mercurynews--2020-08-18--Ask Amy: He was way out of line, and it shattered our friendship

Dear Amy : My husband and I ( married 26 years ) really treasure our neighbors .
We are close friends .
They are about 10 years older than us , in their mid-60s .
Our teen daughter is close to them , too , and has spent time learning to weld with the husband .
They are among the only people we socialize with right now ( outdoor BYOB cocktails with distance ) .
A few weeks ago , the husband dropped by to bring cucumbers , and he hit on me : “ Miss you .
I ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for about an hour.
” I shut it down , “ Yeah , that ’ s not going to happen.
” Obviously , he ’ s never done anything like this before .
I told my husband that night , and we are both just so disappointed in this man .
Since then I ’ ve ignored two calls from the husband and only commented briefly on our group texts .
What happens next is up to me .
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I am completely conflicted .
The only thing I ’ ve decided is @ @ @ @ @ @ @ wife , and , truthfully , I ’ ve been trying to figure out why that decision was so automatic .
I ’ m angry and sad , and a bit concerned now about my daughter spending time alone there , although that won ’ t be happening until the COVID crisis is over .
So , what now , Amy ?
!
Dear Disappointed : I think you should take the next call .
Tell him how disturbing you found this , listen to whatever explanation he has , have your say @ @ @ @ @ @ @ about the impact on your friendship as you move forward .
Obviously , your teen daughter has now graduated from your neighbor ’ s welding school , which is a logical consequence of this breach .
Dear Amy : My husband and I have been together for four years .
He was previously married for 10 years ( no children ) .
My husband continues a friendship with his former mother-in-law .
He doesn ’ t hide it , but the minute he mentions talking to her , I just want to explode @ @ @ @ @ @ @ t have any communication with his ex-wife , but he cherishes the relationship he has with her mother because she was very good to him when he was married to her daughter .
My husband doesn ’ t have any family here — only mine — but he doesn ’ t try to have a close relationship with my mother .
He is good to my mom and we go to see her every weekend , but he doesn ’ t call her to check up on her .
Why does he try @ @ @ @ @ @ @ alive when he doesn ’ t try with my mother ?
I believe that once a relationship ends , we should distance ourselves from our past .
I mean , if we run into her somewhere it ’ s OK to say hi , but I can ’ t handle him calling her to check in .
I can ’ t make my husband do what I say , but this bothers me !
I check his phone like a spy , to see if he has called her .
I wouldn ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ me .
I am 41 years old .
I want to be very mature about this .
Dear Frustrated : Your husband sees your mother every weekend .
He cares about her and is good to her .
Why should he call her to check in ?
He sees her every few days !
Without any family here , his former mother-in-law seems to be a mother figure to him .
You two have been together for four years .
Presumably , this friendship was active and ongoing the whole time .
No @ @ @ @ @ @ @ bury their pasts , drop their friendships , and cling only to their partners .
Did you cut ties with people you care about when you got married ?
You want to be very mature about this , so grow up .
Accept this relationship , share in it if you are able , and stop policing your husband and spying on his phone .
The spying itself triggers your jealousy .
When you stop spying , you will be less stressed .
Dear Amy : I really appreciated the question from “ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ reply .
I had a similar experience of abuse growing up and have always had trouble navigating seemingly harmless social questions about my upbringing or family , particularly around the holidays .
It is nice to know I may be an orphan , but that I ’ m not alone .
Dear Also : There are many “ orphans ” created by family estrangement .
There is no shame in being a solitary survivor .
Face the occasional awkwardness with the knowledge that you are not alone .
You can email Amy Dickinson @ @ @ @ @ @ @ letter to Ask Amy , P.O .
Box 194 , Freeville , NY 13068 .
You can also follow her on Twitter @ askingamy or Facebook .

Dear Amy: My husband and I (married 26 years) really treasure our neighbors. We are close friends. They are about 10 years older than us, in their mid-60s.
Our teen daughter is close to them, too, and has spent time learning to weld with the husband. They are among the only people we socialize with right now (outdoor BYOB cocktails with distance).
A few weeks ago, the husband dropped by to bring cucumbers, and he hit on me: “Miss you. I’d like to kiss your whole face for about an hour.” I shut it down, “Yeah, that’s not going to happen.” Obviously, he’s never done anything like this before.
I told my husband that night, and we are both just so disappointed in this man. Since then I’ve ignored two calls from the husband and only commented briefly on our group texts. What happens next is up to me.
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I’m angry and sad, and a bit concerned now about my daughter spending time alone there, although that won’t be happening until the COVID crisis is over. So, what now, Amy?!
Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: I think you should take the next call. Tell him how disturbing you found this, listen to whatever explanation he has, have your say, and make choices as you go about the impact on your friendship as you move forward.
Obviously, your teen daughter has now graduated from your neighbor’s welding school, which is a logical consequence of this breach.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together for four years. He was previously married for 10 years (no children).
My husband continues a friendship with his former mother-in-law. He doesn’t hide it, but the minute he mentions talking to her, I just want to explode.
He assures me he doesn’t have any communication with his ex-wife, but he cherishes the relationship he has with her mother because she was very good to him when he was married to her daughter.
My husband doesn’t have any family here — only mine — but he doesn’t try to have a close relationship with my mother. He is good to my mom and we go to see her every weekend, but he doesn’t call her to check up on her. Why does he try to keep the relationship with his mother-in-law alive when he doesn’t try with my mother?
I believe that once a relationship ends, we should distance ourselves from our past. I mean, if we run into her somewhere it’s OK to say hi, but I can’t handle him calling her to check in.
I can’t make my husband do what I say, but this bothers me! I check his phone like a spy, to see if he has called her. I wouldn’t like him to do that to me.
I am 41 years old. I want to be very mature about this.
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: Your husband sees your mother every weekend. He cares about her and is good to her. Why should he call her to check in? He sees her every few days!
Without any family here, his former mother-in-law seems to be a mother figure to him.
You two have been together for four years. Presumably, this friendship was active and ongoing the whole time. No, marriage does not mean that spouses bury their pasts, drop their friendships, and cling only to their partners. Did you cut ties with people you care about when you got married?
You want to be very mature about this, so grow up. Accept this relationship, share in it if you are able, and stop policing your husband and spying on his phone. The spying itself triggers your jealousy. When you stop spying, you will be less stressed.
Dear Amy: I really appreciated the question from “Happily Orphaned in Austin” and your reply.
I had a similar experience of abuse growing up and have always had trouble navigating seemingly harmless social questions about my upbringing or family, particularly around the holidays.
It is nice to know I may be an orphan, but that I’m not alone.
Also Orphaned
Dear Also: There are many “orphans” created by family estrangement. There is no shame in being a solitary survivor. Face the occasional awkwardness with the knowledge that you are not alone.
You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.


mercurynews--2020-08-18--Harriette Cole: My shy roommate now has four virtual boyfriends on a string

DEAR HARRIETTE : My best friend and roommate has been dating a lot lately — so much that it worries me something else is going on .
During quarantine , she has been FaceTiming four different guys consistently and always tells them how she can ’ t wait to go out on a date with them .
Every time I bring up the four guys and whether she ’ s going to date them all , she just tells me she ’ s not sure and she ’ s just bored .
She has always been shy , and I @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Now she doesn ’ t seem to care at all .
Should I be worried , or is she really just bored and entertaining herself ?
DEAR TOO MANY MEN : The virtual world has made some people feel less shy , perhaps because the distance can make personal engagement feel less real .
Your friend may simply be bored .
Under the current circumstances , she is exploring her power by engaging these men from a distance .
The danger is that if she is flirting too much and promising things @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , she could be setting herself up for a potentially complicated letdown .
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What can I do ?
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ these four suitors is a person who deserves to be treated with respect .
She should spend time trying to figure out who she actually likes so that she can gently extricate herself from the others .
In the best of worlds , she should naturally end her courtship with the men who are not really of interest to her well before she has to say she doesn ’ t want to meet them in person .
Given that some people are venturing out and meeting up , the time to edit her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ My elderly mother lives alone in an apartment .
During quarantine she took a fall , and it was a while before she was able to crawl to her phone and call me in tears .
She was not injured — more scared than anything .
Since then , I have been trying to convince her to move in with me , but she doesn ’ t want to .
I don ’ t want anything else to happen to her , but I don ’ t feel comfortable with her being in @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to go outside .
What can I say or do to convince her that living alone is no longer suitable for her ?
DEAR MOM COME HOME : Start with smaller measures .
Get her a personal alarm , like Life Alert , that she can push if she is ever in trouble .
Activating the device will warn you and potentially the police that she has an emergency .
You may want to invest in security cameras inside her home that are motion-activated .
In this way , you will be able @ @ @ @ @ @ @ she is in trouble .
Over time , you will be able to determine whether she needs to move .
Take it slowly so that she can get used to the idea .
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS , an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams .
You can send questions to askharriette @ harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication , 1130 Walnut St. , Kansas City , MO 64106 .

DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend and roommate has been dating a lot lately — so much that it worries me something else is going on.
During quarantine, she has been FaceTiming four different guys consistently and always tells them how she can’t wait to go out on a date with them.
Every time I bring up the four guys and whether she’s going to date them all, she just tells me she’s not sure and she’s just bored.
She has always been shy, and I usually have to introduce her to guys. Now she doesn’t seem to care at all. Should I be worried, or is she really just bored and entertaining herself?
Too Many Men
DEAR TOO MANY MEN: The virtual world has made some people feel less shy, perhaps because the distance can make personal engagement feel less real.
Your friend may simply be bored. Under the current circumstances, she is exploring her power by engaging these men from a distance. The danger is that if she is flirting too much and promising things that she has no intention of doing, she could be setting herself up for a potentially complicated letdown.
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DEAR HARRIETTE: My elderly mother lives alone in an apartment. During quarantine she took a fall, and it was a while before she was able to crawl to her phone and call me in tears. She was not injured — more scared than anything.
Since then, I have been trying to convince her to move in with me, but she doesn’t want to. I don’t want anything else to happen to her, but I don’t feel comfortable with her being in her apartment alone all these months unable to go outside. What can I say or do to convince her that living alone is no longer suitable for her?
Mom Come Home
DEAR MOM COME HOME: Start with smaller measures. Get her a personal alarm, like Life Alert, that she can push if she is ever in trouble. Activating the device will warn you and potentially the police that she has an emergency. You may want to invest in security cameras inside her home that are motion-activated. In this way, you will be able to monitor her activity and know if she is in trouble. Over time, you will be able to determine whether she needs to move.
Take it slowly so that she can get used to the idea.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.


mercurynews--2020-08-18--Miss Manners: The bride has something to say, and the wording is a little tricky

DEAR MISS MANNERS : My daughter is planning , and paying for , a lovely but expensive wedding this fall .
She would like to include a note in the information packet accompanying each invitation , whose wording we seek your help with .
She wants to indicate she and her fiance are staying up to date on social distancing recommendations , and would understand if people do not wish to attend the wedding for reasons of safety .
But she also wants to state , in a polite but direct way , that the RSVP is essential to their @ @ @ @ @ @ @ for guests who don ’ t show .
Have you any suggestions as to how she can word the note for maximum effect ?
GENTLE READER : Here is how people interpret any attempt to say , “ We ’ re inviting you , but you don ’ t have to come ” : “ They don ’ t really want me ; they only want me to send a present.
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It is up to your prospective guests to decide on their own whether to attend the wedding .
They are certainly obligated to let you know their decisions , but as you and Miss Manners @ @ @ @ @ @ @ invitations , sometimes even when they do actually intend to go .
Encouraging them to attend is , however , charming .
In an informal letter , sent after the invitations , your daughter can note that she will be arranging social distancing and practicing other health precautions .
That is the place to add a gentle nag to scofflaws : “ We are hoping you will come , but haven ’ t yet heard.
” DEAR MISS MANNERS : My parents started their family about 20 years after their siblings did , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ on us .
At family gatherings as a young adult , I remember my cousins calling their aunts and uncles by their first names .
My sister and I were expected to address our relatives using their titles , so for us to say “ Mary , would you pass the salt ?
” rather than “ Aunt Mary ” never even crossed our minds .
My family could be very outspoken if they did not approve of something , and my elders never said anything about my cousins ’ not using the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ address relatives by title through my 50s ( I am now 60 ) and when reminiscing with my first and second cousins now .
Some of my second cousins have now stopped using the “ aunt ” and “ uncle ” titles .
While it does bother me a bit in reference to my own parents , it didn ’ t bother them , so I shake it off as my being overly sensitive .
Does there come a point at which adult children are free to drop the titles when speaking to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ GENTLE READER : There came a point at which many aunts and uncles decided that being shown respect made them “ feel old ” — as if they could otherwise disguise their ages — and asked to have these titles dropped .
Or parents who felt that way stopped teaching them .
Miss Manners finds those forms as charming as you do , and joins you in regretting that they are now infrequently used .
Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website , www.missmanners.com ; to her email , dearmissmanners @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to Miss Manners , Andrews McMeel Syndication , 1130 Walnut St. , Kansas City , MO 64106 .

Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My daughter is planning, and paying for, a lovely but expensive wedding this fall. She would like to include a note in the information packet accompanying each invitation, whose wording we seek your help with.
She wants to indicate she and her fiance are staying up to date on social distancing recommendations, and would understand if people do not wish to attend the wedding for reasons of safety. But she also wants to state, in a polite but direct way, that the RSVP is essential to their planning so that they do not pay for guests who don’t show.
Have you any suggestions as to how she can word the note for maximum effect?
GENTLE READER: Here is how people interpret any attempt to say, “We’re inviting you, but you don’t have to come”: “They don’t really want me; they only want me to send a present.”
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Encouraging them to attend is, however, charming. In an informal letter, sent after the invitations, your daughter can note that she will be arranging social distancing and practicing other health precautions. That is the place to add a gentle nag to scofflaws: “We are hoping you will come, but haven’t yet heard.”
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My parents started their family about 20 years after their siblings did, so our first cousins have several years on us.
At family gatherings as a young adult, I remember my cousins calling their aunts and uncles by their first names. My sister and I were expected to address our relatives using their titles, so for us to say “Mary, would you pass the salt?” rather than “Aunt Mary” never even crossed our minds.
My family could be very outspoken if they did not approve of something, and my elders never said anything about my cousins’ not using the titles. Still, I continued to address relatives by title through my 50s (I am now 60) and when reminiscing with my first and second cousins now.
Some of my second cousins have now stopped using the “aunt” and “uncle” titles. While it does bother me a bit in reference to my own parents, it didn’t bother them, so I shake it off as my being overly sensitive.
Does there come a point at which adult children are free to drop the titles when speaking to or about their aunts and uncles?
GENTLE READER: There came a point at which many aunts and uncles decided that being shown respect made them “feel old” — as if they could otherwise disguise their ages — and asked to have these titles dropped. Or parents who felt that way stopped teaching them.
Miss Manners finds those forms as charming as you do, and joins you in regretting that they are now infrequently used.
Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.


mercurynews--2020-08-18--Dear Abby: I make money from my hobby, and my wife thinks she gets half

DEAR ABBY : My wife and I retired five years ago .
I have adequate savings and an excellent pension for us to live comfortably .
I took up a hobby three years ago that generates about $ 5,000 in annual income , which I put aside in a separate bank account .
My wife asked , “ What are you saving that money for ?
” I said maybe a classic car , helping with a family reunion ( on my side ) , etc .
She responded , “ We need to be on the same page about @ @ @ @ @ @ @ it is mine.
” When I reached out to my son for his insight , he sided with her because ( legally ) half of what I have is hers .
I have no problem consulting with her on a major expenditure coming out of our other savings , but on this one I feel she is controlling and petty .
Your thoughts ?
DEAR HOBBY : I agree with you .
Not only that , but she also lacks tact .
DEAR ABBY : My daughter just informed me that she will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ living room .
Her live-in boyfriend loves to hunt , and she is doing this for him .
Just thinking about it makes me physically ill. My thoughts turn to a dying animal who is suffering .
My husband and I gave my daughter $ 12,000 to buy this home .
I want her to rethink her decision based on the fact that this disturbs me , not that I ’ m trying to push her around because we gave her this money .
I know she will take it personally and be @ @ @ @ @ @ @ UNEASY : I think we both know your daughter is an adult and entitled to make that decision without worrying that her fella ’ s hobby bothers you .
We don ’ t have to like it or approve .
Because what ’ s upsetting you is the idea that the deer suffered , ask your daughter ( or him ) how many shots it took to take the creature down .
If it was more than one , you might be happier entertaining them in your home .
DEAR ABBY : My @ @ @ @ @ @ @ years ago , and I can ’ t seem to get over it .
All she said was that we had an “ emotional disconnect.
” I don ’ t believe she was unfaithful .
All I can think about is being with her , and I cringe if I think about her being with someone else .
I ’ m a professional with a good career and pension , and I have been approached by some nice women who would like to date .
How can I get over my feelings for @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I realized I might want him when he started dating her .
What do I do now ?
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What do I do now ?
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• Dear Abby : My son ’ s wife is demanding I end my friendship with her father DEAR LONELY : Have you been getting out and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ left ?
That would be one way to get your mind off her because sitting around thinking about her is counterproductive .
Your ex should have been more specific about why she left .
Understanding would have helped you start to really heal .
Because it has been two years and you haven ’ t been able to work this out , please talk with a licensed psychotherapist .
Your physician or your health insurance provider can give you the names of qualified professionals .
Please don ’ t wait to ask .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ Buren , also known as Jeanne Phillips , and was founded by her mother , Pauline Phillips .
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O .
Box 69440 , Los Angeles , CA 90069 .

