mercurynews--2020-01-19--Schiff accuses NSA, CIA of withholding documents on Ukraine

WASHINGTON — The chairman of the House Intelligence Committee is accusing U.S. intelligence agencies of withholding documents from Congress on Ukraine that could be significant to President Donald Trump ’ s impeachment trial .
“ They appear to be succumbing to pressure from the administration , ” Rep. Adam Schiff said Sunday on ABC ’ s “ This Week.
” Schiff was selected by House Speaker Nancy Pelosi , D-San Francisco , as the lead impeachment manager for Trump ’ s Senate trial .
Schiff , D-Burbank , contended that the National Security Agency “ in particular is withholding what @ @ @ @ @ @ @ responsibilities on Ukraine , but also withholding documents potentially relevant that the senators might want to see during the trial .
That is deeply concerning.
” He also said “ there are signs that the CIA may be on the same tragic course.
” The White House ’ s National Security Council referred questions to the intelligence agencies .
The CIA and NSA did not immediately respond to requests for comment .
Democrats have previously criticized the State Department for withholding relevant documents to the impeachment inquiry .
In the weeks since Trump @ @ @ @ @ @ @ focus on new evidence about Trump ’ s effort to pressure Ukraine to investigate his political rivals and are pushing the Senate to consider new documents and testimony , such as from former national security adviser John Bolton .
During the ABC interview , Schiff was asked about a Politico report that said intelligence officials were pushing the House and Senate Intelligence committees to drop the public portion of an annual briefing on world security threats following last year ’ s session in which Trump lashed out over the assessments on North Korea @ @ @ @ @ @ @ The request was reportedly being made in a bid to avoid a repeat in which intelligence officials might publicly disagree with Trump on the security risks .
“ Perhaps Intelligence should go back to school !
” Trump tweeted after that Jan. 29 hearing , before abruptly reversing course and saying he and the intelligence community “ are all on the same page.
” On Sunday , Schiff described the news reports as “ all too accurate.
” • McManus : High politics and low on tap in impeachment drama “ The intelligence @ @ @ @ @ @ @ hearing , something that we had done every year prior to the Trump administration because they ’ re worried about angering the president , ” he said .
Associated Press writer Deb Riechmann contributed to this report .

By Hope Yen | Associated Press
WASHINGTON — The chairman of the House Intelligence Committee is accusing U.S. intelligence agencies of withholding documents from Congress on Ukraine that could be significant to President Donald Trump’s impeachment trial.
“They appear to be succumbing to pressure from the administration,” Rep. Adam Schiff said Sunday on ABC’s “This Week.” Schiff was selected by House Speaker Nancy Pelosi, D-San Francisco, as the lead impeachment manager for Trump’s Senate trial.
Schiff, D-Burbank, contended that the National Security Agency “in particular is withholding what are potentially relevant documents to our oversight responsibilities on Ukraine, but also withholding documents potentially relevant that the senators might want to see during the trial. That is deeply concerning.” He also said “there are signs that the CIA may be on the same tragic course.”
The White House’s National Security Council referred questions to the intelligence agencies. The CIA and NSA did not immediately respond to requests for comment.
Trump’s impeachment trial resumes Tuesday.
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Democrats have previously criticized the State Department for withholding relevant documents to the impeachment inquiry. In the weeks since Trump was impeached, Democrats have sought to focus on new evidence about Trump’s effort to pressure Ukraine to investigate his political rivals and are pushing the Senate to consider new documents and testimony, such as from former national security adviser John Bolton.
During the ABC interview, Schiff was asked about a Politico report that said intelligence officials were pushing the House and Senate Intelligence committees to drop the public portion of an annual briefing on world security threats following last year’s session in which Trump lashed out over the assessments on North Korea, Iran and the Islamic State.
The request was reportedly being made in a bid to avoid a repeat in which intelligence officials might publicly disagree with Trump on the security risks.
“Perhaps Intelligence should go back to school!” Trump tweeted after that Jan. 29 hearing, before abruptly reversing course and saying he and the intelligence community “are all on the same page.”
On Sunday, Schiff described the news reports as “all too accurate.”
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Associated Press writer Deb Riechmann contributed to this report.


mercurynews--2020-01-19--Sanders says gender, age pose obstacles to candidates

MANCHESTER , N.H. — Bernie Sanders made a comparison Sunday between the challenges women face in politics today and his running for president at the age of 78 as the Democratic presidential candidate continues to face questions over his recent feud with Elizabeth Warren on sexism in politics .
During an hourlong appearance on New Hampshire Public Radio , Sanders was asked if he thinks female candidates have a different experience as presidential candidates than him and whether gender is still an obstacle for female politicians .
Sanders answered yes .
“ But I think everybody has their own sets @ @ @ @ @ @ @ said .
“ I ’ m 78 years of age .
That ’ s a problem.
” He then went on to note that age concerns could also be a challenge for 38-year-old former South Bend , Indiana , Mayor Pete Buttigieg , saying “ if you ’ re looking at Buttigieg , he ’ s a young guy.
” “ And people will say , well he ’ s too young to be president .
You look at this one , she ’ s a woman , ” Sanders said .
“ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ d like .
I would just hope very much that the American people look at the totality of a candidate , not at their gender , not at their sexuality , not at their age , but at everything .
Nobody is perfect .
There ain ’ t no perfect candidate out there.
” Asked after a campaign event in Des Moines , Iowa , on Sunday to comment on Sanders ’ statement and if being a woman was a problem , Warren said only , “ I have no further comment @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Warren became fierce last week after the two progressives had largely left the other unscathed for much of the 2020 race .
Warren and Sanders ’ disagreement comes over a private 2018 meeting .
Warren contends then that Sanders told her he didn ’ t think a woman could win the White House .
Sanders has vocally disputed that claim , but on Sunday tried to avoid talking about the meeting .
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“ But to answer your question , let me just say this , it is hard for me to imagine how anybody in the year 2020 could not believe that a woman could become president of the United States .
And if you check my record , I ’ ve been saying that for 30 years.
” Associated Press writer Will Weissert @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to this report

By Hunter Woodall | Associated Press
MANCHESTER, N.H. — Bernie Sanders made a comparison Sunday between the challenges women face in politics today and his running for president at the age of 78 as the Democratic presidential candidate continues to face questions over his recent feud with Elizabeth Warren on sexism in politics.
During an hourlong appearance on New Hampshire Public Radio, Sanders was asked if he thinks female candidates have a different experience as presidential candidates than him and whether gender is still an obstacle for female politicians. Sanders answered yes.
“But I think everybody has their own sets of problems,” the Vermont senator said. “I’m 78 years of age. That’s a problem.”
He then went on to note that age concerns could also be a challenge for 38-year-old former South Bend, Indiana, Mayor Pete Buttigieg, saying “if you’re looking at Buttigieg, he’s a young guy.”
“And people will say, well he’s too young to be president. You look at this one, she’s a woman,” Sanders said. “So everybody brings some negatives if you’d like. I would just hope very much that the American people look at the totality of a candidate, not at their gender, not at their sexuality, not at their age, but at everything. Nobody is perfect. There ain’t no perfect candidate out there.”
Asked after a campaign event in Des Moines, Iowa, on Sunday to comment on Sanders’ statement and if being a woman was a problem, Warren said only, “I have no further comment on this.”
Division among Sanders and Warren became fierce last week after the two progressives had largely left the other unscathed for much of the 2020 race. Warren and Sanders’ disagreement comes over a private 2018 meeting.
Warren contends then that Sanders told her he didn’t think a woman could win the White House. Sanders has vocally disputed that claim, but on Sunday tried to avoid talking about the meeting.
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Associated Press writer Will Weissert in Des Moines, Iowa, contributed to this report


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Letter: Don’t judge scooters based on injuries tripling

