feel this way. The truth is, introverts often avoid talking even to perfectly decent people just to avoid the agony that is small talk.
5. “I wish my neighbors weren’t so chatty”
It’s not that we introverts want our neighbors to not be friendly to us. We all want kind neighbors. But if you’re even slightly introverted, then you know there aren’t many things more annoying than having the kind of neighbors who chat you up every time you cross paths – or, even worse, drop by unannounced.
6. “I need to be in the company of likeminded people, but I don’t really want to talk to anyone right now”
This is why many introverts are very selective about who they let into their private circle. Because it isn’t always easy to be friends with or date an introvert, especially if you’re an extrovert.
On some days, we just want to do our own thing and paint something or watch a movie, but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to have other human beings around while we do these things. It is a strange kind of loneliness that extroverts might not relate to.
7. “I hope there’ll be a pet I can play with at that party”
Again, introverts don’t dislike people. We like people a lot but feel more at ease having animals around than people we don’t know most of the time. Pets are not judgemental, they don’t talk about boring topics, and they surely won’t expect you to snap photos of them. You won’t have to engage in small talk with them either.
Can you relate to these points? Do you believe there’s something we might have missed here? Let us know your thoughts on the topic by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed the read.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--4 Reasons Why Introverts Are More Self-Aware Than Extroverts

4 Reasons Why Introverts Are More Self-Aware Than Extroverts Introverts tend to be more self-aware than most people .
It is to be expected that those who spend most of their time in solitude have a better understanding of themselves than those who are constantly surrounded by people .
For this reason , introverts tend to be much more self-aware than extroverts as rather than going out , they tend to prefer spending time alone .
In addition to this , there are four main reasons why introverts have high levels of self-awareness .
Introspection is not only natural and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ introverted people actually enjoy doing .
That is , they are curious about what they can find about themselves when they dive into their inner world .
They observe their thoughts and emotions , reflect on the things they notice , and make important conclusions about their habits , triggers , beliefs , and values .
Introverts treasure the time they spend on their own as it allows them to recharge their batteries .
It is important to note that all interactions – no matter how small – can overwhelm and exhaust an @ @ @ @ @ @ @ often need to isolate themselves and recharge .
What is more , they take their quiet time to reflect on the things going on in their lives .
In doing so , they become more aware of the things that happen at work , at home , and in their relationships .
It is well known that introverted people tend to be good listeners .
While they may not be the perfect people to run to for advice , they are the go-to people for those who just need someone to hear them @ @ @ @ @ @ @ incredible ability to listen carefully and attentively to their friends and family , introverts have learned to also listen to themselves .
This means that they understand the needs and wants of their minds and bodies better than anybody else .
4 .
Introverts use hobbies as a form of self-expression Whether it is writing , drawing , dancing , or something else , introverts indulge in hobbies through which they can express themselves .
More often than not , these hobbies and activities allow them to find out things that they did @ @ @ @ @ @ @ in group activities , introverts prefer having hobbies that they can enjoy on their own .
These hobbies usually allow them to dive deep into their inner world and reach new levels of self-awareness .
Self-awareness can help introverts make decisions more easily .
Subsequently , if used wisely , it can help them navigate through life more smoothly .

Introverts tend to be more self-aware than most people.
It is to be expected that those who spend most of their time in solitude have a better understanding of themselves than those who are constantly surrounded by people. For this reason, introverts tend to be much more self-aware than extroverts as rather than going out, they tend to prefer spending time alone. In addition to this, there are four main reasons why introverts have high levels of self-awareness.
1. Introverts find introspection natural
Introspection is not only natural and easy, but it is something that introverted people actually enjoy doing. That is, they are curious about what they can find about themselves when they dive into their inner world. They observe their thoughts and emotions, reflect on the things they notice, and make important conclusions about their habits, triggers, beliefs, and values.
2. Introverts treasure solitude
Introverts treasure the time they spend on their own as it allows them to recharge their batteries. It is important to note that all interactions – no matter how small – can overwhelm and exhaust an introvert. For this reason, they often need to isolate themselves and recharge. What is more, they take their quiet time to reflect on the things going on in their lives. In doing so, they become more aware of the things that happen at work, at home, and in their relationships.