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I retired five years ago. I have adequate savings and an excellent pension for us to live comfortably.
I took up a hobby three years ago that generates about $5,000 in annual income, which I put aside in a separate bank account. My wife asked, “What are you saving that money for?” I said maybe a classic car, helping with a family reunion (on my side), etc. She responded, “We need to be on the same page about how it gets spent because half of it is mine.”
When I reached out to my son for his insight, he sided with her because (legally) half of what I have is hers. I have no problem consulting with her on a major expenditure coming out of our other savings, but on this one I feel she is controlling and petty. Your thoughts?
HOBBY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HOBBY: I agree with you. Not only that, but she also lacks tact.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter just informed me that she will be hanging a deer head in their living room. Her live-in boyfriend loves to hunt, and she is doing this for him. Just thinking about it makes me physically ill. My thoughts turn to a dying animal who is suffering.
My husband and I gave my daughter $12,000 to buy this home. I want her to rethink her decision based on the fact that this disturbs me, not that I’m trying to push her around because we gave her this money. I know she will take it personally and be upset at me. Help!
UNEASY IN OREGON
DEAR UNEASY: I think we both know your daughter is an adult and entitled to make that decision without worrying that her fella’s hobby bothers you. We don’t have to like it or approve. Because what’s upsetting you is the idea that the deer suffered, ask your daughter (or him) how many shots it took to take the creature down. If it was more than one, you might be happier entertaining them in your home.
DEAR ABBY: My wife left me a little over two years ago, and I can’t seem to get over it. All she said was that we had an “emotional disconnect.” I don’t believe she was unfaithful.
All I can think about is being with her, and I cringe if I think about her being with someone else. I’m a professional with a good career and pension, and I have been approached by some nice women who would like to date. How can I get over my feelings for my ex?
LONELY IN THE PLAINS
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DEAR LONELY: Have you been getting out and participating in leisure activities since your wife left? That would be one way to get your mind off her because sitting around thinking about her is counterproductive.
Your ex should have been more specific about why she left. Understanding would have helped you start to really heal.
Because it has been two years and you haven’t been able to work this out, please talk with a licensed psychotherapist.
Your physician or your health insurance provider can give you the names of qualified professionals. Please don’t wait to ask.
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mercurynews--2020-08-18--Oakland A’s: Four-game winning streak snapped with Diamondbacks walk-off

This A ’ s team hasn ’ t played a game at Chase Field since 2015 .
Chris Bassitt had never pitched at the ballpark in his big league career .
“ This place is different ( for ) pitching , ” Bassitt said .
“ The ball doesn ’ t move the right way.
” The A ’ s also haven ’ t played the Arizona Diamondbacks since 2018 , so they had to adjust to the team ’ s elaborate and invasive sign relaying methods .
It got to a point where Bassitt , the A ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ chest to catcher Austin Allen .
Between innings , the battery had to conduct a meeting to switch their signs up .
It ’ s an advantage all teams try to take , they ’ d acknowledge .
“ We just mixed it up as fast as we could , ” Bassitt said .
The Arizona air , the sign dance , were just a few hurdles Bassitt and the A ’ s encountered Monday night .
After a dramatic sweeping weekend in San Francisco , Oakland lost 4-3 on the Diamondbacks ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ walk-off was nearly anti-climactic : David Peralta made just enough contact to poke Jake Deikman ’ s 0-2 slider beyond a shallow infield , scoring the runner on third with the bases loaded and one out .
It squelched an A ’ s comeback on the fence , tilting toward another unlikely victory and late-game stunner .
After all , the sequencing felt familiar ; The A ’ s couldn ’ t get much going against Diamondbacks starter Zac Gallen and his devastating changeup .
The right-hander held the offense hitless through five @ @ @ @ @ @ @ s single .
The shutout broken up by Robbie Grossman ’ s home run in the seventh .
“ He ’ s got this place mastered , ” Bassitt said of Gallen ’ s approach to Chase Field .
“ And that ’ s kind of unfortunate for us .
He does a ton of off-speed , doesn ’ t make use of his fastball like you usually do as a starter .
But that ’ s pitching to the ballpark.
” Once the A ’ s finally tacked 97 pitches on Gallen @ @ @ @ @ @ @ against the the Diamondbacks ’ bullpen .
Plenty of time to erase the two-run deficit Bassitt dug up .
Vimael Machin ’ s second career big league hit came on Hector Rondon ’ s first pitch fastball in the eighth .
Allen followed that up with a double , and Tony Kemp drew a walk to load the bases .
Matt Chapman hit a sac fly and the typically infallible , two-time Gold Glove winning shortstop Nick Ahmed couldn ’ t wrangle Matt Olson ’ s bloop , which fell and scored pinch @ @ @ @ @ @ @ at 3-3 .
Alas , Joakim Soria loaded the bases in the bottom of the ninth .
Diekman ’ s sweeping sliders struck out Kole Calhoun and got Perlata whiffing at a pair , but Diekman couldn ’ t stay perfect .
Bassitt went from fill-in rotational piece to an irreplaceable starter — similar to his 2019 progression .
With his 5.1 innings Monday , he ’ s gone beyond the fifth in all of his last four starts .
But , he ’ s getting frustrated over the hitches that ’ ve @ @ @ @ @ @ @ against the Houston Astros did he go seven innings .
Unlike some of his rotation mates , Bassitt feels in control of all his pitches and command .
That his numbers don ’ t reflect his feel has been a source of frustration .
“ It ’ s just the small things that are kind of unfortunate going against me , ” Bassitt said .
“ Overall , all my stuff I ’ m really excited about.
” Check Bassitt ’ s throwing mistake in the sixth inning as one of the small @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Bassitt almost had Eduardo Escobar picked off at first , but overthrew Matt Olson for a two-base error .
“ I threw him a cutter , he called for a fastball , ” Bassitt said .
Escobar would score on Carson Kelly ’ s chopper up the middle , Bassitt ’ s final pitch of the game .
The sequence bookended a slew of small-ball plays that forced a sterling A ’ s defense into unforced errors .
David Peralta — who homered for the Diamondbacks ’ first run — hit a lead @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a fly out .
Tony Kemp , infield playing in , made an iffy throw home on Christian Walker ’ s grounder that allowed Peralta to score easily for the Diamondbacks ’ second run .
Bassitt would go 5.1 innings with three strikeouts , three earned runs and three walks .
A solid start , but not what he wanted .
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Tony Kemp and Robbie Grossman Maybe the whopping home runs have got your attention .
You may associate A ’ s offense success with Stephen Piscotty ’ s game-tying grand slam and 454-foot homer against the Giants , or Matt Olson ’ s seven home run streak .
Maybe you think of Matt Chapman ’ s opposite field power , or Ramón Laureano ’ s potent compact swing .
Watch for the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Particularly Robbie Grossman and Tony Kemp .
Kemp and Grossman ’ s approach balances out and completes the power-heavy A ’ s lineup .
Grossman ’ s fourth homer on the season broke the A ’ s scoreless night .
He started this season as a platoon option in left field and has quietly become irreplaceable in the lineup .
He ’ s become not only one of the best hitters on the A ’ s , but one of the more consistent batters in all of baseball .
His 1.009 OPS ranks @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ranks fifth .
This is all to say that his averages top the A ’ s index in all categories .
Tony Kemp is right up there with him with the on-base hitting .
Kemp , with Grossman , were the two to fill in for Laureano in the lineup ’ s two-hole during the outfielder ’ s four-game suspension ( which ends Tuesday ) .
Kemp ’ s put together measured at bats , befuddled by some brazenly off strike zones at times .
But he ’ s put together .282/.417/.308 slash @ @ @ @ @ @ @ power , but knack for finding the bases .