The news typically reports consequences .
What matters is risk .
This is not just what happens when something goes wrong but also how often something goes wrong .
The East Bay Times recently reported that injuries from electric scooters tripled or more from 2014 to 2018 “ Scooter popularity comes with a price : a surge in injuries ” ( Eastbaytimes.com , Jan. 8 ) .
It did not report the increase in e-scooter use during this time .
It is hard to imagine such use did not increase that much or more given the roll out of shared @ @ @ @ @ @ @ either stayed the same or declined .
Even if the risk stayed the same , it is likely to decline as more people become familiar with the activity .
Imagine the risk of riding when bicycles first became available or of driving when cars did so ?
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Don’t judge scooters based
on initial consequences
The news typically reports consequences. What matters is risk. This is not just what happens when something goes wrong but also how often something goes wrong.
The East Bay Times recently reported that injuries from electric scooters tripled or more from 2014 to 2018 “Scooter popularity comes with a price: a surge in injuries” (Eastbaytimes.com, Jan. 8). It did not report the increase in e-scooter use during this time.
It is hard to imagine such use did not increase that much or more given the roll out of shared e-scooters, in which case the risk either stayed the same or declined. Even if the risk stayed the same, it is likely to decline as more people become familiar with the activity. Imagine the risk of riding when bicycles first became available or of driving when cars did so?
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Preston Jordan
Albany
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mercurynews--2020-01-20--49ers report card: Mostert’s record rushing reserves Super Bowl spot

Here is how the 49ers ( 15-3 ) graded in Sunday ’ s 37-20 win over the Green Bay Packers ( 14-4 ) in the NFC Championship Game at Levi ’ s Stadium : How rare is it to win a playoff game with such a miniscule need to pass ?
The 49ers joined Don Shula ’ s Miami Dolphins from 1971 and ’ 73 as the only teams in the Super Bowl era to finish a playoff game with fewer than 10 pass attempts .
Jimmy Garoppolo completed 6-of-8 passes for 77 yards ( 2-of-2 for 29 after halftime @ @ @ @ @ @ @ of a feast or famine defense , ” Garoppolo said , “ so we got a couple big plays the first time we played them and thought we ’ d have those opportunities , but they wanted to take those away and open up the running lanes.
” The two best completions : a 30-yarder to Deebo Samuel over the middle to spark their first touchdown drive , and a 19-yard catch-and-run on George Kittle ’ s lone target after the Packers pulled within 14 points .
Raheem Mostert became the first player @ @ @ @ @ @ @ four touchdowns and over 200 yards , and his franchise-record 220-yard total ( 29 carries ) ranked behind only Eric Dickerson ’ s 248-yard record with the 1985 Rams .
Fierce blocking , uncanny scheming and Mostert ’ s blend of speed and vision were a perfect recipe for success .
“ The guys played as aggressive as any team I ’ ve been on and it made it very easy to call plays , ” coach Kyle Shanahan said .
Nick Bosa ’ s third-down sack on the second series set the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to 0-3 in playoff outings against the 49ers .
Sure , Rodgers came alive after halftime , passing for 262 of his 326 yards and two touchdowns .
He also had two passes intercepted , the first by Emmanuel Moseley that led to a touchdown and 27-0 lead at halftime , and the second by Richard Sherman on a 55-yard , last-minute heave that was a nice boost for Sherman after Davante Adams struck for a 65-yard catch .
“ It wasn ’ t like they did a bunch of new stuff , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ blitzing nickel back K ’ Waun Williams had the other sacks .
Allowing a 9-yard run by Aaron Jones on the Packers ’ first snap seemed ominous for a run defense that ’ s previously been caught snoozing on the first series of games .
Then came the hard-hitting stops .
By Nick Bosa , for no gain .
Then every defensive back made a crushing tackle along the way , including Emmanuel Moseley and Jimmie Ward .
Jones finished with a pedestrian 56 yards and one touchdown .
Your leading tacklers : @ @ @ @ @ @ @ ’ Waun Williams ( seven ) and linebackers Fred Warner ( six ) and Dre Greenlaw ( six ) .
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The only way the Packers were completing a comeback was if they blocked his 42-yard field goal in the final minutes .
Elsewhere , Richie James ’ 26-yard punt return to midfield was a bright spot , as was a Mitch Wishnowsky kickoff that got muffed at the 2 ( the benefit of not always hitting touchbacks ) .
Routing the Packers for a second time this season bought Kyle Shanahan and his staff a Super @ @ @ @ @ @ @ up their bread ( running game ) and butter ( dominant defense ) into Lombardi Trophy view .
Through two playoff wins , the 49ers have 89 carries , 471 yards and six touchdowns .
Shanahan and defensive coordinator Robert Saleh thrive with extra time to prepare witty game plans , with a Feb. 2 unveiling set at Super Bowl LIV in Miami .

Here is how the 49ers (15-3) graded in Sunday’s 37-20 win over the Green Bay Packers (14-4) in the NFC Championship Game at Levi’s Stadium:
PASS OFFENSE: B
How rare is it to win a playoff game with such a miniscule need to pass? The 49ers joined Don Shula’s Miami Dolphins from 1971 and ’73 as the only teams in the Super Bowl era to finish a playoff game with fewer than 10 pass attempts. Jimmy Garoppolo completed 6-of-8 passes for 77 yards (2-of-2 for 29 after halftime). “It’s kind of a feast or famine defense,” Garoppolo said, “so we got a couple big plays the first time we played them and thought we’d have those opportunities, but they wanted to take those away and open up the running lanes.” The two best completions: a 30-yarder to Deebo Samuel over the middle to spark their first touchdown drive, and a 19-yard catch-and-run on George Kittle’s lone target after the Packers pulled within 14 points.
RUN OFFENSE: A+
Raheem Mostert became the first player in NFL playoff history to run for four touchdowns and over 200 yards, and his franchise-record 220-yard total (29 carries) ranked behind only Eric Dickerson’s 248-yard record with the 1985 Rams. Fierce blocking, uncanny scheming and Mostert’s blend of speed and vision were a perfect recipe for success. “The guys played as aggressive as any team I’ve been on and it made it very easy to call plays,” coach Kyle Shanahan said.
PASS DEFENSE: B+
Nick Bosa’s third-down sack on the second series set the tone, that Aaron Rodgers would fall to 0-3 in playoff outings against the 49ers. Sure, Rodgers came alive after halftime, passing for 262 of his 326 yards and two touchdowns. He also had two passes intercepted, the first by Emmanuel Moseley that led to a touchdown and 27-0 lead at halftime, and the second by Richard Sherman on a 55-yard, last-minute heave that was a nice boost for Sherman after Davante Adams struck for a 65-yard catch. “It wasn’t like they did a bunch of new stuff,” Rodgers said. Arik Armstead and blitzing nickel back K’Waun Williams had the other sacks.
RUN DEFENSE: A
Allowing a 9-yard run by Aaron Jones on the Packers’ first snap seemed ominous for a run defense that’s previously been caught snoozing on the first series of games. Then came the hard-hitting stops. By Nick Bosa, for no gain. Then every defensive back made a crushing tackle along the way, including Emmanuel Moseley and Jimmie Ward. Jones finished with a pedestrian 56 yards and one touchdown. Your leading tacklers: Jaquiski Tartt (eight), K’Waun Williams (seven) and linebackers Fred Warner (six) and Dre Greenlaw (six). Related Articles San Francisco 49ers | 49ers training camp: Talanoa Hufanga’s interception spoils Brock Purdy’s solid day
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SPECIAL TEAMS: A
Robbie Gould made all three of his field-goal attempts, and while he started off great with a 54-yarder (his longest since 2015), the most crucial kick was his last one. The only way the Packers were completing a comeback was if they blocked his 42-yard field goal in the final minutes. Elsewhere, Richie James’ 26-yard punt return to midfield was a bright spot, as was a Mitch Wishnowsky kickoff that got muffed at the 2 (the benefit of not always hitting touchbacks).
COACHING: A
Routing the Packers for a second time this season bought Kyle Shanahan and his staff a Super Bowl berth. They’ve coached up their bread (running game) and butter (dominant defense) into Lombardi Trophy view. Through two playoff wins, the 49ers have 89 carries, 471 yards and six touchdowns. Shanahan and defensive coordinator Robert Saleh thrive with extra time to prepare witty game plans, with a Feb. 2 unveiling set at Super Bowl LIV in Miami.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Letter: Is MLK holiday for giving our best through our jobs?