3. Introverts are excellent listeners
It is well known that introverted people tend to be good listeners. While they may not be the perfect people to run to for advice, they are the go-to people for those who just need someone to hear them out. As a result of their incredible ability to listen carefully and attentively to their friends and family, introverts have learned to also listen to themselves. This means that they understand the needs and wants of their minds and bodies better than anybody else.
4. Introverts use hobbies as a form of self-expression
Whether it is writing, drawing, dancing, or something else, introverts indulge in hobbies through which they can express themselves. More often than not, these hobbies and activities allow them to find out things that they did not know. While extroverts may engage in group activities, introverts prefer having hobbies that they can enjoy on their own. These hobbies usually allow them to dive deep into their inner world and reach new levels of self-awareness.
Self-awareness can help introverts make decisions more easily. Subsequently, if used wisely, it can help them navigate through life more smoothly.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--Those high in vulnerable narcissism are more likely to feel shame in their everyday life

Those high in vulnerable narcissism are more likely to feel shame in their everyday life A new study provides eye-opening information on the role of shame in narcissistic personalities .
The experts found that people high in vulnerable narcissism feel more shame on a daily basis .
Other studies have suggested that shame can lead to damaging behaviors in narcissists .
But findings on this topic have been mixed .
Research authors Marco Di Sarno and his team – consisting of Johannes Zimmermann , Fabio Madeddu , Erica Casini , and Rossella Di Pierro – say that for clinicians hoping @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with narcissistic tendencies it is crucial to clarify the relationship between narcissism and shame .
By using a longitudinal method and a number of measures for narcissism , the experts wanted to go further than previous studies .
196 youngsters aged 22 on average , took part in a diary study .
They completed self-report measures of narcissism by using the Brief Pathological Narcissism Inventory ( B-PNI ) and the Five-Factor Narcissism Inventory – Short Form ( FFNI-SF ) .
In addition , they completed measures of self-esteem and shame-proneness .
Later on @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they had to answer questions once a day for 28 days .
The survey assessed how they were feeling that day in terms of shame , self-esteem , vulnerable narcissism , and grandiose narcissism .
The first results showed that vulnerable narcissism was positively correlated with shame on average during the 28-day period .
According to FFNI-SF and B-PNI , this was true for measures for the vulnerable narcissism category .
In other words , Furthermore , some components included in the vulnerable narcissism assessments were also linked with everyday shame .
The @ @ @ @ @ @ @ negatively correlated with shame was entitlement rage .
According to the authors , on days when subjects reported feeling vulnerable , they also felt more shame .
When they were feeling more grandiose , on the other hand , they reported feeling less shame .
While the study was able to shed some light on the topic , it relied mainly on self-report measures and a nonclinical sample of youngsters who were mainly women .
According to the team , future studies should aim to include a stronger variety of participants .
The @ @ @ @ @ @ @ corner ?
A daily diary investigation of pathological narcissism ” and was published in the Journal of Research in Personality .
What are your thoughts on these findings ?
Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you ’ ve enjoyed the read .

Those high in vulnerable narcissism are more likely to feel shame in their everyday life
Those high in vulnerable narcissism are more likely to feel shame in their everyday life
A new study provides eye-opening information on the role of shame in narcissistic personalities.
The experts found that people high in vulnerable narcissism feel more shame on a daily basis.
Other studies have suggested that shame can lead to damaging behaviors in narcissists. But findings on this topic have been mixed.
Research authors Marco Di Sarno and his team – consisting of Johannes Zimmermann, Fabio Madeddu, Erica Casini, and Rossella Di Pierro – say that for clinicians hoping to come up with solutions for patients with narcissistic tendencies it is crucial to clarify the relationship between narcissism and shame.
“The present study investigated whether feelings of shame are typical of pathological narcissism, and examined if narcissistic traits modulate the impact of situations on such emotional experiences,” Di Sarno and the team say.
By using a longitudinal method and a number of measures for narcissism, the experts wanted to go further than previous studies.