This A’s team hasn’t played a game at Chase Field since 2015. Chris Bassitt had never pitched at the ballpark in his big league career.
“This place is different (for) pitching,” Bassitt said. “The ball doesn’t move the right way.”
The A’s also haven’t played the Arizona Diamondbacks since 2018, so they had to adjust to the team’s elaborate and invasive sign relaying methods. It got to a point where Bassitt, the A’s starter, was flashing signs across his chest to catcher Austin Allen. Between innings, the battery had to conduct a meeting to switch their signs up. It’s an advantage all teams try to take, they’d acknowledge.
“We just mixed it up as fast as we could,” Bassitt said.
The Arizona air, the sign dance, were just a few hurdles Bassitt and the A’s encountered Monday night. After a dramatic sweeping weekend in San Francisco, Oakland lost 4-3 on the Diamondbacks’ walk-off in the ninth inning.
The walk-off was nearly anti-climactic: David Peralta made just enough contact to poke Jake Deikman’s 0-2 slider beyond a shallow infield, scoring the runner on third with the bases loaded and one out.
It squelched an A’s comeback on the fence, tilting toward another unlikely victory and late-game stunner.
After all, the sequencing felt familiar; The A’s couldn’t get much going against Diamondbacks starter Zac Gallen and his devastating changeup. The right-hander held the offense hitless through five innings, broken up by Allen’s single. The shutout broken up by Robbie Grossman’s home run in the seventh.
“He’s got this place mastered,” Bassitt said of Gallen’s approach to Chase Field. “And that’s kind of unfortunate for us. He does a ton of off-speed, doesn’t make use of his fastball like you usually do as a starter. But that’s pitching to the ballpark.”
Once the A’s finally tacked 97 pitches on Gallen, the offense got two whole innings against the the Diamondbacks’ bullpen. Plenty of time to erase the two-run deficit Bassitt dug up.
Vimael Machin’s second career big league hit came on Hector Rondon’s first pitch fastball in the eighth. Allen followed that up with a double, and Tony Kemp drew a walk to load the bases. Matt Chapman hit a sac fly and the typically infallible, two-time Gold Glove winning shortstop Nick Ahmed couldn’t wrangle Matt Olson’s bloop, which fell and scored pinch runner Franklin Barreto to tie things up at 3-3.
Alas, Joakim Soria loaded the bases in the bottom of the ninth. Diekman’s sweeping sliders struck out Kole Calhoun and got Perlata whiffing at a pair, but Diekman couldn’t stay perfect.
Bassitt’s progression
Bassitt went from fill-in rotational piece to an irreplaceable starter — similar to his 2019 progression. With his 5.1 innings Monday, he’s gone beyond the fifth in all of his last four starts. But, he’s getting frustrated over the hitches that’ve kept him from going longer.
Only against the Houston Astros did he go seven innings. Unlike some of his rotation mates, Bassitt feels in control of all his pitches and command. That his numbers don’t reflect his feel has been a source of frustration.
What’s holding him back?
“It’s just the small things that are kind of unfortunate going against me,” Bassitt said. “Overall, all my stuff I’m really excited about.”
Check Bassitt’s throwing mistake in the sixth inning as one of the small things that have slowed his pace.
Bassitt almost had Eduardo Escobar picked off at first, but overthrew Matt Olson for a two-base error.
“I threw him a cutter, he called for a fastball,” Bassitt said.
Escobar would score on Carson Kelly’s chopper up the middle, Bassitt’s final pitch of the game. The sequence bookended a slew of small-ball plays that forced a sterling A’s defense into unforced errors. David Peralta — who homered for the Diamondbacks’ first run — hit a lead off double and moved to third on a fly out. Tony Kemp, infield playing in, made an iffy throw home on Christian Walker’s grounder that allowed Peralta to score easily for the Diamondbacks’ second run.
Bassitt would go 5.1 innings with three strikeouts, three earned runs and three walks. A solid start, but not what he wanted.
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Maybe the whopping home runs have got your attention. You may associate A’s offense success with Stephen Piscotty’s game-tying grand slam and 454-foot homer against the Giants, or Matt Olson’s seven home run streak. Maybe you think of Matt Chapman’s opposite field power, or Ramón Laureano’s potent compact swing.
Watch for the engines behind the horsepower, though. Particularly Robbie Grossman and Tony Kemp. Kemp and Grossman’s approach balances out and completes the power-heavy A’s lineup.
Grossman’s fourth homer on the season broke the A’s scoreless night.
He started this season as a platoon option in left field and has quietly become irreplaceable in the lineup. He’s become not only one of the best hitters on the A’s, but one of the more consistent batters in all of baseball.
His 1.009 OPS ranks 16th in baseball and his .447 OBP ranks fifth. This is all to say that his averages top the A’s index in all categories.
Tony Kemp is right up there with him with the on-base hitting. Kemp, with Grossman, were the two to fill in for Laureano in the lineup’s two-hole during the outfielder’s four-game suspension (which ends Tuesday). Kemp’s put together measured at bats, befuddled by some brazenly off strike zones at times.
But he’s put together .282/.417/.308 slash line — indicative of his lack of power, but knack for finding the bases.


mercurynews--2020-08-19--The Latest: Yates says ‘Trump has trampled the rule of law’