I am writing about our two holidays in January every year .
If we arbitrarily decide that Jan. 1 is @ @ @ @ @ , shouldn ’ t this be a day for giving our best through our occupations @ @ @ @ @ , ” as Kwanzaa means ?
Similarly , when Dr. Martin Luther King ’ s @ @ @ @ @ by a holiday ( which may or may not be his actual birthday ) , @ @ @ @ @ weekend , ” I believe we are doing him a double-disservice .
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On Dr. Martin Luther King ’ s day , why can @ @ @ @ @ professions to advance his civil rights agenda of justice and equality ?
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I am writing about our two holidays in January every year. If we arbitrarily decide that Jan. 1 is New Year’s Day, shouldn’t this be a day for giving our best through our occupations? Our “first fruits,” as Kwanzaa means?
Similarly, when Dr. Martin Luther King’s birthday is “honored” by a holiday (which may or may not be his actual birthday), and creates a “three-day weekend,” I believe we are doing him a double-disservice.
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mercurynews--2020-01-20--Horoscopes Jan. 20, 2020: Rain Wilson, put your energy to good use.

Happy Birthday : Refuse to let someone beat you at your own game .
Put your energy to good use , and use your intelligence to navigate your way to a higher position .
Challenge yourself mentally , and pick up new skills , information and insight that will help you expand your interests , ability to earn , reputation and status .
Walk away from dishonest or indulgent people .
Your numbers are 8 , 11 , 17 , 23 , 29 , 35 , 41 .
ARIES ( March 21-April 19 ) : Take advantage of an opportunity @ @ @ @ @ @ @ time to be too proud to accept help .
Something you say or do for someone will be enough of a payback to warrant what you receive .
Be grateful .
5 stars TAURUS ( April 20-May 20 ) : You may desire change , but first , take a closer look at the consequences .
You ’ ll achieve positive results if you do the groundwork to ensure success .
Someone will probably shed some light on a dicey situation .
3 stars GEMINI ( May 21-June 20 ) : Don ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ grand entrance .
Let your intelligence lead the way , and you will control the fallout from someone who is trying to make you look bad .
An open discussion will help you maintain control .
3 stars CANCER ( June 21-July 22 ) : Ease into change .
Do your due diligence , and question the logistics and motives behind an offer .
Before you accept , consider what you will have to give in return .
Make a counteroffer , but be prepared to go it alone .
3 stars LEO @ @ @ @ @ @ @ pumped up and ready to take action .
Share your thoughts and feelings to find out where you stand .
Take the information offered and consider what ’ s best for you .
Connect with people from your past who can help you now .
5 stars VIRGO ( Aug. 23-Sept. 22 ) : Accept the inevitable , and work with what you ’ ve got .
Process change and consider your alternatives , and you will come up with a plan that works for you .
Sometimes a nudge is all you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
2 stars LIBRA ( Sept. 23-Oct. 22 ) : Make a difference by reaching out to people who need a helping hand .
How you relate to others will be crucial in discovering how best to treat yourself as well as your expectations and goals .
An offer from a past acquaintance looks promising .
4 stars SCORPIO ( Oct. 23-Nov. 21 ) : Don ’ t let someone ’ s poor attitude stop you from getting things done .
Discussions may be difficult , but they will also strengthen your position @ @ @ @ @ @ @ action .
Words alone will not be enough to reach your objective .
Romance is encouraged .
3 stars SAGITTARIUS ( Nov. 22-Dec. 21 ) : Wait and watch .
Everything will fall into place as long as you don ’ t overreact , instigate unnecessary change or are gullible to someone ’ s pretenses .
Gather facts before committing .
Use your experience and intelligence , and do your own thing .
3 stars CAPRICORN ( Dec. 22-Jan. 19 ) : Keep moving forward , regardless of what others do or say @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , but take what is offered that works for you , and give it a spin that will encourage success and ward off opposition .
3 stars AQUARIUS ( Jan. 20-Feb. 18 ) : Take the initiative , and discuss the plans that can help you achieve your goals .
Do the necessary groundwork , sum up the facts and prepare yourself to make a well-earned leap forward .
Change requires work and patience .
4 stars PISCES ( Feb. 19-March 20 ) : Too much , too fast equals setbacks .
Concentrate @ @ @ @ @ @ @ endurance , and overall preparation for what you want to achieve .
Don ’ t make a decision that will limit what you can accomplish .
Expect change so you can adapt .
2 stars Birthday Baby : You are broad-minded , enthusiastic and diligent .
You are innovative and abrupt .

CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Skeet Ulrich, 50; Rainn Wilson, 54; Bill Maher, 64; David Lynch, 74.
Happy Birthday: Refuse to let someone beat you at your own game. Put your energy to good use, and use your intelligence to navigate your way to a higher position. Challenge yourself mentally, and pick up new skills, information and insight that will help you expand your interests, ability to earn, reputation and status. Walk away from dishonest or indulgent people. Your numbers are 8, 11, 17, 23, 29, 35, 41.
ARIES (March 21-April 19): Take advantage of an opportunity someone offers. Now is not the time to be too proud to accept help. Something you say or do for someone will be enough of a payback to warrant what you receive. Be grateful. 5 stars
TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You may desire change, but first, take a closer look at the consequences. You’ll achieve positive results if you do the groundwork to ensure success. Someone will probably shed some light on a dicey situation. 3 stars
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Don’t feel you have to make a grand entrance. Let your intelligence lead the way, and you will control the fallout from someone who is trying to make you look bad. An open discussion will help you maintain control. 3 stars
CANCER (June 21-July 22): Ease into change. Do your due diligence, and question the logistics and motives behind an offer. Before you accept, consider what you will have to give in return. Make a counteroffer, but be prepared to go it alone. 3 stars
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Get pumped up and ready to take action. Share your thoughts and feelings to find out where you stand. Take the information offered and consider what’s best for you. Connect with people from your past who can help you now. 5 stars
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Accept the inevitable, and work with what you’ve got. Process change and consider your alternatives, and you will come up with a plan that works for you. Sometimes a nudge is all you need to discover what you truly want. 2 stars
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Make a difference by reaching out to people who need a helping hand. How you relate to others will be crucial in discovering how best to treat yourself as well as your expectations and goals. An offer from a past acquaintance looks promising. 4 stars
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Don’t let someone’s poor attitude stop you from getting things done. Discussions may be difficult, but they will also strengthen your position. Take a unique approach and physical action. Words alone will not be enough to reach your objective. Romance is encouraged. 3 stars
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Wait and watch. Everything will fall into place as long as you don’t overreact, instigate unnecessary change or are gullible to someone’s pretenses. Gather facts before committing. Use your experience and intelligence, and do your own thing. 3 stars
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Keep moving forward, regardless of what others do or say. You may not agree with everyone, but take what is offered that works for you, and give it a spin that will encourage success and ward off opposition. 3 stars
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Take the initiative, and discuss the plans that can help you achieve your goals. Do the necessary groundwork, sum up the facts and prepare yourself to make a well-earned leap forward. Change requires work and patience. 4 stars
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Too much, too fast equals setbacks. Concentrate on personal gains, physical strength and endurance, and overall preparation for what you want to achieve. Don’t make a decision that will limit what you can accomplish. Expect change so you can adapt. 2 stars
Birthday Baby: You are broad-minded, enthusiastic and diligent. You are innovative and abrupt.
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Word Game: Jan. 20, 2020

TODAY ’ S WORD — USURPED ( USURPED : yoo-SURPD : Seized and held without right . )
Can you @ @ @ @ @ in USURPED ?
The list will be published tomorrow .
To purchase the Word Game @ @ @ @ @ Order it now for just $ 5 while supplies last !
1 .
Words must @ @ @ @ @ letters .
2 .
Words that acquire four letters by the addition of “ s @ @ @ @ @ bats ” or “ dies , ” are not allowed .
3 .
Additional words @ @ @ @ @ d ” or an “ s ” may not be used .
For example , @ @ @ @ @ used , “ baked ” or “ bakes ” are not allowed , but “ @ @ @ @ @ ” are admissible .
4 .
Proper nouns , slang words , or vulgar or @ @ @ @ @ allowed .