196 youngsters aged 22 on average, took part in a diary study. They completed self-report measures of narcissism by using the Brief Pathological Narcissism Inventory (B-PNI) and the Five-Factor Narcissism Inventory – Short Form (FFNI-SF). In addition, they completed measures of self-esteem and shame-proneness.
Later on, the subjects used an app where they had to answer questions once a day for 28 days. The survey assessed how they were feeling that day in terms of shame, self-esteem, vulnerable narcissism, and grandiose narcissism.
The first results showed that vulnerable narcissism was positively correlated with shame on average during the 28-day period. According to FFNI-SF and B-PNI, this was true for measures for the vulnerable narcissism category. In other words,
“The higher vulnerable narcissism, the more participants experienced shame,” Di Sarno’s team said.
Furthermore, some components included in the vulnerable narcissism assessments were also linked with everyday shame.
“Participants with fragile self-esteem (i.e., B-PNI contingent self-esteem), a tendency to devalue intimacy for fear of disappointment (i.e., B-PNI devaluing), and pronounced needs for admiration (i.e., FFNI-SF) were more likely to experience shame.”
The only assessment from the B-PNI that was negatively correlated with shame was entitlement rage.
“In other words, the present study leaves little doubt that conscious experiences of shame are typical of those who score higher on measures of vulnerable narcissism, with the probable exception of those who tend to react with hostility to unmet entitled expectations,” the researchers said.
According to the authors, on days when subjects reported feeling vulnerable, they also felt more shame. When they were feeling more grandiose, on the other hand, they reported feeling less shame.
“Conscious experiences of shame may be to some extent incompatible with simultaneous conscious experiences of grandiosity (Broucek, 1982). In a sense, if dispositional grandiose narcissism does not necessarily protect against shame, feeling grandiose in the moment usually does,” Di Sarno’s team says.
While the study was able to shed some light on the topic, it relied mainly on self-report measures and a nonclinical sample of youngsters who were mainly women. According to the team, future studies should aim to include a stronger variety of participants.
The study is called “Shame behind the corner? A daily diary investigation of pathological narcissism” and was published in the Journal of Research in Personality.
What are your thoughts on these findings? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed the read.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--The Silent Treatment: Why it is abusive and how to respond to it

What is the silent treatment ?
Purposely ignoring someone , refusing to listen to them , and icing them out is often referred to as giving them the ‘ silent treatment ’ .
While many people purposely go silent after – or even during – an argument , they may do so in order to prevent saying something which they will regret .
Having a time-out duriang or after an argument is generally seen as an attempt to improve communication and protect the other person ’ s feelings .
It is important to note that this is not the same @ @ @ @ @ @ @ while one is intended to improve communication , the other is a form of abuse and control .
Why is the silent treatment an abusive control tactic ?
According to Lisa Aronson Fontes Ph.D. , many survivors of abuse admit that being ignored and iced out for long periods of time is worse than being yelled at .
The reason for this is that when one shouts at you , they are still voicing their thoughts and expressing their feelings .
In contrast to this , subjecting someone to the silent treatment means @ @ @ @ @ @ @ access to what is going on inside your head .
This can be especially terrifying for victims of abuse as they do not know what their abuser is thinking .
With time , to avoid this intense fear and vulnerability , many become submissive and liable to control .
How can you cope with and respond to the silent treatment ?
Voice your feelings and thoughts : Make sure that your partner knows that the way they are behaving is making you feel uncomfortable , afraid , and vulnerable .
Be gentle in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ can improve communication in your relationship .
It is vital that you have a strong support system of loving friends and family .
Being able to confide in other people can help tremendously as you can find more courage and strength to stand up for yourself instead of becoming submissive and liable to control .
Set boundaries and stand up for yourself : If your partner dismisses your feelings , be firmer , and set boundaries .
Clarify what behavior is unacceptable to you and explain that there will be certain consequences if @ @ @ @ @ @ @ A counselor or therapist can help you manage abusive behavior and control tactics healthily .
If your relationship is causing you more harm than good , you might have to step back and reconsider it .

What is the silent treatment?