By The Associated Press Former acting Attorney General Sally Yates says President Donald Trump has “ trampled the rule of law ” and treats the country like a “ family business.
” Yates spoke Tuesday on the second night of the Democratic National Convention .
She said she never expected to be speaking at a convention but the future of the country was at stake .
She said Trump ’ s Democratic opponent , Joe Biden , represented the best of the country and said America needed a president who respected its laws and “ would restore the soul of @ @ @ @ @ @ @ general during the Obama administration and stayed on as acting attorney during the early days of the T acting attorney general in the first days of the Trump administration , when she was fired by the president for refusing to defend the travel ban .
HERE ’ S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE DEMOCRATIC NATIONAL CONVENTION : — Here ’ s what to watch on the second night of the convention — At DNC , Jill Biden to get personal about family ’ s struggles HERE ’ S WHAT ELSE IS @ @ @ @ @ @ @ leaders is delivering the keynote address on the second night of the party ’ s convention , appearing in a montage of spliced together clips to deliver a stinging critique of President Donald Trump ’ s leadership .
“ We know Joe Biden .
America , we need Joe Biden , ” said Stacey Abrams , the former Georgia gubernatorial candidate .
The keynote address is a moment that has often been seized by political up-and-comers to deliver a soaring message .
That includes Barack Obama , who rocketed to stardom in 2004 @ @ @ @ @ @ @ But because the pandemic led to the cancellation of an in-person convention , Democrats opted to showcase a diverse group of local leaders in one video message on Tuesday .
“ It didn ’ t have to be this bad .
In the early days of the virus , Donald Trump didn ’ t listen to the experts , ” said Nikki Fried , Florida ’ s agriculture commissioner .
Long Beach , California , Mayor Robert Garcia added : “ We are facing the biggest economic and health crisis in generations because @ @ @ @ @ @ @ still doesn ’ t — have a plan.
” The speakers contrasted Trump ’ s leadership with that of Biden and their own , presenting the Democratic ticket as a safe choice for those who are worried .
Former Secretary of State Colin Powell plans to say at the Democratic National Convention that he supports Joe Biden for president because of the values they share .
Powell served as secretary of state under Republican President George W. Bush from 2001 until 2005 , and served as chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Clinton .
In an advance clip of his speech Tuesday , Powell says that Biden shares “ the values I learned growing up in the South Bronx and serving in uniform ” and that he supports him for president because “ we need to restore those values to the White House.
” Powell , who is a decorated four-star general , also says that the country “ needs a commander in chief who takes care of our troops in the same way he would his own family.
” Powell says Biden knows how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Beau served in the Army National Guard .
Powell called President Donald Trump a liar and endorsed Biden in June .
He ’ s one of a handful of prominent Republicans , including former Ohio Gov .
John Kasich and Cindy McCain , the wife of deceased Arizona Sen. John McCain , set to speak at the Democratic National Convention .
A security guard who gushed over meeting Joe Biden in an elevator during his visit with The New York Times editorial board will be the first person to put his name into @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Convention .
Jacquelyn Brittany is one of three people putting Biden ’ s name into nomination on Tuesday night .
She ’ ll be joined by Sen. Chris Coons and Rep. Lisa Blunt Rochester , both from Delaware .
The 31-year-old , who has declined to share her last name publicly , was filmed telling the former vice president “ I love you ” as she escorted him to the newspaper ’ s editorial board meeting .
While Biden lost the paper ’ s endorsement , his team elevated the clip of Brittany @ @ @ @ @ @ @ working Americans rather than elites .
Biden deputy campaign manager Kate Bedingfield tweeted that Jacquelyn ’ s was “ the most powerful endorsement of the 2020 cycle.
” Jill Biden will offer a personal glimpse into her family ’ s struggles and vouch for her husband ’ s ability to lead the nation through adversity during remarks at the Democratic National Convention .
According to advance remarks , she plans to say Tuesday night : “ There are times when I couldn ’ t imagine how he did it — how he put @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and kept going.
” She adds , “ But I ’ ve always understood why he did it .
… He does it for you.
” Jill and Joe Biden have faced considerable personal loss .
Biden ’ s first wife and infant daughter were killed in a 1972 crash .
Jill and Joe Biden faced tragedy together when son Beau died of brain cancer in 2015 .
Mrs. Biden will speak about what it takes to “ make a broken family whole ” : “ The same way you make a nation @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and with small acts of compassion.
” Mrs. Biden will also speak about her work as a teacher .
She ’ s delivering the speech from her former classroom at Brandywine High in Wilmington , Delaware .
Cindy McCain is going to bat for Joe Biden , lending her voice to a video set to air during Tuesday night ’ s Democratic National Convention programming focused on Biden ’ s close friendship with her late husband , Republican Sen. John McCain .
In an advance clip from the video shared with The Associated @ @ @ @ @ @ @ then-Delaware Sen. Biden met her husband when John McCain was assigned to be a military aide for the senator on a trip overseas .
Cindy McCain is not expected to offer an explicit endorsement , but her involvement in the video is her biggest public show of support yet for Biden ’ s candidacy .
Both Cindy McCain and her daughter Meghan have been outspoken critics of President Donald Trump , and the family is longtime friends with the Bidens .
Trump , a Republican , targeted John McCain personally in 2015 , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ t a hero “ because he was captured .
I like people who weren ’ t captured.
” Democrat Joe Biden says virtual gatherings are the conventions of the future and that he doubts they will go back to what they did before the coronavirus pandemic .
The presumptive presidential nominee made the comment Tuesday while addressing an online group of delegates from Florida .
He called this week ’ s virtual Democratic National Convention “ the most creative , inclusive convention we ’ ve ever had.
” He says , “ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ back to the same , exact convention we had in the past.
” Also on Tuesday ’ s call , Biden questioned whether President Donald Trump is smart enough to be president .
Biden says he used to think Trump was “ callous , ” but now thinks “ he ’ s just not smart enough to know what to do.
” The Democrats ’ original convention in Milwaukee was delayed from July until August and scaled back amid the coronavirus outbreak .
The Republican Party will hold its own virtual convention next @ @ @ @ @ @ @ making his first appearance at a presidential nominating convention in eight years .
Organizers of the Democratic National Convention announced Tuesday that Carter and his wife , Rosalynn , would address attendees at the virtual gathering that evening .
The 39th president , 95 , did not attend the 2016 convention in Philadelphia .
He did record a speech for the 2012 gathering , which was broadcast in prime time on that convention ’ s second night .
Democrats opened this cycle ’ s nominating convention on Monday night with a keynote from @ @ @ @ @ @ @ speakers scheduled for Tuesday include Jill Biden , wife of former Vice President Joe Biden , and former President Bill Clinton .
Former Secretary of State John Kerry is condemning President Donald Trump ’ s foreign policy as he prepares to address the Democratic National Convention , saying the United States “ is not the leader of the free world.
” Speaking online to reporters during the daily convention briefing Tuesday , the 2004 Democratic presidential nominee said , “ The world does not have a leader in the free world at this @ @ @ @ @ @ @ away from traditional European allies and failing to have a cohesive foreign policy strategy .
He says French President Emmanuel Macron and German Chancellor Angela Merkel are “ casting about trying hard.
” Kerry says no one easily replaces what former Secretary of State Madeleine Albright and others “ have frequently reminded people is the indispensable nation.
” Kerry was secretary of state during President Barack Obama ’ s second term .
The third-ranking Democrat in the U.S. House says that Black people should not be blamed for any violence that has erupted @ @ @ @ @ @ @ George Floyd ’ s death .
Majority Whip Jim Clyburn told Fox News Channel ’ s “ Fox & Friends ” on Tuesday “ that is not who I am , that is not who we are , ” of the outbursts that have occurred amid mostly peaceful protests across the country .
Clyburn is the highest-ranking Black member of Congress .
He spoke a day after his remarks at the opening night of the Democratic National Convention , where he advocated for former Vice President Joe Biden as a president who could @ @ @ @ @ @ @ as four divisive years under President Donald Trump .
Clyburn says the protest efforts were undertaken by those “ trying to make this country be a better place for our children and our grandchildren.
” He says , “ We ’ re aren ’ t trying to burn it down — we ’ re trying to build it up.
” Democrats convene virtually Tuesday for the convention ’ s second night , with remarks from Jill Biden and former President Bill Clinton .
President Donald Trump is pushing back against former first lady @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ s Oval Office performance is what catapulted him into the White House .
In her remarks Monday night at the Democratic National Convention , Mrs. Obama declared Trump was “ in over his head ” and the “ wrong president for our country.
” In tweets Tuesday morning Trump taunted that someone should explain to her that he wouldn ’ t be in the “ beautiful White House ” today if it “ weren ’ t for the job done by her husband , ” President Barack Obama .
He also criticized @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and unenthusiastic endorsement ” of Joe Biden .
And in other tweets , Trump criticized Obama and Biden ’ s handling of the H1N1 swine flu in 2009 and claimed , without evidence , that the Obama administration was the most corrupt in history .
Trump ended with a sarcastic thanks to Michelle Obama for her “ very kind words .
”