TODAY’S WORD — USURPED (USURPED: yoo-SURPD: Seized and held without right.)
Average mark 16 words
Time limit 25 minutes
Can you find 21 or more words in USURPED? The list will be published tomorrow.
SATURDAY’S WORD — CHOPPERS cero chop chore chose cope coper copper copse
core corps corpse crop hero hers hoer hope hoper hopper horse hose ocher pepo perch
peso pope porch pore pose poser posh prep prop prose echo ephor epoch epos rose
rope scope score shoe shop shopper shore sore spore
To purchase the Word Game book, visit WordGameBooks.com. Order it now for just $5 while supplies last!
RULES OF THE GAME:
1. Words must be of four or more letters.
2. Words that acquire four letters by the addition of “s,” such as “bats” or “dies,” are not allowed.
3. Additional words made by adding a “d” or an “s” may not be used. For example, if “bake” is used, “baked” or “bakes” are not allowed, but “bake” and “baking” are admissible.
4. Proper nouns, slang words, or vulgar or sexually explicit words are not allowed.
Contact Word Game creator Kathleen Saxe at kzsaxe@gmail.com.


Bridge: Jan. 20, 2020

One definition of “ experience ” is what we get when we don ’ t get what we want .
After you play bridge for a while , you learn that the finesses you desperately need to work are the ones that fail .
At today ’ s four spades , South took dummy ’ s ace of hearts , discarded his last heart on the ace of clubs , and led a diamond to finesse with his queen .
West took the king and saw no rush to cash a heart trick — assuming the defense had one to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
Declarer won in dummy and led a diamond — and East ruffed and led another trump , removing dummy ’ s last trump .
South had two losing diamonds and went down one .
At Trick Three , South should lead a diamond to his ace , rejecting a finesse and protecting his contract .
He concedes a diamond , wins the trump return and ruffs a diamond in dummy to make sure of his 10th trick .
Profit from experience .
Avoid an unnecessary finesse that may lead to disaster if @ @ @ @ @ @ @ K J H A 6 5 2 D 5 2 C A 10 6 5 2 .
Your partner opens one club , and the next player overcalls one spade .
What do you say ?
ANSWER : Your first concern should be to locate a fit in the other major suit , but a bid of two hearts would suggest a five-card or longer suit .
By agreement , a negative double shows heart length but too few hearts or too few points ( or both ) to bid two hearts .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ you will raise to 3NT .

One definition of “experience” is what we get when we don’t get what we want. After you play bridge for a while, you learn that the finesses you desperately need to work are the ones that fail.
At today’s four spades, South took dummy’s ace of hearts, discarded his last heart on the ace of clubs, and led a diamond to finesse with his queen. West took the king and saw no rush to cash a heart trick — assuming the defense had one to cash. He shifted to a trump.
Declarer won in dummy and led a diamond — and East ruffed and led another trump, removing dummy’s last trump. South had two losing diamonds and went down one.
TRUMP RETURN
At Trick Three, South should lead a diamond to his ace, rejecting a finesse and protecting his contract. He concedes a diamond, wins the trump return and ruffs a diamond in dummy to make sure of his 10th trick.
Profit from experience. Avoid an unnecessary finesse that may lead to disaster if it loses.
This week: fickle finesses.
DAILY QUESTION
You hold: S K J H A 6 5 2 D 5 2 C A 10 6 5 2. Your partner opens one club, and the next player overcalls one spade. What do you say?
ANSWER: Your first concern should be to locate a fit in the other major suit, but a bid of two hearts would suggest a five-card or longer suit. By agreement, a negative double shows heart length but too few hearts or too few points (or both) to bid two hearts. If your partner bids 1NT next, you will raise to 3NT.
South dealer
Both sides vulnerable
NORTH
S K J
H A 6 5 2
D 5 2
C A 10 6 5 2
WEST
S 7 3
H K Q J
D K J 9 8 3
C Q 8 4
EAST
S 8 6 4
H 10 9 7 3
D 10
C K J 9 7 3
SOUTH
S A Q 10 9 5 2
H 8 4
D A Q 7 6 4
C None
South West North East
1 S Pass 2 C Pass
2 D Pass 2 H Pass
2 S Pass 4 S All Pass
Opening lead — H K
(C)2020 Tribune Content Agency, LLC.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Ask Amy: Online bully is embarrassing our family

DEAR AMY : My father is a stubborn man .
He has a lot of energy and many strong opinions .
We do not have a close relationship .
He has recently retired , and now spends much of his time on social media , posting long-winded political rants , and engaging in emotional arguments with anyone who dares to comment on his posts .
These “ conversations , ” unsurprisingly , often devolve into name-calling and petty insults .
I am disgusted by this highly public airing of false information and closed-minded views .
It was getting to the @ @ @ @ @ @ @ app was giving me anxiety , with the anticipation of a new bigoted diatribe from my father .
I deactivated my account , and I ’ ve never felt better !
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Was I wrong ?
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My immediate family continues to feel mortified by his behavior and this has led to some awkward family gatherings .
I recently looked at my father ’ s social media account on my husband ’ s phone , which I immediately regretted , as his behavior seems to have gotten even worse .
I ’ m afraid to discuss this directly with him , due to his short temper and the high likelihood that he will share our conversation publicly on social media .
I want to keep our @ @ @ @ @ @ @ do ?
Is there a way to make it clear to my extended family that his closed-minded beliefs do not align with my own , without descending into the drama myself ?
How can I bring myself to spend time with a person who causes me so much embarrassment ?
DEAR EMBARRASSED : I applaud you for deactivating your social media account in order to avoid being triggered by your father ’ s ( and others ’ ) abusive online behavior .
You could have “ unfollowed ” or blocked him and perhaps @ @ @ @ @ @ @ I wholeheartedly endorse stepping away altogether for your mental and emotional health .
Now that you are removed from your father ’ s noxious postings , you are going to have to learn to trust other people .
Your family members know him — and they also know you .
You should trust that they understand and can differentiate between the two of you .
I don ’ t think it is useful to issue blanket or public apologies for someone else ’ s behavior .
Your father embarrasses himself , but you @ @ @ @ @ @ @ — and the power — to embarrass you .
Your father sounds like a bully .
You should not trust him to keep anything private .
All the same , you might feel better if you stood up to him : “ Dad , I wish you would find a different hobby .
Your online ranting is quite disturbing.
” It would be wise for him to get a mental health screening .
Being a bigoted bully does not necessarily indicate mental decline , but because your father ’ s behavior seems to @ @ @ @ @ @ @ to wonder .
DEAR AMY : My son just gave us the great news that he ’ s getting married .
Our daughter is in a serious , five-year relationship with a young man , “ James.
” We expect they will be engaged in the near future ( within the next two years ) .
We have met James ’ parents several times .
Should we invite James ’ parents to our son ’ s wedding ?
DEAR WONDERING : Does your son know James ’ parents ?
Does his future bride @ @ @ @ @ @ @ may want to have some say over who attends their nuptials .
Traditionally , with larger weddings the marrying couple will get half of the total guest list to invite those close to them , while each set of parents will get one-fourth of the guest total to invite people from their own list ( colleagues or childhood friends , for instance ) .
If you have been granted a number of seats to fill at will at this wedding , and if you have developed a friendship with your daughter ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ all means invite them .
However , you are not socially obligated to issue this invitation .
DEAR READERS : I ’ ve received many positive responses to my annual giving column .
Since that column was published , the world has become aware of the devastation caused by wildfires sweeping through parts of Australia .
As of this writing , 20 people , including three firefighters , have died .
The heartbreaking toll on the unique wildlife of Australia is almost incalculable : Millions of animals have perished — some estimates bring @ @ @ @ @ @ @ animals .
Please do not send food or material goods — transporting goods brings on more hazards .
Here are some ways to give money : You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy @ amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy , P.O .
Box 194 , Freeville , NY 13068 .
You can also follow her on Twitter @ askingamy or Facebook .