Purposely ignoring someone, refusing to listen to them, and icing them out is often referred to as giving them the ‘silent treatment’. While many people purposely go silent after – or even during – an argument, they may do so in order to prevent saying something which they will regret. Having a time-out duriang or after an argument is generally seen as an attempt to improve communication and protect the other person’s feelings. It is important to note that this is not the same as giving someone the silent treatment as while one is intended to improve communication, the other is a form of abuse and control.
Why is the silent treatment an abusive control tactic?
According to Lisa Aronson Fontes Ph.D., many survivors of abuse admit that being ignored and iced out for long periods of time is worse than being yelled at. The reason for this is that when one shouts at you, they are still voicing their thoughts and expressing their feelings. In contrast to this, subjecting someone to the silent treatment means pushing them away and not giving them access to what is going on inside your head. This can be especially terrifying for victims of abuse as they do not know what their abuser is thinking. With time, to avoid this intense fear and vulnerability, many become submissive and liable to control.
How can you cope with and respond to the silent treatment?
Voice your feelings and thoughts: Make sure that your partner knows that the way they are behaving is making you feel uncomfortable, afraid, and vulnerable.
Be gentle in your approach and try offering ways you can improve communication in your relationship.
Avoid becoming isolated:
It is vital that you have a strong support system of loving friends and family. Being able to confide in other people can help tremendously as you can find more courage and strength to stand up for yourself instead of becoming submissive and liable to control.
Set boundaries and stand up for yourself:
If your partner dismisses your feelings, be firmer, and set boundaries. Clarify what behavior is unacceptable to you and explain that there will be certain consequences if these boundaries are ignored or crossed.
Seek professional counseling:
A counselor or therapist can help you manage abusive behavior and control tactics healthily.
Consider ending the relationship:
If your relationship is causing you more harm than good, you might have to step back and reconsider it.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--Are “Dark” personalities more likely to signal victimhood?

People who signal virtue and victimhood are more likely to display dark personality traits , experts say .
Researchers at the University of British Columbia have discovered that “ individuals with Dark Triad traits – Machiavellianism , Narcissism , Psychopathy—more frequently signal virtuous victimhood.
” In another study , psychologists at the University of Durham revealed that women considered the same man as more appealing when he had dark triad traits .
Another exciting finding can be seen in the book “ Tell Me What You Want ” by psychologist Justin Lehmiller .
The author explains that when it comes @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Batman .
He suggests that the reason behind this intriguing choice is Bruse Wayne ’ s higher score on dark triad traits .
Furthermore , researchers Carrie Haslam and V. Tamara Montrose observed that British females aged 18 to 28 are more attracted to narcissists than to ordinary partners .
This could be explained by the fact that people with narcissistic personalities possess “ qualities associated with status and resource provision.
” So , could “ Dark ” personalities be beneficial in certain settings ?
As writer Rob Henderson notes , the Columbia @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Machiavellianism , narcissism , and psychopathy , might be quite favorable for increasing one ’ s social status .
For instance , they note that in modern Western societies , “ victim signaling ” can help the person “ achieve their goals in situations that are responsive to their claims.
” As a credible explanation of this phenomenon , the researchers point out the ease of human suffering .
In other words , signaling that you have less than others and that this makes your life incredibly difficult can be a beneficial strategy @ @ @ @ @ @ @ it may work better if your words are genuine , and others perceive you as a trustworthy person .
Is there a strong interaction between Dark personalities and Victim & Virtue signaling ?
While conducting the study , the scientists developed a Victim Signaling Scale .
The participants were asked about how often they engage in certain activities , where 1 equals “ not at all , ” and 5 equals “ always.
” These include : “ Disclosed that I don ’ t feel accepted in society because of my identity.
” @ @ @ @ @ @ @ are underrepresented in the media and leadership.
” After counting the results , the researchers found out that Victim Signaling scores highly correlated with dark triad scores ( r = .35 ) .
Additionally , the respondents rated the extent to which they agreed or disagreed with statements about Virtue Signaling .
While answering questions about moral values , including justice , empathy , and honesty , they displayed that Virtue Signaling was also closely associated with dark triad scores ( r = .18 ) .