By The Associated Press
Jill Biden offered a deeply personal and hopeful endorsement of her husband as a man who can lead the nation through adversity during the Democratic National Convention.
On Tuesday night, she pledged to the nation that if her husband is elected president, America’s classrooms “will ring out with laughter and possibility once again.”
Speaking from the Wilmington, Delaware, high school classroom where she taught English years ago, Jill Biden described “the anxiety that echoes down empty hallways” and the uncertainty that’s come as schools grapple with whether to resume in-person teaching as the coronavirus pandemic rages on.
“The burdens we carry are heavy, and we need someone with strong shoulders,” Mrs. Biden said. “If we entrust this nation to Joe, he will do for your family what he did for ours: Bring us together and make us whole, carry us forward in our time of need, keep the promise of America, for all of us.”
Mrs. Biden drew parallels with her husband’s experience leading his family through personal adversity and what she described as his ability to lead the nation through its current crises.
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HERE’S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE DEMOCRATIC NATIONAL CONVENTION:
— Democrats make it official, nominate Biden for president
— Some key takeaways from Day 2 at Democratic convention
— After years of big moments, Bill Clinton’s DNC role shrinks
— Cindy McCain details husband’s friendship with Biden for DNC
— At DNC, Jill Biden gets personal about family’s struggles
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Follow AP’s election coverage at https://apnews.com/Election2020
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HERE’S WHAT ELSE IS HAPPENING:
Former Secretary of State Colin Powell is endorsing Joe Biden, saying with him in the White House, “We will never doubt that he will stand with our friends and stand up to our adversaries — never the other way around.”
In taped remarks during the Democratic National Convention on Tuesday night, Powell sought to draw an implicit contrast between Biden and President Donald Trump, without naming Trump.
He said that Biden “will trust our diplomats and our intelligence community, not the flattery of dictators and despots.” Trump has expressed doubts about findings from the intelligence community on Russian involvement in the 2016 campaign, and has praised dictators.
Powell also lamented that “today we have a country divided, and we have a president doing everything in his power to make us that way, to keep us that way.”
Powell served as secretary of state under Republican President George W. Bush from 2001 until 2005, and served as chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff under both Bush and Democratic President Bill Clinton.
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Former Secretary of State John Kerry is trashing President Donald Trump’s foreign policy, which he characterized as one nonstop “blooper reel.”
Kerry, the 2004 Democratic presidential nominee, said Tuesday at the Democratic National Convention: “This moment is a fight for the security of America and the world.”
He said the Obama administration left U.S. foreign policy in good order when he left office. They stopped the Ebola virus before it could become a pandemic, defeated the Islamic State group and entered into an accord to reduce emissions that cause global warming.
Kerry accused Trump of failing to stand up to Russia and doing nothing to confront Russian President Vladimir Putin after some intelligence officials concluded the country placed bounties on U.S. soldiers in Afghanistan.
He also referenced Trump being escorted to a White House bunker during recent protests.
“Our troops can’t get out of harm’s way by hiding in the White House bunker,” Kerry said.
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Prominent Republicans who oppose President Donald Trump have been awarded prominent speaking roles at the Democratic convention. But some progressives, who make up a large share of the party’s base, say they are being unfairly overlooked.
Sen. Bernie Sanders was given a prominent slot on Monday. And Sen. Elizabeth Warren will appear later in the week.
But progressives have been angered that the DNC event has slighted others, including Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, who spoke for roughly 90 seconds on Tuesday.
“It’s a huge missed opportunity,” Alexandra Rojas, executive director of Justice Democrats, told CNN.
Julián Castro, the only Latino in the historically diverse primary field, wasn’t given a speaking slot at the convention after some tense moments with Biden during the campaign. Instead, a brief clip of his keynote at the 2012 convention appeared as part of a video presentation.
The hashtag #LetJulianSpeak appeared on Twitter.
Meanwhile, the Republicans lined up to speak at the convention include former Secretary of State Colin Powell, former Ohio Gov. John Kasich, former California gubernatorial candidate Meg Whitman and former New Jersey Gov. Christine Todd Whitman.
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The Democratic Party has formally made Joe Biden its presidential nominee, a position he has sought for more than 30 years and through three White House bids.
Delegates from each state took a roll call vote during the second night of the virtual Democratic National Convention on Tuesday, awarding Biden the position. Usually, each state calls out the number of delegates that different candidates won there during the primary in a dramatic fashion in a sports arena or large hall — but the count was all done online this time.
Biden actually clinched the nomination in early June. His other challengers in the once-crowded Democratic presidential primary had left the race, and the votes of seven states and the District of Columbia gave him the 1,991 delegates to the convention needed to lock it up.
A former senator from Delaware and vice president, Biden first ran for president in 1988 and tried again in 2008 before launching his 2020 campaign last year.
President Donald Trump faced only token opposition in his party’s primary and will formally be renominated as his party’s candidate during the virtual Republican National Convention next week.
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A cornfield in Iowa, a cattle range in Montana, the California coastline.
Those were the scenes behind Democratic delegates as they formally cast their votes in the presidential nominating process. Most delegates went to Joe Biden, but some went to Vermont Sen. Bernie Sanders, the runner-up.
Typically the nominating process is held in a convention hall with all the delegates gathered together.
But the videos submitted to the virtual convention provided more picturesque scenes from around the nation. In Michigan, the delegates stood in front of cars representing the state’s auto industry. In Louisiana, they spoke from an art studio with colorful murals on the wall. In Nebraska, the woman nominating Biden wore a face mask as she talked about essential workers battling the pandemic.
Speakers included Biden’s onetime rivals Minnesota Sen. Amy Klobuchar and former South Bend, Indiana, Mayor Pete Buttigieg.
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Two politicians from Joe Biden’s home state of Delaware and a security guard who met Biden in an elevator have formally nominated him as the Democratic presidential nominee.
Jacquelyn Brittany met Biden when he went to The New York Times for an interview last year, and a video of their interaction went viral. She says he was unlike many of the powerful people with whom she shares the elevator.
She says, “I could tell he really saw me, that he actually cared.”
Sen. Chris Coons, who holds Biden’s former Senate seat, says Biden understands the struggles and hopes of everyday people.
Rep. Lisa Blunt Rochester, also of Delaware, says future schoolchildren will learn about the pain and grief of this time in America but also about how a “President Biden” restored decency and integrity to American democracy.
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Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez has described the progressive movement started by Bernie Sanders as “a mass people’s movement” that’s working to move the country toward guaranteed health care and higher education.
The New York congresswoman gave brief remarks Tuesday night as she helped nominate the Vermont senator at the Democratic National Convention.
Ocasio-Cortez is widely seen as the successor of Sanders’ progressive flank of the party.
She says Sanders ran a historic grassroots campaign that realized that turns away from an American history checkered by violence, xenophobia, racial injustice and more and “that realizes the unsustainable brutality that rewards explosive inequalities of wealth for the few at the expense of long-term stability for the many.”
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Bill Clinton has delivered a stinging attack on President Donald Trump, saying the nation knows what he’d do with four more years in the White House: “Blame, bully and belittle.”
The former president addressed the second night of the virtual Democratic National Convention on Tuesday and said Trump “defines the job as spending hours a day watching TV and zapping people on social media.”
Clinton said, “Denying, distracting, and demeaning works great if you’re trying to entertain and inflame. But in a real crisis, it collapses like a house of cards.”
He also praised Democratic candidate Joe Biden but spent far more time on the offensive against Trump, who defeated his wife, Hillary, to clinch the presidency in 2016.
Bill Clinton played a major role in conventions for four decades but was limited to five minutes on Tuesday.
But even abbreviated, his appearance is tricky for Democrats. In the #MeToo era, as the party is focused on overt appeals to female voters, putting Clinton on stage is problematic for Democrats, given the numerous accusations of sexual misconduct against him.
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Caroline Kennedy is portraying Joe Biden as a public servant in the spirit of her father, who once challenged Americans to look at what they can do for their country.
The daughter of President John F. Kennedy spoke Tuesday at the all-virtual Democratic National Convention about helping Barack Obama choose Biden as a running mate while on his vetting team and then seeing him in action as vice president.
Kennedy served as the U.S. ambassador to Japan during the Obama administration and said she saw Biden as a leader who was tough but fair and commanded the trust and respect of other nations.
She appeared in a video speaking alongside her son Jack Schlossberg as they attempted to bridge a generational span across the party.
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Senate Democratic leader Chuck Schumer made a pitch at the Democratic National Convention not just for Joe Biden, but for flipping control of the Senate to Democrats.
Schumer said Tuesday: “If we are going to win this battle for the soul of our nation, Joe can’t do it alone. Democrats must take back the Senate.”
The New York Democrat outlined a potential 2021 agenda on making health care “affordable for all” and tackling income inequality, climate change and other issues, including the COVID-19 crisis.
With the Statue of Liberty as a backdrop, he said President Donald Trump has “demeaned” everything it stands for.
“America, Donald Trump has quit on you,” he said.
“We need a president with dignity, integrity, and the experience to lead us out of this crisis, a man with a steady hand and a big heart who will never — ever — quit on America,” he said. “That man is my friend Joe Biden. He will be a great president.”
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Former acting Attorney General Sally Yates says President Donald Trump has “trampled the rule of law” and treats the country like a “family business.”
Yates spoke Tuesday on the second night of the Democratic National Convention.
She said she never expected to be speaking at a convention but the future of the country was at stake. She said Trump’s Democratic opponent, Joe Biden, represented the best of the country and said America needed a president who respected its laws and “would restore the soul of America.”
Yates served as deputy attorney general during the Obama administration and stayed on as acting attorney during the early days of the T acting attorney general in the first days of the Trump administration, when she was fired by the president for refusing to defend the travel ban.
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A diverse group of Democratic leaders is delivering the keynote address on the second night of the party’s convention, appearing in a montage of spliced together clips to deliver a stinging critique of President Donald Trump’s leadership.
“We know Joe Biden. America, we need Joe Biden,” said Stacey Abrams, the former Georgia gubernatorial candidate.
The keynote address is a moment that has often been seized by political up-and-comers to deliver a soaring message. That includes Barack Obama, who rocketed to stardom in 2004 when John Kerry was the nominee.
But because the pandemic led to the cancellation of an in-person convention, Democrats opted to showcase a diverse group of local leaders in one video message on Tuesday.
“It didn’t have to be this bad. In the early days of the virus, Donald Trump didn’t listen to the experts,” said Nikki Fried, Florida’s agriculture commissioner.
Long Beach, California, Mayor Robert Garcia added: “We are facing the biggest economic and health crisis in generations because our president didn’t — and still doesn’t — have a plan.”
The speakers contrasted Trump’s leadership with that of Biden and their own, presenting the Democratic ticket as a safe choice for those who are worried.