DEAR AMY: My father is a stubborn man. He has a lot of energy and many strong opinions. We do not have a close relationship. He has recently retired, and now spends much of his time on social media, posting long-winded political rants, and engaging in emotional arguments with anyone who dares to comment on his posts.
These “conversations,” unsurprisingly, often devolve into name-calling and petty insults.
I am disgusted by this highly public airing of false information and closed-minded views. It was getting to the point that merely opening the social media app was giving me anxiety, with the anticipation of a new bigoted diatribe from my father.
I deactivated my account, and I’ve never felt better!
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Ask Amy: I’ve told them they need therapy, and they refuse to do it. What now? Advice | Ask Amy: The man I love is my grandchild’s uncle, and things have gotten messy My immediate family continues to feel mortified by his behavior and this has led to some awkward family gatherings. I recently looked at my father’s social media account on my husband’s phone, which I immediately regretted, as his behavior seems to have gotten even worse. I’m afraid to discuss this directly with him, due to his short temper and the high likelihood that he will share our conversation publicly on social media. I want to keep our family matters private.
What should I do? Is there a way to make it clear to my extended family that his closed-minded beliefs do not align with my own, without descending into the drama myself? How can I bring myself to spend time with a person who causes me so much embarrassment?
Embarrassed
DEAR EMBARRASSED: I applaud you for deactivating your social media account in order to avoid being triggered by your father’s (and others’) abusive online behavior.
You could have “unfollowed” or blocked him and perhaps experienced the same relief, but — I wholeheartedly endorse stepping away altogether for your mental and emotional health.
Now that you are removed from your father’s noxious postings, you are going to have to learn to trust other people. Your family members know him — and they also know you. You should trust that they understand and can differentiate between the two of you.
I don’t think it is useful to issue blanket or public apologies for someone else’s behavior. Your father embarrasses himself, but you should not give him the important role — and the power — to embarrass you.
Your father sounds like a bully. You should not trust him to keep anything private. All the same, you might feel better if you stood up to him: “Dad, I wish you would find a different hobby. Your online ranting is quite disturbing.”
It would be wise for him to get a mental health screening. Being a bigoted bully does not necessarily indicate mental decline, but because your father’s behavior seems to be getting worse, there is reason to wonder.
DEAR AMY: My son just gave us the great news that he’s getting married.
Our daughter is in a serious, five-year relationship with a young man, “James.” We expect they will be engaged in the near future (within the next two years).
We have met James’ parents several times.
Should we invite James’ parents to our son’s wedding?
Wondering
DEAR WONDERING: Does your son know James’ parents? Does his future bride know these people? This marrying couple may want to have some say over who attends their nuptials.
Traditionally, with larger weddings the marrying couple will get half of the total guest list to invite those close to them, while each set of parents will get one-fourth of the guest total to invite people from their own list (colleagues or childhood friends, for instance).
If you have been granted a number of seats to fill at will at this wedding, and if you have developed a friendship with your daughter’s boyfriend’s parents, then by all means invite them. However, you are not socially obligated to issue this invitation.
DEAR READERS: I’ve received many positive responses to my annual giving column. Since that column was published, the world has become aware of the devastation caused by wildfires sweeping through parts of Australia. As of this writing, 20 people, including three firefighters, have died. The heartbreaking toll on the unique wildlife of Australia is almost incalculable: Millions of animals have perished — some estimates bring the toll as high as 1 billion animals.
Please do not send food or material goods — transporting goods brings on more hazards.
Here are some ways to give money:
Helping fire victims: St. Vincent DePaul Society: donate.vinnies.org.au.
Helping “firies” (firefighters): Rural Fire Service, New South Wales: rfs.nsw.gov.au.
Helping wildlife: RSPCA of Australia: rspcansw.org.au.
You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Harriette Cole: How can I get out of jury duty this time?

DEAR HARRIETTE : I got called for jury duty .
I had been able to dodge it for the past 10 years or so , but this time they said I have to come .
I ’ m self-employed , and I can ’ t afford to take off this time .
How can I make clear my circumstances ?
DEAR NO JURY DUTY : I understand your sentiment .
Virtually nobody wants to serve on jury duty .
Yet it is an integral part of the democratic process .
In order to have a trial with an outcome determined @ @ @ @ @ @ @ peers have to agree to serve .
I challenge you to change your thinking about this .
Go in on the required date that your summons indicates .
Let the attendant know the parameters of your service .
Typically , you have to be available at least three days .
For many people , one day of service ends up being enough .
You spend a lot of time sitting and waiting to be called to be interviewed by attorneys who determine if you are right for their case .
Juries are usually @ @ @ @ @ @ @ , so most people are not chosen .
Make sure you let all appropriate parties know when you must work so that you aren ’ t chosen for a potentially long trial .
The good news is that once you ’ ve served , you won ’ t have to serve again for at least four years .
DEAR HARRIETTE : In response to parents needing to talk with teens about sexual misconduct , are you aware of Rev .
Scott Phelps ’ Abstinence and Marriage Program ?
It is a down-to-earth curriculum @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Illinois schools use the program as part of their sex education classes .
Parents are not parenting very much , so the schools must step up and parent .
DEAR CONCERNED GRANDMOTHER : Thank you for sharing this program , which can be found at ampartnership.org .
I do think that it is important for young people to learn about how to honor their bodies .
The younger they learn this , the better off they are .
While the notion of abstinence before marriage seems antiquated for many , I do believe @ @ @ @ @ @ @ know that it is a wise choice that they should soberly consider .
We no longer live in a culture that preaches abstinence to stay out of hell , but that doesn ’ t mean that it isn ’ t worth seriously contemplating .
I talk to teenagers on a regular basis and know that peer pressure is powerful .
Regarding sex , often they have not talked to their parents about their values .
Sometimes parents try to pressure their teens into making the choices they deem correct without having full discussions @ @ @ @ @ @ @ well .
I believe that exposing our young people to the importance of valuing their bodies as sacred and protecting them as such is important .
When they have the knowledge and the tools to give voice to their own beliefs , they have the potential to make choices that serve them even if those beliefs are different from their friends ’ .
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS , an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams .
You can send questions to askharriette @ harriettecole.com or @ @ @ @ @ @ @ St. , Kansas City , MO 64106 .