In a follow-up study , where they @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , the researchers found a stronger correlation between the dark triad traits and victim signaling ( r = .52 ) .
What is more , they discovered that victim signaling was also negatively correlated with Honesty-Humility ( r = -.38 ) .
These findings indicate that “ high victim signalers were less likely to endorse statements about acting honestly and showing humility.
” In order to make things more interesting , the examiners also had participants play a game .
The rules were simple – it was a coin flip game , in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ they won .
However , the researchers rigged the game so that cheating would be quite easy .
Therefore , participants could claim they won even if they didn ’ t , and get more money .
The simple game revealed that those who signaled victimhood were more likely to cheat .
Overall , the people who scored higher on dark triad traits were more likely to be victim signalers .
Plus , they might be more likely to deceive others for their own benefit .
Are victim signalers more likely to overstate @ @ @ @ @ @ @ advantage ?
During another stage of the study , the participants were told to imagine they were competing with another intern for the same job position .
The researchers explained : The results of this particular part of the research showed that victim signalers were more likely to exaggerate the negative qualities of their competitors .
Their answers revealed that they are prone to agree that the intern “ Made demeaning or derogatory remarks , ” or “ Put you down in front of coworkers , ” even though the description of their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ While real victims do exist , and they have no intention of deceiving others , there are social predators who take advantage of victimhood .
These highly immoral beings are capable of adapting to any situation in order to make sure they would gain benefits in the form of material resources , social status , or even sexual relationships .
Hopefully , now that you have learned about the corelation between dark personalities and victimhood signaling , you will be able to easier detect whether you ’ re dealing with a genuine or @ @ @ @

People who signal virtue and victimhood are more likely to display dark personality traits, experts say.
Researchers at the University of British Columbia have discovered that “individuals with Dark Triad traits – Machiavellianism, Narcissism, Psychopathy—more frequently signal virtuous victimhood.”
In another study, psychologists at the University of Durham revealed that women considered the same man as more appealing when he had dark triad traits.
Another exciting finding can be seen in the book “Tell Me What You Want” by psychologist Justin Lehmiller. The author explains that when it comes to superheroes, most women fantasized about Batman. He suggests that the reason behind this intriguing choice is Bruse Wayne’s higher score on dark triad traits.
Furthermore, researchers Carrie Haslam and V. Tamara Montrose observed that British females aged 18 to 28 are more attracted to narcissists than to ordinary partners. This could be explained by the fact that people with narcissistic personalities possess “qualities associated with status and resource provision.”
So, could “Dark” personalities be beneficial in certain settings?
As writer Rob Henderson notes, the Columbia experts claim that the Dark Triad – Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy, might be quite favorable for increasing one’s social status. For instance, they note that in modern Western societies, “victim signaling” can help the person “achieve their goals in situations that are responsive to their claims.”
As a credible explanation of this phenomenon, the researchers point out the ease of human suffering. In other words, signaling that you have less than others and that this makes your life incredibly difficult can be a beneficial strategy for obtaining material resources. However, it may work better if your words are genuine, and others perceive you as a trustworthy person.
Is there a strong interaction between Dark personalities and Victim & Virtue signaling?
While conducting the study, the scientists developed a Victim Signaling Scale. The participants were asked about how often they engage in certain activities, where 1 equals “not at all,” and 5 equals “always.” These include: “Disclosed that I don’t feel accepted in society because of my identity.” and “Expressed how people like me are underrepresented in the media and leadership.”
After counting the results, the researchers found out that Victim Signaling scores highly correlated with dark triad scores (r = .35).
Additionally, the respondents rated the extent to which they agreed or disagreed with statements about Virtue Signaling. While answering questions about moral values, including justice, empathy, and honesty, they displayed that Virtue Signaling was also closely associated with dark triad scores (r = .18).
In a follow-up study, where they used a more vigorous dark triad scale, the researchers found a stronger correlation between the dark triad traits and victim signaling (r = .52). What is more, they discovered that victim signaling was also negatively correlated with Honesty-Humility (r = -.38). These findings indicate that “high victim signalers were less likely to endorse statements about acting honestly and showing humility.”