mercurynews--2020-08-19--PG&E settles Ghost Ship fire lawsuit

PG&E settles Ghost Ship fire lawsuit

OAKLAND — Pacific Gas and Electric Co. has settled a civil lawsuit filed on behalf of 32 of the 36 @ @ @ @ @ December 2016 Ghost Ship warehouse fire .
The settlement amount is confidential , and was @ @ @ @ @ and attorneys representing victim families and survivors of the Dec. 2 , 2016 inferno .
@ @ @ @ @ of Oakland settled for $ 32.7 million , with $ 23.5 million going to victim @ @ @ @ @ to Samuel Maxwell , who survived the fire but was badly injured .
“ The @ @ @ @ @ held PG & E and the city accountable , ” said attorney Mary Alexander , @ @ @ @ @ in a court hearing in Oakland on Tuesday afternoon .
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OAKLAND — Pacific Gas and Electric Co. has settled a civil lawsuit filed on behalf of 32 of the 36 people who died in the December 2016 Ghost Ship warehouse fire, according to an announcement Tuesday.
The settlement amount is confidential, and was agreed upon by the utility and attorneys representing victim families and survivors of the Dec. 2, 2016 inferno. Last month, the city of Oakland settled for $32.7 million, with $23.5 million going to victim families and $9.2 million to Samuel Maxwell, who survived the fire but was badly injured.
“The matter is resolved, but PG&E disputes liability,” said attorney Mary Alexander, after the settlement was announced in a court hearing in Oakland on Tuesday afternoon.
In a July filing with the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission, PG&E said any settlement involving the Ghost Ship fire would be “limited to amounts available under (PG&E’s) insurance coverage for” 2016. The limits were not disclosed in the document.
Attorneys are working toward a settlement with Chor Ng and her two children, the landlords who rented the warehouse to master tenant Derick Almena. Almena, meanwhile, was let out of jail recently because of his medical condition and a growing concern about the spread of COVID-19 inside Santa Rita Jail in Dublin. Almena is facing a retrial in the criminal case tentatively set for October after a jury couldn’t reach a unanimous verdict in the case.
His former co-defendant, Max Harris, was acquitted of all charges and no longer lives in the state. Almena rented space for people to live in the Fruitvale District warehouse even though it wasn’t zoned for residential.
In court filings, lawyers for the victim families said PG&E was negligent for failing to monitor the power distributed to the building, including spikes, power outages and irregularities. The utility, the lawyers alleged, had installed a smart meter above the Boost Mobile store on International Boulevard, a few doors down from the Ghost Ship. PG&E “knew or should have known” of the dangerous and defective nature of the electrical systems that posed an “imminent threat” to the inhabitants of the art collective and guests.
From that single meter, a power connection ran from the phone store through an auto body shop and to the Ghost Ship warehouse through a hole cut in the wall. PG&E has previously said there were no reports of “electric theft or any other anonmalies” at the Ghost Ship or neighboring buildings.
Though it appeared electric in nature, the exact cause of the fire was never determined.
Staff writer Thomas Peele contributed to this report.


mercurynews--2020-08-19--Biden’s convention focus: Experience to fix Trump’s chaos

NEW YORK ( AP ) — Joe Biden drew on party elders and the Democrats ’ younger stars , too , at his National Convention Tuesday night , making the case that he and the party are uniquely positioned with experience and energy to repair chaos that President Donald Trump has created at home and abroad .
In the opening of the convention ’ s second night , a collection of younger Democrats , including former Georgia lawmaker Stacey Abrams , were given a few minutes to shine .
“ In a democracy , we do not elect saviors .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ see our struggles and pledge to serve , ” said Abrams , 46 , who emerged as a national player during her unsuccessful bid for governor in 2018 and was among those considered to be Biden ’ s running mate .
She added : “ Faced with a president of cowardice , Joe Biden is a man of proven courage.
” Abrams ’ comments came ahead of a collection of better-known leaders aligned with the party ’ s establishment wing who have dominated Democratic politics in decades past .
There was little room @ @ @ @ @ @ @ stars of the party ’ s far-left wing .
Former President Bill Clinton and former Secretary of State John Kerry — and former Republican Secretary of State Colin Powell — were among the heavy hitters on a schedule that emphasized a simple theme : Leadership matters .
Former President Jimmy Carter , now 95 years old , also was making an appearance .
“ Donald Trump says we ’ re leading the world .
Well , we are the only major industrial economy to have its unemployment rate triple , ” Clinton said @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of the convention ’ s second night .
“ At a time like this , the Oval Office should be a command center .
Instead , it ’ s a storm center .
There ’ s only chaos.
” On a night that Biden was formally receiving his party ’ s presidential nomination , the convention was also introducing his wife , Jill Biden , to the nation as the prospective first lady .
Biden is fighting unprecedented logistical challenges to deliver his message during an all-virtual convention this week as the coronavirus @ @ @ @ @ @ @ lives each day and wreaks havoc on the economy .
The former vice president was becoming his party ’ s nominee as a prerecorded roll call vote from delegates in all 50 states airs , and the four-day convention will culminate on Thursday when he accepts that nomination inside a mostly empty Delaware convention hall .
His running mate , California Sen. Kamala Harris , will become the first woman of color to accept a major party ’ s vice presidential nomination on Wednesday .
Until then , Biden is presenting what he @ @ @ @ @ @ @ coalition to the American electorate in a format unlike any other in history .
There is no live audience for any of the speakers , who have so far delivered their remarks standing or seated alone in mostly prerecorded videos .
For a second night , the Democrats featured Republicans .
Powell , who served as secretary of state under George W. Bush and appeared at multiple Republican conventions in years past , was endorsing the Democratic candidate .
In a video released ahead of his speech , he said , “ Our @ @ @ @ @ @ @ takes care of our troops in the same way he would his own family .
For Joe Biden , that doesn ’ t need teaching.
” Powell joins the widow of the late Arizona Sen. John McCain , Cindy McCain , who was expected to stop short of a formal endorsement but talk about the mutual respect and friendship her husband and Biden shared .
While there have been individual members of the opposing party featured at presidential conventions before , a half dozen Republicans , including the former two-term governor of Ohio @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
No one on the program Tuesday night has a stronger connection to the Democratic nominee than his wife , Jill Biden , a longtime teacher , was speaking from her former classroom at Brandywine High School near the family home in Wilmington , Delaware .
“ You can hear the anxiety that echoes down empty hallways .
There ’ s no scent of new notebooks or freshly waxed floors , ” she said of the school in excerpts of her speech before turning to the nation ’ s challenges at home .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ family whole ?
The same way you make a nation whole .
With love and understanding—and with small acts of compassion .
With bravery .
With unwavering faith.
” Biden is leading Trump in most polls , but 77 days before the election , the Democrat has neither history nor enthusiasm on his side .
Just one incumbent president has been defeated in the last four decades .
And Biden ’ s supporters consistently report that they ’ re motivated more by opposition to Trump than excitement about Biden , a 77-year-old lifelong @ @ @ @ @ @ @ among less consistent voters , particularly minorities and younger voters , whom Biden needs to show up in great numbers this fall .
Tuesday ’ s speaking program underscored Biden ’ s challenge to inspire a new generation of voters .
While the Democratic leaders of yesteryear can point to experience and achievement , many of them are aging white men .
Clinton , who turns 74 on Tuesday , hasn ’ t held office in two decades .
Kerry , 76 , was the Democratic presidential nominee back in 2004 when the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ diapers .
And Carter is 95 years old .
By contrast , one of the party ’ s most popular figures among young voters , fiery progressive New York Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez , was given just one minute to speak .
Biden ’ s team did not give the night ’ s coveted keynote address to a single fresh face , preferring instead to pack the slot with more than a dozen Democrats in their 20s , 30s and 40s .
The younger leaders included Abrams , Rep. Conor Lamb.
, D-Pa. , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Jonathan Nez .
Voters were hearing from Sally Yates , the former acting attorney general who resisted Trump ’ s order to block Muslim immigrants from entering the United States but isn ’ t viewed as a liberal activist .
Clinton , a fixture of Democratic conventions for nearly three decades , was addressing voters for roughly five minutes in a speech recorded at his home in Chappaqua , New York .
In addition to railing against Trump ’ s leadership , Clinton calls Biden “ a go-to-work president.
” Biden , Clinton @ @ @ @ @ @ @ a mission : to take responsibility , not shift the blame ; concentrate , not distract ; unite , not divide.
” It remains to be seen whether the unconventional convention will give Biden the momentum he ’ s looking for .
Preliminary estimates show that television viewership for the first night of the virtual convention was down compared with the opening of Hillary Clinton ’ s onsite nominating party four years ago .
An estimated 18.7 million people watched coverage between 10 and 11 p.m. on ABC , CBS , NBC , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , the Nielsen company said .
Four years ago , the opening night drew just under 26 million viewers .
Biden ’ s campaign said an additional 10.2 million streamed the convention online Monday night .
“ We are producing a digital convention , and people are watching , ” Biden spokesman T.J. Ducklo tweeted .
Meanwhile , Trump continued to court battleground voters in an effort to distract from Biden ’ s convention .
Appearing in Arizona near the Mexican border earlier in the day , the Republican president claimed a Biden @ @ @ @ @ @ @ illegal immigration like the world has never seen.
” Such divisive rhetoric , which is not supported by Biden ’ s positions , has become a hallmark of Trump ’ s presidency , which has inflamed tensions at home and alienated longstanding allies around the world .
Kerry said in an excerpt of his remarks , “ Joe understands that none of the issues of this world — not nuclear weapons , not the challenge of building back better after COVID , not terrorism and certainly not the climate crisis — none can @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ”