DEAR HARRIETTE: I got called for jury duty. I had been able to dodge it for the past 10 years or so, but this time they said I have to come. I’m self-employed, and I can’t afford to take off this time. How can I make clear my circumstances?
No Jury Duty
DEAR NO JURY DUTY: I understand your sentiment. Virtually nobody wants to serve on jury duty. Yet it is an integral part of the democratic process. In order to have a trial with an outcome determined by a jury of your peers, peers have to agree to serve. I challenge you to change your thinking about this.
Go in on the required date that your summons indicates. Let the attendant know the parameters of your service. Typically, you have to be available at least three days. For many people, one day of service ends up being enough. You spend a lot of time sitting and waiting to be called to be interviewed by attorneys who determine if you are right for their case. Juries are usually made up of 6 or 12 jurors, so most people are not chosen. Make sure you let all appropriate parties know when you must work so that you aren’t chosen for a potentially long trial.
The good news is that once you’ve served, you won’t have to serve again for at least four years.
DEAR HARRIETTE: In response to parents needing to talk with teens about sexual misconduct, are you aware of Rev. Scott Phelps’ Abstinence and Marriage Program? It is a down-to-earth curriculum for seventh through 12th graders. Many Illinois schools use the program as part of their sex education classes.
Parents are not parenting very much, so the schools must step up and parent.
Concerned Grandmother
DEAR CONCERNED GRANDMOTHER: Thank you for sharing this program, which can be found at ampartnership.org. I do think that it is important for young people to learn about how to honor their bodies. The younger they learn this, the better off they are.
While the notion of abstinence before marriage seems antiquated for many, I do believe it is important for young people to know that it is a wise choice that they should soberly consider. We no longer live in a culture that preaches abstinence to stay out of hell, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worth seriously contemplating.
I talk to teenagers on a regular basis and know that peer pressure is powerful. Regarding sex, often they have not talked to their parents about their values. Sometimes parents try to pressure their teens into making the choices they deem correct without having full discussions with them that address their ideas as well. I believe that exposing our young people to the importance of valuing their bodies as sacred and protecting them as such is important. When they have the knowledge and the tools to give voice to their own beliefs, they have the potential to make choices that serve them even if those beliefs are different from their friends’.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Dear Abby: This outsider scoffs at our family fun time

DEAR ABBY : My siblings and I have always enjoyed spending quality time together , and every eight to 10 weeks or so we get together for “ Siblings Day.
” There ’ s no set schedule or particular date ; one of us will call the others and say , “ I need some siblings time.
” ( There are five of us , all over 60 . )
Sometimes we meet at one of our homes and play board games or cards , or dance in the living room and enjoy the laughter that comes with it .
@ @ @ @ @ @ @ just enjoy being family .
Our brother ’ s lady friend , a very nice person , has arrived , uninvited , the last three times we have gotten together .
Talk about a party-pooper .
We have explained , as graciously as we know how , that these times are very important to us .
Our brother has asked her to please allow us this time for family , but she just laughs and says it ’ s silly for grown people to be so needy of each other .
( She @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and with whom she keeps in contact . )
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Can you suggest what we can do to make her understand what this time together means to us and that she is the ultimate uninvited guest ?
JUST THE SIBS IN LOUISIANA DEAR SIBS : What gall !
Your brother ’ s girlfriend does not have the right to judge your family spending time with one another as “ silly.
” It ’ s the height of rudeness .
Please point out to him that her behavior is an important red flag for him to consider .
The @ @ @ @ @ @ @ your brother should put his foot down and not let her intrude .
DEAR ABBY : I married someone who turned out to be very abusive and controlling of me and the kids .
I felt powerless to leave with them because of the emotional control , and I had no way to make a living to support them .
They are all adults now , and three of them have been in unhealthy relationships .
I know their example of a good marriage or a long-term relationship was awful because of how @ @ @ @ @ @ @ with the guilt and pain of that , but beyond that , seeing three of my four kids in similar abusive relationships is painful .
When two of my girls reach out to me when things are not going well , I ’ m supportive and I try to be helpful .
I guess my question is , given my example of an unhealthy marriage , will any advice I give them fall on deaf ears ?
Should I just listen ?
I don ’ t feel like anything I say will help @ @ @ @ @ @ @ you should listen , but that doesn ’ t mean you shouldn ’ t also weigh in on what is happening to them .
It could be very helpful if you point out to them that what they witnessed while growing up was not normal — and explain what IS acceptable behavior in an adult relationship .
You might also apologize for not being stronger earlier on , and explain that their father had eroded your self-esteem to such an extent that you were paralyzed .
If their experiences mirror your own , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ offer them the number of the National Domestic Violence Hotline ( 800-799-7233 ) .
If you do , it might not only open their eyes , but also give them the escape they need .
DEAR READERS : Today we remember the birthday of Rev .
Martin Luther King Jr. , who in 1968 was martyred in the cause of civil rights .
In that time of insanity , his was a voice of reason when he eloquently preached , “ Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Abigail Van Buren , also known as Jeanne Phillips , and was founded by her mother , Pauline Phillips .
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O .
Box 69440 , Los Angeles , CA 90069 .

DEAR ABBY: My siblings and I have always enjoyed spending quality time together, and every eight to 10 weeks or so we get together for “Siblings Day.” There’s no set schedule or particular date; one of us will call the others and say, “I need some siblings time.” (There are five of us, all over 60.) Sometimes we meet at one of our homes and play board games or cards, or dance in the living room and enjoy the laughter that comes with it. It’s a time when we just enjoy being family.
Our brother’s lady friend, a very nice person, has arrived, uninvited, the last three times we have gotten together. Talk about a party-pooper.
We have explained, as graciously as we know how, that these times are very important to us. Our brother has asked her to please allow us this time for family, but she just laughs and says it’s silly for grown people to be so needy of each other. (She has six siblings who live close by and with whom she keeps in contact.)
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JUST THE SIBS IN LOUISIANA
DEAR SIBS: What gall! Your brother’s girlfriend does not have the right to judge your family spending time with one another as “silly.” It’s the height of rudeness. Please point out to him that her behavior is an important red flag for him to consider. The next time she drops by uninvited, your brother should put his foot down and not let her intrude.
DEAR ABBY: I married someone who turned out to be very abusive and controlling of me and the kids. I felt powerless to leave with them because of the emotional control, and I had no way to make a living to support them.
They are all adults now, and three of them have been in unhealthy relationships. I know their example of a good marriage or a long-term relationship was awful because of how their father treated me. I live with the guilt and pain of that, but beyond that, seeing three of my four kids in similar abusive relationships is painful.
When two of my girls reach out to me when things are not going well, I’m supportive and I try to be helpful. I guess my question is, given my example of an unhealthy marriage, will any advice I give them fall on deaf ears? Should I just listen? I don’t feel like anything I say will help.
UNHAPPY MOM IN THE SOUTH
DEAR UPHAPPY MOM: Of course you should listen, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t also weigh in on what is happening to them. It could be very helpful if you point out to them that what they witnessed while growing up was not normal — and explain what IS acceptable behavior in an adult relationship.
You might also apologize for not being stronger earlier on, and explain that their father had eroded your self-esteem to such an extent that you were paralyzed. If their experiences mirror your own, point that out, too, and offer them the number of the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233). If you do, it might not only open their eyes, but also give them the escape they need.
DEAR READERS: Today we remember the birthday of Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., who in 1968 was martyred in the cause of civil rights. In that time of insanity, his was a voice of reason when he eloquently preached, “Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.”
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--Super Bowl: Ex-49er Frank Gore shows he’s still in their corner

Frank Gore hasn ’ t played with the 49ers in five years but the beloved running back is among San Francisco ’ s biggest supporters as it returns to the Super Bowl for the first time in seven years .
Gore , a fan favorite who was part of the 49ers ’ last Super Bowl team , used social media to show his support for former teammate Joe Staley , the only remaining player on the 49ers ’ active roster who also played in the heartbreaking 34-31 loss to the Ravens in New Orleans in 2013 .
“ Could not @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and @ 49ers , ” Gore tweeted Monday , a day after the 49ers beat the Packers 37-20 in the NFC Championship .
“ Back to the Super Bowl !
Bring that Chip back to the Bay !
!
” Gore ’ s tweet was in response to Staley ’ s , which read : “ Happy to be in this position .
One more .
Can ’ t wait to get started .
Thanks for all the support .
Love this team.
” The 36-year-old Gore , who became the NFL ’ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ while with the Buffalo Bills , certainly did all he could to help the 49ers win their sixth title in Super Bowl XLVII .
He rushed for a game-high 110 yards and a touchdown in the loss .