Can a simple coin flip game reveal Dark triad traits?
In order to make things more interesting, the examiners also had participants play a game. The rules were simple – it was a coin flip game, in which the players could win money if they won. However, the researchers rigged the game so that cheating would be quite easy. Therefore, participants could claim they won even if they didn’t, and get more money.
The simple game revealed that those who signaled victimhood were more likely to cheat.
Overall, the people who scored higher on dark triad traits were more likely to be victim signalers. Plus, they might be more likely to deceive others for their own benefit.
Are victim signalers more likely to overstate others’ negative traits to obtain personal advantage?
During another stage of the study, the participants were told to imagine they were competing with another intern for the same job position. The researchers explained:
“You keep noticing little things about the way the intern talks to you. You get the feeling the other intern may have no respect for your suggestions at all. To your face, the intern is friendly, but something feels off to you.”
The results of this particular part of the research showed that victim signalers were more likely to exaggerate the negative qualities of their competitors. Their answers revealed that they are prone to agree that the intern “Made demeaning or derogatory remarks,” or “Put you down in front of coworkers,” even though the description of their competitor did not indicate such behavior.
While real victims do exist, and they have no intention of deceiving others, there are social predators who take advantage of victimhood. These highly immoral beings are capable of adapting to any situation in order to make sure they would gain benefits in the form of material resources, social status, or even sexual relationships.
Hopefully, now that you have learned about the corelation between dark personalities and victimhood signaling, you will be able to easier detect whether you’re dealing with a genuine or a dishonest person.


iheartintelligence--2020-11-20--Why THIS one word is so dangerous for your mind. Choose your words wisely!

Why THIS one word is so dangerous for your mind .
Choose your words wisely !
What is the one word that can tremendously affect both the one who says it and the one who hears it ?
This simple two-lettered expression can trigger tons of anxiety-related emotions .
It can make you lose all logic and forget everything you know .
This terrifying word is “ NO ” .
But why do we find it so challenging to say or hear the word “ NO ” sometimes ?
In general , vocalizing negativity releases stress chemicals not only in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ the one witnessing it .
As per Psychology Today , even if someone struggling with severe anxiety only sees a list of negative words for a few seconds , this can make them feel even worse .
Moreover , it can disrupt their sleep , appetite , and ability to experience long-term happiness .
This unfortunate phenomenon can be seen in those who spend their time with negative people as well .
When you ’ re in the company of a pessimistic person , who constantly complains about everything , you eventually start @ @ @ @ @ @ @ as well .
Sometimes this can even affect the way you perceive others .
What negative thinking does to your mind is stimulating the release of destructive neurochemicals .
Simply put , the more negative thoughts you have , the more likely you are to suffer a mental health issue .
However , the very same thing goes for positive thinking .
If you strive to focus on the bright side of things , you can turn not only your mindset but your whole life around .
Unfortunately , for many of us @ @ @ @ @ @ @ dialogues and situations , the harder it gets to let go .
As a matter of fact , there is a disturbing correlation between anger-infused words and rationality in people .
If you are emotionally invested while saying hurtful words , your brain will receive alarming signals which interfere with its decision-making hubs .
In other words , emotions like anger , jealousy , and frustration can make you act completely irrational .
Furthermore , the situation with phrases that provoke fear is quite similar .
Certain parts of the brain get negatively @ @ @ @ @ @ @ that occur only in your imagination .
This explains why people coping with anxiety are prone to toxic overthinking .
However , the fact that certain things trigger negative emotions does not mean you can ’ t fight it .
There are quite a few things you can do to shift your mentality .
What steps do you need to take to stop negativity from controlling your mind ?
According to Andrew Newberg , M.D.
, and Mark Robert Waldman , authors of the book “ Words Can Change Your Brain ” , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to overcome this .
To begin with , you need to question yourself whether the stressful situation you believe you are in is a real threat to your survival .
In most cases , it is not .
The faster you realize this , the faster you will be able to break the chains of negativity .
The next thing you could do is to reframe the negative thoughts by choosing to focus on positive words and images .