By STEVE PEOPLES, MICHELLE L. PRICE and ALEXANDRA JAFFE
WILMINGTON, Del. (AP) — Democrats formally nominated Joe Biden as their presidential candidate Tuesday night, with party elders, a new generation of politicians and voters in every state joining together in an extraordinary, pandemic-cramped virtual convention to send him into the general election campaign to oust President Donald Trump.
For someone who has spent more than three decades eyeing the presidency, the moment was the realization of a long-sought goal. But it played out in a way that the 77-year-old Biden couldn’t have imagined just months ago as the coronavirus pandemic prompted profound change across the country and in his presidential campaign.
Instead of a Milwaukee convention hall as initially planned, the roll call of convention delegates played out in a combination of live and recorded video feeds from American landmarks packed with meaning: Alabama’s Edmund Pettus Bridge, the headwaters of the Mississippi River, a Puerto Rican community still recovering from a hurricane and Washington’s Black Lives Matter Plaza.
Biden celebrated his new status as the Democratic nominee alongside his wife and grandchildren in a Delaware school library. His wife of more than 40 years, Jill Biden, later spoke of her husband in deeply personal terms, reintroducing the lifelong politician as a man of deep empathy, faith and resilience to American voters less than three months before votes are counted.
“There are times when I couldn’t imagine how he did it — how he put one foot in front of the other and kept going,” she said. “But I’ve always understood why he did it. He does it for you.”
The convention’s most highly anticipated moments will unfold on the next two nights. Kamala Harris will accept her nomination as Biden’s running mate on Wednesday, the first Black woman to join a major party ticket. Former President Barack Obama will also speak as part of his stepped-up efforts to defeat his successor.
Biden will deliver his acceptance speech Thursday night in a mostly empty convention hall near his Delaware home.
Biden used the second night of the four-day convention to feature a mix of party elders, Republican as well as Democratic, to make the case that he has the experience and energy to repair chaos that Trump has created at home and abroad.
Former President Bill Clinton and former Secretary of State John Kerry — and former Republican Secretary of State Colin Powell — were among the heavy hitters on a schedule that emphasized a simple theme: Leadership matters. Former President Jimmy Carter, now 95 years old, also made a brief appearance.
Some of them delivered attacks against Trump that were unusually personal, all in an effort to establish Biden as the competent, moral counter to the president.
“Donald Trump inherited a growing economy and a more peaceful world,” Kerry said. “And like everything else he inherited, he bankrupted it. When this president goes oversees it isn’t a goodwill mission. It’s a blooper reel.”
Clinton said Trump’s Oval Office is a place of chaos, not a command center.
“If you want a president who defines the job as spending hours a day watching TV and zapping people on social media, he’s your man,” Clinton said.
For his part, Trump spent Tuesday courting battleground voters in an effort to distract from Biden’s convention. Appearing in Arizona near the Mexican border during the day, the Republican president claimed a Biden presidency would trigger “a flood of illegal immigration like the world has never seen.”
Such divisive rhetoric, which is not supported by Biden’s positions, has become a hallmark of Trump’s presidency, which has inflamed tensions at home and alienated allies around the world.
Biden has the support of a sprawling political coalition, as demonstrated again during Tuesday’s convention, although neither history nor enthusiasm is on his side.
Just one incumbent president has been defeated since 1992. And Biden’s supporters consistently report that they’re motivated more by opposition to Trump than excitement about Biden.
A collection of younger Democrats, including former Georgia lawmaker Stacey Abrams and New York Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, were given a few minutes to shine. But overall, there was little room on Tuesday’s program for the younger stars of the party’s far-left wing.
“In a democracy, we do not elect saviors. We cast our ballots for those who see our struggles and pledge to serve,” said Abrams, 46, who emerged as a national player during her unsuccessful bid for governor in 2018 and was among those considered to be Biden’s running mate.
For a second night, the Democrats featured Republicans.
Powell, who served as secretary of state under George W. Bush and appeared at multiple Republican conventions in years past, endorsed the Democratic candidate. He joined the wife of the late Arizona Sen. John McCain, Cindy McCain, who stopped short of a formal endorsement but spoke in a video of the mutual respect and friendship her husband and Biden shared.
While there have been individual members of the opposing party featured at presidential conventions before, a half dozen Republicans, including the former two-term governor of Ohio, have now spoken for Democrat Biden.
The Democrats’ party elders played a prominent role throughout the night.
Clinton, who turns 74 on Tuesday, hasn’t held office in two decades. Kerry, 76, was the Democratic presidential nominee back in 2004 when the youngest voters this fall were still in diapers. And Carter is 95 years old.
Biden’s team did not give the night’s coveted keynote address to a single fresh face, preferring instead to pack the slot with more than a dozen Democrats in their 20s, 30s and 40s. The younger leaders included Abrams, Rep. Conor Lamb., D-Pa., and the president of the Navajo Nation Jonathan Nez.
It remains to be seen whether the unconventional convention will give Biden the momentum he’s looking for.
Preliminary estimates show that television viewership for the first night of the virtual convention was down compared with the opening of Hillary Clinton’s onsite nominating party four years ago.
An estimated 18.7 million people watched coverage between 10 and 11 p.m. on ABC, CBS, NBC, CNN, Fox News Channel and MSNBC, the Nielsen company said. Four years ago, the opening night drew just under 26 million viewers.
Biden’s campaign said an additional 10.2 million streamed the convention online Monday night.
“We are producing a digital convention, and people are watching,” Biden spokesman T.J. Ducklo tweeted.
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Price reported from Las Vegas and Peoples reported from New York. AP Washington Bureau Chief Julie Pace contributed to this report.


mercurynews--2020-08-19--Warriors set for camp next month as NBA announces voluntary workouts for non-bubble teams

The Warriors will return to the court next month .
Well , some of them presumably will .
The NBA and the National Basketball Players Association announced Tuesday that teams that did not make the league ’ s summer restart will have voluntary group workouts beginning in September .
The Warriors are among eight teams that will hold these camps , beginning Sept. 14 with daily coronavirus testing and continuing individual workouts , as some players have been doing voluntarily already .
Sept. 21 will be the first day of group workouts , which may include practices , drills and @ @ @ @ @ @ @ involved players and staff daily , according to the league and players association ’ s joint release .
Teams will effectively keep players inside a “ bubble ” , like a smaller version of the NBA restart campus at Disney World : Players and team staff must stay at private team-arranged residences from their arrival until Oct. 6 , when the camps end .
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1 pick would mean big opportunity , pressure in pivotal offseason • Steph Curry is getting his own Jordan-style brand at @ @ @ @ @ @ @ represent Warriors at NBA virtual draft lottery : Steph , Kerr or the man who devised the lotto himself ?
It seems fairly unlikely that the Warriors ’ big-name players will be involved in the camps .
Draymond Green said earlier this month that he wouldn ’ t opt out of a non-playoff bubble , but he doesn ’ t like the idea .
Steph Curry said last month on Sportscenter that it ’ d be hard for him to play meaningless games in a second bubble comprised of multiple NBA teams , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ thoughts about a Warriors-specific camp .
With a bunch of young players filling out the roster around the Warriors ’ stars , Golden State could certainly use the camp to develop some of its role players , but it remains to be seen how many will choose to travel to the Bay Area and stay inside a campus environment just for team practices .

The Warriors and other teams not participating in the league’s summer restart in Orlando will be allowed to hold voluntary group workouts beginning in September, the NBA and the National Basketball Players Association announced Tuesday.
The workouts will be implemented in two phases from Sept. 14 through Oct. 6. in controlled conditions, adhering to pandemic-related protocols. Golden State — in addition to Cleveland, Minnesota, Atlanta, Detroit, New York, Chicago and Charlotte — will begin with daily coronavirus testing and individual workouts, as some players have already been doing voluntarily.
The second phase begins Sept. 21 and will be the first day of group workouts, which may include practices, drills and scrimmages. Each of the eight teams will create a campus-like environment in its own city that will include private living accommodations and daily coronavirus testing for players participating in the voluntary sessions.
Teams will be allowed to invite up to five players to camp who are not under an NBA contract, but were assigned to the team’s G League affiliate this past season.
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Stephen Curry, who missed significant time last season with a broken left hand, should be available to participate. Klay Thompson has been in Southern California for the last several months rehabbing from ACL surgery and should also be able to participate.
This is also a boon for Andrew Wiggins who, after being acquired from Minnesota at the trade deadline in February, played only 12 games for Golden State and just a handful of minutes with Curry and Draymond Green before the NBA season was postponed on March 11. These sessions will provide him with valuable experience with the Warriors’ core before the start of next season.