Frank Gore hasn’t played with the 49ers in five years but the beloved running back is among San Francisco’s biggest supporters as it returns to the Super Bowl for the first time in seven years.
Gore, a fan favorite who was part of the 49ers’ last Super Bowl team, used social media to show his support for former teammate Joe Staley, the only remaining player on the 49ers’ active roster from the heartbreaking 34-31 loss to the Ravens in New Orleans in 2013.
“Could not be happier for my guy @jstaley74 and @49ers,” Gore tweeted Monday, a day after the 49ers beat the Packers 37-20 in the NFC Championship. “Back to the Super Bowl! Bring that Chip back to the Bay!!”
Gore’s tweet was in response to Staley’s, which read: “Happy to be in this position. One more. Can’t wait to get started. Thanks for all the support. Love this team.”
Could not be happier for my guy @jstaley74 and @49ers Back to the Super Bowl! Bring that Chip back to the Bay!!✊🏿🏈🙏🏿 https://t.co/fpCXQtIKpS — Frank Gore (@frankgore) January 20, 2020
The 36-year-old Gore, who became the NFL’s third-leading rusher of all-time this season while with the Buffalo Bills, certainly did all he could to help the 49ers win their sixth title in Super Bowl XLVII. He rushed for a game-high 110 yards and a touchdown in the loss.
Gore will be a free agent this offseason and would surely love to run behind a strong offensive line like the 49ers’. But with four accomplished running backs from the 2019 roster plus Jerick McKinnon waiting in the wings after another knee injury, a 1-day contract to retire as a 49er would be his clearest path back to San Francisco.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--49ers unveil Super Bowl fan travel packages to Miami; other flight and hotel options available

If you ’ ve got $ 9,000 to spare , the 49ers have a deal for you .
The team has released its Super Bowl travel packages , several of which include airfare to Miami for the Niners ’ showdown with the Kansas City Chiefs .
Packages including Super Bowl tickets start at $ 6,765 for the land-only option that ’ ll get you three nights at the Miami Airport Mariott , plus a ticket to the game and entrance to the pregame party at Hard Rock Stadium and roundtrip gameday transportation .
That price is for those booking four @ @ @ @ @ @ @ up if fewer people are staying in a given room .
The 49ers also have more expensive options for four-night stays and upgraded hotel packages , as well as cheaper choices for those who just want to go to Miami without getting a ticket .
You can find them all on the team ’ s website .
If you choose to build your own package , you ’ ll want to move fast .
The NFL is selling Super Bowl tickets starting at $ 4,462.50 for upper-deck seats .
According to secondary ticket @ @ @ @ @ @ @ price per ticket was $ 5,050.01 , up 18 percent from the same time last year .
There ’ s currently a steal of a deal from United available via Kayak to fly SFO to Miami Friday and back overnight Sunday after the game for less than $ 400 .
You weren ’ t going to sleep much after the Super Bowl anyway , so why not come back to celebrate the win in the Bay ?
As far as a place to sleep , AirBnb surprisingly still has some options for less @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not just single-room bookings , either ) throughout that weekend , but you ’ ll want to move fast .
Hotels.com lists fewer inexpensive options but could also be worth looking into before booking .

If you’ve got $9,000 to spare, the 49ers have a deal for you.
The team has released its Super Bowl travel packages, several of which include airfare to Miami for the Niners’ showdown with the Kansas City Chiefs.
Packages including Super Bowl tickets start at $6,765 for the land-only option that’ll get you three nights at the Miami Airport Mariott, plus a ticket to the game and entrance to the pregame party at Hard Rock Stadium and roundtrip gameday transportation. That price is for those booking four people per room — the rates go up if fewer people are staying in a given room.
The 49ers also have more expensive options for four-night stays and upgraded hotel packages, as well as cheaper choices for those who just want to go to Miami without getting a ticket. You can find them all on the team’s website.
If you choose to build your own package, you’ll want to move fast. The NFL is selling Super Bowl tickets starting at $4,462.50 for upper-deck seats. According to secondary ticket marketplace TickPick Monday morning, the average price per ticket was $5,050.01, up 18 percent from the same time last year.
There’s currently a steal of a deal from United available via Kayak to fly SFO to Miami Friday and back overnight Sunday after the game for less than $400. You weren’t going to sleep much after the Super Bowl anyway, so why not come back to celebrate the win in the Bay?
As far as a place to sleep, AirBnb surprisingly still has some options for less than $100 per night (and not just single-room bookings, either) throughout that weekend, but you’ll want to move fast.
Hotels.com lists fewer inexpensive options but could also be worth looking into before booking.


mercurynews--2020-01-20--San Jose: ‘Furries’ pulled assaulter out of vehicle, sat on him

SAN JOSE — First came the man to the rescue .
And then came the dinosaur , the tiger and the cowboy .
It was just before midnight Friday in San Jose , and the downtown streets were thick with “ furries ” — anthropomorphism aficionados dressed in fur costumes — who had poured into the city for San Jose ’ s annual furry get-together known as FurCon .
Conversations were relaxed as people drank in the night air and cooled off from “ suiting ” inside fur costumes all day , said Steven Rodriguez , 26 , who was @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Jose Marriott hotel .
But suddenly a car screeched to a halt in the middle of South Market Street .
And from inside came a woman ’ s horrified scream — “ Get out , get out , get out , get out , ” Rodriguez recalled .
“ It was pretty intense , ” said Rodriguez , a self-described “ silent observer ” of furry culture who traveled from Azusa in Southern California to attend the convention ’ s after-hours hotel parties .
“ We saw the passenger just whaling on her @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and his friend yanked open the unlocked passenger ’ s door and began dragging the man out , he said .
The driver had been visibly beaten , and as they grabbed hold of her assaulter , he quickly tried to turn his ire onto Rodriguez .
At that moment , a group of about five people — still in their furry suits from the day ’ s festivities — sprinted over and restrained the man as he attempted to hit Rodriguez .
Among the first on scene was the pink dinosaur , @ @ @ @ @ @ @ and shoulders while a massive tail bobbed in his wake , according to a brief video Rodriguez captured of the encounter .
Then a tiger knelt to restrain the man from the torso as a platform-heeled cowboy watched on .
The video ends quickly — blocked by a man in a cat-emblazoned jacket — as the driver took off in another screech of metal , Rodriguez said .
Within a few minutes , San Jose police arrived and took over for the six people restraining the man , confirmed Sgt .
Enrique Garcia @ @ @ @ @ @ @ not detail the attire of the rescuers .
San Jose resident Demetri Hardnett , 22 , was arrested and booked into Santa Clara County jail on suspicion of domestic violence ; a preliminary investigation showed that the driver was his girlfriend , Garcia said .
The furries slowly dispersed after giving police statements , Rodriguez said , both disgusted by what they had seen but pleased with the way things played out .
Over the weekend , posts about the incident accrued thousands of views from both furry supporters and those unfamiliar with @ @ @ @ @ @ @ tickled to see a group of befurred rescuers tackling an assaulter on city streets .
“ It happened very , very fast and it was just a horrible thing to see , ” Rodriguez said .
“ But overall , everyone was very happy that we stepped in .
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SAN JOSE — First came the man to the rescue. And then came the dinosaur, the tiger and the cowboy.
It was just before midnight Friday in San Jose, and the downtown streets were thick with “furries” — anthropomorphism aficionados dressed in fur costumes — who had poured into the city for San Jose’s annual furry get-together known as FurCon.
Conversations were relaxed as people drank in the night air and cooled off from “suiting” inside fur costumes all day, said Steven Rodriguez, 26, who was taking a smoke break outside the San Jose Marriott hotel.
But suddenly a car screeched to a halt in the middle of South Market Street. And from inside came a woman’s horrified scream — “Get out, get out, get out, get out,” Rodriguez recalled.
“It was pretty intense,” said Rodriguez, a self-described “silent observer” of furry culture who traveled from Azusa in Southern California to attend the convention’s after-hours hotel parties. “We saw the passenger just whaling on her. Just a full-on punch.”
Rodriguez and his friend yanked open the unlocked passenger’s door and began dragging the man out, he said. The driver had been visibly beaten, and as they grabbed hold of her assaulter, he quickly tried to turn his ire onto Rodriguez.
At that moment, a group of about five people — still in their furry suits from the day’s festivities — sprinted over and restrained the man as he attempted to hit Rodriguez.
Among the first on scene was the pink dinosaur, who wrested the suspect by the head and shoulders while a massive tail bobbed in his wake, according to a brief video Rodriguez captured of the encounter. Then a tiger knelt to restrain the man from the torso as a platform-heeled cowboy watched on.
The video ends quickly — blocked by a man in a cat-emblazoned jacket — as the driver took off in another screech of metal, Rodriguez said.
Within a few minutes, San Jose police arrived and took over for the six people restraining the man, confirmed Sgt. Enrique Garcia, who added that the report did not detail the attire of the rescuers.
San Jose resident Demetri Hardnett, 22, was arrested and booked into Santa Clara County jail on suspicion of domestic violence; a preliminary investigation showed that the driver was his girlfriend, Garcia said.
The furries slowly dispersed after giving police statements, Rodriguez said, both disgusted by what they had seen but pleased with the way things played out.
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“It happened very, very fast and it was just a horrible thing to see,” Rodriguez said. “But overall, everyone was very happy that we stepped in.”