This way , the number of toxic thoughts , especially the unconscious ones , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ anxiety and depression levels will be significantly reduced .
As soon as you feel your stress levels decreasing , you can try to turn your worries into positive affirmations .
This is low key a superpower that helps you acknowledge your feelings and control your emotions .
Once you master it , your confidence will regain , and you will remind yourself what it ’ s like to feel good in your own skin .
Adopting the practice of sending positive affirmations to the universe is a crucial step on the road to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wisely can not only influence your mental health but your whole life .
Experts advise that the mere repetition of positive words like love , peace , and compassion will turn on specific genes that lower your physical and emotional stress .
Therefore , when you are carefully using your words , you can easily control your mind .
A little something you could try is saying at least five positive affirmations for every negative thought that crosses your mind .
This is a practice that allows you to clear all the negative @ @ @ @ @ @ @ will soon feel the tremendous shift in your mindset .

What is the one word that can tremendously affect both the one who says it and the one who hears it?
This simple two-lettered expression can trigger tons of anxiety-related emotions. It can make you lose all logic and forget everything you know. This terrifying word is “NO”.
But why do we find it so challenging to say or hear the word “NO” sometimes?
In general, vocalizing negativity releases stress chemicals not only in the one expressing it but also in the one witnessing it. As per Psychology Today, even if someone struggling with severe anxiety only sees a list of negative words for a few seconds, this can make them feel even worse. Moreover, it can disrupt their sleep, appetite, and ability to experience long-term happiness.
This unfortunate phenomenon can be seen in those who spend their time with negative people as well. When you’re in the company of a pessimistic person, who constantly complains about everything, you eventually start looking at the negative side of things as well. Sometimes this can even affect the way you perceive others.
What negative thinking does to your mind is stimulating the release of destructive neurochemicals. Simply put, the more negative thoughts you have, the more likely you are to suffer a mental health issue. However, the very same thing goes for positive thinking. If you strive to focus on the bright side of things, you can turn not only your mindset but your whole life around.
Unfortunately, for many of us, the more we engage in negative dialogues and situations, the harder it gets to let go.
As a matter of fact, there is a disturbing correlation between anger-infused words and rationality in people. If you are emotionally invested while saying hurtful words, your brain will receive alarming signals which interfere with its decision-making hubs. In other words, emotions like anger, jealousy, and frustration can make you act completely irrational.
Furthermore, the situation with phrases that provoke fear is quite similar. Certain parts of the brain get negatively stimulated and make you worry about circumstances that occur only in your imagination. This explains why people coping with anxiety are prone to toxic overthinking.
However, the fact that certain things trigger negative emotions does not mean you can’t fight it. There are quite a few things you can do to shift your mentality.
What steps do you need to take to stop negativity from controlling your mind?
According to Andrew Newberg, M.D., and Mark Robert Waldman, authors of the book “Words Can Change Your Brain”, there are several things you could do to overcome this. To begin with, you need to question yourself whether the stressful situation you believe you are in is a real threat to your survival. In most cases, it is not. The faster you realize this, the faster you will be able to break the chains of negativity.
The next thing you could do is to reframe the negative thoughts by choosing to focus on positive words and images. This way, the number of toxic thoughts, especially the unconscious ones, will decrease. What is more, anxiety and depression levels will be significantly reduced.
As soon as you feel your stress levels decreasing, you can try to turn your worries into positive affirmations. This is low key a superpower that helps you acknowledge your feelings and control your emotions. Once you master it, your confidence will regain, and you will remind yourself what it’s like to feel good in your own skin. Adopting the practice of sending positive affirmations to the universe is a crucial step on the road to self-acceptance and happiness.
Choosing your words wisely can not only influence your mental health but your whole life.
Experts advise that the mere repetition of positive words like love, peace, and compassion will turn on specific genes that lower your physical and emotional stress. Therefore, when you are carefully using your words, you can easily control your mind. A little something you could try is saying at least five positive affirmations for every negative thought that crosses your mind. This is a practice that allows you to clear all the negative thoughts away and embrace positivity. You will soon feel the tremendous shift in your mindset.