mercurynews--2020-01-20--49ers Coleman not ruled out of Super Bowl despite dislocated shoulder

SANTA CLARA — Coach Kyle Shanahan is not ruling out Tevin Coleman for Super Bowl LIV despite losing the starting running back to a dislocated shoulder in Sunday ’ s NFC Championship Game .
“ I expect him to have a chance to play , ” coach Kyle Shanahan said .
“ Don ’ t hold me to that until we get more back from imaging.
” Coleman underwent an MRI on his right shoulder .
Although Shanahan did not yet have the results , he did not consider it an injury requiring surgery but rather a week ’ s @ @ @ @ @ @ @ into place .
The 49ers will face the Kansas City Chiefs on Feb. 2 for the Lombardi Trophy in Miami Gardens , Fla. Coleman ’ s exit in Sunday ’ s 37-20 win over the Green Bay Packers did not derail a historic night by the 49ers ’ rushing attack .
Raheem Mostert ran for a franchise-record 220 yards and scored four touchdowns , the first player in NFL playoff history to score that many and also rush for over 200 yards .
Coleman had six carries for 21 yards before getting hurt @ @ @ @ @ @ @ .
He was coming off a 105-yard two-touchdown effort in the 49ers ’ playoff opener against Minnesota .
Although Coleman started Sunday night and did so 11 times in the regular season , the 49ers have mostly relied on Mostert in his breakout season .
Coleman was their third-leading rusher ( 544 yards ) behind Mostert ( 772 ) and Matt Breida ( 623 ) .
Safety Jaquiski Tartt irritated a Dec. 1 rib fracture and linebacker Dre Greenlaw sustained an ankle injury , but neither issue is considered serious and both will @ @ @ @ @ @ @ Super Bowl since their 2012 season .

SANTA CLARA — Coach Kyle Shanahan is not ruling out Tevin Coleman for Super Bowl LIV despite losing the starting running back to a dislocated shoulder in Sunday’s NFC Championship Game.
“I expect him to have a chance to play,” coach Kyle Shanahan said. “Can’t hold me to that. We’ll find out more after the imaging (tests). But I expect him to have a good chance to play.”
Coleman underwent an MRI on his right shoulder. Although Shanahan did not yet have the results, he did not consider it an injury requiring surgery. Rather a week’s rest could do the trick if the shoulder gets back in place, a “Lethal Weapon type of thing,” Shanahan said in reference to Mel Gibson’s movie character who fixes his dislocated shoulder by slamming it into a wall.
The 49ers will face the Kansas City Chiefs on Feb. 2 for the Lombardi Trophy in Miami Gardens, Fla.
Coleman’s exit in Sunday’s 37-20 win over the Green Bay Packers did not derail a historic night by the 49ers’ rushing attack. Raheem Mostert ran for a franchise-record 220 yards and scored four touchdowns, the first player in NFL playoff history to score that many and also rush for over 200 yards.
Coleman had six carries for 21 yards before getting hurt and carted off 9 minutes before halftime. He was coming off a 105-yard two-touchdown effort in the 49ers’ playoff opener against Minnesota.
Although Coleman started Sunday night and did so 11 times in the regular season, the 49ers have mostly relied on Mostert in his breakout season. Coleman was their third-leading rusher (544 yards) behind Mostert (772) and Matt Breida (623).
OTHER HEALTH CONCERNS
Safety Jaquiski Tartt irritated a Dec. 1 rib fracture and did not sustain any new damage, Shanahan said, adding: “He’s got to deal with some pain, I’m sure, this week. But it’s nice the game is two weeks away.”
Linebacker Dre Greenlaw sustained an ankle injury and was cleared to return to Sunday’s game but was held out as a precaution.
UPCOMING SCHEDULE
The 49ers reconvened Monday and reviewed film from their victory, then came a meeting with players and coaches to review Super Bowl tickets and logistics. The rest of the week will unfold per their typical routine: Tuesdays is the players’ day off ahile coaches craft their game plan, then they will practice and meet Wednesday through Friday. They will have Saturday off before flying Sunday to Miami and check into their downtown hotel.
Shanahan said the media obligations next week threaten to get the 49ers out of their routine so he’s emphasized getting their game plan all set this week. “You don’t want to play catch up in Super Bowl week,” said Shanahan, noting Dan Quinn’s lead with the 2016 Atlanta Falcons’ Super Bowl run in terms of preparation.
CELEBRATION CENTRAL
Shanahan celebrated Sunday night at his house with family and friends from high school and college. “It took a while to get out of here and it took a while to calm down from the excitement of the night,” Shanahan said. “But it was nice to hang out at the house, reminisce on a bunch of things. Usually people were making fun of me most of the times, and I was making fun of them back.”
Shanahan attended Saratoga High School when the 49ers won their last Super Bowl 25 years ago, and that link makes this Super Bowl run special.
“If you told me this when I was in middle school, I would have thought this was a dream come true,” Shanahan said. “When you get in the NFL, you stop thinking about that stuff because there are 32 teams and you’re doing whatever you can to get that opportunity. The way everything worked out, it’s pretty special.”
LESSON FOR ALL ATHLETES
Shanahan capped his media session with a strong message about athletics:
“Hall of Fame quarterbacks, Hall of Fame coaches, it doesn’t matter, no one has gone perfect in this league and everyone is going to make huge mistakes in front of a lot of people. That’s what sports is about. That is what athletes go through.
“Athletes have a great life. They work hard, get paid very well, they’re playing a cool game. But they’re also going to get judged by everybody in what they do, and that’s just part of it.
“You have to have thick skin. You have to not mind being judged, because you’re out here. You’re good at what you do and you’re going to have times that you’re bad. The more you can call yourself out, the more you can call each other people, the more people take their sensitivity away, like, ‘Alright, he’s right. We all mess up sometimes. Let’s just work on getting better.”